Family, friends and spouses can all become angry with each other. It is natural. It is important though to overcome intense anger and what one says during a fight or argument. Words said in a moment of rage can cause deep wounds in a loved one. Hence it is important to manage on’s anger and watch the words that may come out of one’s mouth. Knowing how to avoid mean ways of expression and how to walk away is an important skill.
Anger Management skills teach one how to deal with confrontation and arguments. It teaches one what to say when angry and how to avoid escalating the argument.
The article, “What To Say When You’re Really Angry With Your Partner (And Responses That Make Things Worse)” by Jeremy Brown reviews what we should or not say during an argument with a spouse. He states,
“Anger can be an all-consuming emotion. How one manifests anger can take different forms. Some yell, others go silent, still others freak out. It may feel impossible to control.”
Domestic Violence is a growing crime in America. Thousands of cases emerge each year with many cases of the repeat offending nature. The danger to the victim can escalate in time. Unfortunately, many victims report once it is too late and their life is in true danger.
Domestic Violence while usually considered a crime against women, can also be a crime against men as well. It is also more than merely bruising and beating but any push, shove or slap. Furthermore, even if physical abuse does not occur, mental abuse can be as long term damaging. Individuals need to spot the signs of abuse and break it before they become a statistic themselves.
The article, “Domestic violence: Misconceptions, Myths and Mistakes” by Alderman Rupa Blackwell states,
“I’m a survivor of domestic violence, and I get really nervous when people begin to talk about domestic violence around me. Not because I’m afraid to share my story or because I’m still triggered by the years of abuse, but because I know they will likely share some misconception about the cycle of violence.”
Anger Management can help prevent domestic violence, but one should always be seek professional help before determining if a situation is now safe or not. Please also review our Anger Management Program
Anger can get the best of anyone. Unfortunately, even if no physical violence ensures, words can cause emotional damage that cannot be repaired. It is important in whatever relationship we are in with others to conduct ourselves with kindness and patience even when angry. We want to avoid saying something we may not mean.
In doing so, sometimes, we need to walk away. We cannot always be a perfect saint and smile when angry and it is critical and even in some cases healthy to walk away. In doing so, one needs to communicate frustration in a healthy way. One needs to communicate that they are very angry and wish to remove oneself from the situation. This allows one to calm down before speaking.
The article, “Anger Management: What to Say When You’re Too Angry to Talk ” by Jeremy Brown lists a variety of phrases one can use to remove oneself from an angry situation and avoid saying something one may later regret. He states,
“So, the question becomes, when you become so angry that you can’t process emotions any more, how can you manage it? And what do you say when you’re too angry to talk? It comes down to understanding, managing, and explaining your emotions.”
It is extremely important to control rage and anger. Too many times, we can hurt someone simply with our words. These words can deeply hurt someone or escalate a situation. We end up later regretting what was said and then have to seek forgiveness. Instead of hurting others with words, use words that remove oneself from the situation. It is better to politely excuse oneself and discuss the situation later than to say something one may forever regret.
Please also review our Anger Management Consulting Program. The program is online and independent study. Qualified professionals may take the online courses and upon completion of the program apply for a four year certification.
Learn to help others face their anger and teach them coping skills by becoming a certified Anger Management Consultant.
Anger is a natural reaction to frustration. Children need to be taught how to react to conflict and frustration, however, many children have anger issues. Some of these issues are learned behaviors from bad examples by parents or on television,, while others are inherent issues within the child’s development. Helping children resolve conflict and control anger through productive means are essential.
The article, “Angry Kids: Tips to Cope with an Out of Control Child” by Aaron Karmin looks in depth at how parents can better help their child cope with anger. He states,
“Most parents feel inadequately prepared to cope with anger problems because they never had anger management training. They hate it. They are afraid of it. They feel threatened by their children’s anger outbursts. They fear that their inadequacy to help their kids “fix” their anger might be exposed.”
Helping your child learn to cope with anger is an important life skill. It is one that should be addressed at an early age and continually taught through example and also correction. Children who are not taught to control rage become adults who cannot control rage. This leads to multiple societal problems and possible prison time due to crimes of rage.
Please also review our Anger Management Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. Qualified professionals can earn the four year certification by completing the required CE courses for certification.
Part of anger management is preventing escalation not only in oneself but also others. Dr Conte, the instructor of AIHCP’s Anger Management Courses teaches that it is important to listen and understand the other person’s issues and to make sure the other person feels heard. In doing, so, one then can validate and offer other solutions. Not being attached to one’s own view is also critical. In a confrontation, preaching to the other person can also escalate.
The article, “Yield Theory: An Enlightened Approach to Anger” by Conan Milner reviews Dr Conte’s Yield Theory and how listening, not being overly attached to one’s own opinions, and offer viable solutions can help diffuse anger on both sides. Milner states,
“When you’re embroiled in an argument, you’re eager to prove your point. But if your approach only escalates the conflict, people will become resistant to your message. It’s tempting to believe that your ability to convince others comes primarily from what you say (or how forcefully you say it). But according to Dr. Christian Conte, the key lies in how well you listen.”
Dr Conte works nation wide helping prison guards deescalate confrontations, as well as teaching Anger Management. His courses at AIHCP are available to students searching to become certified in Anger Management Consulting. Please review the program and see if it meet your academic and professional goals.
Politics can be very dividing. It is one of the topics that is commonly dismissed as an inappropriate subject at dinner or public discourse. The polarizing nature of it is not something novel but has existed at the core of every nation. The United States is no different. Modern America has entered into a very divisive epoch of her history. The divide in the two party system is at an all time high and extremists exist in both camps.
The extremism seems to be the loudest beyond the norm. It is heard on the news and on social media. Extreme views that are uncompromising and blind to the other side dominate message boards. The extremism is enhanced through social media. Social media has supplied a voice to many to share their views. This is fine to share views but a civil way of communicating has vanished as individuals can hide behind a computer screen.
Furthermore, violence through the extreme elements are becoming stronger and stronger in public arenas. Even though these elements are a minority on both sides, they receive the most press, leaving a cloud and sense of anger and hate throughout the country. Extreme nationalists have emerged with their hate filled rhetoric, as well as extreme liberal movements that while teaching respect, hypocritically seek to silence and disrespect others who disagree.
One may ask is the country really this divided? Is it only seen in the political chambers of Washington, at rallies, and on social media boards? It is hard to say but the reality is it has created an environment of tension. A tension that exists even for moderates who become stressed by its very existence in the negative energy that has encompassed the country.
With polarization on social, religious and political issues, as well as lack of common and academic dialogue, emotion has taken over reason. Each side is seen as a threat and enemy to the republic or to humanity. This justification to hate the other extreme leaves open doors for violence and hate speech in public. The result is a ticking time bomb for violence and anger.
How one conducts oneself is key. One needs to avoid the noise of extremism. One needs to manage one’s own emotions in the this tense atmosphere. One needs to give respect to other opinions, even if it contradicts one’s own beliefs. Diplomacy, patience, and understanding are key to compromise.
Anger, especially misdirected anger, leads others away from compromise and mutual respect. It is hard when two extremes are playing the country against each other for one to find reason and sanity in emotion and insanity. The extremes only continue to irritate the soul of the United States leading to a collective angry environment within the nation. Some may disconnect from social media, watch less of the news, but others wish to remain engaged. They wish to engage with reason and mutual respect in dialogue. Unfortunately, even those that hold moderate views are not immune to anger.
How to manage this anger in a era of social media and extreme views is a difficult thing. It is even more difficult for those who find politics and social issues to be the most important thing in their lives. However, one should never become so intense about something to the point where it produces a state of perpetual anger. That anger is not only unhealthy for oneself but it also plants seeds that can lead to other arguments, fights and social uneasiness. Like sports, sometimes, its important to take a step back. It is important to value your opinion, but to also know when and where not to share it. It is truly an ego thing but somethings or debates are not worth it. Adding fuel to a fire is not always the best answer.
The other important element that many forget is that the over egotistical value of one’s opinion. This does not mean, one should not share it when needed, or that it is irrelevant, but it does point to an ego element where one must always be right. One needs to know when to let something go. Many things are not worth fights or escalation over things one cannot change. One’s opinion at the restaurant is not going change who is president of the nation or not. One’s opinion will not alter on going legislation. This is why it is important to not over emphasize one’s ego as well as not to place one’s opinion in unnecessary settings that do little to change the situation but only enhance tension.
It is important to know when and where to share political views. It is important to value your belief but not at the abuse of others and not allow static noise of others on social media or at the other “table” to affect your daily feelings. There is more to life than political ramblings from those not educated or extreme or obnoxious. If you cannot filter out political noise or feel the need to delete individuals with different values, then something is far more wrong with you as an individual. You need to be passionate but not emotional.
Controlling illegitimate anger is about controlling emotion. Once one associates things more intensely with one’s identity, then emotion is always more sure to erupt. One needs to see themselves as first an American before party affiliation. One can be anger but have reason but not angry having emotion. Anger with emotion leads to more division, frustration and ruining one’s own day. So if one needs to ignore other posts or comments, it may be the only way they can avoid the frustration but it points to a deeper problem. The best situation is to be able to read, laugh and then continue to scroll down the threads or just ignore stray comments from the other side of the room. This involves controlling ego, understanding the time and place, and not becoming emotionally attached to a situation that is not personal to start.
If Americans do not start to filter out the noise of extremism and learn to control their own impulses, political anger will continue to divide the country and make everyone exist in a more perpetual state of anger than they need to be.
Please also review our Anger Management Consulting Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and open to qualified professionals. Those who meet the requirements can earn a certification in Anger Management through AICHP’s online and independent study program. The online courses lead to a four year certification that can be renewed very four years.
Anger is not just an male issue but it is an important issue that men must acknowledge. Men with their natural strength and role in the family need to assert control in how they handle their affairs in life. Most men as head of families need to set examples but also must restrain their natural strength. Anger can lead to bad example as well as domestic violence to women and children. Fear can emerge among children and women when a man loses complete control. Despite modern gender norms and attempts to neutralize roles according to gender, one cannot deny the natural reality of this. This is why it is so important to identify male anger.
The article, “How to Manage Your Anger” by Ed Virgin looks at anger and how to identify and control it. He states,
“Anger is a natural reaction to certain challenging or frustrating situations; however, if you suspect that your anger exceeds the realm of normal, you may have an anger problem. If you are unsure how to characterize your anger, there are a few identifiers that can help you determine if your anger is problematic.”
Losing one’s temper is not only foolish and embarrassing but also causes many unseen problems within our body. High blood pressure, heart issues, stomach issues, and other mental issues can arise when we consistently lose our temper. One usually focuses only on the social, legal and relationship issues of going “red” when angry, but it is so detrimental to ones’ overall health as well. Better Anger Management techniques can help prevent one losing complete and total control.
The article, “How ‘seeing red’ can do more than damage your heart” by Melissa Sammy details the dangers of losing control from a health perspective. She states,
“Since ancient times, people have been aware of the negative impact of anger on health. In Buddhism, for instance, anger is referred to as one of the Three Poisons of the Mind, along with greed and foolishness. Today, most people know that anger can increase blood pressure levels, thereby elevating the risks for heart attack and stroke. But unmanaged anger can also manifest in the form of other significant short- and long-term health problems.”
Anger is a necessary emotion but it can be misused and become not only dangerous but also unhealthy. Learning how to cope and deal with anger for one’s overall health is very important to maintaining a better life. Some individuals vent to release their anger, but there are still better ways to deal with anger.
The article, “5 healthier ways to deal with anger instead of venting” by Caroline Roberts discusses five ways to deal with anger instead of venting and letting it all out. She states,
“Actually, it turns out that the concept of venting as an effective anger management strategy is bunk. It makes us even more upset and forces us to play the victim role. Luckily, there are several methods that work much better than venting, so you can work toward being able to control your frustration more easily. ”
Anger if left unattended or properly directed can lead to bigger problems. This is especially true in the case of young boys. Boys need to be able to understand their emotions but also how to display them in a healthy and productive fashion. Anger is one such emotion that needs to be directed properly to prevent future rage issues. Boys need good role models but also as boys, need outlets that play to their gender and emotional needs.
The article, “How To Help Boys Deal With Anger” by Catherine Pearson looks deeper and helping boys learn to control and cope with anger. She states,
“Obviously, there is so much nuance when it comes to individuals, emotions — and how they express those emotions. It is not fair, nor accurate, to say that all boys experience anger one way, while all girls experience it another. And research shows it is a myth that boys and men experience anger more than girls and women.”