Anger is a benign emotion that is truly neutral. It is important because it allows others to know boundaries but also is a reaction to something that is wrong or socially evil. Anger though if misused can become toxic not only to social bonds but also health. It is important to regulate anger and not allow it to turn to rage or be misused for selfish reasons. Anger needs to be weighed with justice.
Those who are unable to do so, live dangerous lives that lead to jail, fines and abusive relationships.
AIHCP offers a four year certification in Anger Management Consulting. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals. Those interested can review the program and see if it matches their academic and professional goals. Anger Management Consultants can play key roles in offering counseling as well as leading group sessions for courts.
The way one handles anger is key to success in life. Like grief, anger is part of life and it is not something bad in itself. It only becomes something bad when misused. When rage takes over or when anger is used to purposely and vindictively punish, then anger becomes something that is detrimental in life.
The article, “These are the best and worst ways to handle your anger, experts say” by Megan Marples looks at some good ways and bad ways to handle anger. She states,
“Someone cut you off as you drove to work. Your boss passed over you for the latest promotion. A close relative with young children refuses to get a Covid-19 vaccine. Nearly everyone has encountered a situation that left them simmering in anger. To get rid of the fiery feeling, people will often vent to someone, but that’s not necessarily the best path, said Brad Bushman, professor of communications at The Ohio State University in Columbus.”
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.
Anger can ruin relationships if it is not properly dispersed and understood. When someone becomes angry with a significant other they may do one of two things. They may allow the anger to surface, or allow it to dive deep within oneself in the form of anxiety. Hence many live with the chose of anger or anxiety. One may not believe it, but anger is the better option. Why? Simply put, anger is not something evil in itself but something that allows others to know we are uncomfortable or something is not right. The reality is anger is good if utilized properly in a constructive way especially in relationships. When couples properly utilize anger, they can use this important emotion to help resolve arguments instead of inflame them.
Anger as an emotion is a result of the fight or flight response. The body tightens up, blood pressure increases and the heart beat increases. This allows the body to prepare for confrontation possibly. While stressors and irritants can cause this, it is obviously not good to always get angry but to have an appropriate response to stress and allow anger to constructively look to repair the issue. Anger in this way can help relationships.
Anger can help relationships when constructive in multiple ways. It allows one to express feelings and let others know one has been hurt. It gives individuals an understanding of one’s boundaries. Finally by releasing anger, one can sooner forget and forgive. Those who harbor these negative emotions, fuel a deeper outburst later and find little resolution but only resentment.
Anger that is misused and seeking to punish via quiet or outburst can cause multiple issues to self and relationships. When misused besides the obvious chance of violence and hurtful words, it also leaves one with weakened self esteem in ability to control emotion. When looking to punish it also hides the true self because one is either punishing with indifference or verbal assault. This bitterness weakens communication. Silent anger that looks to punish creates distance and pushes others away but also causes a host of internal physical issues.
When anger is utilized properly it looks to not punish but again find justice or healing. It empowers one to stand up for oneself. It helps one communicate issues and break through destructive patterns by another that hurt you. It asks for a mutual resolution and a potential way to find forgiveness and future prevention of damaging behavior.
Anger within relationships usually though causes multiple issues. Individuals do not utilize anger in a constructive way but usually in a destructive way. This may not even be physical or mental abuse, but the reality that couples who argue tend to hurt each other by not understanding how to utilize their anger to resolve. Instead it becomes a competition of who is right or wrong or who cannot admit they did wrong.
Right or wrong, win or lose, egos need to be tossed aside and the true question needs to be asked in regards to whom was hurt.
This is rarely the resolution though but instead anger fuels arguments. Assumptions, disapprovals, judgements and accusations against one another can heat the moment and elevate the argument to higher levels, as each become defensive and more angry by the minute.
It is important to remember to avoid assumptions. Partners should ask how one feels, instead of assuming. Instead of accusatory statements such as “you”, it is important to use terms such as “I feel”, It is best not to blame and accuse and label but to listen, praise and forgive.
An argument again is not about who wins or who ultimately is right but resolution. Sometimes anger that is not constructive can send an argument into other levels of animosity instead of constructively exposing the issue and allowing couples to discuss and identify key issues.
AIHCP offers an online and independent Anger Management Consultant Certification, as well as a Stress Management Certification. Both programs are online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification. Those interested in Anger Management can utilize the certification to help in a variety of counseling fields and Anger Management classes. Anger Management is key in helping couples find resolution and forgiveness.
Healing Anxiety with Herbs by Harold Bloomfield, MD. Chapter 27 deals extensively with anger management and couples
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Anger Management is important in maintaining relationships and overall health. Society demands proper control of emotions. This is not to say anger is bad but it is bad when it is out of control. Learning short term and long term strategies to control anger are important to life. If one does not have control of anger and is frequent to sudden outbursts, rage and violence, then anger management is something they may look to consider. Counselors can help create short term and long term plans to better control anger and keep it from taking control
The article, “How Anger Management Improves Your Life” by Anastasia Climan looks closer at various strategies that can help individuals learn to control anger. She states,
“Anger can be described as an intense emotion in response to feelings of opposition or hostility to something or someone. Uncontrolled anger can produce emotional outbursts or aggressive behavior. Learning how to deal with anger issues through anger management techniques can help you develop the anger management skills necessary for healthy relationships.”
Anger is an important emotion. It stems from our fight or flight response which is natural and imperative to survival. It awakens us to threats and pushes us to correct injustice, however, when it controls us or when it is misplaced or misused, it can become a destructive force. Anger Management can help control anger. AIHCP offers an Anger Management Certification for qualified professionals seeking a four year certification. The program is online and independent study. Please review the program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.
Anger is natural and with kids it needs to be directed and channeled properly. If not anger can become rage later in life. It is important for parents to teach self discipline regarding emotional outbursts and reward good behavior. It is also important that they set good examples in how they react to stress and frustration.
The article, “14 proven techniques to help your child get control of their anger” by Kimberly Yavorski looks at ways parents can help their children manage their anger. She states,
“Be aware of your own anger. Studies show that parental emotions influence their children. If you think you don’t exhibit anger often, pay attention to how many times you yell or otherwise show anger (maybe keep a journal), noting what triggers it and how you react (yelling, punching the wall, hitting the steering wheel).”
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management
Anger plays a pivotal role in the grief process. Kubler Ross places it as the second step in the grief process after denial. Of course, steps and phases are not science, many experience anger first as well, or even later, but anger definitely plays a role in the process. For some, this emotion is more present in a loss depending on one’s own particular emotional makeup or the facts surrounding the particular loss. Someone who may lose a person to a drinking and driving accident may experience more anger than one who loses someone to natural causes. Others who are naturally more angry with life may lash out regardless. Hence the amount and degree of anger in the grief process varies.
Anger nonetheless if felt is an important emotional release. If one feels angry over a loss, it is important to express that anger in a conducive and healthy way. If one lets anger remain dormant and does not express it, then the grief process itself can stalled. Grief Counselors should encourage all emotional expression to be exhibited in a safe and constructive way.
Here are some things to consider regarding the circumstances of anger during the grief cycle. First, anger over injustice is very common. If the loss was due to drunk driving, a malpractice case, a crime, a foreign attack, or a preventable accident, then anger usually expresses itself early. Later the anger is turned into social reform or the seeking of justice. In the recent deaths of George Floyd, we see constructive anger over the death of Floyd put to societal change and police reform. Second, anger over personal difficult relationships occur. A death can result in anger if the person deceased was not always the best person. An abusive spouse, or a conflicting individual can leave someone with guilt and anger. Some cases of anger are completely due to the person being felt left behind or alone. A struggling widow may have resentment to a husband who did not take his health seriously. Or in some cases, individuals may have resentment in how the person died. Family members who have to deal with the fallout of a suicide victim, may feel resentment and anger as well.
In all these cases, it is important that anger is expressed properly and allowed to surface. Anger itself is can damaging to someone who allows it to ferment within the soul. It can lead to future issues and poor health. Hence it is important for counselors to help it come out in individuals. After the anger is released, individuals can then discover why they are angry and dismiss potential guilt issues or surrounding beliefs about the death of the individual.
Grief Counselors should also be aware that those in intense grief and experiencing anger lash out at others. They displace their grief. Displaced grief and anger is very common. Those angry may lash out at a variety of things or persons. In most instances, the person closest receive the emotional rage, but in other moments, counselors and friends may also experience the anger. In some cases, God is a scapegoat for anger. Those in intense grief can blame God for a loss and even begin to question their own faith and world views.
It is not uncommon for existential crisis and questioning of world views to occur for those suffering intense grief. Meaning of life is questioned and anger at authority is common. Those of faith usually rebound but the initial anger is part of their process of comprehending and experiencing the grief. Grief Counselors in these cases do not enter into a logical or philosophical debate about their faith but instead patiently listen and allow the bereaved to express their anger at their faith, God, or world view. After the person is able to better comprehend the true essence of his or her anger is one able to regain rationality. Yet, still, this process is critical for many in the grief process.
Grief Counselors should never take personal attacks to heart. Instead they need to understand in their training the nature of displacement and how an individual sometimes utilizes anger in their pain. Friends and family should also be patient with those who lash out in intense grief and not take emotional words personally. Patients and love are key for the bereaved. After emotion is permitted to display itself, then true healing and understanding can begin to occur, but the time has to be on the bereaved terms.
Anger hence is an important part of the grieving process. It may be unpleasant but it has purpose towards healing. It brings one ultimately to rationality and allows counselors to see the pain that may be preventing healing. In many cases, anger is also healthy for social reform.
The American Academy of Grief Counseling offers a certification in Grief Counseling. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling. If interested, please review the Grief Counseling Certification program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. Also, please review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Program. The program is based on similar grounds and is also open to qualified professionals.
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Grief and Sympathy article, “Anger Stage of Grief-It is Normal-How to Move on”, please click here
Anger issues can be existent prior to an actual trigger. Some individuals are constantly upset or angry over things due to mental makeup. It can be as simple as OCD or more complex but individuals can experience an angry nature due to psychological makeup. There is help for these mental issues through counseling and possibly medication to lower the emotional symptoms.
The article, “Feeling angry all the time? Here’s what might have triggered it” from the “TimesofIndia” looks closer at anger and how it overflows for some people. The article states,
“Anger is an emotion that comes naturally to almost everyone. While the cause of anger or aggression may differ in people, it will only lead to rage and aggressive expression. Although some people learn the art of staying in control and keeping their minds calm, there are certain factors that can cause anger issues which are hard to tackle.”
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if the program meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.
Some individuals do face anger on a more consistent basis to biological and emotional issues. These individuals need counseling and help for the root issue. Anger Management can also help
Teaching children better ways to express emotion is key to parenting. It is essential to guide children through anger and teach them ways to express it and let it out without harming oneself or others. Limiting temper tantrums, teaching patience, setting good examples and promoting awareness of other’s needs are all important aspects in teaching children to be better people.
The article, “How to tackle your child’s violent behavior” from the “Times of India” looks at some ways a parent can curb bad anger tendencies. The article states,
“Are you demotivated by your child’s aggressive behaviour? Do you often think that you have failed as a parent in helping your child manage their emotions? Do not worry because emotional regulation is a skill we all can learn gradually with time. While some children may even take longer to master self behaviour, as a parent you simply need to be patient and should work on your own actions that behave as a barrier to control or manage difficult situations.”
Anger Management skills for children are critical to their development and helping them become productive and safe members of society. It is important to install and implement in their behavior.
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Training and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.
Emotions are part of life. They arise from intense reactions to situations or people and can overtake an individual. They can be good and bad depending on how the person harnesses them. Individuals who are able to balance their emotional reactions with their intellect and reason are better able to cope with issues and utilize the emotion in a positive way.
Stoic traditions tried to suppress the idea of emotion and worship reason. Star Trek’s Mr. Spock and Mr. Data both were characters that forever immortalized the idea of emotion and reason. The Vulcan, Mr Spock trying to suppress his emotion and enhance logic at all cost. The character saw emotion as something detrimental to the pursuit of logical exploration of situations. As the character evolved, the good of emotion was viewed when used in proper balance. Mr. Data, an android, pursued emotion and wished to experience it. His character eventually was able to experience emotion through an “emotion chip” that allowed him to feel anger, frustration and fear. He had to learn to channel these emotions with his reason.
In both cases, the value of emotion is expressed as something important to the human condition. Emotion can be detrimental to logic, it can cause havoc, but when utilized in balance with reason and logic it is a very important part of human existence.
Sadness, anger, love and other feelings are all critical to humanity. Humanity cannot exist without these emotions.
Sadness is a key emotion that lets others know when something is not right with someone. It is a reaction to loss and is experienced through grief and mourning. It is forever tied to the emotion of love. Love is an important emotion because it expresses attachment and need. As social beings, attachments are key. Every relationship has attachment and mutual need. When this attachment is broken, grief results. So as one can see grief and love are tied together in this fallen world.
Anger is an emotion that reacts to injustice or at least perceived injustice. It is critical in balancing right and wrong and protecting others. It is again important to relationships and maintaining them. Of love and sadness, anger receives more negative press because it is the emotion that is most misused. It leads to fighting, violence and war when not properly balanced yet its importance to awaken an individual to awareness of something wrong or harmful to a situation is critical in human evolution.
These three emotions are all important to maintaining and keeping relationships and understanding their role in society. Without them, attachments and relationships are merely cold calculations. There are no true enduring connections. However, when these emotions are not balanced with reason, they can cause despair, lust, and rage. Hence balance is the key to emotions and reason in everyday life.
Learning to balance emotions are no easy task. Mr Data in Star Trek had to learn this. He once told Captain Picard that he wished he could turn off the emotion chip and marveled how human beings were able to act with emotions such as anger and fear and still perform their duties. It is the essence of being human to be able to balance emotional reaction with reason and intellect and avoid the extremes of emotion that lead to devastation. Emotions are hence great assets but also when misused great detriments.
Emotions can be controlled through a variety of practices in life. The virtue of temperance looks to balance the passions. In many religious traditions, the passions are seen as out of control. These traditions teach the inability to control one’s passions is due to sin. Other traditions see the disconnect from the ultimate reality that causes this imbalance. Whether imbalance or sin, humanity looks for many ways to control emotion. Temperance is one such virtue that balances the desires. Balance is the key word. It does not look to eliminate the passions or emotions or desires, but control them within the acceptable extreme.
Meditation, Stress Management, Anger Management are all paths to learn to better control external pressures with internal guides. Meditation naturally calms the mind and body and teaches it how to relax. Stress Management teaches individuals how to respond to stressful stimuli in a beneficial way. Anger Management teaches individuals how to identify triggers that lead to anger.
There are many individual strategies within this fields and it is important to train the mind, body and soul to use them in productive ways to learn to control emotion. Various breathing techniques as well as cognitive strategies to train the mind in how it reacts to bad situations are extremely useful in dealing with emotional outbursts. It is good to be mindful of emotions and what triggers them in private. Cooling down sometimes involves walking away and expressing emotions in a less destructive method that harms no-one. The ability to do so takes conscious effort. It takes willingness to identify triggers, study one’s past and natural inclinations and be steadfast in correcting bad habits.
If one does not take steps to control emotions, then life will be far more difficult. Emotions while good can also destroy one’s life with broken relationships, abuse, assaults and eventually jail. Even simple outbursts that carry no true legal issues can be detrimental to work, school and family life. Controlling emotions within a safe and acceptable norm is crucial to emotional development.
If you would like to learn more about controlling emotion or are a professional seeking certification to enhance one’s knowledge on these subjects, then please review AIHCP’s programs on Meditation Instructor, Anger Management and Stress Management Consultants. The programs are online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking four year certifications.
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Anger is something that needs to be learned to control over time through childhood. Parents can teach children how to control anger and allow it to diffuse in healthy ways. Anger Management tips and techniques can help children become eventual better adults in how they react to stress, anger and anxiety.
The article, “8 Kid Anger Management Tips To Practice At Home” by Simon Books looks closer at how to help children manage anger. The article states,
“As a parent, it is natural to feel concerned when your child yells or acts aggressively. Some kids seem unable to cope with their emotions and they blow up at the slightest provocation. Some children get easily frustrated and angry outbursts are common. It is important to teach your child how to deal with his feelings positively. Here are anger management tips that you can practice at home.”
Anger tips for children are an excellent way to teach children how to manage anger and interact with other children in a healthy way. As parents, it is the duty to prepare children for social interaction and controlling anger is an important component for social integration. Anger issues if not identified and corrected can lead to a future filled with social issues, bad relationships and possible imprisonment. Hence it is key for parents to work with their children on dealing with anger in healthy ways.
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as an Anger Management Consultant.