Dealing with grief in schools is a big issue as more and more shootings and tragedies occur in our nation. Schools do not always have the resources or grief counselors on hand to help students overcome grief.
The article, “Schools fall short when it comes to helping grieving students” by David Schonfeld states,
“An adolescent experiences the death of his mother after a lengthy illness. When I ask what services he would like to receive from the school, he initially says he didn’t expect special treatment, would be embarrassed by counseling from the school mental health staff and wouldn’t feel comfortable if many of his teachers asked to talk to him about his grief.”
A very important part of teaching children to grieve and ensuring they grieve healthy is allowing children a chance to say good bye to a loved one. If a loved one is dying, the children need an appropriate time and place,according to their maturity, to be able to properly express themselves and say good bye to a loved one. Please also review our Child Grief Counseling Certification.
The article, Give kids a chance to say goodbye, states
“Should parents take their children to visit a relative or loved one in a hospital or hospice? Death and dying can be scary and uncomfortable subjects, so parents may shy away from them.”
Despite these concerns, the article, as well as the American Academy of Grief Counseling encourages parents to face the fear and allow their child to see the dying person. It is critically important for the child’s development to understand the nature of death but also to be able to express him or herself in a positive way. This ultimately prevents future issues that he or she may face as a young adult with guilt or regret.
It is very important for children to be able to understand death and to express themselves. Please also review our Child Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic or professional needs.
Great article regarding children and visiting a dying loved one. It is important to include children in the grieving process as well. Please also review our Child Grief Counseling Program
The article, Five ways to prepare young children to visit a loved one who is dying, by Jessica Hinton states
“Death and dying can be scary and uncomfortable subjects, so parents understandably may shy away from them and wonder if it’s a good idea to take their children to visit a relative or loved one in the hospital or a hospice facility. I wrestled with this when my grandmother was dying and ultimately chose to take my children to visit her in the hospital in her final days. I don’t regret that choice, because it gave the kids a chance to get to know her and also helped them start to understand that death is a normal part of life.”
Losing a parent is always painful but even more so for a child. Losing the important bond and memories to death of a parent at an early age can be traumatic for some. Please also review our Child Grief Counseling Program to learn more. Please click here
The article, The Death of a Parent Affects Even Grown Children Psychologically and Physically, by Joshua Krish states,
“Losing a parent is the closest thing humanity has to a universal emotional experience. But universality doesn’t dampen the trauma of the event, which tends to inform and affect the rest of peoples’ lives.”
Sad article about helping children grieve and remember a lost parent on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.
The article, How to Support Your Grieving Children on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, by Irwin Sandler states,
“AS WE APPROACH MOTHER’S Day this weekend and with Father’s Day coming up next month, it’s important to remember that for some, this is a very painful time of year. For children who have lost a parent, holiday celebrations focused on the presence of mothers and fathers can evoke poignant memories and stir up strong feelings of grief, loss and alienation.”
Good article on how grandparents can better talk to their grandchildren about grief. Children grieve differently and need help expressing and understanding it. Sometimes only grandparents are available or in the child’s life
The article, How to speak to your grandchildren about grief and death, by Starts at 60 Writers states
“Grief can be one of the hardest emotions to deal with at any age, but for a small child, it’s also extremely confusing and can be very scary.
That’s why children so badly need the adults in their lives to help them make sense of the emotions they may be feeling, and while parents play a huge role in this, grandparents are a much-needed support to their grandkids too, especially if the parents aren’t available or are suffering with grief themselves.”
Good article on grief and loss of a child and how to care for the surviving sibling.
The article, Caring for Siblings of Sick or Disabled Children, by Perri Klass, M.D states,
“Having a child changes you into a parent, and as we all know, that is not a simple change; there’s nothing one-and-done about it. And having a seriously ill child changes you forever as a family; it’s important for everyone who tries to help families to understand that when one child in a family is seriously ill, or lives with a chronic disability, the siblings are also profoundly shaped by the experience.”
So many times children are forgotten in the grieving process or left out of the news regarding it. This article looks to correct this erroneous view.
The article, Children are the ‘hidden mourners’ in our society, says child health expert, Source; CBC, states,
“Sir Albert Aynsley-Green was just ten years old when his father died unexpectedly in hospital. That event set a path for his own life: his decision to become a pediatrician and his current focus on helping children deal with bereavement and grief.”