Pandemics and world crisis can leave the entire world in grief. When is it ok during these hours of worldwide crisis to grieve one’s own losses? It is important to grieve with the world but also to find time to grieve for oneself as well. Many brave healthcare workers have to work through grief as they work to save thousands from death.
The article, “In a World Filled With Loss, Who Gets to Grieve?”from ‘Whats Your Grief” looks at individual grief that can be loss in the collective grief of a broken world. The article states,
“Considering the circumstances, you might even see your grief as having a higher purpose. Right now, people are going through horrible, traumatic, earth-shattering things. And when this is all over, they’re going to need to find support in a grieving world. So now, more than ever, we have to maximize our capacity for compassion – and this doesn’t mean denying ourselves of it. ”
Working at home can be a blessing and a curse. With epidemics and national crisis those blessed enough to still work will have more experiences with working from home. Those who work from home for a living naturally will have different experiences than those who do not regularly work at home. This is because those who work from home are set up permanently not temporary. Those who have to learn to adjust to the changes may experience some stress in adjusting to the new existence.
BUT first, before we discuss the many issues and coping strategies of working from home, we must first acknowledge that still having a job and the ability to earn a paycheck is a blessing during crisis. Many individuals during pandemics or crisis are laid off or lose their job. They have to worry about bills and food. So before, individuals moan and gripe over issues that may be annoying or stressful, it is important to recognize the far more superior stress of those who have no income during crisis.
This is perhaps the most important mindset one must possess. If one enters into the temporary work from home paradigm as grateful instead of angry, then many stresses while annoying can be dismissed. Annoyances and stress of change of scene are real but in comparison to having no job during crisis properly puts things into perspective. A feeling of gratitude should exist despite some of the annoyances.
One of the first struggles to identify for those just starting to work at home is structure and regularity. The comforts of home and distractions can be overwhelming for some personalities. For those who need structure to function it is essential that a consistent schedule exists. If one awakens at a certain hour and starts at a certain hour, then this should be maintained for these types of individuals. Daily, weekly and monthly projects should be written into a time plan and crossed off as completed. Certain times for lunch and break should remain consistent as well.
For those who are more able to focus, some of the luxuries of home can be afforded. Those more focused can still accomplish the goals of the day and put in the necessary time. They can be taken away from a task and still be honest, dedicated and responsible enough to complete the task later. To them the comforts, familiarity, peace and solitude may be very conducive to productivity. Ultimately it depends on your personality and what type of schedule permits you to honestly perform your duties and fulfill the needs of the company.
This does not mean the home environment is equally peaceful for everyone. Larger families will deal with children. Sometimes a diaper may need changed, or children will need told to allow father or mother to work in privacy. Pets will need fed or let out. So the situation is not ideal and there will be times needed to step out as required. Do not feel guilty for this but be sure to put the honest time and effort in throughout the day. Accomplishing tasks are beyond an 8 hour restriction if home. This can permit a lunch break that involves a brisk walk or run, or even a lunch break to
Stress will find anyone though in a different environment. The practical and efficient office environment cannot be replicated at home. Productivity can be close but truly cannot equal being in the office. The office itself has the records, the files, the machines, and the supplies needed. The temporary home office hopes to take the most essential to function. The most pertinent paper work, files and supplies are taken. Many who experience a pandemic will undoubtedly spend the last day in the office collecting a variety of tools and papers needed to function at home. One can only try one’s best to collect everything needed.
Offices to function away from the the business site will deal with a variety of preparation stress. They will need to forward office phones to a tracker phone, or set up alternate numbers. They will also need to set up a remote access so that office computers can be accessed from the employee’s home computer. These adjustments are necessary but also come with minor inconveniences. The remote access has a slight delay in transmitting information. While extremely slight it is not as instant as in the office. This can also lead to delayed typing by a split second. The font on some program can also be smaller. Another issue is printing. Most programs will not print remotely to the employee’s home printer. This involves emailing printable forms to the employee’s home email and then printing it from the home computer itself. This slows the process of printing and in itself becomes a project.
Another stress is dealing with customers. Not being able to have complete access or mail certain things may cause irritation to impatient customers. Customers need to be more aware of national crisis but not all are so understanding. Patience and care need taken when dealing with impatience.
Managers under law are able to deal with issues of payroll, mail, and maintenance of computers or machinery in the office. Through emails and comunication, managers can ensure that “stay at home employees” are given the necessary documents that arrive in the mail, as well as monitor any issues that may occur technologically. Office computers could turn off affecting remote access, or the phone service may not transfer calls to a tracker phone. The fax may jam or a host of other technical issues could occur at the office affecting the workers at home and their ability to complete tasks. Managers under the law can ensure that the business continues to flow with a short visit to the office.
In continuing with continuity and communication, remote access meetings can be planned. Software and technology allow meetings to take place among multiple employees over the phone with digital viewing. A meeting room can be set up with certain software that allows all to meet and report status of reports and production.
While less than ideal, it is better to stay in business than to go out of business in difficult times. Despite some issues and new dynamics of stress, technology allows companies to stay in business but ultimately it lies in the hands of good employees to become dedicated to the change and perform at a even higher level. This involves new challenges and stresses but all can be overcame flexibility, responsibility and honesty.
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Stress can be caused by multiple issues in the office. Management needs to curtail these issues to create a productive work environment. Office politics plays one of the biggest roles of stress in the office. It can cause divisions, resentment and gossip. It can also prevent management from rewarding based on merit instead of status.
The article “Office politics major source of work related stress” by Jayne Smith looks at some of the issues caused by office politics. She states,
“In contrast, the number 1 cause of work-related stress is now ‘work-related office politics’ – with 37 percent commonly experiencing this issue. Following recent scrutiny and growing awareness of toxic work environments, ‘office politics’ clearly presents itself as a pressing issue for HR strategies in the upcoming year. ”
Meditation traditionally takes quiet and silence. People look to the quiet to probe the depth of their minds to find inner peace. Raising children is far from peaceful and cause many unexpected stresses. How can one balance raising children and find time to quietly and effectively meditate?
The article, “How to Meditate While Raising Kids” by Sumi Loundon Kim looks at how to balance meditation and child raising. The article states,
“Should your children stumble into your bedroom when you and/or your spouse are meditating, don’t panic. It’s good for your children to see you meditating, as it plants seeds for their future practice. ”
Domestic Violence is a growing crime in America. Thousands of cases emerge each year with many cases of the repeat offending nature. The danger to the victim can escalate in time. Unfortunately, many victims report once it is too late and their life is in true danger.
Domestic Violence while usually considered a crime against women, can also be a crime against men as well. It is also more than merely bruising and beating but any push, shove or slap. Furthermore, even if physical abuse does not occur, mental abuse can be as long term damaging. Individuals need to spot the signs of abuse and break it before they become a statistic themselves.
The article, “Domestic violence: Misconceptions, Myths and Mistakes” by Alderman Rupa Blackwell states,
“I’m a survivor of domestic violence, and I get really nervous when people begin to talk about domestic violence around me. Not because I’m afraid to share my story or because I’m still triggered by the years of abuse, but because I know they will likely share some misconception about the cycle of violence.”
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Professional Judgement Immunity in malpractice is when attorneys or professionals give sound advice within the norms of the field but when things still go wrong. This idea is argued to be used more in the following article
The article, “Professional Judgment Immunity in Legal Malpractice Cases” by Matthew Weisberg looks at its usage. He states,
“A lawyer cannot be held liable for malpractice as long as he uses judgment that is expected by the standard of accepted legal practices and has researched all the applicable principles of law necessary to render that judgment.”
To review his thoughts on this issue, please review the entire article by clicking here
With so many intricate legal theories and laws in place in any malpractice case, it is important to have an attorney who understands the basics.
Legal Nurse Consultants can also play a role in helping attorneys form defenses in cases, or help patients find justice
Like any loss, life changes afterwards. It takes time to recover and adjust to the new normal. While this new normal may be painful, people learn to adjust and grow. Losing a pet is no different. Adjusting to not having the love and company of a pet can take months to heal and finally accept as a new and sad reality. Time heals but one never forgets the love of a dog that greets you at the door, or snuggling cat, or even a ride through the forest with a horse. They are not truly pets but companions and family.
The article, “Life after a pet’s death” from Manilia Standard Lifestyle looks at the steps to go through in adjusting to life without a beloved pet. The article states,
“Grieving is a highly personalized, individualistic experience that is influenced by culture and social groups. The process in which you might experience the pain of losing your pet might look immensely different from even a direct family member living in the same house, “ said Adam Clark, LCSW, in “7 Self-Care Essentials While Grieving the Death of a Pet” in Psychology Today.”
Whenever evil, plague, war, death and disaster befall society, various reactions emerge spiritually within the community; From the secular atheist, a cynical mocking of the all good God; From the doubting faithful, a existential dilemma of faith and reason; From the faithful, a twofold reaction, one of faith supplied with reason and prayer, and the other, fueled with a faith devoid of reason and careless actions.
The primary and first question deals with evil and a good God. The cynical atheist will mock the faithful for believing in a God that allows disaster and plague to befall creation. The atheist will offer a false two fold conclusion that either God is not all good to permit evil, or not all powerful to prevent it. What is being ignored is the fundamental fact that humanity through its own choice lives in a fallen world. Free will chooses evil, not God. The price of being autonomous is evil. It is something that God in his all omniscient mind found well worth the price of evil. The price for His sentient life forms to choose good or evil.
This choice of free will plays a key role why evil exists. God did not create evil nor does He will it, nor does he not have the ability to control it. God permits it for a greater cause, humanity’s autonomy and overall eternal life outside the temporal world. While this does not address the day to day hardships of disaster and plague, it does illuminate a path beyond this valley of tears.
In Christianity, God does not abandon His creation. Instead, God Himself, takes upon human nature, binding to His Divinity the the Person-hood of Jesus Christ. Jesus accepts the cold of the temporal world and opens Himself to the pains of disaster and plague. Jesus allows Himself to be the sacrifice for all sin and bears its ugly face, but before that, He also endured the pains of this world and the suffering of loss, grief, death and tragedy.
Christianity presents an excellent answer to the problem of evil. It presents a God, who does not watch from a distant throne, but one who enters into the human condition and suffers with His creation as an act of free will and love.
While this question will not answer the disbelief of an atheist it at least answers the supposed riddle of a good God and evil. God is clearly good and His reason for permitting evil is clearly understood.
The doubting faithful represent the second response to spirituality and disaster and plague. The doubting faithful question why God permits them to suffer. Some may understand the theological response listed above, while others may not, but the doubting faithful, begin to doubt God Himself, His existence, and even their own faith. When plague or disaster strikes humanity, they wonder if God is there or if even God can hear their prayers.
They doubt the value of prayer. They begin to doubt if God can perform a miracle and save others from disaster. They question their prayer’s worth. Why pray if God will not act? The doubting faithful see prayer as a contract not a covenant. If prayer is not answered, then either God is not there or their prayer is insufficient. This leads to a poor understanding of suffering and grief in Christian spirituality.
Prayer when offered as petition definitely has a request but when the end of that request becomes the only driving spiritual force then the prayer is open to only one’s will and not God’s will. One should pray with the fervent attitude of deliverance, but if that physical deliverance does not come, one should not doubt God’s presence or one’s lack of one’s own spirituality. Instead, prayer while seeking one’s desired end, should also seek God’s end. It may seek conclusion but must be open to a conclusion that is not what one desires. Prayer must seek God’s presence to help carry one through grief, disaster and plague, whether cure or deliverance is given or not.
If a prayer is not answered according to one’s will, it does not mean God cannot perform miracles, or that God does not care, but it means that God has a different path and will than one’s own. One must instead believe that God knows best despite the suffering. One must instead, imitate Christ, who accepted the Father’s will even if it meant His own death. One may rejoice in the miracles that can occur, but if they do not, one must rejoice silently in God’s plan, no matter how painful or confusing it may be.
Ultimately, the spiritually doubtful, must re-evaluate their own spiritual life and the true essence of prayer, if they wish to understand why God answers and not answers some prayers.
Finally, in disaster and plague, one can see the two responses from the faithful whose faith is not suppressed but strengthened in times of chaos. The first response is one of prayer and reason. The second, is a prayer and faith devoid of reason and careless action.
The first response is the response of the church faithful. It understands the theology of good and evil, one’s role in it and the role God plays in answering prayer. The faithful pray in covenant with God, knowing that God will always be present physically and spiritually in their lives. The faithful believe miracles can happen but are also prepared to suffer and offer suffering through Christ to God the Father. They are willing to prayer but are also equally willing to carry their cross.
The second response though is devoid of reason. It challenges reason and in many ways tests God. Like those who handle serpents as a testimony of faith, these individuals will disregard precautions in time of plague in the name of faith. They will congregate together in Jesus name despite a contagious virus and will question the faith of others for believing bad things can happen. While the bible and church history is full of stories of God preserving individuals from illness or disaster, there are also equally many stories of disaster.
While it is possible that during reception of communion that Christ would preserve a person from a contagious virus, it is also possible that the virus still could infect. This is based on multiple issues regarding the person’s spiritual state but also the will of God. It is unadvised to tempt God unless God Himself has appeared to oneself. To boldly take dangerous actions within the spiritual community is not only unsafe and illogical but also not Christ centered.
In some cases, one has seen saints survive disease in care of others, while in other cases, history has witnessed saints who have died for those they cared for. Hence, acts of faith against logic and reason cannot be presumed to be immune to natural consequences. Yes, God can miraculously prevent the transmission of a virus during Communion, but it does not necessarily happen. This is why in times of plague, the Church while optimistic, always errors on the side of caution. Services, masses and gatherings are closed during times of plague because the Church does not wish to tempt God. This is not a lack of faith. If God so chose to command faith, He would, but if He does not, following reason and safety in no way invalidates faith.
Instead, God expects obedience. Obedience to ecclesiastical and civil authority over one’s own ideas.
Hence, prayer and reason is the proper response to any disaster or plague. It is measured with faith and believes in miracles but it is also measured with reason and obedient to authority in time of crisis and disaster. Prayer in times of crisis is not a useless endeavor but carries great merit and can produce great things, but ultimately is tied to the will of God and not one’s own will. It is a prayer of covenant and not contract that seeks to imitate Christ.
Bad things can happen to the most devout, even in one’s most deepest prayer, so one should not take heart that one’s prayer was not answered. Instead, one should understand that like Christ, miracles can occur, but when they do not, one must be ready to suffer like one’s Master. Christ suffered, He grieved and He offered His will to the Father. Christians and followers of Christ are asked to accept no less. The world denounced Christ and Christians can expect no less than their Master.
During disaster and plague, pray, pray and pray more. Expect great things but also expect suffering if it is God’s will, but know no matter the outcome, Christ will be with the suffering in this fallen world.
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There seem to be multiple over-reactions and under-reactions to the Coronavirus, known as COVID-19. On one side, we have individuals referring to it as a hoax and not lethal. They site the common flu kills more people. While this is true, it diminishes the reality of how dangerous the Coranavirus is. Secondly, we have individuals from the other extreme, preparing for a zombie apocalypse buying out toilet paper, water and basic needs.
The reality while not as bleak as the Black Death of the Dark Ages is still one that should not be underestimated. The Coronavirus unlike the common flu has a far more deadly death rate, ranging from 2% to 3.5%. Furthermore, it has a more deadly affect on the elderly. Those over 60 are at a far higher risk of serious illness and possible death. Anyone over 70 to 90 faces a even more daunting illness. While the common flu has killed more people, its death rate is .01% and has infected far more people. If the Coronavirus was able to run free and infect as many people, millions would die.
In retrospect, the 1920’s Spanish flu had a very similar death rate as Coronavirus and it infected over 500 million people, leaving millions dead. It was also a respiratory disease but unlike Coronavirus killed people also in their prime. The Spanish flu due to the time and medical advances as well as a killer of those in their prime was a far more terrifying flu than the present situation, yet if Coronavirus was allowed to spread like the Spanish flu, it would have a very similar death rate. This is something that we cannot permit as a society.
In response, we see travel restrictions. We see the suspensions of parades, sport venues and concerts. We see individuals practicing more caution with hand washing and masks. This may have negative effects on the economy but life is more important than dollars. Younger people need to realize that while the virus may effect them moderately, barely or maybe not all, there are still potential health risks as with any illness and cases of severity differ among young adults. They must also realize that spreading this virus to the elderly could be a death sentence to a parent or grand parent.
Unlike other flu, the Coronavirus has the ability to exist longer on flat surfaces for days instead of hours. It hence is very contagious and can be spread very easily. This is why it is so important for infected individuals to self quarantine and stop the spread of this illness. It is also important for individuals to wash their hands for over 20 seconds with the appropriate disinfectant soaps that have over 60 percent concentration of alcohol. Individuals need to wipe down counters, door knobs and steering wheels, as well as spray down certain areas of the home. When out in public, they need to wipe down grocery carts and wash their hands immediately upon returning home. Individuals must also keep unclean hands away from the face.
The article, “Steps to Prevent Illness on Coronavirus COVID-19” from the CDC gives clear and precise instructions on how to protect oneself and others from this virus. It states,
“There is currently no vaccine to prevent coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19). The best way to prevent illness is to avoid being exposed to this virus. The virus is thought to spread mainly from person-to-person. Between people who are in close contact with one another (within about 6 feet). Through respiratory droplets produced when an infected person coughs or sneezes. These droplets can land in the mouths or noses of people who are nearby or possibly be inhaled into the lungs.”
The article lists a variety of ways to protect oneself with informative charts and ways to prevent its spread. To review the article, please click here
In regards to symptoms, be on the look out for cough, runny nose, fever, sore throat and difficulty breathing. The symptoms can vary in severity from age group or be dependent upon preexisting conditions. Some may have a slight episode while others may require hospitalization. With such a broad range of severity, one may wish to dismiss it but this would be a very dangerous attitude to employ considering the danger it can pose to others within the population. Furthermore, equally frustrating is the fact symptoms do not appear for up to nine days but the person can still be contagious.
To stop this pandemic, it is important to not to over react or under react. Appropriate response is necessary to avoid panic but also to stop its spread. By applying the standards set by the CDC and not the opinions of arm chair disease control experts, this situation can eventually become resolved but it will involve temporary life style changes and self sacrifice. This involves showing basic cold and flu courtesies while in public. Coughing into a tissue or one’s elbow, keeping hands clean and avoiding close proximity with individuals is critical in addition to the further preventative measures of wiping things down and avoiding public settings.
Please also review the many certifications offered by the American Institute of Health Care Professionals for healthcare professionals and behavioral health professionals. AIHCP has a variety of Healthcare Certification Programs that are useful to expand upon nursing and behavioral health fields. The programs are online and self paced independent study. They are open enrollment and the courses that lead to certification offer to some CE earning potential. If you meet the pre-requisites for the programs, then please review and see which ones can help enhance your career and academic and professional goals.
In the meantime, be safe and follow the proper procedures to protect thousands of others and yourself from the Coronavirus.
Many situations can arise in life that can cause stress or trauma. Fortunately there are many holistic and natural ways one can calm oneself. From hynotherapy to various therapies, professionals can help individuals find peace. The Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT is also an important therapy that can be utilized to help others overcome stress and trauma. EFT has the ability to help open energy routes within the body and help negative energy move out of the body.
The article, “I Tried EFT Tapping When Stress Ramped Up After Baby” by Phoebe Avison looks at how EFT helped reduce stress after the birth of her baby. She states,
“Somewhere in the blur of no sleep and no self-care, I felt the anxiety creeping back in. That’s how it starts: a check here, an intrusive thought there. Later down the line, you realize that the OCD beast has clawed its way back into your life and taken root again. It felt like all my hard work had gone down the drain. I felt frustrated, but not defeated.”