Grief Counseling Certification Article on the Effects of Losing a Child

Noone can comprehend the pain and suffering a parent suffers when they lose a child.  This is perhaps the most painful cross on earth.  Naturally it carries many complications for a parent who unnaturally buries a child.

The loss of a child can devastate any parent.  Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification Program
The loss of a child can devastate any parent. Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification Program

The article, What the Death of a Child Does to Parents, Psychologically and Biologically, by Joshue Krisch reviews the psychological, as well as biological tool on parents.  He states,

 

“The death of a child may be considered the worst trauma that any human can experience. Though it’s not a terribly common experience in the United States—about 10,000 children between the ages of 1 and 14 died in 2016—the horrific potential for childhood mortality looms large.”

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Grief Counseling Certification Program Article on Losing a Child

The sad reality of losing a child is the worse loss one can experience in life.  This article looks into it and how one again finds meaning in their work.

Losing a child can make any meaning in one's life vanish. Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification Program
Losing a child can make any meaning in one’s life vanish. Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification Program

The article, Finding meaning in work after the death of my child, by Jacqueline Dooley states,

“For the past 15 years, I’ve worked from my home office — a tiny room sandwiched between my daughters’ bedrooms. My job requires nothing more than a computer, an Internet connection and a phone.”

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Grief Counseling Certification Program Article on Loss and Christmas

Losing a family member to cancer can be horrible.  The loss itself can be taking place during Christmas and the Holidays.  During this time, the anticipation of loss and the fear of losing a loved one can mix with the emotion of Christmas time and family

Losing family during Christmas can be rough. Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification Program
Losing family during Christmas can be rough. Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification Program

The article, “Losing a Loved One to Cancer: How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays” by Jennifer Castoro states

“The holiday season is a time of joy and celebration, certainly. But for anyone who’s lost a loved one — whether within the year that past or many years ago — it can also bring a unique sadness.”

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Grief Counseling Certification Program: Grief Has No Expiration Date

An article that describes the reality that if you love then you will eventually one day grieve.  Grief has no expiration date because true love has no expiration date.

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This article is a good read for individuals who worry their grief lasts too long.  The answer, grief will remain, but become bearable over time.

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How My Daughter Has Lived With Her Brother’s Death

Losing a sibling during childhood can be very traumatic. Please review our grief counseling certification program
Losing a sibling during childhood can be very traumatic. Please review our grief counseling certification program

Think back to when you were 5 years old. I remember that time in my life fondly. School was new and exciting and you’re happy to learn new things.

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A great article about sibling grief over the loss of a brother or sister.  This article writte from a parent’s perspective of how their suriving child deals with the loss of her brother

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Ongoing Relationships With Those who Have Died – What’s Your Grief

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Are continuing bonds healthy? Please review our grief counseling certification program

I cling to scraps of my mother.  I’ll take anything I can get. I’ve extracted all that I can from my memories; turning each one over in my mind, carefully searching for something I might have forgotten.

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There is nothing unhealthy with continuing bonds with a deceased family member.  Keeping on to possessions is a natural way to remember.  Of course there is examples of unhealthy bonding when for example someone refuses to go through clothes after a year or two but this article focuses on the healthy relationships we can have with the deceased.

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Grief: The unspoken holiday emotion

Through all the lights, grief is hidden but friends can help. Please also review our grief counseling certification program
Through all the lights, grief is hidden but friends can help. Please also review our grief counseling certification program

Grieving families say festivities and decorations can spur painful memories, but friendship helps carry them through.

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Good article reminding us of the many who suffer through the holidays via loss of a loved one. This article puts things into perspective for many who have not yet tasted the loss of a loved one and a holiday

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Talking about death can be a healthy experience

Talking about death should not be shunned but seen as important.  Please review our Grief Counseling Certification Program
Talking about death should not be shunned but seen as important. Please review our Grief Counseling Certification Program

Talking about death can be a healthy experience

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Talking about dying is important during life. it can also be healthy for someone to experience and share with loved ones.  It is not a taboo but it needs to be addressed

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If There Were Greeting Cards For Grief

What should be said and is not said with the grieving is far to common.  If you would like to learn more about our grief counseling certification program then review
What should be said and is not said with the grieving is far to common. If you would like to learn more about our grief counseling certification program then review

It might sound crazy, but I think there is definitely room for realistic and humorous cards for parents who’ve lost children. In a situation where no one really knows what to say, it’s nice to let a card do the talking.

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Very good article about the odd and sometimes wrong but well intentioned things we say to a griever.  What if we could make greeting cards for the bereaved, what would they say?  How many of these have you heard when you are down and thought “wow” or how many times after reading this have you seen yourself say some of the things you should not say?

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Grief Counseling Certification Program: The Many Faces of Grief: Common Emotions that are Experienced

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Grief is a universal emotion and experience. Everyone will go through grief in their life time. Many will repeat the experience throughout their lives. For a long time grief was shunned by society. People really did not understand it and so it was often a very private experience. Often times the person in grief believed that what they were going through emotionally was abnormal and so they were often reluctant to discuss their experiences. Little had been written about grief and thus people also did not know what to say or do to assist a family member or friend who was in the midst of the grieving process.

 

Today things have certainly changed. Grief has been studied extensively over the past several decades and we now know much more about it. Clinical research has been better able to more clearly define this phenomenon and we continue to learn more about it all the time. We have come to understand what intense emotions are confronted in grief and we also have come to develop solid interventions and strategies to help people with their grief experiences.

 

While grief is a subjective experience and unique in many ways, we have learned over the years that there are several stages of grief which are actually universal in nature.

 

These universal grief experiences include the following:

 

Shock and Denial
This phase often manifests itself in a sort of numbness, a feeling of disbelief and a sense of helplessness. This may occur immediately at the awareness of the loss of loved one or the loss of any kind. People may experience feelings of things being unreal, or feel like they are in some dream state. Denial is a strong experience and often people will respond to a loss as if it did not occur. Observers of this may think the person does not care or does not understand what has happened. The observation of denial can be perceived in many ways. In some cases the denial can be very intense and dramatic. When this occurs, professional help may be needed.
2. Pain and Guilt
As the shock and/or denial abate, it is often replaced with feelings of longing for the one we have lost.  It is standard at this stage to experience guilt and remorse about things we may have done or not done, said or not said, to that person. Overwhelming emotional pain is difficult to deal with, and should not be stifled. In this phase we most often see people express themselves much more and we also will likely witness crying and the expression of many types of regrets.
3. Anger
A common question those in grief ask is ‘Why?’ Why Him/Her? Why us? Why me? Finding the answer to this question causes frustration and anger. It is common at this stage to try to find something or someone to blame, or take your frustration out on. In this phase we may often see the person experiencing trembling, and there may even be physiologic manifestations such as increases in blood pressure and pulse rates. Anger may even be expressed toward God for the loss. It is beneficial to encourage those in grief to verbalize their anger but to do so in more constructive ways.

4. Melancholy
You may experience a period of introversion. This stage of the process may leave you feeling low, and you may find you spend a lot of time reflecting on the experiences you had with your loved one. Those close to you will often try to encourage you not to wallow in your grief. However, this is an important part of the process. It allows you to work through your feelings about the one you have lost, as well as reflect on your time together. It is common to feel depressed and this should be acknowledged. If the depression persists for long periods of time or one begins to contemplate self-harm or suicide, professional intervention should be undertaken

Sometimes the stage of sadness itself can take the longest
Sometimes the stage of sadness itself can take the longest

5. Hope for the Future.
The sense of hopelessness and despair you felt will start to lessen. You can now begin adjusting to life without the person you have lost. Often, people in this stage of the process start to think about how they might best commemorate and celebrate the life of the person they have lost.  Deciding on an online memorial can be a great way to honour your loved ones. It allows you to have a permanent reminder of them which everyone can have access to, be involved in creating and even add to.

6. Readjustment and Acceptance.
You will eventually begin to feel that you can settle in to new routines, and maybe even start making plans for your future. Life will seem less overwhelming. You can think about and talk about the deceased with more sense of a peace, rather than experiencing anguish. You have moved away from the intense pain of grief at this phase.

 

Time for Grieving

 

How long does this general process of grieving last? There is no good response to this question.  Grief takes “as long as it takes.” While the above stages are generally universal, the time in grief is not universal. It is uniquely individualized. Some go through the experience and reach acceptance much sooner for others; it can sometimes take several years or more.

 

When the experience of grief persist for more than several years or when the symptoms continue to cripple the grieving person in living their lives then professional help is needed.  A professional who has a certification in grief counseling can be of tremendous help. This professional is schooled in therapeutic interventions for grieving and can really assist in helping the person better cope and progress in the grief experience.

 

As time goes on we will learn more about grief and how people experience it. This will lead us to the development of even more and often better interventions. The time is now for society to become better educated about grief and to learn some common and simple ways to help others through this experience.

 

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