Grief is more about just physical loss but also the thought of loss itself. When someone is diagnosed with an illness or disease that is terminal, one has yet to lose but acknowledges that loss will come. This type of anticipatory grief is very common with family who live with terminal diagnosis of a loved one. Parents can also live with this type of loss when a child is diagnosed with a disease, terminal or not. They have to live with the new reality imposed by the disease or the potential future of loss. This can create an uneasy existence of hope and loss existing side by side.
The article, “The ‘Living Grief’ I Carry After My Child’s Diagnosis” by Kat Barlow looks at this type of living grief. She states regarding a family and their child Noah and his terminal diagnosis,
“Noah has a living life list, not a bucket list. The difference being, we are not waiting for the end. We are instead celebrating and living life now. We seize every opportunity to make memories. We make time; we don’t sweat the small stuff. We cancel appointments to sit in the sunshine instead. We make up stories.”
Living and dealing with grief with hope and love is a difficult thing to do but sometimes it is the best thing to do even if darker days lay ahead. One cannot deny the future, but one can definitely love the present. Please also review our Grief Counseling Program
Grief that is not processed or acknowledged can cause long term mental issues. Complications in grief are due to not facing grief and processing the loss in a healthy fashion. When we purposely ignore our feelings due to loss, we open ourselves to greater damage down the road. Grief is part of healing and is essential to adjusting to the loss in a healthy fashion. If we do not grieve, we will suffer more. Acknowledging grief is an essential ingredient to recovery.
One cannot dismiss emotion due to shame or fear of weakness, but realize that anything worth love is also worth grieving over.
The article, “The Grief We Avoid Is The Grief That We Need” by LaLaine Dawn looks at how grief is important and essential to the very reality of living. She states,
“A lot of us are so afraid to admit we are grieving for fear that people may see us as weak or stupid for feeling that way. Honestly, I can’t blame you. In my experience, there were people in my life who would laugh at my grief. They would tell me I deserved to suffer.”
Grief is hence an important element of the human condition. It cannot be ignored but must be acknowledged and dealt with. To learn more, please review our Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.
Great article on grief and how it can affect sleep. Sleep is important to recovery from anything and sometimes loss can take such an affect on someone that sleep can be negatively affected. Whether nightmares or insomnia, it is important to find help in dealing with grief when sleep is deprived.
The article, “Sleeping After Loss: Understanding the Effects of Grief on Sleep” by Sleep Adviser offers a comprehensive information chart on grief and sleep. The article looks at the danger of lack of sleep and ways to regain sleep while dealing with grief. The article states,
“Losing sleep might be a normal thing that everyone goes through from time to time, especially in times of great distress or sadness, but that doesn’t diminish the terrible impact it can have on the body.”
Divorce naturally creates loss and grief. Grief is a natural bi product of divorce and adjusting to this type of loss can take years. While numerous stresses can occur, some divorces can create complicated grief reactions. In these cases, extra help and counseling is needed.
The article, “Grieving After Divorce Is Normal, But This Kind Of Grief Isn’t” by Karen Finn discusses when grief and divorce can go terribly wrong. The article states,
“After all, divorce is the end of a way of life and of your dreams. It makes sense that you’d feel sad about it, mourn who you were in your married life and are no more, and be grief-stricken that all of your plans for a happily-ever-after have come to a screeching halt.”
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Divorce is never easy. A trained Grief Counselor can help. Please review our Grief Counseling Training Program to see if it meets your academic and professional goals.
A stillborn birth is a terrible experience for the parents. Still in the shuffle of loss and pain, other family members are also forgotten. Potential grandparents suffer the loss very hard as well. Grand parents share in the lives of their children and seeing their adult children lose a child and also be denied a grandchild is also very painful.
The article, “When a baby is stillborn, grandparents are hit with ‘two lots of grief’. Here’s how we can help” by Beth Daley states,
“Six babies are stillborn every day in Australia. This significant loss affects parents for years to come, often the rest of their lives. However, stillbirth also affects many others, including grandparents.”
Grandparents definitely have much to suffer when they lose a grandchild. They have to not only mourn themselves but also be there for their children. To read the entire article, please click here
Grief is loss and all loss needs vindicated in one’s life. When grief is not acknowledged it can cause many problems in the grief process. Disenfranchised grief is when grief is not respected. Examples include pet loss. Many people are told when they lose a pet that it does not matter. This is the type of rejection that the grieving should not be subjected to. Other examples include stigmas that surround loss, such as the loss of a same sex partner, or the minimizing of an individuals connection to another person who may have passed away. In all these cases, the grief is not accepted socially or acknowledged as legitimate.
The article, “What Is Disenfranchised Grief?” by Linnea Crowther looks at the nature of disenfranchised grief. She states,
“It’s painful when others don’t understand your grieving or don’t believe that you’re really feeling the loss that you are. Disenfranchised grief is more common than you might realize, and it increases the trauma of a loss.”
Grief is a natural reaction but over time it can become complicated. Grief that does not adjust to loss but becomes toxic requires assistance. Counseling can help but sometimes treatment is also needed. Licensed professional counselors can help with this but usually a simple certified grief counselor can help someone learn to cope with the grief in a healthy way.
The article, “Here’s When It’s Time to See Someone About Your Grief” by Patia Braithwaite states,
“As awful as it feels, grief is a natural human response to losing someone close to you. The intense emotions that come with grief can all be an appropriate part of eventually helping you heal as much as possible. But there are times when grief is even more overwhelming than usual—times when it hinders your life and happiness long-term”
Grief is something that should not be denied or avoided during loss. It is actually a natural reaction to the loss of something wonderful and beautiful. If grief does not exist then what was loss had no true value. Helping people grieve is important.
The article, “Improving How We Perceive and Manage Grief” by Lisa McDonald states,
“None of us are immune nor are we spared from eventually losing someone we love. There is no step-by-step manual, or quick-fix approach, or one solution fits all strategy for how to navigate and maneuver the journey, as grief and loss is such a uniquely individualized, intricate, and delicate process.”
Miscarriage is loss of a child. While legal status may not view it, the human heart clearly understands it. The child loss during pregnancy while never met is still present. Losing the child is losing a future. For some couples it can even more agonizing if they are trying to bring a child into the world.
There are many myths about miscarriage and how it affects the couple. The article, “The 3 Most Destructive Myths about Miscarriage” by Marilyn Mendoza looks at these these myths and addresses why miscarriage is indeed a traumatic loss for parents. The article states,
“The death of a child can be devastating, regardless of their age. What many do not understand, however, is that losing a child before birth can be equally devastating.”
Grief while universal is definitely also unique and very complex. The complexity of grief leads to a variety of reactions to loss due to multiple different origins.
The article, “The Grief Experience: Survey Shows It’s Complicated” by Koenig takes a closer look at the complexity of grief. She states,
“Many of us have the misperception that there’s a right way to grieve, and most people think they’re doing it wrong,” says Donna Schuurman, a family therapist and senior director of advocacy and training and at the Dougy Center, a Portland, OR, nonprofit that helps people deal with the death of a loved one. “We live in a society that wants us to get over it and move on.”
Grief will always be a complicated emotion to fully understand but we can help others grieve in a healthy way. We can understand the reasons behind each case and help those individuals cope with their grief in effective ways. Please also review our Grief Counseling Courses and see if you would like to become a certified Grief Counselor.