How to maintain good mental health when you’re busy at work

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Monitoring the mental health of one's employees is a wise business model. Please also review AIHCP's Behavioral Health Certification ProgramsWritten by Mike Scott

Work takes up a significant portion of our lives, and for healthcare professionals who devote much of their time and energy to supporting others, daily tasks can feel particularly stressful. With a responsibility to care, it can be easy to put your own needs to one side. However, this isn’t sustainable in the long term, and may lead to burnout if you don’t take a moment to slow down and prioritize your mental health.

Taking care of your mental wellbeing can be easier said than done. Here’s how you can take positive steps to look after yourself, even when you’re really busy at work.

Stick to a schedule

Having a busy schedule can feel overwhelming, but in fact, simply knowing when you’re required to work and when you’re not can help you to schedule in some much needed time for unwinding.

At the start of each week, take a moment to look ahead to see what you have planned – try to find gaps in your schedule that you can devote to a calm, relaxing activity that’ll help to restore both your mind and body. If you’re working overtime, taking a look at your schedule can help you to recognize where you may need to slow down if you’re working far too many hours. 

Remember, overworking yourself will only lead to burnout, causing you to be less productive and efficient, and potentially leading to you needing to take more time off in the future.

Similarly, it’s important to maintain a healthy work-life balance. When you’ve left work for the day, try to leave thoughts of your work responsibilities behind – it’s essential that you’re able to get ample rest so that your mind can reset in time for each new day.

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is all about connecting with the present moment. It can help you become more aware of your thought processes and habits. The beauty of mindfulness is that you can practice it easily at any time, and anywhere – just take a couple of moments to close your eyes, breathe deeply, and focus on what’s going on in that moment. Over time, this will help you to become more in touch with your feelings, and less reactive to stress as a result.

Mindfulness can act as a saving grace when you are limited on time and need to quickly refocus in the face of difficulties or overwhelm. As you devote more time to mindfulness practice, you’ll likely find it easier to enter ‘mindfulness mode’ – stressful feelings of overwhelm will more easily pass you by in a way they once didn’t. Mindfulness is all about recognizing your feelings, observing them, and letting them go.

Take care of your body

The mind and body are intrinsically linked, and by taking care of your physical health, you’ll help your mind to thrive, too. Even a short stroll or other gentle activity can get your body moving and help to improve your mood on a difficult day at work.

But, how do you fit exercise into your routine when you’re particularly busy? Consider setting some time aside on your lunch break to take a walk, or you may be able to walk or cycle to work each morning instead of driving or taking public transport. You can also try online exercise if you’re particularly busy, as a pre-recorded video will allow you to take part in a workout at any time that suits you.

As a healthcare professional, you’ll know just how important it is to stay healthy. As well as making time for exercise, be sure to eat a well-balanced diet, so that your brain has all the nutrients it needs to stay resilient, healthy and happy.

Speak to a mental health professional

Sometimes, speaking to a mental health professional may be necessary if you’re struggling to cope with difficult feelings. It can be a lot to handle mental health struggles by yourself, particularly if you don’t feel you have the time to rest and reflect on how you’re feeling between your work responsibilities.

Counselling can be hugely beneficial for healthcare professionals with heavy workloads. Many employers offer various types of therapies as an employee benefit, so it’s worth looking into your options. There are various types of therapy to consider and talking therapies – such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and psychotherapy – are particularly popular. A qualified professional can help you to find the solution that works best for you.

Speak to your employer

If you’re struggling with your mental health, notifying your employer is essential to receiving the support you need and ensuring your performance at work doesn’t decline. Rather than pushing through each long day and bottling up how you’re feeling, consider asking for help from the people around you. Chances are, they can lighten the load – be sure to let them know how they can best support you.

Your employer may be able to make changes to your schedule, or delegate responsibilities if you’re finding it difficult to stay on top of your workload. They may offer a period of leave to help you rest and reset, or, they could offer flexible working options to help you maintain a better work-life balance if company policy allows it. While it won’t be possible in all circumstances, it’s always worth talking through your options with your employer and making sure they’re aware of your situation, so they can support you in the best way possible.

The importance of prioritizing your mental health

Work is important, but your mental health should always be your top priority. While some amount of stress at work is unavoidable and necessary, there is a line between a normal amount of stress, and that which begins to take a toll on your mental health.

It can be hard to slow down as a busy professional. If you struggle to do so, remember that a healthy mind is key to staying productive and achieving your career goals – so long as you take care of your mental health, you, your employer, and your patients will all benefit.

Author bio: Mike Scott

Mike is a healthcare professional who believes access to mental health support and resources is essential in the workplace. He aims to educate employers and employees on the importance of prioritizing emotional wellbeing for greater work satisfaction.

 

 

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How Micro-Traumas and Daily Stress Accumulate into Addictive Coping Mechanisms

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Facing stress through healthier life styles and prevention. Please also review AIHCP's Stress Management Consulting Certification

Written by Rachel Monroe,

Micro-traumas and daily stressors often go unnoticed in both clinical settings and everyday conversations. They accumulate into addictive coping mechanisms. Unlike acute traumatic events, micro-traumas refer to small, repeated emotional injuries that accumulate over time, such as persistent criticism, neglect, or low-grade social rejection.

Similarly, daily stress encompasses the recurring pressures of work, caregiving, financial obligations, and interpersonal conflict. While each instance may seem inconsequential on its own, the compounding effect can overwhelm an individual’s psychoogical resilience.

Research increasingly supports the idea that these subtle but chronic exposures to stress contribute to emotional dysregulation and vulnerability to maladaptive coping strategies. For many individuals, this leads to reliance on addictive behaviors, such as substance use, overeating, or compulsive digital engagement, as a way to escape or manage internal distress.

Here, we’ll explore how micro-traumas and routine stressors gradually erode emotional stability, alter neurological functioning, and drive the development of addictive coping mechanisms.

Understanding Micro-Traumas in Psychological Contexts

Micro-traumas, sometimes referred to as “small-t” traumas, involve repeated, subtle forms of psychological harm. These experiences do not meet the clinical threshold of acute trauma, yet they still have lasting effects on emotional health.

Examples include chronic invalidation, emotional neglect, ongoing interpersonal tension, or repeated exposure to environments where safety, autonomy, or dignity are compromised. While often normalized or minimized by individuals and institutions, the cumulative burden of these experiences can significantly disrupt emotional development and coping capacity.

In psychological literature, the concept of allostatic load—the wear and tear on the body and brain due to chronic stress—provides a useful framework for understanding how micro-traumas accumulate. Over time, this load can impair emotional regulation, increase irritability, and trigger symptoms of anxiety and depression (McEwen & Tucker, 2011). Individuals may develop a heightened stress response, marked by hypervigilance or emotional numbing, even in low-threat environments.

Because micro-traumas often occur in environments considered “safe,” such as workplaces, schools, or families, they are frequently overlooked in both self-assessment and clinical evaluation. However, recognizing and addressing these persistent stressors is critical for effective prevention and treatment of behavioral health issues, including addiction.

Daily Stressors as Hidden Contributors to Emotional Dysregulation

Daily stressors are often perceived as a normal part of life, particularly in demanding professional or caregiving roles. These may include tight deadlines, financial uncertainty, caregiving responsibilities, long commutes, or disruptions in personal relationships. While manageable in isolation, the repeated exposure to such pressures without adequate recovery time can lead to chronic psychological strain.

Lazarus and Folkman’s (1984) stress appraisal model emphasizes that how a person perceives and responds to a stressor matters as much as the stressor itself. If individuals consistently perceive daily demands as threatening or overwhelming and feel they lack the resources to cope, the resulting stress can lead to emotional dysregulation. This includes difficulty managing mood, reduced frustration tolerance, and increased reactivity to minor provocations.

Chronic stress exposure also triggers physiological changes. Prolonged activation of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis leads to elevated cortisol levels, which can impair memory, decision-making, and mood stability (Sapolsky, 2004). Over time, this dysregulation increases vulnerability to mental health conditions, including anxiety disorders and depression, both of which are strongly associated with addictive behaviors.

Healthcare professionals must recognize that daily stress, though socially normalized, plays a critical role in eroding emotional regulation and resilience. This cumulative effect sets the stage for individuals to seek short-term relief through maladaptive behaviors.

The Neurobiology of Stress and Reward

To understand how stress contributes to addiction, it is essential to examine the underlying neurobiology. The body’s response to stress involves several interrelated systems, particularly the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis and limbic structures such as the amygdala and hippocampus. When exposed to chronic stress, these systems become dysregulated, altering both emotional and behavioral responses.

One key consequence of prolonged stress exposure is a reduction in dopamine activity in the brain’s reward pathways, particularly in the mesolimbic system. Dopamine plays a central role in pleasure, motivation, and reinforcement learning. When dopamine signaling is impaired, individuals may experience anhedonia—a reduced ability to feel pleasure—which can drive them to seek external sources of stimulation or comfort (Volkow et al., 2016).

The “self-medication hypothesis” suggests that individuals under chronic stress are more likely to use substances or behaviors that temporarily increase dopamine levels, such as alcohol, opioids, or even compulsive digital use (Khantzian, 1997). These coping strategies may offer temporary relief but ultimately reinforce neural pathways that prioritize short-term reward over long-term well-being.

Moreover, chronic stress can impair prefrontal cortex function, reducing one’s ability to exert impulse control and weigh long-term consequences. This shift increases susceptibility to compulsive behaviors and weakens adaptive coping strategies, making addiction more likely.

Understanding these biological mechanisms helps healthcare providers better identify patients who may be neurologically primed for addictive coping mechanisms under sustained stress.

Addictive Behaviors and Maladaptive Relief

When prolonged micro-traumas and chronic stress compromise emotional regulation, individuals often turn to coping strategies that provide immediate, if temporary, relief. Addictive coping mechanisms—including substance use, overeating, gambling, compulsive shopping, or excessive screen time—emerge as attempts to escape discomfort rather than address its source.

These behaviors are rooted in negative reinforcement: the removal of emotional pain becomes the reward. Over time, this cycle strengthens, reinforcing reliance on maladaptive habits (Baker, Piper, McCarthy, Majeskie, & Fiore, 2004). Although such behaviors may initially reduce anxiety or emotional distress, they often create new problems—financial strain, social isolation, or health decline—that compound the original stressors.

Addictive coping differs from adaptive strategies in its tendency to escalate in frequency or intensity. For example, occasional alcohol use to relax may evolve into daily dependence when underlying emotional issues remain unresolved. Moreover, the short-term relief provided by addictive behavior impairs the development of healthier alternatives, such as emotional processing, boundary-setting, or social support seeking.

Healthcare professionals should assess whether patients are relying on specific behaviors to manage distress. Screening tools like the CAGE questionnaire or the Brief COPE inventory can offer insight into patterns of avoidance, escape, or dependency. Recognizing addictive coping early allows for targeted intervention, including psychoeducation, behavioral therapy, and support group referral.

Chronic Workplace Stress as Micro-Trauma

Work environments are frequently overlooked as sources of psychological harm, yet they are common settings for micro-trauma. Repeated exposure to unclear expectations, micromanagement, interpersonal tension, or excessive workload can result in a steady accumulation of emotional stress. Although these conditions are often normalized as part of modern professional life, they can generate chronic psychological strain with long-term consequences.

Burnout, now recognized by the World Health Organization as a syndrome resulting from unmanaged workplace stress, is a key example of how occupational conditions can erode emotional well-being. Emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and reduced personal accomplishment—hallmarks of burnout—are clear indicators of compromised mental health (WHO, 2019).

For many individuals, the connection between work stress and substance abuse becomes evident over time. The workplace may seem unrelated to addiction at first glance, but studies show that workplace stress fuels addiction by gradually overwhelming a person’s coping reserves. When emotional strain becomes routine and support is absent, some turn to alcohol or drugs for relief. This reinforces a dangerous feedback loop in which the addictive behavior temporarily dulls stress while deepening the underlying problem.

Healthcare professionals must recognize chronic workplace stress as a valid form of micro-trauma. Screening for occupational stressors during intake assessments, especially in addiction counseling settings, may reveal hidden drivers of maladaptive coping. By addressing work-related emotional injuries early, clinicians can reduce the likelihood of substance misuse rooted in workplace trauma.

Behavioral Addiction and Daily Escapism

While substance use disorders are widely recognized in clinical practice, addictive coping mechanisms are often underdiagnosed despite their similar neurological and psychological patterns. Behavioral addictions involve compulsive engagement in non-substance activities that activate reward systems in the brain, offering short-term emotional relief at the expense of long-term well-being. Examples include compulsive internet use, online gaming, binge-watching, gambling, and even excessive exercise or shopping.

Daily stress and micro-traumas increase vulnerability to these behaviors by creating persistent emotional discomfort. When individuals lack adaptive coping skills or social support, repetitive engagement in these activities becomes a form of escapism. Over time, the behaviors evolve into compulsions, often interfering with occupational, academic, or interpersonal functioning.

The World Health Organization has acknowledged behavioral addictions, notably classifying gaming disorder in the ICD-11 as a condition characterized by impaired control and continued use despite negative consequences (WHO, 2018). This classification reflects a broader shift in understanding addiction as a pattern of dysregulated behavior, not just substance misuse.

Clinicians should screen for behavioral addictions alongside traditional substance use disorders, particularly in patients reporting chronic stress or emotional detachment. Effective treatment may include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), digital hygiene practices, and mindfulness-based interventions. Early identification allows professionals to redirect patients toward healthier coping mechanisms before the behaviors escalate into entrenched patterns.

Early Identification and Intervention in Clinical Practice

Healthcare providers are uniquely positioned to identify the early signs of maladaptive coping, particularly those rooted in chronic stress and micro-trauma. Because these stressors often go unreported or are minimized by patients, it is essential for clinicians to actively screen for subtle indicators of emotional dysregulation, such as fatigue, irritability, frequent somatic complaints, or shifts in social behavior.

Trauma-informed care models emphasize the need to recognize how stress and trauma, including micro-traumas, affect behavior, cognition, and emotional stability. This approach encourages clinicians to view symptoms through a lens of compassion and inquiry rather than judgment. Integrating simple questions about daily stressors, work satisfaction, and coping routines into assessments can uncover hidden contributors to addiction risk (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration [SAMHSA], 2014).

Clinical tools such as the Brief COPE Inventory or the Perceived Stress Scale (PSS) can help quantify stress burden and highlight maladaptive coping patterns. If behavioral or substance-related patterns emerge, early referral to mental health services or substance use treatment programs can prevent escalation.

Moreover, patient education on the impact of cumulative stress and coping behavior fosters insight and engagement in the therapeutic process. By addressing the origins of distress, rather than just the symptoms, clinicians can support more sustainable recovery outcomes.

Wrapping Up — How Chronic Stress Contributes To Addictive Mechanisms

The accumulation of micro-traumas and daily stressors poses a significant but often overlooked risk factor for the development of addictive coping mechanisms. While these stressors may appear minor in isolation, their cumulative effect can undermine emotional regulation, alter neurological functioning, and prompt maladaptive behaviors aimed at achieving temporary relief. Over time, these behaviors—whether substance-based or behavioral—can evolve into full-fledged addiction.

Healthcare professionals play a critical role in identifying the subtle indicators of this progression. Recognizing workplace stress, behavioral escapism, and emotionally invalidating environments as valid forms of micro-trauma allows for earlier intervention and more holistic care. Screening tools, trauma-informed assessments, and patient education are practical methods for uncovering the root causes of addiction before they intensify.

Understanding how chronic stress and unresolved emotional strain fuel addictive behavior also challenges the notion that addiction is solely a matter of personal choice or willpower. Instead, it invites a more compassionate and clinically informed approach that considers both the environmental and physiological underpinnings of behavior.

Author bio: Rachel Monroe is a mental health writer with a focus on stress, trauma, and addiction recovery in healthcare settings.

 

 

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Grief Counseling: Why Do People Feel Unlovable

Posted on by Mark Moran

 

I. Introduction

Understanding why some individuals perceive themselves as unlovable is a critical exploration within psychology and social dynamics. This phenomenon often stems from complex interactions among personal experiences, societal expectations, and emotional responses. For instance, schema therapy emphasizes the role of maladaptive schemas and their manifestations in maladaptive behaviors that can reinforce feelings of unworthiness and isolation. Within this framework, schema modes are essential as they reflect varying emotional states that individuals oscillate between, influencing their perception of love and acceptance (Edwards et al., 2017). Moreover, external influences such as familial relationships and cultural narratives significantly shape an individuals sense of self-worth. The portrayal of these dynamics in narratives like the film Precious elucidates how compounded stressors, along with societal neglect, can exacerbate feelings of unlovability, leading to a cycle of despair and disconnection (Chaney et al., 2017). Therefore, diving into the factors that cultivate these beliefs is essential for fostering healthier self-perceptions and interpersonal relationships.

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Feeling unlovable can have many mental root causes. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

A. Definition of feeling unlovable

The sensation of feeling unlovable is often rooted in complex emotional and psychological dynamics influenced by early experiences and interpersonal relationships. This feeling may be intricately tied to shame, which manifests as negative self-beliefs that individuals internalize, often developed during formative years. Such beliefs can create barriers to intimacy, leading individuals to withdraw from potential connections out of fear of rejection or unworthiness. Psychotherapists frequently observe that shame influences relationship difficulties and can exacerbate mental health issues, underscoring the pervasive nature of these feelings within therapeutic settings (Hulstrand et al., 2015). Moreover, schema therapy highlights the shifting experiential states experienced by individuals, with various schema modes contributing to their sense of self and relational patterns (Edwards et al., 2017). Consequently, understanding the definition of feeling unlovable involves recognizing the interplay between these emotional factors and their impact on an individuals capacity for connection and self-acceptance.

 

B. Importance of understanding this feeling

Understanding the feeling of being unlovable is crucial because it directly influences emotional well-being and interpersonal relationships. Such feelings often stem from complex emotional dynamics and unconscious defense mechanisms that distort one’s self-perception and understanding of social situations. By analyzing these emotional responses, individuals can uncover the underlying reasons that contribute to feelings of unworthiness, leading to greater self-awareness and personal growth. As articulated in recent philosophical discussions, the dissection of these defense mechanisms can aid in moral inquiry and understanding ones emotional landscape. Furthermore, fostering open dialogue and relationships enhances self-acceptance and compassion, which are vital for overcoming the pervasive sense of unlovability. Engaging in this understanding not only facilitates healing but also promotes healthier connections with others, making it an essential part of navigating human experience (Lacewing et al.), (Milligan et al., 2013).

 

C. Overview of factors contributing to feelings of unlovability

Feelings of unlovability can stem from a complex interplay of psychological and social factors that shape an individuals self-perception. Central to these feelings is the cognitive triad, which emphasizes negative beliefs about oneself, the world, and the future, often exacerbated by depressive symptoms ((Monnat et al., 2014)). When individuals internalize experiences of rejection or neglect, they may begin to view themselves as unworthy of love, further entrenching these beliefs. Additionally, personal narratives, such as those found in autoethnographic studies, illustrate how significant life events impact emotional development and reinforce feelings of unlovability. The stories shared can reveal underlying patterns of thought and behavior that contribute to self-deprecation ((N/A, 2009)). This combination of cognitive distortions and personal experiences creates a fertile ground for unlovable feelings, often leading to a profound struggle for validation and acceptance from others. Understanding these factors is crucial for addressing the emotions surrounding unlovability.

 

II. Psychological Factors

Understanding the psychological factors that contribute to feelings of unlovability necessitates an exploration of internalized narratives and schemas formed through early experiences. Individuals often grapple with maladaptive beliefs arising from past traumas or negative societal messages, which can distort their self-image and hinder their ability to foster intimate connections. For instance, Lois-Ann Yamanaka’s exploration of adolescence in Loving the Unlovable Body highlights how these formative experiences shape girls relationships with their bodies and, in turn, their self-worth, revealing a tapestry of emotional struggles that may lead to a sense of unlovability (Baiada et al., 2016). Additionally, cases such as Annas demonstrate how long-standing psychological issues, including post-traumatic stress and avoidant personality disorder, are intricately linked to early traumatic experiences, further illustrating the complexity of unlovability as rooted in deep-seated emotional schemas (Edwards et al., 2014). These psychological elements reflect the profound impact of both personal history and socio-cultural influences on ones self-perception.

Why do you feel unlovable?

 

A. Impact of childhood experiences on self-worth

Childhood experiences play a crucial role in shaping an individuals sense of self-worth, often laying the groundwork for feelings of unlovability in adulthood. Negative experiences, such as emotional neglect or abuse, can lead to the internalization of harmful beliefs, evidenced by the correlation between adverse childhood experiences and the development of negative core beliefs about the self, specifically unlovability and worthlessness (de Oliveira et al., 2018). These deeply rooted beliefs can manifest as early maladaptive schemas that impact psychological well-being, as observed in individuals suffering from various mental health issues (Stalmeisters et al., 2018). Furthermore, children who encounter consistent criticism or lack emotional support from caregivers may grow into adults who struggle with self-acceptance and maintain distorted perceptions of their worth. This continuous cycle highlights the importance of understanding childhood dynamics, as they ultimately influence how individuals perceive themselves and their capacity to foster loving relationships later in life.

 

B. Role of mental health issues in shaping self-perception

Mental health issues significantly influence self-perception, contributing to feelings of unlovability and inadequacy. Individuals grappling with conditions such as depression often develop negative schemas about themselves, which can distort their self-image and lead to pervasive feelings of unworthiness. For instance, a study on patients with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS) found that early maladaptive schemas (EMS) negatively affected their psychological well-being, suggesting that these ingrained beliefs can shape one’s self-concept and overall quality of life (Stalmeisters et al., 2018). Furthermore, societal norms around masculinity exacerbate these issues, particularly among men who conform to restrictive emotional norms. Research indicates that men adhering to such norms are less likely to seek help, resulting in a higher risk for suicidal thoughts and behaviors, illustrating how mental health struggles can entrench feelings of unlovability and isolation (Eggenberger et al., 2024). This interplay underscores the critical need for addressing mental health to reshape self-perception positively.

 

C. Influence of negative self-talk and cognitive distortions

The pervasive influence of negative self-talk and cognitive distortions significantly contributes to feelings of unlovability, often perpetuating a cycle of self-doubt and emotional distress. Individuals who engage in negative self-talk frequently distort their perceptions of reality by filtering experiences through a lens of inadequacy, leading them to believe they are undeserving of love and connection. Cognitive distortions, such as catastrophizing or all-or-nothing thinking, exacerbate these feelings by reinforcing an internal dialogue that is harsh and unforgiving. For instance, when individuals interpret setbacks as definitive failures, they may develop a diminished sense of self-worth, impacting their interpersonal relationships and self-image. This unhealthy mindset not only affects how they perceive themselves but also how they interact with others, as they may subconsciously push away those who could provide affirmation and support. Understanding this complex interplay is crucial in addressing the roots of unlovability, as explored in various studies, including insights drawn from related research on familial relationships (Fox S, 2023) and voluntary reunification processes (Matthewson M et al., 2023).

 

III. Social Influences

Social influences play a pivotal role in shaping individuals perceptions of loveability, particularly in how societal norms and interpersonal relationships inform self-esteem and emotional health. For instance, individuals often internalize the messages conveyed by social media, peer groups, and familial expectations, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unlovability if they do not conform to these ideals. The misdiagnosis of mental health conditions, particularly among autistic individuals, exemplifies how societal misunderstandings can exacerbate feelings of being unworthy of love and support. Autistic persons frequently report that healthcare professionals confuse their autism characteristics with other mental health issues, leaving them feeling misunderstood and isolated (Sheena K Au‐Yeung et al., 2018). Furthermore, advancements in mental health interventions, such as the development of clinical LLMs, hold promise for enhancing individual support and addressing these social barriers, yet they must be carefully implemented to ensure they align with effective therapeutic practices (Stade EC et al., 2024).

 

A. Effects of societal standards and expectations on self-image

The pervasive influence of societal standards and expectations significantly impacts self-image, often leading individuals to feel unlovable. Media portrayals, cultural norms, and peer comparisons continually shape our perceptions of beauty and worth, creating a landscape where many feel they fall short. This phenomenon is especially troubling among diverse demographics; for instance, women, regardless of their age or racial background, actively engage in self-monitoring their bodies in response to external pressures. Research shows that both Caucasian and African-American women utilize various strategies, including diet and cosmetic enhancements, to conform to these ideals, highlighting a collective vulnerability to body dissatisfaction and related psychological issues (Gill et al., 2008). Meanwhile, children and adolescents also navigate these expectations, which can trigger profound mental health challenges such as anxiety and depression (LaBrie et al., 2025). Ultimately, the relentless pursuit of societal approval undermines self-esteem and fosters feelings of inadequacy, contributing to the sense of unlovability.

Grief Counselors can help individuals feel lovable and find the root causes for why they do not

 

B. The role of relationships and social connections in feelings of unlovability

The intertwined nature of relationships and feelings of unlovability offers critical insights into connection and isolation in human life. It’s generally the case that people who see themselves as unlovable frequently struggle with negative self-perceptions arising from less-than-ideal social interactions. As (Kurle et al., 2023) points out, feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness may intensify sensations of disconnection; this creates a self-reinforcing pattern that distances individuals from potential support systems. Moreover, societal norms and gender roles, as seen in Margaret Laurence’s work, can distort relationships and reinforce feelings of inadequacy; societal expectations can really complicate things. Laurence’s stories show relationships marked by discord, reflecting how outside pressures can hinder personal fulfillment and encourage feelings of being unworthy of love. Thus, inadequate social connections not only keep unlovability going but also reduce chances to develop meaningful relationships that push back against these feelings.

 

C. Impact of social media on self-esteem and comparison

Social media’s reach is wide, and it has cultivated a culture of comparison that really hits at a person’s self-worth. People often see carefully chosen pictures and seemingly perfect lives, which makes them feel like they don’t measure up. This constant stream of images can make someone think their worth depends on what others think, and that can lead to feeling truly unlovable. Research shows that trying to fit in, especially on social media, can lead to problems like depression and even thoughts of suicide; the impacts go beyond just surface-level self-image and can affect overall mental health, especially for men who might feel pressured to act a certain way (Eggenberger et al., 2024). Engaging in social comparison could also make it harder to form close relationships, which are so important for support and forgiveness, possibly leading to greater anxiety and avoidant attachment styles (Krajewski et al., 2004).

 

IV. Cultural Perspectives

Cultural viewpoints can really shape how people feel about being unlovable, mainly because they affect how we see our own value and relationships in different communities. For instance, in cultures that value group harmony, your self-worth might depend heavily on whether your family or community approves of you. When people can’t meet those group expectations, it can make them feel even more inadequate. We can see this cultural influence more clearly by looking at biographical interviews, where stories told in group settings show how our personal feelings and reactions are connected to cultural stories about fitting in (Harding J). Shame, while felt everywhere, is also understood differently across cultures and can really impact our mental health. It usually stems from what we deeply believe about our own value, causing us to react defensively and making it harder to connect with others. When therapists deal with these issues, acknowledging how important relationships are can help people work through feelings of shame and develop a healthier sense of themselves (Hulstrand et al., 2015).

 

A. Variations in expressions of love and acceptance across cultures

The ways we show love and acceptance? They’re not the same everywhere you go, and that really colors how people feel about whether they’re worthy of love in the first place. Take cultures that are big on “we” instead of “me.” They might show love through strong family bonds, putting loyalty to the group ahead of, say, a grand romantic gesture. On the flip side, more individualistic places might treat personal success as a form of self-love – but that can backfire, leaving people feeling unlovable if they *aren’t* racking up achievements. Now, it’s interesting: People who don’t have a huge need to fit in seem to be hit especially hard when society’s idea of love shifts, especially those with a fearful attachment style (Ford et al., 2018). If these folks feel rejected, they’re more likely to see every little thing as a sign that they’re just plain unlovable (Ford et al., 2017). So, when you get right down to it, understanding that love looks different depending on where you are can shed light on why some people wrestle with these feelings of unlovability – it’s all tangled up with what society expects and how you see yourself.

 

B. Cultural stigmas surrounding vulnerability and emotional expression

Cultural stigmas—those attached to vulnerability and emotional expression—really play a big part in how people can feel unlovable, you know? It’s like, societal norms often push this idea of being stoic, especially for men. Showing your emotions? That’s seen as weakness. This kind of story our culture tells makes it harder for people to reach out when they’re struggling. They end up feeling isolated and ashamed. For example, it’s been shown that women dealing with alcohol dependence often feel a deep sense of shame because of what society expects from them, and (R J Lamb et al., 2024) that just makes getting better even harder. Think about northern British Columbia, too. The silence around mental health and suicide there just shows how much culture can mess with how people see help and support. In (Usipuik M, 2024), the people involved really talked about wanting connection and how much the stigma in society hurt them. It shows how important it is to create spaces where emotions are okay and where people can really connect.

 

C. Influence of cultural narratives on individual self-worth

Cultural stories are pretty important; they really help shape how we feel about ourselves, especially when it comes to who we think we are and where we fit in. You see these stories everywhere—in books, on TV, and just how people act around each other. Sometimes they back up what we already think about our worth, but other times they shake things up. Take, for example, the tough histories of oppression. Toni Morrison dives deep into this, showing how those experiences can mess with how people see themselves, particularly in groups that have been pushed to the side. Her characters often face awful choices because of what theyve been through racially. It shows you just how much these cultural stories can affect whether they feel like they have any control over their lives and how much they value themselves (Yasin et al., 2011). Then, when you look at how people figure out who they are—like Ralph John Rabies work—it gets even more interesting. He looks at different parts of a persons personality to see how they deal with problems on the inside that come from what society expects and the cultural stories we all hear. This can really change how someone feels about themselves and whether they think they belong (Uys et al., 2010). Its all connected, really: these cultural stories and how we value ourselves. It just goes to show how important context is in understanding the human experience.

 

V. Conclusion

To summarize, those feelings of not being lovable that people have often come from really deep psychological stuff, usually going back to family stuff from when they were kids. Dysfunctional families can really mess you up, causing feelings like hopelessness, guilt, and just a general feeling of not being good enough; studies of adults who grew up in these kinds of families show that they often struggle with the idea that they are simply unlovable (Andhika et al., 2021). Then, when tough stuff happens in life, like loss or being abandoned, these feelings can get even worse, making people feel lost and disconnected from others (Ciarrochi et al., 2022). So, dealing with these deeply held beliefs requires a few things, like getting to know yourself better, making real connections with people, and understanding how your past affects how you feel now. With that understanding, people can start to feel worthy again and find more love and acceptance, generally speaking.

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Please also review AIHCP’s Bereavement Counseling Program to learn more about helping individuals form better self image and understand self worth.

 

A. Summary of key points discussed

Several key aspects come to light when unraveling the intricate web of why someone might feel unlovable, highlighting how personal experiences and society intertwine. Interpersonal relationships, particularly in one’s early years, have a big impact, really shaping how we see ourselves. People often internalize negative comments or a lack of attention, and this can lead to a long-lasting feeling of being worthless, like they don’t deserve love. Moreover, society’s expectations and cultural norms add to these feelings; unrealistic worth standards can make people who don’t fit in feel even more alienated. As one study on biographical interviews points out, different methods can draw out different personal stories, emphasizing the emotional aspects of talking about personal experiences. These biographical narratives, collaborative in nature, allow for both personal and collective thought, really driving home the subjective complexities that can make someone feel unlovable (Harding J), (Vassiljeva et al., 2018).

 

B. Importance of addressing feelings of unlovability

Dealing with feelings of being unlovable stands as a key factor in supporting both emotional health and the way we relate to each other. Quite often, people struggling with these feelings start to internalize shame. This shame makes it harder for them to bond with others, which only makes them feel more alone. If someone feels unlovable, they might pull away from relationships, which unfortunately just keeps the cycle of loneliness going and makes them feel even worse. As noted in (Lancaster et al., 2011), recognizing this pattern is essential for tackling that internalized shame, with the goal of improving how connected someone feels and building their confidence. What’s more, recognizing a person’s religious views and spiritual beliefs can be a source of real support during therapy, because these factors play a role in how they see themselves and deal with those feelings of unlovability (Ekşi et al., 2020). By addressing these different emotional and mental aspects, therapeutic approaches can help build self-acceptance and encourage healthier, more satisfying relationships, challenging those incorrect beliefs that feed into feelings of being unlovable.

 

C. Suggestions for fostering self-acceptance and love

Dealing with feelings of being unlovable really hinges on building self-acceptance and, well, self-love. These feelings often bubble up from negative views we’ve absorbed from society’s expectations. Now, one way to boost self-acceptance is through cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT. It’s all about getting to grips with and changing those negative thought patterns (Kazantzis N et al., 2024). Plus, mindfulness can be pretty life-changing. It lets you watch your thoughts and feelings without jumping to conclusions, helping you see your own value without being too critical (Axelrad et al., 2018). It’s also key to practice some self-compassion – be kind to yourself when things go wrong or you feel you’re not up to scratch, understanding that being imperfect is just part of being human. And don’t forget the importance of good friends; having strong social connections gives you a chance to feel valued and have your self-worth reinforced. Overall, these kinds of approaches can do a lot to increase how much you accept yourself, leading to a stronger sense of self-love.

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Additional Resources

Geher, G. (2022). “The Psychology of Feeling Unloved”. Psychology Today. Access here

Ethans, L. (2023). “5 Traumas That Make Someone Feel Unlovable”. Power of Positivity. Access here

“Feeling Unlovable: Overcoming the Internal Struggle”. Psychology. Access here

“Am I Unlovable? Discovering the Truth About Your Self-Worth”.  Psychologily. Access here

Behavioral Health Certifications: Mental Health and Excessive People Pleasing

Posted on by Mark Moran

I. Introduction

Understanding the intricate relationship between mental health and excessive people pleasing is essential for addressing the psychological challenges many individuals face today. People pleasers often prioritize the approval and satisfaction of others over their own needs, leading to a silencing of their authentic selves. This behavior can stem from various factors, including societal expectations and past experiences of emotional neglect. Research has indicated that the costs associated with excessive people pleasing are significant, impacting not only personal well-being but also contributing to broader societal issues, much like the correlation seen in housing shortages and their repercussions on health care and productivity (Diamond et al., 2019). As individuals navigate their identities, particularly within marginalized groups, feelings of anxiety and self-doubt can deepen, revealing the complexity of mental health in the context of societal pressures (Mitchell A et al.). Thus, a comprehensive examination of these dynamics is critical in fostering healthier relationships with oneself and others.

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Individuals who put the mental health of others over themselves and look to please others usually have many unmet needs and emotional issues that result in low self esteem

 

A. Definition of mental health

Mental health is a multifaceted concept that encompasses emotional, psychological, and social well-being, significantly influencing how individuals think, feel, and act. It plays a crucial role in how we cope with stress and make decisions, shaping our interactions with others and our overall quality of life. A thriving mental health state enables individuals to engage in productive activities and maintain fulfilling relationships, which can mitigate tendencies toward excessive people pleasing. Research indicates that low vocational satisfaction and inadequate social support can heighten feelings of anxiety and depression, which may further exacerbate the compulsive desire to please others as a means of seeking validation and acceptance (Knox et al., 2002). Furthermore, the absence of strong support systems can lead to detrimental mental health outcomes, emphasizing the necessity of fostering supportive environments that can alleviate the pressures individuals face in their pursuit of social approval (Diamond et al., 2019).

 

B. Overview of people pleasing behavior

People-pleasing behavior is often rooted in the desire for acceptance and approval from others, which can lead individuals to prioritize others’ needs over their own. This pervasive need to be liked can have significant implications for mental health, as people pleasers may neglect their own well-being in favor of fulfilling the expectations of friends, family, or colleagues. Research indicates that such behavior can diminish self-esteem and exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression, especially when individuals perceive their worth as contingent upon others approval. For instance, performance pressures similar to those faced by collegiate athletes can trigger maladaptive behaviors, suggesting a correlation between external pressures and mental health challenges (Apsey et al., 2019). Moreover, the complexity of social interactions, where individuals may feel compelled to meet varied expectations, can complicate self-identity, leading to internal conflict and stress (Eggleston K). Ultimately, the pursuit of universal approval can be both psychologically taxing and detrimental to ones overall health.

 

C. Importance of exploring the relationship between mental health and people pleasing

Understanding the relationship between mental health and excessive people-pleasing is critical, as this dynamic can significantly impact an individuals well-being. Individuals who exhibit people-pleasing tendencies often prioritize others needs over their own, leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-worth. The pressure to gain validation and approval can exacerbate existing mental health issues, creating a cyclical pattern of dependency on external affirmation. This incessant striving for acceptance not only diminishes personal autonomy but may also lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms, including disordered eating, as evidenced by athletes facing pressures regarding body image and performance (Apsey et al., 2019). Additionally, exploring these themes in varying cultural contexts, such as those discussed in McShanes analysis of political behaviors in interregnum England, can yield insights into how societal expectations shape individuals mental health experiences (McShane et al., 2010). Thus, examining this relationship is essential for developing effective interventions that promote healthier behaviors and promote well-being.

 

II. Understanding People Pleasing

The phenomenon of people pleasing is intricately linked to various mental health challenges, often serving as a coping mechanism for underlying issues. Individuals who exhibit excessive people pleasing behaviors may find their self-worth closely tied to external validation, leading to an increased susceptibility to anxiety and depression. This dynamic can be further complicated by personality traits such as vicarious trauma or burnout, as evidenced in the study of clergy experiencing high levels of emotional exhaustion, which ultimately impacts their professional lives and mental health (Hanson et al., 2020). Moreover, the societal pressure to conform to the expectations of others can impose significant costs on personal autonomy and well-being, paralleling the broader implications of inadequate support systems in addressing mental health (Diamond et al., 2019). Such connections between people pleasing and mental health underscore the need for awareness and intervention strategies that foster healthier relational boundaries.

We cannot please everyone in life and boundaries are necessary

 

A. Characteristics of people pleasers

Individuals who exhibit characteristics of people pleasing often demonstrate a profound fear of rejection and a strong desire for approval from others. This can manifest in various ways, including an inability to say no, consistently prioritizing others needs over their own, and excessive apologizing, which can significantly impact their mental health. People pleasers may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, often tying their self-worth to external validation, which can lead to anxiety and depression. Moreover, research reveals that performance pressures in specific environments, such as athletics, can exacerbate these tendencies, with disordered eating behaviors linked to the need for acceptance within peer groups (Apsey et al., 2019). Similarly, the importance of personal comfort is evident in activities where individuals, particularly women, may alter their participation based on discomfort stemming from societal pressures or physical constraints, such as inadequate clothing support (Burbage et al., 2018). Therefore, addressing these characteristics is crucial for improving mental well-being and fostering healthier interpersonal relationships.

 

B. Psychological motivations behind people pleasing

The psychological motivations behind excessive people pleasing often stem from deep-rooted desires for acceptance and affirmation. Individuals may engage in pleasing behaviors as a defense mechanism against feelings of inadequacy or fear of rejection, often prioritizing others needs over their own to maintain social harmony. This behavior can be linked to an internalized belief that self-worth is contingent upon external approval, leading to a cycle of dependency on others validation. Moreover, such tendencies can be exacerbated by societal expectations that equate selflessness with virtue, which may reinforce the idea that one’s identity is shaped significantly by the perceptions of others (Cabeza-Ramírez et al., 2022). This dynamic not only hampers personal development but also contributes to mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, as the relentless pursuit of external validation can lead to emotional burnout and a diminished sense of self (Nguyen et al., 2022). Ultimately, understanding these motivations is crucial for addressing the implications of people pleasing on mental well-being.

Many with these tendencies may have a backstory of personal and childhood trauma, low self image, anxious attachment disorders and faced conditional love as children.

 

C. Societal influences that encourage people pleasing

The phenomenon of excessive people pleasing can be profoundly influenced by societal expectations that prioritize conformity over individuality. In contemporary culture, particularly within social media landscapes, individuals are often bombarded with idealized images and norms that shape perceptions of self-worth. Those who feel compelled to align their identities with societal standards may engage in people pleasing as a strategy to gain acceptance and validation. As explored by the creators of The Autobiography of Jane Eyre, the conflict between ones authentic self and external expectations often leads to a struggle that is magnified in a digitally-driven society, where appearances hold significant weight (Gonzales et al., 2018). Moreover, motivations for adopting minimalist consumption patterns suggest that individuals may also pursue social acceptance through reduced materialism, reflecting a deeper psychological engagement with societal beliefs about success and fulfillment (Nguyen et al., 2022). Thus, the interplay between societal pressures and personal identity significantly exacerbates the tendency toward people pleasing.

 

III. Impact of People Pleasing on Mental Health

The pervasive tendency to engage in people pleasing can have profound implications for mental health, leading to heightened anxiety, reduced self-esteem, and even depression. Individuals who prioritize others approval over their own needs often find themselves trapped in a cycle of obligation and dissatisfaction, where their self-worth becomes inextricably tied to external validation. This disconnection from ones authentic self fosters feelings of inadequacy and the fear of rejection, which exacerbate mental health challenges. Moreover, excessive people pleasing can diminish ones capacity to engage in healthy interpersonal relationships; individuals may struggle with asserting boundaries or expressing genuine emotions, further perpetuating feelings of isolation. As the pressures associated with meeting perceived expectations mount, the risk of burnout increases. Cumulatively, these factors underscore the urgent need for interventions that promote self-acceptance and encourage autonomous decision-making to mitigate the detrimental effects of people pleasing on mental well-being (Batchelder et al., 1957), (Eggleston K).

Mental health can be negatively effected through the above and lead to a variety of issues including inauthentic relationships, poor boundaries, loss of self, poor mental health and self image, and poor self care.

Those who look to please others will commonly lack proper self care and time for self which can lead to burnout and other anxiety issues

 

A. Anxiety and stress related to people pleasing

The phenomenon of people pleasing often leads to significant anxiety and stress, stemming from an insatiable desire for external validation and an apprehension of disappointing others. Individuals entrenched in this behavioral pattern may experience constant internal conflict, sacrificing their own needs and well-being to maintain harmonious relationships. This unwavering commitment to pleasing others can result in emotional fatigue, as the individuals sense of identity becomes entangled with the approval of others, often leading to feelings of inadequacy when expectations are not met. Furthermore, the societal pressure to conform to specific roles can exacerbate these feelings, promoting a cycle of anxiety that not only impacts personal well-being but can also affect professional dynamics, similar to the experiences of older women in the workforce who feel compelled to downplay their health challenges such as menopause-related symptoms (Bariola E et al.). This interplay of personal expectations and external pressures can culminate in a profound sense of disconnection and distress among people pleasers (Hanson et al., 2020).

 

B. Effects on self-esteem and self-worth

It’s well-established that trying too hard to please everyone has a complicated, and often negative, relationship with how someone feels about themselves. When people constantly put others first and crave their approval, they often tie their self-worth to what other people think, which, in most cases, leads to ongoing insecurity. This reliance on outside validation can make feelings of inadequacy even worse, because they’re always measuring their value against the perceptions of others. Furthermore, the effects of social comparison—which are heightened in super competitive spaces like schools—can intensify this struggle. To illustrate, (Rindels et al., 2021) points out how hyper-competitiveness among high-achieving students impacts their mental well-being; it suggests that constant comparison tends to undermine self-esteem while, at the same time, raising the likelihood of mental health issues like depression. Likewise, emphasizing natural talent and intellectual success, as it’s been criticized in discussions about societal values, speaks to the risks of linking personal worth too closely to talent and approval—something that can discourage self-acceptance and instead fuel toxic self-doubt (McLendon et al., 2009). These kinds of dynamics ultimately underscore the urgent need for cultivating self-perceptions that aren’t based on trying to please other people.

 

C. Long-term mental health consequences

The mental health repercussions of constantly trying to please everyone can be quite deep and varied, often leading to long-term emotional issues like anxiety and depression. When people continuously put others’ needs first, seeking their approval, they might get stuck in a pattern of neglecting themselves. This, in turn, can foster feelings of not being good enough and lowering their own self-esteem. Such behavior can, over time, change how the brain responds to stress, increasing the risk of anxiety problems and even leading to addictive behaviors, like depending too much on social media for validation (Brooks et al., 2024). The result? People pleasers might struggle with a shaky sense of who they are, with their self-esteem mostly depending on what others think of them (McShane et al., 2010). Not being able to set strong boundaries can hold back personal development and damage the quality of relationships, creating a negative cycle that worsens their psychological distress in the long haul. Generally speaking, this inability to establish boundaries and prioritizing of others will lead to long-term problems.

IV. Strategies for Overcoming Excessive People Pleasing

Dealing with excessive people-pleasing isn’t a simple fix; it calls for a combined effort involving knowing yourself better, learning how to be assertive, and setting reasonable boundaries. Often, people struggle with the worry that they’ll be turned down or not liked, and this worry can fuel the habit of always putting others first. A key method involves building your own self-compassion, which helps you see your own value, even when others don’t give you praise. Methods such as using descriptive language to clearly say how you feel and what you want have been useful, particularly when vulnerable people are dealing with anxiety; consider, for example, the instance of a child who creatively overcame selective mutism (Alrabiah et al., 2017). Moreover, grasping the psychological roots of people-pleasing—think insecurity or being afraid of disagreements—helps people question what society expects of them and encourages better relationships (Rizeanu et al., 2018). When these strategies are all implemented, mental well-being can improve quite a bit, as well as reducing the negative impact of excessive people-pleasing.

 

A. Developing assertiveness skills

Developing assertiveness is really important when you’re dealing with too much people pleasing. It helps folks express what they need and set those crucial boundaries. People who tend to overdo the pleasing thing often feel more anxious and their self-esteem takes a hit, which, you know, can cause not-so-great relationships and even mental health stuff. Now, when we encourage assertiveness, it can help create better interactions, boosting self-respect and helping everyone understand each other better. So, what does assertiveness training look like? Well, it could be practicing how to communicate directly, learning when to say no, and standing up for yourself without feeling guilty about it. These kinds of skills don’t just improve how we deal with people; they also have a positive impact on our mental well-being. Studies have shown, in most cases, that people who are more assertive tend to be happier with their lives and experience less anxiety and depression. Generally speaking, putting assertiveness front and center in therapy might just reduce the harmful effects of excessive people pleasing, especially for those who are more susceptible (Peterson et al., 2022), (Gabrelcik et al., 2020).

 

B. Setting healthy boundaries

For individuals inclined to excessive people-pleasing, setting healthy boundaries is really vital, because it cultivates an atmosphere where prioritizing mental well-being becomes more feasible. These clear personal limits can ease the feelings of guilt and anxiety that sometimes accompany saying “no,” while also empowering one to practice self-care, thereby reinforcing self-worth. This balance is especially pertinent for those in caregiving professions, where pressure to meet others’ needs may lead to neglect of one’s own mental and physical health. And, as (Ojewole et al., 2017) notes, effective boundary setting involves clear communication coupled with self-advocacy, and these serve as essential tools for maintaining wholeness across various dimensions of life. Furthermore, (Hanson et al., 2020) emphasizes the importance of internal resilience strategies; without these healthy boundaries, the risk of emotional burnout increases, which ultimately undermines one’s ability to effectively support others.

 

C. Seeking professional help and therapy

For individuals wrestling with an overwhelming need to please, seeking professional therapeutic help is a crucial move. Therapy provides a secure environment to unpack why they feel compelled to constantly seek others’ approval, and examine the negative impact it has on their life. Through therapeutic methods, such as the narrative therapy used in programs like WISER, people are empowered to revise their own stories. This revision supports the growth of both a healthier sense of self and better relationships (Al-Khattab et al., 2019). Additionally, attending to one’s mental health through therapy is beneficial for not only immediate relief, but also can lessen the risks of enduring problems, for instance, vicarious trauma, which especially impacts those serving as caretakers, emphasizing the importance of pursuing assistance from trained professionals (Hanson et al., 2020). By valuing therapy, people are able to foster self-acceptance and build their resilience, leading to the end of people-pleasing behavior.

 

V. Conclusion

Ultimately, examining the connection between mental health and excessive people-pleasing offers crucial understandings about the psychological burden of consistently prioritizing the needs of others. Quite often, individuals turn to people-pleasing behaviors as a way to navigate potential conflict or fear of rejection, which can eventually result in harmful outcomes like anxiety, depression, and even burnout. This is particularly relevant in demanding fields – caregiving roles, for example – where individuals may experience a challenge balancing the needs of those under their care and their own well-being, as noted in (György Kadocsa et al.). The stigma experienced by those facing mental health challenges can intensify feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism, further perpetuating patterns of people-pleasing behavior. Studies on stigma, notably its effects on young people with conditions such as Tourette’s syndrome, emphasize the far-reaching societal obstacles that impede genuine self-expression and mental health progress. As discussed in (Forrester-Jones et al., 2015), there’s a pressing need for support and heightened awareness in order to overcome these damaging patterns.

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Forming boundaries and having support is key to building better self esteem and identity. Please also review AIHCP’s Behavioral Health Certifications

 

A. Recap of the relationship between mental health and people pleasing

The dynamic between mental well-being and people-pleasing tendencies carries considerable weight when considering individual health. Often, those who prioritize making others happy tend to place the needs and opinions of everyone else above their own, which can foster chronic anxiety alongside a diminished sense of self-esteem. This kind of self-neglect initiates a damaging pattern. In this pattern, mental health suffers as the individual experiences constant anxiety about rejection, which is only worsened when external pressures are high. For instance, collegiate athletes, facing performance pressures, might develop disordered eating, according to recent studies (Apsey et al., 2019). History also shows us this in interpersonal relationships. The loyalties and rituals during interregnum England show how expectations from the outside can drive people to act against what’s best for them in the name of social cohesion (McShane et al., 2010). Understanding this interplay is therefore really important for building better relationships with oneself and others, which ultimately improves mental health.

 

B. Importance of self-awareness and self-care

When thinking about mental health, and especially for those who tend to excessively try to please others, becoming more aware of yourself and taking good care of yourself are really important. These things help you become stronger and feel better overall. Knowing yourself lets you see what you’re doing, so you can tell when you actually want something versus when you just want others to like you. This wanting to be liked can be draining. Doing self-care, like setting limits and focusing on what you need, can help lessen the bad effects of always trying to accommodate everyone. Research suggests that women going through changes like menopause show how work and managing yourself affect mental health (Bariola E et al.). Moreover, healthcare workers deal with special stresses that can make burnout worse, which shows why doing self-care is so important for staying healthy in both mind and body (György Kadocsa et al.). So, really, working on knowing yourself and taking care of yourself isn’t just a good idea; it’s a must for keeping your mental health in good shape over time.

C. Encouragement for individuals to prioritize their mental health over pleasing others

It’s definitely important to think about mental health, especially when so much of society seems to push us toward constantly seeking approval. When people get stuck in a pattern of trying to please everyone else, they often end up neglecting their own needs, which can lead to more stress and anxiety. This seems especially true for certain groups where societal pressures make things even harder. Take, for example, the Strong Black Women archetype; cultural expectations can really get in the way of self-care, contributing to some serious stress-related health problems, as (Gaines et al., 2018) points out. Pastors and other leaders face similar struggles; the constant demands of their roles can take a toll on their mental health, highlighting how crucial self-care is when you’re dealing with so many external obligations, as emphasized in (Johnson et al., 2018). So, creating a supportive atmosphere where people feel empowered to prioritize themselves is key to turning things around and boosting overall mental well-being. It’s about recognizing that putting your own mental health first isn’t selfish – it’s essential.

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Body Dysmorphia.  Click here

Additional Resources

Moore, M. (2024). “The Psychology Behind People Pleasing”. PsychCentral. Access here

Guttman, J. (2019). “Beware: People-Pleasing Behaviors Can Backfire”. Psychology Today.  Access here

“People-Pleasing: What It Is and What To Do About”. (2025). Mental Tool Box.  Access here

 

Anxiety Disorders and Stress Management Video Blog

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Anxiety disorders can range from general to social.  Other types such as OCD or particular phobias can also emerge.  Anxiety in itself is merely either an exaggerated and lingering response to a stressor or an entirely uncaused emotional disturbance within that has one nervous or feeling impending doom for no reason.  Anxiety can cause severe problems for individuals both personally and socially.  Helping others with anxiety is key.  This video looks at anxiety but also how to help via stress management

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11 Ways Financial Wellness Impacts Healthcare Decision-Making

Posted on by Joseph Gerard

Written by Nadine,

Your knee gives out during a morning jog, and suddenly you’re weighing options: immediate care with a high out-of-pocket cost, or waiting weeks for a cheaper in-network visit. Sound familiar? 

That moment of hesitation is financial wellness in action. It doesn’t just shape spending: it silently rewrites your healthcare decisions in real time. From skipping preventive screenings to hesitating on long-term treatments, money talk echoes through every medical choice. 

Now imagine flipping the script. When individuals, caregivers, and even institutions are financially grounded, they unlock access to better options, stronger retention, and healthier outcomes. 

Read on to find out more.

  1. The Financial Filter: Why Every Health Decision Has a Price Tag

Every healthcare decision, no matter how clinical it appears, passes through a financial filter. Patients routinely delay checkups, skip prescriptions, or opt out of procedures due to out-of-pocket costs. 

On the provider side, budget constraints limit hiring, staff development, and adoption of evidence-based programs. Even at the community level, public health outreach depends on sustainable funding models.

When financial wellness falters, decision-making contracts. It becomes reactive instead of proactive. The implications stretch across access, quality, and long-term outcomes. Financial stress doesn’t just weigh on spreadsheets – it reshapes care.

  1. Capital Infrastructure Shapes Access to Care

Healthcare delivery depends on infrastructure:

  • Clinics
  • Mobile units
  • Wellness centers
  • Specialty offices

But these don’t materialize from goodwill. They require capital. Often, health institutions turn to long-term financial planning that includes leveraging real estate assets or financing new builds through strategic property investments.

Real estate can be more than a cost center. When strategically acquired and financed, property becomes a revenue stream or operational anchor. 

For example, medical providers who finance a rental property in a growth corridor can use that investment to support long-term expansion, while also improving access in underserved areas. Figuring out how to finance a rental property opens doors to building real assets that support wellness initiatives.

  1. Staff Retention Starts with Economic Stability

Healthcare burnout is no longer a fringe issue. Across hospitals, clinics, and behavioral health centers, professionals are walking out not just from stress but from roles that feel unsustainable. 

Nurses, medical assistants, therapists, and technicians are often asked to absorb growing patient loads with minimal increases in pay or support. When wages stall and workloads spike, even the most dedicated teams start to disengage.

But the real cost of instability runs deeper than a few empty positions. High turnover fractures team dynamics, disrupts patient trust, and forces institutions into constant hiring and retaining cycles that drain both time and resources. It chips away at the culture of care from the inside out.

Financial wellness within healthcare systems isn’t just about having a positive balance sheet – it’s about creating a foundation where people can thrive. 

That means stable compensation that reflects market demand, benefits packages that support mental and physical health, and professional development pipelines that keep careers moving forward. These investments send a message: you’re not just filling a slot, you’re part of a system that values sustainability: yours and the organization’s.

Clinics and hospitals with strong financial footing can stay competitive in the labor market without overextending. 

They’re the ones offering sign-on bonuses that stick, covering licensure fees, and building burnout buffers like sabbaticals or flexible scheduling. In a field where people are the infrastructure, it’s one no system can afford to overlook.

  1. Patients With Stable Finances Make Better Long-Term Health Choices

From nutrition to preventive care, stable personal finances often mean patients are empowered to make healthier choices. The ability to afford fresh food, join a fitness class, or visit a therapist without financial anxiety leads to better management of chronic conditions and lower hospital readmissions.

For instance, diabetes management improves drastically when patients can afford to monitor blood sugar regularly and access a support network. Heart health is easier to maintain when:

  • Walking shoes
  • Cooking lesson
  • Gym memberships
  • Blood pressure monitors
  • Meal prep services
  • Fitness trackers

Are within financial reach. While public health initiatives aim to close these gaps, much still hinges on a patient’s financial bandwidth.

  1. Organizational Investment Drives Program Innovation

Financially sound healthcare organizations are more likely to:

  • Experiment with population health strategies
  • Hire wellness coordinators
  • Implement tech-forward initiatives like remote monitoring or mobile clinics
  • Implement tech-forward initiatives like remote monitoring or mobile clinics
  • Offer sliding scale or subsidized services without compromising operations
  • Invest in community outreach and education programs
  • Pilot integrated care models that connect behavioral and physical health

Without a financial cushion, even proven programs can’t launch. That includes initiatives to combat opioid dependency, improve maternal health outcomes, or address social determinants of health like housing and food security. Financial wellness empowers healthcare systems to shift from reactive care to strategic innovation.

  1. Telehealth Depends on Digital Equity: and Financial Backing

While telehealth expanded rapidly during the pandemic, its sustainability depends on investments in digital equity. Clinics must fund robust platforms, train staff, and ensure cybersecurity. For patients, financial stability affects whether they can afford a high-speed connection, a private room, or even a functioning device.

Institutions with financial reserves are better equipped to scale digital health offerings. They can subsidize equipment, offer flexible payment options, or partner with community centers to create telehealth access points. These efforts depend on sound fiscal strategy and commitment to equity.

  1. Data-Driven Decision Making Requires Budget for Tools and Talent

Clinical intuition matters, but it’s no longer the sole compass guiding healthcare choices. Decisions are now expected to move at the speed of data, whether it’s:

  • Real-time patient monitoring
  • AI-assisted diagnostics
  • Predictive algorithms that flag high-risk individuals before symptoms escalate
  • Secure cloud-based platforms that enable remote access and collaboration
  • Interoperability systems that break down data silos between providers and payers
  • Training programs that upskill frontline staff to interpret and act on insights in real time

But the tech is only half the equation. You also need the analysts, data scientists, IT teams, and clinical staff trained to turn numbers into next steps.

Financially unstable organizations often delay or underfund these investments, defaulting to legacy systems that weren’t built for modern demands. That delay creates drag across the system:

  • Missed early interventions
  • Inefficient patient routing
  • Limited ability to respond dynamically to community health trends
  • Reduced staff confidence in decision-making tools
  • Delayed rollouts of population health initiatives

Worse, it limits transparency, making it harder to spot bottlenecks or inequities until they become crises.

Fiscally healthy systems can do more than just collect data: they can act on it. They’re equipped to expand services based on utilization trends, redirect staffing to reduce patient wait times, and even simulate “what if” scenarios to plan for seasonal spikes or pandemics. 

These aren’t luxuries. They’re competitive advantages that directly impact patient outcomes, staff workload, and operational cost.

  1. Emergency Preparedness Reflects Financial Readiness

Hospitals learned the hard way during COVID-19 that stockpiles and staffing plans are only part of preparedness. 

Financial flexibility determines whether an institution can:

  • Absorb supply chain disruptions
  • Adjust staffing models
  • Offer hazard pay
  • Secure emergency funding without delays
  • Invest in temporary infrastructure or mobile units
  • Expand telehealth access on short notice
  • Support staff mental health with real-time resources

Facilities with strong financial wellness have contingency plans that go beyond HR. They can pivot faster, communicate clearly, and maintain continuity in care when the system is under strain. Their stability becomes a lifeline for patients and a rallying point for staff.

  1. Mental Health Access Often Depends on Financial Leeway

Although conversations around mental health have become more mainstream, access is still constrained by cost. Many plans offer limited therapy visits or rely on out-of-network specialists. For patients living paycheck to paycheck, this makes treatment feel optional.

Financially empowered individuals are more likely to seek early intervention and continue with therapy. 

On the system side, clinics with secure funding can hire diverse providers, support school-based programs, and extend care into rural regions. Addressing mental health takes money and mission – a combination that can’t exist without strong financial foundations.

  1. Workforce Development is a Budget Line, Not an Afterthought

Upskilling the healthcare workforce takes time, planning, and financial commitment. Whether it’s certifying nurse practitioners, retraining support staff, or offering CEUs in integrative health, these investments build the future workforce.

Organizations that treat training as a luxury tend to lag. Those with a solid financial strategy treat development as core infrastructure. They:

  • Partner with universities
  • Fund mentorship pipelines
  • Pay for cross-functional learning
  • Build internal training academies that scale with growth
  • Tie performance reviews to development milestones
  • Provide protected time for professional learning
  • Reward certifications and advanced skill-building with promotions or bonuses

These systems attract talent, promote innovation, and deliver better care.

  1. Community Partnerships Rely on Shared Financial Vision

Public-private partnerships are essential in modern care delivery. From housing-first initiatives to trauma-informed school clinics, the strongest collaborations form between financially stable institutions with aligned missions.

When both partners have financial clarity and mutual trust, the outcomes scale. When one side is operating in survival mode, the collaboration often collapses under logistical strain. Financial wellness isn’t just a budgeting metric: it’s a tool for sustaining alliances that reach beyond clinical walls.

Financial Health is a Clinical Asset

The line between fiscal wellness and health outcomes is thinner than many assume. Patients make more empowered choices when they feel financially secure. Providers deliver better care when they aren’t operating under threat of cutbacks. Institutions make bolder, more impactful decisions when their books are balanced and their long-term assets support the mission.

From investment property strategies that support long-term expansion to data tools that guide preventative interventions, the health of the wallet and the health of the body are connected. Healthcare professionals, executives, and educators who understand this intersection will be better equipped to lead systems where financial and physical wellness evolve together.

 

Author BIO: Nadine is a health coach and writer who helps her clients achieve phenomenal and sustainable results by combining nutrition, fitness and fun! She believes primarily in living a happy life, and that the backbone of any lifestyle is that it must be sustainable and enjoyable.

 

 

Please also review AIHCP’s Health Care Manager Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  These programs are online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification

Grief Counseling and Body Dysmorphic Disorder

Posted on by Mark Moran

 

I. Introduction

Grief counseling and its intersection with psychological disorders such as Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) present an intricate landscape for understanding mental health treatment. Grief is a universal experience, often accompanied by profound emotional and psychological consequences, particularly when coupled with disorders that distort self-image. Individuals suffering from BDD frequently grapple with an intense preoccupation with perceived flaws in their appearance, which can be exacerbated by grief stemming from any significant loss. Such losses may heighten feelings of inadequacy or shame, leading to further emotional distress and impaired functioning. The lack of recognition and treatment for these multifaceted connections is concerning, especially considering that eating disorders, prevalent in broader populations, remain under-recognized in individuals with higher weight and specific disorders like BDD (Angelique F Ralph et al., 2022). Moreover, continual research indicates that grief can significantly alter cognitive functioning, akin to the processes seen in chronic mental health conditions (Heyat MBB et al., 2024). Understanding this interplay is crucial for developing effective therapeutic interventions.

Many individuals suffer from a low self image that can result in unreal self perceptions of oneself. Body Dysmorphia is an example when a person loses touch and reality with one’s true physical appearance
Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification.  Please click here

 

A. Definition of Grief Counseling

Grief counseling is a specialized form of psychological support aimed at individuals grappling with loss, whether through death, separation, or significant life changes. This counseling seeks to facilitate the grieving process, promoting emotional healing and fostering coping strategies to help individuals navigate their pain. Central to grief counseling is the understanding that grief is a highly individualized experience, influenced by personal, cultural, and social factors. Techniques often employed include empathetic listening, validating feelings, and encouraging clients to express their emotions openly. As indicated in related research, methods that address body image concerns during grief can significantly enhance the therapeutic relationship, illustrating the complex interplay between emotional distress and self-perception in individuals facing body dysmorphic disorder. By recognizing these nuances, grief counselors can offer tailored support that acknowledges both grief and body image issues, ultimately improving the efficacy of therapeutic interventions (Dave et al., 2023), (Ali et al., 2023).

 

B. Overview of Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)

Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is a debilitating mental health condition characterized by an extreme preoccupation with perceived flaws in ones appearance, which are often nonexistent or markedly exaggerated. Those suffering from BDD can experience significant distress, social avoidance, and impaired functioning in daily life, highlighting the critical need for effective interventions. Research indicates that BDD is frequently comorbid with other mental health disorders, including anxiety and depression, complicating treatment approaches and underscoring its complexity within the broader spectrum of psychological conditions (Stutterheim et al., 2024). Additionally, the experience of grief—whether stemming from a loss or a significant life change—can intensify the symptoms of BDD, creating a cyclic pattern that further entrenches the individuals negative self-image (Cummings et al., 2020). Understanding these interconnections is imperative for developing targeted grief counseling strategies that address both the emotional and psychological ramifications of BDD.

 

C. Importance of exploring the intersection between grief and BDD

The exploration of the intersection between grief and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is essential for enhancing therapeutic practices and understanding the psychosocial complexities involved in both conditions. Grief often manifests in various forms, significantly influencing an individuals self-perception and relationship with their body. For those suffering from BDD, this interplay can exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and isolation, triggering an intricate cycle of despair and distorted self-image. Understanding this intersection through a critical lens is vital, as it reveals how grief can amplify BDD symptoms, ultimately necessitating an empathetic and nuanced approach in grief counseling. Feminist theoretical frameworks enhance this discourse by illuminating the societal pressures that contribute to body image dissatisfaction, as noted in the empirical study that highlights the intertwined nature of social relations and bodily experiences during times of crisis (Feather E, 2024). Additionally, considering the profound influence of cultural narratives in literature can provide valuable insights into these dynamics, underscoring the need for an interdisciplinary approach (Jacques W, 2020).

 

II. Understanding Grief and Its Impact

Grief is a complex emotional response that can have profound effects on individuals, especially in the context of body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). The experience of loss can trigger or amplify existing insecurities about ones appearance, leading to heightened anxiety and distress. As individuals grapple with their grief, they may develop maladaptive coping mechanisms, such as obsessively focusing on perceived flaws, which can exacerbate BDD symptoms. This interplay suggests that grief counseling must be tailored to address these unique challenges. Incorporating techniques such as mindfulness and education about body image can offer clients valuable support during their grieving process. Moreover, counselors themselves may face body image concerns when working with clients struggling with BDD, affecting their therapeutic presence and effectiveness (Ali et al., 2023). Thus, understanding the emotional nuances of grief and its impact on body image can enhance the efficacy of grief counseling as a pivotal intervention (Dave et al., 2023).

Shaming and trauma can cause low self esteem regarding one’s self image.

 

A. Stages of Grief according to Kübler-Ross

In understanding the intricate relationship between grief counseling and body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), the stages of grief formulated by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross provide a valuable framework. Originally identified in the context of terminal illness, Kübler-Rosss model outlines five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Individuals with BDD often experience profound grief over their perceived flaws and societal standards of beauty, which can lead to intense emotional turmoil similar to that found in bereavement. For instance, the denial stage might manifest as an unwillingness to acknowledge the severity of their condition, while anger may arise from feelings of isolation and frustration with societal expectations. Depression may be particularly pronounced, echoing themes from recent qualitative studies that highlight emotional suffering and identity transformation as pivotal to the experience of distress in depression (Pilkington et al.). Integrating these stages into therapeutic practices can enhance understanding and treatment outcomes, contributing to more effective grief counseling models for this unique population (Dumper et al., 2014).

 

B. Emotional and psychological effects of grief

The emotional and psychological effects of grief are profound, often manifesting in various maladaptive behaviors that can complicate recovery and healing. Individuals grappling with loss may experience heightened anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, which can be especially pronounced in those with body image issues, such as Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD). Research indicates that women, particularly those with trauma histories, frequently use numbing behaviors—including substance abuse or self-injury—as coping mechanisms during their grieving process (Franco et al., 2015). This interplay between grief and distorted body image can further exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and isolation. Moreover, the therapeutic relationship plays a crucial role in addressing these intertwined issues; counselors who are conscious of their own body image concerns may find that these influences affect their efficacy in supporting grieving clients (Ali et al., 2023). Thus, a comprehensive understanding of these emotional responses is critical for effective grief counseling, especially in those struggling with BDD.

 

C. The role of grief in mental health disorders

Grief is a multifaceted emotional response that can significantly influence mental health disorders, including Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD). Individuals experiencing BDD often grapple with a distorted self-image and obsessive concerns about perceived flaws in their appearance, which can be exacerbated by unresolved grief. This sorrow may stem from a variety of losses, including the death of a loved one, a lost relationship, or unmet expectations, manifesting as profound emotional distress (Dave et al., 2023). The interplay between grief and BDD necessitates comprehensive grief counseling, which addresses underlying emotional pain while promoting healthier coping mechanisms and self-acceptance. Furthermore, the efficacy of therapies such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) has shown promise in alleviating both grief and its psychological impacts, suggesting that specialized training in these therapeutic approaches can enhance practitioners ability to navigate the complexities of grief within the context of BDD (Farrell et al., 2013).

 

III. Body Dysmorphic Disorder: An Overview

The intricate relationship between grief and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) underscores the multifaceted challenges faced by individuals experiencing this condition. BDD manifests as an obsessive focus on perceived physical flaws, often leading to significant distress and impairment in daily functioning. For many, grief stemming from loss—whether of a loved one, a relationship, or even an idealized self—can exacerbate the symptoms of BDD, creating a cycle where emotional pain and distorted body image intertwine. This can be particularly evident among those with trauma histories, where grief may trigger maladaptive coping mechanisms, including self-harm and substance use, as indicated by the challenges faced by women in forensic settings (Franco et al., 2015). Understanding the context of grief in BDD can aid mental health providers in tailoring therapeutic interventions, enhancing the overall efficacy of grief counseling and addressing the emotional underpinnings of body image issues (Dave et al., 2023).

BDD can distort what one sees in the mirror. Grief Counseling, CBT, Rogerian therapies and other holistic therapies can help individuals restore self image

 

A. Symptoms and diagnostic criteria for BDD

Understanding the symptoms and diagnostic criteria for Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is integral to effectively addressing this often debilitating condition within the context of grief counseling. BDD is characterized by an excessive preoccupation with perceived flaws in one’s appearance, which are typically unnoticeable to others. Individuals may engage in compulsive behaviors, such as excessive grooming or seeking reassurance, as a means to alleviate their distress. One can also display disgust or shame towards one body and look to change or manipulate it in extreme cases.The diagnostic criteria, as outlined in the DSM-5, require the presence of such obsessions and compulsions, alongside significant impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. Furthermore, the cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) approach has shown promise in treating BDD by restructuring distorted beliefs related to body image (N/A, 2021). Moreover, integrating grief counseling techniques can provide valuable support for those who may be grappling with the emotional losses associated with their disorder, ultimately fostering a sense of healing and recovery (Cummings et al., 2020).

 

B. Causes and risk factors associated with BDD

To truly tackle Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), we need a firm grasp on its origins and what puts people at risk; it’s a complex dance between mental well-being and societal expectations. Studies suggest BDD typically springs from a mix of genes, life circumstances, and one’s own mind. Those who’ve endured trauma, specifically intimate partner violence or sexual abuse, bullying, shaming, and intense teasing seem more likely to develop BDD, if we consider actions seen in women within forensic systems that may utilize self-injury and substance abuse as harmful coping mechanisms (Franco et al., 2015). Furthermore, beauty ideals promoted by society and the constant stream of images from media can amplify feelings of worthlessness about one’s looks, sparking constant comparisons and skewed views of oneself. Given these varied roots, a well-rounded counseling strategy is key, one that considers both personal stories and the bigger picture of society (Mann et al., 2010). By acknowledging these factors, counselors are better equipped to help those struggling with BDD as they heal.

Others who suffer from perfectionism, or become obsessed through compulsion can fall victim to BDD.

 

C. The impact of BDD on daily functioning and relationships

Body Dysmorphic Disorder, or BDD, can really throw a wrench into daily life and relationships, mainly because folks get hung up on what they see as flaws in how they look. This preoccupation? It can bring about a whole host of bad stuff, like pulling away from friends, slipping at work or school, and feeling super anxious just trying to get through the day. It makes it tough to connect with people, since they might dodge social events or just clam up, which only makes them feel more alone and bummed out.  In addition to isolation, individuals can suffer from depression and in some cases suicidal ideation.   This can also lead to eating disorders or substance abuse.  Now, counselors who are helping people with BDD, or other body image stuff, often run into their own snags. Their job experiences can mess with how they see their *own* bodies and how well they connect with clients. So, we really need to focus on teaching and supervising folks about body image problems; it’s key to helping clients navigate BDD (Ali et al., 2023). As research kinda shows, getting a handle on this not only helps the client, but it also makes grief counseling for BDD way more effective (Mann et al., 2010).

 

IV. The Role of Grief Counseling in Treating BDD

Grief counseling and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) can be a surprisingly helpful combination. This is especially true when considering the deep emotional pain related to body image problems. Often, people with BDD feel a sense of loss concerning how they wish they looked. This can come across as sadness over perceived flaws. Since grief counseling is all about helping people deal with loss, it offers vital support, assisting patients through feelings of inadequacy and isolation. Through cognitive-behavioral methods, professionals can assist individuals in rethinking negative thoughts and building a more positive self-image. As noted in (N/A, 2021), integrating cognitive therapy can boost the impact of grief counseling, leading to a more comprehensive treatment. Such a method considers both the psychological side of BDD and the emotional grief involved, paving the way for healing and greater self-acceptance; generally speaking, this is a good approach.

Grief Counselors can help restore self image, confidence and healing for those suffering from BDD

 

A. Techniques used in grief counseling that can benefit BDD patients

Dealing with grief can be especially helpful for those struggling with Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), given their often intense feelings of loss around how they see themselves and how accepted they feel socially. Expressive therapies, think painting or even making music, are a really good way to help, letting people show how they feel and sort through their sadness about what society says is beautiful and if they feel okay about themselves. And, it’s worth noting, recent studies have shown that things like mindfulness and relaxation can play a big role; they help BDD patients be kinder to their bodies, which can ease some of the worry they have about what they see as flaws (Dave et al., 2023). It is also of value that counselors who understand their own body image can build a stronger connection with patients, and research does point to how much a counselor’s own view of their body can affect how well treatment goes (Ali et al., 2023). All of this really underlines how important it is to be both understanding and see the whole picture when offering grief support, guiding folks toward a healthier self-image and better mental health.

Rogerian therapies can also be very powerful in helping those with BDD.  Empathetic listening and care can go a long way in showing the person compassion but also allow the person to express many of the things that do not correlate with reality.  Utilizing the empty chair to speak to past abusers, or even as a mirror to speak to oneself can be strong emotional therapies to tap into the deep seeded issues that malign one’s self image.

 

B. The importance of addressing underlying grief in BDD treatment

Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) treatment often overlooks grief, which is a shame, since individuals with BDD frequently struggle with significant feelings of loss concerning their self-image and who they think they are. You see, these feelings might arise from past traumas, like social rejection or even bullying, events which can foster a lasting sense of inadequacy. It’s essential to address these underlying grief experiences, mainly because they can show up as maladaptive coping mechanisms. These mechanisms? Things like self-injurious behaviors or even substance abuse. It’s worth nothing that this lines up with the numbing effects highlighted in studies concerning trauma histories across different populations (Franco et al., 2015). Grief counseling incorporated into BDD treatment not only helps in processing those losses but also, and importantly, it encourages healthier emotional expression. This, in turn, could reduce the intensity of BDD symptoms. (Darin et al., 2014). In most cases, a treatment approach that acknowledges and addresses grief leads to more sustainable therapeutic outcomes for individuals with BDD.

 

C. Case studies highlighting successful integration of grief counseling in BDD therapy

It’s been observed that incorporating grief counseling into body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) therapy can be quite beneficial, especially when focusing on the emotional underpinnings, as highlighted in various case studies. For example, those with BDD frequently grapple with intense grief connected to their body image, sometimes rooted in past trauma or experiences of social rejection. Therapists, by using grief counseling strategies, can develop a more complete therapeutic approach. This lets patients delve into feelings of loss while, at the same time, confronting skewed views of themselves. Studies suggest that clinicians trained to blend these therapies well tend to see better results, a conclusion that echoes research supporting integrated therapeutic models (Farrell et al., 2013). Furthermore, within populations marked by complex trauma histories, like incarcerated women, specialized grief counseling may help lessen negative coping mechanisms. This, in turn, encourages better emotional health and the development of resilience (Franco et al., 2015). Overall, this approach really emphasizes how important grief counseling can be as part of a good BDD treatment plan.

 

V. Conclusion

Ultimately, the complex dance between grief counseling and body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) merits further study, since both exist within the psychological realm. Those experiencing grief may frequently confront significant shifts in how they see themselves and their bodies, which, in most cases, may worsen BDD symptoms. Mental health pros should therefore adopt a comprehensive method, one that tackles both the expressions of grief *and* the related body image troubles. As (Dave et al., 2023) points out, using conversational models such as ChatGPT within therapy settings might increase access to support, all while respecting the nuanced experiences of each individual. Moreover, (Ali et al., 2023) notes that grasping a counselor’s *own* body image concerns is vital in developing helpful therapeutic bonds. By spotting these linked aspects, practitioners may generally improve treatment results, pointing clients toward better coping mechanisms and more favorable self-perceptions.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification for qualified professionals.  Obviously when dealing with BDD, a grief counselor must also be a licensed mental health professional to properly aid someone within the scope of practice.  For those who are, grief counseling can help individuals grieve and express emotions and better repair self image and self esteem through caring practice.
Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

A. Summary of key points discussed

When we consider grief counseling alongside Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), some important considerations surface. Grief’s complications, frequently mixed with body image problems, demand a thoughtful counseling strategy. This strategy needs to understand the psychological trauma that can come from society’s appearance ideals. Counselors, generally speaking, should be conscious of their own body image worries. These worries might affect how they work with BDD clients, impacting therapy effectiveness (Ali et al., 2023). We should also consider the distinctive traumas women experience, especially those who’ve faced violence. It’s important to tackle numbing behaviors tied to unresolved grief (Franco et al., 2015). By integrating these ideas, we gain a fuller individual understanding. This understanding then encourages healing and resilience through customized therapy.

 

B. The significance of a holistic approach in mental health treatment

A holistic approach, when brought into mental health, is vital for really getting at conditions that are, well, complex. Think body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), and the grief that tags along a lot of the time. This way of doing things acknowledges how emotions, the mind, and social stuff all connect, which helps everyone get a fuller picture of what a patient is going through. As an example, counselors dealing with body image issues have to be super aware of how their own thoughts affect the relationships they have with patients, as (Ali et al., 2023) points out. Also, people who’ve been through trauma—like those in the forensic system—often show behaviors where they kind of shut down, and this is because of what they’ve experienced before, which can make therapy really tough. This means we need strategies tailored just for them ((Franco et al., 2015)). When we look at all these different angles, a holistic approach doesn’t just get clients more involved; it also makes it more likely that they’ll find real, lasting recovery from grief and body dysmorphic disorder.

I would hence suggest a combination of care strategies from EMDR, CBT and Rogerian techniques to help the person express the pain, meet it, and reframe it.

 

C. Future directions for research and practice in grief counseling and BDD

With growing awareness of the connections between grief counseling and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), it’s important for future work to create combined treatment methods. Grief, appearing in different ways, can change how people see their bodies and worsen or start BDD issues. As studies show with depression’s many causes (Heyat MBB et al., 2024), a mix of psychological, neurological, and social factors is needed. These methods could give a better understanding of the difficult feelings felt by people dealing with both grief and BDD. Also, we need to better recognize and treat the specific issues faced by higher-weight individuals with eating disorders, particularly about body image and grief (Angelique F Ralph et al., 2022). Mental health pros can offer all-around support to more effectively handle these issues together, leading to better results for those affected. Generally speaking, this all helps to improve outcomes.

Additional Blogs on Grief Counseling

Grief and Autism.  Click here

Additional Resources

Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Mayo Clinic. Access here

Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Cleveland Clinic. Access here

Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Psychology Today Staff.  Psychology Today.  Access here

Burtka, A. (2024). “What Is Body Dysmorphia?”. WebMD. Access here

 

Dating a Narcissist and Emotional Help Video

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While the term is overused, clinically narcissism does exist and many individuals do fall into relationships with them.  It can be overbearing and abusive and counseling sometimes is required and needed to help a person maintain the relationship or recover from it.  Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification as well as other mental health certification programs.  Please click here

Toxic Positivity and Grief

Posted on by Mark Moran

 

I. Introduction

In contemporary discourse surrounding emotional well-being, the phenomenon of toxic positivity has emerged as a significant barrier to authentic expressions of grief. This pervasive mindset emphasizes the importance of maintaining a positive outlook, often at the expense of acknowledging genuine feelings of sadness, loss, and despair. The implications of toxic positivity can be particularly detrimental, as it marginalizes those who are grieving, pressuring them to suppress their emotions in favor of an unrealistic standard of happiness. Without recognition of sorrow as a natural response to loss, individuals risk further alienation and psychological distress. The delicate balance between fostering joy and validating grief is crucial for healthy emotional processing, as highlighted by the need to create safe spaces for healing. In this context, it becomes essential to challenge cultural narratives that prioritize cheerfulness over the complex realities of human emotion, which is essential for communal support and personal resilience (Leu et al., 2018), (White et al., 2020).

In grief, you do not need to pretend everything is OK, in fact you should grieve and express your emotions.
When toxic positivity is forced on individuals who are acutely grieving a loss, it can numerous negative effects which we will explore.  Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Training Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified mental health professionals.

 

A. Definition of toxic positivity

Toxic positivity is a pervasive cultural phenomenon characterized by an overwhelming insistence on maintaining a positive outlook, to the detriment of genuine emotional expression. It manifests when individuals dismiss or invalidate emotions such as grief, anger, or sadness, often in an effort to promote a façade of relentless optimism. This approach can lead to a suppression of authentic experiences, causing individuals to feel isolated in their struggles. By prioritizing a bright side mentality, one may inadvertently contribute to a cycle of emotional distress, as the real feelings surrounding loss are unacknowledged. For example, while cathartic writing has historically served as a therapeutic outlet for grappling with grief and anxiety, toxic positivity may undermine its effectiveness by overshadowing the complexities of these emotions and promoting superficial coping strategies instead (Brown et al., 2022), (White et al., 2020). Understanding toxic positivity is essential for fostering a healthy dialogue around grief and the myriad emotions that accompany it.

 

B. Overview of grief as a natural response to loss

Grief is an inherent human response to loss, encompassing a spectrum of emotions that reflect the magnitude of the relationships and experiences we cherish. This emotional turmoil can manifest in a variety of responses, including sadness, anger, and confusion, which are essential for processing the impact of loss. The societal tendency toward toxic positivity often discourages individuals from fully experiencing their grief, promoting a superficial acceptance of feelings that does not align with their lived reality. As illustrated in Mourning Wave, a project commemorating collective grief, the interplay between personal loss and environmental concerns highlights how both individual and communal grief can serve as transformative experiences. Rituals and altars, as integral aspects of mourning, provide opportunities for authentic expression, facilitating discussions about loss that encompass not only personal sorrow but also broader societal issues ((White et al., 2020); (Stewart et al., 2015)). Understanding grief as a natural response is crucial in fostering environments that allow for genuine emotional expression and healing.

 

C. Importance of addressing the intersection of toxic positivity and grief

Exploring the intricate relationship between toxic positivity and grief is vital in fostering a healthier dialogue surrounding mourning practices. Toxic positivity, which demands an unwavering optimism even in the face of profound loss, often exacerbates an individuals sense of isolation and invalidates their emotional experiences. This phenomenon aligns with contemporary critiques of grief narratives, highlighting the dangers of dismissing authentic feelings in favor of superficial positivity. The historical context provided by the Death Positive movement, rooted in Victorian attitudes towards mourning, underscores the significance of bringing intimacy back into collective grief responses, challenging the commercialization and institutionalization of death (Reagan et al., 2023). Furthermore, understanding how mainstream narratives often prioritize certain victimhood constructs—overwhelmingly white and innocuous—can illuminate the systemic issues at play in both toxic positivity and grief. By addressing these intersections, we may cultivate a more inclusive and empathetic space for processing loss (White et al., 2020).

 

II. Understanding Grief

The complexities of grief are often underscored by cultural narratives that demand a sense of positivity in the face of loss, leading to what is termed toxic positivity. This phenomenon can obscure the authentic emotional responses individuals experience, hindering the natural progression through grief. Research has shown that the bereaved often navigate similar emotional landscapes whether mourning real individuals or fictitious characters, highlighting a shared human experience of loss ((Jansen et al., 2023)). Moreover, the concept of relational savoring offers insight into how individuals process these emotions, suggesting that positive memories connected to lost relationships can act as a protective mechanism against the psychological distress of grief ((Basic et al., 2024)). Understanding these dynamics reveals that while society may pressure individuals to remain positive, acknowledging and embracing the full spectrum of grief is essential for healing and authenticity, allowing for a more genuine connection to both personal and collective experiences of loss.

Grief cannot be cheated. Grief work is necessary and toxic positivity denies this basic part of healing

 

A. Stages of grief according to Kübler-Ross

The stages of grief articulated by Kübler-Ross serve as a fundamental framework for understanding the emotional responses encountered during loss, which are often overshadowed by toxic positivity. According to Kübler-Ross, individuals typically navigate through five distinct stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Each stage encapsulates unique emotional experiences that validate the complexities of grief, exacerbated when societal norms pressure individuals to adopt a façade of positivity. For instance, empirical investigations reveal that responses to grief are not only applicable to real-life scenarios but also resonate within narrative-driven media, underscoring the emotional investment in fictitious character deaths (Jansen et al., 2023). Furthermore, the intersection of grief and environmental concerns illustrates how collective mourning can be manifested through rituals, emphasizing the need for authentic engagement with feelings rather than immediate resolutions (Stewart et al., 2015). Recognizing these stages as integral to the grieving process can mitigate the adverse effects of toxic positivity on mental health.

 

B. Emotional and physical manifestations of grief

Grief manifests in a multitude of emotional and physical ways, reflecting the profound impact of loss on an individual’s psyche and body. Emotionally, individuals may experience a devastating array of feelings, including sadness, anger, and guilt, which can lead to further isolation in the face of toxic positivity. Such societal pressures to maintain an outwardly positive demeanor often dismiss the legitimate struggles associated with grief, complicating the healing process. Physically, grief can express itself through symptoms like fatigue, insomnia, and even chronic pain, highlighting the interconnectedness of emotional and physical health. As the boundaries of conventional mourning practices shift, innovative therapeutic tools, such as those proposed in the LifeWrite initiative, may serve to bridge these gaps. By creating new rituals and digital spaces for remembrance, we can better facilitate authentic expressions of grief, allowing for a comprehensive understanding of the grieving experience (Drinan et al., 2016), (Drinan et al., 2016).

 

C. Cultural differences in grieving processes

Grieving processes are profoundly shaped by cultural contexts, influencing how individuals express sorrow and cope with loss. For instance, Western cultures often promote the notion of moving on quickly from grief, which can inadvertently foster toxic positivity and discourage individuals from fully experiencing their emotions. In contrast, many Indigenous cultures embrace a more holistic approach to grief, recognizing it as a communal experience that necessitates deep emotional engagement and expression, often tied to cultural and spiritual practices. This understanding highlights the diversity of grieving processes, as seen in the responses of Indigenous peoples to trauma stemming from historical injustices, where connection to culture and spirituality enhance emotional resilience (Fast E et al., 2020). Furthermore, contemporary discussions about eco-anxiety reveal how grief can manifest in various emotional states, such as anger and despair, indicating that acknowledging and validating these feelings is crucial for healing (Pihkala P, 2020). Thus, recognizing cultural differences in grief is essential for promoting genuine emotional support.

 

III. The Concept of Toxic Positivity

In exploring the interplay between toxic positivity and grief, it becomes evident that the pressure to adopt a relentlessly positive mindset can severely inhibit authentic emotional processing. By promoting an unrealistic expectation that individuals should maintain an uplifting demeanor, toxic positivity dismisses the complexity of grief, thereby denying people the essential space to navigate their painful experiences. This phenomenon becomes particularly apparent in the context of grieving parents who have lost an adult child to a drug overdose, where overwhelming emotions such as anger and despair are often overshadowed by societal pressures to “stay positive” (Brun D et al., 2019). Moreover, the emotional expression of children affected by trauma, such as those from war zones, reflects similar challenges, indicating that the journey through grief requires an acknowledgment of pain alongside the potential for hope (Zhou et al., 2024). Thus, recognizing and validating these emotions is crucial for fostering genuine healing and resilience.

Toxic positivity takes light the pain and emotion that needs expressed with twists to pretend it is not that bad or that someone needs to move on faster than one should

 

A. Definition and examples of toxic positivity

Toxic positivity can be defined as the pervasive belief that individuals should maintain a positive mindset, regardless of their circumstances, particularly during times of grief or hardship. This paradigm often manifests through societal pressures to suppress negative emotions, leading to the invalidation of genuine feelings of sorrow or distress. For instance, phrases like “just think positive” or “everything happens for a reason” can overlook the complexities of grief, prompting individuals to feel ashamed or guilty about their authentic emotional experiences. During the COVID-19 pandemic, positivity imperatives intensified, encouraging individuals, especially women, to embody an unwavering optimism despite overwhelming challenges. Such pressures serve to divert attention from structural inequalities and personal struggles, reinforcing a neoliberal narrative that emphasizes individual resilience over collective healing (Gill et al., 2021). In this context, the promotion of positivity can inhibit meaningful expressions of grief, ultimately hindering emotional processing and recovery (Brown et al., 2022).

 

B. Psychological impacts of toxic positivity on individuals

For those grappling with grief, toxic positivity can have significant, often negative, psychological effects. Although positive affirmations can sometimes be a helpful way to cope, constantly pushing for a positive mindset when someone is grieving can actually make them feel guilty and alone. Instead of dealing with their sadness or anger, people might try to force themselves to be positive, which can get in the way of truly processing their loss. Think of grieving parents, for example; they might feel like they’re on a lonely island because society expects them to be strong and happy (Brun D et al., 2019). On the other hand, there’s something called relational savoring, which is about focusing on happy memories of the people we’ve lost. This can actually help protect us from psychological distress. Practices like these could help people feel more secure and allow them to grieve while still cherishing the memories they have (Basic et al., 2024). Ultimately, these points highlight just how important it is to understand all the different ways people express their emotions when they’re grieving.

 

C. The role of social media in promoting toxic positivity

Social media? It’s practically a pipeline for pushing toxic positivity, especially when we’re talking about grief. The pressure to be relentlessly upbeat can really drown out genuine sorrow. Because everything moves so fast online, we mostly see these highlight reels of strength and resilience. And that often pushes people to downplay their real pain and sadness. Instead of opening up real talks about grief, this can leave people feeling totally alone, like they’re breaking some rule by *not* being positive. And honestly, putting on that happy face can mess with the whole grieving thing, not giving people the room they need to work through their complicated feelings. Research (Brun D et al., 2019), (Patnaik et al., 2022) shows grieving is way more complex than you’d guess from the internet, and toxic positivity online? It’s not helping anyone heal or feel better, generally speaking.

In addition, numerous individuals look to push positive outlooks and bully grievers into accepting different outlooks or denying grievers the right to grieve.  They put timetables on tears, or push for certain dates that only happiness is permitted after a loss.  These types of grief bullies can cause more damage to the bereaved in preventing the natural expression of emotion and also shaming them to express the important feelings that need expressed.

 

IV. The Effects of Toxic Positivity on Grieving Individuals

Grief, at its core, is a tangled web of emotions, a process that sometimes gets more complicated thanks to what we call “toxic positivity.” This is when there’s an unspoken rule that everyone should always be upbeat, no matter what. When people are grieving, they might feel like they *have* to hide their real feelings—the sadness, the anger, the feelings of hopelessness—and put on a happy face instead. But this can really mess with their ability to heal. When you can’t be honest about how you feel, grief becomes a lonely journey, one where you don’t feel seen or supported, and that can drag out the pain. What’s more, toxic positivity can make us miss the good that can come out of grief, much like eco-anxiety, where feeling despair and guilt can push us to do something positive (Pihkala P, 2020). If we ignore all the different feelings that come with grief, even well-meaning folks might shut down important conversations, so we have to build spaces where people can show their true colors (Golovianko M et al., 2023).

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A. Dismissal of genuine emotions and experiences

When we look at toxic positivity, one big problem is how it ignores real feelings and what people go through, especially when they’re grieving. Pushing everyone to always be positive doesn’t just make sorrow seem less important, it also makes people feel like their own experiences don’t matter. People might start to feel really alone and annoyed when others tell them to just think happy thoughts or look for the good side. This can happen in different cultures. Studies show that when people feel less human and can’t express their emotions, they might look for other ways to heal, like in Native communities (Steinmeyer et al., 2020). Avoiding painful emotions can also make it harder to deal with hard times. So, it’s important to talk about grief openly, so people know their feelings are okay and that they matter (Rada et al., 2023).

 

B. Increased feelings of isolation and shame

It’s especially heartbreaking how toxic positivity amplifies feelings of isolation and shame, especially when people are grieving. There’s this pressure from society to always seem emotionally strong, and it can really disconnect you from what you’re actually feeling. So, people kind of bury their grief to fit in with what’s expected of them, right? This can make you feel even more alone because you might think showing your sadness is like, a weakness, or that you’re bringing other people down. Take healthcare workers dealing with burnout, for example. They’re not just tired; they also feel ashamed when they can’t keep up with how competent they’re *supposed* to be, so they don’t ask for help ((S Watkins et al., 2021)). And you see something similar with women getting HPV tests. They often feel anxious and isolated because of all the pressure to be healthy, which just shows how much unnecessary shame can mess with your head ((C Liverani et al., 2018)). In most cases, these situations demonstrate how toxic positivity gets in the way of showing real emotions, which, generally speaking, makes the loneliness even worse when you’re grieving.

 

C. Hindrance to the healing process and emotional recovery

Toxic positivity, pushing relentless happiness, often throws a wrench into both healing and emotional recovery, particularly when grieving. Insisting on a happy face can bottle up real feelings, making people feel alone in their sadness. When society tells us to “look on the bright side,” it kind of dismisses the complicated nature of grief, which really needs acknowledging and accepting all those painful emotions. Sometimes, cultural stories that equate being vulnerable with being weak make it even harder to ask for help. Discussions about how cultures work constantly challenge those simple stories, underlining that we need a more thoughtful understanding of emotional recovery, as we see in [extractedKnowledge33]. The end result of this toxic positivity? It gets in the way of the real connections that help us heal, potentially dragging out the pain of grief (Krasny E, 2023), (Krasny E, 2023).

 

V. Conclusion

To summarize, comprehending the intricate relationship between toxic positivity and grief underscores the importance of a detailed awareness of emotional reactions to loss. Constant positivity can diminish the intense pain felt during bereavement, particularly following tragic events like losing a child to a drug overdose. Navigating this challenging emotional space demands that health professionals offer sensitive, empathetic care to those grieving, as conventional support methods might prove inadequate. Studies suggest using models such as the Kawa model can better understand the experiences of grieving parents ((Brun D et al., 2019)). Furthermore, grief isn’t limited to actual events; even the death of fictional characters can stir strong emotional reactions akin to those from real-world losses ((Jansen et al., 2023)). As our society continues to face issues surrounding loss and mourning, we must tackle the problems created by toxic positivity to encourage healthier emotional atmospheres.

Never allow someone to dismiss your grief. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Program
Please also remember to review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Program.  Grief Counselors can play a key role in helping individuals acknowledge and experience their feelings.  Grief Counselors can help individuals put in the grief work necessary and dismiss the pressure of toxic positivity outside the counseling room.  They can help the bereaved understand that is OK to grieve and experience emotions and not feel happy for a time being.  They can even help the bereaved understand that no twist on the situation can repair the loss.  The loss is not curable but it is adaptable with the proper attitude towards the grieving process and healing.

 

A. Summary of key points discussed

When we consider how toxic positivity interacts with grief, we find some important things that show how bad it is to ignore real emotions. First of all, toxic positivity kind of acts like a roadblock, pushing people to hide their grief and pretend to be happy. But this can leave emotional pain unresolved. This is made worse when society encourages cheerfulness and discourages showing any vulnerability. Also, when we start treating these overly positive sayings as normal, it can make those who are grieving feel like they’re all alone in their sadness. Studies have shown that people who show certain characteristics, like Conduct Reconstrual and Dehumanization, might even see toxic positivity as a good thing in social interactions and don’t fully understand the seriousness of emotional battles ((Nicole A Beres et al., 2021)). If we don’t pay attention to toxic positivity, it could harm mental health by not acknowledging the normal grieving process, which is necessary for getting better. Therefore, talking about these problems is a call to rethink how society helps people as they go through grief.

 

B. The importance of validating grief and emotions

Dealing with grief is tough, and it’s super important to let people feel what they feel. Validating emotions is really key when someone’s going through a loss. It gives them a base to recognize and be okay with their feelings, without someone trying to force happiness on them. If you brush grief aside or act like it’s nothing, folks can wind up feeling totally alone in what they’re going through, which just makes everything worse. You see something similar with eco-anxiety; those feelings of grief, guilt, and just plain despair get all mixed up with how we react to environmental problems (Pihkala P, 2020). Creating safe places where people can share and show their grief helps them bounce back and heal. When we let people honestly share what they’re feeling, it tells them their experience is real, and it fights back against the way society often tries to bury negative emotions. Ultimately, it makes for a more supportive place for people dealing with really deep losses (Koco Jń et al., 2023).

 

C. Encouragement for a balanced approach to emotional support during grief

Dealing with grief, it turns out, isn’t straightforward; it’s a bit like finding your way through a maze. What’s really needed is a sensitive way to offer support that doesn’t accidentally push someone towards “toxic positivity.” See, when people mean well and say things like “just focus on the bright side,” it can actually downplay the really complicated feelings someone’s going through. It’s vital to really see and accept all the different parts of grieving to help someone heal. So, a good strategy involves making sure people feel safe enough to really express their sadness, *and* teaching them ways to bounce back, too. Taking up something like yoga, for example, can be really helpful along with getting emotional support; yoga can boost emotional regulation by helping people understand and accept themselves a bit better (Saurabh1 S, 2025). Also, when we foster good relationships and have helpful talks about grief, we build a community where each person’s experience is respected without making them feel like their feelings are less important (Y Singgalen, 2024). This comprehensive approach acknowledges the challenges of grieving and, maybe more importantly, gives folks the tools to navigate toward healing in a way that works for the

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Additional Resources

“What is ‘Toxic Positivity’ in Grief?” (2021). Whats Your Grief.  Access here

Villines, Z. (2021). “What to know about toxic positivity”. Medical News Today.  Access here

Razettl, G. (2021). “The Antidote to Toxic Positivity”. Psychology Today.  Access here

Silver, K. (2024). “Toxic Positivity: When ‘Good Vibes Only’ Goes Too Far”. WebMD. Access here

 

 

Understanding Geriatric Mobility: Factors Affecting Stability in Aging Populations

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The ability to walk around your neighborhood or chase your grandchildren is a gift. But as seniors age, staying mobile becomes increasingly difficult due to muscle loss, balance problems, and other health issues. 

Even just one fall can cause significant injuries that snowball into bigger problems. For seniors eager to stay steady and active, there are some proactive measures that can help improve mobility and limit the risk of falls. 

If you’re interested in understanding what impacts geriatric mobility, and what can be done to support senior safety, you’ve come to the right place. We’ll take a look at the environmental and physiological factors that come into play, and explore strategies to promote better stability. 

The Main Reasons Older Adults Fall

What are the primary culprits behind falls? For older adults, a host of different conditions or even just one can lead to a higher probability of falling. Often, the cause of falls is poor balance due to weakened muscles and more sedentary lifestyles. But balance isn’t the only trigger. 

Along with vision and hearing problems, medications can lead to fatigue and disorientation. Conditions like orthostatic hypotension and cause quick blood pressure drops when someone stands up, hindering balance. Footwear that doesn’t fit well or lacks a strong tread can make uneven floors or slick surfaces that much more dangerous, too. 

Ultimately, identifying age-related and environmental obstacles is critical to navigating the senior years safely. And committing to routine check-ups with healthcare providers can help catch risk factors and alert seniors to needed interventions. 

Understanding Bodily Changes as We Age

With the aging process comes a loss in muscle mass. A lowered ability to produce proteins within the body and hormonal changes are among the biological factors contributing to muscle loss. Sarcopenia is the broader title for muscle atrophy that occurs as we age.

For seniors, muscle loss is most pronounced in the core and legs. If a senior cannot get out of bed or walk safely across their apartment because they lack the strength, the potential for devastating injuries goes up. Tack on the often silent issue of osteoporosis, a disease that triggers bone loss, and seniors have a recipe for problems. 

Other internal changes are at play, too, as we age. Seniors will notice a diminished sense of their bodily position in space due to degradation within the nervous system. The number of nerve cells in the body and their processing speeds decline, leading to instances where seniors could stumble or lose their balance. 

Further, ongoing health problems, like diabetes and arthritis, can contribute to mobility challenges. 

Although many seniors can manage these conditions with medications, sometimes those medications lead to fogginess or dizziness. Some medications for blood pressure, for example, can cause side effects like fainting or fatigue. Seniors need to be mindful of when they’re taking medications and how they react to them before any physical activities. 

Lastly, aging can contribute to poor vision and hearing. Without proper depth perception, seniors may fail to grasp that it takes longer to cross an intersection than they think. And with both hearing loss and vision changes, they may fail to see and hear critical warning signs or hazards.

How the Environment Impacts Safety

Fall statistics for seniors paint a concerning picture, with 25% of seniors over age 65 falling each year. Given the repercussions of falls, seniors and their caregivers need to prioritize creating safer home environments. 

Rugs without grippers on slippery floors, for example, invite falls. Likewise, area rugs that bunch up on top of carpet can create uneven surfaces that make it more difficult to maintain balance. 

Senior homes need ample light sources to ensure well-lit spaces. While mood lighting can set a pleasant ambiance, it also can prompt falls if changes in flooring or tripping hazards are hard to see. Homes and especially hallways should be outfitted with handrails. And bathrooms need grab bars for entering or exiting showers and bathtubs. 

It’s also important to stay on top of cleaning. Cluttered rooms can make conditions ripe for falls. If you care for a senior, help them stay on top of decluttering to ensure that objects don’t lead to debilitating falls. Remove bulky furniture, too, to create clearer pathways that make moving around safely easier. 

Beyond the home, the neighborhood in which a senior lives can shape their safety conditions. Crumbling or uneven sidewalks can cause tripping. 

And if seniors fear walking outside their home due to poor infrastructure, they may stop leaving their home altogether, particularly if they cannot drive or lack access to transportation. This can cause social isolation, which can worsen physical and mental health. 

Mental Health and Mobility 

It may be less obvious, but a senior’s mental health can affect their mobility. Seniors that are fearful of falling won’t be as likely to engage in social activities. They’ll become more reclusive and sedentary, and possibly more anxious. And this, unfortunately, worses balance and muscle strength. 

Additionally, significant mental health challenges like depression can limit a senior’s physical activity. 

Many seniors are grieving the loss of spouses, friends, or other loved ones. And many seniors live away from close family members and may not have as many opportunities for social interaction. When this happens, seniors can sink into depression. They may lack the desire to move beyond a stationary position, contributing to a decreased sense of stability when they do walk. 

The aging process also brings cognitive decline through conditions like dementia or Alzheimer’s. Seniors may have poorer judgment and forget basic ideas, rules, or facts. They could lack the inability to plan or communicate, and they may be more prone to mood changes. With volatility and confusion comes the potential for impaired decision-making and physical danger, like falls. Caregivers and loved ones must work with seniors to manage mental health challenges so they can stay safe in their surroundings. 

The Role of Healthcare Professionals

Preventing falls may rely on staying active and maintaining a clean home that is free of tripping hazards. But healthcare professionals play a vital role in helping seniors stay mobile and safe. 

They can conduct a Comprehensive Geriatric Assessment (CGA) to see a senior’s full health picture. This assessment looks at physical, social, psychological, environmental, and functional limitations that a senior may face, and identifies areas of concern. In addition, a CGA helps outline potential interventions in a way that’s tailored to a patient’s specific needs. 

Some interventions can include adding new physical activities to promote mobility. Perhaps seniors can benefit from physical therapy to enhance strength and improve balance, for instance. 

They may want to explore Tai Chi, which focuses on slow physical movements, intentional breathing, and mindfulness. An activity like this allows seniors to tone their bodies while learning how to keep their mind alert and aware.

In some instances, walkers and canes can prevent falls as long as seniors choose one that’s appropriate for their needs. A cane or walker that isn’t properly sized can actually make mobility issues worse. 

A cane should be at the right height to encourage good posture and have the right grip strength. Moreover, adjustable canes allow seniors to shift the height as their height and posture evolves. A qualified healthcare professional can guide seniors toward canes that will be a mobility asset.

In addition, regularly reviewing medications can help locate drugs that may be causing side effects like dizziness that contribute to mobility problems. Healthcare professions, like nutritionists, can help seniors choose dietary plans that fortify them more effectively, too. 

A better diet loaded with vitamins and nutrients can help seniors feel more energetic and happier as they approach each day.

Caregivers and healthcare providers can spot changes in mobility and act as advocates and cheerleaders for seniors. When seniors may start to retreat due to declining health, a little encouragement and some adjustments can help encourage them to live a healthier, more mobile life. 

Taking Preventative Measures

While some mobility issues are beyond anyone’s control, there are many proactive steps seniors can take to mitigate many mobility issues. Exercise can help prevent muscle loss and improve balance. 

Going for a walk in the neighborhood or trying some stretching exercises are great ways to build endurance. Even better, making these activities a social affair can help seniors avoid isolation. 

Eating a nutritious diet rich in protein and calcium can support muscles and bones. Along the same lines, seniors should make a point of staying hydrated. Dehydration can help prevent low blood pressure and fatigue. It also can elevate brain function and keep joints in good shape, all of which contributes to stronger mobility. 

Seniors can stay current with annual eye and hearing exams to detect changes early. Seniors may need updated glasses prescriptions or hearing aids. Investing in these tools enables seniors to be more alert to their surroundings. And that can lower the potential for scenarios where seniors are unaware of oncoming traffic or yelling that may put them in danger.

Focusing on Mobility in Seniors

For seniors, mobility can be intimidating territory due to physical and mental changes they experience as they age. And when seniors feel limited by internal or external conditions, they can lose the independence and confidence that defined their younger years. 

That’s why it’s so vital to identify factors that impact their mobility to improve quality of life. With help from caregivers, healthcare professionals, and loved ones, seniors can stay active and strong while avoiding the potential for falls. 

 

Author Bio: Veronica Turner is a health and lifestyle writer with over 10 years of experience. She creates compelling content on nutrition, fitness, mental health, and overall wellness.

 

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