Parental Stress and Managing It

Posted on January 21, 2022December 14, 2022 by Dominick Flarey

A very large stressor is children. Parents deal with stress of their children and adult children their whole lives. Different ages and different times present different and unique challenges in parenting, but overall, the stress of having children and raising them is a challenge. Parents need to learn how to cope with stress and juggle the issues of parenting with their own life to stay afloat in life. This can be a difficult endeavor. Many parents need to better organize, prepare and react to the stress children can play upon it. Ultimately in the end, the hard work and long hours can pay off to a successful child rearing.

Stress Management techniques can also help parents better cope with stress. This includes time management, time alone, meditation, and having a strong support system to rely upon. Unfortunately for those parents without a support system, coping can be even more difficult and hence time management and meditation can play huge roles.

Parental stress comes at any age and has different challenges with each age. Please also review AIHCP’s Stress Management Program

The article, “Here’s How to Navigate Parenting Stress” by Madeline Brown takes a closer look at managing stress associated with parenting. In the article, she lists the primary causes of parent stress and how to identify it. She also lists on ways to better cope and find the necessary assistance. She states,

“Stress is a poor boundary keeper. Work stress doesn’t stay confined to the office. Financial worries don’t magically go away when your child is sick and sleepless. The parenting journey is naturally peppered with seasons of heightened stress and worry — from the sleepless newborn stage to the teenage rebellion years and beyond. A list of what doesn’t cause parenting stress might be shorter. Nevertheless, these are common factors that can make parenting stress worse:”

“Here’s How to Navigate Parenting Stress”. Madeline Brown. January 6th, 2022. Psych Central.

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Commentary

Parenting will always be stressful but it is also rewarding. Parents can learn to balance what is merely an annoyance with what truly should concern their time. Many parental stressors are minor daily things or small accidents. Depending on the age, children will spill, or teens will have a bad grade, but these are parts of natural growth in life. Parents need to be able to categorize these things and understand when to be angry, stressed, or just fix the situation. Parents also need to know how to categorize short term and long term needs of children and what focus to give certain tasks priority over.

It does not help that many parents have other issues as well. Many issues from work, or relationships can emerge and make it harder to handle the work at home. Tasks and chores can pile up, especially for parents without much assistance. This can only begin to bury the parent in more responsibilities. To shave off some of these issues, time management is critically important for any parent as well as schedules for their child of any age.

When small issues become larger issues is when the true stress of parenting can emerge. Bad behavior, drugs, or problems with the law are all possibilities. These types of stressors cannot be simply brushed to the side and must be dealt with. It is important to know when a stressor is a legitimate issue which is going to demand the parent’s time and abilities. Other stressors can include finances, school costs, care cost, and other care giving responsibilities. Many parents stay up late at night thinking how they will better care for and afford their child or children’s needs. It can be quite frightful but through management and structure, one can find a way to the goal line in raising a productive young adult.

But if you think parenting ends at 18, then you are in for a surprise. Parentings adult children also comes with many stresses. Parents can worry about the success of their children, career options, or college success. Adult children who never grow up can be a constant stress on parents in their older years.

It is important for parents of any age to always look towards self care. Self care involves being able to look at oneself and ensure physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs are met. It may seem like there is no time for this, but it is important to try to find the time. Whether its a half hour of meditation a day, or having counseling or a massage, it is critical to find the self care. Burnout can occur in anything and parenting is no exception. Dealing with burnout properly and finding the support and help one needs is critical for the entirety of the family. This is again why self care is so important.

Obviously beyond the self care, parenting should also be viewed not as only stressful but also rewarding. Enjoying time with your children and doing exciting things can rewrite the narrative that is always a job but also a beautiful vocation of sharing love.

Conclusion

Parenting is the toughest job on the planet. It does not come with a manual or instructions but involves giving one’s entire self, both heart and soul into ensuring the welfare and success of the child. In its very nature, parenting is stressful but levels of stress can be managed by assorting what is merely daily to what is an immediate issue. At whatever age, try to enjoy the ride and let one’s love of their child or children dictate the pace but remember, self care is always important and parents sometimes need a break too.

Please also review AIHCP’s Stress Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Stress Management Consultant.

Additional Resources

“Parenting stress: What causes it, and how does it change us?”. 2020 Gwen Dewar, Ph.D, Parenting Science. Access here

“Parental Stress is Key Contributor to Development of Children’s Mental Illness”. Krystal Jagoo. January 11th, 2022. Verywellmind. Access here

“4 Tips for Managing Parenting Stress”. Erlanger A. Turner Ph.D. June 24th, 2013. Psychology Today. Access here

“Parental Burnout and Stress”. Psychology Today Staff. Psychology Today. Access here

ADHD Consulting Certification Program Article on ADHD Balancing

Posted on January 21, 2022 by Dominick Flarey

Those with ADHD look to balance the weaknesses that come with it and find ways to improve their life. Medication and coping are important but also putting oneself in a supportive environment where one can excel.

Trying to rebalance oneself with ADHD is difficult. Please also review AIHCP’s ADHD Consulting Program and see if it meets your academic and professional needs and goals

The article, “ADHD I

s All About Power, Paradox, and Pain” by Alex Dlmltrlu looks at how those with ADHD look to balance their life and find counter strengths to their inherent weaknesses. He states,

“Despite all its complexities, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), a neuropsychological condition characterized by disorganization, procrastination, time impairment, impulsive decision-making, “wandering attention,” and problems with self-management, might be best described in three words: pain, power, and paradoxes.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Learning to fight through the pain and find the strengths needed to overcome ADHD can be difficult but is possible with the right mindset, help and coping skills. Please also review AIHCP’s ADHD Consulting Certification Program to become certified to help those dealing with these issues. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as an ADHD Consultant.

Grief Counseling Certification Article on Sudden Loss

Posted on January 21, 2022 by Dominick Flarey

A sudden loss can be tragic and devastating. It can upheave one’s life and make one search for existential answers of how and why. It can be so catastrophic that it can push one into a deep trauma and depression over the sudden loss. Grief in these cases have a chance of becoming prolonged and becoming possibly depressive in nature.

A sudden loss can send a person into a whirlwind of emotion and worries. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

The article, “How to Help a Loved One Through Sudden Loss” by Julie Halpert looks into how to help someone who experiences a sudden loss. She states,

“With a sudden loss, the bereaved find themselves immediately inundated with new and mounting responsibilities. Helping ease that burden can be invaluable. Dr. Cormier suggested leading with language like: “I’d love to help. Does anything occur to you that may be useful?” If they don’t provide suggestions, you can be specific: Ask if you can bring dinner, mow the lawn or pick up groceries. You can also provide a welcome distraction, offering to go for a walk with the bereaved or take them out to dinner.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional needs and goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in grief counseling.

Substance Abuse Counseling Certification Article on the Nature of Addiction

Posted on January 21, 2022 by Dominick Flarey

Addiction is a disease that can affect a person’s behavior and also cause physical problems. How to identify addictive behaviors and addiction itself is important in living a healthy life. Please also review AIHCP’s Substance Abuse Counseling Program to learn more about addiction and how it affects individuals.

Addiction can steal one’s life
Please also review AIHCP’s Substance Abuse Counseling Certification and see if it meets your professional and academic goals and needs

The article, “Signs of Addiction Denial” by Geralyn Drexter reviews the nature of addiction and the issues that go with it. She states,

“Addiction is a brain disease characterized by compulsive behaviors that continue despite harmful or negative consequences.1 Usually, people envision drug or alcohol use when they think about addiction. However, addiction can include a variety of behaviors, including substance use, gambling, and sexual fantasies, urges, and actions. People living with addictions may deny their behavior. This article explores the signs of addiction denial and when to seek help.”

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Please again also review AIHCP’s Substance Abuse Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification

Grief Counseling Certification Video on Depression and Bi Polar Disorder

Posted on January 20, 2022December 17, 2024 by Dominick Flarey

Two types of depression that exist are Clinical Depression and Bi Polar Disorder. Clinical Depression is a constant state of emotional sadness with in most cases no true cause. Bi Polar is a swing of moods with certain manic episodes throughout the year where one is not depressed but very active, followed by a depressed state. Licensed therapists are needed to treat both.

If you would like to learn more about AIHCP and its Grief Counseling Certification, then please review the program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a grief counselor.

ADHD Consulting Certification Article on ADHD Overlooked Benefits

Posted on January 20, 2022January 25, 2022 by Dominick Flarey

While ADHD can create imbalance in the brain with many disadvantages, some of these imbalances can also create benefits and can be harnessed to help. More energy and resiliency are two of these things that many with ADHD have to keep going and moving.

Can ADHD have some overlooked benefits? Please also review AIHCP’s ADHD Consulting Certification

The article, “Surprising Benefits of Having ADHD” by Kelly Burch takes a closer look at how ADHD can have some benefits. She states,

“There’s been a lot of focus on the harmful symptoms of ADHD. Although there’s less research on ADHD superpowers, people with ADHD report that they are more energetic, creative, courageous, and resilient than people without the condition.1 While there’s a lot more research to be done about the benefits of ADHD, focusing on the benefits can help you or your child live with ADHD more positively. ”

While coping with the bad, it may be well worth to harness the good. To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s ADHD Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in ADHD Consulting.

Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification Article on Bad Habits

Posted on January 20, 2022 by Dominick Flarey

Hypnosis can help with a variety of issues that plagues one’s life. Many deal with various vices such as smoking or drinking or gambling. Clinical Hypnotherapy can help the person curb those impulses and help the brain reject them.

Clinical Hypnotherapy can help with bad habits, but also many other things. Please also review AIHCP’s Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification

The article, “Can hypnotherapy help me overcome my vices?” by Kat Nicholls takes a closer look at how hypnotherapy can help an individual better control bad habits. She states,

” Vices like drinking, smoking and gambling have become a crutch for some and with services across the country stretched, getting support hasn’t been easy. With traditional routes to support unavailable, some have sought alternative approaches like hypnotherapy. Working at a subconscious level, the aim of hypnotherapy is to make deep changes to our responses, encouraging us to choose something more helpful to help us cope with the stress and anxiety we experience. ”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals and needs. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Clinical Hypnotherapist

Anger Management Consulting Certification Blog on Dealing with Difficult People

Posted on January 20, 2022January 20, 2022 by Dominick Flarey

Anger sometimes is justified but not necessarily needed all the time. Difficult and rude individuals are everywhere in society and test the sane and good natured individuals. Patience can wear thin when dealing with a difficult person at the office, at home, or on the road. It is critical to keep your cool but as one knows, it does not always end that way. Sometimes, the person goes way past acceptable behavior or you are already over loaded with stress and this person is the proverbial “straw” that breaks the camel’s back. It is still nonetheless important to limit outbursts from becoming dangerous or illegal.

Of course, learning Anger Management techniques to deal with difficult people and maintain emotional control is key. There are a few key ideas to consider below that may help one deal better with difficult people and remain calm.

Dealing with difficult people is well…difficult. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your goals

Of course the first and foremost point is it is not worth it. Getting emotionally upset is not healthy all the time. Controlling one’s temper and anger is key to a healthy life but also a legal trouble free life. Road rage, office fights, jail time and other misfortunes are merely the tip of the ice burg. So it is not worth it when a difficult person causes issues.

Anger Management also teaches one to try to understand their point of view. Attribution error looks at the issue at hand and tries to understand one’s annoying behavior. Sometimes, a person may be facing his or her own stress or dealing with multiple stressors or even a death in one’s family. It may be nice to sometimes give someone a little “slack”.

Sometimes difficult people also just wish to be heard. Individuals who are unable to vent, or able to be heard or validated are more angry. When dealing with an angry person in business or customer support, sometimes, merely listening can be key. It can also help to validate or acknowledge a difficult person’s frustration. This does not mean one must agree, but it does mean one can pick out something of importance to the person and acknowledge it. It can also be merely through a comment as “I can see how that would be frustrating to you”. This can help reset the angry or difficult person. Diffusing the argument through listening, acknowledgement and agreement on some points can help.

Another angle to review is the type of person you are dealing with. While one cannot always do a psychological analysis on a stranger or is qualified to do so, one can sometimes look for various traits. For difficult individuals that one knows, then this is far easier but knowing the type of person one is dealing with can really help. Is the person OCD, is the person ADHD, is the person a Type A personality or is the person Clinically Depressed? Some individuals may have defiant issues where they look to argue to merely argue. They thrive for the fight itself. Others may be selfish and will only see their own views and border narcissism or other personality disorders. Others may be sociopaths and not care about anyone but themselves. How one navigates the waters with difficult individuals can depend on the personality itself.

When dealing with these individuals, one should accept the reality of what one is dealing with. You cannot change a person’s personality but you can cope with it. You can with long term relationships with people or a simple conversation admit that this person is difficult and for whatever reason, apply a plan to deal with it without allowing yourself to become angry. In doing so, one should look for conclusions and solutions to help end the problem. Offer solutions and remain fact driven. Do not offer opinions but remain steadfast with facts. Delusional individuals may wish to irritate and offer bogus solutions or conspiracies, but one should avoid name calling or lowering oneself to their level. If one dismisses foolishness and remains entailed with only the facts, then one can possibly put the conversation on track. This is especially true with customer service or in business. Only offer what is possible and remain fact driven. Again, we can see this in debates, or congressional hearings. The party that remains calm and fact orientated despite the digs and ad hominem argumentation will eventually emerge unscathed.

How do you deal with difficult people? Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification

Also during tense exchanges, it is good to not match intensity of emotion. Individuals who are screaming, only become louder when one screams back. It is best to remain calm and collective and choose words wisely and calmly. The lack of emotional energy from your side can help alleviate the stress and ease the mood.

Of course, there are two other options to consider that we have not even considered. First, is the problem you? Are you the difficult person? Second, if not, and the person continues to be emotional and illogical, simply walk away from the issue. This can be done politely and professionally and does not necessarily involve a climatic dig and storming off moment or a click of the phone. Everything can be done with proper procedure and good manners. There are plenty of ways to end conversations that are fruitless with class and dignity.

If you would like to learn more about dealing with emotion and anger, then please review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as an Anger Management Consultant.

Also please review the article, “How to Deal With Difficult People Without Losing Your Cool” by Adam Bulger. Please click here

Grief Counseling Training Video on Loss of a Sibling

Posted on January 19, 2022December 17, 2024 by Dominick Flarey

Loss of a sibling can occur at multiple times in a life. One can be young or old. This loss always stings but can vary in pain. It also can call into play the fragile nature of life and how quickly one can pass.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Training Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals who wish to become a certified grief counselor.