Men traditionally find grief as a vulnerability. From an evolutionary standpoint, men must be strong and a source of protection for the family. This physical stereotype has led to an emotional abandonment of displaying grief among many men. The right way to grieve for men has been handed down through generations with ideas that “real men do not cry”, or that crying is a sign of weakness. This “John Wayne” type persona has dominated Western thought regarding social images of men.
At an early age, boys are taught the proper method of grieving according to gender and social constructs. These constructs can be emotionally stunting for the grief process.
Men have been taught to hold in their grief and grieve alone in solace. They have been shamed when tears are shown and called weak if they displayed sadness. Many men have not been able to grieve in healthy ways hence emotionally stunted their recovery from loss.
Individuals grieve differently. Some may not wish to express emotion but to simply repress emotion based upon a stereotype can be emotionally damaging.
Instead of slogans that “real men do not cry”, many have pushed that true strength is a man who can show tears and emotion. Weeping over loss is not a female only right, but also a human right. While cultures and society may create images of how men should grieve through cultural rites or movies, men need to become that grieving and weakness and are not correlated. Grieving is a natural process that everyone endures and expressing grief makes no man any less a man than the next.
The article, “How Men Grieve” by Jackson Rainer takes a deeper look into how men grieve and social perspectives surrounding it. He states,
“Men tend to lean toward the instrumental expression of grief, orienting to emotional control, a disinclination to talk about matters of the heart, to default into solitude rather than connection and to focus on action more than talk. I fall squarely in this masculine camp.”
Men and women grieve differently. This does not mean men who cry should be seen as weak. It is important to grieve and express if one feels the need. This does not make one less of a man but allows the man to grieve in a conducive way
The article does an excellent job in explaining how men grieve instrumentally, or through physical and cognitive ways, while women are taught to grieve intuitively through emotion. While both ways are equal processes of grief, the danger arises when individual grievers are socially assigned a proper way to grieve simply based on their gender. Boys and girls are taught the right way to grieve and see sometimes bad examples of grief behavior in both women and men. These bad grief behaviors later translate to future problems for the children when they reach adulthood.
To learn more about grieving or if you would like to become a certified grief counselor, then please review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.
Behavior from ADHD is can definitely be noticed by parents or teachers. The bad behaviors though can sometimes be mixed with what is truly ADHD or bad behavior. Knowing the differences between ADHD behavior and bad behavior is important. In essence, ADHD behavior should not be classified as bad behavior. It is important to learn how to reward the behaviors we want to limit with ADHD.
The article, “Don’t Mistake Your Child’s ADHD Symptoms for Bad Behavior” by James Greenblatt states,
“Your child is not deliberately willful, disobedient, scattered, demanding, obnoxious, aggressive, or lazy. ADHD is not a “behavior problem” or a “discipline problem.” ADHD is a neurological, genetic, nutritional, and environmental medical disorder that imbalances the brain.”
This is good advice for parents. While the behavior may be not desired, one must understand that it is not bad in itself or intended. This may also make it difficult to identify bad behaviors not associated with ADHD. To read the entire article, please click here
Understanding bad behavior and ADHD behavior is key. Learn how to help children and their behavior through an ADHD Consulting Certification
Please also review our ADHD Consulting Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.
ADHD can become labeled as complex when various issues surround it. Learning disabilities, anxiety, depression and poor reception to medication can all make ADHD become labeled as complex. With such complexities, it is imperative to find the necessary counseling and help to overcome the issues. Usually licensed counselors help in such situations. Those qualified but not licensed in counseling, but who deal with ADHD Consulting, need to be sure to refer these cases to licensed counselors.
ADHD due to other additional factors can be labeled as complex. Please also review our ADHD Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals
The article, “Complex ADHD In Children And Adolescents: SDBP Guidelines” by Hina Zahid looks complex ADHD and treatment guidelines. She states,
“The Society for Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics (SDBP) has developed new clinical guidelines for children with complex attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). These recommendations complement existing ADHD guidelines from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). The new guideline is published in a supplemental issue of SDBP’s Journal of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics.”
The American Institute of Health Care Professionals has and continues to offer the most affordable, dependable and quality certifications in the healthcare field. It has for twenty years offered Healthcare Case Management and Legal Nurse Consulting certifications for healthcare professionals and nurses. It has since added a variety of programs, including Forensic Nursing, Holistic and Integrative Specialist and Nurse Educator Programs. It now is offering a new and exciting program for nurses seeking to rise up the corporate ladder in leadership and management positions.
Learn how to enhance your resume and become a leader and manager within your nursing fields. Please review our Nursing Management Program
AIHCP is offering two new certification programs, Healthcare Management and Nursing Management. Both aim to help nurses find the education and knowledge necessary to learn the key components of organizational leadership and healthcare departmental management. The program offers 6 key courses for Healthcare Management and additional course for Nursing Management. The courses focus on key concepts of healthcare management and nursing management, as well as leadership, organizational behavior, human resource, delivery models, budgeting concepts and insurance and reimbursement procedure.
With management and leadership positions so competitive it is key to have every advantage necessary to climb the corporate ladder. Experience and good work history are the first ingredient with knowledge and education as the next critical ingredient. Nurses who possess leadership qualities, can utilize their experience and education to boost their resume and present to management their qualification as a perfect candidate for manager positions within the healthcare system. Certifications boost this credibility.
Certifications orbit the primary education, licence and experience of a nurse. They enhance the resume and present additional education beyond the undergraduate and graduate degree. AIHCP’s continuing education and certification model present an excellent tool to make a qualified nurse stand out among his or her peers. The Healthcare Management and Nursing Management Certifications prepare and help the candidate to become viable options at the leadership level.
Again, the programs at AIHCP are online, self paced and independent study. They allow the busy schedule of a licensed professional to not become interrupted by scheduled classes and exam times. Instead, the programs at AIHCP allow the student to pick the time to read and take the exam. Furthermore, all courses are mentored and the student has unlimited mentorship as needed from qualified instructors.
In addition to the certification, nurses have an opportunity, while working towards certification, to earn continuing education hours towards a renewal of nursing licenses. All courses have the State Board of California Nursing approvals which have reciprocity in many states. For those not seeking continuing education, the courses nonetheless, give the candidate the necessary skills and education to handle any manager position with confidence.
Make the transfer to leadership through AIHCP’s Healthcare Management and Nursing Management Programs and see if they meet your academic and professional goals
The Healthcare Management and Nursing Management certifications are four-year certifications. Upon expiration, the certified member needs to demonstrate 500 hours of clinical, academic or professional work within the field of management and also present 50 hours of continuing education. Renewal pushes certification to another four-year limit until re-certification again is required.
Nurses who become certified as a Healthcare Manager or Nurse Manager can have the confidence of possessing not only the skills and knowledge necessary to succeed, but also the comfort of possessing a high quality certification that will enhance their resume and status within the healthcare community and facility. If you would like to learn more about the Healthcare Management Program and Nursing Management Program then please review them and see if they match your academic and professional goals. With this certification, qualified applicants could be operating at a leadership and management level very soon and fulfilling their leadership aspirations.
Malpractice suites and claims from the plaintiff require in some states an expert affidavit. This may seem as an additional hurdle for a patient to move forward against a medical provider, but it is important to prevent false claims that can raise insurance costs. Many states require an expert affidavit. This is an important step is validating claims. It is not a huge hurdle but one that is common sense. Legal Nurse Consultants can play a role in this step of the malpractice case as well.
Legal Nurse Consultants play an important role in producing expert witness and also expert affidavits. Please also review our Legal Nurse Consulting Certification
The article, “The Expert Affidavit Requirement in Medical Malpractice Cases” by Tatum O’Brien reviews this process and some of its implications, especially in North Dakota. He states,
“Litigating a medical malpractice case has many hurdles, one of which is the expert affidavit requirement. As part of medical malpractice “tort reform,” in addition to caps on damages and a short statute of limitations, many states have enacted laws also requiring an expert affidavit supporting the claim of malpractice.”
Please also review our Legal Nurse Consulting Program and see if it meets your needs. As a Legal Nurse Consultant, one can be play an important roles in approving affidavits. Expert witnesses and providers are key in any case, regarding of plaintiff or defendant.
Stress is everywhere in life, but it is usually more intense in the workplace. Work place stress varies from organization to organization. Some work places its very nature is higher stressed while others have less stress, but it is important to minimize stress to the fullest potential. How to deal with stress and incorporate stress management concepts is key for good business. Less stress equates with better performance and output.
How can stress be reduced in the workplace? Please also review our Stress Management Consultant Certification
The article, “Workplace Mental Health Programs: What They Are, And What They’re Worth” by Silke Glaab looks at how to reduce stress and incorporate better practices. The article states,
“With the growing prevalence of mental and stress-related disorders in the general population, the importance of health and well-being programs is being recognized more and more in the corporate world. Employers are also seeing its benefit both to attract new talent and to retain existing employees.”
Workplace stress can be controlled and minimized through good stress management implementation. Managers need to incorporate these strategies or utilize the aid of a certified Stress Management Consultant. Please review our Stress Management Consultant Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals
Holistic and Alternative care is becoming more mainstream. It is very useful for those who mix complementary practices. The worth of these other practices like all medicines are not guaranteed but they do have a history of success. It is important though to understand their nature and which ones play a certain role in health. Somethings should not be mixed and others can be very complimentary to conventional medicine. Some practices are more preventative, while others deal more with chronic issues than acute.
Alternative medication and therapy can play a big role in your health. Please also review our Holistic Integrative Specialist Program
The article, “The Complete Guide to Complementary and Alternative Therapy” by Kat Nicholls discusses the importance of Holistic care and complimentary medicines. She states,
“Anything that doesn’t fit under conventional or ‘standard’ medical care can be called a complementary or alternative therapy (or complementary and alternative medicine, CAM). These practices, products and therapies include approaches that have been used throughout history such as aromatherapy, yoga and ayurveda.”
In the meantime, if investigating alternative therapies, be sure to consult your primary physician and also work with a Holistic Integrative Specialist who can guide you in the proper direction.
Hypnosis as an alternative treatment to a variety of phobias, addictions and mental issues is becoming more and more mainstream. Anxiety is another issue that hypnosis can help alleviate. Many have anxiety in public places and hypnotherapy can help at the subconscious level to aid individuals in dealing with it. It can help individuals face anxiety by reducing it at the subconscious level. This amazing aspect of hypnosis is one reason why so many in healthcare are starting to utilize it.
Hypnosis can help individuals with anxiety at the subconscious level. Please review our Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification as well
The article, “Hypnosis for anxiety? ‘Doable’ if you have an open mind” by Caroline Zielinsky looks at how hypnotherapy can help someone with anxiety. The article states,
“A 2019 meta-analysis of 15 studies incorporating 17 trials of hypnosis for anxiety found that hypnosis was most effective in reducing anxiety when combined with other psychological interventions than when used as a stand-alone treatment.”
Regardless of effectiveness, hypnotherapy should never be conducted by an untrained individual. If seeking hypnotherapy, be sure to only work with professionals and those with appropriate credentials. Please also review our Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification to see if you would like, if qualified, to learn the art of hypnotherapy.
The death of a celebrity, or a national tragedy can bring society closer together. It can unite society in tears and also help others question their own reality. The levels of grief and despair vary greatly. Hence reactions vary in extremity.
Collective and social grief emerges when a a universal tragedy occurs. The epicenter of the grief reaction obviously is correlated with the connection to the person or event. Hence, when a national catastrophe occurs, those with more personal investment in the people or area will react more sincerely in a true grief reaction, while others who may be empathetic but not directly related, will experience a more indirect grief reaction.
Social grief can emerge collectively in a nation over the death of a famous person, politician or sports star. They are seen as heroes and can bring a nation together into mourning
Society as a whole will react to a loss. For example, the most recent loss of Basketball Great, Kobe Bryant is a stinging loss to many and a reality check for many others. Whenever anyone dies unexpectedly, individuals react to some extent. Some may lose little sleep due to the distance of connection, but the idea of death and its reality always stings. When the person is famous and not just a mere name, it resonates with the subconscious. Whether there is emotional investment or not, the death of someone famous reinforces the idea that death happens unexpectedly and can happen to anyone, even oneself.
This is the first and most remote reaction to the loss of a famous individual. The reminding that anyone can die at any moment. This may force one to re-evaluate their own life, relations with others, or future goals. A famous person is just not anyone in the news but a person, for better or worst, that plays a key social role.
The social role that one plays to the individual will reflect the grief reaction. Fame is a way of knowing, but it is not true knowing. Yet, even though it is not the knowing of friendship, it still creates an aspect of knowing, where that famous individual has touched the person in some way. While it is not a reciprocal process such as friendship, the reality of the famous person’s influence on others is a reality. It is an imbalance but still creates a subjective connection on the part of the fan or everyday person who witnesses this person on television. While in some cases, there can be a pathological obsession and grief over-reaction to a person one does not personally know, there is definitely a reality that denotes value of that person.
The death of the famous, may not make all grieve, but it will definitely remind all of the nature of death and fragile nature of life
And this is not obsession. Famous individuals, whether in sports, entertainment, or politics have social value. That value is what joy or status they give to one as a collective whole. A king or queen’s death represents a national death and can affect millions. Losing a sports figure, can be a great loss to a fan base that revered the player as a hero. These are not pathological reactions but true losses at different varying subjective levels.
For some though, the loss may be meaningless. If a singer dies suddenly that had no impact upon an individual, then only the reality that someone famous died resonates, but for a person who considered the singer and his or her songs to be instrumental to his or life passes, then the impact is far greater and even more personal. It is ultimately very subjective how much someone who is famous plays a part in one’s life. While it may seem silly to some, or obsessive to mourn someone you may have never met or only seen from the distance, it still does not equate to pathology but a true human connection. Again, where subjectively draws the line to a pathological grief reaction and a normal reaction is a cloudy line.
The loss of a famous person, while not personal in nature, is subjective in nature and is correlated to the role the person’s message played in the griever’s life and development
For instance, Kobe Bryant’s death has reminded everyone collectively of the fragile nature of life. His death has also brought the basketball community to tears. However, as one approaches the epicenter of the loss, proportionate grief reactions are seen more intense. The friendship Kobe had with teammates and family is obviously greater than that of a distant fan. The love between his parents, wife and children is also far more intense. Kobe is not an image to these individuals but a true reciprocal relationship. Kobe’s closest family did not lose a mere name or symbol, but a husband, father and son.
If grief reactions from fans or the national collective match the intensity of close family and friends, then one may have to consider the attachment to Kobe and the grief reaction to be obsessive and pathological. Yet, to merely admonish someone for grieving the loss of a famous individual is wrong and simply bad grief counseling. It is healthy to socially grieve a sports hero but it has to be proportionate. Grief Counselors need to identify what is healthy and not healthy in this type of social grief.
With social media discussing his death everywhere there are bound to be ignorant comments and reactions. Some will come from individuals who fear death itself and prefer to ignore it or hide it by dismissing Kobe. There will be those who downplay it and criticize others for grieving the loss. Others will dismiss Kobe and say, others should only grieve real heroes, like soldiers. These dismissive snubs and rude remarks are a result of inner issues or reactions to arise responses from others regarding Kobe’s death. They will seek to escape the story of his death and troll other social media users.
In the social media age though, this is what occurs when news happens. There is naturally an over flooding of content of which is sure to upset some. Some individuals will post and post about an event. Others within the news or light of society, will try to make memes about the death of an individual. Many are attempting to memorialize the event. Others may be over reaching and creating more drama than necessary. Hence, one will see in deaths, a rift between the over dramatic and the acrimonious. Where one will over dramatize the event, while the other downplays the death with sarcastic remarks.
While it is natural to grieve the loss of a famous individual, there can be pathological and obsessive grief reactions not correlated with the relationship with the person
Why is Kobe’s death more impactful? Why are the unknown people that die not recognized at such a dramatic and universal level? Why is the death of a soldier not mourned more universally than the death of a star? One is never dismissing the death of anyone, especially soldiers or others who may have died, with Kobe, in the tragic helicopter accident, but when famous people die, people notice. Maybe not due to importance of the person personally, or that this person did more or did less, but because famous people are known. A known individual, important or not, touches everyone. How it touches one may vary, but it nonetheless touches. A soldier’s death clearly is more impactful than a mere stranger. While the soldier is not personally known, he collectively represents our national heroes, but the impact of a famous person’s death may resonate deeper because that person is known. Whether this occurs for everyone or not depends on their military up-bringing, level of patriotism, and values. Obviously, a soldier’s death is far more important to the nation, but in regards to attachment, fame can make one feel closer.
Social grief is most intense when the death is of a famous person who is also a national hero. Here we have true objective importance to the entire nation and also the fame that allows subjective attachments to form. Please also remember to review our Grief Counseling Certification
This is probably why the death of a famous military leader, war hero, or king garnishes the most acknowledgement in society. It captures true objective importance and also the subjective relationships formed by the masses regarding the individual.
How the person touched you, even though it was never a friendship, depends on the value the person played in your life and what that person contributed socially to the nation and society, or to your own personal views and development. Hence, grief, even over someone you never met, is justified. The reaction though to not be pathological must be proportionate.
For one person, a particular singer may have created a song so important to the person’s life that it encouraged him or her on the darkest days. For another person, the magical shot Kobe hit that lifted the Lakers to another title, may have been a cherished moment with a father and son. These moments are not replaceable and play a key role in the person’s life narrative and when the person who shared in it, passes away, it creates a reaction. Famous individuals whether in a reciprocal relationship or not can sometimes unknowingly play an important part in someone’s life.
Grief Counselors must be careful not to judge those who grieve the loss of famous individuals but also must monitor appropriate grief reactions that are not a result of a unhealthy and obsessive bond. Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.
Whether pathological reactions, bitter reactions, or true sad social reactions proportionate to the death exist, there will always be reactions to the death of a famous person in any social sphere because it forces one to wrestle with the notion of death.
If you would like to learn more about Grief Counseling or would like to become certified in Grief Counseling then please review the American Academy of Grief Counseling’s certification program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The Grief Counseling Certification is a four year certification and open to behavioral health and healthcare professionals. The program is also open to those in ministry and care of the grieving.
Seasonal depression in January is very common. The festivities of the previous year and holidays are over and one is left with the grey, cold and dreary reality of January. With less sun and light, it is naturally a depressive setting. One who is already sad or even one who is mentally drained, or become sick may succumb to a type of seasonal depression.
The winter blues can play a big role in seasonal depression. Please also review our Grief Counseling Program
It is important to notice if you are slipping into a seasonal depression and if needed seek help, but there are ways to cope with the January blues. It is encouraged to remain physical active at a gym and find time to keep oneself in shape. Staying in shape can give pride and self esteem to a dreary setting. Also, consider a hobby to keep busy or a social group to be part of. Favorite shows or special treats are also a way to keep oneself happy. Go out to eat more or go to a movie. Try to make a normal dreary weekday special by doing something!
The article, “‘Blue Monday’ Depression Peak Isn’t Real, But Seasonal Blues Are. Here’s What Do To About Them” from CBS Baltimore looks more at the idea of seasonal depression, especially in regards the third Monday of January. The article states,
“There is generally more sadness in the winter time and January is not uncommon at all for overall more sadness among folks,” said Dr. Ravi Shah, a psychiatrist at Irving Medical Center at Columbia University. “So rather than dial in to one specific day, I think the more interesting question is what it is about the winter that affects our mood.”
Whether a certain day can be more depressing or not is less likely but what is likely that winter in general can depress many people. Some can stay above it and cope better than others but others need help and motivation. Please also review our Grief Counseling Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.
