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Counseling Clients Through Crisis, Danger and Harm

Posted on by Mark Moran

In counseling, especially Trauma Informed Care counseling, counselors will not always discuss issues of the past.  Trauma from the past can scar emotionally and create many present issues, but many crisis situations exist also in the present.  Counselors or social workers or pastoral caregivers may discover clients that are in distress due to day to day threats and dangers.  This creates a difficult situation for counselors to discern legal and ethical obligations to protect someone from harm versus situations that while potential dangerous are not imminent and require the empathetic and therapeutic relationship to resolve.  New counselors have especially deeper concerns in this murky waters, while more seasoned counselors have a better understanding when and how to report, hospitalize or walk with a person in crisis that is facing danger or harm.  In this blog article, we will review various situations and how to deal with them, as well as important concepts in the therapeutic relationship that can help respect the autonomy and dignity of the person while also protecting the person.

Understanding how to help clients in potential or imminent danger and crisis. Please also review AIHCP’s Healthcare Certifications

Please also review AIHCP’s multiple certification programs in mental and behavioral health, including programs in Crisis Intervention, Grief Counseling, Christian Counseling and Trauma Informed Care.

The Importance of the Therapeutic Relationship in Resolving Crisis

Cochran points out that wrong decisions in counseling can have drastic consequences in helping those in crisis.  This means that following ethical and legal protocols are key, but assessing imminent danger and potential danger is a key skill.  Furthermore, even if as a counselor, one prescribes and writes down a plan for one to follow, there is never guarantee a client will listen. Many refuse to listen, or if feel coerced into doing something, fail to completely fulfill it because they do not believe in the course of action (2021, p. 222).  This is where not only discernment and assessment come into play but also understanding the dynamic role of the therapeutic relationship and how it can help a client in potential danger or even in some cases, imminent danger, a way to properly find safety without violating the person’s autonomy.  It is far more purposeful to help a person not only escape crisis and danger but understand how to progress and continue to heal and find better ways to to avoid it in the future.

Within the therapeutic relationship, Cochran emphasizes instilling within the client self responsibility that preserves dignity and integrity of the client with less restrictive interventions (2021, p. 222).  Why?  Simply because this allows the person to own the situation, understand the danger, be proactive in finding safety and share in the decision making process for finding that safety or care.  If this means convincing someone who is suicidal to admit oneself to a psych unit at a hospital, or help a person report an abuser, it is also best to guide and help the client make decisions with the counselor so the client can be fully on board.  When clients doubt, or question, or feel forced, they many times abandon the course of action and this is why the therapeutic relationship is so critical in helping clients escape danger.  Of course, unfortunately, there are cases where the client refuses to listen to reason, or refuses to report a crime, or puts oneself in harms way.  This is when a counselor reluctantly must obey legal obligations as a licensed counselor to protect a client.  Obviously these situations involve imminent danger, criminal activity, and a client unwilling to work with the counselor in a plan of action.  In addition to trying to utilize the counseling relationship to foster the best plans, it is also critical for the counselor to employ unconditional positive regard for the client and not just merely hear the situation, but to accept the person and the feelings behind it.  While one may be expressing self harm, or threat of being hurt by others, or hurting others, the counselor needs to employ empathy to help the person not only choose the best option but to also help the person heal.  Instead of judging, the counselor needs to hear the pain to better help the person correct the story (Cochran, 2021, p. 223).

Cochran points out that these situations of imminent threat to a client are some of the most difficult ones for counselors (2021, p. 249).   When dealing with suicidal clients, or domestic abuse victims, leave any counselors, much less new counselors feel a strong stress level when dealing with life and death.  Cochran points out that one of the biggest fears is never being 100 percent sure.  If a client completes a non-self harm agreement, a counselor can be left with a nervous feeling if the client will keep his or her word and not harm oneself.  In addition, Cochran points out that many times, counselors can be preoccupied with liability.  Rightfully so, liability is a key concern, and when necessary, legal actions need taken, but to focus solely on liability at the expense of the over-all situation and maintaining focus on the client, then larger errors can occur in the handling of a situation (2021, p. 252).  In addition to rookie jitters, lack of self confidence or experience, many new counselors sometimes also fear coordination with other counselors and professionals.  They may fear this may broach confidentiality but in many agencies, clients are seen by numerous other professionals and the seal of confidentiality is within the staff.  In addition, many times,  the discussions of imminent danger can be discussed with family, or other professionals due to legal laws (2021, p. 253-254).   If within the therapeutic relationship, family or other professional’s opinions can be inserted into the session without taking control away from the client.  These situations since they are so life altering sometimes need other minds and ideas and experiences to help provide the best outcome for the client.  When the client is working with the team and following a plan, instead of fighting against it and being forced into something, then these are the best situations.  Unfortunately sometimes, not all situations are ideal nor the existence of a therapeutic relationship’s existence.

Situations of Crisis that Can be Potentially or Imminent in Threat or Harm

Most situations of crisis that pose potential to imminent levels of harm include suicidal ideation, domestic violence and sexual abuse.  It is always best to utilize a therapeutic relationship in fostering the best play of action as opposed to arbitrary decisions, albeit sometimes when clients refuse to accept themselves, drastic decisions that may not fix the problem long term, but at least protect the client short term must be applied.

Helping those in distress can be difficult when trying to weight and balance legal duties as a counselor and also the autonomy of a client. The therapeutic relationship attempts to honor both

In all situations, it is best to help clients make the plan and be part of it.  Cochran points out that it may be tempting to take over and make it your plan for the client’s safety, but a counselor wants a client to have personal investment and ownership of a plan (2021, p. 225).   In planning, Cochran also calls for these situations to specifics in each plans that looks at all pitfalls or “what ifs” to help a client navigate the dangers of the crisis.  In addition, when a clients hint or speculate about things that may seem harmful, it is the duty of the counselor to error on the side of caution to broach the subject when necessary and even more so, say the words of “suicide”, or “abuse” if necessary to bring to the light the situation.  If a counselor feels a dangerous situation was implied, it should be saved for the end of the session to counter, but within the next few minutes to redirect to what was said to have a clear understanding of the danger the client is facing (2021, p. 226).

The Situation of Suicidal Threats

Suicide is nothing to ignore.  Many times, individuals dismiss these threats as attention seeking, or merely a state of momentary sadness.  While sometimes they may be benign statements, counselors, nor anyone should ever under estimate a possible suicidal threat.  Instead each needs to be taken seriously and with compassion and without judgement.  Each statement needs confronted and completely understood to see if it is merely a statement, or a wish that has potential or imminent harm intended.  Suicide assessment charts are common place in any counseling office.  These guides help counselors assess and discern situations but also help counselors better work with those who feel this way.

Counselors when broaching the subject of suicide, need to identify a plan of the person.  This plan entails why, when and how a person would kill oneself.  By discussing the details of each plan, counselors and trauma informed care specialists can better ascertain if the risk is minimal and requires therapeutic counseling or if it does pose a true and valid threat.  If it is a legitimate threat or desire, counselors need to determine the lethality of the plan.  The how of one wishes to kill oneself can be very revealing.  If one merely hopes to crash into a tree, or punch oneself, as opposed to shooting oneself, overdosing, or leaving a car running in a garage, then plans that involve less likely hood of death can be categorized as a lower risk level.   However, if more lethal methods are described, then the plan needs to be taken far more seriously.  Compounding the seriousness and lethality of the threat, counselors need to address if the means to carry out a plan is possible.  If a client owns a gun, or has a script that he or she could overdose on, then the level of imminent threat becomes a reality.

Counselors, however, can look for other clues to see the mindset of a client.  Clients may casually state I would like to kill myself, but it may hurt my family too much (Cochran, 2021, 229), or may state what would my baby do at home?  These types of clues are good ways to open the mind of the client to the counselor to better assess and determine.  In addition to preventative factors, counselors should look for future orientation (Cochran, 2021, p. 229).  If a client speaks of chores, events, or work schedules in the next coming weeks, then it is a good sign of no imminent threat, but if clients dismiss schedules, or events, or show no care these things, then a more imminent harm conclusion is warranted.   Another closely related clue to imminent threat is switch or sudden change in emotion about life.  If a client suddenly cares nothing about family, hobbies, or sports, or whatever interest that anchored to his or her reality, then this is a sign of danger that a counselor should take seriously (Cochran, 2021, p. 229).  In addition, a counselor should question the client on previous attempts of suicide.  Those with previous attempts pose a more serious threat to themselves.  Also, a counselor should discuss drug and alcohol abuse and the role it plays on inhibitions in regards to a person questioning life and whether to take it or not.

Through therapeutic counseling, the relationship in these conversations needs to end with some type of non-self harm contract.  The contract should include a time table of security, as well as persons to call if one feels sad or depressed or intrusive thoughts of harming oneself appear.  With this contract is safety planning, where the counselor attempts to receive from the client a promise of no self harm at least between sessions, as well as a call list of individuals that can help, as well as a promise to avoid substances that can limit inhibitions to prevent suicide (Cochran, 2021, p. 231).  One of the most important aspects of a plan is also removing any means that may exist.  If a person has access to a gun, then their is a promise to remove it, and if necessary facilitated through a family member.  If prescription medications are available, then the scripts are removed from the home or access of the person.

Some plans may not be able to be completed merely between the word of a counselor and client.  Some plans may need temporary hospitalization, or family intervention.  It is best that these plans are accepted by the client.  Hospitalization is important for individuals who cannot promise their own safety or commit to a plan.  It is good during this plan to discuss how the process will occur and the potential costs.  It may be helpful to to guide a client to the best facility to meet his or her needs.  It is also best to include family in this decision but also to not be afraid to ask for professional peer advice.   If a client is a threat to him or herself and refuses these measures, then unfortunately, the short term safety of the patient outweighs the therapeutic alliance (Cochran, 2021, p. 237).  It is always the best to have a client on board.  Good counseling and good relationships foster the trust for a client to follow the suggestion of a counselor he or she perceives as genuine and trustworthy.  Unfortunately, many in mental health may only see a client once or twice or in an emergency situation and may be forced making the tough but right decision on the spot.  It is however important to at least try to work with the client and empathetically guide them instead of stripping the person of all autonomy without conversation and empathy and respect.

Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse

A client who discloses sexual abuse or domestic violence poses a real ethical issue for some counselors.  A counselor is ordered to report crimes of physical or sexual abuse.  How it is reported is another thing.  When joined together with the client in reporting physical abuse or sexual assault, a victim can retain autonomy and healing.  A victim may have a difficult time reporting in confidence this horrific trauma and may have conflicting feelings for the perpetrator, or remain in intense fear, or have shame about the story becoming public.  It is imperative to reflect these concerns with empathy and non-judgement but also reflect the imminent danger and legal responsibilities of the situation.  In previous blogs, we have discussed the importance of safety, security and trust in trauma informed care and this is especially important here.

Those facing potential harm need the ear of a good counselor to help guide them and protect them with an appropriate plan for the given situation. Please also review AIHCP’s Healthcare Certifications

Situations that do not denote reporting that lack physical violence or sexual assault can be more tricky.  There is definitely potential for harm and it may be imminent but has yet occurred.  In cases of emotional and verbal abuse, a very careful plan must be construed that utilizes the strengths of the therapeutic relationship.  Cochran points out that many relationships in crisis that carry emotional and verbal dysfunction may be unhappy but not necessarily imminent to harm (2021, p. 248).   It is important for counselors to understand the underlying causes for the dysfunction, approach ways to reduce triggers by both parties,  as well as ways to help them manage emotions.  Counselors should also seek to understand the past history of violence, if any physical violence occurred in the past to help ascertain the situation and its lethality.  Counselors may also suggest avoidance of high risk activities that lower inhibitions.  The use of drugs and drinking can correlate with violence.  Finally, whether, verbal or physical, anger in the home can be detrimental to children.  Special considerations need to be discussed regarding what children hear and what they feel regarding the uneasy tension (Cochran, 2021, p. 249).

If a situation does not warrant reporting yet has potential or imminent possible harm scenarios, a plan needs developed that guarantees the safety of the client.   Discussions on how to remove oneself from the situation, de-escalate, who to call, or where to possibly stay should all be highlighted.   Counselors are there in the therapeutic relationship to discuss the possible hardships and issues that surround all decisions (Cochran, 2021, p. 249).

In some cases, the counselor may speaking with the offender.  This may occur in solo sessions or couple counseling-The offender who admits to verbal or emotional abuse or to past incidents.  In this therapeutic setting, the counselor is to display unconditional positive regard despite any disgust or disapproval.  The point is this client or person has come for help.  They may at first make excuses but through empathy and good counseling skills, a person can start to see what he or she is doing is wrong in the situation.  This involves patience and no judgement to help facilitate the change necessary internally for the person to seek reform instead of being told to do something.  The counselor can help these individuals identify their own triggers, as well as circumstances, or situations that affect them.  The counselor can also identify if the client had been abused in the past and how to help the person heal and not pass on the same abuse.  Plans can involve identifying triggers, avoiding substances, and seeking the necessary help that may be beyond individual counseling sessions (Cochran, 2021, p. 243).

Conclusion

Counseling is not always about past trauma or issues that do not pertain to present potential or imminent harm.  Counselors need to understand their legal obligations when presented to report crimes or potential harm to a client or others, but they can also employ the therapeutic relationship which understands the pain of the individual and the distress of the entirety of the situation.  Sometimes this involves helping the person come to the conclusion that direct help beyond counseling is required, other times it may involve a plan for non imminent or criminal threats to a person’s safety.  The counselor in the therapeutic relationship manages the crisis with empathy but also respects the dignity and autonomy of the individual in coming to logical conclusions and safety plans that protect the individual and others.  When a client works with a plan instead of being coerced, then healing is more possible.  Unfortunately, some clients who are victims of crimes, or are a harm to themselves that refuse to work with a counselor, must be hospitalized, or the situation reported despite the pain it causes.  These are difficult times for counselors, especially new counselors.  Hence, it is important to employ a health therapeutic relationship when applicable, assess situations, consult with other professional peers and make the best decision for the welfare of the client.  It is not an immediate assessment but one that is made with many considerations, facts, and complications considered for the best outcome that respects the law but also safety of a client.

Please also review AIHCP’s healthcare certification programs in trauma informed care, crisis intervention and grief counseling

Always remember though

“The American Psychological Association (APA) offers ethical guidance through its “Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct.” Under these principles, therapists can disclose information without client consent if deemed necessary to protect the client or others from harm. This authorization for disclosure also extends to situations where the client has given permission, or when required by law, such as when providing professional services, seeking consultation from other professionals, or obtaining payment for services.” (Deibel, 2024).

Trauma Informed Care Specialists, those in crisis counseling, and any licensed mental and behavioral health professional, as well as healthcare professional can face these situations and must have a clear understanding what to do but also have the skills necessary to facilitate health client interaction that leads to joint conclusions when possible.

Please also review AIHCP’s multiple healthcare certifications and see which ones best meet your academic and professional goals.

Resource

Cochran, J & Cochran, N. (2021). “The Heart of Counseling: Practical Counseling Skills Through Therapeutic Relationships” 3rd Ed. Routledge

Additional AIHCP Blogs

Suicide Assessment. Click here

Suicide Lethality.  Click here

When Trauma Emerges in Counseling.  Click here

Additional Resources

Health Information Privacy. US Department of Health and Human Services.  Access here

Barsky, A. (2023). “Duty to Protect and the “Red Flag” Option”. Psychology Today.  Access here

“Guidelines for working with clients when there is a risk of serious harm to others” APS. Click here

Diebel, A. (2024). “What is a Therapist’s ‘Duty to Warn’ and Why is it so Important?” Grow Therapy. Click here

 

Trauma Informed Care: Dynamics of Abuse and Power

Posted on by Mark Moran

Those who suffer abuse can sometimes fall through the cracks of society.  Individuals, organizations, churches, establishments, or others can indirectly or directly be the cause of ignoring abuse and allowing to continue due to internal false notions, or external fears.  Those in pastoral care, healthcare or mental health must be the final line of defense in identifying abuse.  This may result in identifying initial abuse simply through a medical checkup, or a casual statement to the school counselor, or concerned friend, but sometimes, abuse is discovered years and years later in counseling.  This is why it is so critical to make trauma informed care such a critical aspect of all counseling.  So many issues emerge in life that are connected to unresolved trauma and it is so important for professionals report it as well as if within the scope of one’s practice to treat it.   Counselors and pastors need to see themselves as guardians and watchers for abuse and trauma in all individuals.

Trauma Informed Care experts know how to identify trauma and abuse and how to help others overcome it. Please also review AIHCP’s Behavioral Health Certifications

In this article, we will shortly look at the nature of abuse and the dynamics of power and its role in covering abuse.

Please also review AIHCP’s Mental and Behavioral Health programs in Trauma Informed Care, Grief Counseling, and Crisis Counseling.

Safeguarding and Abuse

Compton and Patterson refer to individuals who protect the innocent from abuse as safeguarders (2024, p. 1).   Anyone who wishes to promote a safe environment can be a safeguarder.  Whether a observant friend, or those in pastoral ministry, or those within healthcare or mental health agencies.  Everyone is called to look out for others whether the person is abused by a stranger, or a friend, or family, or within a religious institution or organization or agency.    Compton and Patterson encourage others to be diligent to identify abuse by looking for signs of abuse or possible risks of for potential abuse.   They emphasize in addition to looking to also listen to victims with empathy and non-judgmental attitudes that provide a safe place for them to speak.  In addition to listening, safeguarding requires equipping the victim/individual/survivor with the tools to heal, build new relationships and find the necessary resources to move forward.  Finally, Compton and Patterson emphasize the duty to speak out against abuse, report it and advocate for transparency within organizations that look to hide abuse (2024, p. 2).

Abuse itself is not always physical or sexual in nature, but abuse can also be verbal and emotional and in some cases, these minor forms of abuse can elevate to physical.  While physical abuse is constrained to slapping, punching, strangling, burning or restraining and sexual to improper touches, exposure, unconsented recording, or rape itself, verbal and emotional abuse takes far more subtle forms.  Emotional and verbal abuse can include guilt tripping, extreme jealousy, constant monitoring, name calling, insulting, sarcasm, threats, ghosting, avoidance and silent treatments (Compton & Patterson, 2024, p. 14).   Spiritual abuse at the hand of a partner or even religious leader is common to control and manipulate.  Compton and Patterson point out that misuse of scripture can lead to manipulation, especially to donate, or give up possessions, as well as to utilize absolute authority in other’s daily lives.  When a religious leader claims undisputed authority from God without checks or balances, that leader is able to order submission to any decisions or actions he or she takes.  Ultimately, the person is made to think that their service to the church or religious figure oversteps every other duty in life because the person’s salvation depends upon it (2024, p. 17).

The Power of Authority

Relationships that pend on authority and power of one over another are not partnerships but unequal relationships.  When a manager, president, coach, pastor, or priest teaches, speaks, or instructs, there is a sense of power and influence over another (Compton and Patterson, 2024, p. 28).  This is not necessarily a structure of evil, but an important part of organization and society, but the inner dynamics of these powers of one over another can lead to evil actions when misused.  Rinaldi states, “Abuse flourishes within a system that emphasizes absolute power of leaders, encourages unflinching submission and obedience of followers and avoids meaningful accountability (Compton and Patterson, 2024, p. 26).   Authority can easily be corrupted.  Authority as a relationship to another carries a huge responsibility.   A coach’s responsibility via his/her authority to bring out the best of his/her players, to train them, and teach them and prepare them for games.  When this responsibility deviates from these norms, then his/her power is misused and tempted to abuse.  Additionally, due to the existence of this relationship, it can easily blur lines and lead to potential misuse of it.  Compton and Patterson point out that any leader, pastor, or manager needs to clearly understand the limits and extent of their power, as well as the consequences of misusing that power and the effects of vulnerable individuals under them within this relationship (2024, p. 29).

Many misuse authority. Counselors can help individuals overcome the manipulation.

Those who misuse authority purposely exploit those under their control.  To confuse, justify and promote compliance, spiritual leaders will utilize spiritual texts, managers will utilize company goals and professional needs, coaches will use team first mottos or personal goals as ways to contort and confuse the victim.  This leads to a grooming phase where those in authority utilize their power to attract the victim outside of the arena of their relationship into other situations.  Utilizing scripture, or company goals, or team needs, the perpetrator will work on altering the victim’s conscience and to make them question his/her values.  Abusers with authority to cover their crime will look to normalize the abnormal and justify it.  For instance, a coach may tell a player that this behavior in the locker room is normal and goes on in all locker rooms across the country.  The victim who may be scared to question, or be brainwashed and manipulated into compliance may be in awe of the person, or afraid to lose a job, or a spot on the team.  This leads to a cycle of abuse (Compton and Patterson, 2024, p. 31-33).  The authority misused also leads to threats later.  The abuser who fears accountability or prosecution will use his/her authority to terrify the abused into silence.  A priest may tell a young child that no-one will believe them or that if they say anything, they will go to Hell.  A politician may tell an intern, that if anything is mentioned, the person will never work in politics again.  This disgusting misuse of power and abuse unfortunately happens everyday and it up to those in behavioral health, healthcare and pastoral professionals to uproot it and expose it to the light.  This is an important aspect of trauma informed care!

The Dynamics of Authority and Coverup

It is important to realize that many individuals can become complicit in abuse.  Some may be more direct, while others are more indirect, but the complicity still remains.  Sometimes complicity at even more remote levels protect and shield the most dangerous abuses and keep victims trapped under the spell of dominance.   Abusers play a part in abuse by commanding or counseling or consenting to or flattering the perpetrator.  They can directly cause it or even participate within it.  Others who may not abuse or condone it even play a role in allowing abuse to exist by covering it up, remaining silent, preventing steps to expose, or not openly denouncing it.  These individuals in many ways are as dangerous as the abusers.  While they may not abuse or have a mental illness to abuse, they care more about image or position or finance than another human being in trauma.  Their crimes are an equal problem and a reason why so many institutional abuses continue within many organizations (2024, p. 12-14).   Many organizations, churches, schools, or agencies utilize shame, silence, or loyalty above truth.   Those who work for schools, universities, sporting teams, church positions, or organizational positions feel the pressure to protect the image of who they associate with, as well as who pays them.  In addition, many within cult-like churches will look for the greater good in promoting their silence, or feel as if their salvation is threatened if they question someone of religious authority.  This can lead to shame as well to encourage silence and foster the environment for abuse.

Many individuals are pushed into complicity via threats or loss of status when they witness abuse. Individuals must expose the crime at all costs

Compton and Patterson list some key concepts that lead one to complicity and silence.  Unity over truth leads those within the organizational structure to silence or dismiss those who call out questionable statements, or patterns or procedures.  In this case, the mission of the church or organization overplays the mission to protect individuals.  This leads to the greater good motif as well as the needs of the many over the need of the one as a way to justify a crime of abuse.  In addition, Compton and Patterson point out that authority over truth leads to the submission of women and children to do without question.  If a coach or pastor does something morally questionable, one is told or taught to dismiss it because there is a higher reason for the crime. This leads to diluting the idea that everyone sins or no-one is perfect when comparing it to an actual crime, and then proceeding to forgive the crime as if a minor issue.  Others within the organization or church who witness it, then look for reasons to justify the crime of their coach, hero, or pastor.   This leads to silence and also internal coverup over an actual crime under the guise of a simple sin that no-one needs to know about and that there must be “good reason” for.  In abusive church settings, the congregants are told not to gossip about a potential crime and are pushed to trust their leaders and to also only count on scripture as a source of good counsel over professional resources that would immediately report a crime (2024, p.23)

Trauma informed care probes for these signs of abuse and helps expose it.

Exposing and Preventing Abusive Systems

First, if you feel as a leader in whatever capacity you are over abusing your power and authority beyond its scope and environment, then reel it in and hold oneself accountable.  If outside the office, monitor those under your care and limit relationships that are not ethical.  Second, if you witness abuse, report it. Do not justify someone’s behavior, normalize it, or belittle a crime.

On a larger scale, trauma informed specialists, mental health and healthcare professionals must become advocates and face organizations that look to hide abuse.  This is not only legal and the law but also ethical and moral.  Sometimes it may seem whistle blowing is hurting oneself but character and maintaining one’s integrity is far greater than any position.  Whistle blowing on a favorite university program may hurt the program, or reporting one’s church may feel as if you endangered the holiness of it, but we need to separate the difference between a crooked and sick individual and our favorite team or church we attend.  Instead, we should be enraged that someone would abuse while wearing a collar within our faith, or if a coach would misuse the honor of coaching our favorite team to abuse others or permit abuse under his/her watch.  As mentioned earlier, we must be safeguarders and this must be vocational.   We are the reformers of our favorite institutions when we do report.  We are preserving the future of those institutions by reforming it and removing the scum that has invaded it via reporting it.  This is the mindset of a reporter.  Criminals must be exposed and removed from society, especially those who misuse power, exploit the vulnerable and emotionally and physically abuse others.

It is important to expose those who hurt the most vulnerable. Please also review AIHCP’s Mental and Behavioral Health programs

Politicians, pastors/priests/bishops, managers/CEOs, and coaches are not above the institution they are in or the people they serve or manage.  Their must be complete zero tolerance and complete transparency.  The reforms of the Catholic Church, while slow and painful, have produced fruits with more transparency that include not only reporting but also removing the alleged perpetrator with real life consequences.  Whether a company, church or university there must clear and unforgiving policies and procedures that let all those who hold authority of the dire consequences that will follow if one is guilty of misuse of power and abuse.  This transparency will not taint the view of the organization but actually prove that it cares about the vulnerable and individual over crime.  It takes courageous persons in dark times to stand up.  Victims are the most courageous by pushing forward and telling their story.  Those who report and those who seek to reform institutions are also courageous risking position, status and rejection.  Stopping abuse is a community and team effort!

Conclusion

Trauma Informed Care is always looking for signs of past trauma or abuse that may stem across the life span.  It looks to expose and challenge any abuser or institution that has committed the crime of abuse or misused authority.  As safeguarders, mental health as well as pastoral caregivers must not only help those with trauma and abuse but also be courageous enough to be whistle blowers and advocates for the abused, forcing those who misuse authority to face justice.

Please also review AIHCP’s Mental Health and Behavioral Health Certifications.  These programs include Crisis Intervention, Grief Counseling as well as Trauma Informed Care!

Additional Blog

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Resource

Compton, L & Patterson, T. (2024). “Skills for Safeguarding: A Guide to Preventing Abuse and Fostering Healing in the Church”. Intervarsity Press.

Additional Resources

“Reporting Suspected Child Abuse or Neglect: A Guide for Action” Department of Health and Human Services.  Access here

“The Psychology of Denial: How Abusers Manipulate, Deflect, and Deceive”. Carolyn Devers.  Access here

“Abuse of power: The psychology of abusive relationships” Estaban, P. (2023). In Focus.  Access here

Raypole, C. (2025). “How to Recognize the Signs of Emotional Abuse”.  Healthline. Access here

Brenner. A. (2020). “10 Red Flag Warning Signs of Abuse”.  Psychology Today.  Access here

 

Improving Relationships Video Blog

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Relationships-any relationships, but especially ones with a partner can be difficult.  Learning the biggest relationship issues and how to communicate can help others foster mutual respect, understanding and love between couples.  This video takes a closer look at counseling tips for improving relationships

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Behavioral Health Certifications: Psychology and the Fear of Monsters

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I. Introduction

The fear of monsters or TERAPHOBIA has permeated human culture throughout history, serving as a compelling lens through which to examine psychological anxieties and societal norms. Such fears often reflect deeper concerns, including the unknown, loss of control, and existential dread, which can manifest in various forms, from folklore to modern horror media. This essay seeks to explore the psychological underpinnings of these fears, particularly how monstrous figures symbolize our innermost anxieties. By drawing parallels between literary representations and psychological theories, we uncover the ways in which these fears can illuminate our understanding of the human condition. The phenomenon of monsters in narratives can be likened to the prophetic literature found in the Hebrew Bible, where fear is intimately tied to the moral and ethical discourse of society, drawing connections that reveal the nuanced relationship between fear, representation, and individual experience (Uhlenbruch F et al., 2016). In a similar vein, the analysis of art and its interpretations during wartime highlights the subjective nature of fear and memory, emphasizing that understanding these emotions is crucial for comprehending the broader context of human experience (Waters et al., 2017).

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What is the psychological reason for the human creation of monsters and fears of the make believe?

 

A. Definition of monsters in psychological context

In the psychological context, monsters often serve as metaphors for deep-seated fears and anxieties that individuals grapple with, illustrating the complex interplay between perception and reality. These entities may embody societal fears or personal traumas, which can manifest through various psychological pathways as described by Rachman’s theory of fear acquisition. This theory posits that fears can emerge through direct conditioning, vicarious learning, or through the transmission of information, revealing how external stimuli can shape an individuals understanding of monstrosity (Ajzen et al., 2001). Moreover, the societal stigmatization of certain behaviors and conditions contributes to the crafting of monsters within the psyche, emphasizing the harmful consequences of metaphorical dehumanization, as seen in discussions surrounding disability. This phenomenon not only reinforces boundaries of normality but also reflects how such narratives can lead to destructive social attitudes and actions, like the troubling concept of ‘mercy killing’ in response to perceived monstrosity (Waltz et al., 2008).

B. Overview of fear as a psychological phenomenon

Fear, as a psychological phenomenon, serves a critical role in human cognition and behavior, especially in the context of monstrous narratives. Traditionally regarded as an adaptive response, fear prepares individuals to confront perceived threats—whether real or imagined. This response is particularly evident in horror genres, where monsters symbolize deeper societal anxieties and moral dilemmas, thereby allowing audiences to explore their fears in a controlled environment. Such interaction can evoke feelings of pleasure and discomfort simultaneously, reflecting the complex interplay between fear and fascination. For instance, the interplay of sex and horror has been noted to elicit competing responses, resulting in both attraction and revulsion from viewers, suggesting that fear may not only be a mere reaction to threats but also a complex emotional experience that challenges societal norms, as discussed in (Jones et al., 2017). Ultimately, understanding fears role assists in unpacking the psychological motives behind our fascination with monsters, revealing its roots in cultural narratives and individual psychologies, as highlighted in (Burton et al., 2019).

Monsters sometimes represent deeper fears , symbols as well as humanity’s own corruption.
C. Importance of studying fear of monsters in psychology

The exploration of fear, particularly the fear of monsters, serves as a profound means of understanding psychological development and societal values. Monsters often symbolize our deepest anxieties, embodying fears of the unknown or unresolved trauma. By studying these fears, psychologists can unveil underlying emotional and cognitive processes that shape human behavior. This analysis can also encourage discussions about the nature of good and evil, paralleling Tolkiens exploration of beauty and despair in his narratives, which reveals how joy is often intertwined with sorrow and loss (Philpott et al., 2016). Furthermore, addressing the fear of monsters allows for a critical examination of societal beliefs, reflecting our collective fears and the ways these fears manifest in cultural narratives. This understanding is crucial for developing therapeutic interventions, as mitigating fear can ultimately lead to healthier coping mechanisms and a better comprehension of individual and shared human experiences (A Lathrop et al., 2015).

While fear can serve a protective device, teraphobia can cause unnecessary anxiety due to the irrational fear.  It can cause clinging in children, avoidance and cripple people from living life.  This can disrupt sleep and cause other emotional issues.  It can also cause nightmares and night terrors as well as create unhealthy ritualistic behaviors to face these fears.

II. Historical Perspectives on Monsters

The historical perspectives on monsters reveal a profound interplay between cultural narratives and psychological fears, reflecting societal anxieties that transcend time. In literature and mythology, monsters have often represented societal fears, embodying the unknown or the other in various forms. As these depictions evolved, they became reflections of the moral and cultural sentiments of their respective eras, revealing underlying societal concerns, such as justice and transgression. The work of positivist criminology illustrates this connection, positing that monsters—like criminal behavior—cannot be purely understood through scientific frameworks devoid of cultural context; they are instead shaped by the irrational tropes and images that society generates (Burton et al., 2019). Furthermore, the examination of prophetic literature in the Hebrew Bible highlights how monsters also symbolize warnings or prophetic truths, demonstrating their role in both societal critique and psychological exploration (Uhlenbruch F et al., 2016). Thus, the historical discourse on monsters serves as a window into the evolving fears and cultural dynamics of humanity.

A. Evolution of monster myths across cultures

The evolution of monster myths across cultures reflects deep-seated psychological fears that transcend geographical and temporal boundaries. Historically, monsters have served as embodiments of societal anxieties, from the grotesque beings of mythological narratives to contemporary representations in popular media. These creatures often symbolize the unknown, encapsulating fears related to mortality, chaos, and the supernatural. As detailed in the exploration of cognitive dissonance, individuals grapple with conflicting beliefs about empirical knowledge and transcendent forces, leading to a persistent discomfort that fuels the creation and adaptation of monster myths (Montell et al., 2001). Furthermore, examining prophetic literature through the lens of science fiction reveals how modern cultures reinterpret ancient fears, linking both the imaginative and empirical realms (Uhlenbruch F et al., 2016). This cyclical process of myth creation not only reflects cultural values but also offers insights into the psychological mechanisms that drive humanitys enduring fascination with the monstrous.

Whether it is Dracula, loch ness, or bigfoot, monster stories evolve across cultures.  Some monster myths surprisingly share similarities across cultures to point towards a common consciousness of human fear that is universal.

The development of the mythos and folklore of monsters has many origins and can affect individuals in pathological ways that may not have been intended

 

B. Psychological interpretations of historical monsters

The phenomenon of historical monsters often serves as a lens through which we can explore societal fears and psychological interpretations. These figures, whether real or mythologized, reflect the cultural anxieties and moral uncertainties of their times. For instance, the grotesque behaviors attributed to notorious figures not only illustrate individual psychopathy but also reveal broader societal concerns about deviance and order. The study of these monsters allows us to analyze the inherent contradictions in criminological thought; as noted, “positivist criminology confronts an inherent contradiction in purporting to develop a purely scientific account of phenomena that are defined by the moral and cultural sentiments of a society” (Burton et al., 2019). Furthermore, examining these figures provides insights into the collective psyche, suggesting that their “marginality” and the fear they evoke can illuminate deeper truths about a societys self-image and moral landscape (Chin et al., 2011). Thus, historical monsters are integral to understanding both psychological trauma and cultural identity.

 

C. The role of folklore in shaping fear of monsters

Folklore serves as a vital cultural construct, profoundly shaping human perceptions of fear, particularly in the context of monsters. It embodies collective anxieties and societal fears, transforming them into recognizable narratives that both illustrate and amplify the psychological terror associated with the unknown. For instance, the concept of Thin Places in Celtic mythology reflects an enduring belief in liminal spaces where the veil between the ordinary and the supernatural becomes tenuous, creating an atmosphere ripe for the emergence of fearful entities (Healy et al., 2014). Similarly, during the tumultuous period of World War II, the Italian populaces collective fear gave rise to the mysterious figure of Pippo, a spectral aircraft that unites their anxieties about warfare and the unseen dangers lurking above them (Perry et al., 2003). These examples illustrate how folklore not only reflects but actively constructs a societal framework for understanding and contextualizing fear, particularly in the manifestation of monstrous figures.

Many stories of monsters also delve into deeper human lessons about humanity, corruption and also protecting the self from that corruption.  Monsters serve as a fear device to keep us away from forbidden things that can corrupt or hurt us.  The stories of not entering the forest at night in both European and American folklore all teach of the inherent dangers that exist in the woods at night.  Teaching children to lock the door, or not to wander off, are all important lessons to protect but through that use of fear to protect, phobias can later develop that create irrational fears of being alone or walking in the woods.

I think many religious traditions have their teachings as well on evil.  While many do not delve as far as the mythos of monsters and folkore surrounding monsters, many monster architypes develop from religious concepts based off of demonic.  For many, the demonic is fearful and real enough to add any other dimension of monster in the world.  For this reason, while closely connected, demons need out of respect to religious traditions to be categorized differently.  While beliefs are beliefs and not up to empiric observation, the concept of demons surrounds religious dogma, while folklore delves more into the imagination.  This is not to say, demon fear and craze can erupt from ultra religious minds and create pathology but the dogmatic belief of demons within the creeds of the the faiths remains something different in extreme than monster fears but at the same time, something open to possible extremism.  I think this needs to be understood when looking at the human experience and demonology.

 

III. Psychological Theories of Fear

An understanding of psychological theories of fear provides significant insights into the anxiety surrounding monsters, both real and fantastical. Rachmans theory of fear acquisition posits that fears can emerge through direct conditioning, vicarious learning, and information processing; notably, childhood experiences with frightening narratives can shape perceptions of monsters ((Ajzen et al., 2001)). For instance, exposure to stories about monsters can foster fear-related beliefs, demonstrating how verbal information influences emotional responses. This interplay is particularly evident in children, whose fear may be heightened based on the source of the information, such as whether it comes from a trusted adult or peer ((Ajzen et al., 2001)). Furthermore, the broader implications of fear reveal how cultural narratives surrounding monstrosity draw on psychological principles, blending empirical research with societal beliefs. This intersection suggests that psychological frameworks not only explain individual fears but also highlight the cultural constructs that shape our collective understanding of monstrosity ().

A. Theories of fear development in childhood

Theories of fear development in childhood offer insights into why children often harbor irrational fears, particularly regarding monsters. Rachmans theory of fear acquisition posits that these fears can develop through several pathways, including direct conditioning, vicarious learning, and information or instruction, suggesting a multifaceted origin for phobias that include the fear of fantastical creatures (Ajzen et al., 2001). Moreover, the influence of information, particularly verbal cues from significant adults, can substantially alter a childs fear-related beliefs. For instance, children exposed to narratives about monsters from trusted figures demonstrated increased fear perceptions, highlighting the power of verbal instruction in shaping their understanding and responses to the unknown (Ajzen et al., 2001). Additionally, the concept of strangeness further elucidates the conditions under which fears arise; as children encounter unfamiliar stimuli that disrupt their sense of control, they often react with alarm, thus perpetuating their fear of such entities .

Children can develop fear of monsters due to social digestion of material, beliefs handed down, or stories intended to protect them but ultimately detrimental to their psychological health

Ultimately, how many children  fear the dark, the monster in the closet or under the bed.  These fears have roots in observation, digestion of social content, and stories handed down, whether for the protection of a child to avoid something, or out of pure superstition.  Yet these stories can cause intense anxiety in children, sleep disturbances, night terrors, fears of the dark, avoidance of certain rooms, as well as clinging to parents.  Children with these fears need comforted to avoid more trauma, as well as reassurances and awards for being brave and facing fears.

When teraphobia becomes crippling then serious mental help is needed.  Some individuals rooted in deep superstition, or certain belief can become terrified beyond the rituals of protection but also negatively affected in their daily activities or stricken with a deep sense of fear.  Others may face psychosis.  Many due to this can face deep trauma that is unneeded but still nevertheless present.

B. The impact of media on fear perception

The media definitely has a big impact on how scared people get, especially when it comes to “monsters”—whether we’re talking about real creatures or just scary ideas. You can see this in the way the news spreads really dramatic stories. For instance, when there’s a lot of coverage of something rare, like kids getting abducted, it can cause a huge panic, even if the actual danger isn’t as high as people think. That whole “stranger danger” idea is a good example. It’s often based on emotional stories and a general sense of moral panic pushed by the media, which can make it hard to have a reasonable conversation about how to keep kids safe (Wodda et al., 2018). Plus, the way people with disabilities are often talked about—using metaphors that make them seem weak or broken—keeps fear alive. It reinforces stereotypes, makes differences seem like problems, and ultimately, dehumanizes entire groups of people (Waltz et al., 2008). So, the things we see in the media not only make society more afraid but also make it harder to understand what the real risks are. What we really need are stories that are more thoughtful and show the world as it is, instead of just trying to shock us.

C. Cognitive-behavioral approaches to overcoming fear

Cognitive-behavioral methods offer solid strategies for tackling irrational fears, like a fear of monsters, using systematic intervention. A key piece of this is cognitive restructuring. Essentially, this involves spotting and then challenging distorted beliefs about threats we think we see. Research points to how the information kids get really matters; it can reshape those fear-based beliefs. Verbal narratives, studies show, can profoundly change how children view scary things, like monsters, more so than visual aids (Ajzen et al., 2001). Also, it’s helpful to understand how early anxiety and what’s happening at home plays into all this. This can make treatment better. Addressing, say, maternal anxiety and temperament becomes pretty vital for prevention (Briggs-Gowan et al., 2010). By mixing cognitive restructuring with exposure therapy—gradually facing fears in a safe way—people can build resilience and dial down the emotional pain these long-held phobias cause.

Counselors can help individuals identify irrational fears, as any phobias, and cognitively approach the reality behind it.  It is important to validate the emotions behind the fears but to help the person recognize the irrationality behind them intellectually.   In addition, counselors can help individuals who may have phobia induced trauma and face these fears through controlled exposure of those fears over a modified period of time.   Meditation and breathing to help calm anyone with unneeded anxiety are also excellent ways to help individuals face phobias and trauma itself.   Many other coping skills can be utilized as well that best help the person.   Finally, positive reinforcement is key in helping progress.

Ultimately it comes to cognitive recognition of the irrational nature of the fear, learning to face the fear through exposure and utilizing coping strategies to face those fears.

IV. The Role of Monsters in Modern Society

Monsters, those figures of dread, have always been crucial cultural icons. They embody our deepest anxieties, and their place in today’s world really mirrors how complex our minds are. Theories about how we learn to fear things, like Rachman’s pathways theory, shows us that our fears aren’t just there; they’re grown through what we experience ourselves, what we see others go through, and even what we hear about, especially when we’re kids (Ajzen et al., 2001). You see, through the stories we take in from media, monsters tend to become these figures that represent bigger issues in our society. They sort of act like a lens, helping us deal with what makes us uneasy. This dance between our culture and our fears makes you wonder if just cold, hard science can really explain why we do what we do and how we feel, which is pretty evident when you look at how criminology has changed over time (Burton et al., 2019). As the monsters we see in stories today evolve, they give us a peek into what we’re all afraid of. It allows us to have conversations about right and wrong, the rules of society, and those parts of us that just don’t make sense. And that’s really why they continue to be relevant in understanding the human psyche of our world

 

A. Monsters as metaphors for societal fears

Monsters popping up in stories, you know, kind of show what a society’s afraid of, especially as those fears change. Take zombies, for example. They weren’t always about the end of the world type stuff, but now they’re like, a big symbol of our worries about everything falling apart and a general sense of “what’s the point?” Their historical backdrop, as some have pointed out, reveals how they echo worries about revolutions, gender roles, and even different political ideas, really capturing a wide range of societal troubles (Mendoza et al., 2016). Then, there’s the uncanny valley idea. That helps explain why things that are almost human, but not quite—like, well, zombies—freak us out so much (Mendoza et al.). It’s like a built-in survival thing, trying to keep us away from danger and sickness. It really just shows how our brains and what we’re afraid of are all tangled up together in our culture. So, these monsters are more than just fun to watch; they give us a peek into what society’s worried about and what’s going on in our collective minds, generally speaking.

Societal fears of the dark, unknown or the woods are a source for creation of the unknown monster lurking. Please also review AIHCP’s behavioral health certifications

 

B. The influence of horror films and literature on fear

Horror films and literature, in their vastness, have significantly molded how society perceives fear, especially the unease we feel about monsters—both the real ones and those we conjure in our minds. These narratives, frequently combining psychological tension with vividly descriptive scenes, manage to reach deep into our most basic fears, letting us face the unknown from a secure vantage point. It’s a portrayal of monsters, frightening yet strangely captivating, that seems to embody broader societal anxieties, in most cases. This sort of depiction encourages a distinctive look at what makes humans vulnerable (Uhlenbruch F et al., 2016). The way fantastical aspects mix with emotions we can all identify with does more than just entertain; it prompts us to think hard about what fear really is. Then there’s the effect of these genres on how we see authority figures, which offers further insight into the intricate dance between how things are shown and how audiences take them (Dagaz et al., 2011). Generally speaking, horror becomes a reflection of our deepest terrors, offering a mirror—and a lens—through which we examine the shadows that exist both inside and outside us.

I think some good examples as well include Mary Shelley’s “Frankenstein” where we sometimes discover that the true monster is not the monster itself but who we are and what we can be.  Finding the monster within and using the monsters as symbols of the worst mankind has to offer sometimes is a way to express evil.  As human beings, we all fear evil and our deepest worst side.  Again, if we look at the Robert Stevenon’s classic “Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde” we see the motif and fear of the monster inside of all of us.

In addition, we see this darker and evil side of humanity in the many zombie movies and series that show the corruption of humanity.  This same motif is found in the folklore of vampires and the corruption of humanity.

 

C. The therapeutic use of monsters in psychology

Monsters, frequently thought of as just products of our minds, can actually be quite helpful in therapy. They act as stand-ins, in a way, for what we’re afraid of and the battles we fight inside ourselves. Psychology suggests that picturing our problems as monsters can assist individuals in dealing with doubt and difficulty. The idea is to change these anxieties into something we can handle, not something that overwhelms us. This approach aligns with the idea of being in-between, as described in (Hay A et al., 2016), where people are working out who they are and how they see themselves. By thinking of emotional problems as monsters, people in therapy can sort of put those fears outside themselves, which then makes it easier to talk about them and start feeling better. What’s more, neurorhetoric shows us that these monster metaphors not only connect with our psychological challenges but also change how we react to fear, which makes the therapy even more effective (Jewel et al., 2017). Seen in this light, monsters become useful for building strength and helping people grow, as they navigate their psychological landscapes.

V. Conclusion

To summarize, when we consider the relationship between psychological ideas and that common fear of monsters, we can glean interesting points about why we behave the way we do and how we grow as people. This discussion looked at how fears of monsters, which frequently take hold in our childhood, turn up in different psychological situations, such as anxiety and specific phobias. Adolescent studies, for instance, illustrate the link between personality and phobic reactions, suggesting that these fears aren’t just random thoughts but are actually connected to our psychological nature (Alibrandi et al., 2019). Also, the history of these fears suggests that cultural stories have historically had an impact on how we view monstrosity, demonstrating a close connection between what society values and what an individual thinks (Burton et al., 2019). Grasping the fear of monsters is important for dealing with individual anxieties and for starting a wider conversation about how our culture influences our views of fear and safety.

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There are many reasons the mind, society and culture creates monsters. Please also review AIHCP’s Behavioral Health Certifications

 

A. Summary of key points discussed

So, when we’re talking about psychology and why we’re scared of monsters, we’re really digging into a lot of different stuff that shows us both who we are as humans and the things society builds around us. We touched on a few big ideas, like how fear might have started as a way to keep us alive, making us wary of the unknown. This means that our basic need to survive is actually tied to how we understand monsters in our culture. Also, the way movies and books show us monsters really matters, since these stories don’t just entertain us—they also show us what we’re afraid of as a society, acting like a mirror reflecting our worries. Like, these stories often pull from what’s happened in the past, mixing together psychology with cultural stories. That sort of makes figuring out fear and its different forms a bit complicated. It’s worth pointing out that the connection between science and what scares us reveals some disagreements within scientific thinking, (Uhlenbruch F et al., 2016) and (Burton et al., 2019) pointed this out, proving that what we believe culturally has a huge impact on how we see monsters, and it’s not just about science.

B. Implications for understanding fear in psychology

Psychological studies of fear offer crucial insights into how we react to perceived dangers, like, say, monsters. Fear, as Rachman theorized, can arise from direct experience, learning by watching others, or simply from what we’re told. This indicates that the ways children form fear-based ideas about things like monsters are significantly affected by these routes (Ajzen et al., 2001). Interestingly, what adults tell children can change what they believe about fear, stressing how important context and social influences are in the psychology of fear (Ajzen et al., 2001). However, grasping fear isn’t just about individual experiences. It also sets the stage for understanding broader anxieties molded by stories we all share. Sometimes, these stories paint the unknown as something monstrous, impacting how society acts and feels about fear. Therefore, a thorough understanding of fear is beneficial in psychology from both theoretical and hands-on perspectives.

C. Future directions for research on fear of monsters

Future research on the fear of monsters really needs to embrace interdisciplinary work to help us truly understand this common fear. We need to look at more than just psychology; we have to consider the context, too. The context can really change how we perceive and feel fear toward monsters. For example, studying the “ecological” side of fear – think about how family or the community plays a role – could give us important clues about how fear changes. It’s also helpful to remember how studies have connected temperament with childhood anxiety; so, understanding how personality and the environment interact might point us toward new ways to help. (Briggs-Gowan et al., 2011). Plus, monster stories often have cultural roots. That said, comparing how different cultures react to monsters could broaden our understanding and improve therapeutic treatments (A Lathrop et al., 2015). Overall, when researchers use these different strategies, we will get a deeper, more detailed view of the fear of monsters and what it means.

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Additional Resources

Fritscher, L. (2023). “Coping With Teraphobia or the Fear of Monsters”. Very Well Health.  Access here

Pedersen, T. (2024). “Understanding Teraphobia (Fear of Monsters)” PsychCentral.  Access here

Nurzhynskyy, A. “What is Teraphobia: Unmasking the Fear of Monsters”. Psychology.  Access here

“How To Manage Teraphobia In Children And Adults”. (2024). Better Help.  Access here

 

Boundaries and Assertive Behavior in Mental Health

Posted on by Mark Moran

Boundaries are critical to a healthy relationship with anyone.  When someone’s boundaries are constantly broken, this leads to discontent and resentment.  Hence it is critical for emotional and mental health to preserve boundaries within relationships and to understand what one is willing and not willing to do.  With boundaries comes the art of assertiveness and knowing how to express oneself and look out for one’s own needs without portraying oneself as selfish.  In fact, boundaries and being assertive are not selfish things but important parts of self that define where one begin and end in regards to other individuals.

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BOUNDARIES

We can imprison ourselves when we do not set boundaries. Please also review AIHCP’s Stress Management Program

It is good to have boundaries and limits in one’s life.  Many times these boundaries are tested, sometimes directly, other times without malicious intent.  It is critical to assert oneself and pronounce boundaries and not feel guilty about it.  It is good to have physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, time boundaries, sexual boundaries, material boundaries and intellectual boundaries.   We have a right to physical space or the right not to want to be touched, we have a right to feel a certain way, or express an opinion or have that opinion not debated, we have a right to our time and how we choose to use it, we have a right to decide our own sexual desires and choices, we have a right to say no to the use of any of our material things and we have a right to not be solicited or debated on our philosophies and religious beliefs.

Sometimes boundaries can be difficult to set due to relationships and one’s own mental state.  Many people feel if they set boundaries, they will lose a relationship or friend. Others may feel the constant need to people please, or put others over oneself equating a boundary to being selfish or mean.  On the contrary, boundaries are healthy and need to be asserted in a healthy way to others and be respected by others.  This is especially true when broken boundaries cause distress in one’s life.  When one feels walked over or used, then it is important to break the cycle and invoke boundaries.  Whether it is about lending money, or lending a car, or giving a helping hand when one cannot, broken boundaries lead to anxiety, resentment, stress and depression.   When we constantly feel used,  feel afraid,  feel controlled, forced to adjust schedules, or change one’s values then it is time to reconsider boundaries in life.  It is hence crucial to properly communicate boundaries to others and enforce those boundaries.

When setting a boundary, be sure prior to understand the goal and aim of setting it for oneself.  Sometimes it helps to start small and gradually add new boundaries.  In addition, it is important to clearly communicate boundaries.  Many times, individuals are not clear and the boundaries become mixed.  It is important to be open and clear about what and when one is imposing without being hostile or rude.  Sometimes it is best to keep it simple than being over complex as to avoid over explanation that is not due to the other person.

When creating boundaries avoid being rude or hostile.  Avoid accusative “you” statements.  If with parents, or people of authority, maintain calmness and respect but remain strong in your boundary and conviction.  When dealing with friends avoid ghosting and gossip to escape the problem but set the tone.  With at work, set clear timetables and schedules that delineate work from home, as well as understand who to speak with in regards to problems or issues that arise.  Show mutual respect for co-workers and their own boundaries in what they do.

Being Assertive in Life

Assertiveness is crucial to establishing and keeping boundaries.   Assertiveness itself is merely the expression of one’s personal rights.  It is not aggression, or rudeness but merely standing up for oneself and applying boundaries where necessary.  It is a crucial skill in all social and professional interactions.  It protects one’s needs, but also communicates clearly what is expected within a relationship.

Many mistaken conceptions see assertiveness as being selfish and putting oneself over others.  Instead one has a right to feel a certain way, or receive mutual respect on views or philosophies.  Individuals have a right to assert their own schedule and not always be flexible.  You have a right to ask for more information, or ask for an explanation.  You have a right not to take the advice of someone else.  You have a right not to want to speak to other people or walk away.  You do not need to have a good reason for feeling a certain way all the time, but you have a right to feel without explanation.  You have a right not to make everyone’s problem your problem.  Many individuals can be very generous, caring, empathetic, and yet maintain an assertiveness to one’s own boundaries and feelings.  Self care, boundaries and being assertive are important aspects of mental and emotional health.

Being assertive is not aggression but defending one’s rights and boundaries. It is essential to good mental health

Hence being assertive is not being rude or aggressive or selfish, but neither is it being passive, or overlooked and trodden upon, instead it is a golden mean between these two extremes that illustrates healthy reactions to people without allowing oneself to fall victim to stress, anxiety, or abuse.  When applying boundaries or promoting an assertive nature, one is clear to express one’s thoughts, feelings and wants in a direct fashion.  There is no sugar coating or word play, but clear and concise language to how one thinks, feels and wants a particular situation. It is void of name calling, or “you” statements, blaming, or denials, or insults, but is a clear and assertive language that defines the situation clearly and expresses one’s stance.  It is not over stepping other boundaries, or disrespecting others, but is a thorough expression of self to avoid future violations of one’s beliefs and space, as well as one’s ability to freely and correctly express needs, desires, thoughts, emotions and wants.  Unfortunately, how many times, do we treat assertiveness as a sign of aggression?  It is important to understand the differences between these and properly execute assertiveness when setting boundaries or for that matter when being assertive in relationships, interactions, work, or school.

Applying Assertive Behavior

Applying assertive behavior in life is not about being that person who always speaks out about every discomfort, or that obnoxious person who cannot be polite or quiet when things go wrong, but instead is knowing when something is truly wrong and someone needs to speak up due to something important.  Most importantly, it is how one also conveys the assertive thought, emotion and need without being rude, overbearing, or trivial.

In application of assertive behavior, a person should not feel shy about expressing something that is wrong, but instead feel the necessity to stand up and speak when necessary or act if something needs done.  There obviously is a fine line between aggression, rudeness and being a displeasing person, as opposed to a truly assertive person.  Ultimately it comes down to one’s inner feelings and how certain situations present a clear and present need to say, discuss or act something.  When applying, we have spoken about avoiding rude comments, blaming, name calling, and aggressive behavior, but instead truly speaking in a neutral language that does not look to challenge or upset but instead invoke one’s concern or need.  In doing, so controlling emotions, politely listening, staying on track and acknowledging the other person is key.  Being assertive is not a personal attack on someone else but is a tool in resolving an issue.  Hence good communication skills are essential.

It is important to also maintain good physical posture when assertively speaking.  Maintain eye contact, body posture, speak clearly, do not whine or consistently apologize, but speak the reality of the situation.  Express if necessary with hands and facial expression to emphasize when needed.  If one’s body language or voice quivers, then the message becomes lost.

How we apply our thoughts, emotions and needs is important. We need to be clear and concise, but also exhibit calmness and control

While an assertive discussion is going on, be careful to avoid traps and manipulations of others who may try to still break your boundary or belittle your concern, thought, emotion, want or need.  Instead of getting angry, maintain a calm and logical disposition.  Many times, you may need to repeat the opening premise over and over throughout the conversation to keep the other person from deviating from the issue.  Many times, individuals will deviate from the conversation by changing topics, insulting characters, playing self pity, threatening, denying, or blaming.  In these instances it is important to know how to shift back to topic, defuse other’s emotions, acknowledge at times criticism of self, or partial criticisms, but ultimately, the key is to stay on track, express one’s needs and to know how to diffuse and shift back to topic without elevating the conversation into an argument.  Sometimes, this involves preparing oneself prior to the conversation or even walking away if it does become heated.

Ultimately, the boundary or discussion about one’s thoughts, emotions or needs is important to you and cannot be laughed to the side or minimized.  It is crucial to apply one’s needs and preserve one’s boundaries.

Conclusion

Boundaries are important for personal and emotional health.  They are not selfish and rigid borders that make us selfish and rude to the needs of others but they protect ourselves from unneeded abuse of our skills, body, time and materials.  Being assertive is a key ability to advocate for our rights.  It is not aggression or being petty about things but truly being able to implement one’s thoughts, emotions and needs so that they are properly addressed.  Asserting oneself is not about trampling upon others but defending oneself in a clear and concise manner.

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Many individuals suffer in numerous aspects of life due to an inability to form boundaries and be assertive.  Learning how one’s life is violated and becoming aware of the unhappy state is instrumental to overall mental health.  One needs to be able to apply these skills to find peace and less stress and anxiety in one’s life

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Stop Worrying.  Access here

Resource

Davis, M, et al. (2000). “The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook (5th)”. New  Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Additional Resources

Brooten-Brooks, M. (2025). “How to Set Boundaries for Better Relationships”.  Very Well Health.  Access here

“Map it out: Setting boundaries for your well-being” (2023). Mayo Clinic Health.  Access here

Boundaries. Psychology Today.  Access here

Earnshaw, E. (2023). “6 Types Of Boundaries You Deserve To Have (And How To Maintain Them)”. Mind Body Green. Access here

 

 

 

 

 

AIHCP Behavioral Health Certifications Blog: Improving Your Mental Health

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I. Introduction

Mental health is an essential component of overall well-being, yet it remains a topic often surrounded by stigma and misunderstanding. In recent years, the importance of improving mental health has gained recognition, prompting active research in various fields, such as education and occupational therapy. For instance, action research in higher education reveals that by examining their teaching practices, educators develop a deeper understanding of both their pedagogical approaches and their students needs, ultimately enhancing mental health awareness within educational settings (Caruana et al., 2005). Similarly, studies focusing on harm reduction strategies highlight the capabilities of occupational therapy interventions to foster positive health outcomes for individuals facing mental health challenges (Hellman et al., 2013). These insights underscore the necessity of a proactive approach to mental health improvement, advocating for personal reflection, community support, and targeted intervention strategies to foster resilience and personal growth in individuals across diverse environments.

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Mental wellness and mental health is health. It should not be set to the side or ignored or stigmatized. Please also review AIHCP’s Behavioral Health Certification programs

 

A. Definition of mental health

Mental health encompasses a multifaceted spectrum of emotional, psychological, and social well-being, influencing how individuals think, feel, and interact with others. It is crucial for coping with the stresses of life, making choices, and forming relationships. In recent literature, resilience has emerged as a pivotal concept within the context of mental health, illustrating how individuals navigate adversity. Resilience is characterized by the ability to utilize protective factors that mitigate risks of mental illness, ultimately leading to more favorable outcomes than initially anticipated (Stainton A et al., 2018). Furthermore, studies indicate that resilience in mental health professionals can enhance their capacity to manage stressors and prevent burnout, contributing positively to their overall mental health (Foster K et al., 2018). Understanding mental health not only involves recognizing its definition but also appreciating how resilience plays a critical role in promoting psychological well-being and aiding recovery.

 

B. Importance of mental health in overall well-being

Mental health plays a pivotal role in determining overall well-being, influencing not only emotional stability but also physical health and social functioning. Negative mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety, can impair daily functioning and reduce quality of life, leading to various physical health issues and diminished productivity. For instance, a study highlighted the significance of life review interventions among older adults, demonstrating notable improvements in depression and resilience, which underscores the necessity of addressing mental health issues to enhance overall well-being (Pathrose SI et al., 2025). Furthermore, mental wellness is crucial among professionals; teachers in Malaysia experience high levels of stress that adversely affect their mental health, thereby eroding their effectiveness in educational roles and overall life satisfaction (Alzahari N et al., 2025). Consequently, prioritizing mental health not only fosters individual well-being but also contributes to healthier communities and more effective interpersonal relationships.

One of the biggest issues is mental health is bypassed and stigmatized.  Physical health issues take front stage while mental health is ignored and stigmatized as crazy.  When someone takes a blood pressure pill for life, it is does not even raise an alarm, but if someone takes a medication for anxiety or depression, individuals become labeled.  The reality is mental health is health.  Mental health issues do not make you crazy but human.  Individuals suffer from a variety of mental health issues that stem from the brain and neurotransmitters.  These imbalances are no different a health issue as high sugar or high cholesterol.  They are all issues that need addressed.  Bypassing, neglecting or being embarrassed of these issues can only cause longer term damage to one’s overall wellness of life.  Hence it is important to champion one’s mental health as overall health and dismiss the past comments about mental health medications or images associated with mental health issues.

 

C. Overview of strategies for improvement

In the pursuit of improved mental health, various strategies can be implemented to foster emotional and psychological well-being. One effective approach is the development of emotional intelligence (EI), which has been shown to enhance resilience and coping mechanisms by improving self-awareness and interpersonal relationships. Incorporating programs and workshops aimed at EI development can help individuals navigate stressors more effectively, ultimately leading to better mental health outcomes (Kazachuk et al., 2024). Another valuable strategy is the practice of yoga, which contributes significantly to stress reduction and emotional regulation. Research indicates that regular yoga practice enhances the nervous systems adaptability, fostering resilience and improving cognitive functions (Biesok et al., 2024). By combining these strategies, individuals can cultivate a holistic approach to mental health improvement, which is not only beneficial on a personal level but also contributes to healthier communities overall.

 

II. Understanding Mental Health

Understanding mental health is crucial for fostering comprehensive approaches to improving overall well-being. Mental health encompasses emotional, psychological, and social dimensions, significantly influencing how individuals think, feel, and interact with others. The intersection of physical activity and mental health represents a particularly complex relationship where engaging in exercise may enhance psychological functioning; however, the direction of this causality remains ambiguous (Asztalos et al., 2010). Moreover, the physical environment contributes substantially to mental health outcomes, as urban planning can either facilitate or hinder access to spaces that promote active lifestyles and social interactions (Allaert et al., 2012). Recognizing the multifaceted influences on mental health, including the roles of personal motivation, social support, and environmental factors, allows for targeted strategies. Thus, a holistic understanding of mental health is essential not only for personal development but also for informing community initiatives aimed at enhancing mental well-being.

It is essential to understand what mental health is and how to maintain it

 

A. Common mental health disorders

Understanding common mental health disorders is crucial for improving overall mental health and well-being. Disorders such as depression and anxiety affect millions globally, with research indicating that mental disorders impact over 25% of the population worldwide, including a notable prevalence of 14.9% in India, which is exacerbated in rural areas where stigmatization persists (S Nagar et al., 2025). These conditions can severely hinder an individuals ability to function in daily life, necessitating effective treatment strategies and increased awareness. Mental health education plays a vital role in fostering understanding among patients, leading to improved coping skills and enhanced quality of life (Irawan B et al., 2024). It is imperative that healthcare systems broaden their focus to include mental health education and integrated care, particularly in underserved areas. By addressing the knowledge gaps and supporting patients through education, societies can make significant strides in destigmatizing mental health and improving treatment outcomes.

As stated, depression and anxiety are common in within the population.  Many individuals find themselves taking SSRI to help balance serotonin, or taking various anxiety medications such as Ativan to help regulate anxious thoughts.  But while these are common, like other more serious physical ailments, there are more serious mental health disorders.  Some individuals require mood stabilizers, anti-psychotics, and other drugs to help maintain health clarity.  This is not because they are bad people, or crazy but because their bodies require certain medications to help balance an issue.  Neglected health leads to serious consequences, especially in mental health.  Take your mental health disorder seriously and you will find a higher quality of life.

 

B. Signs and symptoms of poor mental health

Identifying the signs and symptoms of poor mental health is crucial for early intervention and effective management. Common indicators include persistent sadness, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, withdrawal from social interactions, and difficulty concentrating. These symptoms may signal underlying issues such as anxiety or depression, which can be exacerbated by a lack of support and proper resources. Recognizing these symptoms allows individuals to seek help proactively, thus mitigating further distress. Psychoeducational interventions (PIs), while primarily a preventative measure, play a significant role in enhancing awareness around these signs among adolescents, fostering improved communication and understanding of mental health issues within families and communities (Jones B et al., 2017). Encouraging the use of mobile technology, such as smartphones for accessing mental health resources, integrates modern solutions into traditional methods, potentially improving treatment outcomes and accessibility for those struggling with mental health concerns (Susick et al., 2011).

 

C. The impact of mental health on daily life

Mental health significantly influences daily life, intertwining with various aspects such as relationships, work performance, and personal satisfaction. Individuals struggling with mental health issues often encounter challenges in maintaining social connections and achieving productivity, leading to feelings of isolation and decreased quality of life. According to research on visually impaired older adults, a notable relationship exists between mental health, problem-solving abilities, and life satisfaction, indicating that psychological and socio-cognitive factors are crucial for navigating daily challenges (Carrieri et al., 2017). Furthermore, integrating health-related quality of life assessments into clinical care has been suggested to enhance the recognition of underlying psychosocial problems, although evidence supporting its efficacy remains mixed (Gilbody et al., 2002). Consequently, addressing mental health proactively not only fosters emotional well-being but also bolsters overall life satisfaction, prompting a more fulfilling daily existence.

 

III. Lifestyle Changes for Better Mental Health

To improve mental health effectively, adopting specific lifestyle changes is essential, particularly those that enhance physical well-being, such as regular exercise and proper sleep hygiene. Engaging in physical activity has been shown to increase endorphin levels, thereby improving mood and reducing symptoms of anxiety and depression. For example, a study involving premenopausal women demonstrated that osteogenic exercises not only improved bone health but also enhanced quality of life and mental health metrics among participants, with a reduction in those falling below population health norms for mental well-being post-intervention (BABATUNDE et al., 2016). Additionally, prioritizing sleep is crucial for overall mental health, as disrupted sleep patterns can exacerbate stress, anxiety, and depressive symptoms. Research has found that implementing healthy sleep habits significantly contributes to improved sleep quality, which in turn plays a vital role in strengthening emotional resilience and cognitive function (Bednarz et al., 2024). Therefore, integrating these lifestyle modifications can lead to substantial improvements in mental health and overall well-being.

Life style changes in addition to medication sometimes are necessary for mental health.  Addictions, bad situations, poor friend circles, and other social situations can trigger mental health issues.  Like any health condition, individuals with poor mental health must take the appropriate steps to become healthy.  This is not only essential for their own well-being but also for their family and friends.  Poor mental health leads to destructive behaviors and this destroys families and social bonds.  Hence, to preserve and improve mental health, it is critical to not only take necessary medications but to explore other life styles that promote better mental health.

 

Exercise, meditation, stress management, diet and other social changes are essential for better mental health for many. Incorporating what needs to be done is key to a better life for oneself and one’s loved ones

 

A. The role of physical exercise

Engaging in physical exercise plays a crucial role in enhancing mental health, functioning as a powerful mechanism for promoting cognitive function and emotional well-being. Regular physical activity is associated with decreased risks of chronic conditions such as cardiovascular disease and cognitive decline, significantly influencing overall mental resilience. Research indicates that exercise enhances neuroplasticity, the brains ability to reorganize and adapt, thereby fostering cognitive improvements in attention, memory, and executive functions (Do Jłęga et al., 2024). Moreover, innovative interventions, such as multimodal programs that incorporate cognitive training, emotional tasks, and physical activity, have been shown to alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression, particularly in individuals recovering from conditions like Post-COVID-19 (Cano N et al., 2024). Through its multifaceted benefits, physical exercise emerges as a vital component of mental health strategies, underscoring the necessity for individuals to incorporate regular activity into their lives as a means to bolster their cognitive and emotional health.

Also, be sure to get plenty of sun and fresh air.  Sometimes the body needs more than healthy diet, but also healthy exposure to nature, the sun and air.  If work is stressing you, look into nature and hiking to find balance.

 

B. Importance of a balanced diet

The importance of a well-rounded diet in supporting mental health can’t be overstated; it has a direct impact on how the brain functions and, relatedly, on a person’s emotional state. Foods packed with nutrients offer the vital ingredients needed to keep cognitive functions running smoothly, including both mood and the ability to handle stress. Studies repeatedly show that a diet filled with fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats is good for mental health. This is because these foods offer crucial nutrients that help neurotransmitters be produced and remain stable. On the other hand, it’s worth noting that a diet heavy on processed foods and sugars might create imbalances that could worsen anxiety and depression symptoms, showing a definite connection between what we eat and how we feel. As a result, adopting a balanced diet is not just a physical health matter, generally speaking, but a really important way to build emotional strength. This makes food choices a key part of therapies for mental health issues, as recent studies suggest (Pandey P et al., 2024) (Sharma S, 2024).

C. Benefits of adequate sleep

Getting enough sleep is really important for your mental health; it’s like a base for how well you handle your feelings and think clearly. Research shows that when you don’t sleep well, things like anxiety and depression can get worse, which isn’t good for your general health. Good, regular sleep can really help you handle stress better; for instance, studies have found that things like mindfulness can make you less depressed and improve your sleep, even if you’re generally healthy (Akter M et al., 2025). Also, there’s some new evidence suggesting that probiotics could help you sleep better, which could also help your mental health (Martyka A et al., 2024). What’s more, when you sleep well, you tend to make better decisions and are generally happier with your life, showing just how crucial sleep is for thinking straight and managing your emotions. So, making sure you get enough sleep is key to improving your mental health, and it’s a pretty easy but effective way to feel better overall.

Sometimes its more than just rest and sleep, but when to cut back from something.  Whether work, school or family, stress can over bear the system.  Knowing when to find rest is critical to mental health.  A time out, grounding and prayer or meditation can make a big difference in resting the mind.

D. Social Media
When life becomes overbearing it is time to know when to alter a course and find help.  One example that detrimental to mental health is social media.  Social media can send thousands of negative messages that can hurt someone emotionally.  This can be a very dangerous venue for mental health.  It is key, especially with social media, the news, and the views of others, when to know to cut back and ask for help.  Seeking out mental health counseling is critical to help navigate difficult times.
In addition to the problems of others, setting boundaries and being assertive in caring for one’s own needs is important.  This is not selfish but is self care and boundaries can protect one’s mental health from the invasion of other people’s issues and problems that are detrimental to oneself.

 

IV. Mindfulness and Stress Management Techniques

Strategies centered around mindfulness and stress management are now recognized as central to improving mental well-being. Practices that cultivate mindfulness, for example, meditation and focused breathing, guide people toward present-moment awareness, which aids in stress reduction and supports emotional stability. Studies indicate that when mindfulness is incorporated into schools, young people benefit because they learn better stress management and develop improved coping strategies (Sapthiang et al., 2019). These methods not only help instill a sense of tranquility, but they also refine peoples ability to interact with others, boosting their social competence. Furthermore, the techniques are adaptable, so people facing various types of daily pressures can use them. Heightened awareness of mental health issues means that mindfulness, integrated within communities and schools, could provide a solid base for encouraging resilience and overall wellness across diverse groups (Baskin-Sommers et al., 2016). Therefore, adopting mindfulness might well serve as a cornerstone of efforts aimed at enhancing mental health.

 

A. Introduction to mindfulness practices

The value of mindfulness practices in boosting mental health is now widely acknowledged. These practices empower people to develop both awareness and presence in everyday life. Activities like meditation, yoga, and even sophrology can all play a role in stress reduction and promoting better emotional well-being. The COVID-19 pandemic really shined a light on the importance of these tools, with young folks, particularly university students, experiencing increased anxiety stemming from uncertainty and social isolation. Research suggests that consistently participating in mindfulness can substantially decrease stress and boost resilience—something absolutely crucial for navigating life’s curveballs (Denis B-M et al., 2024). Moreover, incorporating mindfulness into schools can help cultivate a setting where people not only learn stress management but also see improvements in their engagement and performance overall (N/A, 2025). By prioritizing mindfulness, we can equip ourselves to better handle the challenges of modern life while also taking care of our mental health.

 

B. Techniques for effective stress management

For the sake of mental health and all-around well-being, especially when the heat is on, good stress management is key. You’ll find things like mindfulness meditation, cognitive behavioral therapy, and, yes, even regular exercise, can really make a difference in bringing stress levels down. Mindfulness, for example, helps people get to know themselves better, which means they can handle their emotions and cut down on anxiety (Júlia Kafková et al., 2025). Also, when organizations, especially in tough fields like healthcare, get smart about how they’re set up, they can do a lot to help manage stress. Setting up systems that use, say, predictive models to figure out stress levels can help them give targeted support to their people, leading to a healthier place to work (Nag M et al., 2025). When you put personal strategies together with support from the organization, people can come up with full-on stress management plans that not only take care of immediate problems but also build up long-term mental health. This kind of well-rounded approach lets people deal with daily stress like a boss, which boosts their overall quality of life.

One cannot under emphasize the importance of reducing stress for overall mental health.  Knowing when to engage or not, to put down or face, is key a decision in one’s mental and emotional health.  Please also review AIHCP’s Stress Management Consulting Certification by clicking here

 

C. The role of meditation in mental health

Meditation is now seen as a really important way to help our minds and feelings stay healthy. It helps us pay attention to ourselves and the world around us, which then makes it easier to handle stress, worry, and other emotional problems. Studies have shown that when people meditate, especially using mindfulness techniques, they often feel less anxious and depressed. For example, programs like the EscapeCovid Game, which aim to help people understand mental health better, have found that meditation can help people control their emotions and deal with difficult situations, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic (D Labrosse et al., 2025). Also, when researchers have looked at many studies on meditation, they’ve found that it can be useful for managing anger at work, which suggests that meditation could make people more emotionally stable and improve their relationships with others (MOTIRAMANI SS et al., 2025). So, if people make meditation a part of their everyday lives, it could be a practical way for them to feel better mentally and become stronger in the face of life’s difficulties.

V. Conclusion

To summarize, a comprehensive strategy for improving mental health necessitates not just effective treatment but also well-coordinated care systems and active community involvement. For example, the successful transition of young people from residential mental health facilities highlights the need for coordinated care systems that address all aspects of an individual’s well-being (Cameron et al., 2012). The frequent co-occurrence of mental health and substance use disorders further emphasizes the need for strategies that can simultaneously manage various health issues. Studies suggest that poor coordination leads to fragmented care and, often, increased use of emergency services, which underscores the importance of integrated care programs designed to promote effective treatment pathways (Hale et al., 2019). Prioritizing collaboration among healthcare professionals and ensuring access to personalized mental health services can make better mental well-being more achievable for those who need it, thereby contributing to healthier communities.

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Taking your mental health seriously is key to a healthy life. Whether life changes, medication or counseling is needed, one must address their mental health as their overall health. Please also review AIHCP’s Mental and Behavioral Health Certification Programs and see if they meet your academic and professional goals

 

A. Recap of key strategies for improving mental health

When it comes to boosting our mental health, there are definitely some strategies that stand out. For example, building strong social connections is super important for staying emotionally resilient; good relationships can really help when things get tough. Also, exercise is great for your mood and can help with anxiety, which shows how connected our bodies and minds really are. Mindfulness and meditation can also make a big difference by helping us feel more aware and less stressed, leading to a more balanced state. Plus, it’s crucial to tackle systemic issues in mental health care; effective solutions need to ensure everyone has fair access, especially folks from marginalized communities. It’s been noted that improving support for specific groups mirrors the need for complete mental health plans that focus on individual wellness but also get communities involved and push for lasting change (Adelman et al., 2018), (Adelman et al., 2018).

 

B. Encouragement to seek professional help when needed

Generally speaking, improving mental health often calls for changing how society views getting help. Research shows that better mental health literacy (MHL) can really cut down on the stigma around mental health services, which, in most cases, leads to people seeking help sooner. For instance, studies have shown that students who know more about mental health are less likely to feel ashamed about seeking help, underscoring the importance of integrating mental health education into curricula, particularly in secondary schools (Sokolov Lá, 2024). Also, programs that try to reach groups that are usually hard to reach, like male students, show that using informal support and customized messages can help them accept mental health resources (I Sagar-Ouriaghli et al., 2023). By encouraging a culture where people feel okay about seeking professional assistance without worrying about being judged, we can boost community well-being and make sure mental health resources are used well.

 

C. Final thoughts on the importance of prioritizing mental health

To summarize, attending to mental well-being transcends individual concerns, evolving into a societal requirement that markedly boosts overall health. Studies, such as those (Miller et al., 2024) noting the stigma around mental health in professions like nursing, emphasize the importance of deploying supportive measures to lessen stress and burnout. A comprehensive strategy—incorporating mindfulness, mutual support, and self-care—can significantly elevate individual and communal mental health results, thus forging a healthier workplace and society. Furthermore, raising awareness about mental health helps dissolve stigmas, thereby encouraging people to seek assistance without dreading disapproval (Fischbacher-Smith et al., 2016). By valuing mental health, we foster resilience, promote emotional wellness, and enrich our lives, reaffirming the need to integrate mental health into daily priorities.

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Additional Resources

Tartakovsky, M. (2025). “8 Daily Habits to Boost Mental Health — and Signs It May Be Time to Get Support”. Healthline.  Access here

Morin, A (2025). “10 Ways to Improve Your Mental Health Without Therapy”. Psychology Today. Access here

Wolters, C (2025). “9 Daily Habits to Boost Your Mental Health”. U.S News.  Access here

“Emotional Wellness Toolkit — More Resources” NIH.  Access here

Behavioral Health Certifications: The Psychology behind Enabling and Enablers

Posted on by Mark Moran

I. Introduction

The phenomenon of enabling, particularly within interpersonal relationships, presents a complex interplay of psychological dynamics that merits thorough exploration. Enablers often arise from a place of compassion or misguided support, inadvertently perpetuating harmful behaviors in individuals they aim to assist. Understanding this psychological backdrop is paramount, as it helps distinguish between genuine support and detrimental reinforcement. Engaging with various sub-topics of entrepreneurial ventures can illuminate these dynamics, given that fostering new ventures requires not only individual initiative but also a network of support that may unintentionally enable dependency (Gruber et al., 2020). Furthermore, examining frameworks of inclusion, such as those found in educational settings, reveals how the perspectives of different stakeholders enrich the conversation on enabling behaviors (Buck et al., 2024). Ultimately, a comprehensive analysis of enabling through psychological lenses can guide interventions and foster healthier, more constructive relationships.

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It is good to support our loved ones but we need to be sure we are not enabling.

 

A. Definition of enabling and enablers

The concept of enabling and enablers is multifaceted, reflecting a dynamic interplay between individuals and their environments. At its core, enabling refers to the processes that allow individuals to achieve autonomy and make choices, while enablers are those who facilitate this growth, often through guidance, resources, or support mechanisms. This relationship can be particularly observed in collective settings, such as organizations, where knowledge sharing and collaborative practices determine success. As highlighted in recent research, the ways in which knowledge measures, such as organizational value chains and pivotal talent pools, contribute to enhancing enabling processes are critical for long-term viability and competitive success (Boudreau et al., 2002). Furthermore, psychological aspects of resilience inform how individuals respond to enabling environments, indicating that adaptive capacity is crucial in developing personal agency. Understanding this framework deepens our comprehension of not only enabling dynamics but also the broader psychological implications of these interactions (Adger et al., 2018).

 

B. Importance of understanding the psychological aspects

Understanding the psychological aspects of enabling behaviors is crucial for both identifying enablers and developing effective interventions. Psychological motivations often drive the choices individuals make, particularly in contexts where enabling behavior can lead to detrimental outcomes, such as substance abuse or dependency. By examining these motivations, researchers and practitioners can gain insight into how certain actions are reinforced or discouraged. For instance, frameworks that explore behavioral change emphasize the significance of habits, lifestyle choices, and decision-making processes that influence energy consumption and related behaviors (Ehrhardt-Martinez et al., 2009). Similarly, the importance of creating supportive environments, informed by psychological principles, cannot be overstated. Such environments can foster healthier choices and diminish enabling behaviors. Therefore, understanding these psychological dimensions is essential for the effective prevention and intervention strategies aimed at reducing enabling behaviors (Allan et al., 2017).

 

C. Overview of the essay structure

To effectively convey the intricate dynamics of enabling behaviors and their psychological underpinnings, the structure of this essay is strategically designed. The introduction establishes the foundational concepts, leading into a comprehensive literature review that synthesizes relevant theories and empirical studies. Each subsequent section methodically dissects the roles of both enablers and those they enable, examining the motivations and consequences of these interactions. For instance, as noted in recent academic discourse, innovative capacities within organizations are substantially influenced by managerial roles and cognitive elements, thereby enhancing the overall framework of our analysis (Bosch et al.). The concluding section will not only summarize key findings but will also propose practical strategies for fostering healthier enabling behaviors, contributing to a more nuanced understanding of interpersonal dynamics in various contexts. This structured approach aims to enrich readers insights into the complex interplay shaping enabling relationships (Emmanuel et al., 2010).

 

II. The Psychological Profile of Enablers

The psychological profile of enablers reveals a complex interplay of motivations that influence their behaviors. Enablers often exhibit high levels of empathy and altruism, compelling them to support others despite potential negative outcomes. This inclination may stem from a deeply ingrained need for connection and validation, where enabling behaviors provide a sense of purpose or contribution to another persons life. However, psychological barriers such as fear of abandonment or low self-esteem may exacerbate their enabling actions, leading to detrimental cycles. According to research, factors like social preferences drive citizen responses in altruistic contexts, highlighting the motivations behind enabling behavior in disaster relief scenarios (Gunesse et al., 2017). Additionally, enablers often wrestle with their self-efficacy beliefs, leading them to overestimate their capacity to affect change positively within others lives, which can perpetuate the cycle of enabling in interpersonal relationships (Adab et al., 2017). Understanding these psychological dimensions is crucial for addressing the enabling phenomenon effectively.

Many enablers suffer from a family history of past dismissal, or attachment disorders which push one to over help.  Some may be due to over-protection of a person, or anxious attachment disorders that push one to do to much even if doing to much makes a situation worst for the person they are trying to protect.

Enablers are consumed to fix other people issues for them or help individuals continue in non-healthy directions

 

A. Common traits and characteristics of enablers

Enablers often share a range of common traits and characteristics that facilitate their roles in various interpersonal dynamics, particularly in contexts involving addiction or maladaptive behaviors. A profound sense of empathy tends to drive enablers, as they often desire to alleviate the suffering of those around them, even at the expense of their own well-being. This empathy is frequently coupled with a lack of personal boundaries, resulting in behaviors that can unintentionally perpetuate dysfunction. Additionally, enablers typically exhibit a strong need for control, which manifests in their attempts to manage the circumstances of the individuals they enable. This interplay of empathy and control can create a cyclical pattern where the enabler finds a sense of purpose in the relationship, while the individual remains dependent on them. Understanding these common traits is crucial when addressing the psychological underpinnings of enabling behaviors and their implications for personal and relational health (Hands et al., 2018), (Godinho et al., 2019).

Enablers will commonly dismiss or deny issues, make excuses, hide issues, take over responsibilities, aid in destructive behavior, or seek to rescue the person but ultimately they are not helping but hindering true health of the person.

Enablers enable in a variety of ways from finance to substance abuse to over care and cleaning.

 

B. Motivations behind enabling behavior

Understanding the motivations behind enabling behavior is crucial in examining the dynamics between enablers and those they support. Often, enablers are driven by a desire to protect or assist individuals who may be struggling, yet their actions can inadvertently perpetuate harmful patterns. This behavior is evident in various contexts, such as mentorship programs, where the challenge lies in balancing support with encouraging autonomy. For instance, (Eric K Grimes, 2014) highlights the importance of involving mentors who can guide youth through obstacles while simultaneously fostering independence. Additionally, enablers may believe that their actions are necessary for social change, as suggested by (Rivers A et al.), which underscores the complexities that arise when young people are seen as potential agents of change. Ultimately, recognizing these motivations can assist in developing more effective interventions that promote healthy empowerment rather than dependency.

 

C. The role of empathy and compassion in enabling

Empathy and compassion are foundational elements in the process of enabling, as they foster an environment where individuals can explore their emotions and experiences safely. In clinical settings, for instance, the interplay of empathy within reflective practice groups can significantly enhance nurses ability to manage the emotional labor associated with their profession. As noted in research, such group interventions create a supportive atmosphere, allowing nurses to share their vulnerabilities and, in turn, increase their capacity for self-reflection and self-evaluation, aligning with the ideals of compassionate care (Debbie J Reschke et al., 2021). Furthermore, the cultivation of compassion, backed by a biopsychosocial understanding of caring behavior, enables practitioners to connect on a deeper level, addressing mental suffering and encouraging prosocial behaviors (Gilbert P, 2020). Therefore, empathy and compassion not only facilitate personal growth but also reinforce communal bonds among individuals, making them essential components in the enabling process.

 

III. The Impact of Enabling on Relationships

The dynamics of enabling within interpersonal relationships can lead to significant ramifications, often obstructing the authentic connection between individuals. Enablers, driven by a desire to help, may inadvertently perpetuate maladaptive behaviors in those they seek to support. For instance, the study cited (Gardner et al., 2002) illustrates how enabling behaviors can mirror organizational dysfunctions where well-intentioned human resource practices fail to produce productive outcomes, similarly reflecting how enablers may create environments that stifle accountability. Moreover, the complex narratives surrounding disengagement from enabling behaviors reveal an interesting dichotomy. As noted in a study examining individual accounts of disengagement from Pro-Ana websites (Firkins A et al., 2019), the journey away from enabling may be marked by both a search for autonomy and a fear of losing an entrenched identity. Thus, the impact of enabling extends beyond individual relationships, affecting the relational dynamics at large and underlining the critical nature of agency within these interactions.

 

A. Effects on the enabler and the enabled

The dynamics between enablers and those they enable reveal profound psychological impacts on both parties involved. Enablers often develop a sense of identity rooted in their caregiving roles, which can fulfill intrinsic desires for connection and purpose. However, this can lead to a cycle of dependency where the enabled individuals may struggle with self-efficacy, relying excessively on external assistance instead of fostering their independence. As evidenced in the Coaching and Mentoring (C&M) Programme within the NHS, effective support systems can produce significant personal and professional growth among participants, indicating that when enablers adopt structured and supportive frameworks, mutual development is possible (Baillie et al., 2017). Conversely, the absence of adequate managerial support can stifle this growth, leaving enablers feeling isolated and overwhelmed in their roles (Allan et al., 2017). Thus, the psychological interplay underscores the necessity for balanced relationships that empower rather than diminish the agency of the enabled.

Many parents enable without truly seeing the damage.  They make excuses for their children, clean up for them, over supporting them when older financially, and not sticking to boundaries and plans.  Instead, in a non-judgmental way, parents need to hold children accountable, celebrate success and provide reasonable emotional support to help them through difficulties.  It is important to learn to say NO.

 

B. Dynamics of power and control in enabling relationships

Enabling relationships present a labyrinth of power and control, their intricacies revealing the complex psychology at play. Power, in these dynamics, is not simply a one-way street; it’s a tool that can be used to support or, subtly, to manipulate. The line, as individuals navigate their roles, often blurs between the two. Dependency is often fostered, acting as a means of control by enablers. By engineering a reliant environment, enablers make those they enable feel like they must remain dependent, which underscores the delicate, sometimes uneasy, dance between care and what could be considered coercion. Indeed, dynamics such as these often reflect much larger cultural narratives surrounding behavior, and maybe even, violence. Societal attitudes towards certain actions end up reshaping how people perceive legitimacy in their relationships (E Anderson et al., 2007). Looking at these themes via organizational resilience reveals the ways in which various strains within relationships can, in fact, impact functionality and how relationships adapt overall. Essentially, power dynamics in relationships might just be seen as mirroring organizational structures; parts are competing for resources, thus directly affecting how adaptable the relationship manages to be as a whole (Barton et al., 2017). To unravel the behaviors present in enabling contexts, understanding these complex mechanisms is indeed critical.

While the enabler may need something to fix or help, the enabled many times is lazy, or uncaring to fix the situation.  An imbalanced relationship of abusing each other can occur.  One may like the control or the other may manipulate to get what one needs, but ultimately, no improvement occurs in this dysfunctional relationship due to the inner mental or emotional issues between the two persons.

Those enabled become co-dependent and unable to fix and problem solve on themselves.

In addition many times the enabling is not just a problem but a bad habit.  The enabler helps support the bad habits or addictions out of fear, or loss of the person and abandonment.  They feel they can control the addiction under their care but end up being used themselves.

Enablers will many time cooperate with the enabled in bad habits and addiction to keep them satisfied

 

 

C. Long-term consequences for interpersonal relationships

Enabling behaviors, in the long run, really do a number on relationships. You see these cycles of dependency that just don’t quit, and folks losing their ability to stand on their own two feet. Enablers—when they’re always jumping in with too much help or covering up bad behavior—they kinda keep this whole thing going, which, in turn, can wear away at trust and respect. It all ties back to how we read each other in relationships—what some call “folk theory of mind” (Malle et al., 2003). The enabler? Well, they might just end up burned out, while the other person never learns how to handle things themselves. Resentment starts brewing, no doubt about it. And when it’s hard to tell where one person’s job ends and the other’s begins, both end up feeling lost and cut off from each other. It highlights the emotional well-being of all those involved, which can be seriously compromised. Figuring out this stuff is key, showing us why we need to talk straight and set some lines to rebuild some balance and start getting along better in relationships (Akerlof et al., 2019).

 

IV. Psychological Theories Related to Enabling

Delving into the psychology behind enabling necessitates a thorough look at the complicated nature of behavior and what drives it. Quite often, enabling appears as a reaction to unmet psychological needs. People might unknowingly nurture dependence in others in order to fill their own emotional voids. To illustrate, the dynamics between enablers and those they aid can be examined using theories about learned behavior and reinforcement. Such an analysis suggests that enabling actions can perpetuate cycles of dysfunction, offering immediate comfort without tackling the fundamental problems. Research also shows that the perceived normality of certain omissions significantly impacts how enablers justify what they do. Take, for example, the realization that failing to step in might not just enable but also prolong damaging behaviors. This aligns with research indicating that social norms frequently influence how we interpret cause and effect in social interactions. This interaction of psychological stories and accepted norms emphasizes just how complex enabling behaviors can be across different situations (Allan et al., 2017), (Bello et al., 2019).

 

A. Attachment theory and its relevance to enabling

Attachment theory, broadly speaking, offers some pretty deep insights into how relationships work, especially how our attachment styles mess with how we interact with others. A secure attachment style tends to nurture trust and open lines of communication, which is super important for enabling effectively. On the flip side, those with insecure attachment might fall back on enabling behaviors as a way to keep relationships afloat, even if it leads to, well, not-so-great results. Now, research kinda backs up the idea that securely attached folks are usually better at handling attachment-related info, showing more emotional control and bounce-back-ability in social situations (Bosmans et al., 2014). This knack for healthy relating can lessen the chances of getting tangled in enabling behaviors, seeing as these people usually think about both their own and others’ well-being. Plus, the link between feeling compassionate and mental health shines a light on how secure attachments play a role in boosting positive mental vibes, making attachment theory a critical piece of the puzzle when trying to get what makes enablers tick (Gumley et al., 2012).

Many who enable have attachment issues

 

B. The role of cognitive dissonance in enabling behavior

Cognitive dissonance, it turns out, holds considerable sway over enabling behaviors, mostly because people are generally trying to smooth out any bumps between what they think and what they do. Someone who does something that clashes with their core beliefs may feel uneasy, which then pushes them to either change their actions or tweak their beliefs so things line up better. This is quite visible in areas like tech adoption, where users might feel that push-and-pull between not wanting to dive into new gadgets and seeing the upsides they offer. As an example, studies point to folks getting past their initial hesitation with AI voice assistants by shifting how they see these devices. (Boy F et al., 2021) This is kinda like what the Technology Acceptance Model tells us. Furthermore, when monitoring and reflective habits are woven into health tech, it can aid individuals in navigating cognitive dissonance, boosting self-awareness, and sparking positive behavioral shifts, as we see in (Alomainy et al., 2016). So, a solid grasp of cognitive dissonance is, in most cases, super important in empowering enablers to help make those constructive behavioral tweaks.

 

C. Behavioral reinforcement and its impact on enabling

Behavioral reinforcement is really important when trying to understand enabling behaviors, since it impacts both the person enabling and the person being enabled. It can show up in different ways, like saying nice things or giving rewards. This can create a kind of loop where the enabler’s actions get validated by how the other person reacts right away. For example, a caregiver who always helps someone avoid their problems might actually make that person more dependent. This, in turn, reduces their own responsibility and belief in themselves. Academic Enablers (AEs), like good interpersonal skills and motivation, are important for doing well in school, but how they work can depend on the situation (Kirk et al., 2019). So, even though behavioral reinforcement might seem helpful at first, it can often hurt long-term development and independence. This means the relationship is complicated and needs a closer look (Allan et al., 2017). It’s generally speaking a really complex thing to consider.

It is important to differentiate between helping and enabling another person.  If you are giving or helping to avoid conflict, making excuses for problematic behaviors, suffering due to helping this individual or being told from outside sources, it is a good chance you are enabling.   It is important to understand that helping improves the situation it does not continue to contribute to the issue itself.

 

V. Conclusion

To sum up, looking at how enabling and enablers work gives us key ideas about how people think and act in groups. Enablers, who we often see as helpful, can either help people grow or make them rely on others, which affects how well a group works as a whole. This complex connection means we need to change how organizations work, putting teamwork and respect before just making money. Like how important knowledge measures are, which show how much intellectual capital is flowing and stored, creating a connected environment can boost how well an organization does and how well it bounces back (Boudreau et al., 2002). Plus, the Rocky Flats case study shows that trust and caring feelings between groups that usually disagree can cause big, positive changes, proving how powerful these dynamics are (Cameron et al., 2012). In the end, a well-thought-out way of enabling can lead to lasting growth and help people go beyond their limits.

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A. Summary of key points discussed

Looking into the mindset of both enablers and the act of enabling reveals some interesting, complicated ideas. It’s really important to look at how organizations handle and use information, particularly since having good data can really boost a company’s edge over the competition (Boudreau et al., 2002). To get a grip on this, you have to see how important skilled people are and the ways knowledge moves around—this is key to doing well. Also, when trying to shake things up in professional settings, figuring out what’s holding people back or helping them can lead to better plans. If you take a methodical approach, like using the Theoretical Domains Framework, you can get a better understanding of how to make changes that actually stick (Buchbinder et al., 2012). All of this shows that psychological aspects have a big influence on enabling actions and how well people support each other.

 

B. Implications for personal growth and relationship health

Enabling behaviors, it’s clear, have a pretty big effect on how we grow as people and the quality of our relationships. When someone falls into the trap of enabling, they’re often unintentionally holding back the other person’s ability to take charge of their own life and make independent decisions. This can create a cycle where no one’s really taking responsibility, which then keeps both people from maturing emotionally and psychologically. As Dr. Candis Best notes, if you want people to lead themselves well, which is super important for personal growth and being involved in decisions (Best et al., 2012), you need to foster holistic leadership. On the flip side, without this growth, relationships can suffer because people start depending too much on each other. It’s also worth noting that things like optimism, creativity, and even spirituality – all key parts of Positive Psychology – aren’t just good for individuals; they can also make relationships better by building a more supportive and fulfilling atmosphere (Garces et al., 2018). So, understanding what enabling behaviors do is key to helping people grow and building healthier relationships.

C. Suggestions for further research and understanding

Given the ongoing unfolding of complexities related to enabling behaviors and their psychological foundations, additional research becomes essential for deepening our understanding of these very dynamics. Research into the part knowledge management plays, especially inside organizational settings, could clarify exactly how these processes work as enablers within both personal settings and broader group dynamics. Further, taking a look at the synergies dynamic capabilities share with enabling behaviors should give some truly valuable insights into just how organizations manage to cultivate resilience, and overall adaptability, amongst their various teams. As existing studies show, the social parts of knowledge management end up contributing quite significantly to the fostering of dynamic capabilities, most noticeably when it comes to product development environments (REVILLA E). Moreover, taking a look at just how important those knowledge measures are – measures that end up reflecting the flow and stock of knowledge – is something that can enhance our own comprehension of how enabling behaviors might be a strategic resource when it comes to getting a competitive advantage inside varying contexts (Boudreau et al., 2002). Such kinds of inquiries have the potential to start bridging existing gaps in understanding around the intricate balance between the enabling of individuals and the fostering of lasting systemic change.

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Additional Resources

WU, J, (2020). “How to Recognize (and Correct) Enabling Behavior”.  Psychology Today. Access here

“4 Signs of Enabling and How To Stop”(2023). Cleveland Clinic Health Essentials.  Access here

Silva, S. &  Montijo, S. (2022). “How to Spot and Stop Enabling Behavior”. PsychCentral. Access here

Gupta, S. (2024). “Understanding Enabler Behavior: Motivations, Signs, and Strategies for Change”. Very Well Mind. Access here

 

 

 

How to maintain good mental health when you’re busy at work

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Monitoring the mental health of one's employees is a wise business model. Please also review AIHCP's Behavioral Health Certification ProgramsWritten by Mike Scott

Work takes up a significant portion of our lives, and for healthcare professionals who devote much of their time and energy to supporting others, daily tasks can feel particularly stressful. With a responsibility to care, it can be easy to put your own needs to one side. However, this isn’t sustainable in the long term, and may lead to burnout if you don’t take a moment to slow down and prioritize your mental health.

Taking care of your mental wellbeing can be easier said than done. Here’s how you can take positive steps to look after yourself, even when you’re really busy at work.

Stick to a schedule

Having a busy schedule can feel overwhelming, but in fact, simply knowing when you’re required to work and when you’re not can help you to schedule in some much needed time for unwinding.

At the start of each week, take a moment to look ahead to see what you have planned – try to find gaps in your schedule that you can devote to a calm, relaxing activity that’ll help to restore both your mind and body. If you’re working overtime, taking a look at your schedule can help you to recognize where you may need to slow down if you’re working far too many hours. 

Remember, overworking yourself will only lead to burnout, causing you to be less productive and efficient, and potentially leading to you needing to take more time off in the future.

Similarly, it’s important to maintain a healthy work-life balance. When you’ve left work for the day, try to leave thoughts of your work responsibilities behind – it’s essential that you’re able to get ample rest so that your mind can reset in time for each new day.

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is all about connecting with the present moment. It can help you become more aware of your thought processes and habits. The beauty of mindfulness is that you can practice it easily at any time, and anywhere – just take a couple of moments to close your eyes, breathe deeply, and focus on what’s going on in that moment. Over time, this will help you to become more in touch with your feelings, and less reactive to stress as a result.

Mindfulness can act as a saving grace when you are limited on time and need to quickly refocus in the face of difficulties or overwhelm. As you devote more time to mindfulness practice, you’ll likely find it easier to enter ‘mindfulness mode’ – stressful feelings of overwhelm will more easily pass you by in a way they once didn’t. Mindfulness is all about recognizing your feelings, observing them, and letting them go.

Take care of your body

The mind and body are intrinsically linked, and by taking care of your physical health, you’ll help your mind to thrive, too. Even a short stroll or other gentle activity can get your body moving and help to improve your mood on a difficult day at work.

But, how do you fit exercise into your routine when you’re particularly busy? Consider setting some time aside on your lunch break to take a walk, or you may be able to walk or cycle to work each morning instead of driving or taking public transport. You can also try online exercise if you’re particularly busy, as a pre-recorded video will allow you to take part in a workout at any time that suits you.

As a healthcare professional, you’ll know just how important it is to stay healthy. As well as making time for exercise, be sure to eat a well-balanced diet, so that your brain has all the nutrients it needs to stay resilient, healthy and happy.

Speak to a mental health professional

Sometimes, speaking to a mental health professional may be necessary if you’re struggling to cope with difficult feelings. It can be a lot to handle mental health struggles by yourself, particularly if you don’t feel you have the time to rest and reflect on how you’re feeling between your work responsibilities.

Counselling can be hugely beneficial for healthcare professionals with heavy workloads. Many employers offer various types of therapies as an employee benefit, so it’s worth looking into your options. There are various types of therapy to consider and talking therapies – such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and psychotherapy – are particularly popular. A qualified professional can help you to find the solution that works best for you.

Speak to your employer

If you’re struggling with your mental health, notifying your employer is essential to receiving the support you need and ensuring your performance at work doesn’t decline. Rather than pushing through each long day and bottling up how you’re feeling, consider asking for help from the people around you. Chances are, they can lighten the load – be sure to let them know how they can best support you.

Your employer may be able to make changes to your schedule, or delegate responsibilities if you’re finding it difficult to stay on top of your workload. They may offer a period of leave to help you rest and reset, or, they could offer flexible working options to help you maintain a better work-life balance if company policy allows it. While it won’t be possible in all circumstances, it’s always worth talking through your options with your employer and making sure they’re aware of your situation, so they can support you in the best way possible.

The importance of prioritizing your mental health

Work is important, but your mental health should always be your top priority. While some amount of stress at work is unavoidable and necessary, there is a line between a normal amount of stress, and that which begins to take a toll on your mental health.

It can be hard to slow down as a busy professional. If you struggle to do so, remember that a healthy mind is key to staying productive and achieving your career goals – so long as you take care of your mental health, you, your employer, and your patients will all benefit.

Author bio: Mike Scott

Mike is a healthcare professional who believes access to mental health support and resources is essential in the workplace. He aims to educate employers and employees on the importance of prioritizing emotional wellbeing for greater work satisfaction.

 

 

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Behavioral Health Certifications: Mental Health and Excessive People Pleasing

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I. Introduction

Understanding the intricate relationship between mental health and excessive people pleasing is essential for addressing the psychological challenges many individuals face today. People pleasers often prioritize the approval and satisfaction of others over their own needs, leading to a silencing of their authentic selves. This behavior can stem from various factors, including societal expectations and past experiences of emotional neglect. Research has indicated that the costs associated with excessive people pleasing are significant, impacting not only personal well-being but also contributing to broader societal issues, much like the correlation seen in housing shortages and their repercussions on health care and productivity (Diamond et al., 2019). As individuals navigate their identities, particularly within marginalized groups, feelings of anxiety and self-doubt can deepen, revealing the complexity of mental health in the context of societal pressures (Mitchell A et al.). Thus, a comprehensive examination of these dynamics is critical in fostering healthier relationships with oneself and others.

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Individuals who put the mental health of others over themselves and look to please others usually have many unmet needs and emotional issues that result in low self esteem

 

A. Definition of mental health

Mental health is a multifaceted concept that encompasses emotional, psychological, and social well-being, significantly influencing how individuals think, feel, and act. It plays a crucial role in how we cope with stress and make decisions, shaping our interactions with others and our overall quality of life. A thriving mental health state enables individuals to engage in productive activities and maintain fulfilling relationships, which can mitigate tendencies toward excessive people pleasing. Research indicates that low vocational satisfaction and inadequate social support can heighten feelings of anxiety and depression, which may further exacerbate the compulsive desire to please others as a means of seeking validation and acceptance (Knox et al., 2002). Furthermore, the absence of strong support systems can lead to detrimental mental health outcomes, emphasizing the necessity of fostering supportive environments that can alleviate the pressures individuals face in their pursuit of social approval (Diamond et al., 2019).

 

B. Overview of people pleasing behavior

People-pleasing behavior is often rooted in the desire for acceptance and approval from others, which can lead individuals to prioritize others’ needs over their own. This pervasive need to be liked can have significant implications for mental health, as people pleasers may neglect their own well-being in favor of fulfilling the expectations of friends, family, or colleagues. Research indicates that such behavior can diminish self-esteem and exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression, especially when individuals perceive their worth as contingent upon others approval. For instance, performance pressures similar to those faced by collegiate athletes can trigger maladaptive behaviors, suggesting a correlation between external pressures and mental health challenges (Apsey et al., 2019). Moreover, the complexity of social interactions, where individuals may feel compelled to meet varied expectations, can complicate self-identity, leading to internal conflict and stress (Eggleston K). Ultimately, the pursuit of universal approval can be both psychologically taxing and detrimental to ones overall health.

 

C. Importance of exploring the relationship between mental health and people pleasing

Understanding the relationship between mental health and excessive people-pleasing is critical, as this dynamic can significantly impact an individuals well-being. Individuals who exhibit people-pleasing tendencies often prioritize others needs over their own, leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-worth. The pressure to gain validation and approval can exacerbate existing mental health issues, creating a cyclical pattern of dependency on external affirmation. This incessant striving for acceptance not only diminishes personal autonomy but may also lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms, including disordered eating, as evidenced by athletes facing pressures regarding body image and performance (Apsey et al., 2019). Additionally, exploring these themes in varying cultural contexts, such as those discussed in McShanes analysis of political behaviors in interregnum England, can yield insights into how societal expectations shape individuals mental health experiences (McShane et al., 2010). Thus, examining this relationship is essential for developing effective interventions that promote healthier behaviors and promote well-being.

 

II. Understanding People Pleasing

The phenomenon of people pleasing is intricately linked to various mental health challenges, often serving as a coping mechanism for underlying issues. Individuals who exhibit excessive people pleasing behaviors may find their self-worth closely tied to external validation, leading to an increased susceptibility to anxiety and depression. This dynamic can be further complicated by personality traits such as vicarious trauma or burnout, as evidenced in the study of clergy experiencing high levels of emotional exhaustion, which ultimately impacts their professional lives and mental health (Hanson et al., 2020). Moreover, the societal pressure to conform to the expectations of others can impose significant costs on personal autonomy and well-being, paralleling the broader implications of inadequate support systems in addressing mental health (Diamond et al., 2019). Such connections between people pleasing and mental health underscore the need for awareness and intervention strategies that foster healthier relational boundaries.

We cannot please everyone in life and boundaries are necessary

 

A. Characteristics of people pleasers

Individuals who exhibit characteristics of people pleasing often demonstrate a profound fear of rejection and a strong desire for approval from others. This can manifest in various ways, including an inability to say no, consistently prioritizing others needs over their own, and excessive apologizing, which can significantly impact their mental health. People pleasers may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, often tying their self-worth to external validation, which can lead to anxiety and depression. Moreover, research reveals that performance pressures in specific environments, such as athletics, can exacerbate these tendencies, with disordered eating behaviors linked to the need for acceptance within peer groups (Apsey et al., 2019). Similarly, the importance of personal comfort is evident in activities where individuals, particularly women, may alter their participation based on discomfort stemming from societal pressures or physical constraints, such as inadequate clothing support (Burbage et al., 2018). Therefore, addressing these characteristics is crucial for improving mental well-being and fostering healthier interpersonal relationships.

 

B. Psychological motivations behind people pleasing

The psychological motivations behind excessive people pleasing often stem from deep-rooted desires for acceptance and affirmation. Individuals may engage in pleasing behaviors as a defense mechanism against feelings of inadequacy or fear of rejection, often prioritizing others needs over their own to maintain social harmony. This behavior can be linked to an internalized belief that self-worth is contingent upon external approval, leading to a cycle of dependency on others validation. Moreover, such tendencies can be exacerbated by societal expectations that equate selflessness with virtue, which may reinforce the idea that one’s identity is shaped significantly by the perceptions of others (Cabeza-Ramírez et al., 2022). This dynamic not only hampers personal development but also contributes to mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, as the relentless pursuit of external validation can lead to emotional burnout and a diminished sense of self (Nguyen et al., 2022). Ultimately, understanding these motivations is crucial for addressing the implications of people pleasing on mental well-being.

Many with these tendencies may have a backstory of personal and childhood trauma, low self image, anxious attachment disorders and faced conditional love as children.

 

C. Societal influences that encourage people pleasing

The phenomenon of excessive people pleasing can be profoundly influenced by societal expectations that prioritize conformity over individuality. In contemporary culture, particularly within social media landscapes, individuals are often bombarded with idealized images and norms that shape perceptions of self-worth. Those who feel compelled to align their identities with societal standards may engage in people pleasing as a strategy to gain acceptance and validation. As explored by the creators of The Autobiography of Jane Eyre, the conflict between ones authentic self and external expectations often leads to a struggle that is magnified in a digitally-driven society, where appearances hold significant weight (Gonzales et al., 2018). Moreover, motivations for adopting minimalist consumption patterns suggest that individuals may also pursue social acceptance through reduced materialism, reflecting a deeper psychological engagement with societal beliefs about success and fulfillment (Nguyen et al., 2022). Thus, the interplay between societal pressures and personal identity significantly exacerbates the tendency toward people pleasing.

 

III. Impact of People Pleasing on Mental Health

The pervasive tendency to engage in people pleasing can have profound implications for mental health, leading to heightened anxiety, reduced self-esteem, and even depression. Individuals who prioritize others approval over their own needs often find themselves trapped in a cycle of obligation and dissatisfaction, where their self-worth becomes inextricably tied to external validation. This disconnection from ones authentic self fosters feelings of inadequacy and the fear of rejection, which exacerbate mental health challenges. Moreover, excessive people pleasing can diminish ones capacity to engage in healthy interpersonal relationships; individuals may struggle with asserting boundaries or expressing genuine emotions, further perpetuating feelings of isolation. As the pressures associated with meeting perceived expectations mount, the risk of burnout increases. Cumulatively, these factors underscore the urgent need for interventions that promote self-acceptance and encourage autonomous decision-making to mitigate the detrimental effects of people pleasing on mental well-being (Batchelder et al., 1957), (Eggleston K).

Mental health can be negatively effected through the above and lead to a variety of issues including inauthentic relationships, poor boundaries, loss of self, poor mental health and self image, and poor self care.

Those who look to please others will commonly lack proper self care and time for self which can lead to burnout and other anxiety issues

 

A. Anxiety and stress related to people pleasing

The phenomenon of people pleasing often leads to significant anxiety and stress, stemming from an insatiable desire for external validation and an apprehension of disappointing others. Individuals entrenched in this behavioral pattern may experience constant internal conflict, sacrificing their own needs and well-being to maintain harmonious relationships. This unwavering commitment to pleasing others can result in emotional fatigue, as the individuals sense of identity becomes entangled with the approval of others, often leading to feelings of inadequacy when expectations are not met. Furthermore, the societal pressure to conform to specific roles can exacerbate these feelings, promoting a cycle of anxiety that not only impacts personal well-being but can also affect professional dynamics, similar to the experiences of older women in the workforce who feel compelled to downplay their health challenges such as menopause-related symptoms (Bariola E et al.). This interplay of personal expectations and external pressures can culminate in a profound sense of disconnection and distress among people pleasers (Hanson et al., 2020).

 

B. Effects on self-esteem and self-worth

It’s well-established that trying too hard to please everyone has a complicated, and often negative, relationship with how someone feels about themselves. When people constantly put others first and crave their approval, they often tie their self-worth to what other people think, which, in most cases, leads to ongoing insecurity. This reliance on outside validation can make feelings of inadequacy even worse, because they’re always measuring their value against the perceptions of others. Furthermore, the effects of social comparison—which are heightened in super competitive spaces like schools—can intensify this struggle. To illustrate, (Rindels et al., 2021) points out how hyper-competitiveness among high-achieving students impacts their mental well-being; it suggests that constant comparison tends to undermine self-esteem while, at the same time, raising the likelihood of mental health issues like depression. Likewise, emphasizing natural talent and intellectual success, as it’s been criticized in discussions about societal values, speaks to the risks of linking personal worth too closely to talent and approval—something that can discourage self-acceptance and instead fuel toxic self-doubt (McLendon et al., 2009). These kinds of dynamics ultimately underscore the urgent need for cultivating self-perceptions that aren’t based on trying to please other people.

 

C. Long-term mental health consequences

The mental health repercussions of constantly trying to please everyone can be quite deep and varied, often leading to long-term emotional issues like anxiety and depression. When people continuously put others’ needs first, seeking their approval, they might get stuck in a pattern of neglecting themselves. This, in turn, can foster feelings of not being good enough and lowering their own self-esteem. Such behavior can, over time, change how the brain responds to stress, increasing the risk of anxiety problems and even leading to addictive behaviors, like depending too much on social media for validation (Brooks et al., 2024). The result? People pleasers might struggle with a shaky sense of who they are, with their self-esteem mostly depending on what others think of them (McShane et al., 2010). Not being able to set strong boundaries can hold back personal development and damage the quality of relationships, creating a negative cycle that worsens their psychological distress in the long haul. Generally speaking, this inability to establish boundaries and prioritizing of others will lead to long-term problems.

IV. Strategies for Overcoming Excessive People Pleasing

Dealing with excessive people-pleasing isn’t a simple fix; it calls for a combined effort involving knowing yourself better, learning how to be assertive, and setting reasonable boundaries. Often, people struggle with the worry that they’ll be turned down or not liked, and this worry can fuel the habit of always putting others first. A key method involves building your own self-compassion, which helps you see your own value, even when others don’t give you praise. Methods such as using descriptive language to clearly say how you feel and what you want have been useful, particularly when vulnerable people are dealing with anxiety; consider, for example, the instance of a child who creatively overcame selective mutism (Alrabiah et al., 2017). Moreover, grasping the psychological roots of people-pleasing—think insecurity or being afraid of disagreements—helps people question what society expects of them and encourages better relationships (Rizeanu et al., 2018). When these strategies are all implemented, mental well-being can improve quite a bit, as well as reducing the negative impact of excessive people-pleasing.

 

A. Developing assertiveness skills

Developing assertiveness is really important when you’re dealing with too much people pleasing. It helps folks express what they need and set those crucial boundaries. People who tend to overdo the pleasing thing often feel more anxious and their self-esteem takes a hit, which, you know, can cause not-so-great relationships and even mental health stuff. Now, when we encourage assertiveness, it can help create better interactions, boosting self-respect and helping everyone understand each other better. So, what does assertiveness training look like? Well, it could be practicing how to communicate directly, learning when to say no, and standing up for yourself without feeling guilty about it. These kinds of skills don’t just improve how we deal with people; they also have a positive impact on our mental well-being. Studies have shown, in most cases, that people who are more assertive tend to be happier with their lives and experience less anxiety and depression. Generally speaking, putting assertiveness front and center in therapy might just reduce the harmful effects of excessive people pleasing, especially for those who are more susceptible (Peterson et al., 2022), (Gabrelcik et al., 2020).

 

B. Setting healthy boundaries

For individuals inclined to excessive people-pleasing, setting healthy boundaries is really vital, because it cultivates an atmosphere where prioritizing mental well-being becomes more feasible. These clear personal limits can ease the feelings of guilt and anxiety that sometimes accompany saying “no,” while also empowering one to practice self-care, thereby reinforcing self-worth. This balance is especially pertinent for those in caregiving professions, where pressure to meet others’ needs may lead to neglect of one’s own mental and physical health. And, as (Ojewole et al., 2017) notes, effective boundary setting involves clear communication coupled with self-advocacy, and these serve as essential tools for maintaining wholeness across various dimensions of life. Furthermore, (Hanson et al., 2020) emphasizes the importance of internal resilience strategies; without these healthy boundaries, the risk of emotional burnout increases, which ultimately undermines one’s ability to effectively support others.

 

C. Seeking professional help and therapy

For individuals wrestling with an overwhelming need to please, seeking professional therapeutic help is a crucial move. Therapy provides a secure environment to unpack why they feel compelled to constantly seek others’ approval, and examine the negative impact it has on their life. Through therapeutic methods, such as the narrative therapy used in programs like WISER, people are empowered to revise their own stories. This revision supports the growth of both a healthier sense of self and better relationships (Al-Khattab et al., 2019). Additionally, attending to one’s mental health through therapy is beneficial for not only immediate relief, but also can lessen the risks of enduring problems, for instance, vicarious trauma, which especially impacts those serving as caretakers, emphasizing the importance of pursuing assistance from trained professionals (Hanson et al., 2020). By valuing therapy, people are able to foster self-acceptance and build their resilience, leading to the end of people-pleasing behavior.

 

V. Conclusion

Ultimately, examining the connection between mental health and excessive people-pleasing offers crucial understandings about the psychological burden of consistently prioritizing the needs of others. Quite often, individuals turn to people-pleasing behaviors as a way to navigate potential conflict or fear of rejection, which can eventually result in harmful outcomes like anxiety, depression, and even burnout. This is particularly relevant in demanding fields – caregiving roles, for example – where individuals may experience a challenge balancing the needs of those under their care and their own well-being, as noted in (György Kadocsa et al.). The stigma experienced by those facing mental health challenges can intensify feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism, further perpetuating patterns of people-pleasing behavior. Studies on stigma, notably its effects on young people with conditions such as Tourette’s syndrome, emphasize the far-reaching societal obstacles that impede genuine self-expression and mental health progress. As discussed in (Forrester-Jones et al., 2015), there’s a pressing need for support and heightened awareness in order to overcome these damaging patterns.

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A. Recap of the relationship between mental health and people pleasing

The dynamic between mental well-being and people-pleasing tendencies carries considerable weight when considering individual health. Often, those who prioritize making others happy tend to place the needs and opinions of everyone else above their own, which can foster chronic anxiety alongside a diminished sense of self-esteem. This kind of self-neglect initiates a damaging pattern. In this pattern, mental health suffers as the individual experiences constant anxiety about rejection, which is only worsened when external pressures are high. For instance, collegiate athletes, facing performance pressures, might develop disordered eating, according to recent studies (Apsey et al., 2019). History also shows us this in interpersonal relationships. The loyalties and rituals during interregnum England show how expectations from the outside can drive people to act against what’s best for them in the name of social cohesion (McShane et al., 2010). Understanding this interplay is therefore really important for building better relationships with oneself and others, which ultimately improves mental health.

 

B. Importance of self-awareness and self-care

When thinking about mental health, and especially for those who tend to excessively try to please others, becoming more aware of yourself and taking good care of yourself are really important. These things help you become stronger and feel better overall. Knowing yourself lets you see what you’re doing, so you can tell when you actually want something versus when you just want others to like you. This wanting to be liked can be draining. Doing self-care, like setting limits and focusing on what you need, can help lessen the bad effects of always trying to accommodate everyone. Research suggests that women going through changes like menopause show how work and managing yourself affect mental health (Bariola E et al.). Moreover, healthcare workers deal with special stresses that can make burnout worse, which shows why doing self-care is so important for staying healthy in both mind and body (György Kadocsa et al.). So, really, working on knowing yourself and taking care of yourself isn’t just a good idea; it’s a must for keeping your mental health in good shape over time.

C. Encouragement for individuals to prioritize their mental health over pleasing others

It’s definitely important to think about mental health, especially when so much of society seems to push us toward constantly seeking approval. When people get stuck in a pattern of trying to please everyone else, they often end up neglecting their own needs, which can lead to more stress and anxiety. This seems especially true for certain groups where societal pressures make things even harder. Take, for example, the Strong Black Women archetype; cultural expectations can really get in the way of self-care, contributing to some serious stress-related health problems, as (Gaines et al., 2018) points out. Pastors and other leaders face similar struggles; the constant demands of their roles can take a toll on their mental health, highlighting how crucial self-care is when you’re dealing with so many external obligations, as emphasized in (Johnson et al., 2018). So, creating a supportive atmosphere where people feel empowered to prioritize themselves is key to turning things around and boosting overall mental well-being. It’s about recognizing that putting your own mental health first isn’t selfish – it’s essential.

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Additional Resources

Moore, M. (2024). “The Psychology Behind People Pleasing”. PsychCentral. Access here

Guttman, J. (2019). “Beware: People-Pleasing Behaviors Can Backfire”. Psychology Today.  Access here

“People-Pleasing: What It Is and What To Do About”. (2025). Mental Tool Box.  Access here

 

Counseling and Helping Others Through Shaming and Bullying

Posted on by Mark Moran

 

I. Introduction

In contemporary society, the intersection of technology and interpersonal interactions has created a breeding ground for shaming and bullying, particularly in online environments. The ramifications of these behaviors extend far beyond immediate hurt, often leading to significant psychological distress among victims. A troubling aspect is the rising incidence of cyberbullying impacting various demographics, including notable public figures, where the consequences include diminished self-esteem and mental health challenges (Dipeolu et al., 2023). Historically, bullying was overlooked as a rite of passage; however, recent findings have illuminated its detrimental effects, prompting educational institutions to reassess their approaches (Carlon et al., 2014). As schools strive to implement comprehensive anti-bullying strategies, there is a concurrent need to develop effective coping mechanisms for those affected by both shaming and bullying, thereby fostering resilience and a supportive environment for all individuals involved.

Shaming and bullying can have major effects on mental health. Please also review AIHCP’s Stress Management, as well as other behavioral health programs
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A. Definition of shaming and bullying

The complexities surrounding interpersonal conflicts in educational settings often manifest through shaming and bullying behaviors, which can significantly impact individuals’ emotional and psychological well-being. Shaming refers to the act of publicly humiliating or criticizing someone, often leading to feelings of worthlessness, while bullying encompasses a broader range of aggressive behaviors, including verbal, physical, and cyber harassment. The rise of technology has exacerbated these issues, especially among adolescents, as cyberbullying allows for persistent harassment across digital platforms, effectively blurring the lines of safety for victims (Mabika et al., 2022). Studies highlight that educators are increasingly recognizing the prevalence of such behaviors and the urgent need for intervention strategies (LaFrancis et al., 2019). Understanding the definitions and distinctions between shaming and bullying is crucial for developing effective coping mechanisms and supportive frameworks for those affected, facilitating a healthier school environment.

 

B. Overview of the impact on individuals and communities

The pervasive nature of bullying and shaming has far-reaching consequences that extend beyond individual experiences, impacting entire communities. Individuals subjected to such negative behaviors often face psychological distress, manifesting as anxiety, depression, and a decline in self-esteem, which can hinder their academic and social functioning. This distress is further complicated by the rise of cyberbullying, an issue exacerbated by the interactive nature of modern communication technologies. Adolescents, as the most active users of these technologies, report feeling vulnerable to attacks that can have lasting effects on their wellbeing, creating an environment of fear and isolation within schools and social settings (Moross et al., 2017). Furthermore, despite numerous anti-bullying initiatives, the complex interpersonal dynamics that generate these behaviors remain difficult for adults to address effectively (Cowie et al., 2017). Consequently, understanding the collective impact of bullying is crucial for developing effective strategies to support affected individuals and strengthen community resilience.

 

C. Importance of addressing these issues and providing support

Addressing issues of shaming and bullying is crucial, as the psychological ramifications can be profoundly detrimental to individuals mental health and self-esteem. A growing body of evidence emphasizes the severe impacts of appearance teasing, which can lead to diminished self-worth among affected youths, highlighting the need for societal awareness and intervention strategies (Bhanot et al., 2023). Furthermore, the advent of cyberbullying has introduced additional complexities, as adolescents increasingly face harassment through digital platforms. This digital dimension not only exacerbates existing issues but also creates new avenues for victimization (Moross et al., 2017). Therefore, providing robust support systems—such as counseling and educational initiatives—becomes imperative in order to equip individuals with effective coping mechanisms and foster resilience. By addressing these issues, society can not only mitigate the immediate effects of shaming and bullying but also promote a healthier and more supportive environment for all individuals.

 

II. Understanding Shaming and Bullying

The intricate dynamics of bullying and shaming have evolved significantly, particularly in educational environments. Historically dismissed as mere childhood rites of passage, bullying is now recognized as a serious issue that can inflict long-lasting psychological harm on victims, leading to adverse effects on their overall well-being. Recent research underscores the importance of addressing the systemic factors that foster bullying behaviors within schools, whereby comprehensive anti-bullying programs have gained traction as essential interventions (Carlon et al., 2014). These programs are most effective when implemented at multiple levels—individually, in classrooms, and throughout the entire school community. Moreover, the rise of cyberbullying has introduced new challenges, given its pervasive nature in the digital age. Educators acknowledge that robust parental involvement and education play critical roles in mitigating these incidents (LaFrancis et al., 2019). Understanding these complexities is paramount in devising strategies to support victims and promote healthier social interactions among students.

Shaming and bullying is a common evil in the world that goes unnoticed.

 

A. Different forms of shaming and bullying (e.g., verbal, social, cyber)

The multifaceted nature of bullying manifests in various forms, including verbal, social, and cyberbullying, each contributing uniquely to the psychological and emotional harm experienced by victims. Verbal bullying, characterized by name-calling, insults, and threats, can erode a persons self-esteem and lead to lasting emotional trauma. On the other hand, social bullying, which involves exclusion and spreading rumors, undermines an individuals social standing, fostering a sense of isolation. Meanwhile, the rise of digital technology has given birth to cyberbullying, where aggressors exploit online platforms to harass and belittle their targets anonymously. According to recent research, the pervasive impact of these bullying forms necessitates comprehensive anti-bullying programs that address not only the spectrum of aggressive behaviors but also the broader social environment in which they occur. Implementing such interventions can significantly alter the dynamics of bullying in schools and communities (Carlon et al., 2014), (Lentine et al., 2018).

 

B. Psychological effects on victims (e.g., anxiety, depression)

Victims of bullying and shaming often experience profound psychological consequences that can permeate their daily lives. These individuals may struggle with anxiety and depression, manifesting as low self-esteem and emotional distress. For instance, cyberbullying has been shown to instigate severe emotional responses, leading victims to resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms such as substance abuse and withdrawal from social interactions (Dipeolu et al., 2023). Similarly, research on young adults in Malaysia highlights how prevalent cyberbullying can exacerbate feelings of isolation and despair, with many victims acknowledging the harmful impact of offensive language yet feeling powerless to respond (Latif A et al., 2023). The cumulative effect of these experiences can create significant barriers to recovery, indicating the urgent need for targeted interventions. Addressing the psychological ramifications of bullying is crucial for fostering resilience and promoting mental well-being in affected individuals, ultimately paving the way for healthier coping strategies.

 

C. Societal factors contributing to shaming and bullying behaviors

The prevalence of shaming and bullying behaviors within society can often be traced back to deeply entrenched cultural norms and values. In many communities, particularly those emphasizing appearance, behaviors such as appearance teasing have become normalized, leading to significant psychological impacts on individuals. For instance, the study highlighted in (Bhanot et al., 2023) illustrates how Indian youths experience detrimental effects from being appearance-teased by peers and family, underscoring the urgent need for cultural awareness around this issue. Additionally, the rise of online shaming presents another critical dimension of societal influence, as evidenced by the research findings in (Muir et al., 2023). The anonymity and reach of digital platforms can amplify feelings of judgment and exclusion, contributing to a culture that fosters bullying. These societal factors not only perpetuate harmful behaviors but also shape the coping strategies individuals employ to navigate their social environments, revealing the multifaceted nature of these issues.

 

III. The Role of Bystanders

The complex dynamics surrounding shaming and bullying are deeply influenced by the actions—or inactions—of bystanders. Historically, passivity in the face of bullying has been downplayed, yet emerging research emphasizes its critical role in the perpetuation of harm ((Manji et al., 2011)). When bystanders fail to intervene, they inadvertently normalize the behavior, leading to detrimental outcomes not only for victims but also for the overall school environment. This shift in perspective has prompted educators to recognize the importance of fostering a proactive bystander culture. Initiatives that encourage witnesses to speak out can significantly contribute to reducing incidents of bullying ((Carlon et al., 2014)). Moreover, equipping students with the skills to act can transform bystanders into allies, thus mitigating feelings of isolation experienced by victims. Therefore, understanding the multifaceted role of bystanders is essential for developing effective interventions and creating a supportive atmosphere in schools.

Bystanders play a key role in either enhancing bullying or putting a stop to it.

 

A. The impact of bystander intervention on bullying situations

The dynamics of bullying in school environments highlight not only the roles of the victim and the aggressor but also the critical influence of bystanders. Research indicates that when bystanders intervene, they can significantly alter the trajectory of bullying situations, fostering a culture of support rather than silence. Active engagement from peers has been shown to reduce both the prevalence and effects of bullying, as it encourages a communal responsibility among students to protect one another (Carlon et al., 2014). Furthermore, the involvement of parents has also been shown to play a direct role in shaping bystander behaviors, as parental monitoring and self-efficacy directly influence children’s responses to bullying (Malm et al., 2013). Thus, fostering an environment where bystander intervention is encouraged and supported can lead to more effective bullying prevention strategies, ultimately providing a safer and more inclusive school atmosphere for all students.

 

B. Strategies for bystanders to support victims

Bullying isn’t just about what happens between a bully and a victim; those watching from the sidelines—bystanders—often end up playing a surprisingly crucial role in lessening the harm. When people nearby decide, in most instances, to step in or even simply show up, they help create an atmosphere where targets of bullying can find unexpected support and slowly build up their resilience. Sometimes this means directly intervening; in other moments, a quieter, indirect backing—just being present and showing care—can work wonders. For example, expressing heartfelt empathy and a sense of real solidarity tends to empower victims, nudging them toward asking for help and sharing what they’re going through ((Carlon et al., 2014)). It’s been seen that when peer groups nurture a forgiving vibe, adolescents generally bully less and report feeling less victimized ((Quintana-Orts et al., 2019)). Overall, bystanders who are armed with a bit of know-how and ready to take action can, quite simply, help reduce bullying, making school environments a bit safer and more welcoming for everyone.

 

C. The importance of fostering a culture of empathy and support

Shaming and bullying show up everywhere these days, so we really need to step up and build places where people can feel safe—emotionally and mentally. A genuine culture of empathy can sometimes cut through the harm caused by these actions, leaving folks less isolated and not so beaten down by low self-esteem. Research generally points out that when you dig into the messy dynamics of appearance teasing, you find that such ridicule can seriously chip away at someone’s identity and self-worth (Bhanot et al., 2023). At the same time, handling challenges like cyber-bullying calls for a collective effort—sharing resources and coming together to create interventions that offer real support and boost awareness (Adewopo et al., 2023). When we set up these caring environemnts, not only do victims manage to cope a bit better, but peers start taking on more responsibility, which, in turn, helps lower bullying instances and nudges everyone toward a kinder, more understanding community.

 

IV. Coping Mechanisms for Victims

Shaming and bullying hit hard—emotionally and mentally. A lot of people, especially young adults, end up feeling down and stressed out, with social media often adding extra pressure. Studies generally show that leaning on friends and using personal tricks (like some technical adjustments and bit-by-bit corrective steps, for example (Dipeolu et al., 2023)) can help ease the hurt and pave the way for recovery. At the same time, education and timely intervention come into play; when people start to recognize what’s really happening with cyberbullying, many feel more comfortable talking about their experiences and asking for help (Latif A et al., 2023). These ways of coping not only boost personal strength but also help build a community that, in most cases, can spot and deal with the deeper issues behind shaming and bullying. All in all, building up resilience—and being aware of these dynamics—is pretty key to countering the negative impact of such harmful behaviors.

Victims of bullying need external supports to help them cope through the abuse of bullying and shaming

 

A. Emotional and psychological strategies for coping with shaming and bullying

Being bullied and shamed can really stir up some deep emotional and mental struggles, making it pretty clear that finding ways to cope is a must. Many people experiencing this kind of treatment end up feeling low about themselves, wrestling with mental stress and anxiety—proof that humiliation can hit your overall well‑being hard. Research generally shows that those affected tend to try all sorts of coping moves, like leaning on friends and family, dabbling in spiritual practices, or even using tech-based methods to boost resilience (Dipeolu et al., 2023). Besides that, it’s important to notice key protective elements—a solid, positive self-image and an understanding of one’s cultural roots can be crucial in navigating these tough experiences. For example, some studies indicate that when issues such as appearance teasing are directly addressed, it highlights the need for community awareness and a united effort, which in turn influences the ways young people handle bullying (Bhanot et al., 2023). All in all, mixing these emotional and mental strategies builds a foundation that empowers folks to reclaim their own stories, even if it means sometimes taking a few unconventional steps along the way.

 

B. The role of support systems (friends, family, counselors)

Bullying and shaming leave a real mark on people, and having solid support around really helps. Friends, family, or even counselors can be that comforting presence—research on teens after online harm (Xiao S et al., 2022) often shows that a caring ear and a kind word can make a big difference. Sometimes, a friend who truly gets you fills the lonely gap that bullying can create; there’s a kind of belonging that comes from simply being understood. Family, too, steps in here, giving not just advice but that steady, sometimes noisy support that helps build up resilience, even if it doesn’t feel perfect at every moment. Then there are counselors who, with their own set of strategies and a bit of organized planning, work one-on-one to smooth out the emotional bumps in each person’s life. Altogether, when these support networks mix it up, they don’t just ease pain in the moment—they lay down a pathway for long-term emotional well-being, guiding young people toward a healthier, more balanced future (Bhatia S et al., 2023).

 

C. Resources and programs available for victims of bullying

Bullying hits victims hard, and helping them calls for a mix of supports that isn’t tied to one single trick. Nowadays, schools and local groups are trying out fresh ideas—blending approaches that work with individuals, in classrooms, and across the whole school ((Carlon et al., 2014)). Cyberbullying, too, has added a new twist; many now opt for clever fixes like open-source dashboards that let law enforcement peek at risky social media behavior ((Adewopo et al., 2023)). It seems almost obvious that getting parents, teachers, and community members working together is key to building a space where victims feel truly backed up. When these efforts come together, victims get not just support but real ways to feel empowered and start healing, suggesting that we need a broader shift in how we tackle bullying in both everyday life and the digital world.

 

V. Conclusion

Shaming, bullying, and coping strategies all twist together, making us rethink how schools handle these challenges. Bullying isn’t just some rite of passage – it’s a damaging act that leaves lasting marks on one’s feelings, which, in most cases, means schools need serious, whole-scale changes. Programs that pull in kids, parents, and educators show there’s a real way to spark a friendlier vibe for learning and emotional well-being. Sometimes, efforts to give bullies a nudge toward empathy while arming victims with assertiveness help lessen aggressive behavior over time. This kind of mixed approach not only tackles bullying’s immediate fallout but also builds a supportive, respectful culture in schools—a reminder that these institutions bear a big responsibility in fighting harmful behavior. (Carlon et al., 2014) (Garrett et al., 2002)

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A. Recap of the importance of addressing shaming and bullying

Shaming and bullying have become a big issue in our digital age that needs quick attention. Malaysian young adults often face cyberbullying—harsh, hurtful language that not only wounds but is sometimes brushed off by the victims themselves, which points to a clear need for broader educational support (Latif A et al., 2023). Public figures, like celebrities, aren’t spared either; many end up dealing with the mental strain, low self-esteem, and even thoughts of suicide (Dipeolu et al., 2023). Generally speaking, these behaviors remind us that effective coping techniques and a supportive community can really help lessen the heavy emotional toll on people. In the end, building a culture full of empathy and resilience is crucial if we’re to truly counteract bullying and shaming in all their messy forms.

 

B. Call to action for individuals and communities to support victims

Bullying and shaming show up all over our daily lives, and that means all of us—neighbors, friends, communities—need to step in and offer real support to those caught in the crossfire. Sometimes you see it in places you wouldn’t expect; for example, take how a case like Rehtaeh Parsons gets presented in the media (Hogan et al., 2021)—it’s not just about a simple act of bullying but a messy mix with deeper social divides. In many instances, even schools aren’t free from these behaviors—yes, there have been cases where teachers are involved too (Burriss et al., 2018)—which reminds us that our idea of bullying must stretch beyond the usual image. Getting involved with grassroots efforts like laid-back awareness drives or down-to-earth workshops can make a difference, empowering people to face these issues head-on while chipping away at the bigger, often hidden systems behind them. Communities coming together to carve out safe spots for open dialogue, easy reporting avenues, and practical support, even if it’s in small steps, can ultimately spark the healing and resilience that victims need, generally speaking, to move forward.

 

C. Final thoughts on creating a more compassionate society

Working toward a kinder society means digging into those raw feelings that often spark shaming and bullying. It’s revealing to notice how emotions like shame and humiliation can point us toward acceptance and empathy. These reactions aren’t just passing moments—they’re deep-seated in our human makeup, popping up from everyday urges like competing and caring, and they end up shaping how we relate to each other in various communities (Farke A et al., 2019). In many counseling settings—where, quite often, subtle anti-fat biases slip in—a shift toward a liberatory mindset may help dial down these negative effects (Bailey et al., 2024). By stirring up awareness, taking a moment to rethink our own assumptions, acting responsively, and, yes, owning up to our part, people can slowly overcome personal biases and build genuine compassion. Ultimately, fostering a society steeped in empathy calls for all of us to transform complex emotional reactions into real opportunities for understanding and support.

 

Additional Resources

Golden, B. (2023). “Shaming Is an Aggressive Act”. Psychology Today. Access here

Harper, J. (2017). “Bullying, Mobbing and the Role of Shame”. Psychology Today. Access here

“Fat Shaming and Body Shaming”. Bullying Statistics.  Access here

Leo (2023). “Body Shaming: The Psychological Effects and How to Overcome It”. Psychologily.  Access here