Teaching children better ways to express emotion is key to parenting. It is essential to guide children through anger and teach them ways to express it and let it out without harming oneself or others. Limiting temper tantrums, teaching patience, setting good examples and promoting awareness of other’s needs are all important aspects in teaching children to be better people.
The article, “How to tackle your child’s violent behavior” from the “Times of India” looks at some ways a parent can curb bad anger tendencies. The article states,
“Are you demotivated by your child’s aggressive behaviour? Do you often think that you have failed as a parent in helping your child manage their emotions? Do not worry because emotional regulation is a skill we all can learn gradually with time. While some children may even take longer to master self behaviour, as a parent you simply need to be patient and should work on your own actions that behave as a barrier to control or manage difficult situations.”
Anger Management skills for children are critical to their development and helping them become productive and safe members of society. It is important to install and implement in their behavior.
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Training and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.
Emotions are part of life. They arise from intense reactions to situations or people and can overtake an individual. They can be good and bad depending on how the person harnesses them. Individuals who are able to balance their emotional reactions with their intellect and reason are better able to cope with issues and utilize the emotion in a positive way.
Stoic traditions tried to suppress the idea of emotion and worship reason. Star Trek’s Mr. Spock and Mr. Data both were characters that forever immortalized the idea of emotion and reason. The Vulcan, Mr Spock trying to suppress his emotion and enhance logic at all cost. The character saw emotion as something detrimental to the pursuit of logical exploration of situations. As the character evolved, the good of emotion was viewed when used in proper balance. Mr. Data, an android, pursued emotion and wished to experience it. His character eventually was able to experience emotion through an “emotion chip” that allowed him to feel anger, frustration and fear. He had to learn to channel these emotions with his reason.
In both cases, the value of emotion is expressed as something important to the human condition. Emotion can be detrimental to logic, it can cause havoc, but when utilized in balance with reason and logic it is a very important part of human existence.
Sadness, anger, love and other feelings are all critical to humanity. Humanity cannot exist without these emotions.
Sadness is a key emotion that lets others know when something is not right with someone. It is a reaction to loss and is experienced through grief and mourning. It is forever tied to the emotion of love. Love is an important emotion because it expresses attachment and need. As social beings, attachments are key. Every relationship has attachment and mutual need. When this attachment is broken, grief results. So as one can see grief and love are tied together in this fallen world.
Anger is an emotion that reacts to injustice or at least perceived injustice. It is critical in balancing right and wrong and protecting others. It is again important to relationships and maintaining them. Of love and sadness, anger receives more negative press because it is the emotion that is most misused. It leads to fighting, violence and war when not properly balanced yet its importance to awaken an individual to awareness of something wrong or harmful to a situation is critical in human evolution.
These three emotions are all important to maintaining and keeping relationships and understanding their role in society. Without them, attachments and relationships are merely cold calculations. There are no true enduring connections. However, when these emotions are not balanced with reason, they can cause despair, lust, and rage. Hence balance is the key to emotions and reason in everyday life.
Learning to balance emotions are no easy task. Mr Data in Star Trek had to learn this. He once told Captain Picard that he wished he could turn off the emotion chip and marveled how human beings were able to act with emotions such as anger and fear and still perform their duties. It is the essence of being human to be able to balance emotional reaction with reason and intellect and avoid the extremes of emotion that lead to devastation. Emotions are hence great assets but also when misused great detriments.
Emotions can be controlled through a variety of practices in life. The virtue of temperance looks to balance the passions. In many religious traditions, the passions are seen as out of control. These traditions teach the inability to control one’s passions is due to sin. Other traditions see the disconnect from the ultimate reality that causes this imbalance. Whether imbalance or sin, humanity looks for many ways to control emotion. Temperance is one such virtue that balances the desires. Balance is the key word. It does not look to eliminate the passions or emotions or desires, but control them within the acceptable extreme.
Meditation, Stress Management, Anger Management are all paths to learn to better control external pressures with internal guides. Meditation naturally calms the mind and body and teaches it how to relax. Stress Management teaches individuals how to respond to stressful stimuli in a beneficial way. Anger Management teaches individuals how to identify triggers that lead to anger.
There are many individual strategies within this fields and it is important to train the mind, body and soul to use them in productive ways to learn to control emotion. Various breathing techniques as well as cognitive strategies to train the mind in how it reacts to bad situations are extremely useful in dealing with emotional outbursts. It is good to be mindful of emotions and what triggers them in private. Cooling down sometimes involves walking away and expressing emotions in a less destructive method that harms no-one. The ability to do so takes conscious effort. It takes willingness to identify triggers, study one’s past and natural inclinations and be steadfast in correcting bad habits.
If one does not take steps to control emotions, then life will be far more difficult. Emotions while good can also destroy one’s life with broken relationships, abuse, assaults and eventually jail. Even simple outbursts that carry no true legal issues can be detrimental to work, school and family life. Controlling emotions within a safe and acceptable norm is crucial to emotional development.
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Adverse childhood experiences can affect one emotionally in so many ways. Anger is one type of common emotion that can later erupt in adulthood from these types of experiences as a child. It is important to channel this natural emotion properly and to understand why it is emerging so it does not become destructive. Anger Management Training can help in these cases. Counseling can also help to understand the root of the issue
The article, “How Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) Impact Adult Anger” by Dr Bernard Golden looks deeper at ACE’s and how anger later re-emerges. He states,
“Following the original research, hundreds of studies have been performed to determine other potential consequences associated with ACEs—including their impact on trait anger—a predisposition for anger arousal and hostility. This makes perfect sense when we consider that childhood treatment represents a threat to children.”
For those who cannot escape abuse, sometimes others need to step up and identify. Work places can spot mental and physical abuse in employees and be able to possibly help or find intervention. It can be the boss or an employee, but abuse does occur and being able to spot it is important.
The article, “How to spot signs of domestic abuse at work” by Nurhuda Syed looks for signs of abuse at home. The article states,
“If your colleague doesn’t tell you about their personal struggles, how do you know if they need help or support in any way? Can you tell if they’re suffering from domestic abuse? What are some signs you can look out for during your interactions with them at work? An experienced therapist said there’s no clear answer to those questions – but they’re important to ask anyway.”
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management Consulting.
Many in the field of Anger Management deal with and help others who have experienced abuse.
Anger is a natural emotion but controlling it key. Anger can be justified or unjustified but when it is out of control, it is dangerous regardless of the circumstances. It is important to control anger in life and limit its ability to hurt us physically.
The article, “Managing Anger: Tips, Techniques, and Tools” by Tchlkl Davis looks at how to cope and control anger. She states,
“Many negative emotions—emotions like sadness, shame, or fear—make us want to run and hide. But not anger. Anger makes us want to approach—to fight or confront our enemies. That makes anger a unique negative emotion”
Anger is an important emotion in our life and it has its purposes but when it is misused or when it is constant it can multiple negative effects not just on our health but also our social life with others and our possible freedom from imprisonment.
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Training Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management
Anger builds. During COVID19 and lockdown, it has built up for many. Frustrations over quarantine, masks, political views, domestic family life, fear of the illness, and other issues have caused a rise in anger across the world. Individuals need to relax and not allow anger to overtake them. This may be difficult but is necessary if society wishes to defeat this virus and also remain sane.
The article, “How To Deal With Anger If It’s Building Up During Lockdown” by Natasha Hinde looks at multiple ways we can decrease anger and increase peace. She states,
“Emotions are riding high as lockdown stretches on and our freedoms remain constrained. One emotion in particular has repeatedly reared its head in households up and down the UK this week. Anger. There’s anger at the virus, government, media and, most recently, anger at the injustice when most people have followed the rules – often at a huge personal cost – and a minority haven’t, including some of those in positions of power.”
Hopefully many people will be able to control anger, reduce stress and follow the needed guidelines to keep everyone safe. It is especially important in homes that domestic quarrels remain benign and love and unity emerge. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Training Program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.
Family, friends and spouses can all become angry with each other. It is natural. It is important though to overcome intense anger and what one says during a fight or argument. Words said in a moment of rage can cause deep wounds in a loved one. Hence it is important to manage on’s anger and watch the words that may come out of one’s mouth. Knowing how to avoid mean ways of expression and how to walk away is an important skill.
Anger Management skills teach one how to deal with confrontation and arguments. It teaches one what to say when angry and how to avoid escalating the argument.
The article, “What To Say When You’re Really Angry With Your Partner (And Responses That Make Things Worse)” by Jeremy Brown reviews what we should or not say during an argument with a spouse. He states,
“Anger can be an all-consuming emotion. How one manifests anger can take different forms. Some yell, others go silent, still others freak out. It may feel impossible to control.”
Men whose image of themselves falls short of the traditional masculine gender norms, and who feel that others think this about them too, may be more prone to violence than men who feel comfortable in their own skin, suggests research.
Drivers with impulsive, angry personality characteristics are more likely than other drivers to engage in the kind of belligerent driving that potentially leads to accidents, a new study confirms. These conclusions could be used in designing more effective traffic safety publicity campaigns, authors say.