Christian Counseling Certification Video on Counseling the Divorced and Re-married

Christianity condemns the idea of divorce.  It is contrary to the sacred vow between a man and a woman.  Christ teaches of this sacred nature of marriage and discourages those who look upon married people with even impurity in the heart.

With these strong condemnations against divorce, the Church has looked to protect the sanctity of marriage but in a broken world divorce still happens.  In some Christian communities, re-marriage is even permitted.  So how does one counsel others going through divorce or considering remarriage?  How even more so, do counselors help those within Catholic and Orthodox traditions find a place as a divorced person within the community?

The video below reviews Church teachings and difference of opinions within various groups of Christianity and how those who are experiencing divorce need special pastoral care.  Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Christian Counseling.

 

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Christian Counseling Certification Blog on Divorce and Marriage Ministry

Marriage is the foundation stone of society.  Through the social contract, couples come together and bring forth future generations within the bounds of society.  Strong family units produce strong individuals in the society who can benefit society with their unique talents. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

God elevated this union beyond the natural order to a supernatural contract and oath to each other.  He sanctified it in the Garden of Eden and elevated it through the words of Christ that the union can never be broken unless fear of adultery.  Scripture proclaims, a man shall leave his mother and take on another and both will become one and in the epistles, Paul teaches that the love between husband and wife is like that of Christ and the Church.  Christian Counseling can help others deal with divorce better.

Christian marriage is a spiritual vow that transcends the natural contract of marriage.

 

With such strong words from Christ, scripture, and Paul, the foundations for Christian marriage were laid.  Within Catholic and Orthodox circles, it was a sacrament, while in Protestant circles it was in the very least a sacred obligation.   Society has attempted to weaken this natural and supernatural building rock of society.  Divorce, same sex marriage, and polygamy all look to weaken the institution and society itself.  The attempt to separate the supernatural element instilled by God to a merely natural contract is on display.

With the readiness of divorce, infidelity plays no small penalty for the secular mind.  Divorce rips apart family units and leaves many children left without strong guidance to help create a better society.  The attack on the family has already begun and continues to rage.

In the midst of such chaos, the Christian Counselor is left with many divorced Christians and individuals seeking solace and wholeness.  Not only do these individuals suffer from the initial loss of a spouse, but they also suffer from a variety of secondary losses, including children, pets, possessions, income and new integration into new life styles.

Divorce sometimes is a reality to the Christian, albeit an unwanted one.  Many Christians may feel marked and ashamed with such titles within their own community and family structure.  They may feel as if they failed in some way.  Other Christians may remarry and feel as if black sheep for taking upon another spouse.  In Catholic and Orthodox churches, remarriage without annulment is forbidden.   This leads to a whole new type of ministry.  Hence, the divorced and those who decide to remarry within Christianity represent a large group of the displaced within the faith.  While in Protestantism, remarriage is permissible for due reason of adultery, it still creates issues with blended homes and still the over all loss of the original marriage.

Within Catholicism and Orthodoxy, the words of Christ echo strongly that no-one may ever remarry.  The exception clause within Matthew is not regarded as a license to remarry.  Only in Matthew is it mentioned and it never again is mentioned in the Epistles.  Many biblical scholars look at the interpretation, translation and the fact it was targeted to only the Jewish community to mean something different.  This leaves the Catholic and Orthodox church with many remarried couples that can become a pastoral concern.

Christian Counselors need to understand their plight.  Pope Francis recently wrote at length the pastoral concerns of these “black sheep”.   While many may marry as if they are dating, there are some who have unjustly been dealt.  Pope Francis pointed this out in his encyclical on the “Joy of Love” where he looks at the emergency pastoral issue within the Catholic Church.  He asked some very critical questions regarding the fate of these couples.  While remaining faithful to Christ’s words, he still pondered about those who remarry due to abuse, or those who were left with nothing after a spouse totally rejected them.  He also looked at the annulments that were not properly administered due to finance or local corruption within the tribunal.

Francis pointed out that many couples who remarried have moved on to a second relationship and now have grandchildren from this union.  They have remained faithful, albeit, outside the grace of the sacrament.   Pastorally, how does one deal with such families?  Each situation requires careful and deliberate reflection between confessor and couple with the highest regards for the Eucharist.

It is important to note for those not familiar with Catholic doctrine that an annulment is based on theology that centers around a vow.  A vow is a free choice with knowledge and understanding of the commitment.  When a vow is exchanged between a man and woman it is seen as binding when conditions certain conditions are met.  If certain conditions or secrets or distress are later discovered, then a marriage can be seen as never existing.  One example includes being forced to marry someone and not possessing complete autonomy in the decision.  Another example is a secret regarding the individual.  Maybe the individual was cheating before the vow and had no intention of remaining faithful.  Maybe the person lied about being baptized.  Maybe the person hid a past life of murder, abuse and other criminal activity.  Maybe the person lied about ability to have children or desire to have children.  The primary point is the issue is an “a priori” problem that was unknown before the vow.   Fortunately, many more annulments are issued more than once before within the Church.  Investigations can discover these things.

However, after the fact offenses or failures of a spouse do not fall under the guise of an annulment.   Infidelity that is not planned or a simple mistake does not invalidate a vow.  This does not mean one cannot civilly divorce, but within the interpretation of the Gospels, one cannot remarry afterwards, or they would as Christ points out, find themselves in adultery.  Many divorce for simpler reasons such as family or finance.  The generation of divorce is a replacement generation not a fix it generation.

Within Protestant theology, one may remarry over grave reasons, but this has even led to individuals thinking if they commit a grave offense, then they can become freed from a contract.  Many Protestant circles even with their exception clause have become more liberal in permitting divorce within their congregations.

These issues have led to more divorce within Christianity and has created a large pastoral issue for both Catholic and Protestant circles.  While the world mirrors a secular version of marriage, it is up to Christian communities to commit to the values of Christ regarding marriage.  It is up to Christian communities to promote the permanence of the Christian vow.

Prayer is essential for any couple. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

 

Prior to marriage, Christian Counselors, pastors and family can help young couples discover the importance of marriage and the serious nature of the vow.  Pre-Cana is also an excellent way to learn about family issues from other couples, as well as teach young couples the unglamorous aspects of marriage.  Learning to prayer together and attend liturgy and service together is an important step in engagement.  The young couple needs to investigate and learn about each other.  They need to realize that marriage is also a spiritual vocation that is not about just this world, but helping each other to reach the next world.  It is a joint vocational marriage to hold each accountable to Christ.

Prayer and God must remain in the family for it to succeed.  The modern war on the family has attempted to strip Christ from marriage.  It important then that Christians re-introduce Christ to marriage and share the beauty of Christian marriage to the world.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Christian Counseling.

Additional Resources

Christian Views on Divorce  Wikipedia

Eight Things You Have To Know About The Church’s Teaching On Divorce” By Leila Miller

Practical and Biblical Christian Marriage Advice” by Mark Fairchild

Marriage as Sacrament” By Paul Leithart

Grief Counseling Certification Blog on Life After Divorce

Life after a divorce can be very difficult.  Not only is the heart grieving the loss of a loved one but also the loss of a marriage. With the loss of a marriage comes a myriad of secondary losses and secondary headaches that can lead to immense grief and intense anger.  Understanding divorce and how to better cope can be an important part in rebuilding one’s life.  Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

Divorce is a loss that has additional secondary losses. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

The article, “Life After Divorce: How You Can Start Again” from Cleveland Clinic’s Healthessentials looks closer on how one can slowly start to rebuild after divorce.  The article states,

“Whether it’s rife with conflict or not, divorce is rarely easy. When you’re ending a marriage, you may struggle to move on with your life. But you can successfully work through the emotions and start a new life after divorce, says clinical social worker specialist Karen Tucker, LISW-S, ACSW.  “You may feel rejected, angry, profoundly hurt or out of control. It’s also possible that you’ll feel relieved and hopeful,” Tucker says. “It’s important to pay attention to your emotions and to get help when you need it.”

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Grief Counseling Video on Romantic Loss

Beyond the loss of a person due to death, many suffer the pain of breakups and divorces throughout life as well.  The loss of a person or a relationship can be very emotionally painful and take much time to fully adjust to life without that person.  From simple breakup to messy divorce, the loss and adaptation varies on the connection and bond between the couple.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Grief Counselor.  The video below reviews the problems and issues facing those dealing with romantic loss

 

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Grief Counseling Program Article on Divorce and Loss

Grief and loss do not always involve death.  Losing anything is the recipe for grief.  One of the most common forms of loss is divorce.  Romantic breakups are tough but marriages that fail are even tougher.  Marriage does not only involve the heart, but it also involves a sacred vow.  The loss removes one from consistency of schedule and thrusts one into a new environment.  Furthermore, the loss has many secondary losses associated with it.  Financial burden, loss of possessions, less time with children or pets, as well as legal stress all play a large role in divorce.

Divorce loss is far more than just a broken heart but affects one’s entire existence. Please also review our Grief Counseling Program

 

This is why divorce is such a stressful and painful process.  It is an uprooting of one’s life.  It may be for the best, but the process of healing takes many years to finally become whole again.

The article,” 12 Strategies For Dealing With Grief After A Divorce” by Karen Finn looks deeper at the types of losses.  She states,

“Dealing with grief after a divorce is no different. Nearly 50% of marriages (and 41% of first marriages) in the United States will end in divorce or separation. Divorce grief is, therefore, a high-odds reality.”

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Grief Counseling Training Program Article on Divorce and Loss

Divorce naturally creates loss and grief.  Grief is a natural bi product of divorce and adjusting to this type of loss can take years.  While numerous stresses can occur, some divorces can create complicated grief reactions.  In these cases, extra help and counseling is needed.

Divorce always leads to some type of grief. Sometimes it can more serious than other times. Please also review our Grief Counseling Training Program

The article, “Grieving After Divorce Is Normal, But This Kind Of Grief Isn’t” by Karen Finn discusses when grief and divorce can go terribly wrong.  The article states,

“After all, divorce is the end of a way of life and of your dreams. It makes sense that you’d feel sad about it, mourn who you were in your married life and are no more, and be grief-stricken that all of your plans for a happily-ever-after have come to a screeching halt.”

To learn more about divorce and how to help individuals through it, review the entire article by clicking here

Divorce is never easy.  A trained Grief Counselor can help.  Please review our Grief Counseling Training Program to see if it meets your academic and professional goals.

 

Grief Counseling Courses Article on the Divorce and Loss

Divorce is a difficult loss that causes distress in every facet of life.   This is why divorce is so difficult.  One must not only overcome emotional loss but also financial loss and other norms.  One must adjust to an entire new life and this adjustment can be very difficult.

Divorce is a messy thing that leads to multiple losses and secondary ones. Please also review our Grief Counseling Courses

The article, “Why Overcoming Divorce Grief Is So Freakin’ Hard” by Kevin Finn states,

“Divorce is complicated (and it sucks) because you’re faced with seemingly non-stop social, emotional, legal, financial, and the everyday challenges of your new life. Everythingchanges and not always for the better – at least at first. Of course, all these changes trigger grief which you may think you understand because you’ve grieved before. ”

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Grief and Bereavement Counseling Training Article on Divorce Relapse

Divorce can be a painful loss for many.  It is not only a loss of a love, but also a loss of many secondary goods.   Learning how to cope, advance and become a new person are key.

Divorce can shatter our reality and can take a long time to recover from.  Please also review our Grief and Bereavement Counseling Training
Divorce can shatter our reality and can take a long time to recover from. Please also review our Grief and Bereavement Certification Training

The article,” 5 Strategies To Help You Deal With a Divorce Grief Relapse” by Karen Finn looks at some strategies to help one deal with potential divorce relapse.  The article states,

“Divorce grief relapses are fairly common. They don’t necessarily mean that you’re not over your divorce. They just signal there’s still a little more accepting you can do to fully heal.”

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Grief Counseling Program Article on Divorce

Divorce is a difficult transition.  The loss of relationship, life style, and family can be very difficult.  There are many secondary losses beyond the divorce that can affect one’s grieving process as well.

Divorce is more than emotional pain but also great loss. Please also review our Grief Counseling Program
Divorce is more than emotional pain but also great loss. Please also review our Grief Counseling Program

The article, “6 Ways To Deal With Grief After Divorce — So You Can Heal & Move On” by Karen Finn states,

“Life after divorce involves a lot of agony in its wake and grief is an inescapable part of it. But the work to getting over it ending and dealing with grief after a bitter divorce can create another level of agony altogether.”

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Please also review our Grief Counseling Program and see if it matches your academic and professional needs.   In the meantime, be aware of the many facets of grief and loss that is wrapped up in divorce itself.