Anger Management

Anger Management Certification Blog on Unresolved Anger and Forgiveness

Posted on by Mark Moran

In any type of trauma, there is anger.  Anger can continue to feed the trauma and keep it alive longer.  Anger can also weaken the individual overtime through depression, fatigue and anxiety.  Keeping strong emotional anger is unhealthy and it is important to learn how to properly release anger.  This does not mean one does not have a right to be angry over the offense and trauma, but i does mean one must escape the anger before it becomes toxic.

Anger keeps trauma highly charged and weakens the self.  It leads to sarcasm and bitterness in life, as well as resentment and possibly revenge.  Revenge leads to further destruction and a cycle of violence and continued trauma.  Furthermore, anger that prevents forgiveness stunts social growth. It prevents trust, increases hatred and forces oneself to close off to others.  Hence it is important more so for one’s health to resolve anger and forgive than for the lack of worthiness of the offender to receive it.

Unresolved anger can lead to health issues. It is far better to release anger for oneself. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Certification

 

Many feel forgiveness is impossible.  Perhaps they view the offense as unforgivable.  Rape, molestation and murder are sometimes very hard things to forgive.  These things represent the worst within human society.  Other things may be easier to forgive, but regardless of the degree, if one associates an action as unforgivable, then it becomes an anchor around one’s neck.  Others feel they must protect themselves and must remain bitter and remain closed.  Those who were physically abused, may feel their anger empowers them and protects them from ever being hurt again by never letting someone get close to them.   Others feel they may betray themselves or their loved one, if they forgive the perpetrator.   These are all blocks to resolving unhealthy anger and moving forward in life.

Anger is an emotion that may very well be important to the event.  It is in fact a true emotion in trauma. It is OK to be angry.  It is OK to feel the anger, but eventually, the anger can become toxic.  It is important to start to experience the anger and understand it, but in a way that allows one to remain in touch with its importance but not its ill effects.  It needs to be analyzed free from the toxic charge of initial rage, so one can understand its rationale and comprehend where it is aimed.

In doing so, many times, things need to be said, when those things cannot be said, then it is important to be able to find other ways to release.  This is especially true when justice is not given to a particular case that prevents closure.  Justice is an excellent way to help heal unresolved anger but in so many cases, justice at least in this world is not given.  It is hence critical to be able to resolve anger sometimes without justice.

Some therapists suggest Gestalt Chairs, when one plays the role of both oneself and perpetrator.  This allows the necessary discussion as one plays both roles.  Being able to vocally express anger, confrontation and forgiveness is key.  Furthermore, those with a belief of the afterlife, can find some closure knowing nothing goes unpunished before God.  Ultimately, facing anger, the situation and forgiving, frees oneself from the perpetrator.

Forgiveness, however, does not mean minimizing the event, or condoning it, or forgetting it, or trusting the same person again.  It does not dismiss the event, but it frees oneself from the emotional tie of the perpetrator.  Even if one does not ask, it can free oneself.  Forgiveness does not mean the individual still must pay a debt in this life or the next but it does allow one to move forward.

It is important in some cases to ask for forgiveness, but in other cases, this may not be an option, but the key is to decide to finally heal.  Being able to resolve anger and give forgiveness may have to be done in constructive ways to release.  Gestalt chairs or belief in God may be the best ways to forgive and understand.  One needs to try to forgive the best way they can for their own healing.  Sometimes, this can be accomplished through rituals such as confession, or other forms of expression.

In can sometimes be difficult to give forgiveness. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Certification

 

Trauma is difficult to overcome.  Some trauma is more severe and some cases of anger are harder to overcome.  It is not an issue of denying the evil that occurred but it is an issue of healing and finding peace for oneself. Holding on to anger does not punish the perpetrator but it punishes the self and allows the perpetrator to continue to hurt the victim.  It is hence important to learn ways to live and forgive before one’s life is totally destroyed.

Please also review AIHCP’s Crisis Intervention Program, Grief Counseling Program, Stress Management Program and Anger Management Certification.  The programs are online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in the above disciplines

 

Source

“The Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook” by Glenn R. Schiraldi, PhD

 

Anger Management Consulting Blog on Gaslighting

Posted on by Mark Moran

Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most anger triggering strategy of someone.  Whether in a relationship, politics, or in war, gaslighting purposely denies the obvious and repeats falsehoods.  Any logical or sane individual will feel frustration when confronted with gas lighting.  It is only human to become angry when one is surrounded by lies.  It is important to properly be able to respond to gas lighting without losing one’s cool.  This is the motive of the perpetrator and it is important not to become angry or misused in these cases.

Gaslighting is a form of abuse. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Program and see if it meets your academic goals

 

The article, “How to Recognize & Respond to Gaslighting” by Michelle Brooten-Brooks takes a closer look at the nature of gaslighting and how to handle it.  She states,

“Gaslighting is manipulative emotional and psychological abuse that causes a person to question their reality, memories, instincts, and, ultimately, their sanity. A person gaslights to obtain power and control, which are classic elements of abuse. Gaslighting often occurs in an intimate partner relationship.  Read on to learn more about signs, examples, and types of gaslighting, how to respond, and how to get help.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management Consulting.

Anger Management Specialist Certification Article on Passive Anger via Silence

Posted on by Mark Moran

While many focus on aggressive anger in Anger Management, many times passive forms of anger and abuse or forgotten.  One such type of passive anger and abuse is referred to as silent treatment.  When used as a way to punish and control, it can be very abusive and a form of misusing the emotion of anger.

The silent treatment is a form of passive anger and emotional abuse. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Specialist Program

 

The article, “Is Silent Treatment a Form of Abuse? Here’s What to Know’ by Kelly Burch looks how the use of ignoring and purposefully not speaking to another person is a form of abuse.  She states,

“When you think of abuse, your mind probably goes immediately to physical violence, yelling, or intimidation. But an abusive relationship can also be silent. Some people use silent treatment abuse to manipulate and control their loved ones. This is a form of emotional abuse.  It’s normal to not want to talk to someone when you are angry or frustrated. In most cases, this happens occasionally and blows over. However, if a person regularly uses the silent treatment to influence or control your behavior, they are being emotionally abusive. “

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Specialist Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management

Anger Management Certification Blog on Displaced Anger in Society

Posted on by Mark Moran

People are throwing their anger at the pandemic or world affairs or political unrest at a variety of other venues.  Whether at home or in traffic, the population is angry and has no place to channel it in a healthy fashion.  This anger is erupting within our society.

Displaced anger is finding places in everyday life. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Certification

 

The article, “Apodaca: ‘Dysregulated anger’ has us erupting over the smaller things” by Patrice Apodaca looks closer at this displaced anger.  She states,

“People are throwing tantrums at school board meetings, and students are acting up even more than usual. Arguments are breaking out in grocery stores and restaurants over masks, vaccines, empty store shelves and long waits for meals to be delivered by overworked servers. Motorists are blowing a gasket when they see the prices at the pump. Traffic deaths are up, in part, authorities believe, because drivers are behaving more aggressively. Medical workers are regularly harassed and threatened, and flight attendants are forced to show far too many rude and unruly passengers just how secure and snug their seatbelts can get if they won’t voluntarily sit down and shut up.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Anger can spill into so many other facets of life.  It is important to understand the source and properly channel it.

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as an Anger Management Consultant.

Anger Management Consulting Certification Blog on Moving Beyond Anger

Posted on by Mark Moran

Anger is very emotional.  It connects to who we are and it not unnecessarily unhealthy to be angry but it is important to channel it and move beyond it.  It is important to transform your anger into more positive energy that creates the change necessary that caused the anger.  Angry emotions can create a bigger mess than already exists.

Anger Management Groups can help others find ways to transform anger. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your professional goals

 

The article, “How to Manage and Move Beyond Anger” by Meredith Gordon Resnick looks closer at anger and how to move beyond it.  She states,

“Being in a relationship with your anger is another way of saying being in a relationship with yourself. It means knowing this part of yourself in an intimate way. This is important after any loss. It means getting to know a facet of yourself better.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.

Anger Management Consulting Certification Blog on Leadership and Anger Management

Posted on by Mark Moran

Learning how to deal with anger of employees and team members and utilize these emotions for the overall good of the team are key in anger management.  Anger Management helps teach managers how to deal with emotion of others in a constructive way that will not harm the team

Anger Management in leadership and the workplace is critical. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals

 

The article, “Managing Anger, Frustration, and Resentment on Your Team” by Nihar Chhaya looks at how leaders can control their own anger and their team’s anger.  He states,

“Anger and losing one’s temper in the workplace is nothing new. Many studies show that among all of life’s pressures, job stress is by far the most significant source. In addition, recent research from Gallup reported that daily rates of anger, stress, worry, and sadness among American workers have risen over the past decade.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management Consulting.

Anger Management Training Program Blog on Child Anger

Posted on by Mark Moran

Children need to learn at a young age to control anger.  Children have untamed impulses and those impulses need restrained.  Children also need good example and keeping a cool demeanor can set a good example to children.  Anger control is a life long skill and it needs to start very young.

Dealing with angry children can be a challenge. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Program and see if it meets your goals

 

The article, “Child-anger-management-how-to-deal-with-explosive-behavior-of-kids” by Parvin Aktor looks more closely at helping children control their temper.  He reminds everyone that how a parent reprimands is also important in training children how to behave.  Being calm and awarding good behavior and punishing bad behavior through modification and not violence or swearing are key he states.

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Training Program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.

 

Anger Management Specialist Program Blog on Dangers of Anger

Posted on by Mark Moran

Anger can become a tool of one’s own undoing if not properly managed.  Too many individuals give into anger and hurt others and face criminal charges, while others only hurt themselves by stressing their bodies through the stages of anger.  It is important to learn to manage anger the same way one manages stress.

Anger can become dangerous if not controlled. Please also review AIHCPs’ Anger Management Specialist Program

 

The article, “The Dangers of Anger” by Scott Butwell looks at the dangers of anger and how to better manage and control it. He states,

“Anger can be a destructive emotional cocktail. There is anger mixed with anxiety, anger tinged with stress, anger boiling over with resentment.  There are thousands of different kinds of anger.  Anger can destroy relationships, eat you alive by turning into resentment, and you can become easily addicted to anger like drugs or alcohol.  Anger can be passed on from one generation to the next, and if you think you don’t struggle with it, depression is often suppressed anger. Maybe, you bottle up your anger — like me.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Specialist Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management Training

Anger Management Consulting Certification Blog on Dealing with Difficult People

Posted on by Mark Moran

Anger sometimes is justified but not necessarily needed all the time.   Difficult and rude individuals are everywhere in society and test the sane and good natured individuals.   Patience can wear thin when dealing with a difficult person at the office, at home, or on the road.  It is critical to keep your cool but as one knows, it does not always end that way.  Sometimes, the person goes way past acceptable behavior or you are already over loaded with stress and this person is the proverbial “straw” that breaks the camel’s back.  It is still nonetheless important to limit outbursts from becoming dangerous or illegal.

Of course, learning Anger Management techniques to deal with difficult people and maintain emotional control is key.  There are a few key ideas to consider below that may help one deal better with difficult people and remain calm.

Dealing with difficult people is well…difficult. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your goals

 

Of course the first and foremost point is it is not worth it.  Getting emotionally upset is not healthy all the time.  Controlling one’s temper and anger is key to a healthy life but also a legal trouble free life.   Road rage, office fights, jail time and other misfortunes are merely the tip of the ice burg.   So it is not worth it when a difficult person causes issues.

Anger Management also teaches one to try to understand their point of view.  Attribution error looks at the issue at hand and tries to understand one’s annoying behavior.  Sometimes, a person may be facing his or her own stress or dealing with multiple stressors or even a death in one’s family.  It may be nice to sometimes give someone a little “slack”.

Sometimes difficult people also just wish to be heard.  Individuals who are unable to vent, or able to be heard or validated are more angry.  When dealing with an angry person in business or customer support, sometimes, merely listening can be key.  It can also help to validate or acknowledge a difficult person’s frustration.  This does not mean one must agree, but it does mean one can pick out something of importance to the person and acknowledge it.  It can also be merely through a comment as “I can see how that would be frustrating to you”. This can help reset the angry or difficult person.  Diffusing the argument through listening, acknowledgement and agreement on some points can help.

Another angle to review is the type of person you are dealing with.  While one cannot always do a psychological analysis on a stranger or is qualified to do so, one can sometimes look for various traits.  For difficult individuals that one knows, then this is far easier but knowing the type of person one is dealing with can really help.  Is the person OCD, is the person ADHD, is the person a Type A personality or is the person Clinically Depressed?  Some individuals may have defiant issues where they look to argue to merely argue.  They thrive for the fight itself.  Others may be selfish and will only see their own views and border narcissism or other personality disorders.  Others may be sociopaths and not care about anyone but themselves.  How one navigates the waters with difficult individuals can depend on the personality itself.

When dealing with these individuals, one should accept the reality of what one is dealing with.  You cannot change a person’s personality but you can cope with it.  You can with long term relationships with people or a simple conversation admit that this person is difficult and for whatever reason, apply a plan to deal with it without allowing yourself to become angry.  In doing so, one should look for conclusions and solutions to help end the problem.  Offer solutions and remain fact driven.  Do not offer opinions but remain steadfast with facts.  Delusional individuals may wish to irritate and offer bogus solutions or conspiracies, but one should avoid name calling or lowering oneself to their level.  If one dismisses foolishness and remains entailed with only the facts, then one can possibly put the conversation on track.  This is especially true with customer service or in business.  Only offer what is possible and remain fact driven.   Again, we can see this in debates, or congressional hearings.  The party that remains calm and fact orientated despite the digs and ad hominem argumentation will eventually emerge unscathed.

How do you deal with difficult people? Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification

 

Also during tense exchanges, it is good to not match intensity of emotion.  Individuals who are screaming, only become louder when one screams back.  It is best to remain calm and collective and choose words wisely and calmly.   The lack of emotional energy from your side can help alleviate the stress and ease the mood.

Of course, there are two other options to consider that we have not even considered.  First, is the problem you?  Are you the difficult person?  Second, if not, and the person continues to be emotional and illogical, simply walk away from the issue.   This can be done politely and professionally and does not necessarily involve a climatic dig and storming off moment or a click of the phone.  Everything can be done with proper procedure and good manners.  There are plenty of ways to end conversations that are fruitless with class and dignity.

If you would like to learn more about dealing with emotion and anger, then please review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as an Anger Management Consultant.

Also please review the article, “How to Deal With Difficult People Without Losing Your Cool” by Adam Bulger.  Please click here

 

Anger Management Certification Blog on Empathy and Anger

Posted on by Mark Moran

Anger for many is not justified.  Instead it is an unjust reaction to things where one turns to violence.  This type of anger fuels an angry society with multiple shootings, riots, and domestic disputes.  Those who lack empathy may also be more tied to unjust angry outbursts.  Empathy helps one understand another but without it, one can selfishly resort to anger.

Empathy can help curb anger. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Certification and see if it meets your goals

 

The article, “The Relationship Between Empathy and Anger Is Complicated” by Bernard Golden looks at the relationship between anger and empathy.  He states.,

“Our capacity to empathize with others is further enhanced by our resilience to truly acknowledge our own pain. When we avoid acknowledging our own pain, we become blind to it in others. Such acknowledgment further supports the compassion with others that can powerfully curb anger arousal.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCPs’ Anger Management Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management