Christian Counseling and Qualities of a Christian Marriage

Posted on May 31, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

God created marriage as a bond between man and woman. He blessed the ideal in Eden with Adam and Eve and Jesus Christ further blessed it at Cana. It is hence a sacred institution. In marriage, the unity of the Trinity is reflected in the deep love between man and woman during the conjugal act with the creation of child; One love but three persons. When marriage is defiled, then God’s plan is defiled. Divorce, infidelity and disrespect of spouses degrade and reject the Divine plan of love found in the sacred vow.

Maintaining a healthy relationship that includes mutual respect is necessary for a healthy marriage. The sacred vocation and vow requires effort and respect on part of both the husband and wife. Yet like all relationships, a life long commitment can be difficult especially in modern society and its throw away mentality. Instead of fixing things, modern society looks to replace. Unfortunately, marriage is treated the same way.

Keeping something pure and maintaining it takes time, commitment and effort. It is critical for spouses to work with each other as a team towards a common end but it also involves mutual respect and handling anger, crisis, division, loss, and pain. The grace of the Sacrament of Matrimony fueled by the Holy Spirit can help couples reach this difficult goal but it takes prayer and a constant effort of consecrating one’s marriage to Christ. Christian Counselors, Pastors, Marriage Counselors and other therapists can help guide couples to a long and fulfilling marriage but many couples need additional help in identifying issues and conflict resolution. In identifying key aspects of a healthy relationship, the article, “Counseling Tips For A Healthy Relationship” by Henry Smith identifies four key elements. Smith points out respect, encouragement, listening and goodness to each other as key points. Regarding respect, he states,

“Respect between partners is an essential aspect of any healthy Christian marriage. Christian marriage counseling can provide valuable tips and advice on cultivating and maintaining respect. One important tip is always to consider each other’s feelings and emotions. Couples should open up lines of communication with one another, ask questions respectfully, be actively empathetic to each other’s points and perspectives, work together on issues, and trust each other’s judgment. ”

“Counseling Tips For A Healthy Relationship”. Henry Smith. March 22nd, 2023. TechBullion

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Obviously within Christian marriage, the first key is identifying the permanence of the institution. Individuals who are prepared in Pre-Cana or other Church services in marriage preparation can help individuals cherish their vow and the sacred nature of it. Secondly, Christian Counselors, Pastors and Marriage Counselors need to reinforce the illustration of Christ and the Church as a symbolic example of husband and wife. The husband loves his wife, as Christ loves the Church, even unto death, and the wife is obedient and respectful to the husband, as the Church is to Christ. With such a connection and mutual relationship, neither ever crosses any lines in regards to dominance, abuse, or ridicule. This creates a perfect harmony.

The fruits of a good relationship are children, stability, good example, fostering of the faith and glorification of God through one’s vocation. The union, even if children are never conceived, still provide the couple with intimacy, love, support and unity with each other.

One learns that all love, whether romantic, or that of family or friends is a love that is selfless. Love is hence patient and giving and exists for the happiness of the other. Love in marriage is no different. Love never fades but remains a constant. In looking to fulfill a more perfect marriage, couples need to look no farther than the love of St Joseph and Holy Mary. The Holy Family is the perfect example of love. St Joseph remains a role model for all husbands and fathers and Holy Mary remains a role model for all wives and mothers.

The Holy Family remains the paradigm of Christian Marriage. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

Characteristics of a Healthy Christian Marriage

A healthy Christian marriage is characterized by several key traits that are essential for building a strong and lasting relationship. These include:

Prayer

Couples need to pray together and put their relationship in the hands of Jesus and Mary and Joseph

A family that prayers together, stays together. Families and marriages that center around prayer, mass or church, or prayer before meals, strengthen the family together. It further protects the family from secular and demonic sources that will look to tear the family apart. The family as the building block of society is crucial to society’s success. Fostering the laws of God and a prayerful life and sending that message out to the world is one of the primary vocations within marriage. This is how the family itself becomes a discipleship and church within its own right. Hence families that have a strong devotion to God and pray together and create great change for the world and share Christ with it.

Trust

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and Christian marriage is no exception. A husband and wife should be able to trust each other completely, knowing that they are committed to each other and to God.

Communication

Effective communication is essential for building intimacy, resolving conflicts, and making important decisions together. Husbands and wives should be able to communicate openly and honestly with each other, expressing their thoughts, feelings, and needs in a respectful and loving manner.

Respect

Mutual respect is crucial for maintaining a healthy Christian marriage. Husbands and wives should treat each other with dignity, honor, and kindness, recognizing each other’s strengths and weaknesses and valuing each other’s opinions and perspectives.

Love

Love is the hallmark of a healthy Christian marriage. Husbands and wives should show love to each other in tangible ways, such as acts of service, quality time, and physical affection. They should also be committed to loving each other unconditionally, even in the face of challenges and difficulties.

Communication in a Christian Marriage

Communication and intimacy are crucial to a Christian marriage

Communication is one of the most critical aspects of a healthy Christian marriage. Effective communication involves more than just talking and listening. It requires a willingness to understand each other’s perspectives, feelings, and needs, and a commitment to resolving conflicts in a loving and respectful manner.

One of the keys to effective communication in a Christian marriage is to create a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel heard and valued. This involves setting aside time for regular communication, listening attentively to each other, and avoiding criticism and defensiveness.

Another essential aspect of communication in a Christian marriage is prayer. Praying together can deepen intimacy, foster spiritual growth, and provide a sense of unity and purpose. It is also an opportunity to seek God’s guidance and wisdom in the decisions and challenges of life.

Financial Management in a Christian Marriage

Financial management is another critical aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. Money can be a significant source of conflict and stress in any relationship, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and stewardship.

One of the keys to financial management in a Christian marriage is to establish a shared vision and goals for money. This involves setting a budget, saving for the future, and giving generously to others. It also involves being transparent and accountable with each other about finances, avoiding debt, and making wise investments.

Another essential aspect of financial management in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and provision. Trusting in God’s provision can help reduce anxiety and stress about money and free up resources for more meaningful pursuits.

Conflict Resolution in a Christian Marriage

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, including Christian marriage. However, how couples handle conflict can make all the difference in the health and longevity of their relationship.

One of the keys to conflict resolution in a Christian marriage is to approach conflicts with a spirit of humility and grace. This involves seeking to understand each other’s perspectives, acknowledging each other’s feelings, and working together to find a solution that honors God and each other.

Another essential aspect of conflict resolution in a Christian marriage is forgiveness. Forgiveness involves letting go of past hurts, extending grace to each other, and seeking reconciliation and restoration. It is a powerful tool for healing and strengthening relationships.

Intimacy in a Christian Marriage

Intimacy is a vital aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. It involves more than just physical intimacy but also emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy. Intimacy is a gift from God that is intended to be enjoyed and celebrated within the context of marriage.

One of the keys to intimacy in a Christian marriage is to prioritize time together. This involves setting aside time for regular date nights, weekend getaways, and other activities that promote closeness and connection.

Another essential aspect of intimacy in a Christian marriage is to be intentional about meeting each other’s needs. This involves being attentive to each other’s love languages, expressing physical affection, and creating a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel valued and cherished.

Roles and Responsibilities in a Christian Marriage

Roles and responsibilities are an essential aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. They provide structure, order, and clarity to the relationship and help each partner to fulfill their God-given purpose and calling.

One of the keys to roles and responsibilities in a Christian marriage is to understand and embrace each other’s unique strengths and gifts. This involves recognizing and respecting each other’s differences and working together to achieve common goals.

Another essential aspect of roles and responsibilities in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and wisdom. Praying together, studying God’s Word, and seeking the counsel of wise mentors can help couples discern their roles and responsibilities and fulfill them with joy and purpose.

Challenges and Solutions in a Christian Marriage

Marriage is permanent and a sacred vow before God. Christian marriage must emulate the Trinity in love

Christian marriage is not without its challenges. Couples may face a variety of issues, such as infidelity, addiction, infertility, and conflict with in-laws. However, with God’s help, these challenges can be overcome, and the marriage can become even stronger and more beautiful.

One of the keys to overcoming challenges in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and provision. Prayer, Bible study, and fellowship with other believers can provide comfort, wisdom, and support during difficult times.

Another essential aspect of overcoming challenges in a Christian marriage is to seek professional help when needed. Christian counselors, pastors, and mentors can provide guidance, accountability, and practical tools for addressing specific issues and building a stronger marriage.

Conclusion: Striving for a Healthy and Godly Christian Marriage

In conclusion, a healthy Christian marriage is a beautiful and powerful testimony to God’s love and grace. It is built on a foundation of trust, communication, respect, and love, and reflects the image of Christ and the church. By following biblical principles and seeking God’s guidance, couples can build a marriage that honors God and fulfills their purpose and calling. May we all strive for healthy and godly Christian marriages that bring glory to God and bless our families and communities.

Christian Counselors can help couples find solutions and joy in their marriage. Christian Counselors usually are pastors or spiritual directors with an understanding of applying Christian and Biblical principles to real world problems. Christian Counselors can hence bring God back into someone’s marriage. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.

Additional Resources

“The 7 Commandments of Christian Marriage”. Ron Edmondson. March 20th, 2019. Crosswalk. Access here

“7 Important Responsibilities of a Christian Wife”. Lesli White. Beliefnet. Access here

“7 Marks of a Godly Husband”. Lesli White. Beliefnet. Access here

“Practical and Biblical Christian Marriage Advice”. Mary Fairchild. April 29th, 2019. Learn Religions. Access here

Abuse In Relationships

Posted on May 31, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

Abuse occurs in relationships too commonly. Physical abuse receives the most recognition due to the danger to women, but abuse in relationships occur mentally and emotionally as well. Both genders are equal culprits in how they treat their significant other. Emotional abuse goes unnoticed for many years and can add a mental price on the other person. It is important to identify mental abuse and find solutions to end it via better boundaries, counseling or leaving the situation. Of course if physical abuse occurs, it is critical to remove oneself immediately, find help or call the police.

Abuse in relationships can be physical and emotional. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Certification

AIHCP also offers an Anger Management Certification for qualified professionals seeking to help others deal and cope with anger. The Anger Management Program is online and independent study. If interested, then please review the program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The video below looks at anger and abuse in relationships and how to identity it but also looks into why abusers abuse both emotionally and physically.

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What is Clinical Hypnotherapy?

Posted on May 31, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

Clinical Hypnotherapy plays a role in improving mental health. Those with anxiety, depression, various phobias, or bad habits can all find help with hypnotherapy. Clinical Hypnotherapy is considered an alternative therapy and can supplement ongoing treatments. Most certified hypnotherapists are behavioral and mental healthcare professionals of some level and with certification in Hypnotherapy can offer professional and beneficial care to individuals seeking treatment.

Clinical Hypnotherapy can help with a variety of mental issues. Please review AIHCP’s Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification

While hypnosis can sometimes be confused with stage hypnosis and a variety of Hollywood misconceptions, true clinical hypnotherapy remains a legitimate and alternative therapy for millions of individuals facing mental road blocks in life. The article, “What Is Hypnotherapy? A Complete Guide to Hypnosis Therapy for Health” by Lauren Bedosky takes a comprehensive and closer look at hypnotherapy. In her article, she looks at how hypnotherapy works and the many issues it can help treat. She states,

“Entertainment media often paints hypnosis as a magic trick where a hypnotist controls a person and puts them into a trance. But hypnosis is not just for fun. In fact, it’s a major component of hypnotherapy, a form of psychological therapy that may help reprogram the mind and is a complementary approach sometimes used to support the treatment of a myriad of health conditions. Let’s dive into what hypnotherapy is, how it works, and its potential risks.”

“What Is Hypnotherapy? A Complete Guide to Hypnosis Therapy for Health”. Lauren Bedosky. May 22nd, 2023. Everyday Health.

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What is Clinical Hypnotherapy?

Clinical hypnotherapy is a form of therapy that uses hypnosis to help individuals overcome various issues and challenges. During a hypnotherapy session, the individual is guided into a trance-like state where they are more open and receptive to suggestion. This trance-like state is achieved through relaxation techniques and focused attention.

It is important to note that hypnosis is not a form of mind control and individuals cannot be forced to do anything against their will. Hypnosis is simply a tool that can be used to access the subconscious mind and help individuals make positive changes in their lives.

Understanding the Science behind Hypnosis

Hypnosis has been used for centuries, but it wasn’t until the 20th century that researchers began to study the science behind it. Studies have shown that during a hypnotic trance, the brain experiences changes in activity and blood flow. The brainwaves slow down, and the individual enters a state of deep relaxation.

In this state, the subconscious mind is more accessible, and individuals are more open to suggestion. This is why hypnosis can be so effective in helping individuals overcome various issues such as anxiety, phobias, and addictions.

Benefits of Clinical Hypnotherapy

Clinical hypnotherapy can provide a wide range of benefits, including:

1. Overcoming Anxiety and Stress

One of the most common reasons individuals seek out hypnotherapy is to overcome anxiety and stress. Hypnosis can help individuals achieve a state of deep relaxation, which can reduce feelings of anxiety and stress.

2. Breaking Bad Habits

Hypnosis can also be effective in helping individuals break bad habits such as smoking, overeating, and nail-biting. By accessing the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy can help individuals identify the root cause of their habits and make positive changes.

3. Improving Sleep

Hypnosis can also help individuals improve their sleep by reducing feelings of stress and anxiety. By achieving a state of deep relaxation, individuals are more likely to fall asleep and stay asleep throughout the night.

How Clinical Hypnotherapy Works

During a hypnotherapy session, the hypnotherapist will guide the individual into a state of deep relaxation. Once the individual is in a trance-like state, the hypnotherapist will provide suggestions to the subconscious mind.

Clinical Hypnotherapy is very different than the perceived Hollywood version of stage hypnosis

These suggestions can be tailored to the individual’s specific needs and can help them overcome various issues and challenges. For example, if an individual is trying to quit smoking, the hypnotherapist may suggest that they no longer have a desire to smoke.

Common Misconceptions about Hypnotherapy

There are many misconceptions and myths surrounding hypnotherapy. One of the most common misconceptions is that hypnosis is a form of mind control and that individuals can be forced to do things against their will.

However, this is simply not true. Hypnosis is a tool that can be used to access the subconscious mind, but individuals are always in control and cannot be forced to do anything against their will.

Choosing a Qualified Hypnotherapist

If you are interested in trying hypnotherapy, it is important to choose a qualified and certified hypnotherapist. Look for a hypnotherapist who has completed a formal training program and has experience working with individuals who have similar issues and challenges.

It is also important to choose a hypnotherapist who makes you feel comfortable and at ease. Hypnotherapy is a collaborative process, and it is important to work with someone who you trust and feel comfortable with.

Types of Clinical Hypnotherapy Sessions

There are several different types of clinical hypnotherapy sessions, including:

1. Traditional Hypnotherapy

Traditional hypnotherapy involves guiding the individual into a trance-like state and providing suggestions to the subconscious mind. This type of hypnotherapy can be effective in helping individuals overcome a wide range of issues and challenges.

2. Regression Hypnotherapy

Regression hypnotherapy involves guiding the individual into a trance-like state and taking them back to a specific memory or event from their past. This type of hypnotherapy can be effective in helping individuals overcome trauma and emotional blocks.

3. Parts Therapy

Parts therapy involves guiding the individual into a trance-like state and speaking directly to different parts of their subconscious mind. This type of hypnotherapy can be effective in helping individuals overcome internal conflicts and achieve inner peace.

What to Expect during a Hypnotherapy Session

During a hypnotherapy session, you can expect to be guided into a state of deep relaxation. You will be fully aware of your surroundings and in control at all times. The hypnotherapist will provide suggestions to your subconscious mind, and you may experience a range of sensations such as tingling, warmth, or heaviness.

After the session, you may feel relaxed and calm, and you may notice positive changes in your thoughts and behaviors over time.

Success Stories from Clinical Hypnotherapy

There is a high amount of success utilizing hypnotherapy. Please also review AIHCP’s Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification

Clinical hypnotherapy has helped countless individuals overcome various issues and challenges. Here are just a few success stories:

1. Overcoming Anxiety

One individual came to me struggling with severe anxiety. Through hypnotherapy, they were able to access the root cause of their anxiety and make positive changes in their life. They now feel more calm and confident in their daily life.

2. Quitting Smoking

Another individual came to me wanting to quit smoking. Through hypnotherapy, they were able to break their addiction and no longer have a desire to smoke. They feel healthier and more energized than ever before.

3. Improving Sleep

Finally, I worked with an individual who had been struggling with insomnia for years. Through hypnotherapy, they were able to achieve a state of deep relaxation and fall asleep more easily. They now wake up feeling refreshed and energized.

Conclusion

Clinical hypnotherapy is a powerful therapeutic technique that can help individuals overcome various issues and challenges. By accessing the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy can help individuals make positive changes in their thoughts and behaviors. If you are interested in trying hypnotherapy, be sure to choose a qualified and certified hypnotherapist who makes you feel comfortable and at ease. With the power of hypnosis, you can transform your life and achieve your goals.

Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists can help individuals find peace from a variety of mental issues. Ranging from anxiety to phobias to learning how to quit bad habits, certified hypnotherapists can help individuals find peace through non invasive and alternative ways. AIHCP and the College of Clinical Hypnotherapy offer a four year Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification for qualified professionals. The program is online and independent study and open to those seeking to help others through the power of hypnotherapy. Please review AIHCP’s Clinical Hypnotherapy Certification and see if the program matches your academic and professional needs.

Additional Resources

5 Potential Health Benefits of Hypnotherapy. Lauren Bedosky. May 22nd, 2023. Everyday Health. Access here

“Hypnosis”. Cleveland Clinic. April 1st, 2022. Access here

“Hypnosis”. Mayo Clinic. Access here

“Is Hypnosis Therapy Real? Here’s How It Works”. Michelle Brooten Brooks. March 23rd, 2022. VeryWellHealth. Access here

Sleep Meditation

Posted on May 25, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

Sleep is critical to success in life. The necessity of the brain and body receiving the required hours of sleep can sometimes be forgotten in a fast paced world. Deadlines, more work, squeezing things in late at night, and burning oneself out at “both ends of the candle” can lead to multiple issues. Individuals who suffer from lack of sleep can encounter health issues and at work lose focus and concentration. In addition, lack of sleep is a big reason for accidents both behind the wheel and at work.

Sleep meditation can help individuals with insomnia and anxiety fall asleep

It is thus extremely important to find the right amount of sleep but many even when they try can find it difficult. Individuals who suffer from insomnia or anxiety may have a very hard time falling asleep. Hence Meditation is an excellent way to find sleep. The article, “4 Benefits of Sleep Meditation and How To Do It” from HealthEssentials and the Cleveland Clinic takes a closer look at the importance of sleep and how different forms of sleep meditation can be utilized to aid in sleep. The article states,

“Sleep meditation is a practice that helps prepare your body and mind for sleep. Especially if you have anxiety or insomnia, it can be hard to just jump into bed and fall asleep as soon as your head hits the pillow. According to Dr. Young, stress, pain and anxiety are the most common factors that can interrupt our sleep and keep us awake at night.”

“4 Benefits of Sleep Meditation and How To Do It”. May 12th, 2023. HealthEssentials. Cleveland Clinic.

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Among the sleep meditation forms suggested include gradual muscle relaxation, controlled breathing and visualization. One is bound to discover one type of sleep meditation form to help and in addition there are other things that can enhance meditation through teas, herbs, or sounds.

Meditation is a practice that has been around for centuries, but only recently has it gained mainstream popularity as a tool for improving sleep quality. Meditation is the practice of focusing your attention on a single point, such as your breath, a word, or a sound. By focusing your attention, you can quiet your mind and reduce stress, which can help you fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer.

How Meditation Can Improve Your Sleep Quality

Sleep meditation and focused breathing can help one find the sleep they need

There are several ways that meditation can improve your sleep quality. First, meditation can reduce stress and anxiety, which are two of the most common causes of sleep problems. When you meditate, you activate your parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the body’s relaxation response. This can help you feel more relaxed and calm, making it easier to fall asleep.

Second, meditation can improve the quality of your sleep. When you meditate, you increase the amount of slow-wave sleep you get, which is the deep, restorative sleep that your body needs to repair itself. Slow-wave sleep is also essential for memory consolidation, so getting enough of it can help improve your cognitive function.

Scientific Evidence Supporting the Effectiveness of Meditation for Sleeping

Several studies have shown that meditation can improve sleep quality. In a 2015 study published in JAMA Internal Medicine, researchers found that mindfulness meditation improved sleep quality in older adults with moderate sleep disturbances. Another study published in the Journal of Sleep Research found that meditation improved sleep quality in patients with insomnia.

Different Types of Meditation for Sleeping

There are several different types of meditation that can be helpful for improving sleep quality. One of the most popular types of meditation is mindfulness meditation, which involves focusing your attention on the present moment. Other types of meditation that can be helpful for sleep include body scan meditation, which involves focusing your attention on different parts of your body, and loving-kindness meditation, which involves focusing on feelings of love and compassion.

Tips for Beginners to Get Started with Meditation for Sleeping

If you’re new to meditation, getting started can be overwhelming. Here are some tips to help you get started:

Start small. Begin with just a few minutes of meditation each day and gradually increase the amount of time you spend meditating.
Find a quiet, comfortable space to meditate. This can be a spare room in your house, a park, or even your car.
Use guided meditations. There are several apps and websites that offer guided meditations specifically for sleep.
Be patient. Meditation is a skill that takes time to develop. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t see results right away.

How to Incorporate Meditation into Your Bedtime Routine

Please review AIHCP’s Meditation Instructor Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional needs

Incorporating meditation into your bedtime routine can help signal to your body that it’s time to sleep. Here are some tips for incorporating meditation into your bedtime routine:

Meditate at the same time every night. This can help your body develop a sleep routine.
Avoid screens for at least 30 minutes before bed. The blue light emitted by screens can interfere with your body’s natural sleep cycle.
Try a body scan meditation. This can help you relax your body and prepare for sleep.

Common Mistakes to Avoid When Meditating for Sleeping

There are several common mistakes that people make when meditating for sleep. Here are some mistakes to avoid:

Trying too hard. Meditation is about relaxing, not trying to force yourself to fall asleep.
Getting frustrated. If you’re having trouble falling asleep, don’t get frustrated. Instead, try focusing on your breath or a word.
Giving up too soon. Meditation is a skill that takes time to develop. Don’t give up if you don’t see results right away.

Additional Tips to Improve Your Sleep Quality

In addition to meditation, there are several other things you can do to improve your sleep quality:

Create a relaxing bedtime routine. This can include taking a warm bath, reading a book, or listening to calming music.
Avoid caffeine, alcohol, and nicotine before bed. These substances can interfere with your body’s natural sleep cycle.
Exercise regularly. Regular exercise can help improve sleep quality.

Success Stories of People Who Have Improved Their Sleep Quality with Meditation

There are countless success stories of people who have improved their sleep quality with meditation. One woman, who had struggled with insomnia for years, started meditating before bed and found that she was able to fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer. Another man, who had been taking prescription sleep aids for years, started meditating and was able to wean himself off the medication.

Conclusion: The Benefits of Meditation for Sleeping and How to Get Started

Do not allow insomnia and anxiety to steal the sleep you need. Instead learn more about sleep meditation and see if it works for you

In conclusion, meditation is a powerful tool for improving sleep quality. By reducing stress and anxiety and improving the quality of your sleep, meditation can help you wake up feeling refreshed and energized. If you’re new to meditation, start small and be patient. With time and practice, you’ll be able to unlock the power of meditation and improve your sleep quality for good.

Please also review AIHCP’s Meditation Instructor Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Meditation.

Additional Resources

“Why Is Sleep Important?”. NIH. March 24th, 2022. Access here

“Why sleep is important”. APA. October 2008. Access here

“The Importance of Sleep”. Shamard Charles, MD. January 10th, 2021. VeryWellHealth. Access here

“3 Ways to Meditate for Better Sleep” Kirsten Nunez. January 13th, 2020. Healthline. Access here

“Guided Sleep Meditation: How to Get Started”. Arlin Cuncic. September 21st, 2022. Access here

LGBTQ Diversity and Grief Video

Posted on May 24, 2023May 24, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

Different minority groups share different social traumas and collective grief. The LGBTQ community is no different in experiencing its own pain and suffering in the world. The collective grief that is shared within the community when a night club is shot up not only resonates within their community but also causes trauma and fears of other hate crimes that can be perpetrated against them.

LGBTQ groups suffer a collective type of grief. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Diversity Certification

Individually, they face uphill battles within their families, churches and communities. Many are discriminated against by family members or potential jobs. Some lose parents or siblings over their identity. Others face issues within their faith as moral questions take central stage. Along with marriage rights and civil rights, the grief of having an alternative life style can be over bearing.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Diversity Certification. The program is a sub certification for those already certified as Grief Counselors. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals looking to better meet the diverse grief experienced by minority groups.

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The Christian Church Fathers

Posted on May 24, 2023May 24, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

Christ stated that the Church would last till the end of time and that the gates of Hell would not prevail against it. After the Apostles and early Disciples left their legacy and imprint upon Christianity with their own writings, most found in Scripture, and their own lives, Christianity struggled under persecution but later emerged as the official religion of the Roman Empire. Various Councils were called that settled heretical disputes and Church Fathers answered the need of the people with concise writings and guidance. These writings still are a great treasure within the deposit of faith and while not inspired like Scripture carry heavy weight and truth in the faith.

The Church Fathers defended and guided the faith. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

Christian Counselors have sources upon sources of spiritual writing on dogma, biblical exegesis , moral instruction and spiritual guidance from the Church Fathers. The Church Fathers lived in the post apostolic periods in which Christianity suffered persecution in the 2nd Century , blossomed in the 4th Century and continued to grow through the early ecumenical councils of the Church. Another term for the Early Church Fathers are the Apostolic Fathers. These early bishops and leaders of Christianity were either young men at the time of the Apostles, or indirect students of the Apostles successors. Many of these saints faced persecution at the hand of Pagan Rome. The tradition of great Church Fathers continued at Nicaea where the Nicene Creed was formulated as a basis for the Christian faith. The the Nicaean Fathers modified the Apostle Creed to further reinforce the orthodox teaching of Jesus’ divinity against the Arian Heresy. From the 4th Century onward, great Church Fathers would emerge along side powerful early ecumenical councils that would form the identity of the Christian Church and preserve it from a multitude of errors ranging from Nestorianism to Monophysitism and other critical issues that plagued the early church during the ecumenical age.

These writings for the defense and explanation of the faith are a rich resource for priests, pastors, spiritual directors, pastoral caregivers and Christian counselors. It is hence important to have some idea how to find these resources and know who these men were in relation to Church doctrine and Church history. The study of the Church Fathers is referred to as Patristics and involves a mixture of history and theology that show the growth of the faith and its articulation of basic dogmas. The seeds laid by the apostles were merely the beginning of the faith and the Church Father’s mission was to preserve but to also help grow the faith. This involved reactions to their current times, both social and theological. Many of the writings clarify teachings of the faith and defend it from heretical views regarding the nature of Jesus Christ and the titles of Mary, His mother. Through their defenses and the coinciding councils, the faith grew and gave greater explanations about the dogmas that were handed down by the apostles.

The 8 Pillars and 2 Lungs of the Church

A person who is a Church Father must meet a few requirements. They must have lived within the first 8 centuries, wrote orthodox writings, possessed sanctity and be approved by the Church.

From the extensive period of the 2nd Century to the 5th Century, 8 Church Fathers were given notable recognition by both the Catholic and Orthodox Church and are seen as the post apostolic pillars of the faith. Their standing and defense of the faith leave them with the titles of Doctors of the Church and of course great defenders of the faith. In the West, there is St Gregory the Great, St Augustine of Hippo, St Ambrose and St Jerome. In the East, there is St Athanasius of Alexandria, St Gregory of Nazianzus, St Basil of Caesarea and St John Chrysostom. All of these saints and Church Fathers played large roles in the early centuries in defining Christian doctrine against heresy and leading the Church in times of trouble and danger.

They clearly illustrate the 2 lungs of the Church, both Western and Eastern, and their importance transcends not only their geographical center but also the entirety of the Christian faith, both then and now. For instance, Gregory the Great, was not only a Pontiff of the then unified Church, but also a defender of the city of Rome against barbarian invasions. St Augustine, remains to this day as one of the greatest Christian writers revered in East and West, and Catholic and Protestant circles. His work, the City of God, is a Christian classic and his defense against the heretic Pelagius helped maintain orthodoxy within Christianity regarding grace. St Athanasius stands as fierce defender of Christ against Arianism and finally, St John Chrysostom is responsible for the beauty of the Eastern Liturgy. St Jerome was responsible for the first translation of Scripture into the Latin language.

The Latin Fathers

In the West, including Augustine, Gregory, Ambrose and Jerome are the Latin Fathers who wrote in Latin. Notable names include St Clement of Rome, St. Ignatius of Antioch, Tertullian, Cyprian of Carthage, and St Polycarp. Both Ignatius and Polycarp are said to be disciples of St John the Apostle. The Epistle of St Clement is the earliest epistle of any Church Father (96 A.D).

The Greek Fathers

St Athanasius defended the faith against Arianism

In the East, including Gregory of Nazianzus, Basil, Athanasius, and Chrysostom are the Fathers who wrote in Greek. St Justin the Martyr, St Irenaeus of Lyons, St. Clement of Alexandria, St Cyril of Alexandria, and Origen.

Utilizing these Sources in Christian Counseling

First of all, the lists above are only a sample of the many Fathers. It is imperative that Christians not neglect these rich and powerful resources for their own spiritual renewal but also for a better understanding of the Christian faith and its dogmas. Christian Counselors can utilize these sources easily by becoming acquainted with the numerous Fathers and their writings. There are numerous texts created which collects their most famous exerts as well as resources both online and in libraries where individuals can read the entire work itself. Of course, like Scripture, most of these are translated from Latin or Greek so it is important to find a reputable translation.

St John Chrysostom is the Father of the Eastern Liturgy

The wisdom of the Early Church Fathers may not be inspired as God’s Word but they carry heavy authority in dogma and teaching. They provide explanations about the faith and answer numerous questions as the faith grew and developed. Many heresies today are repeat versions of the ancient heresies. If one possesses a strong knowledge of the Church Fathers, one will recognize unorthodox doctrine and better be equipped to refute it.

Christian Counselors can also find wisdom in the writings of the Church Fathers and apply it to sessions and guidance of their spiritual children. St Augustine is a great example of a soul who lost his way but later found the grace of God and converted his immoral life style and became a great saint. St Athanasius illustrated perseverance to the truth, as he was multiple times chased from his See by heretics who denounced the divinity of Christ. These individuals were not only great writers and defenders of the faith but many of them were also very holy individuals who one can emulate in one’s own spiritual life.

All are called to discipleship and the Early Church Fathers are excellent examples of what it means to be a disciple after the time of the Apostles. They teach that all Christians are called to preserve the faith and defend it for their respective generation so that future souls may inherit the faith unsoiled and pure as it was handed down by the Apostles from Christ.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification

Additional Resources

“Church Fathers”. Wikipedia. Access here

“AN ENCOURAGEMENT TO READ AUGUSTINE’S BIG BOOK, THE CITY OF GOD”. David George Moore. December 4th, 2018. C.S Lewis Institute. Access here

“Who are the “Fathers of the Church” and why do they matter?”. Phillip Kosloski. February 2nd, 2018. Aleteia. Access here

“5 Books to Read by Church Fathers”. Gavin Ortlund. July 27th, 2020. Christian Living. Access here

Grief on the Brain

Posted on May 23, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

Grief effects the whole entirety of the human person. The emotional aftershocks of a loss are so emotionally devastating that the after shocks rock the brain and in turn physically rattle the body. Individuals who lose a person they loved hence experience a total reckoning as the body looks to readjust and recalibrate to the loss itself. When this occurs, the brain itself is rewiring itself with neuro pathways to associate with the loss and initial unprocessed and raw feelings. These raw feelings surge from the amygdala and trigger a variety of neurochemicals within the brain that deal with the loss and pain of someone dying.

Grief and loss have a staggering effect on the brain. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

Like stress, the flight or fight response is activated which increases the heart rate, raises blood pressure and produces cortisol to deal with the stressful and painful trauma of losing someone. This of course gives more free reign to the amygdala over the reasoning area of the pre-frontal cortex. This is what leads to more emotional outbursts, less reason, less memory, and less concentration itself. In reality, the brain and its entirety of parts is in some way responding to the loss itself.

The article, “How does grief affect the brain?” by Joe Phelan looks at the many issues associated with the brain’s reactions to loss and the after effects upon the human body. The article is strongly based off Lisa Shulman, a Neurologist who studied extensively the effects of grief on the brain. According to Shulman,

“The amygdala [the brain’s center for emotions], deep inside the primitive part of the brain, is always on the lookout for threats,” Shulman said. “When triggered, it sets off a cascade of events that put the entire body on high alert — the heart speeds up, breathing rate increases and blood circulation is increased to the muscles to prepare to fight or flee.”

“How does grief affect the brain?”. Joe Phelan. January 8th, 2023. Live Science

To read the entire article, please click here

Grief Work

Helping the brain heal is what grief work is all about. Grief work helps re-create new neuro pathways that can associate other connections with the deceased that are not only associated with the death itself. The brain, evolutionary, will long the absence of a loved one. This is critical for survival, so naturally it takes time to create new neuro pathways that are beyond simply mourning and trying to find the one who is no longer present. The yearning is a direct result of this and until adaptation manifests and new neuro pathways with new experiences are paved, then one remains in deep grief.

When Pro-Longed Grief occurs or more severe grief due to trauma, complications can occur which can keep the brain trapped in acute grief. The unprocessed and raw emotional pain, similar to memories and sensations in PTSD, are not processed into long term memory. This can lead to longer grieving periods until the information and memory is properly processed, stored and new neuro pathways allow for different connections with the deceased.

It is hence a sad tragedy when grief literally kills one of a broken heart. When things are not processed, adjustments not made, the constant chronic state of fight or flight can produce extra stress on the heart and blood pressure itself.

Reworking Neuro Pathways

Meaning reconstruction is key in helping rework neuro pathways in the brain that associate the loss in a new perspective but also allow memory to properly be processed within the brain. This helps prevent intense emotion that oscillate with more frequency and intensity in the early stages of the brain from continuing to do so many months later. Meaning reconstruction also helps create a new narrative regarding the deceased, re-establishing a new relationship not found in the temporal world. It also helps connect the loss with the present and future, as if chapters within a book. The past chapters of the person’s life and the deep connection with parent or spouse are still integral parts, but those relationships are adjusted and understood in new ways of the person’s next chapters.

Ways to begin to carve out new neuro pathways include journaling and memorializing. Through these two grief works, one is able to remember and honor. The words on paper can help the person adjust and the new memorials can help them cherish the past but also strengthen the bond in its new form. Grief work is tough but throughout, the brain begins to form new connections and grief leaves its acute stage and enters into a far less disruptive force.

Does this mean the loss goes away? The sense of loss never leaves. The connection in the brain and memories can trigger intense emotion, but these triggers are natural and not pathological as in cases of PTSD or depression. As long as love once existed, then the loss will always have meaning and tears can emerge at a moment’s notice. This is not bad but is the result of an emotional scar of losing someone very dear and special. It is to many individuals a sign of their undying love and reminder of the value of the person no longer present.

Conclusion

To understand more about how grief effects the brain, please review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Training

Grief has a profound effect on the soul, mind and body. It takes time to adjust to it without ever truly healing. However, like all wounds, despite the scar, one heals. Retraining the brain so one can again emotionally function is the aspect of grief work. Adjustment is essential and new neuro pathways are key to that adjustment. With so many false ideas about grief and myths regarding it, individuals can grasp in the chaos of loss longer than they need to. Grief Counselors can help individuals suffering from the trauma of loss and help guide them through the difficult process.

Please also review The American Academy of Grief Counseling’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.

Bibliography

“How does grief affect the brain?”. Joe Phelan. January 8th, 2023. Live Science

Additional Resources

“How your brain copes with grief, and why it takes time to heal”. Berly McCoy. December 20th, 2021. NPR. Access here

“How grief rewires the brain and can affect health – and what to do about it”. Michael Merschel, March 10th, 2021. The American Heart Association. Access here

“What Does Grief Do to Your Brain?”. Traci Pedersen. May 6th, 2022. Psych Central. Access here

“How Grief Changes the Brain”. Sophia Dembllng. August 18th, 2022. Psychology Today. Access here

Behavioral Health and Stigma

Posted on May 19, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

When someone is physically ill, they consult with a physician. When someone is wounded they go to the emergency room and receive the necessary care and bandages. Yet, for whatever reason, when someone is mentally ill or mentally wounded, individuals ignore it, or seek no professional care for these types of wounds or illnesses. Individuals may consider wounds to the mind and soul as inferior, or since they cannot be seen, not worthy of medical attention. Others may be embarrassed or see mental wounds as the wounds of weak people. Culture has created the image of the tough minded person who never sheds a tear or allows anything to bother and has glorified this type of person as attractive and admirable. In addition, culture looks at mental sickness and associates it with crazy. The stigma of crazy and psychotic associated with mental wounds wards off individuals from seeking help for fear of ridicule in social, professional and family settings.

Mental Health is many times forgotten because of self image and stigma associated with it

All of these issues and stigmas leave mental health as something is neglected and forgotten for many. Yet, while invisible, mental health is a serious issue for millions of Americans. With rising shootings, mental breakdowns, and uncivil rest, mental illness is a serious issue in America. Millions suffer from depression, anxiety, or other unresolved traumas that haunt them. Instead of seeking the professional guidance they need, they instead hide, neglect, ignore, or push through the mental situation.

False imagery of strength, stigma associated with mental illness and neglect of mental health as opposed to physical health all play three key components for mental health neglect. It is hence important to recognize mental health as a pivotal part of human health and to recognize emotional wounds as deep and painful as physical wounds. Stigmas about mental health tying it together with psychotic or crazy need to be removed and individuals need to find the counseling and medication they need to find healing and peace with the mental issues they may face on a day to day basis.

The article, “Mental health: Overcoming the stigma of mental illness” from the Mayo Clinic Staff takes a closer look at stigma and the problems it can cause with mental health. The stigma is not only an external issue found in society but also a self imagery stigma that many possess itself. The article states,

“Stigma is when someone views you in a negative way because you have a distinguishing characteristic or personal trait that’s thought to be, or actually is, a disadvantage (a negative stereotype). Unfortunately, negative attitudes and beliefs toward people who have a mental health condition are common.”

“Mental health: Overcoming the stigma of mental illness”. Mayo Clinic Staff. Mayo Clinic. May 24th, 2017. Mayo Clinic

To access the full article, please click here

Overcoming Stigma in Mental Health

Overcoming stigma with mental health starts first with oneself. It involves dismissing past archetypes of what a strong person is or is not. For example, the old image that men should not cry is an older image that associated all males must be strong and never show weakness or tears. This type of image can cause intense emotional damage to a man who is experiencing the mental wounds of depression. Individuals who experience issues with depression, anxiety, OCD, ADHD, unresolved trauma, or PTSD need to understand that what they feel is natural and involves an invisible wound that is no less real than a physical wound. Seeking help does not make one weak, it merely shows one is wounded. If one is limping on the side of a road after a car accident, one openly seeks assistance. Seeking the same assistance for mental wounds is no less a necessity.

It is important to dismiss past stigma and images of mental health and instead treat mental health like any physical wound

Many may also fear losing a job, or being discriminated or mocked or bullied over seeking help. This type of behavior, while becoming less, is still prevalent in today’s society but as more and more public figures emerge who acknowledge their inner wounds, the more recognizable these things come. Instead of mockery, individuals are applauded for showing the strength to ask for help and seek treatment.

Treatment is key, but also is support. Individuals can find common ground with others who suffer from the same mental issues. Instead of isolating and self doubting one self, support groups are a great way to find strength and support and the discovery that such issues are not just existent within oneself. Through support, fear, shame and anxiety over mental health can be dismissed, as well with stigma.

Most importantly, one learns to understand that identity is never equated to condition. Simply because one suffers from say, Bi-Polar Depression, does not equate one as a sad person but a person who experiences a condition that needs treatment itself.

STIGMA

Removing stigma and becoming more aware is a cultural and social necessity. Within mental illness, there exists a personal, public and institutional stigmas that can hamper one from seeking and eventually overcoming mental illness.

Within the personal arena, individuals can see themselves as dangerous, incompetent, weak or to blame for their condition. This all leads to lower self esteem, self doubt and an overwhelming feeling of failure and helplessness.

Within the public sector, there exists within society a feeling that individuals with mental illness are dangerous incompetent, weak or to blame for their very condition as well. This can lead to employers being wary to hire individuals with mental illness history or open opportunities to these types of individuals.

This translates within the institutional level, where there exists intentionally or unintentionally a prejudice against those who are mentally ill.

Support groups can help individuals see common issues faced and help individuals find strength in recovery

The answer is to make mental illness more public. To explain what certain conditions are and for individuals of power or place in society to claim their issues and show their strength. In essence, it is critical to turn the story from one of fear and weakness to one of admiration and strength. It is important for society to show solidarity, the same as society does for those who suffer from cancer or other physical diseases. It is also important for society to show compassion for those who suffer from mental illness instead of dismissing it.

Better Words

Instead of saying demeaning, dismissing or detrimental words to those who open up, individuals need to be more encouraging in their words. Phrases such as it could be worst, should be replaced with thank you for opening up to me. Other phrases such as deal with it, snap out of it, be happier, we all been there, or you caused this should be replaced with how can I help, I am sorry this must be tough, I am here for you, how are you feeling, or how can I help you?

“Stigma, Prejudice and Discrimination Against People with Mental Illness”. APA. August 2020. APA. Access here

Conclusion

Mental health is health and needs addressed. Please also review AIHCP’s Behavioral Health Certifications

Mental health should be valued and equated to physical health but social stigmas can prevent those seeking help or feeling the importance of finding help. Whether its poor self image, or fear of intimidation or ridicule, society has to become better in supporting those with mental health issues and encouraging their strength to come forward and ask for help. With so many mental health issues in the United States, it is important to address mental health and remove stigmas.

Please also review AIHCP’s numerous behavioral health certifications for qualified mental health care professionals. The programs include Grief Counseling, Crisis Intervention, Stress Management, Anger Management, Spiritual and Christian Counseling, as well as programs such as Clinical Hypnosis and EFT. The programs are online and independent study and offer professionals an opportunity to earn a four year certification in their discipline of choice.

Bibliography

“Stigma, Prejudice and Discrimination Against People with Mental Illness”. APA. August 2020. APA.

“Mental health: Overcoming the stigma of mental illness”. Mayo Clinic Staff. Mayo Clinic. May 24th, 2017. Mayo Clinic

Additional Resources

“What is mental health stigma?”. Lois Zoppi. November 10th, 2020. Medical News Today. Access here

“How We Can Change the Stigma Around Mental Health”. Eleesha Lockett. October 26th, 2022. Healthline. Access here

“Understanding (and Getting Past) the Mental Health Stigma”. HealthEssentials. June 2nd, 2020. Cleveland Clinic. Access here

“What Is Stigma?”. Ashley Olivine. February 10th, 2022. VeryWellhealth. Access here

Grief Diversity within Different Minority Groups Video

Posted on May 18, 2023May 18, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

People of color, minorities, and those not traditionally of European descent face unique struggles, traumas, losses and griefs. These diverse groups include African Americans, Native Americans, Latinos, Asian Americans and historically in the past even Irish Americans in the 1800s. Those who failed to fit the WASP mode have a unique cultural and diverse grief experience. While America on paper was the land of the free and equality for all, the reality fell short for many peoples. Slavery of African Americans and genocide against Native Americans are only but a few dark moments in American history against others. While history cannot be rewritten it can be remembered. While patriotism and love of country is critical, it does not mean patriotism is equal to nationalism and blind eyes to sins of one’s nation.

Different minority groups face different collective grief. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Diversity Program

Individuals within minority groups face unique and collective grief from the past but also experience trauma collectively and sometimes individually in the present. Police brutality, racial profiling and racially motivated shootings all can trigger a more hyper vigilance within minority communities and individuals. As Grief Counselors it is important to see the scars of collective grief and how it imparts on various individuals within minority communities.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Diversity Program. The program is for certified Grief Counselors looking to enhance their grief background and add additional certifications to their resume. The program is online and independent study and opens many to the different types of grief and loss and history faced by minority communities.

Please also review the video below

Christian Counseling and Self Harm

Posted on May 17, 2023 by Dominick Flarey

One of the most destructive and maladaptive forms of coping is self harm. Individuals who hurt themselves are not necessarily hoping to die but hoping to punish or escape reality due to past trauma, abuse, guilt, shame, anxiety, depression or mental disorder. Suicide can grow from it so risk assessment is key, as well as the fact, one can accidentally kill oneself due to the dangerous behavior.

Self harm does not have suicidal intent but looks to punish or distract oneself from mental pain or past unresolved trauma

Many who suffer from self harm are merely hurt individuals trying to escape reality. They need guidance, counseling and better coping strategies to deal with the emotions and trauma they are dealing with. Clinical Counselors deal with those who commit self harm and will usually discover a diagnosis as to the core reason why self harm is occurring. From a spiritual perspective, pastoral and Christian Counselors can also add moral and religious guidance.

The article, “What Is Self-Harm?” by Hope Gillette looks closer at the nature of self harm, the causes, what it entails and how to replace self harm with better coping strategies. She states,

“When you engage in NSSI, it replaces psychological distress with physical pain, pulling you out of your unhappy thoughts. The trauma to your body also generates a release of pain-killing endorphins, which can give you an all-around, feel-good boost. Being able to escape your thoughts and feel better at the same time can lay the foundation for self-harm to become compulsive and ritualistic. It can become that thing you go to whenever you need to de-stress.”

“What Is Self-Harm?”. Hope Gillette. April 11th, 2023. Healthline.

To read the entire article, please access here

Self Harm

As stated, self harm is not intended as a means to kill oneself, but to punish or escape mental pain. Individuals who suffer from self harm tendencies look to escape pain from unresolved trauma. Whether abuse, or severe violence, they look to the physical pain to distract themselves from the mental anguish associated with the unresolved trauma. This is also common with those who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder as well as severe anxiety and depression. The physical pain becomes an outlet or escape from the mental anguish.

In other cases, it is a form of punishment to the person. One may feel extreme shame or guilt and feel the need to inflict punishment upon the body. Those who are sexually abused are made to feel guilty for the abuse by the abuser and will commonly hurt themselves as punishment.

In essence, this maladaptive form of self abuse without suicidal intent is an attempt to cope with pain and unresolved trauma. Individuals will cut, burn, bruise, bite, poison and engage is dangerous activities to cope with the primary issue. It is essential that family or friends identify these injuries or change in behaviors so they can be properly addressed

Unfortunately, many who engage in self harm will attempt to disguise or hide their injuries with longer sleeved shirts or attempt to withdraw more from public and become more private than usual. If behavioral changes occur and odd interests emerge that include items or medications to treat injuries, then one should further investigate the possibility one is engaging in self harm.

Emotional Self Harm

Individuals however can also harm themselves emotionally BEYOND physically. Numerous dangerous and high risk behaviors can also manifest. Individuals may engage in unsafe sex, remain in unsafe relationships, engage in drug abuse, or take high risks with fighting, driving, or various activities. In addition, individuals may indulge in negative talk about oneself in which abusive names or self labels are applied to oneself. In other cases, individuals may self restrict as a form of punishment by denying oneself food, water or sleep.

Cognitive distortions are also another way an individual may be too hard oneself. Individuals who magnify the situation, jump to conclusions, over compare, label oneself, over assume, disqualify oneself, minimize oneself or always speak in the extremes, can fall victim to self punishment and emotional torture.

Ways to Overcome Self Harm

Individuals who suffer from self harm usually require Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which focuses on intense emotions and ways to manage them. The therapy was primarily developed for those suffering with Borderline Personality Disorder and is a subdivision of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. There are also other special therapies that deal uniquely with self harm itself and how to better manage the emotions that lead to it

Obviously better coping strategies are also essential. In therapy, individuals can learn different ways to deal with negative emotions from unresolved trauma and abuse. Individuals can be introduced to meditation, deep breathing, types of prayer, journaling, artistic expression, exercise, reading or finding a good friend to confide in.

Christian Counseling and Self Harm

Self harm can lead to multiple risky and dangerous behaviors. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

Beyond the clinical aspects that treat unresolved trauma and correct imagery of self through therapy and dialogue, Christian Counseling looks to help the person understand key concepts regarding Christ and self. First, it teaches that everyone is dignified and born in the image and likeness of God. Hence, self harm shames the worth of the human person. It also assaults the body which is a temple of the Holy Spirit. Second, Christian Counselors can emphasize how much Christ loves and forgives all things in the past and looks to heal and bring peace to the chaos, consolation to the desolated and security to the anxious. Christian meditation and focus on the love of God and the value of the human person are key concepts that can help individuals find self worth and better ways to cope with trauma and pain.

In addition, AIHCP also offers certifications in Crisis Intervention Counseling and Grief Counseling. Both these programs can help train professionals deal with the issue of self harm and help those in intense pain, grief and crisis itself.

Bibliography

“What Is Self-Harm?”. Hope Gillette. April 11th, 2023. Healthline.

Additional Resources

“Self-Harm”. Psychology Today Staff. Psychology Today. Access here

“The Self-Harming Brain”. Terri Apter, PhD. January 6th, 2020. Psychology Today. Access here

“Biblical Advice For Those Struggling With Cutting and Self Harm”. Michael Williams, PhD. What Christians Want to Know. Access here

“There’s a Scientific Reason Why Self-Harm Makes Some People Feel Better”. Colin Schultz. October 16th, 2014. Smithsonian Magazine. Access here