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Christian Counseling through the Noise of the World

Posted on by Mark Moran

The allure of the world in the fallen and temporal reality that humanity exists is an illusion or mirage in the desert.  As pilgrims in this fallen world, our senses are dulled, our will distracted, and our eyes sometimes blinded towards truth and beauty.  The inherited broken nature from Adam hinders our ability to sometimes distinguish right from wrong.   According to St. Thomas Aquinas, the concupiscible appetite of humanity’s fallen nature is associated with initial desires of the senses.  Unlike Adam prior, humanity lost perfect control of the passions after Adam’s fall.  The end result is humanity’s appeal to these senses which can in some cases be good but in other cases bad.  Hence illusionary goods that are immorally distasteful but physically pleasing can blind humanity.  In addition, the broken human nature not only sees illusion in the near and present but also abstract and secondary goods.  Greed, power, status and worship become end goals leading multiple individuals down a dark path.

 

Filtering out the noise and finding peace in prayer leads to ultimate happiness.

The conscience always seeks good.  In that our human nature is not totally devastated but the conscience while perceiving a goal as good does not always objectively choose correctly.  Hence the illusion that can exist even within those with good intentions.  Individuals can become so distracted by the noises of the world that they can lose sight of the truth and reality.  Before Christ and His ultimate sacrifice on the cross, our broken natures were left without grace, but through the cross, Christ grants grace and guidance to His creation.  This can help humanity see the noise, uncover the illusions, and focus more solely on truth.   Christian Counselors, ministers, priests, clergy, and other ministry based vocations can help individuals see truth.  Like Paul, we sometimes need the scales removed from our eyes to see before we can truly flourish.

The Noises of the World

St Teresa of Avila in her masterpiece “The Interior Castle” guides the soul through the world to deeper connections or castles with God.  The first castles are very much consumed by the world. Outside of the castle exists the world and those who are flooded with false illusions. Once one understands the inherent malfunction of this world and understands the need of God, one is able to enter into the first castle, the entry room with God.  This exist from the world of illusion into the world of reality though is nevertheless filled with noise that exists outside.  The noises can pull one back and forth from truth and reality to untruth and illusion.  The broken conscience and will seek the world but the intellect and mind through the grace of the Holy Spirit invite it to truth.  This tug of war between the the world and God exists according to St Teresa throughout the first three mansions before the soul can become more stable.  Christian Counselors primarily work with individuals in these sincere but still incomplete relationships with God.  Where vice and virtue, right and wrong and truth and illusion pull at clients or spiritual children.

While the world, while marred by Original Sin, is broken, it is still beautiful.  Unlike Manichean views that draw a dichotomy between the world/evil with the spiritual/good, Christian theology still sees the temporal world as still retaining goodness since it was created by God.  Even our fallen human nature, still retains beauty for it is not totally corrupted.  Christ became human, lived among humanity, existed within the temporal world, highlighted its beauty but also pointed out its noises and imperfections.   So, while broken, nothing is totally destroyed.  Not all noises of the world are evil.  In Christian Counseling, it is hence important to help guide individuals through these noises, labeling them and better understanding them.

In creating a hierarch to judge the noises of the world as good, bad, or neutral, one needs two fundamental measurements.  First, and foremost, do noises distract from the ultimate purpose of existence to know, love and serve God?  Our primary goal in life is always spiritual.  The ultimate end is always God.  Things that lead to another end are noises within the world that are not good but inherently evil.  Do the noises or actions from those noises correlate with God’s Law or violate it?  Do they even if neutral seem to distract one from God?  Secondly, some noises of the world can be more difficult to discern.  Discernment involves deep spiritual prayer and reflection upon choices.  What are the fruits of certain actions?  Are they, as St. Ignatius Loyola point out, lead to the banner of Satan and the world, or under the banner of Christ?  So noises can be difficult sometimes to discern and it is important to be able to discern what ultimately leads to God and not away from Him.  So, noises within the world can be good, neutral or bad.  So, we will look at some of these noises and try to better understand their role in our existence.  As temporal beings, these noises although not always tied to our ultimate end are still nonetheless sometime very important.  In addition, as we will see, some noises are also completely un-necessary but allow them to enter and destroy our peace.

Good Noises

As physical beings, we have physical needs and the good noises of the world meets those needs.  Pieces of heaven pierce through the veil that separates and gives sunshine to the broken nature of things in temporal reality.  Things that are physical but also connected to higher values such as love will exist here and in the next world.  A beloved family member, friend, or even pet, is more than a temporal bond but a bond that is beautiful on earth and heaven.  The noises of the world that call one to serve one’s fellow brother or sister are good noises.  Seeing Christ in other human beings and being called to the temporal needs of others in this world are good noises.  They do not distract but are means to the end.  Unfortunately because we exist in a fallen world, happiness associated with our loved ones ultimately ends in suffering because of death and loss but these connections are re-made again with God in the eschatological reality which is perfect and true.  So the noises of this world that call us to special bonds and helping our neighbor are good noises that build our union with others and God.

If we offer our day to God, then all the daily duties are spiritualized as a living prayer and not a distraction from God. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

Some good noises are less binding to the next world and exist only in this world.  They are good when in balance with our spiritual needs and understood within their proper context.  Jesus who existed on earth lived as a human being and understood that existence requires not only spirituality but also physical dependence to survive.   So many noises direct oneself to temporal needs because one cannot always focus on the spiritual end.  These noises include the joys of a good meal, exercise, health, career and income which make survival possible.  Jesus within His first thirty years of life followed in His foster father’s footsteps and worked as a carpenter.   He worked, he collected income for Himself and His mother, and existed.  Jesus also as a human person experienced joy with social communal meetings.  He ate with friends, attended parties and weddings, and experienced the goodness that exists in this dark world.

In many ways, good noises are healthy.  We have duties and obligations.  We cannot always contemplate the mysteries of God but must make a living, or prepare a meal, or sweep the house, or attend a friend’s wedding, or enjoy a song or movie, or go on a vacation!  Jesus understands this because He is also one of us.  The good noise does not take away from God but focuses one on the daily duty ahead that is required in this important phase of our existence.  What Jesus did not do though is turn these good noises into distractions to primary duty.  When secondary duties consume, or events take away from God, that are not inherently bad, but in some cases good or neutral, then they can become corrupted.  When one allows temporal activities to become an obsession over duty to God, then they can become detrimental.  Jesus never put prayer second to anything.  He also corrected Martha, when Mary focused on worship, while Martha was more concerned about preparing the house or serving the guests.  Martha was not distracted by a bad thing to do, but it was her timing that Jesus corrected in regards to duty to first Himself as God, and then later temporal duties.  This is why good noises must always be tied to God.  One cannot focus on God every minute, but one can in the morning offer all duties and obligations to God as prayer.  St Theresa the Little Flower would turn a simple action as sweeping the convent floor into an act of love by giving her daily duty to God.  In this way, one can spiritualize the temporal duties and vocations one may have at home, work, or school and turn them into living prayers.

Now obviously, some urges are neutral noises.  Hunger, fatigue, even sickness, can distract one from God, but again God understands when hunger or fatigue affects prayer.  He understands when basic human needs push one to focus on those needs.  Jesus endured all the basic human needs we do but as God was also able to teach us how to offer up those needs when suffering or upset or hungry.  These minor neutral and natural distractions are noises that can distract from prayer but when offered up can become powerful tools for growth in grace.  Our most beautiful prayer may be our least focused due to pain or hunger, but the effort to still say it, is most pleasing to God.

Bad Noises

Bad noises in the world are inherently evil noises of the world or neutral or initially good noises that are imbalanced or lead to distraction from the spiritual.   If someone is working for his or her family with long hours or attending events with family and friends, this is good or neutral within itself, but if this causes neglect of prayer life or leads one to miss spiritual obligations then it becomes a distraction.  If a sporting events prevents spiritual obligations that are due to God to become unmet, then the sporting event, while good or neutral, becomes in this particular case a bad and distracting noise.  When one creates an imbalance on earthly duties or leisure events at the expense of God then God is put second and the this particular noise steals from God and distracts one from one’s duty to the ultimate end.  It is important to have a hierarchy of needs within one’s life.  Spiritual needs should always exist on the top of the list.  When spiritual needs are neglected, these noises create spiritual sloth.  This in turn creates laziness and imbalance.  Imagine if one neglected teeth hygiene but over focused on skin hygiene.  Hence we need to balance and meet all human needs from mind, body and soul.  Obviously the soul should be at the top of the list, but when other things take away from the soul, then the soul suffers.  This type of neglect or spiritual sloth occurs because of outside noises that are inherently good or neutral but distort balance and lead to spiritual sloth.  One must identify what is most important and also find balance to ensure the ultimate end is not neglected.

Of course, some noises are inherently bad.  Sins and vice not only distract one from God, but also call us away from God and harm the soul.  They damage the soul and replace virtue and good habit with vice and bad habit.  They become the illusions that present themselves as good options and look to replace God as our new idol.  These bad noises pull and drag us from the first mansion of union with God and dump us again in the cold barren world.   The bad noises of the world are very loud.  They fall under the banner of the world and Satan and make false promises.  They are cheap thrills and pleasures that ultimately lead to no long term happiness but only brokenness.  Like the Sirens of ancient Greek mythology, they lure wayward sailors to impending doom.

It is important to discern the bad noises from the good noises and fight temptations that lead to the wrong path of life.  These noises not only distract but lead to alienation from God and entrap the soul into the follies of the world.  As Christian Counselors, we must try to help individuals escape the mire and mud of the bad noises that sometimes refuse to release.  That involves identifying the true nature of these noises but also ways to help form new and better habits.  As Christians, we can at any moment make a poor decision.  We can not only become distracted by inherently neutral or good things but also fall victim to a bad noise.  When this happens, we will feel guilt and sorrow, however, we are not perfect, nor claim it, but acknowledge our broken nature and dependence upon Christ and the grace of the Holy Spirit to seek forgiveness.    So, while some may be entrapped by bad noises constantly, Christian Counselors, pastors, priests, as well as anyone in ministry should be aware that there are many who slip on the trail from time to time and need an encouraging word to get back up.   Within Catholicism, confession exists, but for those within other denominations of Christianity, counseling and words of love can be very helpful.  Ultimately God forgives everyone who slips.  The Church is comprised of sinners. We cannot escape it, so if distracted, we must sometimes acknowledge our brokenness with humility and seek forgiveness and refocus on becoming closer to God.

Helping Christians Through Un-necessary Noises

Understanding what noises are both good and bad is an important first step but there is more sometimes in finding true balance in life.  The first point is to be spiritual first.  This involves the moment one wakes up, offering the entire day to God.  Spiritualizing the daily duty and offering to God through Christ sets the tone for the day.  Furthermore, the evening and night should end with thanksgiving.

So much anxiety and lack of peace comes from un-necessary noise. This not only distracts from God but also causes inner turmoil

As spiritual beings, it is important that the spiritual end with God comes first in life.  Hence, even good noises, need to find placement second to spiritual obligations throughout the week.  There is an abundance of opportunities throughout churches not to forgo spiritual obligation for secular event.  God asks for one hour a week.

Christian Counselors can help individuals better plan times and find better management for spiritual hygiene.  Clergy can help people understand the best ways to implement prayer on the go during busy schedules.  One can fulfill daily temporal duties and still worship God and find time for God.  This may involve also properly balancing time.  Idle time on chat, social media, or tv can be moderated if in excess.  When these simple neutral noises become so loud that they dominate a larger part of the day at the expense of daily duty as well as spiritual duty, then one needs to step aside and re-evaluate priorities and possible addictions.  Christian Counselors, pastors, and clergy can help individuals better time manage and also balance life in regards to social distractions not in moderation.

The peace that comes with time with God can better adjust attitudes and emotions that are soiled by the constant useless idle addiction to the world.  The irritations of the world cannot only make one bitter but they can also distract one from God, while focusing on useless and meaningless trivial issues on social media, or what someone is doing or not doing.  Prayer refocuses and filters out the unnecessary noises.  I think that is another good adjective for noise beyond good, neutral and bad.  The temporal world thrusts many necessary but also many un-necessary noises on individuals that dominate their day and distract them from what is important not only spiritually but also temporarily.   These distractions cause frustrations at the emotional level causing unneeded stress and bitterness for many things that do no even involve a person.  The news, politics, or what someone said on a social media outlet that you will never meet can all cause unneeded anger and frustration that un-necessarily dominates the day and most negatively steals peace for oneself and prayer towards God.  So, it is important to take inventory of time management on fruitless endeavors and meaningless and un-necessary noise that steals peace but also distracts one from God.

Conclusion

Give everything to Christ and not worry. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

We are pilgrims in a fallen world.  We ourselves are broken through Original Sin but through the graces obtained by Christ on the cross and administered by the Holy Spirit, we can walk through this temporal world.  While broken, the world itself is not completed corrupted and through the example of Christ, we can see the importance of merely existing in it and offering everything to God.  It is important however for us while existing to understand the ultimate end which is God.  Through a morning offering, we can spiritualize our daily lives and instead of them becoming distractions allow them to become living prayers.  Yet, we can sometimes be tugged by distractions and noises of the world and must find balance and priority with God.  There are many good or neutral noises that are necessary but when they become first over God then they become big issues.  Of course there are also bad noises that are inherently evil within themselves and we must try as hard as we can to limit these mistakes in life.  Our goal is to live in this world, as Christ did, but to also to focus on the next.  Christ is out ultimate example as both God and Man to filter through the noises of the world, discern them and offer them to God, while existing here but also hoping for there.

AIHCP offers a Christian Counseling Certification for behavioral health or human service professionals or those in ministry who wish to help counsel others to Christ.  The program is online and independent study and helps equip the student with the necessary knowledge and abilities to help individuals find God.  Please review the program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.

 

 

 

 

Additional Resources

“Understanding ‘The Interior Castle’ by St. Teresa of Ávila”. Root Classics.  Access here

“Ignatian Discernment”. Office of Ignatian Spirituality”.  Access here

Blevins, K. (2020). “What Is the Sin of Sloth and Why Is it Worse than Laziness?”. Crosswalk. Access here

Vannoy, C. (2021). “How to Stay Spiritually Focused in a Distracted World”. Life Way Voices.  Access here

 

Challenging and Confronting in Grief Counseling and Mental Health Counseling Video

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This video discusses confronting and challenging clients to transform and find change.  Counselors many times have to help push clients see the truth when the client’s own view is distorted.  This involves careful and empathetic ways of challenging and confronting.  Empathetic confrontation is a key concept within this video.  Sometimes to help transformation, clients need have their view and story challenged or emotions confronted.

Please also review AIHCP’s mental health certifications, including Grief Counseling.  The certification programs are online and independent study with mentorship as needed.  The programs are designed for pastoral as well as clinical counselors in behavioral health, human service and ministry.  Please review and see if the programs meet your academic and professional goals

Responding Skills in Counseling Video

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Good response skills are critical to help clients receive feed back. Good responses can help the client move forward in the conversation, hear his/her own words, supply additional insight and help give direction.  Responding skills are essential micro skills in counseling and Grief Counselors should be able to utilize good responding skills to help clients better find meaning and emotional validation.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.

In addition to Grief Counseling, AIHCP offers a variety of other mental and behavioral health certifications for human service and health care professionals.  The programs include Christian Counseling, Spiritual Counseling, Stress Management, Anger Management, Crisis Intervention and Life Coaching.  These programs are aimed to help others in existing counseling fields.  Be aware to differentiate one’s role as a counselor when only pastoral versus one who is licensed.  This is key when applying these certifications to your various levels of academic and professional levels.

Counseling and Attending the Client Video

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Counselors study psychology, various therapies and devote themselves to understanding the science of the mind and behavior, but if the counselor is unable to communicate and attend the client properly, then the knowledge is useless.  Counseling hence is also an art.  Counselors must possess interpersonal skills that allow them to help their clients.  Various micro skills help the counselor attend the client.  Basic fundamentals of attending include empathetic listening, observation skills, and appropriate responses.  This forms the foundation of the counselor and client relationship and allows therapy to flourish.

Please also review AIHCP’s numerous behavioral health and healthcare certifications in Grief Counseling, Crisis Counseling, Christian Counseling, Spiritual Counseling, Anger Management, Life Coaching and Stress Management.  The programs are online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification.

Complications in Grief Trajectory Video Blog

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Grief while natural can go many different directions and become in some cases pathological.  There are many unique singularities that can make one loss different than another and transverse normal and healthy trajectories into abnormal and pathological trajectories.  Grief Counselors can play a key role in guiding clients and helping identify possible clues that can lead to complications in grief. While pastoral counselors who are grief certified can help those along normal trajectories, only licensed and clinical counselors can help those with complications.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in grief counseling.  AIHCP certifies both clinical as well as pastoral professionals within the Human Service professions. as well as others within the healthcare fields.

 

Gestalt and Grief Therapy

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Licensed counselors, Human Service professionals, and other specialized behavioral health therapists can help the bereaved through advanced therapies.  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT is one such example, but there are other humanistic approaches that are also patient centered in design.  Gestalt Therapy is one such humanistic approach that avoids psycho-analysis and looks to the present state of the person.  It looks for the fullness and wholeness of the entirety of the person and issue instead of reviewing merely smaller parts.  Designed by Fritz Perls. his wife, Laura Perls and John Goodman in the early 1940s, this approach helps individuals face and cope with emotion in the present moment (Good Therapy, 2018, p.1).

In regards to the bereaved, Gestalt can be an excellent way to help the grieving come more into contact with the emotions they are feeling in the present moment.  It can help the depressed focus on the emotions of the now moment and help them find resolution and self-awareness about these feelings.  This can usher forward a inner healing for some and help one find resolution with the present moment.  The important theme of Gestalt Therapy is that it focuses on the now and how one is feeling in the moment not how one felt in the past or the issues of the past.

Gestalt Therapy 

Gestalt focuses on the current emotional state of the client and emphasizes discussion of those emotions

Gestalt Therapy focuses on the now.  This is one of its defining qualities.  The counselor or therapist will help the client focus on what the client is experiencing in the moment and how to address those emotions in the now moment.  This now moment involves a mind and body connection and an awareness within the body of these feelings (Lindsey, 2022).  A strong counselor-client connection is important for the client to feel comfortable enough to identify these emotions and discuss them.  Furthermore, the Gestalt has a strong phenomenological emphasis on experiencing the process of emotion itself and exploring and evaluating it within the session.  This brings one closer to true feeling.  Within Gestalt, one is not so much looking for change, but acceptance and understanding of self to better cope and push forward in a productive and non-maladaptive way.

Fritz Perls wished for clients to find more self-awareness of oneself.  He hoped one to become more attune with one’s feelings and to better cope with them by identifying and feeling them (Guy-Evans, 2022).  Gestalt pushes for the here and now of the moment. It emphasizes that the past cannot change, but the present exists now and can produce transformation.  Hence, even past emotions are encouraged to be expressed in the present moment (Guy-Evans, 2023).   By understanding the emotion now, one can conclude the unfinished business of the past.

Gestalt Techniques

Gestalt Therapists will utilize a variety of techniques to help the client experience present emotion.  Many counselors encourage clients to utilize “I” statements.  When discussing an emotion such as anger, instead of stating “they made me angry”, the counselor encourages the client to say “I feel angry when”.  This again emphasizes the importance of individual emotion within the moment (Langmaid, 2024).

In addition to this, Gestalt therapists will identify various bodily manifestations correlated with emotion.  A person may clench a fist, look downward, raise one’s voice, tap their foot against the ground, twitch, or frown.  When these physical manifestations appear, the counselor will help the client identify these manifestations with the emotion felt.  Counselors should encourage the client to exaggerate these manifestations during the session.  This process in Gestalt is referred to as exaggeration (Good Therapy, 2018, p. 1). This will help clients become more aware of their emotions and how to better regulate them in the future.

The empty chair is perhaps the most famous Gestalt technique. It involves an empty chair where the client is able to speak to the person who is the source of the client’s frustration, abuse, or source of emotion.  It could represent an abuser, ex spouse, deceased family member, or even be a conversation between the self (Guy-Evans, 2023).  This permits the client to express present emotion but also allows the client to better understand that the power to heal does not depend upon another person but the power is within oneself.

Empathetic confrontation is sometimes a technique employed by therapists as well within Gestalt.  This was more widely common in its earlier phases, but in recent times is not as employed.  The purpose was to confront the false emotion or shield and help the true emotion to emerge.

Goals and Benefits of Gestalt Therapy

The primary goal of Gestalt is to help clients become more self aware of present emotion and how that emotion is affecting one’s life. It helps to push one to become more self aware and regulating of emotion and to find resolution by accepting the emotional reality that exists.  This promotes responsibility on the part of the client to accept certain emotions and work through them.

Guy Evans lists these benefits from Gestalt

  • Improved sense of self-control

  • Increased awareness of needs

  • Improved ability to monitor and regulate emotions

  • Improved communication skills

  • Increased tolerance for negative emotions

  • Improved mindfulness

  • Increased emotional understanding

  • Improved ability to view things from another perspective

  • Increased self-esteem

  • Increased decision-making skills

  • Increased interpersonal skills

  • Increased empathy for others

(Guy-Evans, O. (2023). “Gestalt Therapy: Definition, Types, Techniques, And Efficacy”.  Access here

Conclusion

Gestalt is another tool for the counselor.  It does not necessarily work for everyone.  It may need to be utilized with other therapies.  In some cases, clients who wish for more structure, or wish to focus on the past, may find it unhelpful.  While others who are still too traumatized by emotion, may find it disturbing.  It can definitely bring up strong emotions, so it should only be utilized in a secure setting with a strong client/counselor relationship.  Obviously, those who are only pastoral or only certified in grief counseling but lack a professional and clinical license in counseling should not utilize this therapy.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and if it matches your academic and professional goals

For many though, it can help individuals find peace with the present moment and express emotion in a healthy and safe way.  It can help a person transform and move beyond past negative emotions and find new resolutions in life to move beyond the pain.  In grief, this is especially true.  It can provide for the bereaved an outlet to express current emotion and also sort through feelings and emotions with the deceased.

Please also review the American Academy of Grief Counseling’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a grief counselor.

 

 

 

 

Additional Resources

“Gestalt Therapy”. (2018). Good Therapy.  Access here

Langmaid, S. (2024). “How Does Gestalt Therapy Work?” WebMD. Access here

Guy-Evans, O. (2023). “Gestalt Therapy: Definition, Types, Techniques, And Efficacy”. Simple Psychology.  Access here

Lindsay, C. (2022). “All About Gestalt Therapy”. PsychCentral.  Access here

 

 

Grief Counseling Video on Dual Process Model

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When dealing with grief, individuals deal with the immediate emotions of the loss itself but at the same time, the pain of dealing with secondary losses.  Unfortunately, life does not stop while grieving, so the dual process model addresses how a person faces both fronts of loss while grieving.  One must face how one is dealing with one’s own pain as well as dealing with life itself.

Grief Counselors many times utilize the Dual Process Model to help others face grief and loss

The video below deals with the Dual Process Model and how grief counselors utilize it. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Christian Counseling Approaches Video

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Christian Counseling is a diverse approach despite many thinking it is only one approach.  Many times, Biblical Counseling and Christian Counseling is interchanged but the reality is Christian Counseling, like the Christianity itself, has many different approaches and levels.  Biblical Counseling is a type of Christian Counseling that is far more fundamentalist in approach while many of its concepts are shared, other aspects of it are not.  For instance, those who adhere to a strict Biblical view of Christian Counseling, will stray from secular psychology and utilize Scripture as a sole source for counseling and healing.  Others may separate faith more from science while still adhering to a Christian notion.  In the middle ground, an integrative approach applies Scripture as a starting point but applies secular psychology and treatments to help others.  Ultimately, it depends on one’s training and education as either clinical or pastoral, or the comfort level of the individual and how much prayer the person wants in counseling.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals looking to utilize Christian Counseling in their practice or ministry.

 

Christian Counseling: Understanding Isaiah 9:6-7: Jesus as Our Wonderful Counselor

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Isaiah 9:6-7 stands as a monumental piece of scripture, revered by many for its profound anticipation of the coming of Jesus Christ and his Earthly ministry. This passage not only foretells the birth of Jesus but also intricately describes His nature and the role He is to play in the lives of believers. It refers to Jesus as a “Wonderful Counselor,” among other titles, highlighting an aspect of Christ’s ministry that offers deep insights into the fusion of divine guidance with the principles of counseling. Exploring this passage opens the door to understanding how biblical teachings can enrich the fabric of contemporary Christian counseling, grounding spiritual growth firmly in the bedrock of God’s love. Christ is the paradigm for all counselors.  His virtue and ability to listen and advise with love and compassion all point to Him as the most wonderful Counselor

Jesus Christ it the most wonderful and ultimate counselor. Please review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

This article aims to delve into how the prophecy of Isaiah 9:6-7 finds its fulfillment in Jesus, examining His qualities as a Wonderful Counselor and what it means for individuals seeking guidance and solace in their lives. It will explore the role of Jesus in counseling, stressing the importance of listening to His teachings and applying biblical principles in the counseling process. Additionally, this exploration will cover aspects of professional Christian counseling, including what Christian counselors do, the importance of Christ-first counseling, and how individuals can overcome personal barriers to spiritual growth. By drawing upon these themes, readers will gain a comprehensive understanding of how integrating Jesus’ teachings can enhance the effectiveness of counseling for Christians, fostering a deeper connection with God’s love.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification. The program is online and independent study and open to pastors and others in spiritual care who look to emulate Christ and become certified in the field of Christian Counseling.

The Prophecy and Its Fulfillment in Jesus

Isaiah 9:6 stands as a cornerstone of biblical prophecy, heralding the arrival of a divine figure who would bear the weight of governance and embody the essence of God’s eternal plan. This prophecy, deeply embedded in the fabric of Christian theology, foretells the birth of Jesus Christ, a pivotal event that marks both a fulfillment and a beginning in the biblical narrative.

Isaiah 9:6 Explained

The verse explicitly states, “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” This passage is not merely a prediction; it encapsulates the essence of Jesus’ mission and the characteristics he embodies. The child, referred to here, is distinctively marked by titles that transcend human leadership, pointing directly to the divine.

Historically, this prophecy served as a beacon of hope for the people of Judah, promising deliverance from darkness and oppression through a leader whose reign would be characterized by peace and righteousness. The mention of a child who would shoulder the government underscores a dual expectation of innocence and sovereign authority, culminating in the leadership of Christ.

The Titles of the Messiah

The titles ascribed to Jesus in Isaiah 9:6 are profound, each reflecting a unique aspect of his divine and human roles. “Wonderful Counselor” indicates wisdom beyond human capabilities, highlighting Jesus’ role in guiding his followers through the complexities of life with divine wisdom. “Mighty God” emphasizes his divine nature, affirming the Christian belief in Jesus’ divinity and his integral role in the Godhead.

“Everlasting Father” suggests a timeless, enduring leadership, portraying Jesus as a paternal figure whose guidance and protection are perpetual. Lastly, “Prince of Peace” encapsulates his mission to reconcile humanity with God, bringing an eternal peace that surpasses political and temporal solutions.

The fulfillment of this prophecy is seen in the New Testament, where Jesus’ birth, life, ministry, and resurrection align with the characteristics and roles foretold by Isaiah. His governance is not of political strife but of the hearts and spirits of his followers, establishing a kingdom based on justice, peace, and righteousness.

The prophecy of Isaiah 9:6-7, therefore, is not just a foretelling of events but a declaration of the enduring hope and eternal governance brought forth by Jesus Christ. It serves as a foundational text that underscores the messianic expectations and the profound nature of Jesus’ mission as understood in Christian theology. Through these titles, the prophecy articulates a multifaceted understanding of Jesus’ identity and role, which continues to resonate with believers worldwide.

Jesus’ Qualities as a Wonderful Counselor

Jesus possesses all the qualities of the perfect counselor. Christian Counselors should emulate His approach

Exploring ‘Wonderful’

The term “Wonderful Counselor,” as used in Isaiah 9:6, carries a depth that transcends common usage today. The original Hebrew connotation of “wonderful” implies something miraculous, incomprehensible, and awe-inspiring. This description of the Messiah, Jesus Christ, suggests an extraordinary capacity that goes beyond human understanding, marking Him as a counselor whose wisdom and guidance are divine in nature. His counsel is not merely helpful but filled with wonder, leading individuals to marvel at the profound insights and solutions He provides.

Jesus’ Exemplary Deeds

Jesus Christ demonstrated His wonderful nature through various actions during His time on Earth. From His miraculous birth to His resurrection, each event in His life underscored His divine capabilities. He healed the sick, such as restoring sight to the blind and curing diseases with a touch or a word, showcasing His authority over physical ailments. His teachings, filled with deep wisdom, astonished many, including those who were well-versed in religious law.

Furthermore, Jesus led a life without sin, which is in itself a testament to His perfect nature (Hebrews 4:15). His resurrection, a pivotal moment, not only fulfilled prophecies but also displayed His power over death, affirming His role as the Mighty God and Everlasting Father. These acts of healing, teaching, and perfect moral standing highlight His qualifications as a “Wonderful Counselor,” capable of providing unmatched guidance and insight.

Through His interactions, Jesus also addressed the deeper needs of individuals, diagnosing and meeting their spiritual and emotional requirements. For instance, His encounter with the Rich Young Ruler revealed Jesus’ ability to discern the heart’s intentions and provide counsel that, although challenging, aimed at true spiritual growth and freedom from material bondage.

In summary, the qualities of Jesus as a Wonderful Counselor are vividly demonstrated through His divine attributes and His earthly ministry. His actions and teachings not only fulfill the prophecy of Isaiah but continue to offer profound guidance and wisdom to all who seek His counsel today.

Jesus in the Role of Counselor

Historical Context

Jesus Christ, often heralded as the ultimate model for counselors, exemplifies the integration of divine wisdom and human interaction. His role as a counselor was not confined to the mere dispensation of advice but was deeply embedded in His interactions with individuals across various contexts. Historically, Jesus acted as a counselor in the broadest sense—He understood the human psyche intricately, as evidenced by His dual nature as both divine creator and incarnate Son of God.

Throughout His earthly ministry, Jesus engaged with individuals from all walks of life, addressing their spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. His approach was not limited to formal settings but was carried out wherever He went—be it streets, weddings, or wellsides. This omnipresent availability highlights His commitment to meeting people where they were, emphasizing His role as a shepherd and overseer of souls.

Biblical Illustrations

The Gospels are replete with instances that showcase Jesus’ profound ability to counsel and transform lives. One of the most poignant illustrations is His interaction with the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:1-42). Here, Jesus, though physically weary, prioritizes the woman’s deeper spiritual thirst, offering her “living water” that symbolizes eternal life and fulfillment beyond earthly means. This encounter not only addresses her immediate social and personal issues but also extends an invitation to a transformed life.

Another significant example is found in Jesus’ response to the adulterous woman brought before Him (John 8:3-11). Instead of condemning her, Jesus uses the situation to teach profound lessons on sin, grace, and redemption, effectively counseling both the accused and her accusers. His approach was not to inflict shame but to restore dignity and encourage a path free from sin.

Jesus’ ability to delve into the depths of human experience and offer transformative guidance is further exemplified in His interactions with His disciples, particularly in restoring Peter after his denial (John 21:15-23). Here, Jesus not only reassures Peter of his worth but also reorients him towards his role in the early Church, demonstrating how effective counseling can lead to personal restoration and fulfillment of one’s calling.

These biblical accounts underscore Jesus’ mastery in counseling, marked by a deep understanding of human nature, a compassionate approach to individual struggles, and a focus on holistic transformation. His legacy as the Wonderful Counselor continues to influence Christian counseling today, encouraging a reliance on His wisdom and the Holy Spirit’s guidance in all manners of personal and communal challenges. Through these illustrations, believers are reminded of the profound impact that wise, empathetic, and spiritually grounded counseling can have on individuals and communities alike.

Listening to Jesus as a Counselor

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Empathy and Wisdom

Jesus’ approach to counseling is deeply rooted in empathy, a non-negotiable virtue that enables a counselor to connect emotionally and understand the sufferings of others. His interactions throughout the Gospels demonstrate a profound ability to empathize with people from all walks of life, regardless of their circumstances. For instance, when observing the crowds, Jesus not only recognized their physical ailments but also understood the spiritual and emotional burdens they carried. This depth of understanding was paired with an unparalleled wisdom that allowed Him to address not just the symptoms but the root causes of their struggles.

 

Empathy in counseling according to Jesus involves a genuine connection with individuals, acknowledging their suffering without judgment. This empathetic connection is crucial as it fosters a safe environment where individuals feel understood and valued, paving the way for effective counseling. Jesus exemplified this through His actions, whether it was through healing the sick or offering words of comfort and guidance. His ability to be present in the moments of people’s deepest needs, offering both understanding and actionable wisdom, sets a foundational example for all who provide counsel.

Biblical Encouragement

The role of encouragement in counseling cannot be overstated, and Jesus mastered this through His words and deeds. Biblical encouragement, as demonstrated by Jesus, involves more than mere compliments; it is about directing individuals towards spiritual truths that uplift and edify. This form of encouragement is evident when Jesus interacted with those around Him, constantly pointing them back to the truths of God’s word and His promises. For example, His discussions often included references to Scripture that provided reassurance and hope, such as His reminders of God’s omnipresence and the ultimate victory over sin and death.

Encouragement from a biblical perspective involves recognizing and affirming God’s work in an individual’s life, which can significantly impact their spiritual and emotional well-being. It helps individuals see beyond their current struggles to the greater purpose and plan God has for them. Jesus’ method of encouragement was always filled with grace and truth, providing a balance that not only comforted but also motivated individuals towards spiritual growth and reliance on God.

In counseling, adopting Jesus’ approach means integrating empathy with the wisdom of Scripture, ensuring that encouragement is not just uplifting but also transformative. This dual application of empathy and biblical encouragement helps counselors address the needs of the soul with sensitivity and depth, following the exemplary model set by Jesus, our Wonderful Counselor.

Elements of Effective Counseling

Effective counseling in a Christian context involves a balanced integration of four key elements: commendation, comfort, conviction, and challenge. Each component plays a crucial role in fostering spiritual growth and personal transformation, aligning closely with biblical principles.

Commendation and Comfort

Commendation in counseling involves identifying and affirming thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that align with scriptural wisdom. This process is vital for building confidence and instilling hope within counselees. It requires a deep understanding of the individual’s experiences and a diligent search for Christlike behaviors, even amidst significant personal struggles. For example, in Revelation 2:2-3, Jesus commends the church of Ephesus for their deeds and perseverance, acknowledging their strengths before addressing areas of improvement. This approach not only motivates but also opens the heart to receive further guidance.

Comfort, the second element, entails offering words that bring peace, relief, and consolation to those in distress. It involves a profound understanding of the individual’s pain and applying God’s promises specifically to their situation. However, true Christian comfort goes beyond mere sympathy; it combines empathy with actionable steps, preventing the comfort zone from becoming a stagnation point. It challenges the individual to move beyond their current state towards greater spiritual maturity, balancing sympathy with the necessity for growth.

Conviction and Challenge

Conviction involves making individuals aware of how their thoughts, feelings, or actions may have strayed from God’s laws. This component is crucial as it confronts the individual with the reality of their sin or shortcomings in a loving yet truthful manner. It’s about bringing to light the areas that need correction, which is essential for genuine repentance and spiritual growth.

The final element, challenge, focuses on helping individuals devise and implement a plan that aligns their thoughts, feelings, and actions with biblical teachings. This proactive step is vital for ensuring that the counseling process leads to tangible changes in behavior and mindset. It encourages the counselee to apply scriptural wisdom actively in everyday life, thereby promoting continuous spiritual and personal development.

By weaving together these four elements—commendation, comfort, conviction, and challenge—Christian counseling can effectively guide individuals towards a deeper relationship with Christ, marked by a transformative and renewing journey of faith. This holistic approach not only addresses immediate issues but also fosters long-term spiritual resilience and growth.

Seeking Professional Christian Counseling

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While the Bible does not explicitly address the profession of counseling, it strongly advocates for the wisdom and safety found in seeking counsel. Proverbs 11:14 and 12:15, among other verses, endorse the value of guidance, portraying it as a wise and necessary pursuit for managing life’s challenges. This biblical endorsement forms the foundation for the practice of professional Christian counseling, which integrates scriptural wisdom with therapeutic expertise.

AIHCP offers a Christian Counseling Certification for clergy, pastors, and others in pastoral care.  Licensed counselors and other Human Service professionals, as well as healthcare professionals also qualify for the program.

Biblical Support

Scripture does not directly mention professional counseling but offers broad support for the concept through its endorsement of seeking wisdom and multiple counselors. For instance, Proverbs 19:20 and 13:10 suggest that wise counsel is crucial for personal well-being and safety. These passages collectively imply that while the advisors in biblical times were not labeled as professional counselors, the act of seeking and heeding wise counsel aligns with biblical principles.

Attributes of Professional Counselors

Professional Christian counselors are distinguished by their specialized training and commitment to integrating biblical truth with counseling practices. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, the term “professional” implies a level of specialized education and training which professional Christian counselors embody. They often hold credentials such as Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) or Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), highlighting their expertise in both spiritual and psychological disciplines.

These counselors are adept at navigating the complexities of human behavior and mental health through a biblical lens. They utilize their training to identify root causes of personal struggles and employ scriptural principles to guide their therapeutic approaches. This dual expertise enables them to offer not only psychological relief but also spiritual growth and healing.

Professional Christian counselors also respect the distinction between different counseling methodologies. While some adhere to Nouthetic counseling, which focuses on sin as the root of problems and uses scripture as the sole corrective, others recognize the limitations of this approach. They understand that some issues require more comprehensive psychotherapeutic interventions, alongside spiritual guidance.

In practice, these counselors do not impose their worldview but facilitate the discovery of truth in a caring manner. They are trained to use biblical wisdom and professional therapeutic techniques to help individuals navigate their challenges while fostering spiritual growth.

By integrating professional expertise with a deep understanding of biblical principles, Christian counselors provide a unique and vital service that supports both mental health and spiritual well-being. Their work not only addresses immediate psychological needs but also encourages a deeper relationship with Christ, aligning with the overall goal of Christian counseling to bring about holistic healing and spiritual maturity.

Overcoming Personal Barriers

Common Obstacles

One of the significant challenges many individuals face in their spiritual journey is the internalization of an idealized ‘quiet time’ with God. This often envisioned scenario involves uninterrupted, serene moments of prayer and Bible study, typically imagined in the early morning hours with no distractions. However, for most, such a perfect setting is unattainable, leading to discouraged attempts at spiritual practices. It is crucial to recognize that spiritual growth is not confined to these idealized moments. Instead, individuals can engage with God in various everyday situations such as during daily commutes, in work meetings, or even while performing household chores.

Moreover, the pursuit of spiritual growth is often hindered by the distractions of daily life. The allure of materialism, the pressures of societal expectations, and the pursuit of pleasure can clutter the soul, making it difficult to maintain a close and intimate relationship with God. Additionally, sin, whether overt or subtle, creates barriers between individuals and God, affecting their prayer life and overall spiritual health. The recognition and acknowledgment of these sins, followed by genuine repentance, are essential steps toward spiritual renewal.

Biblical Encouragement

To navigate these barriers, the Bible offers profound encouragement and practical advice. Scripture teaches that spiritual growth requires intentional effort and is a lifelong process. Individuals are encouraged to “cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7), which underscores the importance of trusting God with all aspects of life, including the challenges and obstacles that hinder spiritual growth.

Furthermore, relationships play a crucial role in spiritual development. Associating with negative or judgmental individuals can severely limit one’s spiritual progress. Instead, fostering relationships with those who embody Christlike attributes can enhance one’s faith and encourage spiritual maturity. The Bible also warns against the dangers of legalism and fear, which can stifle spiritual freedom and growth.

In overcoming personal barriers to spiritual growth, it is helpful to create environments that encourage engagement with God. Keeping spiritual resources accessible, such as Bible apps or scripture cards around living and workspaces, can remind individuals to turn their thoughts to God throughout the day. This practice helps in maintaining a constant connection with God, enabling individuals to overcome the distractions and challenges that life presents.

By addressing these common obstacles with biblical wisdom and practical steps, individuals can foster a deeper relationship with God, overcoming the barriers that hinder their spiritual growth and embracing a life of faith and fulfillment.

Applying Jesus’ Teachings in Counseling

Practical Applications

In applying Jesus’ teachings to counseling, it is essential to recognize the foundational role that biblical principles play in promoting mental and emotional well-being. According to insights derived from scripture, God provides a blueprint for mental health that, while not exhaustive, guides individuals toward maintaining a positive mental direction. For instance, Philippians 4:6-7 offers a clear directive to not be anxious but instead, through prayer and thanksgiving, present requests to God, allowing His peace to guard one’s heart and mind. This approach aligns with the counseling practice of encouraging clients to focus on the present moment and manage anxieties by trusting in divine providence.

Furthermore, Proverbs 14:16 highlights the importance of wisdom and self-control—qualities that Jesus epitomized and that are crucial in counseling settings. Counselors can guide clients to adopt these traits, fostering decision-making that shuns recklessness and embraces thoughtful consideration of consequences. This biblical insight supports the therapeutic goal of helping clients develop healthier emotional responses and behavioral patterns.

Living by His Wisdom

Living by the wisdom of Jesus involves integrating His teachings into daily counseling practices. This includes fostering an environment where clients feel safe and valued, an approach deeply rooted in the empathetic and compassionate manner Jesus demonstrated throughout His ministry. For example, the parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37) teaches the value of mercy and active assistance, principles that can be directly applied in counseling to encourage individuals to support one another in healing and recovery.

Additionally, counselors can draw on the biblical principle of rest as exemplified by Jesus’ own practices. Mark 6:31 emphasizes the necessity of withdrawing from the busyness of life to restore one’s spirit, a practice that can be crucial for both counselors and clients. By advocating for balanced work-rest cycles, as prescribed in the Mosaic Law and exemplified by Jesus, counselors can help clients achieve better mental health and avoid burnout.

Incorporating these teachings requires a counselor to not only share knowledge but also actively listen, empathize, and respond with grace. This mirrors Jesus’ interaction with individuals such as the Samaritan woman at the well, where He provided insights into her life in a gentle yet transformative manner, highlighting the deep connection between spiritual well-being and emotional health.

By applying these biblical principles, counselors can more effectively guide their clients towards healing, demonstrating that the teachings of Jesus are not only spiritually enriching but also fundamentally supportive of mental and emotional health.

Conclusion

Throughout this exploration of Isaiah 9:6-7 and the multifaceted identity of Jesus as the Wonderful Counselor, we have uncovered the profound impacts His teachings hold for both personal growth and the practice of Christian counseling. By examining His life and ministry, we recognize the unmatched depth of wisdom, empathy, and guidance He offers to all seeking solace and direction. These insights not only fulfill ancient prophecies but also serve as the bedrock for integrating faith and counseling, emphasizing the transformative power of applying Jesus’ teachings in our lives and in the support of others.

Jesus Christ is the Most Wonderful Counselor. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Program

The journey through scripture and the application of Jesus’ roles in counseling showcases the enduring relevance of His counsel in today’s world. It prompts a deeper engagement with the divine wisdom available to us, encouraging both individuals and counselors to lean into the biblical principles that guide and enrich the human experience. As we continue to navigate life’s complexities, let us draw upon the legacy of Jesus as our Wonderful Counselor, ever-anchored in the hope and healing that His eternal guidance provides, steering us toward a future marked by spiritual growth and emotional well-being.

Jesus is the ultimate Counselor and all Christian Counselors should strive to emulate His approach.  Christ is always empathetic but always true and honest.  He looks to cause no harm but heal.  Likewise, Christian Counselors need to also push forward with the same spirit.  AIHCP offers a Christian Counseling Certification for both licensed and pastoral counselors who wish to introduce Christian principles and values into counseling and psychological treatments.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.

      FAQs

  1. What is the significance of Jesus being called “Wonderful Counselor” in Isaiah 9? Jesus is referred to as the “Wonderful Counselor” in Isaiah 9, signifying that He is a knowledgeable leader for His people. This title emphasizes that Christ embodies the perfect counsel, guiding Christians in their faith and life.
  2. How does the Holy Spirit serve as our counselor? The Holy Spirit plays a crucial role in guiding believers into all truth, revealing and applying the teachings of Jesus Christ to their lives. This divine guidance ensures that believers can fully embrace and live out the teachings of their Wonderful Counselor, Jesus.
  3. What does Isaiah 9:7 describe? Isaiah 9:7 highlights the eternal nature of Christ’s kingdom. It states that His governance and peace will never end, He will rule on David’s throne with justice and righteousness forever. This prophecy is fulfilled through the zeal of the LORD Almighty.
  4. What does the Bible convey about God’s role as a counselor? The Bible offers multiple verses that illustrate God as a counselor. For instance, Psalm 16:7 and Psalm 119:24 depict how God provides counsel and wisdom through His words and testimonies, guiding believers towards righteousness and understanding.
Additional Resources
Barrier, R. “Why Does the Bible Call Jesus a Wonderful Counselor?”. CrossWalk. Access here
Compelling Truth. “How is Jesus Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6)?”. Compelling Truth.  Access here
Gaius, G. “Christ Our Model: The Model Counselor”. Truth and Tidings.  Access here
Gaultiere, B. “Jesus’ Ministry As the Wonderful Counselor”. Soul Shepherding. Access here

Rogerian Approach in Counseling with Depression

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

Carl Rogers, the famous psychologist and counselor, in the 1950s presented a far different approach than past Freudian psychological views that emphasized psycho-analysis and subconscious treatments.  Like others, he wanted to approach counseling and the patient differently.   He emphasized a more Humanistic approach that involved patient or client-centered therapies that addressed the feelings that existed now within the client.   In an earlier blog, AIHCP discusses in a broader stroke the Humanistic approach to grief and counseling, but in this short blog, we will instead focus more solely on Rogerian concepts in helping individuals express feelings, in particular feelings associated with depression.  Please also review AIHCP’s numerous counseling certifications for Human Service professionals.

Rogerian Theory

While Cognitive Behavioral Therapy looks to restructure and reframe illogical and negative emotional schemas with healthy and positive thoughts to alter behavior, Rogerian approaches look to address the the feelings of the client him/herself with unconditional love, genuineness, empathy and support.  It looks to transform and strengthen the person.  The term “client” is utilized instead of “patient” to remove stigmas that the person is sick or ill but merely needs love and guidance for life altering change.   The counselor guides the client but the client ultimately has more control in the sessions and is able to express and discuss his/her feelings within a far less structured environment.  Narrative is key.  The counselor does not look to confront, but to listen.

Rogerian approaches in counseling are client centered and focuses in an empathetic and non-judgmental way the feelings of the client. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

Roger’s goal was to help the client reach self-actualization of what the person can become through a process of helping the client see him/herself as he/she is, wishes to be and how to become.  Within this, a client learns to discover one’s self worth.  The counselor also helps the client distinguish between self image and real image and how to reach the ideal image.  When dealing with many individuals suffering with depression, self worth is something that is greatly damaged.  Many depressed individuals feel they have very little worth or value.  Whether this is due to something that occurred or merely depression without correlation to direct loss, the person feels a blanket of darkness over him/herself.  Allowing the client to express these emotions, both positive and negative are key in Rogerian approaches.  The counselor listens to these concerns with congruence and empathy, allowing the client to express and discuss the sadness and low self worth.  The counselor helps the client direct the session into accurately describing how he/she feels  and also views oneself.   Many who are depressed also possess a very low self image. In many cases, this self image is not properly balanced with reality.  Various distortions will emerge that are tied to the person’s feelings. It is not necessarily the role of the Rogerian approach to reframe these immediate concerns as in CBT, but to help the client understand the feelings and empathetically listen and restate these feelings to help the client re-discover where this false self image and true image lie.   The counselor’s ultimate goal is help the client find a genuine understanding of his/her real self despite feelings.  The counselor then looks to help the client find the ideal self.  In this way, one’s self image and ideal self can become congruent and tied together.

 

Once congruence is established where the depressed individual is able to find self image and ideal image as a true reality, Rogers speaks of the possibility of self actualization where the person is able to thrive and exist again in an emotionally healthy way.    Rogers listed five particular qualities of a fully functioning person who has tied self image and ideal together via self actualization.  First, he pointed out that the person is open again to new experiences.  Many depressed individuals are afraid to move on or seek out new things.  A healthy functioning individual is able to seek out and find new meanings through new experiences.  Second, Rogers spoke of existential living, where the person lives in the present and is able to experience the present in new fresh ways without prejudice or fear of the past.  Many times, depressed individuals cannot untie themselves from the past and are unable to experience the present.  Third, Rogers remarked that those who are functioning at a healthy level trust their feelings.  Individuals are able to make decisions with certitude without doubt and not second guess oneself.  Depressed individuals usually labor with decisions and fear what others may think or if they may fail.  Fourth, Rogers pointed out that individuals should be creative without fear and able to move forward and share thoughts and ideas without fear of fallout from others.  Depressed individuals lack the confidence to create or stand out.  Finally, Rogers illustrated the idea of a fulfilled life where an individual is able to live life to its fullest. The person is able to find satisfaction in decisions, goals and challenges.  Depressed individuals are unable to find joy in little things, much less have the energy for goals or the ability to face challenges.

These five qualities of a fully functional person are critical to overcoming the depressed state.  When individuals are able to express these points within life, then they are again functional and free of the dark grip of depression.  We will now in the next half of the blog look at how to implement Rogerian concepts and put them into practice.  This will involve reviewing and understanding the basics of client-centered attending and responding skills.

Rogerian Practice

It is once congruence occurs and emotions are faced that the client is able to reach this type of fulfillment.  The long process of helping the client discover this congruence and self-actualization is the key .  While those who study the Rogerian approach understand the theory, it is the practical approach from person to person that is key.

Attending and Responding Skills are imperative in Rogerian Counseling. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

The counselor within the Rogerian approach utilizes a variety of micro counseling skills discussed in previous AIHCP blogs.  Within Rogerian practice, basic attending skills are critical in helping the client discuss emotions and properly relate those emotions back.  The counselor attends the client with empathetic listening.  Rogers believed that genuine and empathetic listening was the first key in learning the story of the client.  This involved active and intense focus on the client.  The counselor should not only listen but show intense interest via eye contact, gestures, and physical positioning.  In regards to response, the counselor looks not to judge the feelings of the client, but instead to restate or paraphrase them to the client.  This helps the client not only understand that the counselor is listening but also to hear these feelings out loud. Sometimes, speaking about negative feelings also needs hearing them back to begin to decipher the false reality of those negative feelings.  In essence, the empathetic approach of active listening and responding creates not only trust between client and counselor but also creates a safe zone where the client is able to fully express inner feelings.  The counselor helps create this environment through multiple sessions and active and empathetic support for the client.  The client feels he/she exists in a safe zone where no judgement or confrontation exists.  It allows the client to take center stage and control and with the help of the counselor, unravel the negative emotions and find the real and possible ideal self that depression has hidden from the client.  Rogers refers to this type of empathetic environment as one of unconditional love.  It is place where feelings are not questioned or given positive or negative value, but only spoken about and understood within the context of the session.  The counselor helps foster this environment because the counselor is not judging or giving qualitive value to the feelings.  Instead the counselor is allowing the client to direct and discover value to the feelings.

Hence, how the counselor presents him/herself, listens, responds and creates a safe environment is critical to the success of Rogerian approaches.  While the practice itself takes more time, seems unstructured, and is more about the now of emotion, it does have success with many patients facing depression and negative emotions.  Obviously, sometimes supplemental approaches may be need introduced, as well as pharmaceutical remedies when issues beyond behavior  exist such as neurological or hormonal, but overall, Rogerian approaches are very common place in counseling.  The humanistic approach is very classical and non evasive for many individuals with already low self esteem issues that feel an abundance of negative emotions.

Those facing loss and depression need an empathetic ear and voice to help them heal.  The emotional release and discussion of issues is a key part of grief healing.  Through these discussions and release of emotions, the client can begin much of the grief work required that goes through the various emotional stages of denial, emotion, anger, and bargaining.  The grief counselor utilizing Rogerian approaches will be able to listen as the person works through his/her grief and also notate any maladaptive emotions such as guilt that may appear.  Through a non judgement zone, the counselor will be able to help the person come to grips with these emotions and help the person self-actualize beyond the loss or depression and find new hope.

Conclusion

Rogers client-centered care in the 1950s revolutionized counseling and forever changed how counselors approached clients. Humanistic approaches are in many ways the classical counseling sessions that individuals imagine where one speaks of feelings and the counselor paraphrases and asks how this makes one feel? It directly and openly deals with emotion without judgement and with complete empathy.  This is a very important aspect to consider when dealing with depressed populations who may not be ready to deal with confrontations in counseling or face fast changes.  Instead, the Rogerian approach gives the client control to discuss feelings and work them out. It slowly helps the client sort out negative feelings and replace them with positive vibes. The key is to help the client move forward in a productive and healthy life style that is congruent and true to self.

The counselor utilizes different micro counseling skills.  The counselor refrains from direct reframing, or empathetic confrontations that may upset the client. Instead the counselor becomes more passive in direction and gently moves the client through good attending and responding skills that create a safe and no judgement zone.  Depressed individuals, especially, need this type of environment to regain their voice and ability to move forward.

Please also review AIHCP’s numerous Human Service related certifications in counseling ranging from just not grief but also from stress to anger and crisis to spiritual counseling

Ultimately, as counseling continues, different techniques may need added to fit particular clients, or maybe even the necessity of medication, but overall, the initial Rogerian approaches will help the client feel safe and help form a strong bond between counselor and client.

If you would like to learn more about grief counseling, then please review the American Academy of Grief Counseling’s certification program in Grief Counseling.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a grief counselor.  AIHCP certified both pastoral counselors as well as clinical counselors.  Bear in mind, certified grief counselors who are not licensed or clinical do face restrictions in what therapies they may utilize as well as treating complicated versions of grief that lead down trajectories that include depression.

AIHCP also offers a broad range of other Human Service counseling certifications that revolve around Anger Management, Crisis Intervention, Stress Management and both Spiritual Counseling and Christian Counseling.

 

 

 

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Miller, K.  (2019). “Carl Rogers’s Actualizing Tendency: Your Ultimate Guide”. Positive Psychology.  Access here