Grief Counseling Human Development Video

As human beings, we reach certain points in social development that are key to a successful life.  From a mere toddler to teenage years and from midlife to elderly days, we need to meet certain goals and points.  Erick Erickson listed numerous points of achievement that need to be completed within the human life span.  When these goals are not met, individuals regress or unable to find satisfaction in life.

Social development that is delayed can lead to future grief issues. Review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

This obviously has alot to do with individuals and their overall happiness or unhappiness in life.  Many grieve a life that has not met one’s aspirations.  This is due many times because individuals did not develop socially.  They look back with sadness or inability to move forward.  They have regrets and remain stagnant in life.  Grief Counselors through an understanding of a person’s life narrative, can better address abstract grief in an individual and help diagnose where the grief is coming from by understanding a person’s life story.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in grief counseling.

 

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The Loss of a Job and Grief

Losing a job is a loss.  It has many elements that lead to grief, sadness, loss of identity, pride and numerous secondary financial implications.   One can lose a sense of hope when one loses the financial security a good job provides and lead one into despair and poor coping.  It is important, as in any loss, to maintain good coping strategies and remain optimistic and confident in one self.  One needs to find the ability, despite the pain, fear and grief, to proceed forward with courage and optimism to find a new job.

Losing a job is emotional. It can be a loss of self, plus the numerous secondary financial, healthcare related, and family care related issues that come with it

 

The article, “Job loss, grief and professional identity” by Mark Carey takes a closer look at the implications surrounding job loss.  He notes the initial shock and anger associated with it but also pushes the reader to find hope and cope in healthy ways to find a new job.  He does not dismiss the pain or secondary issues surrounding job loss, but looks to provide some guidance in better responding to the loss itself.  He states,

“Losing a job can also become an unforeseen positive transformation and I have seen clients over the years pivot successfully without losing a sense of self-identity. Many clients do not buy into the idea that their job is who they are. These clients transition between jobs without falling apart and making huge leaps forward in a way thought impossible before the termination. One door closes and another opens. I have to say that most clients I have worked with actually find better paying and more personally satisfying jobs after being terminated or laid off.”

“Job loss, grief and professional identity”. Carey, M. (2023). Westfair Business Journal. Access here

Commentary

Job loss involves numerous losses.  Albeit many of them do not need to define one or prevent one from reaching even better positions with other employers.  Still, the loss for some can be very overbearing.  One element is sense of self.  Some individuals, who even retire, have the issue of not knowing who they are outside their profession.  A life long cop may have issues retiring or being let go.  Likewise, helping professions and skilled laborers who are defined by these professional talents may feel they no longer matter without those positions or responsibilities.  While a career plays a big role in what we do and love, we cannot equate a job identically to oneself.  Individuals are more than what they do and it is important to understand that.  Also, there are transitions in life, when one position in life transitions into another and while our positions change, we still remain ourselves. They are accidental qualities.  While some positions in life mean more than others, we are still simply us.  It is important during job loss, retirement, or transition, that we are more than what we do, even if what we do matters alot.

Losing a job affects numerous aspects of self and life itself. Please also review AIHCP’S Grief Counseling Program

 

Beyond loss of identity, many individuals also suffer from change itself.  The change of finding a new place to work.  The change of new co-workers.  The change of new work schedules or new training skills.  Others have a difficulty emotionally.  Maybe they feel betrayed, or upset over the termination.  Maybe they feel angry over the job loss.  During the transition, negative emotions may limit their ability to cope and lead to a down time of bad decisions involving drugs, or excessive sleep.  Individuals may let themselves physically and mentally lose focus and neglect their physical and mental health.

Still others may be haunted by the financial and secondary losses of job loss.  The worry of rent, or house payments, or car payments, or basic utilities.  They may worry over the loss of certain life styles, or even the fear of caring for their family and children.  Some children may need healthcare or need funds for school.  These worries become very real very fast when a financial line is suddenly cut.

Coping through Job Loss

While job loss presents so many issues as noted above, individuals can still proceed forward and find new employment.  Skilled workers rarely remain unemployed and unskilled workers can still find supplemental jobs that may not be as good but may fill the gap till a better job comes along.  Individuals need to remain in contact with family and friends and utilize their support system to maintain confidence and self esteem.  They should work on building a resume and preparing for job interviews.  With optimism, energy should be put into a job search.

Maintaining a positive outlook and creating a plan are key coping strategies during job loss

 

In addition, the individual should maintain mental and physical care of oneself.  Self care is key during this period.  Exercise and gym are pivotal to maintaining the schedule one once had.  Bad habits can easily creep into life and derail an individuals hard work ethic.  There are sometimes some good at that can come out of it.  Sometimes, it opens doors to a better job and sometimes it also gives one time, especially if laid off, to find a little bit of rest for a short period of time.  Try to find positives while finding a new job.

For those retiring, it may be good to look maybe to a hobby or finding volunteer work that can fill the void.  Those in human service rarely are able to stop helping people and many who retire eventually doing side projects and volunteer work.  Others should take the time to enjoy family and vacation or at least a new hobby.

Some may not cope well and feel depressed or even enter into depression.  If so, one should seek help from a licensed professional counselor with emphasis in grief counseling to help one through the dark period of time.

Conclusion

Job loss or retirement is a transition or change.  As a change it can cause grief and distress. It is clearly a loss because it takes something away.  It can take away self image, or self value, but it can also take away life style by limiting one’s financial or social status.  While a job is not who one is, it very much plays a big role in what one does and is able to do in life.  It plays a large role in a person’s sense of purpose.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.

 

Additional Resources

“Job Loss and the Stages of Grief: Coping and Recovering”. McLaren, P. (2020). PsychReg.  Access here

“The 5 Stages of Grief After a Loss”. Health Essentials. (2022). Cleveland Clinic.  Access here

“How to Handle Being Laid Off”. Smith, L. (2021). WebMed. Access here

“How to Support Clients With Job Loss Depression & Stress”. Latif, S. (2022). Positive Psychology.  Access here

 

Parenting While Grieving

Parenting is not an easy vocation to start but when extra issues in life pile up, then parenting can become even more difficult.  When stressors, losses, illness, or problems arise, parents still need to be able to fulfill their duties to their children. There are no days off when it comes to helping the kids with school, taking them places, cooking, caring and spending time with them but sometimes parents can feel the weight of life, especially during loss and grief.  When grieving and mourning enter into a parent’s life, mother or father do not have the luxury to call off work, or not the children to school, or skip dinner or not wash clothes.  Parents are called to march forward.  This is critical but it can also be bad for grieving and mental health.

Parenting is challenging but when a parent is grieving it is even more difficult. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

The mental health for a parent is extremely important.  Like in an airplane, when the steward or stewardess explains that in an emergency, adults should place the oxygen mask on first before applying to a child, it is for a reason.  If a parent falls, the child or children will also fall.  So while duty is critical, it is also critical for parents to find the space and time needed to grieve or mourn.  In this blog, we will look closer at the difficult times, when parents have to grieve and still perform at high levels for the welfare of their children.

Mental Health and Support

In times of loss, mental health care and support are so important.  While to many of us, our parents appeared as super powered beings, the reality is they suffered the same emotions we suffer as adults.  They had good and bad days.  They did not always choose the right decision and had to learn the hard way and they also dealt with loss.  As younger children, we may not have noticed this, or maybe even very rarely, but our childhood image of our parents is due to their excellent ability to care.  Unfortunately, some individuals may have negative experiences with parents.  Their parents may have fallen victim to drinking and abuse, or vanished when loss occurred.  They may have spoken nothing of loss or pain and hid it to their own detriment.

For some, family support is available, for others it is lacking. However, the importance of a family that can grieve together and communicate cannot be over emphasized

 

Our experiences with our parents can easily shape our own when parenting-for good and bad.  It is important when grieving to find a balance.  It is OK to show vulnerability to a child but also to ensure that the child still feels secure.   So when dealing with grief and loss, parents need to be able to balance their own feelings and the need to maintain the security and welfare of their children.  This involves allowing oneself time to mourn.  The grief needs to be processed and experienced. If the grief persists and intensifies, then one should seek help from a grief counselor, and if it becomes pathological, one should seek the aid of a licensed professional counselor,

Some parents have better support than others.  Some have a spouse to help lean on, while others have a bigger family to share the grief.  Some parents though may be single parents, or have little or no family support.  They may be over worked and have a full schedule that prohibits time.  These over bearing responsibilities may compound the grief.  So while some may be able to find the help they need or take time off, others live in a colder reality.  Whether blessed, supported or alone and over worked, one can still find basic help services and as well as find time.  Time may need carved out of the day, but one needs to find the time to process the loss, mourn, and be able to express it outwardly.  If one does not find time to re-generate, whether through a walk, meditation, spiritual journey, exercise, or a discussion with a good friend, then the grief will only become stronger and parental burnout may occur.

Sharing Emotion within the Family Unit

Families may tend to be overtly open with emotion or introvert in regards to expressing it.  Grief myths that dictate time schedules, or expression of grief, or sharing grief with children, can only fracture the family unit more.  Instead, express grief with a spouse, or the children.  Communicate that daddy or mommy are very sad.  Reassure to the children that this will not affect their security but share with them the reality that you are going through grief and loss.  This is an excellent way for children to learn to express empathy.  Children will hug and listen and in their own way express grief too.  The grief may very well be affecting not just you but the children as well.  Hence it is important to discuss the loss and include the children in discussion of the loss with real and concrete words about the nature of death.  Let the children partake in rituals and ceremonies and allow them to comfort you.

Communicating feelings and grief not only helps the parent but also teaches the child empathy and proper grieving and coping

 

For most parents, the loss in all probability is of a parent, or tragically a sibling.  These types of losses are extremely painful and children will also experience a shared loss.  While it may be your parent you lost, it still their grandparent.  Hence, it is important to share grief with the child or children and both mutually heal from each other.  This not only helps heal but it also passes on good mourning skills.  Many children inherit bad mourning skills.  They learn to hide emotion, or turn to improper coping methods to curb grief through imitation of mom or dad.

Families can also grow together closer through grief.  While also expressing, they can also memorialize loss and remember together the person over time.  In addition, they can build relationships that are stronger through this shared experience of loss.  Parents can be good grieving examples to their children and children can be good and empathetic listeners when they are permitted into a circle.  Excluding them can have negative effects on yourself but also their development.

The Loss of a Child

If a mother miscarries, or the couple lose a child already born, this has life long ramifications.  It is in itself, its own blog, but this is when parents need to not only grieve for the loss but also help the child grieve the loss of his/her sibling.  It is so important to involve the child in the rituals and to let the child speak verbally or through play.  Monitoring the child and ensuring they are exhibiting no magical thinking is important.  If the child has guilt for the death, then it needs dismissed.  So while the parent grieves, the parent also is ensuring that the surviving child still heals properly from the loss.  Again this is why it is so critical that the family grieves together and proper grieving styles are passed on to the next generation.

Conclusion

Parenting not easy but when grief and loss are thrown into the middle, it becomes far more difficult.  Parents need to not only care for their own mental health but they also need to express loss and grief to their children to ensure security for the child but also an understanding of what grief is and how to share it and be empathetic.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification as well as its specialty program in Child and Adolescent Grief Counseling

 

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification, as well as its Child and Adolescent Grief Counseling Certification and see if the programs meet your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification.  The Child and Adolescent Grief Program is a specialty program that is only available for already those certified in Grief Counseling.

Additional Resources

“Can Parenting While Grieving Force You to Heal?”. Cytrynbaum, P. (2013).  Psychology Today.  Access here

“Parenting While Grieving”. Haley, E. (2015). Whats Your Grief.  Access here

“Grieving While Parenting”. Eiseman, J. (2019). Mental Health Match.  Access here

“Parenting while grieving”. Hetter, K. (2011). CNN.  Access here

Grief Counseling and Eating Disorders

Eating disorders stem from within.  The person has a low self image or utilizes eating as a coping mechanism to deal with loss, stress or trauma.  Some starve themselves, while others over-eat to escape the pain.   Individuals with low self image of themselves have a inaccurate view and are obsessed due to low self esteem to starve oneself and an attempt to find a never attainable weight.  While those who face pain and loss, may cope by binge eating.  Both extremes are unhealthy and can lead to multiple health issues.

Eating disorders stem from within due to loss, depression, and low self image.  They lead to poor coping strategies that are far from healthy. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

Counseling and proper coping are key to remove poor self image and poor coping strategies.  Grief Counseling and therapy from a licensed counselor can help.  Licensed counselors who are also certified in Grief Counseling can also help.  Please review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.

 

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Grief and Unfulfilled Needs Video

In life we can lose what we possess but also lose ideas of what we thought we would one day possess.   If one ever wanted children, or to have a family and this never occurs, then there is a void and sense of loss in adulthood.  While it was never possessed, one possessed the concept.  One became attached to the concept and when this concept was not actualized or fulfilled, a sense of loss can still overcome a person.

Sometimes sadness is a result of things never had but never gained. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

The video below reviews some concepts in this type of abstract grief and how individuals can learn to be better cope with unfulfilled dreams.  Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.

 

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Seasonal Depression and How to Cope

Seasonal Depression or Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is considered a major depressive disorder.  This particular type of depression exist with the turns of the season, most prominently as Summer turns to Fall and the days become shorter and the weather cooler and more wet.  The weather change and lack of light can create within the brain an altered chemistry   While negative mindset can play a role, most who experience Seasonal Affective Disorder already have a history with depression.   The early darkness, change of biorhythms, aligned with colder weather tend to force individuals inside and quartered with less exercise and social interaction.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) coincides with the change of seasons, usually Fall into Winter. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

Coupled with less vitamin D that sustains higher levels or serotonin, individuals can experience SAD.  While 20 percent of the population experiences Winter Blues, especially after Christmas, those with SAD experience a true depression.  Like all depression, individuals will lose interest in life, isolate, become anxious, feel bad and low about sense of self, lack energy, and have difficulties interacting with others.   The Cleveland Clinic in its article, “Seasonal Depression (Seasonal Affective Disorder)” gives a comprehensive review of the disorder, as well as possible treatment options and ways to reduce its severity.  The article states,

“If you have symptoms of seasonal affective disorder (SAD), don’t try to diagnose yourself. See your healthcare provider for a thorough evaluation. You may have another reason for your depression. Many times, seasonal affective disorder is part of a more complex mental health condition. Your provider may refer you to a psychiatrist or psychologist. These mental health professionals will ask you about your symptoms. They’ll consider your pattern of symptoms and decide if you have seasonal depression or another mood disorder. You may need to fill out a questionnaire to determine if you have SAD.”

“Seasonal Depression (Seasonal Affective Disorder)”. Cleveland Clinic. (2022).

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Commentary

Of the 5 percent of the population more prone to SAD, those who have a family history of depression, have a greater chance of experiencing it. Obviously, those who suffer from it also live in temperate areas in the Northern and Southern Hemispheres who experience the four seasons.  Interesting enough, some individuals can experience SAD during Summer months as well.  To be diagnosed, mental healthcare professionals will ask for a case history and only if one has experienced depression correlated with seasonal change two straight seasons can one possibly be labeled with SAD.

SAD is more than the Winter Blues but is associated with a lack of serotonin causing depression. This is due to less light and new sleeping pattern during the Winter season for those with predisposition to depression

 

Again SAD is more than merely the Winter Blues, but a true depression in all of its fury.  Individuals will suffer the classical physical and mental symptoms associated with depression with the turn of the season.  The depression is related to brain chemistry and hence it is important for many to be prescribed an anti-depressant by a mental healthcare professional.  The need to balance the serotonin is key in helping most. In addition, supplementing Vitamin D is critical.  Many individuals in temperate zones, especially during the Winter, exhibit extremely low levels of vitamin D in the body.   This is not merely an issue for those suffering from SAD, but also anyone who lives in areas with less sun over an extended period of time.

For some, cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT can be beneficial.  Talking about the situation and understanding how SAD works and how to reframe things can help some individuals better cope.   Reframing can look at the positives of the months during Winter and some of the experiences that others do not have, such as the beauty of fresh snow upon the trees, or Winter sports, or particular festivals pertaining to the season.  One can create a cozy Winter atmosphere that brings joy to oneself inside.  Whether its a fire, or comfortable slippers, the little things can make oneself feel better.  In addition, individuals should attempt to do special things during the darker months.  At least once a week, one should attempt to plan something to look forward to despite the bad weather.  Most importantly, exercise is critical to good health but also mental health.  The movement of the body, the heart rate, and physical motions can help neurotransmitters better operate in the brain.  Many individuals “hibernate” the Winter away and eat poorly and sleep too much.  It is so important to step outside, walk, or go to the gym during Winter.  It is essential for both physical and mental health.

It is important to get out, exercise and be active during the Winter months

 

An extreme treatment for those with severe SAD can turn to light therapy.  White light at a higher level than regular lighting in the house can be set up throughout the house.  The treatment encourages more vitamin D and also more serotonin in the body.  While the therapy can be successful, it can also carry risks causing potential eye damage if not properly utilized, as well as headaches or migraines for some.  Moderate and safe use of it is an important rule to follow with light therapy.

Conclusion

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.  It is important to note that while many grief counselors are also licensed counselors, only licensed counselors can discuss and treat Seasonal Depression.   Pastoral and non-licensed counselors can discuss it with a client but must refer those who exhibit signs of it to a licensed professional who can treat the pathological condition.

While SAD only affects 5 percent of the population, it is important to find treatment if you are one of those 5 percent.

 

For those who do suffer from SAD, it is important to seek treatment and utilize coping strategies.  While Winter may not be favorite season of the year for many, it does not need to become a horrific experience.  There is joy and light in any season and how one operates and maintains a schedule is key to keeping healthy and strong during the long Winter months.

Additional Resources

“What is seasonal affective disorder?”. National Institute of Mental Health. Access here

“Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)”. Mayo Clinic. (2021).  Access here

“What to Know About Seasonal Depression”. Seo, H. (2022).  New York Times.  Access here

“14 Ways to Ease Seasonal Depression”. Orenstein, B. & Pugle, M. (2023). Everyday Health. Access here

Grief and Memory Video

The way grief memory imprints on the human brain is important because it helps keep the moment vivid and remembered for a long period.  While during acute grieving this poses issues for healing, in the long term, it keeps the precious memories of the loved one intact far stronger.  No-one wishes to lose the memory of a loved one.  In fact, many go to lengthy processes to keep the memory alive.  Keeping a certain object, clothing, or journaling are all ways individuals try to keep the memory strong.  Fortunately the brain keeps it strong as well.

The way sad events are filed in the brain allow the memory to imprint better. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

The Hippocampus and the Amygdala play a key role in keeping the emotion imprinted.  The Amygdala processes emotion to the Hippocampus sometimes in intense ways that even bypass longer cognitive thought in a more direct route.  The Hippocampus imprints these types of emotional images and for long term.  The Cortex also imprints these images.  Unfortunately, sometimes trauma and intense grief can cause PTSD where these images are fragmented and never properly processed.  These are not the types of long term grief memories we want.

The video below discusses how grief and memory interact with other.  Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.

What is Postpartum Depression?

While having a child is supposed to be the most exciting and wonderful thing in life, sometimes after the birth of a child,  the mother, or even the father, can experience sadness and even depression.  This is not due to actual loss but a chemical imbalance within the neurotransmitters that is offset.  In mothers, it can be due to a variety of hormonal issues, while in fathers, it can be due to past depression history.   “Baby Blues”, when it does occurs, lasts anywhere from a few days to a two weeks, but if it persists into depression, it is important to seek help from one’s doctor to help properly balance oneself.  This is why it is so important for spouses, family and friends to observe each other during the first few weeks after child birth.  Usually the emphasis is on the infant only but changes in mood for parents are also important things to watch and monitor.  This type of situation is not anything to be ashamed of or a dismissal of the joyous occasion, but merely is mental health and properly taking care of it.

Postpartum Depression can rob one of the joy of having a child. It is important to seek medical help if symptoms persist for more than 2 weeks

 

Many of the symptoms associated with Post Partum Depression mirror any other type of depression but the biggest issue is it prevents proper bonding with one’s child and can make it harder to meet the needs of the new infant.   This happy moment should be an experience of joy, but when depression sinks in, it can be difficult to enjoy these memorial moments or even worst, cause risk to self or the child.  This is why it is so critical to seek help.

The article, “Post Partum Depression” from the Mayo Clinic takes a closer look at issues surrounding sadness, depression or even psychosis after child birth.  The article states,

“The birth of a baby can start a variety of powerful emotions, from excitement and joy to fear and anxiety. But it can also result in something you might not expect — depression.  Most new moms experience postpartum “baby blues” after childbirth, which commonly include mood swings, crying spells, anxiety and difficulty sleeping. Baby blues usually begin within the first 2 to 3 days after delivery and may last for up to two weeks.  But some new moms experience a more severe, long-lasting form of depression known as postpartum depression”.

“Post Partem Depression”. Mayo Clinic. (2022).  Mayo Clinic

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Commentary

Becoming a mother is a life-changing experience, but it can also bring about unexpected challenges. One such challenge is postpartum depression, a condition that affects many women after giving birth. Understanding postpartum depression is the first step towards finding effective strategies to deal with it. Postpartum depression is not simply a case of “baby blues” or feeling a bit down; it is a serious mental health condition that requires attention and support.

Postpartum depression can manifest in different ways, but some common signs and symptoms include persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, and irritability. Women experiencing postpartum depression may also struggle with sleep disturbances, changes in appetite, and a lack of interest in activities they once enjoyed. It’s important to recognize these symptoms and seek help if they persist for more than a couple of weeks. Postpartum depression can have a profound impact on a mother’s overall well-being, as well as on her relationships and family dynamics.

The impact of postpartum depression on mothers and families

Postpartum depression not only affects the mother, but it can also have a significant impact on her relationships and family. The emotional and physical toll of postpartum depression can strain the bond between the mother and her partner, leading to feelings of isolation and resentment. In some cases, postpartum depression can even affect the mother’s ability to bond with her newborn baby, potentially impacting the child’s development.

Post Partum Depression can cause major strains on families after child birth and also play a role in not providing the infant with the care he/she needs

 

Furthermore, postpartum depression can disrupt the entire household dynamic. Partners may need to take on additional responsibilities, and other family members may need to step in to provide support. This can create stress and tension within the family, further exacerbating the challenges faced by the mother. Recognizing the impact of postpartum depression on mothers and families is crucial in order to provide the necessary support and understanding during this difficult time.

Effective strategies for dealing with postpartum depression

Dealing with postpartum depression requires a multi-faceted approach that addresses both the physical and emotional aspects of the condition. While it is important to seek professional help, there are also effective strategies that can be implemented on a daily basis to manage symptoms and promote recovery.

One such strategy is self-care. Taking care of oneself is often overlooked when dealing with postpartum depression, but it is essential for the mother’s well-being. This can include engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation, prioritizing sleep and nutrition, and finding ways to manage stress. Self-care is not selfish; it is a necessary step towards healing and recovery.

Building a support system is another crucial aspect of dealing with postpartum depression. Surrounding oneself with understanding and supportive individuals can make a world of difference. This can include reaching out to family and friends, joining support groups specifically for postpartum depression, or connecting with other mothers who have gone through similar experiences. Having a support system in place provides a sense of validation and helps combat feelings of isolation.

Seeking professional help for postpartum depression

While self-care and support systems are important, it is essential to seek professional help when dealing with postpartum depression. Mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors specializing in postpartum depression, can provide the necessary guidance and support. They can help identify underlying causes, develop coping mechanisms, and provide effective treatment options.

Antidepressant medication may also be prescribed in some cases, especially if the symptoms of postpartum depression are severe. It is important to consult with a healthcare provider to determine the best course of action. Seeking professional help is not a sign of weakness; it is a proactive step towards recovery and empowerment.

Support groups and resources for postpartum depression

Support groups can be a valuable resource for women dealing with postpartum depression. These groups provide a safe and understanding space where mothers can share their experiences, receive support, and learn from others who have faced similar challenges. Support groups can be found both online and in-person, offering flexibility and accessibility.

There are also numerous resources available for women experiencing postpartum depression. Websites, books, and podcasts dedicated to postpartum depression provide valuable information and strategies for coping. Additionally, many organizations offer helplines and online chat services where women can seek guidance and support in real-time. Utilizing these resources can help women feel empowered and less alone in their journey towards recovery.

Self-care tips for managing postpartum depression

Self-care is an essential component of managing postpartum depression. Here are some practical self-care tips that can be incorporated into daily routines:

  1. Prioritize sleep: Aim for quality sleep by establishing a regular sleep schedule and creating a relaxing bedtime routine.
  2. Nourish your body: Focus on eating a balanced diet that includes nutrient-rich foods to support overall well-being.
  3. Engage in gentle exercise: Physical activity, such as yoga or walking, can help boost mood and reduce stress.
  4. Practice mindfulness: Incorporate mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, to promote relaxation and reduce anxiety.
  5. Delegate and ask for help: Don’t be afraid to ask for assistance from loved ones or hire help with household tasks to alleviate some of the pressure.
  6. Engage in activities you enjoy: Make time for hobbies or activities that bring you joy, whether it’s reading, painting, or listening to music.

Remember, self-care is not a luxury but a necessity for your well-being. By prioritizing self-care, you are better equipped to navigate the challenges of postpartum depression.

Building a support system for postpartum depression

Building a support system is crucial for women dealing with postpartum depression. Here are some strategies for creating a strong support network:

  1. Communicate with your partner: Openly discuss your feelings with your partner and seek their understanding and support.
  2. Reach out to family and friends: Share your experiences with trusted loved ones who can provide emotional support and practical assistance.
  3. Join support groups: Connect with other women experiencing postpartum depression through local support groups or online communities.
  4. Seek professional help: Consult with mental health professionals who specialize in postpartum depression for guidance and support.
  5. Consider therapy for couples: Couples therapy can help improve communication and strengthen the relationship during this challenging time.

Remember, you don’t have to face postpartum depression alone. Building a support system can provide the encouragement and understanding you need to navigate this difficult period.

Creating a postpartum depression action plan

Creating an action plan can help you navigate the challenges of postpartum depression proactively. Here are some steps to consider when developing your plan:

  1. Educate yourself: Learn about postpartum depression, its symptoms, and available resources.
  2. Set realistic goals: Break down your recovery journey into manageable steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
  3. Identify triggers: Recognize the situations or circumstances that worsen your symptoms, and develop strategies to manage them.
  4. Establish a routine: Creating a daily routine can provide structure and stability during this unpredictable time.
  5. Practice self-care: Incorporate self-care activities into your daily routine to prioritize your well-being.
  6. Seek professional help: Consult with mental health professionals to develop a personalized treatment plan.

By creating an action plan, you are taking an active role in managing your postpartum depression and empowering yourself towards recovery.

Conclusion

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals

 

Dealing with postpartum depression can be challenging, but it is important to remember that you are not alone. By understanding postpartum depression, recognizing its impact, and implementing effective strategies, you can navigate this difficult period and empower yourself towards recovery. Whether it’s through self-care, seeking professional help, or building a support system, each step you take brings you closer to healing and embracing the joys of motherhood. Remember to be kind to yourself and reach out for the support you deserve.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification.  Licensed professionals in counseling are excellent candidates to earn a Grief Counseling Certification.

Additional Resources

“Postpartum Depression”. HealthEssentials. (2022). Cleveland Clinic.  Access here

“Everything You Need to Know About Postpartum Depression: Symptoms, Treatments, and finding help”. Pietrangelo, A. (2022). Healthline.  Access here

“Postpartum Depression”. OASH. (2023). Office on Women’s Health.  Access here

“Postpartum Depression”. Bruce, D. (2022). WebMD. Access here

 

The Evolution of Grief Overtime

Grief and loss are not simply one moment in time but a continual wave and ripple throughout one’s life.   A person’s loss creates an unfillable void.  This is expected because the love is unique and special.  It can never be replaced but overtime, the acute grief becomes less sharp but still nonetheless, very present in the shadows.  As time proceeds, grief does not leave but it evolves.  Although one may adjust to the loss in a healthy fashion, the pain and loss can re-emerge in moments, or re-appear at certain places or times.  Grief overtime is a constant pressure that reminds one of the loss but at different intensities and in different types of emotions throughout the years.   The long trek of not having someone is a life long trek and one that everyone eventually experiences.

Grief does not end but it does evolve. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

The article, “Grief Years Later: 4 Challenges” from Eleanor Haley of “What’s Your Grief” presents an excellent outline of experiences and feelings individuals feel throughout the years following a loss.  She discusses issues of lost validation of the loss, secondary losses that emerge, memories becoming less vivid and more abstract, and loss connections over time.  She states,

“It’s not for me to predict how anyone will feel about their loss years down the line. Hundreds of different factors can influence the roads people take, the perspectives they find, and the things they make peace with. What I can say about grief years later is that many people continue to revisit and grapple with their loss experiences in an ongoing way. I don’t say any of this to scare you. I simply want anyone feeling surprised, frustrated, or dysfunctional because they’re still tripping over their losses to know they’re capital ‘N’ normal.”

“Grief Years Later: 4 Challenges”. Haley, E. (2023). “What’s Your Grief”‘

To read the entire article, please click here

Commentary

Haley brings up many good points which we will look at in more detail in this blog.

First, as Haley references in her article, the first year of grief and even the second are perhaps the most difficult.  The acute sharp pain of the loss stabs the heart.  The new and unwanted existence of living without a person is difficult to navigate.  And within the year and next year, constant holidays and reminders haunt and tear the emotional scab open again and again.  However, as time goes one, grief becomes less acute.  While it can come and go in waves still, overall, unless complications, the grief is less intense overall.  The pain becomes more numb and can only be aroused if one focuses on the loss.

Other emotions also exist as grief evolves though.  Instead of just pain and regret, there can be joy and happiness.  A joy in pleasant memories that can bring a smile to a person.  Happiness knowing the person is in a better place or no longer hurting.  Or even a gratitude for being able to share the time one had with each other.  Other positive emotions emerge.  The yearning for reconnection remains but positive emotions also exist side by side.  For those of religious backgrounds, a hope also returns of a reunion in the next life.

Overtime, memories become more abstract. Many fear losing memories of loved ones

 

Haley references the fading of vivid memories and the emergence of more abstract memories.  While some memories may be vivid, as time proceeds, certain scents,  features, and traits may seem more distant.  The fear of losing memories is one of the biggest fears of the grieving.  This is why so many things are kept.  Items, some clothing and other articles are sometimes kept to maintain a healthy connection.  This is why it is so important to collect pictures, journal and write down emotions surrounding the loss.  As time goes forward, one can then return to those notes or pictures and again remember the past.  In addition, dreams play a key role in remembering.  While traumatic incidents will constantly haunt one in a unhealthy way, others sometimes find pleasance in the dream of a loved one.  Some may even believe this is a visit from the afterlife.  As time proceeds, many find such dreams to be peaceful, while others who suffer from more serious trauma surrounding the death may find it to be more of a nightmare.

Haley mentions secondary losses as a changing reality as grief proceeds through time.   If a widow, one may find less income as the years go by.  As a widower, one may not go to certain festivals or movies anymore without one’s wife.   As an adult child, one may no longer go to the old family home.  Others may find difficulties with certain tasks that were provided by the other spouse.  No longer is there someone to wash the clothes or cook or mow the yard.  These instances are cold reminders of the original loss but also the lingering pains associated with the loss itself.  In addition, Haley states that many lose past connections.  Individuals that once were common in one’s life over time are less seen since the deceased died.  Maybe certain friends no longer visit as time goes on and individuals within a family become more distant since the patriarch or matriarch of the family has passed.  Holiday traditions may pass with the passing of time as well.  These are all markings of grief overtime itself.  If one loses a child, maybe the individual overtime feels he/she is no longer a parent?  Not being able to experience graduations, weddings, and becoming a grand parent can become haunting reminders over the time of what was lost.

Finally, and maybe most importantly, Haley illustrates that many individuals are no longer validated in their loss.  The initial checkups, flowers, sympathy cards, and calls become less and less.  While the loss still hurts, other individuals have moved on in life.  Others may grow tired of discussing the loss and may avoid.  Others may no longer know how to talk about the loss and feel to remain quiet.  Still others may become irritated and push one to “get over it”.  These are all issues that the grieving face as grief ages over time.

Conclusion

A loss is not a singular moment in history but a wave of titanic proportions that affect one’s life forever.  While this may seem terrifying, it is true but also good.  It is good because it means someone was loved and meant that much to you and they cannot be replaced.  Overtime grief changes for good and bad but one must continue to adjust and adapt to the loss as grief ages overtime.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals

 

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.

Additional Resources

“How Grief Changes Over Time”. Dembling, S. (2023). Psychology Today.  Access here

“Can You Grieve a Death Almost 30 Years Later?”. Sandler, E. (2017).  Psychology Today.  Access here

“Grief 10 Years Later”. Granek, L. (2015). Huffington Post.  Access here

“DOES GRIEF GET MORE CHALLENGING AS TIME GOES ON?”. Gemima, C. (2022). GriefHeal.org. Access here

Low Self Esteem and Depression

Self esteem is critical to an emotional, mental and healthy life.  A good self image helps one to live with confidence, approach goals, complete tasks, and find value in oneself.  It is essential to find value in oneself and to find oneself worthy of love.   Hence cultivating a healthy self esteem is important to a personal, academic, professional and social life.

Low self esteem is an inaccurate self perception with reality. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

Self esteem issues can go in two different directions.  An inflated self esteem can lead one down an egotistical and narcissistic road with various anti social disorders.  It can lead to delusions and foolish endeavors.  In essence, it is not in balance with reality.   Self esteem can also take an opposite dark road in which one finds no value in oneself and this can lead to depression, loss opportunities, poor health and possible suicide.   This article will investigate the later and in particular how one can deal with self esteem and depression.

The article, “How to Manage Low Self-Esteem” by Corey Whelan looks in detail how low self esteem can derail a life, its sources and how to overcome it.  She states,

“Everyone has moments of doubt about who they are and what they’ve achieved. You may do or say something that makes you temporarily ashamed of or annoyed with yourself. Those temporary or periodic feelings are not the same as low self-esteem.  Low self-esteem refers to long-term negativity about who you are and how you show up in the world. These negative feelings can be persistent and hard to challenge.  For example, if someone compliments you, you may not believe them. If you achieve a goal, you may not allow yourself to take credit for it.”

“How to Manage Low Self-Esteem”. Whelan, C. (2022). Healthline.

To review the article, please access here

Low Self Esteem

Causes of low self esteem range from various issues suffered at a younger age.  Hyper critical parents or family can damage a child’s development.  When a child is unable to meet certain psycho social goals within his/her age the child can be prevented from forming independence and the ability to do things.  When a child is shamed for pushing forward, the impulse to be something greater can also be hampered.  Hence due to criticism or inability to progress to new stages of development that highlight independence and creativity can greatly affect a child’s self esteem and provide future issues in advancement in life.  Other forms of criticism include body shaming and bullying.  These type of parental and as well peer abuse can cause severe self image issues within the person.

In addition, many children are unable to form healthy and supportive bonds due to attachment issues with parents.  When children are not given security and love, then they become insecure and anxious.  They begin to question themselves and find themselves not worthy of love or capable of being loved.  These haunting memories of unloved childhood also cause great damage to self esteem.

Trauma and abuse also play a key role in lowering self esteem.  Children of abuse, especially sexual abuse, feel dirty and unclean.  They feel unable to be loved or love and consider themselves broken.  This is often the case because the abuser not only physically assaults the child, but to protect himself/herself creates a illusion within the child’s mind that it is the child’s fault.  The child then is haunted and unable to report the abuse and continues to feel broken and dirty.

Untrue Thoughts

Many with low self esteem have a inaccurate self image of self.  Either through body shaming or verbal and mental abuse, the person feels they are worthless and amount to nothing.  Many feel ugly, or dumb, or unlovable.  They hence attach to any form of connection, even if unhealthy.  A person with low self esteem is unable to see the value in oneself and is unable to move forward with confidence, accept compliments, boast of achievements, or recognize individual talent within oneself.   A person with low self esteem has a difficult time accepting challenges, or attempting harder feats and will surrender before one even tries to do something.  A person with low self esteem will feel unworthy, untalented and incapable of great things.    Hence, a person will self esteem is unable to take criticism well and will amplify normal comments and make these comments more than what they truly are.

Those with low self esteem have poor self image that is not correlated with truth or reality

 

A person with low self esteem also has difficulty trusting one’s own instincts.  Low self esteems restricts creativity and trust of self to do something.  One needs constant coaching or discussion with others to engage in something.  Also, low self esteem prevents boundaries.  A person with low self esteem has a difficulty saying no to others and will find oneself doing things one does not really want to do. Hence low self esteem turns an individual into a people pleaser instead of looking out for oneself.

Dangerous Road

Those with low self esteem suffer physically, emotionally and mentally.  Physically, they tend to take less care of themselves.  They feel ugly and feel little need to care for oneself via grooming and exercise.  This can lead to un-healthy life styles.  Emotionally and mentally, one may punish oneself for false perceptions of being a failure.  This can lead to self mutilation, self harm, risky behavior,  drug addiction and drinking, depression,  suicidal ideation and possible suicide attempts.  In addition, it can prevent someone from achieving positive and happy experiences due to fear or rejection. Hence less chance for friendship, love and academic and professional success.

Overcoming Low Self Esteem

It is difficult for someone to overcome self esteem because one is blinded by a false perception.  The person lives in a mirage of falsehood. Only till one is opened to reality can one start to escape the dark veil of low self esteem.  This takes time, counseling and reframing of self.  One can begin to rehabilitate self image through small goals and achievements.  Whether it is a hobby, gym work, or academic and professional goals, one can begin to objectively calculate success and find to one’s amazement that these objective successful achievements coincide with not someone else but oneself.  Hygiene, personal pride and goal setting can all play key roles in awakening someone to one’s best potential. Counselors can also help those with self esteem with positive affirmations, journaling and finding ways to surround oneself with positive people and energy instead of negative ones.

Overcoming low self esteem when dealing with depression can be an even more difficult feat.  Depression already prevents one from finding joy in life.  If one already is suffering from low self esteem, one will quickly travel down a darker road.   Depression is usually correlated with lower self esteem and can become a result of constant gloomy outlooks on life.  Those suffering from low self esteem and depression should constantly look to post positive affirmations about self and try to brag about life.  They should write down positive things and journal.  They should set realistic goals and avoid comparisons.  They should also and most importantly be kind to oneself.  Those with low self esteem and depression are their own worst critics.  Self love is critical in these cases.

Conclusion

Self image needs to be balanced.  It cannot become narcissistic but it cannot become deflated.  It needs to find a happy balance with reality that is optimistic and able to help a person reach one’s fullest potential.  Unfortunately, many suffer childhood bullying, criticisms and abuse which greatly affects their development and hence self esteem.  This can lead to bad physical, emotional and mental health which can develop into possible depression or even suicide.  It is important to identify low self esteem find help and incorporate strategies to improve self image.  If dealing with depression or other trauma, a licensed counselor can help one find better self image.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

AIHCP also offers a certification in Grief Counseling for qualified professionals in the healthcare and mental healthcare fields.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a certified Grief Counselor.

Additional Resources

“9 Tips for Strengthening Self-Esteem When You Have Depression”. Coelho, S. (2022). PyschCentral.  Access here

“11 Signs of Low Self-Esteem”.  Cherry, K.  (2023). VeryWellMind. Access here

“Self-esteem: Take steps to feel better about yourself”. Mayo Clinic Staff. (2022). Mayo Clinic. Access here

“Signs of Low Self-Esteem”. WebMed Editorial Contributers. (2022). WedMed.  Access here