Certified Grief Counselor Article on the Complexity of Grief

Grief while universal is definitely also unique and very complex.  The complexity of grief leads to a variety of reactions to loss due to multiple different origins.

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The article, “The Grief Experience: Survey Shows It’s Complicated” by Koenig takes a closer look at the complexity of grief.  She states,

“Many of us have the misperception that there’s a right way to grieve, and most people think they’re doing it wrong,” says Donna Schuurman, a family therapist and senior director of advocacy and training and at the Dougy Center, a Portland, OR, nonprofit that helps people deal with the death of a loved one. “We live in a society that wants us to get over it and move on.”

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Grief will always be a complicated emotion to fully understand but we can help others grieve in a healthy way.  We can understand the reasons behind each case and help those individuals cope with their grief in effective ways.  Please also review our Grief Counseling Courses and see if you would like to become a certified Grief Counselor.

Certified Grief Counselor Article on Unresolved Grief

In grief and loss, we speak about tangible losses, losses, we can summarize, quantify, and then adjust and adapt to that loss.   Whether it is the loss of a family member, or a relationship, or a precious thing, one can accept the fact that it gone and proceed with the healing processes of grief.  The process of grief and adjusting to loss, however, is disrupting when unresolved grief occurs.

Unresolved grief can have many long term affects on a person.  Please review our Certified Grief Counselor Program
Unresolved grief can have many long term affects on a person. Please review our Certified Grief Counselor Program

What exactly is unresolved grief?  Unresolved grief is a type of complication in the grieving process that prevents a natural and healthy conclusion to the loss.  It prevents the person from accepting the loss, or moving forward in a healthy fashion.  It leaves the person in a type of perpetual mental limbo.

This type of reaction can be internally or externally caused.  If one has issues with the deceased that were never resolved, then an emotional soup of various feelings can emerge with no particular direction towards resolution.   This can occur, especially with such cases as suicide, as well as with sudden death of a loved one.   In some cases, there are unresolved emotional issues between the person and deceased that were never resolved while both were alive.   This can lead to unresolved feelings later.

Apart from internal causes, external causes can put one in a state of unresolved grief.  When a loved one is abducted or missing, then this can lead to a perpetual state of unresolved feelings.  This is perhaps one of the greatest pains a parent can feel because they are in perpetual fear and anxiety of what has happened to their child.   If the case never comes to a conclusion, the parents are never mentally allowed to find acceptance in the fact their child is probably dead.   Without a proper funeral, justice, or verification, the parents and family can be scarred traumatically.

So many individuals suffer grave injustices in the world.   From fugitives who escape justice to mass genocide, individuals who survive these crimes, face not only personal recovery, but also a resolution in regards to justice and the conclusion found in that justice.  When justice is not handed out, the unresolved grief festers within the soul and demands justice to finally give them and the victims peace.  This was especially true of the Holocaust survivors who faced not only their recovery from the person trauma, but also the demand of social justice against the criminals who perpetrated the crimes.

Through trials and justice, many find the conclusion they need to finally heal completely from the loss.   Seeing a murderer or rapist brought to trial, gives the victim and families the closure they need to be able to rebuild their life.   Without that closure, the unresolved issues of their grief will continue to haunt them.

Unresolved grief itself can cause anxiety, depression, lead to eruptions of anger and frustration, leaving the person in a state of emotional limbo.   It is because of this, that clients need help in understanding what they can control and what they cannot.  It takes more than merely a certified grief counselor but also a licensed mental counselor with grief training to help an individual through unresolved grief.

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The Reality of Growth and Grief: where the hell is my rainbow? – What’s Your Grief

Sometimes grief takes longer than we thought. If qualified consider becoming a certified grief counselor
Sometimes grief takes longer than we thought. If qualified consider becoming a certified grief counselor

If you regularly read WYG you might have noticed that Eleanor and I can be a wee bit pessimistic from time to time.  Okay, maybe a little more than a ‘wee bit’.

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Great article on grief and many of the false assumptions that come with growth and transformation after loss.  This article sets it straight .

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The strange grief of losing a grandparent you barely knew

Whether close or not, Losing a grandparent is significant, because of the direct line of our existence to them.  Please review the program to become a certified grief counselor
Whether close or not, Losing a grandparent is significant, because of the direct line of our existence to them. Please review the program to become a certified grief counselor

It’s an odd kind of sorrow, losing someone you barely knew but who was such an important part of you, writes Giselle Au-Nhien Nguyen.

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Good article about losing someone within your lineage but not knowing them that well personally.  This article reviews some of the feelings that may go with this

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Abortion’s Circle of Grief Is Not Limited to Two | NRL News Today

 

The pain of abortion has a trickle down effect to every member of the family.  Also consider becoming a certified grief counselor
The pain of abortion has a trickle down effect to every member of the family. Also consider becoming a certified grief counselor

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The grief of the loss of a life of a child via abortion is not only twofold, child and mother, but crosses to many other family members who experience potential relationship losses.  Father-son, Uncle/aunt-nephew, grandparent-grandchild.   It is time to consider these losses as well and the pain abortion causes everyone.

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Getting Married 5 Days After My Dad Died –

Getting married after the loss of a parent can be bitter sweet.  If you would like to become a certified grief counselor then please review
Getting married after the loss of a parent can be bitter sweet. If you would like to become a certified grief counselor then please review

Kate Baldus reflects on why she went ahead with the wedding five days after her father passed away. It was what he wanted.

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An emotional article about death and life.   How hard is it for us to enjoy life after we lose someone?  Marriage after a funeral?

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Grief Myths: Illustrated

A list of grief myths that counselors need to understand.  If you would like to become a certified grief counselor then please review
A list of grief myths that counselors need to understand. If you would like to become a certified grief counselor then please review

A few weeks back we published a post called 64 Myths About Grief that Just Need to Stop.  Today, I’m going to illustrate a few of these grief myths because my brain is too fried right now to compose complete sentences. Anyways, sometimes it takes a good stick figure to drive the absurdity of certain thoughts …

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Good article about grief myths.  This article is good for those grieving and grief counselors who wish to truly understand the nature of grief.

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When Bereavement Leave Ends: going back to work after a death

Here at WYG topics seem to come up in waves.  We see trends in comments on the blog, social media, and in emails.  Lately the trend has been going back to work after a death.

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It can be horrifying to have to face the stress and pressures of the world after grieving the lost of a loved one.  Once bereavement leave runs out, we are left with the sterile feeling of moving on with life and returning to work.  This article looks over this phase of our lives

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Grief in the workplace can affect many aspects at the job. If you would like to become a certified grief counselor then please review
Grief in the workplace can affect many aspects at the job. If you would like to become a certified grief counselor then please review

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What I Learned About Living From the Dying

In death, we learn about life. Please review if you wish to become a certified grief counselor
In death, we learn about life. Please review if you wish to become a certified grief counselor

When a person is faced with the shattering reality of imminent death, what goes through his or her mind? In 2013, I had no idea.

Two years ago today, Lisa Choueke Blank, a beautiful and dynamic

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An excellent article from the Huffingtonpost about learning about life from death.  Death is part of life and has to be understood in order to comprehend the meaning of life.  Dealing with death and understanding how it correlates to life is an important skill.

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How to let go when a loved one is dying

How to let go of someone is the hardest thing to do in life. If you would like to become a certified grief counselor
How to let go of someone is the hardest thing to do in life. If you would like to become a certified grief counselor

Reaching acceptance that a person is dying is a difficult path for the individual who is ill as well as for their family members.

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It is the hardiest thing in the world to let go of someone we love.  Our world and our idea of reality is totally destroyed.  This article takes a closer look.

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