Anger issues can be existent prior to an actual trigger.  Some individuals are constantly upset or angry over things due to mental makeup.  It can be as simple as OCD or more complex but individuals can experience an angry nature due to psychological makeup.  There is help for these mental issues through counseling and possibly medication to lower the emotional symptoms.

The article, “Feeling angry all the time? Here’s what might have triggered it” from the “TimesofIndia” looks closer at anger and how it overflows for some people.  The article states,

“Anger is an emotion that comes naturally to almost everyone. While the cause of anger or aggression may differ in people, it will only lead to rage and aggressive expression. Although some people learn the art of staying in control and keeping their minds calm, there are certain factors that can cause anger issues which are hard to tackle.”

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Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if the program meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.

Some individuals do face anger on a more consistent basis to biological and emotional issues.  These individuals need counseling and help for the root issue.  Anger Management can also help

Stressors and change create grief and anger.  How we manage our anger and grief in relationship to stressors with other people is critical to our social interaction with others.  For better communication, health and better social relationships, conflict resolution is critical.

Conflict resolution involves better communication skills, control of emotion due to stress and loss, patience and understanding.  In conflict resolution, stress management and anger management classes, individuals need to identify what type of behavior their possess in their interaction with other people.

Assertive behaviors are the healthiest of the behaviors.  They establish boundaries, respect self, respect the other person, and meet one’s needs in a healthy way.   Non assertive behaviors on the other hand deny the wishes and needs of self at the expense of others.  There is a lack of boundaries and ability to respect one self over the needs of others.

Aggressive behavior is a selfish behavior.  It turns to conflict when establishing boundaries and the needs of others.  It does not respect the needs of others nor the feelings of others when establishing itself in a conflict.

For example, an assertive behavior at a restaurant would return an ordered item that was ill prepared.  It would so in a civil and polite way, describing the issues and find resolution.  A non-assertive behavior would meekly accept the discrepancy in the order and say nothing for fear of causing a scene.  An aggressive behavior would demand the order be fixed without politeness and be filled with a litany of insults

Obviously, assertive behavior is the most social, healthy, and effective behaviors during conflict.  They meet the need of the person but also find resolution in a polite and effective way.  One can be assertive through non verbal clues, or verbal clues.  How one stands, speaks in tone, and looks at a person are parts of an assertive personality.  They lack dismissive behaviors or aggressive and angry body movements.

Verbally, an assertive behavior communicates.  They describe the issue, express feelings, specify what is needed, and refer to consequences.  In doing so, obviously, listening is also key but also elaborating on one’s needs is also key.  How we communicate is key to reducing anger, stress, anxiety and violence.

It is important when resolving conflicts to use specific types of words.   The words “And” and but” are important ways to express conflict.  Instead of eliminating the feelings of others via the word “but “it is better to include the word “and” as a way to address and not eliminate another’s point of view.

Another verbal cue in resolving conflicts is to avoid the pronoun “you” when addressing someone else. Instead, use the pronoun “I” as not to be accusatory towards another person when pointing something out.  As with “you”, avoid direct accusatory words such as “why” which can force a person with an opposing view on the defensive.

If one incorporates understanding, patience, and kindness with an assertive personality, they can better communicate and address conflict issues that emerge due to anger and stress.  It is imperative to be able to communicate and resolve issues of conflict in a civil but effective way.  It is not only socially better but also best for health and wellbeing.  The less conflict, the less stress, anxiety and anger

Please also review AIHCP’s Stress Management Consulting Program as well as AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting program and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  Qualified professionals can earn a four-year certification and help others deal with stress and anger through successful conflict resolution

Many times people say things in anger they regret.  Words can damage relationships permanently.  It is important to watch one’s tongue when in anger and never allow emotion to get the best of oneself when dealing with other people.  Learning to what to say when angry is critical.  It is a life skill that can help one stay out of trouble and not hurt family and friends.

The article, “The Thing To Say Every Time You’re Angry” by Laura Vanderkam looks into what is best to say when anger overtakes.  She states,

“In this angry, anxious, and polarized time, it’s easy to lash out, whether on social media or at people in your real life. And we often end up wishing we didn’t:One survey found that a majority of social media users had posted something they regretted.”

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Learning to avoid the conflict with immediate verbal slashes is critical to good relationships with others. Learning how to walk away and say what gives you more time to reflect is key to not allowing emotion to dictate words you may later regret.

Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification.  Qualified professionals can learn how to help others how to manage their emotions and control anger.

Usually war, disaster or tragedy unite, but the COVID 19 pandemic has managed to divide the country.  On one side there are citizens who are obeying restrictions and social distancing and on the other side, there are individuals who are openly defying the restrictions.  This dangerous mentality adds to the division that display political fault lines simply by wearing a mask or not wearing one.   This also fuels an already uneasy political landscape between Trump and the Democratic Party, and for that matter most mainstream individuals.   The response to the disaster has only enraged more as everyone looks to point the finger.

This unrest and fear across the nation has led to increase signs of political anger.  Protests and armed open carry as a sign of intimidation towards others who support  science and the medical field is perplexing.  While the shut downs have hurt everyone economically, the irrational response of anger out of fear has engulfed the nation.  Individuals demanding their rights over the inconvenience of regulations imposed by the the state are becoming more and more angry.   They are channeling their anger of  not wearing  mask into a political movement against state control and a secret agenda.

Others in response are becoming increasingly angry with the absurdity of not wearing a mask or questioning the apparent danger of the virus.  This has led to conflicts and showdowns between maskers and non maskers.  Without good leadership in Washington, which is constantly sending mixed signals, individuals are becoming even more angry.

It is unfortunate that political divide and anger has even poured into the medical and scientific realms where safety against the virus is now questioned.   As this continues, individuals must keep their calm.  Wear the masks, keep distance and do not allow anger to overwhelm oneself when seeing someone who blatantly disregards safety due to their misdirected and unsound anger.  Two angry minds do not solve the problem.

However, fear has not only engulfed the social sphere but also home life.  Again where families should come together, one is discovering cases of domestic violence.   New schedules, unemployment frustration, cabin fever, and enforcing pandemic rules are a stress on families.  Many families are also gripped with fear and that fear can turn into outbursts.  This is even a more dangerous situation in households where domestic violence is already an ingredient of everyday life.

Overall, many Americans are acting calm outside and inside their homes, but as a nation, we collectively must remain calm.  One cannot allow fear of the virus, anger over the situation and stress of new guidelines to lead to conflict and confrontation.  It is far easier to become emotional but if everyone follows the guidelines, ignores the fringe minority, and works together as a family and community then this crisis will slowly go away.

Wearing masks, washing hands, and social distancing can help protect families from infection.   If everyone tries their best, then spread can be minimized.  As the country starts to re-open, new challenges will emerge and new cases, but everyone must not allow fear, stress and outside noise distract them from the task at hand.  This is going to be a long war on the virus and if the correct mindset is adopted, we can limit fear, reduce false expectations and face challenges with a sound mind.

Anger is something we do not need added to the already volatile situation.  Frustration over the situation is understandable but we cannot allow that frustration to turn into an anger that makes one  become enemies with one another or take political agendas over science and medical advice.

While dealing with these issues, please also review our Anger Management Consulting Certification Program.  The program is great for individuals who deal with anger issues or professionals seeking to become certified in the area of Anger Management.  Qualified professionals can become certified and the program is online and independent study.  The program leads to a four year certification which can be renewed every four years.

In the meantime, remember to stay calm, follow medical advice, and face the crisis one day at a time.  That is the best way to deal with the anger that is surrounding everyone due to this crisis without allowing it to enrage yourself.