Christian Echo Meditation

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

Christian Echo Meditation is something I sometimes utilize especially during Lent and when I wish to connect to Jesus during His passion. To my knowledge, I have not seen the concept in any recent publications, but it may very well exist as a practice with some of the saints and mystics.   Hence I labeled it as “Echo” because the meditation, prayer and communication is an echo from the “present” throughout time.  Echo meditation transcends time and in some ways allows one’s thoughts to become in essence a “time traveler”.  One is able to send prayers in a precise moment in history for a struggling saint, or to offer Jesus Christ condolences in the exact moment of His grief.

Through the Incarnation, Divinity entered into the temporal realm. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

 

For this to work, one must cease to think 3 dimensionally and realize how God recognizes time itself.   Christian philosophy teaches that God exists outside of time.  Classic Thomistic Metaphysics teaches that time is a creation of God and God does not adhere to a linear existence.   Unlike Modernist philosophers who place God and time side by side, Christian philosophy emphasizes the eternal nature of the Holy Trinity.  God exists in the moment encompassing past, present and future.  Creation, on the contrary, is confined to the existence of a linear process involving past, present and future.

The moment the Incarnation occurred, God entered into time.  The Hypostatic Union or the fusing of the Second Person’s Divine Nature with Jesus Christ’s Human Nature, placed the Logos within the time constraint of creation.   As Divine, Jesus Christ was eternal, but as human, Jesus Christ was also subject to past, present and future.  The Humanity of Jesus Christ permitted Him to love humanity within a reciprocal relationship as opposed to a relationship with an immutable Being unaffected in a personal way.  Christ’s Human Nature hence permitted a mutual relationship between Creator and creation that involved a reciprocal sharing of emotion.

Remember, God as Divine loves, but He is also immutable and in a perfect state of existence.  Hence, the change from one lesser state to another is impossible.  Aquinas again teaches that God is immutable.   This means God cannot change.  God exists within a perfect state of being.  He cannot change because anything altered would incur He was not already at the most perfect form of existence because He is God.

This begs the question how much can a Divine Being exist within a reciprocal relationship? Can a Divine Being share reciprocal emotional feelings that entail a relationship with temporal beings?  Can a Divine Being feel slighted or emotional betrayed by a temporal being?  The answer is no. God is not moved by appetites as human beings.   In such a way He has an impassibility that could make Him appear void of emotion.  While a Divine Being is perfectly formed and loves perfectly, the translation can become lost when interconnected with broken temporal creation; The issue is on the receiving end, not the Divine end.  This is why some Modernist doctrines attempted to derail God’s immutable qualities and subject Him to time and interaction at a reciprocal level but these concessions damaged the idea of a Divine nature far more than it helped solve the emotional connection between Perfect Creator and imperfect creation.

The answer to the problem was Jesus Christ.  Jesus Christ as a human being permitted the reciprocal relationship and His Divinity retained the immutable essence of a Divine Being.  Jesus Christ and the Hypostatic Union did not only solve the problem of humanity’s redemption, but also permitted God to love humanity in a reciprocal relationship.  Of course Modernists could never accept the notion of a human also being Divine and rejected the Incarnation, but that is different discussion for another day.

What is relevant for the purpose of Echo Meditation is that Jesus Christ permitted Divinity to co-exist also within temporal time.  Jesus Christ’s Divinity is hence a beacon in time to His temporal life that can be contacted at any moment in prayer.  While in traditional meditation, one focuses on the life Christ LIVED on earth, Echo Meditation focuses on the life Jesus is LIVING on earth.  In traditional meditation, one reflects on the past life of Christ and converses with the Risen Lord, in Echo Meditation, one does not reflect but lives and converses with Christ while He is alive and on Earth.

Utilizing the Divinity of Christ as a beacon, since Christ’s Divinity is eternal and senses past, present and future at once, one can speak to Christ’s humanity as well while He toiled on Earth.  Jesus can hence hear one’s thoughts and prayers 2000 years in future while He carries out His Father’s will.  Why is this important and how can Echo Meditation play a key role in one’s relationship with Christ?

In Echo Meditation one does not reflect but experiences with Christ His Passion

 

Like all instruments, different types of instruments have different functions.  Meditation and prayer also have different functions at different times.  Echo Meditation is to enhance one’s relationship with Christ in other ways than mere past reflection.  It permits one to walk with Christ and be there for Christ.  It is a meditation of service and adoration.  As Simon of Cyrene was so blessed to help Our Lord carry His cross, in Echo Meditation, one can also be present in Christ’s life.  One is able to whisper the echoes of our love to Christ in the moments of His life.  During Christ’s horrible desolation in the garden, one can remain with Him during His dark hour of prayer and whisper through time, words of love and encouragement.   During Christ’s Passion, one can console our Lord as He is physically whipped, beaten, abused and nailed to the cross.  Furthermore, one can stand at the cross and whisper through time, one’s love and words of encouragement to Christ and stay with Him the three hours He hangs from the cross.

Echo Meditation is in essence a meditation of discipleship and service.  It is a meditation of sojourning where one can walk with Christ in His daily life and actually share in the moment as if a disciple.  This does not dismiss reflective meditation and talking to our Lord in the present moment as He is Risen because again different meditations are meant for different goals and needs. Sometimes, however it is a beautiful thing to  actually whisper and echo one’s sentiments to Christ as He lives His daily life.  It is a way one can share the burden and comfort Christ’s humanity through His 33 year life on Earth.  What better gift can one give the Lord, than to encourage His Humanity with praise and adoration during His earthly ministry when so many failed to understand or walked away?  One can be voice of worship when others dismissed Him.  One can be a voice of reparation when others were a voice of blasphemy.   Our Lord, in that moment, can literally hear one’s support, adoration and love.  One’s discipleship can be present while He lived.

Those with stigmata are literally sharing in the present the same suffering of Christ. The boundary of time no longer exists

 

I believe the miracle of the Stigmata is a manifestation of this deep connection not only with the Risen Lord but also the Lord when He existed on Earth.  The Stigmata or sharing of Christ’s Wounds, experienced by such saints as St. Francis and St. Padre Pio miraculously displayed the wounds of Christ’s hands or feet. The nailed hands of Christ and the wounds were pieced upon these saints as a sign of solidarity and shared suffering.  These were not wounds of the Risen Christ, but wounds shared with the suffering Christ.  In this way, there is a historical connection that spans thousands of years between Christ and these souls.  This connection was current and a literal sharING.

In Catholic theology, the Mass is also seen to be a portal connecting past and present in one moment.  The Mass is seen as the same sacrifice of Calgary and since Christ’s blood paid the ransom of all sin past, present and future, eternally, then the sacrifice itself is an eternal sacrifice that is one and ongoing.  In Catholic theology, The Mass opens the veil of time and allows its participants not to reflect on the death of Christ but to experience the same event but in an un-bloody manner.  While not all Christians may adhere to this theology, it does point towards an idea that time and eternity can meet in prayer.

While this special connection in Echo Meditation can only occur with Jesus Christ since He is Divine as well as human, one can still offer prayers for things that have already occurred. Since God is eternal, one can pray for the comfort of the Blessed Virgin during Christ’s crucifixion, or one can pray for a favorite martyr or saint during their arrest and persecution.  One can pray for graces to be afforded to someone in time of spiritual trouble who lived 300 years ago.  Those prayers through their echo are seen by God in His eternal state and applied to the past itself.  In one account, Padre Pio was once asked by others during prayer, who he was praying for, and Padre Pio responded, he was praying at the death bed of his great grandfather.   The confused asked how could prayers aid one who has passed so long ago, and Padre Pio explained in similar fashion that prayers are eternal and can applied to any time or period.

Past, present and future, the triumphant, militant and suffering all are united in time through the Mystical Body of Christ

 

St. Paul introduced to the Church the concept of the Mystical Body of Christ.  The beauty of the Mystical Body of Christ, with Christ as its Head, as both Divine and Human, connects all souls, past, present and future in one love and one community.  The souls Triumphant in Heaven, the souls Suffering, and the souls Militant on Earth can all help each other through prayer and mutual love.  Through Christ and His Divinity prayers can be offered for each other throughout one’s temporal life and existence.   The Souls in Heaven can watch over the Souls Militant on Earth, but the Souls Militant can offer prayers that transcend time for even those that came before oneself.  In addition, all souls can pray for the Souls Suffering that they too may share in the life of Christ.

All are connected in time through the Eternal God and all are part of the Mystical Body of Christ, whether as part of His Church on Earth, or currently (as perceived by temporal time) with Him in Eternity.  Humanity’s temporal existence is not forever and the process of time as known on Earth will one day fade to the eternity one shares with Jesus Christ.  Through this intimate connection of the God-Man, the Mystical Body of Christ can cheat the laws of temporality with prayers that transcend time and allow oneself to even walk with Christ in His most difficult moments.  This is the purpose of Echo Meditation.

To learn more about Christian Meditation , please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification

Additional Resources on Meditation

“Incarnation”  Wikipedia. Access here

“What Does It Mean That Jesus Christ Is the Logos?”.  Paul Tambrino, EdD, PhD. December 31st, 2022. The Greater Christian Heritage Publishing. Access here

“MINDFULNESS: A CHRISTIAN APPROACH”. 2019. Focus on the Family. Access here

“Meditating on the Passion of Jesus”. Divine Mercy for America.  Access here

“Aquinas on Divine Immutability”. Austen Haynes. 2015.  PERFECTIHABIA. Access here

 

 

 

 

 

Dealing with Pet Loss Grief and How to Help Others.

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

By – James M. Katz, BA

As a pet owner, losing a beloved furry friend can be one of the most heart-wrenching experiences. The emotional toll of pet loss grief is often underestimated, leaving many pet owners feeling alone and overwhelmed. In this article, I will discuss the emotional toll of pet loss grief, the symptoms, coping mechanisms, dealing with guilt and regrets, navigating through the pain, support groups and resources, helping children cope, memorializing your pet, and finding closure to move forward.

Introduction to Pet Loss Grief

When a pet dies, it can feel like losing a family member. The emotional bond between a pet and its owner is strong, and the loss can be devastating. Pet loss grief is a normal and natural response to losing a pet. It is important to recognize and acknowledge the intense feelings that come with pet loss grief.

The article below goes in depth into how long people normally grieve as well as techniques you can use for yourself and others. It was especially impressive how to singled out a key point. Dealing with the loss of a pet is no different than grieving over the loss of a family member.

In one 2019 study, researchers found that 25% of owners ‘took between 3 and 12 months to accept the loss of their pet, 50% between 12 and 19 months, and 25% took between 2 and 6 years, to recover’.
Clearly, more of us are struggling than we might care to recognise. So, we spoke to grief and bereavement expert, Lianna Champ, about the best ways to remove the stigma and tackle this strangely taboo issue.
With over 40 years’ experience and a practical guide, How to Grieve like a Champ, under her belt, Lianna is an expert in how to deal with loss of any kind, including your pets. This is what she told us.

Full Article Here 

Commentary:Cat memorial marker in a pet cemetery.

Understanding Pet Loss Grief: The Emotional Toll

Pet loss grief can be a complicated and intense emotional process. It is a unique experience for each pet owner, as every relationship with a pet is different. The loss of a pet can trigger a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and loneliness. It is common to feel like a part of yourself is missing, and you may find yourself constantly thinking about your pet.

Pet loss grief can also impact physical health. It is not uncommon for pet owners to experience physical symptoms such as loss of appetite, insomnia, and fatigue. The emotional toll of pet loss grief can make it difficult to function in daily life, and it is important to take care of yourself during this time.

Symptoms of Pet Loss Grief

Pet loss grief can manifest in a variety of ways. Some common symptoms include:

• Intense sadness and crying
• Feelings of guilt and regret
• Anger and frustration
• Anxiety and depression
• Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
• Loss of appetite or overeating
• Insomnia or oversleeping

It is important to recognize that these symptoms are a normal part of the grieving process. It is okay to feel a wide range of emotions, and it is important to give yourself permission to grieve.

Coping Mechanisms for Pet Loss Grief

Coping with pet loss grief can be challenging, but there are many ways to navigate through the pain. One of the most important things you can do is to allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with grief. It is okay to cry, be angry, and feel sad.

Talking to others about your grief can also be helpful. Friends and family members may be able to offer comfort and support during this difficult time. Writing in a journal or participating in creative activities such as drawing or painting can also provide an outlet for expressing emotions.
Self-care is also important during the grieving process. Taking care of your physical health by getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising can help improve your mental health. It is also important to be patient with yourself and to allow yourself time to grieve.

Dealing with Guilt and Regrets After Pet Loss

Many pet owners experience guilt and regrets after the loss of a pet. You may find yourself questioning whether you did enough for your pet or if you made the right decisions regarding their care. It is important to remember that you did the best you could with the information and resources available to you at the time.

It can be helpful to write down your feelings of guilt and regrets and to discuss them with a trusted friend or family member. Talking through these feelings can help you gain perspective and find peace with your decisions.

Navigating Through the Pain of Pet Loss Grief

Navigating through the pain of pet loss grief is a process that takes time. It is important to be patient with yourself and to allow yourself to grieve. It is okay to seek professional help if you are struggling to cope with the loss of your pet. Therapy can provide a safe and supportive environment to process your emotions and work through the grieving process.

Support Groups and Resources for Pet Loss Grief

There are many support groups and resources available for pet owners who are grieving the loss of a pet. These resources can provide comfort and support during a difficult time. Some resources include:

• Pet loss hotlines
• Online support groups
• Grief counseling
• Pet loss books and literature
• Pet loss memorial services

Helping Children Cope with Pet Loss Grief

Losing a pet can be especially difficult for children. It is important to talk to children about the loss of their pet in an age-appropriate way. Encouraging children to express their emotions and providing a safe space for them to grieve can be helpful.

It can also be helpful to involve children in memorializing their pet. Creating a memorial or planting a tree in memory of their pet can provide a sense of closure and comfort.

Memorializing Your Pet

Memorializing your pet can be a meaningful way to honor their memory. There are many ways to memorialize your pet, including:

• Creating a photo album or scrapbook
• Planting a tree or garden in memory of your pet
• Donating to an animal charity in memory of your pet
• Creating a memorial plaque or stone for your pet’s grave

Moving Forward After Pet Loss: Finding Closure

Finding closure after the loss of a pet can be a long and difficult process. It is important to take the time to grieve and to allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with pet loss grief.

Creating a memorial for your pet can provide a sense of closure and comfort. It is also important to remember the happy times you shared with your pet and to celebrate their life.

Conclusion

Losing a pet can be one of the most difficult experiences a pet owner can face. The emotional toll of pet loss grief can be intense and overwhelming. It is important to recognize and acknowledge the feelings that come with pet loss grief and to allow yourself to grieve.

Coping mechanisms such as talking to others, self-care, and seeking professional help can be helpful during the grieving process. Memorializing your pet can also provide a sense of closure and comfort. Remembering the happy times you shared with your pet can help you find peace and move forward after pet loss grief.

If you are a good listener and have excellent people skills then you might be interested in training to become a pet loss grief counselor. We offer a full program designed to teach you techniques designed to help others deal with the loss of their pets. For details please follow this link.

References:

Helpguide.org: Guide to Pet Loss

Cleveland Clinic: Loss of a Pet

Additional Resources:

Online Survey as Empathic Bridging for the Disenfranchised Grief of Pet Loss. OMEGA – Journal of Death and Dying, Packman, W., Carmack, B. J., Katz, R., Carlos, F., Field, N. P., & Landers, C. (2014).  69(4), 333–356. https://doi.org/10.2190/OM.69.4.a
Access link here 

Veterinary social work: Practice within veterinary settings, Journal of Human Behavior in the Social Environment, T. Melissa Holcombe, Elizabeth B. Strand, William R. Nugent & Zenithson Y. Ng (2016)  26:1, 69-80, DOI: 10.1080/10911359.2015.1059170
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Older women’s experiences of companion animal death: impacts on well-being and aging-in-place. Wilson, D.M., Underwood, L., Carr, E. et al.  BMC Geriatr 21, 470 (2021). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12877-021-02410-8
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Pet Loss: Understanding Disenfranchised Grief, Memorial Use, and Posttraumatic Growth, Breeanna Spain, Lisel O’Dwyer & Stephen Moston (2019)  Anthrozoös, 32:4, 555-568, DOI: 10.1080/08927936.2019.1621545
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Healthy Spirituality

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

One of the most common neglected health aspects of oneself is spiritual health.  Like many things unseen, it is often neglected, but like many unseen things, they can cause the most damage to oneself overall happiness and health.  Spirituality especially is important since it is the soul that is eternal.  The temporal body is temporary and will one day again rise, but in its current fallen state, its needs should always come second to the soul.

Healthy spirituality within is critical to spreading the Gospel. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

 

Like unhealthy roots to a tree, the soul nourishes the overall life of the body and mind.  When a soul is dark, life itself is dark.  Guided by the impulses of the flesh and self, one can very easily become dark within and have a very unhealthy spiritual life.  Even those who prayer and monitor their own spiritual life can become victim poor health.  Whether is poor spiritual hygiene, gross neglect, or viceful choices, the soul that is unkept is a danger to eternal life.

The article, “5 questions to assess your spiritual health” by Dan Delzell looks at a few questions one should ask oneself in spiritual assessment.   Questions dealing with self righteousness, judgmental attitudes, sinful life styles and selfishness are all things Delzell asks the reader to look for.  He states,

“The Greek philosopher Socrates famously said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” With that insight in mind, here are five questions that can help you assess your spiritual health.  Am I self-righteous, or is my righteousness rooted in Christ alone? Man by nature is self-righteous. That is, man assumes he can make himself righteous in God’s sight by performing good deeds and religious works. Are you attempting to gain entrance into Heaven as a result of your personal righteousness? If so, then you are currently choosing to be self-righteous.”

“5 questions to assess your spiritual health”. Dan Delzell. The Christian Post.

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Commentary

Delzell’s article hits the spot for one of the first thing that needs to be examined and that is whether or not one is a Christian in name only.  Does one merely adhere to rituals but never live the faith? Is one’s faith part of one’s life in every aspect?  Does one live a secular life only without any regard to God’s law?  There is always a call to action in Christian life.

Another important element touched by Delzell is one righteous in Christ or self righteous?  Many individuals are Pharisaical in their Christian life.  They judge others and find themselves to be great because they are Christian and someone else is not.  They hold others to standards that they themselves cannot hold and care more about their social look in the church than their private Christian life.

Numerous Pharisaical Christians condemn others, justify their superiority because of the title Christian and feel all must bend their knee to Christian ideals.  All to common, they also mix politics with faith and create a nationalized blend of Christianity that discriminates and hates others.  In many ways, like the Pharisees before them, they would crucify Jesus, Himself, if He stood up to their hypocrisy.

Spiritual Sloth

Spiritual neglect to the soul can take the form in sloth where spiritual hygiene prevents the soul from growing in the grace of the Holy Spirit

 

Spiritual health is also determined by spiritual life.  It is of no wonder then that after pride and Pharisaical ideals, spiritual sloth is a killer to spiritual life.  The habitual life style of spiritual sloth is likened to poor hygiene.  One’s soul does not receive the cleaning and the grace it needs due to poor spiritual hygiene.  Laziness in prayer, refusal to go to Mass or service, closing oneself to Scripture, or avoiding the Sacraments are all examples of spiritual sloth.  The soul requires grace and through the prayer, fasting, and sharing the faith, the soul awakens and is cleaned by the grace of the Holy Spirit.

Spiritual Barreness

Some individuals enter into deep spiritual isolation and desolation. They are tempted by the materialism and atheism of the world.  They may be spiritually injured due to trauma, or loss of a loved one and have lost there way.  They seek God but cannot hear Him.  They may be angry, or depressed but they feel no spiritual life.  While in some cases, desolation can bring one closer to God over time, it can also for some lead them away.  The individual loses hope.  They fall into despair.

Others question their faith when prayers are not answered.  They either become angry God would not answer a prayer, or feel their prayer was not good enough.  Their childlike faith views faith as a contract not a covenant.  It fails to see the role of suffering and offering up one’s cross.

Poor Conscience

Others possess a poor internal compass.  The conscience itself which guides individuals towards God’s law naturally is distorted.  It is either erroneous, or poorly formed.  This lax conscience does not sting the soul when wrong is committed, either due to apathy or ignorance.  Some consciences are hyper vigilant or scrupulous in nature and can haunt a person into believing every action is a sin.  Properly formed consciences are key to a good spiritual life.

Spiritual Imbalance

Individuals can also suffer from a spiritual imbalance in life.  In Christianity, spirituality and religious life balance the person as a whole.  Spirituality is the daily personalized and internal element of spiritual life.  It is meditation, Scripture, reflection and prayer.  Religious life is ritual outside one’s personal space.  It is proclaiming the victory of Christ in public and socially with other believers.

Both need to be balanced in order for one find Christ and share Christ.

Christian Guidance

Good spiritual health requires spiritual food from Scripture and the Sacraments which are given through the Holy Spirit and forever fueled by Christ’s death on the cross

 

Whether secularized, proud, slothful, barren, childlike or a broken conscience, individuals can find Christ.  Like the properly planted mustard seed, it can grow and bear fruit if on good soil.  It is a battle of constant maintenance.  It involves an active prayer life, spirituality, a social religious life, Christian action, and reception of God’s Word and the sacraments.  Only through grace can good actions find any merit or be guided properly.  The Holy Spirit has granted individuals many venues for grace through the death of Christ.  It is important to utilize these sources to live a more full Christian life.

Furthermore, examination of conscience is key.  During Lent, one is especially able with the community of the faithful to celebrate the season of reflection and rectify certain vices, habits, or issues one may have with God.

Christian Counselors, Christian Mentors, Spiritual Advisors can all play key roles in helping one in Christian spirituality and life.  They can be a friend, parent, or member of the clergy.  They are someone with spiritual knowledge and practice that can help one grow in spiritual growth, discern life and share the Gospel.

Beyond becoming closer to Christ, spirituality also encompasses many religions and traditions.  Religious and spiritual mindsets can play very important roles in mental and physical health as well.  Religious principles can guide and anchor oneself when storms arise in life.  They can be a source of calm and peace.  It is also wise to turn to the saints and their numerous writings on spirituality and spiritual life.  Many of their thoughts and ideas can help many struggling Christians.

Christian Counseling

If you would like to help others in their spiritual quest from a Christian world view, then please review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification.

 

Additional Resources

“What Is Conscience?”. Joe Carter. March 4th, 2014. The Gospel Coalition.  Access here

“Spiritual Health: A Comprehensive Guide”.  Jenny Roland. March 14th, 2023. Spirit Restoration.  Access here

“The Spiritual Side of Sloth”. BeliefNet.  Access here

Consolation and Desolation. Vinita Hampton Wright. Ignatian Spirituality. Access here

 

Ambiguous Grief

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

Ambiguous Grief is a loss that cannot find closure.  It often involves dealing with someone in coma, possesses a mental disorder that prevents them from living a fulfilling life, or cases of abduction, missing children, missing pets, or soldiers lost at war.  The person is unable to find closure in processing the type of loss.  Some give up hope because holding on hurts too much, while others never surrender.  Numerous emotions erupt in this type of loss. Individuals may be enraged or feel guilty.

Ambiguous grief and the pain of not knowing prevents closure. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

Some look to find meaning in the loss through social activism and helping others find closure.  Overall, it is a grief ripe with complications that haunts the person the rest of his or her life.  It is good to allow those who wish to hold on to hope to continue within realism, while others who need to let it go, to finally let it go.  Depression is very common with this type of loss so in many cases extensive counseling and support is needed.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification

 

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Emotional Freedom Technique / EFT : How Does It Work?

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By – James M. Katz, BA

Have you ever heard of the Emotional Freedom Technique / EFT or remote energy healing? These two practices may seem like new-age concepts to some, but they have been around for centuries. EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique, is a type of energy psychology that involves tapping on specific points on the body to release emotional blockages. It is said to help with a wide range of issues, from anxiety and depression to physical pain and chronic illness.

Remote energy healing, on the other hand, is a form of healing that can be done from a distance. It is based on the idea that everything in the universe is connected through energy, and that energy can be manipulated for healing purposes. Practitioners of remote energy healing use various techniques to send positive energy to a person, even if they are not physically present.

In the article below, it goes into detail what remote energy healing really is. It explains how we are energy and how it can be used to benefit us. It differs from EFT. Emotional Freedom Technique much like acupuncture taps energy points to help release negative energy and promote balance.

“Every experience we encounter can leave an energetic impression on our biofield, and because the body has a natural ability to heal itself, we are able to brush most things off. But often, too much of the same stimulus—like everyday stress or traumatic events—can alter our natural way of being. We build defenses to adapt to our environment, getting further away from our purest expression, and our unique frequency gets distorted. Energy work seeks to remove that disruption in your energy and move you closer to re-alignment.

REMOTE ENERGY HEALING: Does It Actually Work? By POOSH. POOSH: Soul, April 2023.

 Full Article Here

Commentary: Businessman practicing EFT or emotional freedom technique - tapping on the karate chop point

What is EFT?

EFT is based on the principles of acupuncture, but instead of using needles, it involves tapping on specific points on the body. These points are located on the meridian lines, which are the channels through which energy flows in the body. By tapping on these points, EFT is said to help release emotional blockages and balance the body’s energy.

The tapping is done while focusing on a specific issue, such as anxiety or pain. While tapping, the person repeats a statement that acknowledges the issue and affirms their self-acceptance. This is said to help release the emotional charge associated with the issue and lead to a sense of calm and peace.

Understanding Remote Energy Healing

Remote energy healing is based on the idea that everything in the universe is made up of energy, including our bodies. When our energy is out of balance, it can lead to physical, emotional, and mental health problems. Remote energy healing works by sending positive energy to a person, even if they are not physically present.

There are many different techniques used in remote energy healing, including Reiki, Quantum Touch, and Pranic Healing. Practitioners of remote energy healing believe that by sending positive energy to a person, they can help balance their energy and promote healing.

The Science behind the Emotional Freedom Technique and Remote Energy Healing

While EFT and remote energy healing may seem like mystical practices, there is actually scientific evidence to support their effectiveness. Studies have shown that EFT can help reduce symptoms of anxiety, depression, PTSD, and chronic pain. One study even found that EFT was more effective than cognitive-behavioral therapy for reducing symptoms of depression.

Similarly, studies have shown that remote energy healing can have a positive effect on physical and emotional health. One study found that patients who received remote energy healing had a significant reduction in pain and anxiety compared to those who did not receive the treatment.

While the exact mechanisms behind EFT and remote energy healing are not fully understood, some theories suggest that they work by promoting the relaxation response in the body. This response is associated with a decrease in stress hormones and an increase in feel-good hormones like serotonin and dopamine.

The Benefits of the Emotional Freedom Technique and Remote Energy Healing

The benefits of EFT and remote energy healing are vast and varied. Some of the most commonly reported benefits of EFT include:

  • Reduced symptoms of anxiety and depression
  • Improved sleep
  • Reduced physical pain
  • Increased sense of well-being
  • Improved relationships

Similarly, some of the benefits of remote energy healing include:

  • Reduced stress and anxiety
  • Improved mood
  • Increased energy and vitality
  • Improved immune system function
  • Faster recovery from illness and injury

How EFT and Remote Energy Healing Work Together

EFT and remote energy healing can be used together to promote even greater healing. One way this is done is by using EFT to release emotional blockages that may be contributing to physical health problems. For example, if a person is experiencing chronic pain, EFT can be used to release any emotional trauma that may be contributing to the pain.

Once the emotional blockages have been released, remote energy healing can be used to promote physical healing. By sending positive energy to the affected area, the body’s natural healing processes can be activated, leading to faster recovery.

The Role of Emotions in EFT and Remote Energy Healing

Emotions play a crucial role in both EFT and remote energy healing. In EFT, the tapping is done while focusing on a specific emotion or issue. By acknowledging and accepting the emotion, it can be released, leading to a sense of calm and peace.

Similarly, remote energy healing works by balancing the body’s energy, which can be disrupted by negative emotions. By promoting positive emotions like love and gratitude, remote energy healing can help balance the body’s energy and promote healing.

Techniques for Practicing EFT and Remote Energy Healing

While EFT and remote energy healing are best done with the guidance of a trained practitioner, there are techniques that can be done at home. For EFT, there are many online resources and videos that can guide you through the tapping process. It is important to focus on a specific issue and to repeat a positive affirmation while tapping.

For remote energy healing, there are many different techniques that can be used, including visualization, meditation, and prayer. It is important to find a technique that resonates with you and to practice it regularly.

EFT and Remote Energy Healing Research and Studies

There is a growing body of research on EFT and remote energy healing, with many studies showing promising results. However, more research is needed to fully understand the mechanisms behind these practices and to determine their effectiveness for different health conditions.

Finding an EFT and Remote Energy Healing Practitioner

If you are interested in trying EFT or remote energy healing, it is important to find a trained practitioner who can guide you through the process. Look for someone who is certified and has experience working with your specific health condition.

Conclusion

EFT and remote energy healing are two practices that have been around for centuries and are gaining popularity in the modern world. While they may seem like mystical concepts, there is scientific evidence to support their effectiveness. By tapping into the body’s energy and promoting positive emotions, these practices can help promote healing and improve overall well-being. If you are interested in trying EFT or remote energy healing, be sure to find a trained practitioner who can guide you through the process.

If you are interested in learning more about the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) then you should review our online video seminar here 

References:

Healthline.com Remote Energy Healing

Wikipedia Energy Healing

Additional Resources:

Energy Healing and Pain: A Review of the Literature. Holistic Nursing Practice. Fazzino, Dolores L. DNP, RN, FNP-BC, CRNFA et al. 24(2):p 79-88, March 2010. | DOI: 10.1097/HNP.0b013e3181d39718

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Consciousness Energy Healing Treatment Based Herbomineral Formulation: A Safe and Effective Approach for Skin Health. Jagdish Singh et al. American Journal of Pharmacology and Phytotherapy > 2017 > 2 > 1 > 1 – 10

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A Consideration of the Perspectives of Healing Practitioners on Research Into Energy Healing. Sara L. Warber, MD et al 2015;4(suppl):72-78. DOI: 10.7453/ gahmj.2015.014.suppl

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Emotional Freedom Techniques for Anxiety: A Systematic Review With Meta-analysis. The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease.  Clond, Morgan PhD. et al. 204(5):p 388-395, May 2016. | DOI: 10.1097/NMD.0000000000000483

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Attachment Disorders and Grief

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Human beings are social creatures by nature.  They need care and nurturing in their infancy to properly form bonds with caregivers.  These bonds teach security and help bolster individuals and their social development with others they meet.  Future intimate relationships and friendships are dependent upon initial bonds.  Healthy and secure bonds with the primary caregiver translate to healthier social interaction in the future.

John Bowlby, famous psychoanalyst, worked extensively in the area of attachment.  His attachment theory today remains a benchmark for understanding individuals who suffer various attachment disorders stemming from their infancy and early childhood.

Infants need trust and security in forming early bonds. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

The article, “What Is an Attachment Disorder?” by Amy Morin examines the various types of attachment disorders.  The article discusses the origins of attachment disorders, the types, and how they manifest during childhood and later in life.  Morin states,

“An attachment disorder is a condition that affects mood or behavior and makes it difficult for people to form and maintain relationships with others. These conditions usually begin in early childhood, but attachment issues may also persist into adulthood.  Attachment issues are not an official diagnosis, but people use the term to refer to an insecure attachment style in adults. Adults with insecure attachment styles may express avoidance or ambivalence in relationships or behave in disorganized or inconsistent ways.”

“What Is an Attachment Disorder?”. Amy Morin. November 14th, 2022. VeryWellMind

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Commentary

Attachment disorders can play havoc with individual’s future relationships and how they form future bonds.  It is so critical to give little children the love and nurture they need.  When a child’s needs are not met, they can lose trust.  Without trust, the child is becomes untrusting and unable to trust other caregivers or form other bonds.  Bowlby noticed this in his observations of little babies that were cared for when they cried or were hungry as opposed to babies that were left to cry by their parents or their needs were not met.  This created unhealthy bonds with the caregiver and proceeded forward.  What should have been a healthy bond that is trusting and secure, the child exhibited lack of trust and various insecurities.

Clinical Attachment Disorders

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manuel of Mental Disorders recognizes two distinct types of attachment disorders.  They both are due to lack of care and needs met at a young age and both exhibit insecurity and lack of trust but they manifest differently.  The first is Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder in which the child and later the adult exhibit problems forming true and lasting relationships with others but will look to form superficial bonds that are not permanent.  In children, this is displayed with a lack of shyness around strangers or other adults.  In teen years, they may outwardly form relationships but they are unable to find connection with others and true meaning.  This obviously can lead to many superficial issues.

Children can form avoidant or anxious type disorders when healthy bonds are not formed.

 

The second type of attachment disorder is Reactive Attachment Disorder.  The child and later adult are unable to form new bonds with anyone.  They are quiet, untrusting of caregivers, and avoidant of forming new relationships.  Many are unable to form the necessary connection to have any type of meaningful relationships.  They in turn will jump from relationship to relationship without having any true connection or meaning.

Characteristics of Attachment Disorders

Insecure attachment disorders form due to the lack of security that most children receive at an early age.  Without the security and love, the child grows into new relationships with serious trust issues.  Anxious-Insecure Attachment is the labeled term.    The child exhibits with the primary caregiver a very needy and clingy relationship that pushes for and craves attention but due to the lack of emotional support leads to the numerous issues of mistrust and anxiety in adult relationships.  Anxiety apart from a partner develops and a range of issues can erupt within the relationship itself.  These individuals can become very possessive and clingy in a relationship.

The other spectrum involves Avoidant-Insecure.  This behavior as opposed to clingy and anxious behavior looks to avoid.  These types of children avoid future relationships with adults and as adults, themselves, have a difficult time ever forming permanent bonds with another person.  As children they will look for others to meet needs and form superficial bonds.  They will become unhealthy independent of others.  In future relationships, they can elusive or afraid to commit.

There are also a variety of Disorganized-Insecure attachments where rage or emotion overtake individuals or chaotic anxiety.

The Importance of Secure Attachment

Obviously life is about relationships and social bonds.  A secure attachment permits trust. In turn a healthy attachment permits one to be trusting, open, available, sensitive, responding and accepting to others.  Those without form bonds that are clouded in emotional rage, distrust, anxiety and avoidance.

Unhealthy bonds carry into adulthood and Anxious-Insecure or Avoidant-Insecure disorders can manifest in men and women

 

In grief and loss, attachment is key.  The greater the attachment, the greater the loss and adjustment.  Individuals who have healthy relationships grieve the loss but with less complications due to emotional barriers that prevented the relationship from being more healthy.  If a parent passes, an adult who has a attachment disorder may have conflicting emotions regarding the loss and not process the loss the same way as a person with a healthy relationship and bond.  The sting of grief is still great within a normal bond and could still due to other implications become complicated, but unhealthy attachments can bring other emotional baggage.  Grief Counselors who are not licensed need to recognize possible attachment disorders and refer individuals to licensed counselors who can better help them with the complications of the loss.

Helping Children with Attachment Disorders

Beyond therapy from a licensed counselor, children can benefit from consistency, schedule and establishing boundaries.  It is important to discuss emotions and how one feels.  The goal is to help the child feel some sort of security with guaranteed promises and actions to meet the needs that were not met before.

Conclusion

Forming secure bonds with a young infant and toddler is key to helping the child develop future healthy relationships

 

Individuals who due to lack of care in infancy and young childhood will experience avoidant behaviors or anxious behaviors in future relationships.  They will have difficulty forming healthy bonds with others.  Grieving the loss of others can also become more complicated when attachment disorders are present.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in grief counseling.

Additional Resources

“4 Types of Attachment Disorders”. March 23, 2017. The Holy Mess. Access here

“Types of Attachment Styles and What They Mean”. Rhona Lewis. September 25th, 2022. Healthline. Access here

“What Is Reactive Attachment Disorder?”. Amy Morin. October 11th, 2021. VeryWellMind. Access here

“Attachment” Psychology Today Staff. Psychology Today.  Access here

Holistic Approaches with Exercise for Depression

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If one is dealing with grief or loss it can be a difficult time to balance oneself emotionally.  Adapting to loss can take a long time.  Unfortunately, complications in the grieving process can occur which can lead to depression.  Clinical Counselors can help individuals deal with depression however sometimes medication are required to help balance the brain during depression.  Many prefer healthy coping strategies or herbal remedies.

Exercise can help against depression but it can be difficult to start when depression itself causes fatigue. However studies show exercise has an extremely positive effect against depression for those who are able to utilize it

 

One successful strategy is exercise. Exercise has an ability to release endorphins that elevate one’s mood and grant a higher sense of self and accomplishment.  Of course the biggest problem is motivation to work out or exercise while depressed but for those who are able to find the ability to exercise, will find rewards during depression.  Exercise has been shown to be more effective for individuals dealing with depression.  The article, “Move Your Mind: Exercise Outperforms Medication for Depression and Anxiety” by Ben Singh, Carol Maher,  and Jacinta Brinsley from University of South Australia reviews the benefits of exercise to cope with depression over various medications.  The article states,

“Exercise is believed to impact mental health through multiple pathways, and with short and long-term effects. Immediately after exercise, endorphins and dopamine are released in the brain. In the short term, this helps boost mood and buffer stress. Long term, the release of neurotransmitters in response to exercise promotes changes in the brain that help with mood and cognition, decrease inflammation, and boost immune function, which all influence our brain function and mental health.”

“Move Your Mind: Exercise Outperforms Medication for Depression and Anxiety”. Ben Singh, Carol Maher,  and Jacinta Brinsley. April 11th, 2023. SciTechDaily.

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Commentary

Holistic and Integrative Health Care Specialists look for alternative and other ways to help individuals face mental and physical issues from a more natural standpoint.  Grief Counselors also look to help individuals cope with grief through support and advice. The simplicity of exercise alone can play a key role in a grief counseling plan as a well as a holistic perspective in dealing with loss and if worst depression.

A Closer Look at Grief and Exercise in Holistic and Integrative Practices

 

Depression is a complex mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide. It can be caused by a variety of factors, including genetics, trauma, and environmental stressors. Symptoms of depression can include persistent feelings of sadness, loss of interest in activities, changes in appetite and sleep patterns, and difficulty concentrating.

While depression is often treated with medication and therapy, these methods may not be enough for some individuals. That’s where a holistic approach comes in. Rather than simply addressing the symptoms of depression, a holistic approach takes into account the whole person and aims to treat the root cause of the problem.

The Limitations of Traditional Treatment

Traditional treatment methods for depression can be effective, but they often only address one aspect of the problem. Medication, for example, can help alleviate symptoms of depression, but it doesn’t address the underlying causes of the condition. Similarly, therapy can be helpful in providing coping mechanisms and support, but it may not be enough to fully address the problem.

That’s why a holistic approach that considers the whole person is so important. By addressing all aspects of the problem – physical, mental, and emotional – a holistic approach can be more effective in treating depression.

What is a Holistic Approach to Depression?

A holistic approach to depression is one that takes into account the whole person – mind, body, and spirit. Rather than simply treating the symptoms of depression, a holistic approach aims to treat the root cause of the problem. This can include addressing physical health issues, such as poor nutrition or lack of exercise, as well as emotional and spiritual issues.

A holistic approach to depression may include a variety of different treatments, such as therapy, medication, and alternative therapies like acupuncture or massage. The goal is to create a comprehensive treatment plan that addresses all aspects of the problem.

The Importance of Exercise for Mental Health

Exercise has a large impact on mental health. Please also review AIHCP’s Holistic and Integrative Healthcare Specialist Certification

 

Exercise is a powerful tool in the fight against depression. Research has shown that regular exercise can be just as effective as medication in treating mild to moderate depression. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood-boosters, and can help reduce stress and anxiety.

In addition, exercise can have a positive impact on self-esteem and confidence, both of which can be negatively affected by depression. By incorporating exercise into a depression treatment plan, individuals can improve their overall mental health and well-being.

How Exercise Affects the Brain and Body

Exercise has a powerful impact on both the brain and body. Physically, exercise can help improve cardiovascular health, increase muscle strength and flexibility, and improve overall physical fitness. Mentally, exercise can help reduce stress and anxiety, improve mood, and increase cognitive function.

Research has also shown that exercise can help promote the growth of new brain cells, which can help improve cognitive function and reduce the risk of cognitive decline. By incorporating regular exercise into a depression treatment plan, individuals can improve both their physical and mental health.

The Benefits of Incorporating Exercise into Your Depression Treatment Plan

Incorporating exercise into a depression treatment plan can have a number of benefits. First and foremost, exercise can help improve mood and reduce symptoms of depression. In addition, exercise can help improve overall physical health and well-being, which can have a positive impact on mental health.

Regular exercise can also help individuals develop a sense of routine and structure, which can be helpful in managing depression. Exercise can provide a sense of accomplishment and can help improve self-esteem and confidence.

Types of Exercises Recommended for Depression

There are a variety of different types of exercise that can be effective in treating depression. Aerobic exercise, such as running or cycling, can be particularly effective in reducing symptoms of depression. Yoga and other mind-body practices can also be helpful in reducing stress and anxiety.

Strength training, such as weightlifting, can help improve overall physical fitness and can have a positive impact on mental health as well. Finding an exercise routine that you enjoy and can stick to is key in incorporating exercise into a depression treatment plan.

Incorporating Other Holistic Practices into Your Routine

In addition to exercise, there are a variety of other holistic practices that can be helpful in treating depression. These can include therapy, meditation, acupuncture, massage, and more. By incorporating a variety of different practices into a depression treatment plan, individuals can address all aspects of the problem and improve overall health and well-being.

Additional Resources for Holistic Depression Treatment

If you’re interested in a more holistic approach to depression treatment, there are a variety of resources available. Talk to your doctor or mental health professional about incorporating exercise and other holistic practices into your treatment plan. You can also look for local support groups or classes that focus on holistic health and wellness.

Conclusion: Taking a Holistic, Whole-Person Approach to Depression

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification Program, as well as its Holistic and Integrative Healthcare Specialist Certification

 

Depression is a complex condition that requires a comprehensive treatment plan. While traditional treatment methods can be effective, they often only address one aspect of the problem. By incorporating exercise and other holistic practices into a depression treatment plan, individuals can address all aspects of the problem and improve overall health and well-being.

It’s important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to depression treatment. What works for one person may not work for another. That’s why it’s important to work with your doctor or mental health professional to develop a personalized treatment plan that addresses your unique needs and circumstances.

If you’re struggling with depression, know that there is hope. By taking a holistic, whole-person approach to treatment, you can improve your mental, physical, and emotional health and live a happier, healthier life.

Please also review AIHCP’s Holistic and Integrative Healthcare Specialist Program as well as AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals.  Please review and see if the programs meet your academic and professional goals.

 

Christian Counseling and Anti-Social Personality Disorders

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Due to the fall of Adam, sin entered the world.  With sin came a host of maladies and pathologies effecting the human brain.  Among the most notable are the Anti-Social Personality Disorders.  Primarily Narcissism, Sociopathy and Psychopathy.   While these conditions exhibit problems within the brain and it functioning, many of them are also learned behaviors.  Hence they are both nature and nurture.  Culpability before the throne of God for souls afflicted with these conditions are left to the judgement of God, but there is definitely not a free pass for the wickedness that exists in the hearts of these individuals.  Scripture speaks clearly against those who love oneself above God and neighbor.  It is clear that the deeds of the wicked that lead to multiple sins and atrocities originate within the heart of the wicked and oppose the law of God and love Christ demands for others.

It is critically important to note that Christian Counseling is not a clinical profession.  Unlicensed counselors are not permitted to treat Anti-Social Personality Disorders.  While Scripture can give one an idea on where these wicked hearts emerge and how one must turn to Christ, it does not provide step by step clinical instructions for therapy.  Only licensed professional counselors and other licensed mental health professionals are permitted to work with these disturbed minds.  If a licensed professional wishes to employ Scripture as a source of guidance and inspiration during treatment this is fine, but Scripture should not be seen as a clinical guide to physically healing the mind.  Instead it can serve as a spiritual supplement of guidance and hopefully a source of grace.

Anti-Social Personality Disorders: Sociopathy and Psychopathy

A sociopath has no moral compass and feels no remorse. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

 

It is also critically important to note the differences between the Anti-Social Personality Disorders.   Sociopathy while not clinically labeled is a severe detachment from social norms and laws.  The sociopath’s personality over time and development is allowed to corrupt the soul until, like Narcissism, a malignant self love emerges.  In turn, the sociopath puts him or herself above all others and all other laws.  The conscience itself becomes corrupted and unable to offer any moral direction.  In addition, the sociopath experiences lack of empathy for his or her actions.  Whatever it takes, a sociopath will do to complete a desire or task.  Without remorse, the ability to accept consequences, or a properly aligned moral compass, the sociopath will prey upon others to achieve his or her goals.  The sociopath will manipulate, coerce, lie, cheat and in some cases, also pursue physical violence to achieve his or her ends.

Psychopathy is very similar but at a larger extreme than sociopathy.  Psychopaths clinically have issues within the brain that cause a detachment.  Unlike sociopathy which emerges usually to some type of trauma, psychopathy is some type of processing issue within the brain.  It is both nature but through poor nurture can become far worst.  Psychopaths are narcissistic in nature as well but are more cunning and detached.  Sociopaths are impulsive and emotional, while a psychopath is more calculated, cunning and cold hearted in carrying out a plan.   While some sociopaths may recognize fault in some actions albeit still do it without issue, psychopaths exhibit zero emotional reaction.  Both utilize manipulation, lies, and any means necessary to achieve an end, but a psychopath is more equipped to maintain a normal demeanor.  Both can be charming but a psychopaths detachment is far more severe and cold hearted.  It is also important to note that both sociopathy and psychopathy are narcissistic in nature but not necessarily the same as a pure narcissist although closely related.

A Psychopath is far more detached and calculating than a sociopath.

 

Psychopathy and psychosis are also two different related things but sometimes hand and hand.  Psychosis refers to mental and delusional attachment.   Psychosis is not a personality disorder but a condition usually associated with another condition.   It can stem from schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, or other maladies that cause delusions or hallucinations.

In movies, especially Alfred Hitchcock’s “Psycho” or “American Psycho” starring Christian Bale or even the Netflix series “YOU”, one sees a more extreme of these anti-social personality disorders.  One sees the common depiction and use of the word as a murderous and crazy individual.  In some cases, even interchanging the words.  While these extremes exist, for the most part sociopaths and psychopaths exist in a less gory reality where they manipulate, cheat, lie and steal without regard for other’s safety, reputation, money, or career.

The Conscience

From a Christian light, again, evil comes within the broken heart of humanity through the sin of Adam.  It is a deviation from God and a choice of one’s will over another.  These personality disorders take the level of sin to a new level of evil.  They are not mere isolated acts of selfishness and detachment but habitual existence of evil itself.  The greatest issue is the broken moral conscience.  The conscience is an important element within Christian spiritual and moral life.  The Natural Law intrinsically guides human beings to what is right and wrong at the most fundamental level.  When the Natural Law, the law written by God in one’s heart, is broken, guilt presides, but with personality disorders, this guilt is silenced.  At a young age, it is important for parents to teach their children about the Law of God and teach children to conform their conscience to the commandments.

When a conscience is not properly formed, it can lead to an erroneous conscience.  This conscience leads one to falsehoods.  Personality Disorders such as narcissism, sociopathy and psychopathy go well beyond the faults of an erroneous conscience, but a completely unrepairable conscience that values only self.  Without any checks or balances on the conscience, the person is free to perform whichever acts without emotional consequence.

Both sociopaths and psychopaths have improperly formed consciences that are incapable of permitting remorse

 

It is very difficult for such a person to ever ask God for forgiveness or seek help because their personality is so detached and wicked.  It only sees the value of self and seeks not remorse or forgiveness.  At younger ages, therapy can be applied but it is difficult with children to detect a selfish element that is a permanent disposition versus phases of development.  This is why it is important for parents to be vigilant in forming a healthy conscience within their child.  However, for those who are older and trapped by this demonic pathology, it is far more difficult to help due to the fact the person does not seek it.

Those who do seek some type of help can with a licensed mental health professional proceed through a variety of cognitive exercises to curb impulsiveness and identify bad behavior and its consequences.  This cognitive behavior looks to at least help such a person identify wrong, even if the person many not experience the normal emotional responses.  In addition, medical doctors and psychiatrists can prescribe certain medications that are anti-psychotic in nature or mood stabilizing. From a spiritual standpoint, Scripture, reception of the sacraments, frequent confession and reception of the Eucharist can help heal the mentally infirmed through the grace of God.  Again with God all things are possible.

Conclusion

For habitual sins and evil shrouded in disorder, one must pray to God for true healing and conversion. In many cases, only God’s eternal love and mercy and grace can save these souls

 

If one is living with any of these types of conditions, as with narcissism, it is important to understand the disorder, understand how to respond it, how to protect oneself and how to establish boundaries.   If it is a casual acquaintance it may be best to avoid or find a reason to create distance.  Many Christians feel they are abandoning a soul, but one cannot let ego or spiritual pride step in the way.  One is not the source of grace and salvation but only God.  Sometimes prayer from the distance is the best solution.  For those in closer relationships, emotional safety, counseling, support groups, assessment of their threat level and prayer are essential in their daily cross of dealing with such persons.  Ultimately, these individuals are very dangerous and should be handled with care or left alone!

If you would like to learn more about helping others through Christian principles and Biblical ideals, then please review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Christian Counseling.

Additional Resources

“Sociopath v. Psychopath: What’s the Difference?”. Kara Mayer Robinson. February 14th, 2022. WebMD. Access here

“How to Recognize Signs of Sociopathy”. HealthEssentials. Cleveland Clinic.  Access here

“Antisocial Personality Disorder Signs”. Christina Mutchler. October 26th, 2022. Health.  Access here

“Sociopathy”. Psychology Today Staff. Psychology Today.  Access here

“Signs of a Sociopath”. WebMD Editorial Contributors. December 16th, 2022. WebMD. Access here

“Psychotic vs. Psychopathic: What’s the Difference?”. Matt Smith. March 13th, 2023. WebMD. Access here

Difficult Decisions with a Terminal Illness Video

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In addition to the many painful emotions associated with a terminal illness of a loved one, there are also numerous decisions that need to be made for his or her future.  Whether an aging parent, or a young child, and anything in-between, the difficulty in helping the loved one through this final phase can be difficult.

Beyond the emotional pain of dealing with a terminal diagnosis of a loved one also involves numerous medical and legal decisions. Please also review AIHCP’s Pastoral Thanatology Program

 

One needs to start considering possible therapies and treatments but also quality of remaining life versus quantity of days.  Should one remain in a healthcare facility with treatments unproven or accept the inevitability of death and find joy in the final days of life?  These decisions are not easy and especially made harder when the person is unable to make choices regarding their own health.

Please also review AIHCP’s Pastoral Thanatology Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Pastoral Thanatology

 

 

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Christian Counseling and Dealing with a Narcissist

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The sin of self love, self ambition, and disregard for others started with Lucifer.  The sin of Pride, the chief of the capital sins, distorted Lucifer into a glorified self love.  Lucifer saw in himself perfection and his will was put before God.  In turn, Lucifer was cast from Heaven into Hell for this delusional distortion of self value and worth.  Vengefully and without remorse or humility, Lucifer in his pride vowed to destroy everything else God created and corrupt it.  In reality, Lucifer was the first Narcissist.

Lucifer was the first Narcissist. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

 

Today, many times, the label of Narcissist is used too liberally.  Many an offended partner, will diagnose one’s ex partner as a Narcissist, when in reality, the nature of breakups and divorces are difficult times when everyone is out for oneself.  Selfish tendencies are inflated to point to Narcissism at every turn when in reality there is pathology but only selfish motives.  Narcissism is beyond selfish motives at a given time, but is a habitual state of self love that becomes pathological in all dealing with other people.   Narcissists have sociopathic tendencies, are incapable of empathy, and find total glory in the magnification of self.  They are incapable of logical discussion and live in a world dominated by double standards.  Any slight is seen as a grave offense and any lie to maintain their illusion of self is justified at all expenses.

Biblically, all human beings are inherently damaged due to the Fall of Adam. In that inherently exists a love of self.  The will of a person naturally wishes to put oneself before the will of God.  While the natural world does demand some type of self love for mere preservation, selfish individuals nonetheless exist that may not be Narcissists.  In understanding this, think of selfish instance one may have found oneself in and how one acted.  These random situations of selfishness may be more or less with different individuals but they are not a permanent habit nor moments that may bring remorse or regret at a later date.  A Narcissist feels no regret and is habitually selfish.

Scripture speaks of the dangerous nature of selfishness.  James 3:16 warns that “For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.”.  James 4:1 continues, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?” and again Ephesians 2:3 declares, “All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh[a] and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath.”

Hence it is fallen human nature that creates selfishness within the heart.  However, at a young age, individuals learn from experience and punishment, that their needs are not always the highest or most important and that others needs need to be understood and respected.  The essence of the Golden Rule as “Do unto others, as you would wish done to you” should be a celebrated doctrine in any home.  However, somehow, someway, some human natures are more inclined to certain things and desires.  Like everyone, individuals have physical strengths and weaknesses, as well as mental, emotional and SPIRITUAL.  For some, selflessness is easier, while other desires may be far more difficult.  Some, may inherently find selfishness to be more of a hurdle in one’s daily life.

The desire for self preservation and self love is inherent in all human beings. It is important to nurture love and empathy for others at a early age to prevent Narcissistic tendencies from developing

 

Children and their personalities will exhibit certain spiritual talents and certain spiritual weaknesses.  The duty of a parent is to instruct the child in God’s law to conform consciences to God’s will and to help develop spiritual virtues and talents and eradicate certain vices that manifest more easily within the child’s temperament.   In this, parents can witness certain patterns that may be naturally imbalanced within their child.  Selfish behaviors need to be reprimanded and properly explained to a child.  Example, teaching and consistency in building virtuous habit over destructive vice is key when such signs of selfishness appear.  There needs to be a true balance of nature and nurture to curb natural inclinations towards self love and other behaviors that lead to immoral indifference to others.  Children who are not given consequences, taught empathy, shown restraint, or directed to share and give, can become not only very selfish adults but potentially Narcissists.

In understanding Narcissism from a more clinical view, the article “Narcissism” from Psychology Today points out the primary definition of a Narcissist, their needs and how to cope with them in different settings.  The article states,

“Narcissism does not necessarily represent a surplus of self-esteem or of insecurity; more accurately, it encompasses a hunger for appreciation or admiration, a desire to be the center of attention, and an expectation of special treatment reflecting perceived higher status. Interestingly, research finds, many highly narcissistic people often readily admit to an awareness that they are more self-centered. A high level of narcissism, not surprisingly, can be damaging in romantic, familial, or professional relationships.”

Narcissism. Psychology Today.

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Commentary

It is very important then not to mistake Narcissism for self esteem, or random selfish moments but as a personality disorder that exhibits habitual selfish behavior.  Not only is this behavior selfish, but it is also a pathological form of self love.  Every movement is about the glorification of self and the needed admiration of others to acknowledge this illusion.  When this image is challenged, the Narcissist will employ lies, gas lighting, and defamation against one who dares insult them.  Some additional traits include pathological self esteem, sense of entitlement, extreme arrogance, lack of empathy, lying, exaggerations of achievements, extreme envy of others, and obsession with fantasies of power.

When a Narcissist’s self image is challenged, it can lead to rage, lies, and slander towards the other person

Narcissists may seem very charming at first, but overtime, the more than selfish nature of vanity becomes more and more extreme.  They exhibit no empathy for others and find value in others only as ways to find their own glorification.  Friends or family who challenge them or debate them quickly find themselves demonized.  The need of others is to satisfy their own ego.  Hence Narcissists in relationships may appear in love but they are in love more so with the energy they feed off of the other spouse or partner.   When the parasitical feeding no longer feeds the hunger of the Narcissist, then the existence of the other person is no longer required or needed in their orbit.

With this detailed description of a Narcissist understood, how should someone deal with a Narcissist?

Direct confrontation, criticism, dwelling on the past or expecting an apology are all ways to enrage an Narcissist

 

In family life, Narcissists can destroy a family unit.  They can make an intimate partner feel inadequate, or unworthy.  They may insult or criticize a partner, or be dismissive or neglect the other if the other does not mean one’s needs.    Some family members are able to cut ties, but if not, the relationship will be extremely taxing and stressful.  In dealing with Narcissists, especially in family, it is more difficult to avoid them so it is important to make a decision in how one wishes to interact.  Arguing with a Narcissist is impossible, so establishing boundaries is key and avoiding key confrontations.  Sometimes it is best to nod one’s head to avoid outright confrontation. If at all possible, it is best to reduce time and situations with them.  If possible, even cutting ties with a Narcissist is the best option, albeit difficult for individuals in careers or who love their Narcissistic spouse or loved one.

It is critical, whether at work, home or socially engaging a Narcissist to deal with them in particular ways to prevent issues.  Obviously as mentioned, arguing or challenging a Narcissist is a recipe for disaster.  Words must be chosen carefully without criticism.  It is important to remain calm and precise, even when standing up for oneself.  It is fine to stand up for oneself but it needs to be done so in a calm and refined way.  If it hurts the Narcissist’s feelings, that is beyond one’s control if the need to stand up for oneself becomes critical.  It is beyond useless to even try to have a comprising conversation, or expect an apology, or discuss the past.  The Narcissist will never see one’s point of view, and will respond negatively to any direction or criticism.

Conclusion

Narcissism is a spiritually dangerous personality disorder.  It is both a combination of nurture and nature.  It is in itself the most Luciferic state a person can mold into.  Biblically, all are selfish to an extent, but Narcissism is a habitual state.

Clinical Counseling and prayer are the only ways to change the heart of a Narcissist

 

Christ’s message is the ultimate rebuttal of Narcissism.  Christ, unlike Lucifer, accepted the Father’s Will, and despite the His greatness, disguised it under the appearance of mere man.  Christ throughout His ministry reminded the rich and powerful that they will be last in Heaven.  He insisted we love one’s neighbor above oneself and to share with and love others.  Christ is a paradigm of humility and how humility destroys the vice of pride.  Humility and reverence to God are the first steps for any Narcissistic recovery.  The ultimate subjugation of self to the infinite majesty of God can open the heart of any person.  With clinical counseling and spiritual direction, any miracle is possible, even for a habitual state of sin that forbids remorse.

Christian Counselors can help individuals understand what Narcissism is and how Christians can better deal with these types of individuals on a daily basis.  Christian charity and prayer is needed for them. No soul is ever lost but such personality disorders can prevent true conversion.  When one is unable to say one is sorry is an extreme issue when no-one is perfect or without sin.  Narcissism can prevent souls from asking forgiveness and seeking change due to these souls’ own inner pathology.  This pathology is in no way a clinical excuse to sin and be unkind to so many.  Hence it is an extremely dangerous spiritual state.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification.  It is important to note, Christian Counselors who are not licensed counselors are not qualified to diagnose Narcissism but they can present sound Biblical advice on the nature of selfishness and how to interact with others in such states.  They can also refer individuals to clinical counselors who may need clinical help with Narcissism.

 

Additional Resources

“How to Handle a Narcissist”. Kara Mayer Robinson. 2021. WebMD. Access here

“8 Ways to Handle a Narcissist”. Susan Krause Whitebourne. August 30th, 2014. Psychology Today. Access here

“How to Deal With a Narcissist”. Kendra Cherry. October 14th, 2022. VeryWellMind. Access here

Narcissistic personality disorder. Mayo Clinic Staff.  Mayo Clinic.  Access here