Six Reasons why Grieving the Death of a Grandparent is Hard

My last memories of my grandmother are from my wedding in November of 2005. To be honest, I wasn’t thinking very much about her at the time because (1) I was getting married and (2) I was still coming to terms with the terminal cancer diagnosis my mother had received a month before. I like to believe that had known it was the last time I’d see my grandmother, I would have made more of an effort to remember everything about her or to say something even remotely meaningful…but who knows.

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Losing a grandparent is a great loss.  For some it may not be as powerful but for many grandparents play a pivotal role in their youth.  It is a loss that forms many of our young lives

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Ongoing Relationships With Those who Have Died – What’s Your Grief

I cling to scraps of my mother.  I’ll take anything I can get. I’ve extracted all that I can from my memories; turning each one over in my mind, carefully searching for something I might have forgotten.

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There is nothing unhealthy with continuing bonds with a deceased family member.  Keeping on to possessions is a natural way to remember.  Of course there is examples of unhealthy bonding when for example someone refuses to go through clothes after a year or two but this article focuses on the healthy relationships we can have with the deceased.

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My New Reality, Not My New Normal

These are my own thoughts based on my own personal reality living here without my child. Trust me, I do not know the way so I am making no predictions for anyone based on my own personal two plus year nightmare. Sugar coating the loss of my child is impossible as my heart spits out this painful reality.

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The deep reality of losing a child to a parent is all consuming.  This touching article looks at what some parents feel and how they want to be treated

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Grief Pours Out on Social Media After Paris Attacks

Instagram, Twitter and Facebook are flooded with tributes, messages of condolences and solidarity for victims and for France, with #PrayforParis and #PrayersforParis top trending hashtags

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The grief for a nation can be a strong social grief.  Social grief can affect individuals as people try to understand unneeded hate and destruction.  Much like 911, these attacks have the same social grief affect on a collective society.  Social media has an ability to show forth its goodness in showing solidarity among all people of the world for this attack.  This is a good thing for once from social media

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Grief Support Groups: Positives and Pitfalls

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The suggestion to “check out a grief support group” seems to be indiscriminately offered to people after the death of a loved one. People generally consider support groups to be a reliable and valid recommendation and many would claim they’ve been helpful to them in dealing with their grief.

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An excellent article about the benefits and disadvantages of a grief support group.  Grief support groups can help many but to some it never works out?  The answers why lie in this article.

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Grief and Negative Coping

Today I want to have a no-frills, straightforward discussion about grief and negative coping. People commonly engage in negative coping (c’mon, you know you do), especially people who have experienced the death of a loved one.

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Great article about coping.  We talk alot about bad religious coping, but there are also other types of negative coping that involve how we view grief.  This article looks at negative coping as a way to avoid or numb oneself from grief.  Either via substance abuse, family interaction or work behaviors.

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Grief Myths: Illustrated

A few weeks back we published a post called 64 Myths About Grief that Just Need to Stop.  Today, I’m going to illustrate a few of these grief myths because my brain is too fried right now to compose complete sentences. Anyways, sometimes it takes a good stick figure to drive the absurdity of certain thoughts …

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Good article about grief myths.  This article is good for those grieving and grief counselors who wish to truly understand the nature of grief.

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The Psychology Of A Near-Death Experience

The Psychology Of A Near-Death Experience

If you have ever met anyone who has had a near-death experience – or if you have ever experienced this phenomenon yourself – you know that it changes you forever. Psychologically speaking, it is nearly impossible to “go back” to looking at life and death the same way as you did before, and often you feel driven to find out why and how this can happen and if it has happened to others as well.

Despite an ever growing body of research studies that focus on phenomena of this type, as well as an expanding library of books (both research and memoir-based) on the topic, it is clear scientists and human beings still have much to learn about near-death experiences. How they happen, when they happen, why they happen – all of these questions are still very much open for insight and exploration.

However, there are certain psychological impacts of a near-death experience that have now been identified. In this post, learn what psychological studies have to say about near-death experiences (often called simply “NDEs”). Also learn about five of the ways having (or even hearing about) a near-death experience can impact a person psychologically.

 

Dr. Jung and NDEs

In 1944, famous psychologist Dr. Carl Jung experienced a near-death experience. Not only did Dr. Jung report experiencing many of the same events that experiencers today report, but he then returned from the experience to incorporate his newfound awareness of the afterlife into his groundbreaking work in the field of psychology. One of the concepts that came out of this period is his assertion that the “unconscious psyche” of an individual believes in “life after death,” even if the conscious individual may not.

 

What Psychological Studies Say About NDEs

According to Psychology Today, NDEs absolutely do happen. In fact, research shows that there is much similarity in how they happen and the sequence of events that occurs as well.

 

Here is the common sequence of events that many experiencers report:

 

– A feeling of hovering or “floating” slightly above the physical body, and at the same time being able to see the body below (which researchers find similar to reports of “out of body” experiences).

– The visual sensation of a light, which is often very bright and pervasive.

– Some sort of review of life-to-date, which is often visual.

– A visual or physical sensation of moving through a tunnel.

– Feelings of peace, joy, pleasure, unity with all.

– Seeing beings, sometimes known and sometimes unknown.

– An awareness of having moved beyond life (“being dead”).

 

Today, researchers are able to link these experiences to specific neurological functions and even specific parts of the brain that control these different functions, most notably the left temporal lobe, which seems to control an individual’s sense of body-awareness.

 

As well, interruption in the REM cycle sleep stage, which occurs in some individuals but not in everyone, is thought to account for some of the feelings of “floating” above the body, since REM interruption causes what researchers call “sleep paralysis.”

 

Researchers that have explored a possible link between low oxygen levels and NDEs have not found a link there, but there does seem to be a possible link between low blood sugar levels and NDEs.

 

5 Ways NDEs Impact a Person Psychologically

The International Association for Near-Death Studies (IANDS) has assembled extensive information and qualitative research (stories)

 

1. People report that having an NDE changes their life forever.

IANDS reports that people near-universally report that having a near-death experience changes them in some fundamental way from that point forward. Many report feeling less fear, more love, more connection and no more fear of death. Often experiencers have a greatly enhanced ability to experience love, joy, wonder and acceptance for self and others.

 

2. Interpretation plays a huge role in how an NDE changes a person.

Psychology Today reports that personal interpretation plays a huge part in exactly how having a near-death experience will change a person. Personal feelings of faith (or lack thereof) often seem to shape the actual NDE experiences, including seeing religious figures or angels or simply interpreting what they see in light of what they do or don’t believe.

 

3. The review of life-to-date puts old wounds and questions into perspective.

For people whose NDE experience includes what researchers call a “life review,” or what many moviemakers call “life flashing before your eyes,” these people report a positive effect and often some significant healing from past hurts or old questions being resolved. In this way, NDE experiencers report that the NDE itself functioned sort of like a psychological technique called “psychodrama” where the person gets to revisit or even replay the past in service to resolving old issues.

 

4. The NDE experience itself can sometimes be faith-changing.

For some experiencers who previously did not have any faith in an “afterlife” type experience, whether religious or secular, they report the NDE experience changes their beliefs about what happens after death. Often, experiencers who previously believed nothing happens after death now report that they feel like life continues after death.

 

5. The NDE often prompts greater interest in spiritual matters.

Because of the life-changing, profound impact of the NDE on those who experience it, many people report resolution of psychological conflict between “conscious” beliefs about life after death and what they have experienced during the NDE (a la Dr. Jung – see above). This not only allows these experiencers to experience more peace but prompts a more open interest in and attitude towards learning about both psychological and spiritual matters as it may relate to their own NDE experiences.

 

Near-death experiences are clearly fascinating and the field is still wide-open for additional research to be done. Psychologically speaking, the two universal findings to date are that NDEs are documentable, viable phenomenon worth studying further and that NDEs have a profound psychological impact on those who experience them.

 

Jessica Kane is a professional blogger who writes for Legacy Headstones, a leading ohio-based headstone manufacturer and vendor.

 

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In Defense of the Grief Selfie – What’s Your Grief

Once upon a time, many moons ago, Eleanor wrote an amazing post about self-portraits.  In that post, in case you missed it or failed to commit it to memory, she said: There was a time when I didn’t have the words to describe my grief even privately. In those early days the only tool I …

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Intriguing article about the psychology of selfies and how grief can play a role in selfies and how they can help the griever overcome certain aspects of grieving by shedding one’s skin so to speak.

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Talking About Death – When Do We Begin?

 

It is never too soon to befriend this mysterious, unpredictable life experience that we will all undergo. Many of us cheat ourselves out of fully living life by refusing to discuss death until we absolutely have to. It’s impossible to experience the richness of life when we subconsciously cling to it.

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Elisabeth Kubler Ross brought it to attention to many.  Her ideas on death and preparing for it brought this once taboo subject into the daylight to be discussed among families and their terminally ill members, or any member.

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