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Christian Faith Overcomes Grief and Suffering

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Christian Faith and Suffering

Sick faith demands during prayer, while a healthy faith understands that God’s will overcomes all our wants and desires.  Even at the price of ill health, one must submit one’s will to God.  While atheists or agnostics may mock this and question one’s faith in God over such ills, the Christian remains faithful as Job, or as accepting as Jesus and Mary as they sacrificed their family life for the sake of the world.  The story below emphasizes how Christian Faith faces suffering and grief.

From CNN Health, Elizabeth Cohen talks about the faith of a family enduring a grief sticken event of their daughter and her fight for surival in “Family Encounters Flesh-Eating Bacetia With Faith”

“In the four weeks since his daughter cut her leg in the Tallapoosa River, Andy Copeland has experienced several low points. But nothing was as desperate as a moment in the surgical waiting room on May 4.”

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The beauty of one’s Christian faith over suffering and grief is inspiring to everyone and can become a beacon of light for those who are loss in the darkness of despair.
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Mark Moran, MA, GC-C, SCC-C

Blessed Are Those Who Mourn: Christian Grief Perspective

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Christian Grief and Mourning

Christ promised that the joys of this world are but fleeting moments. He did not denounce them, nor condemn them but merely pointed out that final joy and happiness can only be found in God and completed and fulfilled in the next world. Joy that is found in material possessions and earthly endeavors are sure to bring disappointment while joy in spiritual treasure and love of God will last long after the death of our temporal bodies. With these things in mind, Christ looked at the mis-fortunate of the world and reassured them of these mysteries of joy that await them in the next life. As Christ reminded his followers to look beyond the joys of this world and find consolation in their grief and sorrows.  

Christ listed Nine Beatitudes that reflected on those who suffer in this world. While all the Beatitudes are equally intriguing and essential to understanding Christ’s message, Christian grief and Christian counselors can find a lot to meditate about concerning the Second Beatitude; Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
This second beatitude is a very consoling one. It even reminds one of the epic picture that portrays the footprints in the sand where Christ literally carries our suffering for us when it becomes overbearing. These words allow one to understand that their suffering and mourning will be acknowledged and comforted; if not in this world, definitely the next.
Yet in accepting this warm promise, Christians must be very aware of what type of mourning is emphasized by Christ. Christ does not condone a worldly mourning of despair and no hope, but demands a mourning that is socially and Christ centered. Socially, the mourning for our fellow man and the sorrows of the world and by Christ centered a mourning that unites the pain one experiences with Christ for the salvation of the world. The mourning and grief must transcend the mere experience of man’s temporality but must look deeper at the spiritual level. In this the suffering and mourning becomes self cleansing, reforming and character building. These attributes of suffering can lead to greater faith, hope, love and repentance. Furthermore, when united with Christ, they can become redemptive.
Within this simple beatitude, consolation and peace should be felt for those who correctly and justly suffer in this world. Suffering comes to the worldly man but only the Christian transforms it into a spiritual victory which will lead to a consoling and comforting beyond one’s wildest dreams; the Beatific Vision.
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By Mark Moran, MA

The Mystical Body of Christ and Christian Suffering

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Christian Suffering and the Mystical Body of Christ

While Christianity offers a unique view on the redemptive qualities of suffering, Catholicism’s theology 

expands it to even a more social level. Catholicism’s ideals of suffering extends to the individuals ability to unite his suffering with Christ in a redemptive fashion. It is important to note that as isolated offerings these sufferings can mean nothing without the sacrifice of Christ and in correlation with it. However, while these sufferings can help one gain merit in the next life, they can also be applied to other souls in need of grace. This is the social nature of  Christian suffering in Catholicism.

This social element is a unique Catholic theology because it incurs the existence of Purgatory. The Mystical Body of Christ is composed of the Church Triumphant in Heaven, the Church Suffering in Purgatory and the Church Militant on Earth. In Catholic theology, the souls in heaven can pray for the souls on earth and in purgatory, and the souls on earth and can pray to the souls in heaven for guidance as well as pray for the souls in Purgatory in need. The souls in Purgatory cannot help themselves. Albeit saved by the blood of Christ and forgiven for sins committed on earth, they still need purged of self love–a self love not worthy of Hell but not worthy yet of the Beatific Vision. Through their suffering, they are cleansed of this final self love. In many ways, Purgatory can also represent the suffering one rejected on earth. The souls in Purgatory rejoice in their just punishment and burn for union with God–and through their suffering, it becomes more intense and perfect. Souls on earth can aid the souls in Purgatory through offering of their own suffering. The Church Militant in this way offers the ultimate gift of love for the souls of Purgatory and the complete social nature of the Body of Christ is manifested. 
Of course, Protestantism, under Martin Luther denied the existence of Purgatory.  First, this stemmed from the abuses of the Catholic Church in selling indulgences.  The Catholic Church at that time faced corruption at all levels.  Through this, the horrible practice of Simony took place where religious favors were sold.  Martin Luther, justly, condemned this action, but also questioned the very existence of Purgatory itself.  He felt there was no middle ground after death but only Heaven or Hell.  This led to a theological debate that went well beyond the offense of Simony but to a whole theological revolution of idealology that would separate Catholics and Protestants. Despite these theological divisions, Christian Counselors, of all Christian denominations, should point out the redemptive nature of suffering in one’s trials and tribulations. Belief in Purgatory is not a pre-requisite for that nor should be. One should offer their crosses to Christ for their own salvation and tie their suffering and grief in union with Christ for the greater good.

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By Mark Moran, MA

Christian Suffering and the Stigmata: Mark of Love

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Christian Suffering and the Stigmata

The stigmata emphasizes the unique character of Christian grief and suffering and is a ultimate sign of reciprocal love between creator and creation. While defying the rationale of the mind, this miracle of the wounds of Christ is a reality given to some of the most special saints in Church history. From the wounds of St. Francis to Padre Pio to the mere thorn wound of St. Rita, this mystical form of suffering is a Stigmata; a beautiful bond of love that is manifested to a very select few. This miraculous gift from God reiterates the idea of redemptive suffering. As in Christ’s death came life, so through suffering will come joy in Heaven. In everyday life, Christians are called to carry their cross and offer up their sufferings in union with Christ. The stigmata is a more extreme version of this that comes from an intense burning love. In many ways the one who suffers stigmata suffers for his own sins and that of the worlds tying their love with Christ who is the high priest of Calvary. The person who experiences stigmata loves Christ so deeply they would undoubtedly carry the cross for him if they could. They may even beg Christ not to suffer for them. Such intense love is only returned by Christ who voluntarily suffers for those he loves despite their protests because he knows only through himself can mankind be redeemed. In this love, we thank Christ but feel intense sadness in his suffering. The stigmata gives joy to those who receive it because they can suffer with their beloved.

This is the essence of Christian suffering–the gift of self for others and ultimate redemption
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By Mark Moran, MA

Program in Christian Grief Certification: Christian Grief and Scripture

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Christian Grief and Scripture
Below are some verses from Scripture that illustrate the redemptive nature of  Christian grief and suffering when put in union with Christ. Christ through his death brought life to the world, and through his death resurrected. The theme within Christianity values suffering because it can bring forth good and eventual spiritual and physical resurrection.

1 Peter. (4:12, 13) Dearly beloved think not strange the burning heat which is to try you, as if some new thing happened to you; But if you partake of the sufferings of Christ, rejoice that when his glory shall be revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy
Again in Scripture we confirm this:
Rom. (8: 16-18) For the Spirit himself giveth testimony to our spirit, that we are the sons of God. And if sons, heirs also: heirs indeed of God, and joint heirs with Christ: yet so, if we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified with him. For I reckon that the sufferings of this time are not worthy to be compared with the glory to come, that shall be revealed in us.
The key phrase in this refers to that as we suffer with Christ, we shall also be glorified with Christ.
Again, Peter points this out
1 Peter (2:19-21) For this is thankworthy, if for conscience towards God, a man endure sorrows, suffering wrongfully. For what glory is it, if committing sin and being buffeted for it, you endure? But if doing well you suffer patiently: this is thankworthy before God. For unto this are you called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving you an example that you should follow his steps.
The Book of Timothy also points this out
2 Tim. (2:11-12) A faithful saying: for if we be dead with him, we shall live also with him. If we suffer, we shall also reign with him.
In addition, Scripture asks us to accept our crosses not only willingly but with joy
Col.( 1:24) Who now rejoice in my sufferings for you, and fill up those things that are wanting of the sufferings of Christ, in my flesh, for his body, which is the church

As we are called to accept suffering, we are also called to suffer with and for Christ 

as seen below

Philipp.( 1:20) For unto you it is given for Christ, not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him
Gal. (2:19) With Christ I am nailed to the cross
In conclusion, Christian Counselors should emphasize that one should accept the crosses of this world and unify their sufferings with Christ who as the ultimate example, showed one how to magnanimously accept one’s crosses.
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Christian Grief Certification: Part III

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Marian Grief as a Integral Part of Christian Grief

As a Counselor regarding grief, it is not only worthwhile to have a deep knowledge of Christian 

traditions of grief, but also a pious form of spirituality for oneself. The following articles will look at some of the Christian traditions on grief surrounding Christ, his mother and church traditions. They should not be seen as particular to any one tradition but should be accepted and practiced universally since they all encompass core ideals of Christian theology.

The tradition of the Seven Sorrows of Mary at first seem very Catholic from an Evangelical view, but such Marian devotions should not be seen as Catholic but Christian. The emphasis on this is twofold. First, the Seven Sorrows of Mary are scriptural. Second, Mary as the mother of Christ played a pivotal role in humanity’s salvation. She was not the instrument of salvation but her sacrifice of her son played a more central role than any person ever created. With such a sacrifice in mind, Christians should give her a special reverence and role within Christianity that transcends the mere person. She was the Mother of God and in that regard, if Christ followed her instructions in his first miracle, perhaps Christians should also seek her guidance that ultimately leads to her son. Ultimately, despite misconceptions in some Protestant circles, Catholic theology has always taught that devotions (not worship) to Mary ultimately lead to Christ.
Below are the Seven Sorrows of Mary:
1.The flight from Egypt and Herod
2.The prophesy of Simon
3.Losing of the child for three days
4.Seeing our Lord carry his cross
5.Standing at the foot of the cross
6.Holding our Lord’s body
7.Sealing of the tomb
The pains of Mary are worthwhile to meditate upon because they not only help us become closer to God, but they also teach us how to handle grief in this world. Mary’s ultimate sacrifice of her son is equated to the most intense grief this world can ever give a parent; the death of their child. Mary courageously shows us how to deal with such traumatic grief. Her grief is a story from Jesus’ first steps to his final breath. Throughout her entire life, she was haunted with the inevitable death of her son. One only needs to marvel at the Pieta by Michelangelo to better understand the grief of a parent who loses her child. Such rich meditation should never be wasted or left to the side with grieving parents, especially within a Christian counseling session for such issues of grief. Christianity gives people these traditions as gifts for us to better emulate Christ, his mother, and the saints and to face the trials of everyday life. In the end, we are not alone in grief, Christ and his mother shared theirs with us. For that we should all be thankful and always remember that sacrifice.
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By Mark Moran, MA

Christian Grief Traditions: Part II

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Other Traditions of Christian Grief

As a Christian Counselor regarding grief, it is not only worthwhile to have a deep knowledge of Christian traditions of grief, but also a pious form of spirituality for oneself. The following articles will look at some of the Christian traditions on grief surrounding Christ, his mother and church traditions. They should not be seen as particular to any one tradition but should be accepted and practiced universally since they all encompass core ideals of Christian theology.

Universal to all Christians is the written tradition of Scripture. Scripture is filled with lamentations, poetry, stories, and historical narratives on the nature of suffering. In the Old Testament, the Book of Job takes center place, while in the New Testament, the suffering of Christ. While the Old Testament does supply a rich theology on suffering, most of the traditions within Christianity regarding suffering stem from the New Testament with a central focus on Christ.
The passion narratives come from the four gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. Ironically, John’s gospel contains the least information of the passion despite his presence at the cross. Many contend this was due to the grief that erupted with every sentence he wrote concerning our Lord’s passion. Yet from these narratives on Christ’s death and other oral traditions, a host of devotions have emerged that center around the suffering and grief of our Lord. Since, we have already discussed the Stations of the Cross, we will look at three other devotions to Christ that emerged from both oral and written tradition.
The first tradition is a Catholic tradition. The Rosary, a Christian prayer involving a sacramental composed of a crucifix and beads for each prayer, has a whole mystery dedicated to the Passion of Christ. This second mystery is known as the Sorrowful Mysteries. The five decades of the sorrowful mysteries focus on the following sufferings of Christ.  
1.The Agony in the Garden
2.The Scourging of the Pillar
3.The Crowning of Thorns
4.The Carrying of the Cross
5.Crucifixion of Christ
These sacred mysteries give the person time to meditate and thank Christ for his ultimate sacrifice, but meditation on these mysteries go beyond the rosary but are also found in individual devotions to particular aspects of Christ’s suffering and death. A second tradition involves meditating on the final words of Christ on the cross. Derived directly from Scripture, the Christian can reflect on Christ’s final moments on the cross that share his love, compassion, and great sorrow. These final seven last words of Christ can be found in the Synoptic Gospels and the Gospel of John, with some coinciding and some found only in John. Below are the last seven words of Christ on the cross.
1.“Father forgive them, for they know not what they do”.
2.“Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in paradise”.
3.Jesus saw his own mother, and the disciple standing near whom he loved, he said to his mother, “Woman, behold your son”. Then he said to the disciple, “Behold your mother”. And from that hour, he took his mother into his family.
4.Around the ninth hour, Jesus shouted in a loud voice, saying “Eli Eli lama sabachthani?” which is, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
5.“I thirst”.
6.“It is finished”.
7.“Father, into your hands I commit my spirit”.
A third pious tradition of reflection for Christian Counselors and their clients in grief are
“The Five Wounds of Christ”. Within this tradition, the nail holes, the crown of thorns and the piercing of the side of Christ are meditated upon by the faithful. In particular, saints and mystics from various orders and times have established individual prayers and pious traditions for the particular wounds of Christ. In addition to this, many of these mystics have also experienced the miracle of Stigmata which in some cases has left the saint with all five or at least one of the wounds of Christ. St. Francis of Assisi is a classic  example of this miracle. Some saints have also experienced other wounds of Christ that are not listed traditionally as the five wounds of Christ. Another wound of Christ is his shoulder wound. The shoulder wound of Christ has a following of Christians who meditate on the extreme pain the cross caused Christ’s shoulder as it dug deep to the bone in his shoulder. Such pious traditions are also materialized with various relics such as the true cross or the Shroud of Turin, where pilgrims can visually see the instruments of Christ’s ultimate sacrifice. Such meditations within Christianity should not be seen as morbid, but instead should be seen as an act of thanksgiving and reparation for sins. The purpose of the traditions is to give the soul visual stimulation for repentance and thanksgiving for the great gift Christ gave to us.
These Christian traditions of grief are instrumental sources of spirituality for counselors and their clients. They can be instrumental in healing and help those in crisis realize that they are indeed loved by Christ. The traditions of Christianity and suffering should be seen as tools to help the soul grow and accept one’s own crosses.
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By Mark Moran, MA

Christian Grief Traditions: Part I

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Christian Grief and the Stations

As a Christian Spiritual Counselor regarding grief, it is not only worthwhile to have a deep knowledge of Christian traditions of grief, but also a pious form of spirituality for oneself. The following articles will look at some of the Christian traditions on grief surrounding Christ, his mother and church traditions. They should not be seen as particular to any one tradition but should be accepted and practiced universally since they all encompass core ideals of Christian theology.

The Via Dolorosa or Way of Sorrow originated in the Holy Land, although any modern version resemblance did not come into being until the Fourteenth and Fifteenth Centuries under the Franciscan Order. Later that century, the tradition began to flourish and they could be found in Catholic Churches.
The Way of the Cross to this day remains a Catholic tradition that any Christians can share and participate in during Lent. It presents a way one can meditate on the passion of Christ and offer reparation for their sins.
Below is a list of the stations.
1.Jesus is Condemned to death
2.Jesus Accepts His Cross
3.Jesus Falls the First Time
4.Jesus Meets His Mother
5.Simone of Cyrene Helps Jesus Carry His Cross
6.Veronica Wipes the Face of Jesus
7.Jesus Falls the Second Time
8.Jesus Consoles the Holy Women
9.Jesus Falls the Third Time  
13.Jesus is Taken from the Cross
14.Jesus is Placed in the Tomb
15.Jesus Rises from the Dead (Newly Added, but not included during Good Friday Service)
This rich tradition leads the faithful with Christ via the long upward trek to Calvary. While the death of Christ was a historic incident and from our temporal existence a past event, one should remember, God as a being exists outside of time, and if we walk this walk and offer our tears, and thanks, Christ himself hears us—even if that sad day happened 2000 years ago. With that mind, as Christian counselors and Christians in general, one should walk the way of sorrows at least once a year during Lent—whether Catholic or Protestant.  If you are interested in Christian Grief Certification, please review the program.
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By Mark Moran, MA, GC-C, SCC-C

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