Grief Counseling Certification Article on Grief Boundaries

In grief we deal with many emotions and its difficult to sometimes discuss it or experience it.  We work through grief at our own pace and own way.  It is because of this, it is important to avoid being bullied in grief and to have our own set of boundaries.  We have discussed Grief Bullies in the past.

Grief bullies are individuals who attempt to impose their style of grieving on an individual.  They also can try to diminish the grief of a person as not important or relevant.  These individuals are an issue in themselves, but being able to stand up for oneself and set boundaries are critical.  Grief boundaries are important in grieving and especially during the Holiday season.  These are the times, when individuals, either grief bullies or good intentioned individuals may push the issue.

Emotional boundaries are important to begin with.  In every part of life, it is critical to set boundaries.  Whether at work, school or with friends, it is important not to allow individuals to push one around.  While it is OK to help others, to be flexible and understanding, it is equally important to have boundaries that prevent individuals from imposing their will or impeding upon one’s limits.  Hence it is important to have boundaries and also important to enforce those boundaries.

Help for grief is good but you can have boundaries in how you express with other people. Ultimately it is up to you. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

Boundaries can be enforced without hostility.  They can be laid out calmly but firmly to individuals who test those grounds.  Usually, individuals who unknowingly push a boundary only  need told once, while others may need reminded more than that but it is important to hold firm to boundaries.  Grief is no exception.

What’s Your Grief discussed a variety of ideas on Grief Boundaries in one of their most recent blogs.  Some important information to take from it are as follows.,

In establishing a boundary, be clear, firm, and communicate it.  Do not apologize for it, but be prepared to face questions that you owe no answer for.  In addition, let the individual know of consequences when boundaries are crossed and be prepared to enforce it.  In addition, be prepared to feel the natural discomfort that sometimes comes with standing up for oneself.  Individuals worth keeping in your life, will understand.

In regards to grief, while it is sometimes good to take help, it is OK, if you are not ready for that help and it is OK to decline that help. Let others know, some days you may not feel that great and if you need time alone to respect that.  Grief can make one feel unable to participate in going to an event or hanging with a friend.  In these cases, it is OK to back out especially when you are first dealing with the sting of loss.  Do not allow grief bullies to keep you in or keep you out.

Also feel free to dismiss questions that may seem to soon or intruding.  You are not obligated to answer questions regarding your personal life. For instance, if dating seems too son, feel free to dismiss the question.  In addition to this, one’s boundary should be able to decline advice and just ask one to simply listen.  Sometimes, advice is not ready to be heard or not the advice we need.  It is OK, to tell the well intentioned person, that you do not want advice but just an open ear.  If individuals discuss with you their issues, it is also OK to let them know you are not in a place to help them because you are still dealing with your own grief.

It is OK also to decline to tell someone how a loved one passed.  Sometimes people ask this secondary question.  It is only up to you if you wish to share how a person died.  You can tell them, it is to painful to recall, or you do not wish to relive it, or that the question is too triggering.  You may say that you will talk about it another day, or you may say it is a private matter.  Ultimately you should not disclose what makes you uncomfortable.  You must set the boundary and live by it.

Boundaries in grief are important. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

During the Holidays, many of these things may occur.  Family and friends will want to see you, or expect certain traditions or visits to be upheld.  It is especially important to let family and friends know if you want to be alone or if you do not wish to celebrate that particular tradition.  Maybe you are not ready and that is OK.  Again it is important not to succumb to grief bullying.

Ultimately, you may make individuals uncomfortable when setting boundaries and that is OK.  You need to let them know about your feelings and remind them you are moving at your own pace and speed in your grief.

If you would like to learn how to help others deal with grief, please review the American Academy of Grief Counseling’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.

 

Related Source and Content

What’s Your Grief   “Setting Your Grief Boundaries”–please click here to review

 

Grief Counseling Certification Article on Divorce and Loss

Divorce is a major disruption in life and a life altering change.  It brings about not only romantic loss but multiple secondary losses.  Adjusting to these losses and finding a new routine and life narrative can be very difficult for many people.

Going through a divorce is a difficult transition. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

The article, “Working Through Grief After Divorce” by Melissa Porrey looks at how difficult the transition can be for many facing the grief of divorce.  She states,

“When going through a divorce or ending a significant intimate relationship, grieving allows us to work through the thoughts and feelings that are brought on by the many different losses that come with it. Whether it’s working through the physical loss of another person being absent from the home, a loss of security, loss of friendship or companionship, or even financial loss, each needs to be acknowledged and grieved.”

To read the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling

 

Grief Counseling Certification Video on Traumatic Grief

 

Sometimes loss is so terrible and horrible that it causes trauma at the deepest levels to the person.  Grief that is unexpected or due to intense human cruelty or natural disaster and war can leave indelible marks on the soul.  This type of loss takes extra time to heal and sometimes requires longer therapy to find healing.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counselig.

 

 

Please also review the video below

Grief Counseling Certification Article on Types of Depression

Depression can be acute and have a reason behind it that develops from Prolonged Grief or it can be chronic.  It can also have no true origin.  It can be Clinical Depression or Seasonal Depression Disorder due to the seasons.  It can be due to having a child and be post partum, or due to bio polar disorder.

Depression can manifest in different ways. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

The article, “W

hat to Expect From Therapy for Depression—and How to Start the Process”  by Ashley Abramson looks into the various types of depression.  She states,

“Depression can be an insidious condition that looks and feels different for everybody. It may present as feelings of hopelessness for one person and irritability or overwhelming fatigue for someone else. If you experience at least five of the following signs of depression for most of the day, nearly every day, for at least two weeks, your physician or therapist might diagnose you with some form of depression:”

To review the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling.

Grief Counseling Certification Video on Traumatic Grief

Sometimes grief and loss can be so vicious, so cruel and sudden that it can tear a person apart.  What a person can see, witness and experience can traumatize the soul.  In these intense types of death and loss, a person may experience various trauma and complications within the grieving process.   War, crime, natural disaster, mass death, and sudden losses can all cause intense trauma for the griever.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Grief Counselor

Grief Counseling Certification Article on Avoidance in Grief

Good article below from What’s Your Grief .

Avoidance can be big issue in anything we do not wish to face.  It is natural to avoid distasteful things in our life that bring back bad memories.  Places, things, even scents can remind one of the past.  We naturally tend to gravitate towards things of happy memory.

Trying to avoid grief and its emotions never works. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

 

However, with grief, while initially helpful, one needs to eventually face the issue or the bereavement process will halt.  One cannot keep avoiding a certain room, or a particular place.  Many try to cope by avoiding by immersing themselves in work, or other things to silence the pain.  However, avoiding the pain can cause bigger issues that prevent overall healing.

The article, “What is Avoidance Behavior? An Explainer” by Eleanor Haley takes a closer look at avoidance behaviors and how they can negatively affect.  She states,

“When you are grieving, every person, place, or thing connected with your loss takes on the risk of reminding you of something painful. And in the early days of grief, reminders are everywhere. Not only are they all around you, but they’re inside, too, in your thoughts and memories. ”

To review the entire article, please click here

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Grief Counseling

 

Grief Counseling Certification Video on Grief Models

Individuals experience and react to grief differently.  There are multiple different ways individuals grieve.  Some are more extrovert, while others are more introvert.  What type of griever are you?  How do you express grief?  Do you express grief in a healthy way or a detrimental way?  Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Courses and see if they offer the training you need to become a better griever but also a better grief counselor.  The program ultimately leads to a four year certification for qualified professionals

Grief Counseling Video on Romantic Loss

Beyond the loss of a person due to death, many suffer the pain of breakups and divorces throughout life as well.  The loss of a person or a relationship can be very emotionally painful and take much time to fully adjust to life without that person.  From simple breakup to messy divorce, the loss and adaptation varies on the connection and bond between the couple.

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Grief Counselor.  The video below reviews the problems and issues facing those dealing with romantic loss

 

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Grief Counseling Certification Video on Suicide

Suicide is a tragic loss.  It is not only a stigmatizing loss but it is also one that many feel can be prevented.  Those who survive suicide, or family members who deal with the after loss all have enormous grief.  The wake of suicide can be devastating.  Grief Counselors and Crisis Counselors need to be able to help individuals through issues to prevent suicide or future attempts and help families cope with a successful suicide of a loved one

Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification video on suicide

Grief Counseling Certification Video on Complicated Grief

Complicated Grief is a result of not naturally processing through the grieving cycle.  It can result in Prolonged Grief, or turn into a Clinical Depression.  Complications in grief are due to the nature of the loss, the subjective uniqueness of the person experiencing grief, or other supporting factors or lack of.  Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification

Please review AIHCP’s Video on Complicated Grief