Like any family, the Christian Church, whether a Catholic parish, or Non-Denominational congregation all have unique talents and gifts within the individuals who participate in the life of the church. Whether these gifts are spiritual, or financial, or in organization, they all bring special aspects to properly function from both material and spiritual parts. Since the dawn of Pentecost, the Apostles set forth and founded Christian communities and Churches throughout the Roman Empire. The apostles organized these small Christian churches with guidelines and blue prints to function both physically and spiritually. In the spiritual sense, the Church collectively was seen as the Body of Christ, Christ the head and all baptized believers various members of the body with different functions. Ecclesiastically, the presbyters and deacons played a key role in local communities, answering to apostles and disciples who founded the various churches. These communities were diverse depending on their location within the Roman Empire but all shared one common faith.
The Christian Church is like any family that has spiritual and temporal needs. Good Christian leaders can help guide and unite them
Like today, those communities came together to celebrate the Eucharist, share Christian values and spread the word of Christ. Yet also like today, they shared in their own local issues. They too had to get along with each other and many differences did arise. For instance, the issue of circumcision for non-Jewish converts was a hotly debated church issue that divided even Peter and Paul. Yet, all these issues were usually resolved with Christian charity despite grave differences of opinion.
Today, many churches have missions and goals and ideas how to best serve Christ, but within the local church exists numerous opinions that sometimes come at odds with one another. This can lead to un-Christian behaviors and sometimes division within the Church. It can lead to resentment, frustration, isolation and division between members. In some ways the local church can become a club where others wish to be heard or seen more than others or push their agendas above others. In fact, many “religious” individuals may be very well superficial in faith and look more for human favor among the members that serves their own egos rather than serving Christ. Others may have an agenda and that agenda while good may consume them and when rejected by others become a personal slight. Hence the church while serving a spiritual goal and agenda can and does become a political and social club many times. Some may wish simply to show up Sunday and be done with the church politics, while others may find church social life rewarding, but it is important to treat the church not as a social club or a place to be seen but instead as a supernatural unit dedicated to spreading the Gospel. Sometimes financial discussions and social discussions are needed and can raise temperatures of individuals in debate on how funds should be allocated, but ultimately, the primary goal and mission statement of any church is to spread the Gospel and when that spirituality is lost, then the church might as well become a social hall than a spiritual organism.
On a larger scale, other issues may also look to divide the faithful. Politics can be a very divisive tool used by Satan. Only moral issues in the public sphere should be discussed within the Church, such as abortion or marriage laws. Support of a particular candidate or shunning others of a different political thought or party has no place within the Church. Christ clearly divided Caesar and God and so does the United States constitution. The Church as a tax exempt organization should never show support for any party or politician nor dismiss others who disagree with the majority. Politics has no place in any church and can be a poison to the unity and spirituality of the Church.
In addition, theological issues can divide the faithful. Issues of a woman’s role in the Church, homosexual marriage and rights, and other theological issues and differences on interpretation of Scripture can divide members. It is important to maintain the creed of Christ, the Bible and dogma of the Church, but there is also in some cases wiggle room for more conservative and liberal members to give and take on current church law or human made institutions. What is most dangerous is when one openly rejects a tenet of the faith or when one becomes so self righteous as to condemn others. The pastor or priest must play the role of mediator and teacher in these instances
Even within spiritual discussions human ego can emerge. Arguments over liturgical music, or how a ceremony should be organized or what date can all play roles for more church politics. In essence, everyone sometimes wants to be heard, seen, or approved. When these things do not occur, then the inner arguing and jealousies can emerge much to Satan’s delight. Unfortunately, this is human nature and will almost always occur. Pastors, ministers, priests, and leaders within the congregation all have to manage these emotions as the early apostles did. The first step always is remembering the spiritual goal and mission statement first and harboring a strong spirituality to weed out those who are there for themselves instead of God.
Because of divisions, human arguments and bad behaviors it is important to set forth guidelines for meetings. It is also crucial to set forth proper meeting agenda rules, schedules and formats to maximize time. This involves articulate communication skills, as well as organization. Those with ideas should be respected and listened to with empathy and charity. When differences arise, the commonality of Christ and the grace of the Holy Spirit should guide the conversation. Whether it is budget or liturgical music selections, every conversation in meetings should be monitored and regulated to avoid over speaking of each other and insults. Again, the Church is also a spiritual place and it should reflect the early apostles in their spirit of spreading the Gospel whether in different ways or not. This involves basic skills of communicating, listening and showing respect. Ultimately the success of these meetings or events relies heavily upon the leadership of the Christian leader.
Christian Leadership and Mission Statements and Goals of the Church
It is important to return to the goals of the church which is bring Christ to the world. Mission statements may be worded differently but each church serves a spiritual purpose to make the world a better place. The church while physical on earth is also spiritual. The Church Militant on earth serves to spread the Gospel and to share the truths of Christ through the sacramental life of the Eucharist. When these goals and mission statements are lost, then the church can become more temporally orientated. This is not to say festivals, or fund raisers or social picnics are not wonderful things to bring the community together, collect funds for the church and poor, as well as pay the bills to keep the lights on, but it when these things become so much that they cloud the goal and mission statements of the church, then the spirituality of the faith can be damaged. This is where more secular minded members thrive with festivals and games and fund raisers. Some may be good financial advisors and serve the church economically well but others may only see this social status.
The Christian leader, pastor or priest answers sometimes a lonely call that demands many qualities to properly lead the church
What gets lost in this? Food drives, collections for the poor, counseling services, marriage and divorce support, spiritual events, prayer groups, and other ministry based projects. How many more are concerned with the social outings than the spiritual meetings of prayer? A parish or local church’s spiritual life is correlated with its spiritual practices. Within Catholic parishes, are groups more concerned about Bingo or the festival, or more so about Eucharistic adoration, prayer, or food drives? Does the Church pride itself on the size of its festival and how much collected each week, or on its outreach programs to the local poor as well as services to guide the youth, troubled, grieving and promotion of theological education?
Christianity is not just a singular religion but a social one. It involves interaction and giving back to the Body of Christ. Even the most spiritual saints understood they could not escape the cry of the Christian population. Those close to Christ always find themselves returning to the people and finding Christ in them as well. Hence those in Christian leadership are critical to controlling the secular impulses of the congregation as well as regulating emotional outbursts and petty jealousies. While one would assume Christians would already adhere to a particular ethical rule of business as treating each other as Christ, this is hardly the reality. So sometimes it involves laying forth a set of rules and ways Christian people conduct church or parish meetings. This involves starting all meetings with prayers and blessings that look to dismiss hubris, to focus on the necessary temporal but understand the greater importance of the spiritual goals and missions of the church. It involves carving out a Christ like description of meeting rules which shows mutual respect, understanding, nonjudgement and empathy to fellow parish members. It involves setting forth a way committees treat each other as well as dismissing bullying or other forms of harassment.
When leadership is lacking and events or meetings occur, it can sometimes seem like a club meeting or a job with individuals who need authority somewhere in life and finally find it in the wrong place, namely the church.
So one must turn to the early Church and apostles as examples of best leadership. A Christian leader understands his/her own limitations and finds the charisms and talents within the congregation to aid the growth of the church. The Christian leader is able to take criticism with humility, bridge diverging opinions, bring the best out of others and encourage others in Christ. A Christian leader is humble and understands the first will be last in heaven. While utilizing authority when needed, the Christian leader is gentle and compassionate in decisions. The Christian leader leads by example not commands. Like Christ, the Christian leader “washes” the feet of the “apostles”. The Christian leader embodies service, shepherding, stewardship while exhibiting humility. A Christian leader in many ways is called by Christ to lead. It is a sacred vocation accepted by the congregation.
However, within any church or parish, it is essential to respect authority. The Church has never been a true democracy within itself. There has always been a emphasis on spiritual authority. When spiritual authority is disregarded or a church leader dismissed, then there is no shepherd for the flock. Every flock needs a leader and respect to that authority is essential. Unfortunately, due to scandal and abuse, many have lost faith in leadership within Christian Churches. Only through good example and accountability can this authority again earn respect. Because of this, the Christian leader is also called to the highest standards of ethical and moral behavior. The Christian leader is not sinless, but strives to give the best example as possible. The Christian leader hence needs mutual support from other leaders. Confession, or counsel should come from other trusted mentors or fellow leaders to help one with self care, spirituality and possible times of desolation. Christian leaders continue to learn, study and focus on spirituality and discernment of the fulfillment of their calling.
Conclusion
The Church is a dynamic organism. Within Scripture, it is a living body with Christ as its head. It involves those on earth and those in heaven, who collectively work together as one body. This spiritual calling is primary but due to temporal existence the church is also a building that needs upkept. Finances emerge. Festivals and fun outings need planned. But when these things overshadow the mission statement and goal to spread Christ to the world and share and enhance each others spirituality, then the church can lose its spiritual identity.
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Within the Church, like any family, there will exist divisions and arguments, but they need to be maintained in a charitable way with rules and regulations. Christian leaders are more than priests and pastors but also organizers and communicators. They not only preach and heal, but also lead and unify. It is essential despite differences in theology, meeting disagreements, or event planning that the Christian communities work together and constantly behave with Christian charity with one another. Ultimately Church is not a social club to be seen or heard or abuse authority or demean others, but a place to grow together in Christ and spread the Gospel. This involves humility, charity and prayer in all Church gatherings.
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Additional Resources
Tenny-Brittian. “The Effective Church Group”. Access here
Neffiner, V. (2019) “Here Are 8 of the Most Controversial Issues in the Church Today”. Crosswalk. Access here
“20 ways to prevent and resolve conflict in the church” (2023). NC Baptists. Access here
Perry, T (2020). “Effective Christian Leadership for Today: Key Aspects, Stages & More”. Access here
Faulkner, B. (2024). “7 Biblical Models of Leadership”. LifeWay. Access here
The role of a Christian Counselor is twofold. On one hand, the counselor is a professional who must adhere to ethical standards of the field echoing the axion “do not harm”. On other the hand, the Christian counselor is called to bear witness to the faith. These ideals can collide when a counselor is also a clinical professional counselor working in the secular realm where personal bias and religious conviction are separated from the counseling process. While the divine mandate to preach to all nations is important, in professional settings, such religious proclamations are not only inappropriate but also counter productive. Showing Christian example in these cases are always better than words. As for the Christian Counselor, who may be licensed or non-licensed in counseling, the opportunity to express Christian doctrine is ethical because the client is seeking Christian answers for his/her issues in life. Of course, the Christian Counselor is still called to express empathy, love and non-judgement to those who express different gender or moral questions.
With this guideline in place, it is important for Christian Counselors or counselors who are Christian to have a better understanding regarding the conflict between Christianity and the role of gender ideology and oppression. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification.
Christianity and Oppression
The Church is divinely founded institution by Jesus Christ but made for human beings Human beings are imperfect and hence subject to corruption. The Church while divinely inspired via the Holy Spirit still makes mistakes because of its human element. These mistakes are highlighted throughout history through the numerous atrocities made in the name of Christ through discrimination, persecution and war. It is unfair to say Christianity is the sole religion to be hijacked by fanatics and misused. Throughout history, human beings have used religion as a way a propaganda tool for horrendous things, but does this dismiss the faith itself? Humanity would find new vehicles to promote hate and war if faith ceased to exist. An atheistic world would find ways promote different groups against one or the other. Still, those who wish to divide, hate and control misuse religion. Christianity itself has been utilized for evil ends never intended by Christ Himself.
Christianity’s essence is anti-oppression because Christ frees us all from sin.
Jesus Christ came to free the oppressed, namely every soul under the oppression of Satan and the sin of Adam. Christianity within its founding is non-oppression creed that looks to find equality within Christ. St Paul states that whether Gentile or Jew, slave or free, male or female we are all equal and one under Christ (Gal;3:28). Yet despite this, evil men and women have corrupted the faith throughout the centuries and caused great pain and suffering to various oppressed groups throughout Europe. In turn, Christianity as the major cultural identifying and unifying force of Europe became an instrument and tool to imprison and enslave the world under the promise of saving souls. Numerous European nations, used faith as a justification to subjugate Africa, the Americas and Asia. While the sweet gift of Christ was awarded to many individuals and spiritual salvation was found, the enormous cultural and ethnic raping of other civilizations created the third world that we know today. European pride, colonization and imperialism became associated with Christianity for many others.
It is important as counselors within the Christian tradition to understand this historical reality. Christianity is seen by many diverse groups as an oppressor due to its affiliation with Christian nations of Europe and also Christian missionaries who behaved like colonizing agents of change instead of messengers of the Gospel. This is not to dismiss the great work of many missionaries in both Protestant and Catholic traditions. Many good people spread the Gospel. Many saw the equality of all cultures and their beauty while trying to share Christ, but many also looked to Europeanize and destroy the indigenous culture. These scars and hatreds against the Church are real.
So while as a faith, Christianity is non-oppressive, in action, imperfect human beings have utilized it as an oppressive agent within Europe and across the world. Jesus Christ, Himself, would spew these bad examples of faith, as He did the numerous Pharisees of His time, but this sometimes brings little comfort to those who have faced oppression through the Church. As a Christian Counselor, one must understand that Christianity is seen to many as the “common enemy” and not be naive to think everyone sees the face of a Christian as an inspiration, especially in counseling.
Oppression Ideologies
Oppression is real in the world and to deny it because one has not seen it is a grave error. While many Christians, especially those of European descent, may exist in a bubble of the perfect world, many other Christians and non-Christians alike in different cultures experience oppression and racism daily. Whether at the micro-level, or at higher levels, individuals suffer numerous slights and injustices. These potential clients also bring to the counseling room these injustices and Christian Counselors or merely counselors who are Christian must be aware of their target populations and the injustices associated with them.
Approaches to facing oppression exist within and without Christianity. Liberation Theology in Latin America is a critical theory that combines Christian values with Marxist ideologies. Karl Marx, the social philosopher and Father of Socialism taught that there is a clash between the classes. Between the haves and have nots, there has also existed class warfare, whether slaves and owners, serfs and lords, or workers and labor barons. Different names and times but the same class war has always existed, according to Marx. Liberation occurs when the masses take control and find justice through constant revolution. Liberation Theology took a critical look at the Church and its structure as a hierarchal structure of class between clergy and the people. This of course also analyzed the role of women as an oppressed group within the faith and the power of the clergy within the faith. As a Jesuit Catholic theory, it questioned the power of the papacy and hierarchy, as well as questions regarding women priesthood.
Unfortunately, throughout history, the cross has been used by evil men to subjugate, but this far from the message of Christ. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification
Ultimately, the outgroup or group that suffered discrimination looks to find a seat at the table. Ways to address these issues are found usually in two common theories, the Common Humanity Theory or the Common Enemy Theory. Those under the umbrella of the Common Humanity school look to rectify social injustice and inequality by denouncing differences and injustices and condemning inequality and seek to emphasize that all human beings are equal in dignity. Humanity must work together to resolve past injustices and eliminate present examples of racism or oppression. Common Humanity approaches embrace solidarity and the common human solution. In contrast, Common Enemy, focuses more on the oppressor. It searches to eliminate racism and oppression by turning on past oppressors or institutions and weakening their power. In many ways, the ideology looks to burn it all down. It is more Marxist in thought and identifies the “other” more so than the common. Hence those associated with the oppressing past through no fault of their own must be educated and balance must be restored through recognition of division.
There is good from both ideologies and usually a mixed approach is best. Common Humanity can sometimes dismiss differences which are important to understanding oppression but also the diversity within humanity. While it embraces a beautiful Christian concept that we are all children of God and one people, it over generalizes and can dismiss how these differences are real and important while still attempting to eliminate oppression. It can sometimes belittle past injustices and only wish to push forward. Common Enemy obviously is more destructive and dividing with its Marxist ideology. It can make progress difficult because it looks to divide between the haves and have nots and punish those who are descendants of the oppressing group. It essence it can seek to attribute punishment on the descendants of the past oppressive group. This ultimately turns the past oppressor into a new outgroup that faces its own discrimination. Christianity and white males face discrimination for white privilege or Christian morality that finds some acts immoral. Personal belief becomes bigotry and this is wrong.
A mixed road acknowledges common humanity and how everyone must work together to eliminate oppression but this mixed road also accepts the past wrongs and histories and acknowledges privilege in a non-hostile fashion. The common road recognizes the past but also works towards a common future while identifying the beauty of diversity. In the world today, we see protestors demanding the churches be torn down, or statues defaced, or absurd reparations for actions hundreds of years ago, while we also see individuals ignoring history , their own privilege and blessings because of their race or ethnicity, or not willing to offer fair compensation to certain cultures such as Native Americans or oppressed African Americans.
Dealing with Gender Based Ideologies in Christian Counseling
With these important guidelines have been set, one must carefully identify the pain of gender based groups that include women, homosexuals and transgenders. In counseling, many Christians who counsel or in fact perform Christian Counseling services may come across the marginalized within these groups. It is critical within our purpose to present a mixed approach that recognizes the pain of these groups, the wrongs of the Church but also a presentation that defends the integrity of Christ’s original message. This unfortunately, while condemning oppression, lead to extremely different moral outcomes that need to be mutually respected by both sides. Unfortunately, as an ex oppressing group, many Christians are not given this common and mutual respect of disagreement and can be labeled as medieval, prejudice or misogynistic. In order for true freedom to exist, Christian morality cannot become the newly oppressed. Yet, if the counselor, one must sometimes withhold personal opinions or beliefs, or if within Christian Counseling itself, withhold anger or judgement against an an angry client or one who professes a different life style. In counseling, empathy and healing is the desired result and the client is also a patient in which one must do no harm.
Feminism
Women have unjustly been discriminated throughout human history. Women have been seen as the weaker sex due to physical limitations. Various gender roles have attempted according to different cultures to place women in certain stations instead of validating individualism. Different cultures have different disparities of gender based oppression (Pedersen, 2018, p. 211). Many men have experienced a privilege based on the group they belong to and not based on what they have done or not done (Pedersen, 2018, p. 211). Hence women have been held back in many social spheres in religion, politics, work and the family. Women who are of a certain ethnic minority suffer a second oppression as well. This is referred to as double minority status (Pederson, 2018, p.214).
The feminist moment in the late 19th and early 20th Centuries looked to alter the oppression faced by women. It sought to remove the illusion of male superiority over females based on merely biological appearances. From a Christian perspective, movement within itself embraced the idea that God created both male and female and that all under Christ are one. Its success led to multiple triumphs in woman rights including the right to vote, as well as the appearance of women participating in politics and governance. While opening women to the work force, there still exists unequal pay barriers as well as natural prejudices that exist within social norms of Western civilization. While women have made great leaps in gaining equal treatment in society, there still exists numerous prejudices and inequalities. These issues are common problems for many women in counseling sessions and counselors need to address these issues and also advocate. This is especially the case in rape and domestic abuse which is a critical issue for women world wide.
The Christian faith recognizes the advances against oppression but still rejects radical elements of these movements that attack gender, sexuality and marriage
Yet, despite these great advances, the Church finds itself at odds with many Feminist ideologies. Some denominations pending on their level of conservative values have less friction than others but for the most part, radical feminist ideologies remain in contrast to the Christian faith. Working from least to most controversial, the role of women within the Church has greatly changed since the 1960s. Women are more seen in the Church in regards to liturgical presence than ever before. In Protestant denominations, many women serve as ministers or even bishops. In Catholicism and Orthodoxy, while the priesthood remains for males only, women now participate in liturgical services as lectors, servers, and eucharistic ministers. Permitting this has laid to rest many class/gender war ideologies within the Church but still many within the Catholic and Orthodox Churches see the theological dogma of a male only priesthood as a class struggle as identified in Liberation Theology instead of a moral absolute.
However, radical feminism has pushed into other areas there is little debate within Christian morality. Feminism pushed for a less constrained morality of the female body. Radical feminism, not true feminism, assaulted the role of husband and wife within the Sacrament of Marriage, the nature of the conjugal or sexual act, as well as attacking the rights of the unborn child. Ironically, early feminist movements condemned birth control and abortion as ways males escaped accountability. Recent radicalism has seen it as autonomy of the woman over male restrictions. All of these cases of oppression whether it is state of a woman’s role within the Church to sexual rights have disguised these questions about oppression. Radical groups have taken issues of oppression into issues of faith and morals. The radical movements look to not seek relief from oppression but looks to alter the institution and the morality of Christianity- and turn any Christian, male or female, who opposes it as an oppressor and bigot. Unfortunately, movements against oppression, or least some parts of it, can become radicalized and seek to cause damage and turn those who profess the faith as the newly oppressed.
Still, as Christian Counselors, we need to identify and show empathy with women who face true discrimination issues but also show patience with those who become angry with the Church and its morality. Those who are secular counselors must learn to balance profession and faith and attempt to focus more so on the issues female clients face without further angering or enraging them but instead listening and understanding the pain they experience as women in an unfair world and when appropriate showing action on their behalf.
Sexuality
One group that has faced extreme oppression are those who express different forms of sexual orientation or preferences. The LGBTQ movement has looked to cause awareness regarding the plight and suffering of these marginalized groups. Obviously the dominant group and socially accepted is the hetero-sexual community which makes up most sexual orientations. Those with hetero-sexual inclinations are seen as “normal” and experience far less bias and social hate. Heterosexism is the belief that any sexual relationship that is not between a man or woman is not normal and inferior (Pederson, 2018, p. 221). In addition, Homosexuals have been targeted throughout history with hate crimes and club shootings solely based on their sexual orientation. Only since the 1990s have stigmas of social outcasts been removed and the right to marry and other legal statuses granted, yet, hate still permeates under the cracks of society and this marginalized group still faces discrimination, jokes, hate and violent crimes.
Of course, this type of oppression is condemned by Christianity and Christ commands to love one’s neighbor. While Christianity continues to recognize the homosexual act as unnatural and sinful, the Catechism of the Catholic Church points out that the feelings and the urges themselves are not sin but a result of one’s broken nature, like any impure thoughts, they are to dismissed. The catechism also calls for those with this un-natural inclinations to live a life of purity and prayer. The Church forbids any hatred to the person who expresses this life style but condemns the action itself. Radical movements would label this as oppression but the Church and most of Christianity holds a moral absolute principle. It in no way seeks to restrict homosexuals in public and secular life but holds them accountable if they wish to confess the Christian creed. Restrictions within the faith are not oppressions. Christians are restricted from many moral acts, homosexuality is just one of many and if one wishes to follow Christ, one must take up one’s cross and follow the commandments.
Christian Counselors can find themselves in a delicate situation when navigating faith and counseling with cases such as transgenderism
Christian Counselors are ethically held to show nothing but love and empathy for any homosexual clients and must while highlighting the moral truths of the faith show patience and non judgement. In addition, ideas such as conversion therapy can be very dangerous to the mental health of homosexuals who come to Christian Counseling. Many who wish to live chaste lives struggle and to ignore or pretend the emotions are not real can cause intense mental damage. Every moral temptation, for whichever vice in life, needs to be acknowledged, understood and coped with as a cross in life. Attempting to make a person who is homosexual to heterosexual in terms of what they find attractive is something beyond mere wishing or desiring but a true feeling that needs to be discussed. When this feeling is cast aside as dirty or evil or fake, then this can leave a person in a very dark place. As for those Christians in secular counseling, the counselor must restrain their own bias and look to help the client despite any moral disagreements. In cases of extreme distress in counseling between counselor and client, a mutual agreement can be made for reference to another counselor but this to must be done with the utmost professionalism and concern for the well being of the patient. It is unethical to abandon any client due to moral differences.
In addition to homosexuality within the LGBTQ movement are transgenders who identify as a different sex and gender than biologically born as. Pederson points out that transphobia ranges from fear, disgust as well as hatred towards those who alter their gender or cross dress (2018, p.215). Transgender people have faced sharp ridicule and are also victim to many hate crimes, as well as discrimination. Pedersen labels those of one gender as possessing cisgender privilege without the discrimination faced by the transgender community (2018, p.215). Pederson lists various definitions of sex, gender, gender identity and gender role. He states sex is the biological traits that determine a male or female, while gender is defined as learned behavior or social construct that influences gender and its role (2018, p. 210). Gender identity, according to Pedersen, is the perception of one’s own gender as a man, woman, boy, girl, non-gendered, bigendered, or transgender (2018, p. 210).
As a counselor, those facing transgender issues or homosexuality issues face other issues beyond discrimination but a variety of conflicts within. Many experience high levels of depression, anxiety, low self esteem and abandonment. Families and friends can abandon them leaving them without support and leaving them in total isolation.. In addition, many may experience suicidal ideation. The conflict of who I feel I am and what I was born or what my faith states can cause great internal torment. Many may feel guilt or shame or become obsessed with radical alterations.
While gender roles play a part in social norms of society of how a boy or girl acts, it is important to note that certain gender roles can be constrictive to expression of individuals and sometimes within themselves harmful to emotional outlets. For instance, men should never cry, or women are meant to stay at home, or boys should play with trucks and girls with dolls are prominent in society. These are social norms, but when individuals look to express their individuality, then these norms can be dangerous, however, what about when they constrict gender discovery? Christian Counseling does not find the Pederson definitions as binding. Christian Counseling conforms with a conservative psychology perspective that transgenderism is a dysphoria from reality vs the current mainstream definition. With only main stream protocol currently accepted, counselors are encouraged to help clients identify and associate with the self that best fits and to find support and groups that affirm one’s feelings. Because of this , within the modern era for Christian Counselors, it has become the unfavorable statement albeit the most obvious that something is mentally wrong . Yet due to the highly flammable and emotional state, only the most highly trained counselor should attempt to discuss these issues since the person is already extremely distressed. When treating a transgender person, a counselor must approach it very carefully to protect the client against suicide and to not only discuss the external oppressions but also the internal anguish of conflict that exists within the person and how to properly cope and address these intense feelings in a healthy way. This is why in secular counseling, a counselor must leave personal bias aside and address the symptoms.
While oppression exists within these communities and it must be acknowledged and addressed by counselors, there is a deeper issue and more dividing issue when radical forces attempt to challenge Christian morality. In Genesis, God created them both male and female. In Christianity, one’s gender is more than one’s biological shell but an intimate part of the human person tying together the body, mind and soul. In St. Pope John Paul II sermons ranging from 1978 to 1984 regarding the human body, formerly referred to as the Theology of the Body, John Paul II paints a beautiful image of the journey of the body and soul throughout life and its continued existence in the glorified body after the General Resurrection. Hence the body and its gender plays a large role in the total person, body, mind and soul, not just the body itself. Of course, other religious traditions place less emphasis on the body but for the Christian Counselor, ones sexuality and essence are closely tied together through the creation of God. This can lead to issues of moral disagreement between the transgender community as well as the Christian community. The radical movement will label Christian morality regarding transgenderism as oppression while the Christian community will label it merely as a sin and choice that is rejected. This does not mean the Christian community wishes to oppress, but it looks to make a moral statement on a moral issue that best fits its own moral code. In many cases, the Christian community can then become oppressed like the transgender community because of non Christian values that see it as prejudice or oppressive.
As counselors, one must do no harm and perform according to the standard in helping someone with this diagnosis. It is important to acknowledge their oppression and the hate that exists against them, but many would say not to confront it but to merely show empathy and help the person find happiness. In a secular counseling session, this may be the best course of action. However, within the Christian Counseling setting, again, one is more free to discuss gender dysphoria, as well as the scriptural elements of gender, especially since the client is asking for Christian guidance. Christian Counseling is able to escape the restrictions of secular limitations when discussing immorality.
Conclusion
Multicultural counseling with groups who experience oppression require sensitive approaches that acknowledge oppression an advocate for social justice. Approaches that utilize Common Humanity and Common Enemy are best utilized as a combination to solve the oppression issues within the world. Christianity unfortunately has been misused by evil individuals throughout the centuries to perpetrate oppression. Sometimes, Due to religious and moral differences, attempts can be made to label Christians as bigots, when in reality they are merely holding to a belief.
Multicultural counseling demands respect for others with different moral backgrounds or gender ideologies. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification
In addition, gender and choice of sexuality continues to be a difficult issue addressed in counseling for counselors who are Christian, as well as those who provide Christian Counseling to those targeted groups. Differences in faith and moral choices can be a conflict for a counselor, especially within transgender ideology. Counselors nonetheless are held to hold to the axiom of do no harm and treat each patient with empathy and non judgement. Christian Counselors have more freedom than secular counselors but while able to address morality still must show love and not abandon their client. Any issue of oppression is evil and must be rectified. The groups discussed are targeted for gender or sexuality and this is wrong within a secular society. Some of the movements answered great injustices while other aspects of it became radicalized. Be careful not to over generalize. From a Christian perspective, it is OK to disagree with certain parts but still agree on others. Believing something is a sin or wrong does not make someone a bigot. However, when one seeks to oppress or hate another group, then one commits an even greater sin of hate. Between alt left groups who wish to catalogue believing Christians as bigots regarding gender morality and alt right groups hoping to ignore history and hate the person but not the sin, little dialogue can occur. Believing Christians and social progressives can find common ground by respecting each other and finding commonality. Ultimately, Christ calls all to love one another. Christ alone judges.
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Pedersen, P, et, al. “Counseling Across Cultures” (7th). Sage.
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The allure of the world in the fallen and temporal reality that humanity exists is an illusion or mirage in the desert. As pilgrims in this fallen world, our senses are dulled, our will distracted, and our eyes sometimes blinded towards truth and beauty. The inherited broken nature from Adam hinders our ability to sometimes distinguish right from wrong. According to St. Thomas Aquinas, the concupiscible appetite of humanity’s fallen nature is associated with initial desires of the senses. Unlike Adam prior, humanity lost perfect control of the passions after Adam’s fall. The end result is humanity’s appeal to these senses which can in some cases be good but in other cases bad. Hence illusionary goods that are immorally distasteful but physically pleasing can blind humanity. In addition, the broken human nature not only sees illusion in the near and present but also abstract and secondary goods. Greed, power, status and worship become end goals leading multiple individuals down a dark path.
Filtering out the noise and finding peace in prayer leads to ultimate happiness.
The conscience always seeks good. In that our human nature is not totally devastated but the conscience while perceiving a goal as good does not always objectively choose correctly. Hence the illusion that can exist even within those with good intentions. Individuals can become so distracted by the noises of the world that they can lose sight of the truth and reality. Before Christ and His ultimate sacrifice on the cross, our broken natures were left without grace, but through the cross, Christ grants grace and guidance to His creation. This can help humanity see the noise, uncover the illusions, and focus more solely on truth. Christian Counselors, ministers, priests, clergy, and other ministry based vocations can help individuals see truth. Like Paul, we sometimes need the scales removed from our eyes to see before we can truly flourish.
The Noises of the World
St Teresa of Avila in her masterpiece “The Interior Castle” guides the soul through the world to deeper connections or castles with God. The first castles are very much consumed by the world. Outside of the castle exists the world and those who are flooded with false illusions. Once one understands the inherent malfunction of this world and understands the need of God, one is able to enter into the first castle, the entry room with God. This exist from the world of illusion into the world of reality though is nevertheless filled with noise that exists outside. The noises can pull one back and forth from truth and reality to untruth and illusion. The broken conscience and will seek the world but the intellect and mind through the grace of the Holy Spirit invite it to truth. This tug of war between the the world and God exists according to St Teresa throughout the first three mansions before the soul can become more stable. Christian Counselors primarily work with individuals in these sincere but still incomplete relationships with God. Where vice and virtue, right and wrong and truth and illusion pull at clients or spiritual children.
While the world, while marred by Original Sin, is broken, it is still beautiful. Unlike Manichean views that draw a dichotomy between the world/evil with the spiritual/good, Christian theology still sees the temporal world as still retaining goodness since it was created by God. Even our fallen human nature, still retains beauty for it is not totally corrupted. Christ became human, lived among humanity, existed within the temporal world, highlighted its beauty but also pointed out its noises and imperfections. So, while broken, nothing is totally destroyed. Not all noises of the world are evil. In Christian Counseling, it is hence important to help guide individuals through these noises, labeling them and better understanding them.
In creating a hierarch to judge the noises of the world as good, bad, or neutral, one needs two fundamental measurements. First, and foremost, do noises distract from the ultimate purpose of existence to know, love and serve God? Our primary goal in life is always spiritual. The ultimate end is always God. Things that lead to another end are noises within the world that are not good but inherently evil. Do the noises or actions from those noises correlate with God’s Law or violate it? Do they even if neutral seem to distract one from God? Secondly, some noises of the world can be more difficult to discern. Discernment involves deep spiritual prayer and reflection upon choices. What are the fruits of certain actions? Are they, as St. Ignatius Loyola point out, lead to the banner of Satan and the world, or under the banner of Christ? So noises can be difficult sometimes to discern and it is important to be able to discern what ultimately leads to God and not away from Him. So, noises within the world can be good, neutral or bad. So, we will look at some of these noises and try to better understand their role in our existence. As temporal beings, these noises although not always tied to our ultimate end are still nonetheless sometime very important. In addition, as we will see, some noises are also completely un-necessary but allow them to enter and destroy our peace.
Good Noises
As physical beings, we have physical needs and the good noises of the world meets those needs. Pieces of heaven pierce through the veil that separates and gives sunshine to the broken nature of things in temporal reality. Things that are physical but also connected to higher values such as love will exist here and in the next world. A beloved family member, friend, or even pet, is more than a temporal bond but a bond that is beautiful on earth and heaven. The noises of the world that call one to serve one’s fellow brother or sister are good noises. Seeing Christ in other human beings and being called to the temporal needs of others in this world are good noises. They do not distract but are means to the end. Unfortunately because we exist in a fallen world, happiness associated with our loved ones ultimately ends in suffering because of death and loss but these connections are re-made again with God in the eschatological reality which is perfect and true. So the noises of this world that call us to special bonds and helping our neighbor are good noises that build our union with others and God.
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Some good noises are less binding to the next world and exist only in this world. They are good when in balance with our spiritual needs and understood within their proper context. Jesus who existed on earth lived as a human being and understood that existence requires not only spirituality but also physical dependence to survive. So many noises direct oneself to temporal needs because one cannot always focus on the spiritual end. These noises include the joys of a good meal, exercise, health, career and income which make survival possible. Jesus within His first thirty years of life followed in His foster father’s footsteps and worked as a carpenter. He worked, he collected income for Himself and His mother, and existed. Jesus also as a human person experienced joy with social communal meetings. He ate with friends, attended parties and weddings, and experienced the goodness that exists in this dark world.
In many ways, good noises are healthy. We have duties and obligations. We cannot always contemplate the mysteries of God but must make a living, or prepare a meal, or sweep the house, or attend a friend’s wedding, or enjoy a song or movie, or go on a vacation! Jesus understands this because He is also one of us. The good noise does not take away from God but focuses one on the daily duty ahead that is required in this important phase of our existence. What Jesus did not do though is turn these good noises into distractions to primary duty. When secondary duties consume, or events take away from God, that are not inherently bad, but in some cases good or neutral, then they can become corrupted. When one allows temporal activities to become an obsession over duty to God, then they can become detrimental. Jesus never put prayer second to anything. He also corrected Martha, when Mary focused on worship, while Martha was more concerned about preparing the house or serving the guests. Martha was not distracted by a bad thing to do, but it was her timing that Jesus corrected in regards to duty to first Himself as God, and then later temporal duties. This is why good noises must always be tied to God. One cannot focus on God every minute, but one can in the morning offer all duties and obligations to God as prayer. St Theresa the Little Flower would turn a simple action as sweeping the convent floor into an act of love by giving her daily duty to God. In this way, one can spiritualize the temporal duties and vocations one may have at home, work, or school and turn them into living prayers.
Now obviously, some urges are neutral noises. Hunger, fatigue, even sickness, can distract one from God, but again God understands when hunger or fatigue affects prayer. He understands when basic human needs push one to focus on those needs. Jesus endured all the basic human needs we do but as God was also able to teach us how to offer up those needs when suffering or upset or hungry. These minor neutral and natural distractions are noises that can distract from prayer but when offered up can become powerful tools for growth in grace. Our most beautiful prayer may be our least focused due to pain or hunger, but the effort to still say it, is most pleasing to God.
Bad Noises
Bad noises in the world are inherently evil noises of the world or neutral or initially good noises that are imbalanced or lead to distraction from the spiritual. If someone is working for his or her family with long hours or attending events with family and friends, this is good or neutral within itself, but if this causes neglect of prayer life or leads one to miss spiritual obligations then it becomes a distraction. If a sporting events prevents spiritual obligations that are due to God to become unmet, then the sporting event, while good or neutral, becomes in this particular case a bad and distracting noise. When one creates an imbalance on earthly duties or leisure events at the expense of God then God is put second and the this particular noise steals from God and distracts one from one’s duty to the ultimate end. It is important to have a hierarchy of needs within one’s life. Spiritual needs should always exist on the top of the list. When spiritual needs are neglected, these noises create spiritual sloth. This in turn creates laziness and imbalance. Imagine if one neglected teeth hygiene but over focused on skin hygiene. Hence we need to balance and meet all human needs from mind, body and soul. Obviously the soul should be at the top of the list, but when other things take away from the soul, then the soul suffers. This type of neglect or spiritual sloth occurs because of outside noises that are inherently good or neutral but distort balance and lead to spiritual sloth. One must identify what is most important and also find balance to ensure the ultimate end is not neglected.
Of course, some noises are inherently bad. Sins and vice not only distract one from God, but also call us away from God and harm the soul. They damage the soul and replace virtue and good habit with vice and bad habit. They become the illusions that present themselves as good options and look to replace God as our new idol. These bad noises pull and drag us from the first mansion of union with God and dump us again in the cold barren world. The bad noises of the world are very loud. They fall under the banner of the world and Satan and make false promises. They are cheap thrills and pleasures that ultimately lead to no long term happiness but only brokenness. Like the Sirens of ancient Greek mythology, they lure wayward sailors to impending doom.
It is important to discern the bad noises from the good noises and fight temptations that lead to the wrong path of life. These noises not only distract but lead to alienation from God and entrap the soul into the follies of the world. As Christian Counselors, we must try to help individuals escape the mire and mud of the bad noises that sometimes refuse to release. That involves identifying the true nature of these noises but also ways to help form new and better habits. As Christians, we can at any moment make a poor decision. We can not only become distracted by inherently neutral or good things but also fall victim to a bad noise. When this happens, we will feel guilt and sorrow, however, we are not perfect, nor claim it, but acknowledge our broken nature and dependence upon Christ and the grace of the Holy Spirit to seek forgiveness. So, while some may be entrapped by bad noises constantly, Christian Counselors, pastors, priests, as well as anyone in ministry should be aware that there are many who slip on the trail from time to time and need an encouraging word to get back up. Within Catholicism, confession exists, but for those within other denominations of Christianity, counseling and words of love can be very helpful. Ultimately God forgives everyone who slips. The Church is comprised of sinners. We cannot escape it, so if distracted, we must sometimes acknowledge our brokenness with humility and seek forgiveness and refocus on becoming closer to God.
Helping Christians Through Un-necessary Noises
Understanding what noises are both good and bad is an important first step but there is more sometimes in finding true balance in life. The first point is to be spiritual first. This involves the moment one wakes up, offering the entire day to God. Spiritualizing the daily duty and offering to God through Christ sets the tone for the day. Furthermore, the evening and night should end with thanksgiving.
So much anxiety and lack of peace comes from un-necessary noise. This not only distracts from God but also causes inner turmoil
As spiritual beings, it is important that the spiritual end with God comes first in life. Hence, even good noises, need to find placement second to spiritual obligations throughout the week. There is an abundance of opportunities throughout churches not to forgo spiritual obligation for secular event. God asks for one hour a week.
Christian Counselors can help individuals better plan times and find better management for spiritual hygiene. Clergy can help people understand the best ways to implement prayer on the go during busy schedules. One can fulfill daily temporal duties and still worship God and find time for God. This may involve also properly balancing time. Idle time on chat, social media, or tv can be moderated if in excess. When these simple neutral noises become so loud that they dominate a larger part of the day at the expense of daily duty as well as spiritual duty, then one needs to step aside and re-evaluate priorities and possible addictions. Christian Counselors, pastors, and clergy can help individuals better time manage and also balance life in regards to social distractions not in moderation.
The peace that comes with time with God can better adjust attitudes and emotions that are soiled by the constant useless idle addiction to the world. The irritations of the world cannot only make one bitter but they can also distract one from God, while focusing on useless and meaningless trivial issues on social media, or what someone is doing or not doing. Prayer refocuses and filters out the unnecessary noises. I think that is another good adjective for noise beyond good, neutral and bad. The temporal world thrusts many necessary but also many un-necessary noises on individuals that dominate their day and distract them from what is important not only spiritually but also temporarily. These distractions cause frustrations at the emotional level causing unneeded stress and bitterness for many things that do no even involve a person. The news, politics, or what someone said on a social media outlet that you will never meet can all cause unneeded anger and frustration that un-necessarily dominates the day and most negatively steals peace for oneself and prayer towards God. So, it is important to take inventory of time management on fruitless endeavors and meaningless and un-necessary noise that steals peace but also distracts one from God.
Conclusion
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We are pilgrims in a fallen world. We ourselves are broken through Original Sin but through the graces obtained by Christ on the cross and administered by the Holy Spirit, we can walk through this temporal world. While broken, the world itself is not completed corrupted and through the example of Christ, we can see the importance of merely existing in it and offering everything to God. It is important however for us while existing to understand the ultimate end which is God. Through a morning offering, we can spiritualize our daily lives and instead of them becoming distractions allow them to become living prayers. Yet, we can sometimes be tugged by distractions and noises of the world and must find balance and priority with God. There are many good or neutral noises that are necessary but when they become first over God then they become big issues. Of course there are also bad noises that are inherently evil within themselves and we must try as hard as we can to limit these mistakes in life. Our goal is to live in this world, as Christ did, but to also to focus on the next. Christ is out ultimate example as both God and Man to filter through the noises of the world, discern them and offer them to God, while existing here but also hoping for there.
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Isaiah 9:6-7 stands as a monumental piece of scripture, revered by many for its profound anticipation of the coming of Jesus Christ and his Earthly ministry. This passage not only foretells the birth of Jesus but also intricately describes His nature and the role He is to play in the lives of believers. It refers to Jesus as a “Wonderful Counselor,” among other titles, highlighting an aspect of Christ’s ministry that offers deep insights into the fusion of divine guidance with the principles of counseling. Exploring this passage opens the door to understanding how biblical teachings can enrich the fabric of contemporary Christian counseling, grounding spiritual growth firmly in the bedrock of God’s love. Christ is the paradigm for all counselors. His virtue and ability to listen and advise with love and compassion all point to Him as the most wonderful Counselor
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This article aims to delve into how the prophecy of Isaiah 9:6-7 finds its fulfillment in Jesus, examining His qualities as a Wonderful Counselor and what it means for individuals seeking guidance and solace in their lives. It will explore the role of Jesus in counseling, stressing the importance of listening to His teachings and applying biblical principles in the counseling process. Additionally, this exploration will cover aspects of professional Christian counseling, including what Christian counselors do, the importance of Christ-first counseling, and how individuals can overcome personal barriers to spiritual growth. By drawing upon these themes, readers will gain a comprehensive understanding of how integrating Jesus’ teachings can enhance the effectiveness of counseling for Christians, fostering a deeper connection with God’s love.
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The Prophecy and Its Fulfillment in Jesus
Isaiah 9:6 stands as a cornerstone of biblical prophecy, heralding the arrival of a divine figure who would bear the weight of governance and embody the essence of God’s eternal plan. This prophecy, deeply embedded in the fabric of Christian theology, foretells the birth of Jesus Christ, a pivotal event that marks both a fulfillment and a beginning in the biblical narrative.
Isaiah 9:6 Explained
The verse explicitly states, “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” This passage is not merely a prediction; it encapsulates the essence of Jesus’ mission and the characteristics he embodies. The child, referred to here, is distinctively marked by titles that transcend human leadership, pointing directly to the divine.
Historically, this prophecy served as a beacon of hope for the people of Judah, promising deliverance from darkness and oppression through a leader whose reign would be characterized by peace and righteousness. The mention of a child who would shoulder the government underscores a dual expectation of innocence and sovereign authority, culminating in the leadership of Christ.
The Titles of the Messiah
The titles ascribed to Jesus in Isaiah 9:6 are profound, each reflecting a unique aspect of his divine and human roles. “Wonderful Counselor” indicates wisdom beyond human capabilities, highlighting Jesus’ role in guiding his followers through the complexities of life with divine wisdom. “Mighty God” emphasizes his divine nature, affirming the Christian belief in Jesus’ divinity and his integral role in the Godhead.
“Everlasting Father” suggests a timeless, enduring leadership, portraying Jesus as a paternal figure whose guidance and protection are perpetual. Lastly, “Prince of Peace” encapsulates his mission to reconcile humanity with God, bringing an eternal peace that surpasses political and temporal solutions.
The fulfillment of this prophecy is seen in the New Testament, where Jesus’ birth, life, ministry, and resurrection align with the characteristics and roles foretold by Isaiah. His governance is not of political strife but of the hearts and spirits of his followers, establishing a kingdom based on justice, peace, and righteousness.
The prophecy of Isaiah 9:6-7, therefore, is not just a foretelling of events but a declaration of the enduring hope and eternal governance brought forth by Jesus Christ. It serves as a foundational text that underscores the messianic expectations and the profound nature of Jesus’ mission as understood in Christian theology. Through these titles, the prophecy articulates a multifaceted understanding of Jesus’ identity and role, which continues to resonate with believers worldwide.
Jesus’ Qualities as a Wonderful Counselor
Jesus possesses all the qualities of the perfect counselor. Christian Counselors should emulate His approach
Exploring ‘Wonderful’
The term “Wonderful Counselor,” as used in Isaiah 9:6, carries a depth that transcends common usage today. The original Hebrew connotation of “wonderful” implies something miraculous, incomprehensible, and awe-inspiring. This description of the Messiah, Jesus Christ, suggests an extraordinary capacity that goes beyond human understanding, marking Him as a counselor whose wisdom and guidance are divine in nature. His counsel is not merely helpful but filled with wonder, leading individuals to marvel at the profound insights and solutions He provides.
Jesus’ Exemplary Deeds
Jesus Christ demonstrated His wonderful nature through various actions during His time on Earth. From His miraculous birth to His resurrection, each event in His life underscored His divine capabilities. He healed the sick, such as restoring sight to the blind and curing diseases with a touch or a word, showcasing His authority over physical ailments. His teachings, filled with deep wisdom, astonished many, including those who were well-versed in religious law.
Furthermore, Jesus led a life without sin, which is in itself a testament to His perfect nature (Hebrews 4:15). His resurrection, a pivotal moment, not only fulfilled prophecies but also displayed His power over death, affirming His role as the Mighty God and Everlasting Father. These acts of healing, teaching, and perfect moral standing highlight His qualifications as a “Wonderful Counselor,” capable of providing unmatched guidance and insight.
Through His interactions, Jesus also addressed the deeper needs of individuals, diagnosing and meeting their spiritual and emotional requirements. For instance, His encounter with the Rich Young Ruler revealed Jesus’ ability to discern the heart’s intentions and provide counsel that, although challenging, aimed at true spiritual growth and freedom from material bondage.
In summary, the qualities of Jesus as a Wonderful Counselor are vividly demonstrated through His divine attributes and His earthly ministry. His actions and teachings not only fulfill the prophecy of Isaiah but continue to offer profound guidance and wisdom to all who seek His counsel today.
Jesus in the Role of Counselor
Historical Context
Jesus Christ, often heralded as the ultimate model for counselors, exemplifies the integration of divine wisdom and human interaction. His role as a counselor was not confined to the mere dispensation of advice but was deeply embedded in His interactions with individuals across various contexts. Historically, Jesus acted as a counselor in the broadest sense—He understood the human psyche intricately, as evidenced by His dual nature as both divine creator and incarnate Son of God.
Throughout His earthly ministry, Jesus engaged with individuals from all walks of life, addressing their spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. His approach was not limited to formal settings but was carried out wherever He went—be it streets, weddings, or wellsides. This omnipresent availability highlights His commitment to meeting people where they were, emphasizing His role as a shepherd and overseer of souls.
Biblical Illustrations
The Gospels are replete with instances that showcase Jesus’ profound ability to counsel and transform lives. One of the most poignant illustrations is His interaction with the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:1-42). Here, Jesus, though physically weary, prioritizes the woman’s deeper spiritual thirst, offering her “living water” that symbolizes eternal life and fulfillment beyond earthly means. This encounter not only addresses her immediate social and personal issues but also extends an invitation to a transformed life.
Another significant example is found in Jesus’ response to the adulterous woman brought before Him (John 8:3-11). Instead of condemning her, Jesus uses the situation to teach profound lessons on sin, grace, and redemption, effectively counseling both the accused and her accusers. His approach was not to inflict shame but to restore dignity and encourage a path free from sin.
Jesus’ ability to delve into the depths of human experience and offer transformative guidance is further exemplified in His interactions with His disciples, particularly in restoring Peter after his denial (John 21:15-23). Here, Jesus not only reassures Peter of his worth but also reorients him towards his role in the early Church, demonstrating how effective counseling can lead to personal restoration and fulfillment of one’s calling.
These biblical accounts underscore Jesus’ mastery in counseling, marked by a deep understanding of human nature, a compassionate approach to individual struggles, and a focus on holistic transformation. His legacy as the Wonderful Counselor continues to influence Christian counseling today, encouraging a reliance on His wisdom and the Holy Spirit’s guidance in all manners of personal and communal challenges. Through these illustrations, believers are reminded of the profound impact that wise, empathetic, and spiritually grounded counseling can have on individuals and communities alike.
Listening to Jesus as a Counselor
Open the door when Christ knocks and listen to His counsel
Empathy and Wisdom
Jesus’ approach to counseling is deeply rooted in empathy, a non-negotiable virtue that enables a counselor to connect emotionally and understand the sufferings of others. His interactions throughout the Gospels demonstrate a profound ability to empathize with people from all walks of life, regardless of their circumstances. For instance, when observing the crowds, Jesus not only recognized their physical ailments but also understood the spiritual and emotional burdens they carried. This depth of understanding was paired with an unparalleled wisdom that allowed Him to address not just the symptoms but the root causes of their struggles.
Empathy in counseling according to Jesus involves a genuine connection with individuals, acknowledging their suffering without judgment. This empathetic connection is crucial as it fosters a safe environment where individuals feel understood and valued, paving the way for effective counseling. Jesus exemplified this through His actions, whether it was through healing the sick or offering words of comfort and guidance. His ability to be present in the moments of people’s deepest needs, offering both understanding and actionable wisdom, sets a foundational example for all who provide counsel.
Biblical Encouragement
The role of encouragement in counseling cannot be overstated, and Jesus mastered this through His words and deeds. Biblical encouragement, as demonstrated by Jesus, involves more than mere compliments; it is about directing individuals towards spiritual truths that uplift and edify. This form of encouragement is evident when Jesus interacted with those around Him, constantly pointing them back to the truths of God’s word and His promises. For example, His discussions often included references to Scripture that provided reassurance and hope, such as His reminders of God’s omnipresence and the ultimate victory over sin and death.
Encouragement from a biblical perspective involves recognizing and affirming God’s work in an individual’s life, which can significantly impact their spiritual and emotional well-being. It helps individuals see beyond their current struggles to the greater purpose and plan God has for them. Jesus’ method of encouragement was always filled with grace and truth, providing a balance that not only comforted but also motivated individuals towards spiritual growth and reliance on God.
In counseling, adopting Jesus’ approach means integrating empathy with the wisdom of Scripture, ensuring that encouragement is not just uplifting but also transformative. This dual application of empathy and biblical encouragement helps counselors address the needs of the soul with sensitivity and depth, following the exemplary model set by Jesus, our Wonderful Counselor.
Elements of Effective Counseling
Effective counseling in a Christian context involves a balanced integration of four key elements: commendation, comfort, conviction, and challenge. Each component plays a crucial role in fostering spiritual growth and personal transformation, aligning closely with biblical principles.
Commendation and Comfort
Commendation in counseling involves identifying and affirming thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that align with scriptural wisdom. This process is vital for building confidence and instilling hope within counselees. It requires a deep understanding of the individual’s experiences and a diligent search for Christlike behaviors, even amidst significant personal struggles. For example, in Revelation 2:2-3, Jesus commends the church of Ephesus for their deeds and perseverance, acknowledging their strengths before addressing areas of improvement. This approach not only motivates but also opens the heart to receive further guidance.
Comfort, the second element, entails offering words that bring peace, relief, and consolation to those in distress. It involves a profound understanding of the individual’s pain and applying God’s promises specifically to their situation. However, true Christian comfort goes beyond mere sympathy; it combines empathy with actionable steps, preventing the comfort zone from becoming a stagnation point. It challenges the individual to move beyond their current state towards greater spiritual maturity, balancing sympathy with the necessity for growth.
Conviction and Challenge
Conviction involves making individuals aware of how their thoughts, feelings, or actions may have strayed from God’s laws. This component is crucial as it confronts the individual with the reality of their sin or shortcomings in a loving yet truthful manner. It’s about bringing to light the areas that need correction, which is essential for genuine repentance and spiritual growth.
The final element, challenge, focuses on helping individuals devise and implement a plan that aligns their thoughts, feelings, and actions with biblical teachings. This proactive step is vital for ensuring that the counseling process leads to tangible changes in behavior and mindset. It encourages the counselee to apply scriptural wisdom actively in everyday life, thereby promoting continuous spiritual and personal development.
By weaving together these four elements—commendation, comfort, conviction, and challenge—Christian counseling can effectively guide individuals towards a deeper relationship with Christ, marked by a transformative and renewing journey of faith. This holistic approach not only addresses immediate issues but also fosters long-term spiritual resilience and growth.
Seeking Professional Christian Counseling
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While the Bible does not explicitly address the profession of counseling, it strongly advocates for the wisdom and safety found in seeking counsel. Proverbs 11:14 and 12:15, among other verses, endorse the value of guidance, portraying it as a wise and necessary pursuit for managing life’s challenges. This biblical endorsement forms the foundation for the practice of professional Christian counseling, which integrates scriptural wisdom with therapeutic expertise.
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Biblical Support
Scripture does not directly mention professional counseling but offers broad support for the concept through its endorsement of seeking wisdom and multiple counselors. For instance, Proverbs 19:20 and 13:10 suggest that wise counsel is crucial for personal well-being and safety. These passages collectively imply that while the advisors in biblical times were not labeled as professional counselors, the act of seeking and heeding wise counsel aligns with biblical principles.
Attributes of Professional Counselors
Professional Christian counselors are distinguished by their specialized training and commitment to integrating biblical truth with counseling practices. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, the term “professional” implies a level of specialized education and training which professional Christian counselors embody. They often hold credentials such as Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) or Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), highlighting their expertise in both spiritual and psychological disciplines.
These counselors are adept at navigating the complexities of human behavior and mental health through a biblical lens. They utilize their training to identify root causes of personal struggles and employ scriptural principles to guide their therapeutic approaches. This dual expertise enables them to offer not only psychological relief but also spiritual growth and healing.
Professional Christian counselors also respect the distinction between different counseling methodologies. While some adhere to Nouthetic counseling, which focuses on sin as the root of problems and uses scripture as the sole corrective, others recognize the limitations of this approach. They understand that some issues require more comprehensive psychotherapeutic interventions, alongside spiritual guidance.
In practice, these counselors do not impose their worldview but facilitate the discovery of truth in a caring manner. They are trained to use biblical wisdom and professional therapeutic techniques to help individuals navigate their challenges while fostering spiritual growth.
By integrating professional expertise with a deep understanding of biblical principles, Christian counselors provide a unique and vital service that supports both mental health and spiritual well-being. Their work not only addresses immediate psychological needs but also encourages a deeper relationship with Christ, aligning with the overall goal of Christian counseling to bring about holistic healing and spiritual maturity.
Overcoming Personal Barriers
Common Obstacles
One of the significant challenges many individuals face in their spiritual journey is the internalization of an idealized ‘quiet time’ with God. This often envisioned scenario involves uninterrupted, serene moments of prayer and Bible study, typically imagined in the early morning hours with no distractions. However, for most, such a perfect setting is unattainable, leading to discouraged attempts at spiritual practices. It is crucial to recognize that spiritual growth is not confined to these idealized moments. Instead, individuals can engage with God in various everyday situations such as during daily commutes, in work meetings, or even while performing household chores.
Moreover, the pursuit of spiritual growth is often hindered by the distractions of daily life. The allure of materialism, the pressures of societal expectations, and the pursuit of pleasure can clutter the soul, making it difficult to maintain a close and intimate relationship with God. Additionally, sin, whether overt or subtle, creates barriers between individuals and God, affecting their prayer life and overall spiritual health. The recognition and acknowledgment of these sins, followed by genuine repentance, are essential steps toward spiritual renewal.
Biblical Encouragement
To navigate these barriers, the Bible offers profound encouragement and practical advice. Scripture teaches that spiritual growth requires intentional effort and is a lifelong process. Individuals are encouraged to “cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7), which underscores the importance of trusting God with all aspects of life, including the challenges and obstacles that hinder spiritual growth.
Furthermore, relationships play a crucial role in spiritual development. Associating with negative or judgmental individuals can severely limit one’s spiritual progress. Instead, fostering relationships with those who embody Christlike attributes can enhance one’s faith and encourage spiritual maturity. The Bible also warns against the dangers of legalism and fear, which can stifle spiritual freedom and growth.
In overcoming personal barriers to spiritual growth, it is helpful to create environments that encourage engagement with God. Keeping spiritual resources accessible, such as Bible apps or scripture cards around living and workspaces, can remind individuals to turn their thoughts to God throughout the day. This practice helps in maintaining a constant connection with God, enabling individuals to overcome the distractions and challenges that life presents.
By addressing these common obstacles with biblical wisdom and practical steps, individuals can foster a deeper relationship with God, overcoming the barriers that hinder their spiritual growth and embracing a life of faith and fulfillment.
Applying Jesus’ Teachings in Counseling
Practical Applications
In applying Jesus’ teachings to counseling, it is essential to recognize the foundational role that biblical principles play in promoting mental and emotional well-being. According to insights derived from scripture, God provides a blueprint for mental health that, while not exhaustive, guides individuals toward maintaining a positive mental direction. For instance, Philippians 4:6-7 offers a clear directive to not be anxious but instead, through prayer and thanksgiving, present requests to God, allowing His peace to guard one’s heart and mind. This approach aligns with the counseling practice of encouraging clients to focus on the present moment and manage anxieties by trusting in divine providence.
Furthermore, Proverbs 14:16 highlights the importance of wisdom and self-control—qualities that Jesus epitomized and that are crucial in counseling settings. Counselors can guide clients to adopt these traits, fostering decision-making that shuns recklessness and embraces thoughtful consideration of consequences. This biblical insight supports the therapeutic goal of helping clients develop healthier emotional responses and behavioral patterns.
Living by His Wisdom
Living by the wisdom of Jesus involves integrating His teachings into daily counseling practices. This includes fostering an environment where clients feel safe and valued, an approach deeply rooted in the empathetic and compassionate manner Jesus demonstrated throughout His ministry. For example, the parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37) teaches the value of mercy and active assistance, principles that can be directly applied in counseling to encourage individuals to support one another in healing and recovery.
Additionally, counselors can draw on the biblical principle of rest as exemplified by Jesus’ own practices. Mark 6:31 emphasizes the necessity of withdrawing from the busyness of life to restore one’s spirit, a practice that can be crucial for both counselors and clients. By advocating for balanced work-rest cycles, as prescribed in the Mosaic Law and exemplified by Jesus, counselors can help clients achieve better mental health and avoid burnout.
Incorporating these teachings requires a counselor to not only share knowledge but also actively listen, empathize, and respond with grace. This mirrors Jesus’ interaction with individuals such as the Samaritan woman at the well, where He provided insights into her life in a gentle yet transformative manner, highlighting the deep connection between spiritual well-being and emotional health.
By applying these biblical principles, counselors can more effectively guide their clients towards healing, demonstrating that the teachings of Jesus are not only spiritually enriching but also fundamentally supportive of mental and emotional health.
Conclusion
Throughout this exploration of Isaiah 9:6-7 and the multifaceted identity of Jesus as the Wonderful Counselor, we have uncovered the profound impacts His teachings hold for both personal growth and the practice of Christian counseling. By examining His life and ministry, we recognize the unmatched depth of wisdom, empathy, and guidance He offers to all seeking solace and direction. These insights not only fulfill ancient prophecies but also serve as the bedrock for integrating faith and counseling, emphasizing the transformative power of applying Jesus’ teachings in our lives and in the support of others.
Jesus Christ is the Most Wonderful Counselor. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Program
The journey through scripture and the application of Jesus’ roles in counseling showcases the enduring relevance of His counsel in today’s world. It prompts a deeper engagement with the divine wisdom available to us, encouraging both individuals and counselors to lean into the biblical principles that guide and enrich the human experience. As we continue to navigate life’s complexities, let us draw upon the legacy of Jesus as our Wonderful Counselor, ever-anchored in the hope and healing that His eternal guidance provides, steering us toward a future marked by spiritual growth and emotional well-being.
Jesus is the ultimate Counselor and all Christian Counselors should strive to emulate His approach. Christ is always empathetic but always true and honest. He looks to cause no harm but heal. Likewise, Christian Counselors need to also push forward with the same spirit. AIHCP offers a Christian Counseling Certification for both licensed and pastoral counselors who wish to introduce Christian principles and values into counseling and psychological treatments. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.
FAQs
What is the significance of Jesus being called “Wonderful Counselor” in Isaiah 9? Jesus is referred to as the “Wonderful Counselor” in Isaiah 9, signifying that He is a knowledgeable leader for His people. This title emphasizes that Christ embodies the perfect counsel, guiding Christians in their faith and life.
How does the Holy Spirit serve as our counselor? The Holy Spirit plays a crucial role in guiding believers into all truth, revealing and applying the teachings of Jesus Christ to their lives. This divine guidance ensures that believers can fully embrace and live out the teachings of their Wonderful Counselor, Jesus.
What does Isaiah 9:7 describe? Isaiah 9:7 highlights the eternal nature of Christ’s kingdom. It states that His governance and peace will never end, He will rule on David’s throne with justice and righteousness forever. This prophecy is fulfilled through the zeal of the LORD Almighty.
What does the Bible convey about God’s role as a counselor? The Bible offers multiple verses that illustrate God as a counselor. For instance, Psalm 16:7 and Psalm 119:24 depict how God provides counsel and wisdom through His words and testimonies, guiding believers towards righteousness and understanding.
Additional Resources
Barrier, R. “Why Does the Bible Call Jesus a Wonderful Counselor?”. CrossWalk. Access here
Compelling Truth. “How is Jesus Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6)?”. Compelling Truth. Access here
Gaius, G. “Christ Our Model: The Model Counselor”. Truth and Tidings. Access here
Gaultiere, B. “Jesus’ Ministry As the Wonderful Counselor”. Soul Shepherding. Access here
God expects us to be good stewards of all gifts and time is one of them. In the Parable of the Talents, Jesus speaks of the anger of the master over the servant who did little with the talents and buried them. Hence as Christians, we are called to share our gifts and cultivate them. When sloth enters into the equation, one wastes time and squanders chances to better oneself on multiple levels. We have many different responsibilities in life and a true vocation. We need to live each day and fulfill daily duties. By giving God each day, we are better able to fulfill our many duties.
Time management is a key that can also help individuals better balance work, school, family, responsibilities and leisure. At the center must be time for prayer and God to properly direct our energies to where they need to go. Morning Offerings to God help dedicate each day to God and help us focus our energy to Him.
Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.
To help transform a person to change, attending, listening and responding are key, but the skilled counselor needs to be able to help instigate change or water the seeds of the healing process within a client. Whether loss and grief, or merely more daily stressors or emotional issues that are holding the client back from living life productively, the counselor needs to know how to coach the client and help the client find that preferred outcome. This involves not only identifying the goals and actively pushing towards them but also motivating and challenging them. Like a coach who is able to abstract the best out of their players on the field, a counselor needs to be able to encourage and challenge his/her clients to produce meaningful change. Some clients respond better, others may be still facing inner turmoil and self esteem issues. Some clients may be more resilient naturally, while others may need more prodding and gentle and empathetic guidance. Each client is unique and different but the general ideas within this short blog complement the previous blogs on attending the client and responding to the client.
Challenging and encouraging a client to change is much like a coach trying to get the best of a player on the field
Some clients may have zero motivation to be challenged. They may possess some world view or bias that prevents this change. Some may be forced to attend counseling and feel no need to change. This can occur with state mandated counseling or clients forced to attend because of family or spouses. Some clients may feel motivated simply because of guilt and look to foster a positive change. Some may simply have an interest in the counseling process and wish to see what happens. In the best case, one will find a client who understands the critical importance of counseling and the changes that need made. Regardless of the clients motivation level, it is the purpose of the counselor to help bring the best out of the client. This can be easier said then done.
The Counselor as Coach?
Life coaching in itself is a newer field within the Human Service Field. It is not clinical or requiring of various licensing but it does promote the idea of healthy change and life styles. It involves a professional who is trained to motivate, direct and help clients meet end goals. This involves both encouraging and challenging the client. Whether it is a weight goal, training goal, dieting goal, or health and life style change, life coaches are inherently trained to help produce change through motivation, encouragement and challenging of their clients. Counselors, whether pastoral or clinical, working in grief counseling or other mental counseling disciplines, through empathetic listening and responding, should have a vested interest in helping their clients meet change, but some may lack the skills to help motivate the client to change. As counselors, the client is directed and given options, but is never commanded or forced to change, instead, the client is invited to change through an array of options. Many times, clients need motivated and encouraged and even challenged to push forward through these options. Many times they may fall and need help getting up. Again, like a coach in sports, it is the counselor’s profession to not only direct, but also to help the client emotionally and mentally push towards that direction.
Challenging for New Behaviors
According to Egan, it is important to challenge clients to change. He states,
“Help clients, challenge themselves to change ways of thinking, expressing emotions, and acting them mired in problem situations and prevent them from identifying and developing opportunities…become partners with your clients in helping them challenge themselves to find opportunities in their problems, to discover unused strengths and resources, both internal and external, and to commit themselves to the actions needed to make opportunity development happen (2019, p. 190).
In challenging, Egan emphasizes the importance of the counselor and client relationship which is based on trust and partnership. A counselor, in the eyes of the client, needs to earn the right to challenge. Once this is established, the counselor needs to ensure that challenges are presented tentatively but not apologetically, with a balance between not being too harsh but not also too passive. In addition, counselors need to ensure the challenges are clear and specific. Challenges also should not make demands or be forceful in nature but provide a structural system of choices. As the term challenge indicates, it is never easy, so help clients utilize unused strengths to help meet the challenges and the ability to build on successful challenges to meet new ones (2019, p. 220-225). As Egan points out, the counselor should be a “catalyst for a better future (2019, p. 190)”.
Many times, a counselor has to identify what is preventing the person from being able to face a challenge in life
In challenging clients, many times, they have many inherent issues that are already hampering them with the problem and maybe life in general. To help clients become more resilient and able to create new behaviors, counselors sometimes need to identify blocks and issues within the client. Egan lists a variety of target areas that negatively affect a client’s ability to respond to challenges and delay productive and healthy change. Through attending, listening and responding, a counselor is able to identify certain issues that may restrict the ability of a client to respond effectively to challenges.
The first issue Egan lists are what he refers to as self defeating mindsets that include “assumptions, attitudes, beliefs, values, bias, convictions, inclinations, norms, points of view, perceptions of self and the world, preconceptions and prejudices (2019, p. 190-191)”. Albert Ellis looked at facing irrational beliefs head on with interventions that would challenge irrational mindsets. According to Ellis, many individuals have flawed misconceptions on life. Egan lists a few of these ideals.
I must only be liked and loved in life
I must always be in control in life
I must always have my things done my way or no way
I should never have any problems
I am a victim and not responsible for any of my issues
I will avoid things that are difficult
I believe my past dictates what I do in the future
I do not need happiness in anything or anyone else
(Egan, 2019, p.191)
Ellis considered these mindsets as impediments to change because when something did happen that was bad, the person would tend to “catastrophize” it and become unable to adjust to the problem or even be remotely open to challenges to face it. In addition to these mindsets, Egan points out that some individuals embrace in four fallacies that hamper change, as according to Sternberg. Among those listed by Sternberg were egocentrism and taking into account only one’s own interests, omniscience and thinking one knows everything about the issue, omnipotence and feeling one can do whatever one desires and invulnerability and one will never face true consequences (2019, p.192). Obviously these four fallacies are undesirable characteristics and whether naive or part of a greater personality disorder, they are issues that can prevent true change in the client.
In addition to mindsets, some individuals may have self defeating emotions and feelings that prevent them from achieving goals. They may possess low self esteem or poor self image. They may have fears that prevent them doing greater things. Others may possess various dysfunctional behaviors that are external in nature. In essence, the person cannot get out of their own way in life. Their behavior, unknown to them sometimes, continues to create the issues they are trying to escape. Others may possess discrepancies in what they feel and think in regards to what they say and do and how they view themselves versus how they are truly viewed by others. Other times, individuals can be hampered in making true change or answering challenges because of unused strengths or resources (Egan, 2019, p. 194-197).
Other “Blind Spots” within the client preventing and hampering change can include various levels of unawareness. This can include being blind to one’s own talents and strengths seen by others but not perceived by the self. Some individuals may be unaware due to self deception itself, or choosing ignorance. Some individuals will avoid issues and problems because they simply would rather not know because the truth may be too terrifying. In helping clients challenge themselves to new behaviors, counselors can open clients to new areas of awareness with simple self questions.
What problem am I avoiding?
What opportunities am I ignoring?
What am I overlooking?
What do I refuse to see?
How am I being dishonest with myself?
(Egan, 2019, p. 204)
As the counselor, but also a coach, it is important to help clients identify these issues and understand why they are unable to move forward.
Helping Clients Identify These Issues and Healthy Challenging
Carl Rogers promoted a empathetic approach. In helping others face hard realities, a fact based empathetic approach is key. Showing patience and empathy and carefully presenting the issue with assertiveness but compassion is key in helping the client awaken to certain issues. Of course, timing, tone, and words all play a key role in helping the client become acceptive. The counselor cannot come across as afraid to address issues but not confrontational. Sometimes, certain words, may offset a client or labels, and the counselor will need to navigate why and how to discuss the issue. Also within this process, the counselor cannot simply give a set of directions but present options. Finally, again, the counselor needs to present the new awareness and challenge to the client without judgment but in a way that creates self awareness and pushes forward change.
Counselors help motivate clients to change through empathy and supplying the client with appropriate level challenges and options to meet
When discovering hindering blind spots and issues, the counselor needs to become a detective in some respects before he/she can truly become a coach. What is the client truly trying to say, or hinting at, or half saying (Egan, 2019, p.206)? Counselors need to help clients understand their implicit thoughts and words and make them become more explicit. In doing so, counselors can help clients understand themes in their stories, make connections with what may be missing and share educated hunches in feedback (Egan, 2019, p. 207-210). Counselors can through their hunches, help clients see the bigger picture, dig deeper in the story, draw conclusions, open up more, see overlooked aspects, or even own their own story (Egan, 2019, p. 210-211).
Of course how these opinions and disclosures are presented to the client are critical. They are part of the art of counseling and also the product of good coaching. A good coach is able to present a deficiency in a player’s form or approach and help turn into change and better performance. This however involves not tearing down the player, but building the player up and giving the player the tools necessary to improve. As an teacher and encourager, a coach is able to transform the problem and help the player have success on the field. Likewise, an counselor needs to be able to coach his/her client through approaching a weakness and being able to challenge the person to overcome it and make it a strength in the field of life. Strength Based Therapies as proposed by Pattoni, (2012) help clients label their strengths and identify them and utilize them in variety of goal setting environments. The process looks to expand hope but also create autonomy in facing issues.
When providing factful information and options to a client, a counselor needs to remain empathetic and tactful in delivering the news. Some news can be shocking to a client and the client may need time or understanding in the process (Egan, 2019, p. 213). Hence Egan recommends sometimes sharing one’s disclosures and challenges, but he recommends it to be used with caution. He recommends being sure to use it sparingly, appropriately and culturally aware. Timing can be key. One does not wish to have one’s own disclosure to become a distraction (2019, p.215).
As a counselor and coach, how one gives suggestions and recommendations for better improvements are critical. Inspired first with empathy and secondly aware of internal issues of the client, a counselor needs to approach and challenge the client without confronting but at the same time presenting clear and factual options to promote change. These challenges are not easy, so like a good coach, a counselor needs to find ways to provide encouragement during the change process. Counselors should invite clients to challenge themselves and help them identify specific challenges that will make the best changes. Like a sports coach, while identifying any issue, the counselor needs to encourage and identify strengths to overcome a particular challenge. Furthermore, the challenge needs to be evaluated as not to be too intense to be self-demeaning to the client. Sometimes, success is built upon. So when identifying challenges, the counselor needs to present them in a fashion that leads to success (Egan, 2019, p. 220).
As a counselor-coach, a counselor identifies changes that are essential and helps the client identify change. Some clients are more resistant to change. In another blog, we discuss the Client Change Scale which lists the levels of difficulty for a client to accept change or implement it based on their stage. It is the counselor’s job to help the client see the necessity of change and help the client find it through encouragement and help. Some changes will be first order, or deal with the current situation, or others may be second order and more long term or permanent. This depends on the nature of the issue and the needs of the client. The counselor like a coach, helps the client implement goals, strategies and plans to implement the change. The counselor helps the client see his/her possible self, delve into creativity, and think differently (Egan, 2019, p. 315-318). In essence, the counselor helps the client see a better future, set goals to attain it and help them put it into action (Egan, 2019, p. 314).
Conclusion
Counselors are like coaches. They need to challenge their clients by identifying weaknesses and help clients overcome them with appropriate challenges. This involves active attending and responding to the client and understanding the inner challenges the client faces. The counselor then is able to better become a catalyst of change in the clients life with setting appropriate challenges to make the client a better person in the field of life.
Please also review AIHCP’s multiple counseling certifications in Grief Counseling, Christian Counseling, Life Coaching, Anger Management, Stress Management and Crisis Intervention Counseling
Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification, as well as its Christian Counseling Certification. Other mental health certifications for both pastoral and clinical counselors, or those engaged in the Human Service Fields, include Stress Management, Life Coaching, Anger Management, and Crisis Intervention. The programs are online and self study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in any of these fields.
Reference
Egan, G. & Reese. R. (2019).”The Skilled Helper: A Problem Management and Opportunity-Development Approach to Helping” (11th Ed). Cengage
Additional Resources
Sutton, J. (2022). “Motivation in Counseling: 9 Steps to Engage Your Clients”. Positive Psychology. Access here
Sutton, J. (2022). “How to Perform Strengths-Based Therapy and Counseling”. Positive Psychology. Access here
“The Skill of Challenge in Counselling”(2019). Counseling Tutor. Access here
Voitilainen, L. et, al. (2018). “Empathy, Challenge, and Psychophysiological Activation in Therapist–Client Interaction”. Front Psychol. 2018; 9: 530. National Library of Medicine. Access here
The primary and first declaration within Christian Counseling the central nature of Christ as healer. Christ is the ultimate counselor and the source of all healing. The Christian Counselor presents the Christian worldview, its morals, its ideals on grace, and salvation to the person with the person knowing in advance that this the primary premise and foundation. Concepts such as sin as a source of struggle, suffering and death are recognized, as well as Christ’s central importance in healing and transformation.
Christ is the source of all knowledge and is the basis of all Christian Counseling
The extent to which this theology permeates the counseling depends upon integration of secular and modern psychological methods. Strict Biblical Counseling and Christian Psychologies will delve more deeper into Christian tradition and be less receptive to purely secular therapies, while an integrated approach, while still maintaining a Scriptural foundation will understand the limits of certain sciences. Integrated approaches will not deny that God is the source of all truth of every science but will recognize that certain limitations exist within religious texts and that the truths of God in other sciences are displayed under different approaches. It is because of this that Christian Counseling that employs an Integrated Approach is able to utilize multi-faceted approaches to help healing in a person. It recognizes the spiritual authority of Scripture, its moral guidance, and foundational teachings in helping others heal, but also understands its purpose in not treating mental pathology, which permits the integrated approach to use other ways to treat individuals. While sin is the cause of all suffering, not every individual sin causes every pathology. Sometimes, the person requires a spiritual healing but in many cases the person may just require a mental healing.
Within this premise, Integrated Christian Counseling is able to utilize modern psychology and counseling while remaining faithful to Christian idealogy and teachings. Christian Counseling, especially when under the dual guidance of a Christian and a licensed professional, as opposed to merely a pastoral level, has the ability to further treat deeper pathologies dealing with trauma and loss. It also has the ability to incorporate with those modules the concepts of Christian Grief and the purpose of suffering in the world.
It is within Christian Counseling that one can incorporate Christianity’s unique stance on suffering. Christianity does not offer to the suffering person a non answer. It does tell a person to suffer alone, or that God is merely watching from a distance. Instead Christianity offers an explanation why suffering exists but also grants comfort to the bereaved that God does not merely watch from a far away throne, but instead sent His own Son, Jesus Christ, to suffer with us. Christ, the Suffering Servant, becomes the ultimate example for the suffering. He teaches humanity how to suffer and offers the ultimate example of how to offer one’s cross. Yet, Christ is not defeated by suffering or death, but defeats and conquers it. The ultimate promise of Christianity is that who die with Christ will rise with Christ. This is a powerful philosophy and theology that is offered in Christian based counseling.
In addition to this foundational philosophy and theology, integrated Christian Counseling can utilize and use the numerous therapies afforded by modern psychology and counseling. Again, though, why limit oneself to one school of thought? Implementing and integrating different therapies can also be beneficial for some. Again, this is not saying this would benefit everyone. In some cases, strictly adhering to CBT may be the best call to action and may be the therapy the counselor or practitioner is best trained in. If this is the case, then if the patient is showing progress, then various integrations would not be needed.
First, it is important to note, when helping anyone in loss, trauma or suffering, that not all therapies fit all. Some may benefit from one, while others may benefit from a mixture. In my opinion, since human beings are so multi-faceted, sometimes a multiple approach of modules can be the most productive based upon the person’s reaction. For instance, when looking at the three primary therapies of Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioral and Humanistic, one may find samples from each to help a particular individual find healing. A blended and truly integrated practice may be beneficial as opposed to maybe a singular approach.
In Psychodynamic, a counselor may look to help someone by exploring the past and come to conclusion why certain feelings are manifesting in the present that stem from the past. Past trauma does play a key in the present moment and for some, understanding why a certain feeling is manifesting may be enough to identify it and control it. Others though may need more direction and guidance beyond discovering the why and require cognitive understanding and reshaping. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help the person dismiss damaging feelings and restructure them into more productive feelings going forward. Furthermore, while some may benefit cognitively, others may be benefit from a more emotional discussion from various Humanistic approaches that dissect the feelings of now and help the person again find balance with self image and real image. This balance concurs with healthy out look on life.
In particular when dealing with someone, obviously a scriptural based prayer that reflects the issue at hand is key. This invites the Holy Spirit into any session and emphasizes the central focus of Christ in the room for healing. In any sessions, narrative therapies can provide very useful in describing and discussing the loss/stressor/ trauma. Discussions can lead to awakening and new ideals about it and help the person heal from the loss. Journaling, as a aspect of CBT, can play a big role in adaptive coping as well as a strong tool in grief work. In some cases, Humanistic approaches that include self talk and the empty chair can help individuals express the emotion of now and learn how to later handle given situations. Ultimately, the tools present are used to help the person adjust to the loss or trauma in a healthy way and connect the past with the present and future in a productive way. Counseling modules and various strategies such as those listed when integrated with prayer and healing can prove very beneficial in restoring meaning in life.
Personally, I find human beings to complicated and loss to diverse for one fit all solution. Whether Christian Counseling approaches or counseling models, many individuals need a variety of proven methods to help that particular person again find meaning. A healthy person according to Aaron Antonovsky achieves coherence when they are able to predict why things happen, have some ability to cope with those things and have a deeper meaning of the why and purpose of life. A strong integrated Christian Counseling philosophy with modern psychology that is never tied completely to one school of thought but tied to proven methods within each school that work for particular individuals gives the counselor a strong foundation that has a good base in Christ and science but also a flexible response to pathology of a person.
Integration of technique and models can give the patient a flexible treatment that can fit one’s individual needs. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Program
Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification. The Christian Counseling Program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor. The program itself is non-denominational but shares within many of the great Christian traditions. It is open to non-clinical as well as clinical practitioners. The program offers the base model for pastors or counselors to incorporate their own style of Christian Counseling and methods to better help individuals.
Additional Resources
“Integrative Therapy”. Psychology Today. Access here
“Therapy Types and Modalities”. Psychology Today. Access here
Collinsworth-Cobarruvias, S. (2018). “Biblical Foundation for Christian Integration: A Theology of Christian Counseling”. Access here
Zarbo, C. et, al. (2015). “Integrative Psychotherapy Works”. Front Psychol. 2015; 6: 2021. National Library of Medicine. Access here
Many times Christian Counseling is understood in the more generic sense of the word, namely, counseling with a biblical emphasis. Yet, the range and extreme in which how Christian Counseling integrates modern psychology is very broad within different schools. Hence in regards to using the words Christian Counseling and Biblical Counseling it would be naive to use them as inter-changeable words. This is because many Biblical Counselors who are only pastors may have a very differently distinct approach than a Christian Counselor with a professional license. Hence within the broad range of Christian Counseling, Biblical Counseling may appear the same but within a certain approach it is not. They do differ. But we must also concisely define Christian Counseling.
Is one defining Christian Counseling as an Integrative Approach? Or is one seeing Christian Counseling as a general term and overall umbrella of different approaches including Biblical Counseling as a particular approach. It is sometimes up to whomever is writing the text or providing the lecture. So Biblical Counseling can be a type of Christian Counseling, or a different approach than Christian Counseling when Christian Counseling is seen as only a particular module and not a collective name.
Biblical Counseling; Benefits and Disadvantages?
There slight differences in Biblical Counseling and Christian Counseling that are important to note
Biblical Counseling understands the Christian faith as a psychology itself (Johnson, E. Ed. 2010, p. 245). It further, according to David Powlison, sees Christian Ministry as a psychotherapy (Johnson, E, Ed., p. 245). Biblical Counseling hence looks to find within Scripture and ultimately within Jesus Christ, various ways to help people with mental or moral issues and identify the root cause as sin. This approach emphasizes the root cause of sin in mental life. Hence, in reviewing a person’s issues, absolute Biblical Counseling identifies the root vice as a source for the pathology. Whether pride, lust or any other vice, Biblical Counseling looks to eradicate the vice to help the person transform from sinful life and find grace and life in Christ. It looks to pastorally guide souls and cure these souls from sin via Jesus Christ (Johnson, E, Ed. 2010, p. 245).
As Christians, we all concur that God is source of all truth and wisdom. He is the author of Scripture and also the author of our mental processes. Hence Powlison and many Biblical Counselors equate psychology and faith on equal grounds. Any secular views of psychology that are not within Scripture or friendly to a Christian view are automatically dismissed. This bias against secular views is sometimes a good thing in rejecting immoral behavior but it can also become overtly suspicious of modern findings. For instance, secular psychology is rapidly legitimizing gender idealogy which is contrary to the Bible and Christian faith. Secular psychology has in many cases justified and accepted immoral concepts to Christians as normal and natural, but Christians have rightfully dismissed them. Does this mean secular psychology and its methodologies should be completely dismissed? What about understand the “why” of moral actions within the human mind?. While secular psychology’s conclusion of immoral acts as morally acceptable is overreaching, psychology provides proven methodologies to understand the mental impulse for a particular action. It is not always actual sin or choice but something deeper at a mental, biological and physiological level. Biblical Counseling in many cases holds to only the nature of the moral action and not the new discoveries of the why of the moral action that are beyond the constructs of moral theology and conscience.
Ultimately Original Sin is the cause of all pathology, but do doctors look to moral theology to cure the body of pathology which ultimately finds it origin in the sin of Adam? One’s own actual sins play a key role in mental pathology and in many cases can be a root cause, but sometimes mental illness exists independent of vice existing within the person. Many times Powlison muddles the water between brain and soul. Pathologies within the brain are not pathologies of the soul, albeit, the brain plays a key role in feeding epistemological knowledge about one’s surroundings and internal feelings. The soul, as fused with the body, in humanity’s temporal form, is dependent upon the brain but the pathologies of the brain while affecting the soul are not always sin of the soul.
Hence Biblical Counseling, in its extreme pastoral sense, becomes more of a sermon on faith, tied together with human experience that can become separated from proven psychological methods. It mistakenly hopes to utilize Scripture as a all purpose book when Scripture, while full of wisdom, is not meant for every aspect of human existence. Its primary goal is salvation and not necessarily biological or mental processes.
Powlison opens his chapter with the comment of St Augustine ” I believe so that you may understand” (Johnson, E, Ed., p 246). This theological statement within philosophy and theology for belief of God, if in turn, is used to promote a psychology remains stuck within a premodern concept of science. When dealing with mental pathology, even when utilizing a Christian frame work, one must study the mind and brain with an empirical understanding. Psychology is not metaphysics but the study of observable things. So while God is the author of both, God has also given humanity different tools to study different sciences.
Biblical Counseling is an Approach within Christian Counseling
Hence biblical counseling is a type of Christian Counseling but not a monopolized ideal of it. Christian Counseling within the Integrated Approach utilizes modern science. It starts with the ideal that sin causes all evil in this world and finds Scripture and the Christian faith as its foundation. It takes from Scripture a sampled amount of wisdom but also utilizes the scientific method to help identify pathologies that are beyond the soul and vice but within the brain and body. This is a balance that does not denounce Christ as the ultimate counselor or looks to Scripture to identify certain moral and mental questions, but it understands the scope of Scripture as a spiritual text not the DSM-5.
More modernist approaches may put Scripture second hand within the psychology and take an extremely opposite approach that forces Christian values and morals to adhere and adjust to new findings, but the Integrated Approach carefully balances science and faith not at the expense of the other. The Levels of Explanation Approach to psychology puts Scripture at the expense of modern findings, while absolute Biblical Counseling Approach challenges and fears secular findings. God is the source of truth. If Scripture contradicts science, either Scripture is misinterpreted, or the science is simply bad. God is the source of truth. The case of Galileo should remind all of the necessity of a balance and understanding where metaphysics and faith ends and empirical study starts.
For more information on the Levels of Explanation Approach, please review the previous blog entitled Christian Counseling and Psychology. In that blog we look at Levels of Explanation, Integration and Biblical Counseling in psychology and how they differ.
Biblical Counseling and Other More Conservative Approaches
Christian Counseling has different approaches, some more conservative than others
Integrative Approach is obviously the middle ground and most utilized approach. Many Christian Counselors who are licensed and posses psychology degrees but remain a fervent faith apply this approach, while pastors and those within theology and metaphysics employ the Only Biblical Approach with suspicion to many secular views. Still other schools of thought exist that veer right from the Integrated Approach and remain polar opposite from the secular schools that look to separate the bible from psychology totally.
Christian Psychology is one such approach that takes the Integrative Approach more Christian based and looks to determine an entire psychology founded within the Christian tradition. If psychology is termed “the science that studies the behavior and mental process of persons” then Christian Psychology would add as understood within the norm “Christian texts and traditions of interpretation” (Johnson, E. Ed. p. 87). Christian Psychology attempts to collect beyond just merely Scripture, but the entirety of Christian philosophy and teaching to orientate a more Christian experience in the psychological process. Like Biblical Counseling, it dismisses immorality but it is far more open to other scientific findings with less bias. It, however, differs from the Integrated Approach in that takes more from the Christian tradition. It less integrated and sometimes will prioritize Christian views over secular at a more extreme level. Like the Integrated Approach, Christian Psychology will utilize CBT, Psychodynamic theories, or Humanistic approaches, but it will; not only incorporate but interpret at a more Christian level. It can also emphasize mental pathology, like Biblical Counseling, as more a source of sin. Hence many who are found within this approach, like Biblical Counseling, are pastors or those of metaphysical background than those within a purely psychological background.
Finally, the Transformationalist Approach, considers psychology and counseling to be a complete spiritual transformation in life. Holding to very strong biblical roots, it finds all starting points in Christ and dismisses modern secular theories but instead turns to the person him/herself. It looks to classical science of not adhering to the empirical and universal method of observation but allowing the object itself to determine methodology. It respects at a higher level phenomenon. This leaves it disagreement with Biblical Counseling and its acceptance of modern methods of associated with science. Phenomenology plays a key role. This is something that is important because not all experiences should be held to the modern empirical method. Since modern science and the extreme philosophy of many logical positivists, empiricism became a religion and the only way to explore the natural world. Yet human experience is far more wide ranging and different ways to investigate existence sometimes are not a good fit with the empirical methodology. Yet, it is the Transformational Approach’s complete dismissal of secular modern methods that places it in some ways more extreme in regards to bias to secular science than even the Biblical Approach. But, like the Biblical Approach, it still sees mental pathology as a source of sin and looks to find healing through transformation via Christ.
What is Shared and Not Shared in all the Christian Counseling Views
All views recognize God as the source of all knowledge and truth. All views understand humanity’s fallen nature. All views understand the importance of Scripture as a starting point for all counseling. Finally, all views share in a common love to bring all to Christ. However, the limit, degree, and dismissal of secular and modern psychology differ between these views. The Levels of Explanation Approach is probably the most extreme version that separates both Christian belief and psychology but finds mutual respect as both believer and psychologist while the Biblical, Christian Psychology and Transformative Approach all to differing degrees tip the scale into a more spiritual experience over psychological, while the Integrative approach balances both faith and science to compliment one another.
So is Biblical Counseling the same as Christian Counseling. If used in the generic, it may seem to be an inter-changeable word, but it remains a far more spiritual experience than within the family of Christian Counseling than other forms that utilize more modern methods incorporated with secular science.
Conclusion
Ultimately Christ is the source of all counseling. Please review AIHCP’S Christian Counseling Certification
In my view, faith and science are both from God as the source of all truth. We live in a fallen world and Original sin and Actual sin all play prominent roles in bad lives, but there is also a mental and biological process separate from the metaphysical. True, they can interact, but not all pathology is rooted in vice. The brain is not the soul. Not every counseling session is about restoration to Christ but sometimes is about helping someone with a purely mental issue. Scripture and the Christian tradition is a starting point, but I do not see Scripture as a biology or science book but a spiritual book. Does it contain vital wisdom for other sources? Absolutely. That is core idea of Christian Counseling itself. But it must be utilized within an Integrated Approach to properly balance spiritual healing when needed versus mental healing.
Always, Christ is the ultimate Counselor, but there are other tools within the sciences beyond Scripture when dealing with nature and humanity that are critical. Would I merely limit them to the empirical method? No. I would also say experience is open to other ways of measuring experience via Phenomenology or Philosophy or other metaphysical studies when appropriate.
Please also remember to review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification Program. The program is biblically based and possesses both Biblical and Integrative Approaches understanding the value of different approaches for different situations. The program is also online and independent study and open to both counselors and pastoral ministers.
Reference
Johnson, E. Ed. “Psychology and Christianity: Five Views”. IVP Academic (2010)
Additional Resources
Murray, D. (2012). “How Biblical is Biblical Counseling?”. The Gospel Coalition. Access here
“Christian Counseling”. Psychology Today. Access here
Christian marriage counseling is a specialized form of therapy that integrates theological principles with psychological insights to support couples in their marital journey. It’s designed to help couples navigate the complexities of married life, drawing on the wisdom of scripture and the practical tools of counseling to foster unity, resolve conflicts, and grow together in love. Whether in times of crisis or for regular maintenance, Christian counseling offers a unique approach to help marriages thrive at every stage.
Jesus blessed marriage at Cana.
Since marriage bonds the most cellular unit of society, its survival is also important in a secular way as well. The family provides structure, respect, love and and unity to today’s youth. Weak families represent a weak society. It is hence important to preserve marriage, especially the Christian view of it which views its sanctity. While divorce rates increase, the threat to the Christian family is evident.
Certified Christian Counselors can help with a variety of marriage issues, from premarital counseling to family counseling to marriage counseling itself. They can offer in-depth guidance from a pastoral and biblical view that respects the unity of marriage and helps couples find a closer bond or repair a bond. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals.
Key Takeaways
Christian marriage counseling combines theological wisdom with psychological practices to address marital challenges.
Faith plays a crucial role in relationship dynamics, with spiritual beliefs influencing marital satisfaction and conflict resolution.
Counseling techniques in a Christian context include communication skills, forgiveness, and premarital preparation.
Christian counselors assist with a range of marital issues, such as financial disputes, infidelity, and role expectations.
Resources like church-based programs, literature, and community support provide additional help for Christian couples.
Theoretical Foundations of Christian Marriage Counseling
Marriage was ordained by God as a sacred union between a man and woman to propagate society through love and unity
Integration of Theology and Psychology
The integration of psychology and Christianity offers a unique approach to marriage counseling that respects both the scientific and spiritual dimensions of human experience. This dual perspective not only acknowledges the emotional and mental aspects of relationship issues but also incorporates the spiritual needs that are central to many Christian couples.
The Bible is seen as a foundational text, providing wisdom and guidance for couples.
Therapeutic methods are selected for their effectiveness and compatibility with Christian values.
The counselor’s role is to facilitate healing by drawing on both psychological principles and spiritual truths.
The holistic nature of this approach aims to foster healing and growth within the marital relationship, addressing the full spectrum of emotional, mental, and spiritual needs.
Understanding the individual’s personal faith and comfort level with spiritual practices is crucial. Communication with the therapist about preferences for the inclusion of prayer and scripture is encouraged to tailor the counseling experience.
Biblical Perspectives on Marriage
The institution of marriage, as depicted in the Bible, is not merely a social contract but a sacred covenant designed by God. Marriage is intended to be a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the Church, a union characterized by love, mutual respect, and commitment. The challenges faced by couples today, including escalating divorce rates and domestic violence, are in stark contrast to this divine blueprint.
Genesis emphasizes the purpose of marriage for companionship, procreation, and stewardship of the earth.
Ephesians 5:25-33 outlines the roles of husbands and wives, highlighting love and respect as foundational pillars.
1 Corinthians 7 provides guidance on marital duties and addresses issues related to marital disputes.
Despite the tribulations of life, God provides the means for couples to access the promise of marriage’s original design. Qualified and compassionate counselors, inspired by the Holy Spirit, offer guidance to restore wholeness in marriage.
The integration of biblical wisdom with professional counseling techniques offers a powerful resource for couples seeking to build a marriage that aligns with Christian principles. It is through this synergy that couples can find the support and direction necessary to navigate the complexities of marital life while upholding the sanctity of their vows.
Models of Christian Counseling
Christian marriage counseling encompasses a variety of models, each integrating faith with therapeutic practices. Gottman’s Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is one such model that has gained prominence. It emphasizes practical, actionable strategies for strengthening marital bonds, such as ‘ENHANCE YOUR LOVE MAPS’, which encourages couples to deepen their understanding of each other’s worlds.
Another model frequently employed is the Developmental Model, which views marriage as a series of developmental stages, each with its unique challenges and growth opportunities. This model helps couples anticipate and navigate the changes inherent in married life.
Christian counselors also often draw from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Family Systems Theory, adapting these approaches to align with Christian doctrine and values. The integration of these models within a Christian framework aims to provide holistic support to couples, addressing both psychological and spiritual needs.
The Role of Faith in Relationship Dynamics
Spiritual Beliefs and Marital Satisfaction
The interplay between spiritual beliefs and marital satisfaction is a complex yet pivotal aspect of Christian marriage counseling. Spiritual alignment can significantly enhance the emotional and relational well-being of couples. Research indicates that shared spiritual beliefs and practices, such as prayer and worship, often correlate with higher levels of marital satisfaction.
The shared journey of faith in a marriage not only fosters a deeper connection between partners but also provides a framework for understanding and navigating life’s challenges together.
Couples who actively engage in their spiritual lives tend to report stronger bonds and a greater sense of unity. This is reflected in the way they handle conflicts, communicate, and express commitment to one another. The following points highlight the qualitative impact of spiritual beliefs on marital satisfaction:
A shared spiritual identity can create a strong foundation for marital commitment.
Spiritual practices, like prayer, can offer solace and guidance during marital difficulties.
Faith communities often provide support and resources that reinforce marital bonds.
While the benefits are clear, it is important for counselors to recognize and respect the individual spiritual journeys of each partner, ensuring that counseling techniques are inclusive and supportive of both partners’ beliefs.
Faith-Based Conflict Resolution
In the realm of Christian marriage counseling, faith-based conflict resolution plays a pivotal role in fostering harmonious relationships. The integration of spiritual beliefs with professional counseling techniques, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), offers a unique approach to resolving disputes. Counselors often encourage couples to engage in open communication, guided by the principles of love, kindness, and respect, which are central to Christian teachings.
Mediation and Counseling: A trained Christian mediator can help reestablish communication, allowing couples to address deeper marital issues.
Professional and Spiritual Integration: Combining professional methods with faith can enhance the counseling experience, aligning it with the couple’s spiritual values.
Transparent Standards: Therapists who adhere to a Statement of Faith provide clarity and assurance to couples seeking counseling from a biblical perspective.
In the pursuit of marital harmony, it is essential to recognize that both communication and healthy conflict are valuable. They serve as gateways to understanding one’s spouse more deeply and to growing together in faith.
By embracing both faith and professional expertise, Christian marriage counseling can effectively guide couples through the complexities of conflict, leading to a strengthened bond and a deeper connection.
Prayer and Its Impact on Marital Health
The practice of prayer within the context of marriage is a cornerstone of spiritual intimacy and a vital component in the health of a Christian union. Prayer serves as a conduit for divine guidance, offering couples a shared spiritual discipline that can deepen their connection and provide solace during times of conflict. It is not merely a ritual, but a strategic tool that can fortify a marriage against the challenges of life.
The impact of prayer on marital health can be multifaceted:
Encouraging vulnerability and openness between spouses
Inviting God’s presence and wisdom into the relationship
Strengthening the resolve to uphold marital commitments
Providing a framework for forgiveness and reconciliation
The multi-pronged approach of prayer in marriage fosters communication, facilitates forgiveness, and enhances emotional and physical intimacy, growing the character of Christ in both individuals and as a couple.
While empirical data on the efficacy of prayer in marriage is limited, anecdotal evidence and the experiences of many Christian couples suggest that prayer can play a significant role in maintaining and improving marital health. It is a spiritual discipline that, when practiced consistently, can lead to a more harmonious and fulfilling partnership.
Christian Counseling Techniques and Interventions
Christian Counselors can help couples become closer in their bond and also help them repair it
Communication Skills in a Christian Context
In Christian marriage counseling, communication is pivotal to fostering a healthy relationship. Counselors often emphasize the integration of Christian principles with effective communication techniques to help couples express their thoughts and feelings constructively. For instance, active listening, a core skill in counseling, is enriched by the Christian virtue of patience, allowing partners to fully hear and understand each other before responding.
Effective communication in a Christian marriage involves more than just talking; it includes understanding the spiritual and emotional dimensions of one’s partner. A counselor might guide a couple through exercises that reflect on scriptural teachings about love and respect, which can then be applied to daily interactions.
It is essential for couples to recognize that their words have the power to build up or tear down their relationship. By applying Christian values to their communication, they can create a more loving and supportive environment.
Counselors may also provide resources such as books or workshops that focus on enhancing communication within a Christian framework. These resources can offer practical advice and exercises to practice at home, reinforcing the skills learned in counseling sessions.
Forgiveness and Reconciliation Processes
In Christian marriage counseling, forgiveness and reconciliation are pivotal processes that facilitate healing and the restoration of trust. Forgiveness is not just a one-time event, but a continuous journey that couples embark on, often requiring divine grace and personal humility. The counselor’s role is to guide couples through this journey, helping them to understand and practice forgiveness as modeled by Christ.
Identify the source of hurt or betrayal
Acknowledge the pain and impact on the relationship
Develop a plan for rebuilding trust and commitment
The process of forgiveness and reconciliation is deeply personal and can be transformative for a marriage. It involves not only the letting go of past grievances but also the proactive work of rebuilding a relationship on the principles of love and respect.
Counselors may employ various techniques to aid in this process, such as facilitating open communication, encouraging empathy, and setting actionable goals for the couple. These steps are crucial for couples to move beyond the pain and towards a renewed sense of unity and purpose in their marriage.
Premarital Counseling and Preparation
Premarital counseling serves as a proactive measure to equip couples with the necessary tools and insights for a successful marriage. The process is designed to address issues often overlooked during the wedding planning phase. It encourages healthy communication and conflict resolution patterns that can sustain a marriage over the long term.
The benefits of premarital counseling are substantial, with research suggesting a correlation between such counseling and lower divorce rates. Couples who engage in premarital counseling often report lower levels of relationship conflict and a higher quality of relationship overall.
Key components of premarital counseling include:
Exploring expectations about marriage
Understanding past influences on perceptions of marriage
Cultivating appreciation for each other’s strengths
Committing to healthy habits for long-term marital health
Premarital counseling is not just about preparing for a wedding, but about laying the groundwork for the years that follow. It’s about delving into the ideas and impressions formed about marriage and ensuring that both partners are ready for their life together.
Addressing Challenges in Christian Marriages
Navigating Financial Disputes with Faith
Financial disputes are among the most common challenges faced by married couples, and they can be particularly distressing when they threaten the harmony of a Christian marriage. By applying biblical principles and faith-based approaches, counselors can guide couples towards constructive financial management and mutual understanding.
In Christian marriage counseling, financial disputes are addressed not just as monetary issues but as opportunities for spiritual growth and deeper partnership. Counselors often encourage couples to reflect on their stewardship of resources, align their financial goals with their spiritual values, and practice generosity and contentment.
Identify shared financial values and goals
Develop a budget that reflects these values
Implement regular financial check-ins
Cultivate a spirit of gratitude and trust in God’s provision
In the context of faith, financial disputes can become a path to greater intimacy and trust, as couples learn to manage their resources in a way that honors God and supports their shared life mission.
It is essential for counselors to foster an environment where both partners feel heard and respected, ensuring that financial planning becomes a collaborative effort rather than a source of contention.
Dealing with Infidelity and Restoration
Christian Counselors, pastors and spiritual directors can help repair bonds from infidelity
Infidelity in marriage is a profound breach of trust that can decimate the foundation of the relationship. Restoration is possible, but it requires a deep commitment to healing and change from both partners. The process often involves several key steps:
Acknowledging the affair and its impact on the marriage
The journey toward restoration is not linear and can be fraught with setbacks. However, with patience and dedication, couples can navigate this challenging path and emerge with a stronger, more resilient union.
Christian marriage counseling addresses infidelity by integrating spiritual principles with therapeutic practices. The multi-pronged approach serves the couple by fostering communication, facilitating forgiveness, and enhancing emotional and physical intimacy. It is crucial for the couple to grow in the character of Christ, both individually and as a married couple, to prevent future occurrences and to fortify their marital bond.
Managing Expectations and Role Definitions
In Christian marriage counseling, managing expectations and defining roles are crucial for fostering a healthy marital relationship. Couples are encouraged to openly discuss their individual and shared aspirations, as well as their understanding of marital responsibilities. This dialogue helps in aligning their expectations with the realities of married life and with their faith-based values.
Helping couples understand and articulate their expectations
Assisting in the development of conflict management skills
Setting goals and clarifying boundaries within the marriage
By cultivating an appreciation of each other’s gifts and strengths, couples can build a more resilient and satisfying union.
It is essential for couples to embrace the journey of rediscovery, finding joy in the process and focusing on the goodness that their faith brings into the marriage, even when challenges arise. Deciding to delight in the process of befriending and discovering one another again can be transformative.
Christian Marriage Counseling for Different Stages of Life
Newlywed Adjustments and Unity
The transition into married life for newlyweds is a unique period of adjustment where couples learn to function as a unified entity. Navigating this new dynamic often requires a deliberate shift in focus from individual to collective goals. The process involves not only the merging of lives but also the intertwining of dreams, aspirations, and daily routines.
Be aware of the season you are in, and invest accordingly in your marriage covenant.
Utilize therapeutic sessions to support the practice of new ways of interacting.
Welcome your spouse to express themselves without judgment, listening for the voice of God in their heart’s burdens.
The early days of marriage are a time to lay a strong foundation for the future. It is essential to cultivate habits that promote unity and understanding, setting the stage for a lifetime of companionship.
Couples are encouraged to free themselves to shift time, energy, and attention to other areas of the marriage that they wish to grow. This may include committing in prayer and seeking accountable support to refocus and prioritize the relationship. Encouraging fruitfulness by pivoting attention from problems to pursuing shared interests can also be a key to delighting in the process of befriending and discovering one another anew.
Midlife Transitions and Marital Renewal
Midlife transitions present unique challenges and opportunities for marital renewal. As couples navigate changes in career, health, and family dynamics, they often encounter the need to redefine their relationship. Marital strain can simmer when issues are left unaddressed, leading to a gradual withdrawal from the partnership. It is crucial to maintain the heart of the marriage through regular care and attention to prevent the compounding effects of neglect.
In this stage, couples are encouraged to shift their focus from problems to pursuing shared interests and recreation. This deliberate pivot can reignite passion and foster a deeper connection.
The following steps can be instrumental in renewing a marriage during midlife transitions:
Freeing time, energy, and attention to grow other areas of the marriage.
Committing in prayer and seeking accountable support with a spouse and therapist.
Encouraging fruitfulness by focusing on shared interests and recreation.
Delighting in the process of rediscovering one another.
Counseling at this stage often involves helping couples to make micro-decisions that align with their commitment to becoming one. Each decision, disagreement, and reconciliation is an opportunity to strengthen the marriage. The role of Christian marriage counseling is to facilitate this process, guiding couples through the tune-up of their relationship rather than waiting for the need for triage.
Golden Years: Sustaining Love and Companionship
The golden years of marriage present a unique opportunity for couples to refocus their relationship and deepen their companionship. Couples are encouraged to rediscover each other, exploring shared interests and activities that may have been sidelined during earlier stages of life. This period is an invitation to celebrate the journey thus far and to continue growing together in love and faith.
Free yourselves to shift time, energy, and attention to other areas of your marriage that you want to grow.
Commit in prayer and accountable support with your spouse and therapist to reroute existing commitments in order to refocus and prioritize.
Encourage fruitfulness by pivoting your full attention from problems to deliberately pursuing recreation and following shared interests.
The process of befriending and discovering one another again can be a source of joy and renewal in the marriage. It is a time to rivet on God’s goodness and the blessings of a shared life, even when challenges arise.
The role of Christian marriage counseling in these years is to facilitate this renewal, helping couples to navigate any lingering issues with grace and to foster an environment where love can continue to flourish. The multi-pronged approach of counseling aims to enhance communication, establish healthier behaviors, and grow in the character of Christ, both individually and as a married couple.
The Therapeutic Alliance in Christian Marriage Counseling
Building Trust and Rapport with Couples
In the realm of Christian marriage counseling, establishing a foundation of trust is paramount. Counselors strive to create an environment where open and honest dialogue is not just encouraged but is seen as the cornerstone of the therapeutic relationship. This trust-building is a delicate process that involves consistent, non-judgmental support and a clear understanding of the couple’s unique dynamics.
The success of counseling hinges on the ability to foster a safe space where couples feel valued and heard. It is within this space that vulnerabilities can be shared and true healing can begin.
Counselors employ various strategies to build trust, including:
Demonstrating empathy and genuine concern for the couple’s well-being
Maintaining confidentiality to ensure a secure environment
Setting clear expectations and boundaries from the outset
Encouraging the couple to set and pursue collaborative goals
These efforts are designed to reassure couples that their journey towards a healthier marriage is a shared endeavor, with the counselor serving as a compassionate guide.
Counselor’s Faith and Professional Boundaries
In Christian marriage counseling, the personal faith of the counselor plays a significant role in shaping the therapeutic process. Counselors must navigate the delicate balance between their own beliefs and maintaining professional boundaries. This balance is crucial to ensure that the counseling provided is ethical, respectful, and effective for couples of varying degrees of faith and denominational backgrounds.
The therapeutic alliance is built upon mutual respect and understanding. It is essential for counselors to be transparent about their own faith perspectives while also being open to the diverse beliefs of the couples they serve.
Counselors are encouraged to engage in self-reflection and to seek supervision when faced with situations that challenge their personal beliefs or professional ethics. The following points outline key considerations for maintaining professional boundaries:
Recognize and respect the couple’s faith and spiritual practices.
Maintain a nonjudgmental stance towards couples with different beliefs.
Ensure that counseling techniques are adaptable to the couple’s faith context.
Uphold confidentiality and avoid imposing personal religious views.
Seek continual professional development to enhance cultural and religious competence.
Collaborative Goal Setting with Couples
In Christian marriage counseling, collaborative goal setting is a pivotal process that empowers couples to articulate and pursue shared objectives. The counselor facilitates a structured dialogue to help partners identify and prioritize their goals, ensuring that both voices are heard and valued. This mutual effort fosters a sense of unity and purpose within the marriage.
Understanding and managing expectations
Developing conflict resolution strategies
Enhancing communication skills
Fostering spiritual growth together
By engaging in collaborative goal setting, couples can create a roadmap for their relationship that aligns with their faith and values. This proactive approach helps to prevent potential issues from escalating and lays the groundwork for a fulfilling partnership.
The success of this endeavor relies on the couple’s commitment to the process and their willingness to embrace change. As goals are set and progress is made, the couple’s journey is marked by milestones that reflect their growth both individually and as a unit.
Evaluating the Effectiveness of Christian Marriage Counseling
Christian Counselors are effective ways for couples to fix issues
Outcome Measures and Success Criteria
Evaluating the effectiveness of Christian marriage counseling involves a systematic approach to measuring outcomes. Outcome measures are essential in determining the success of therapeutic interventions and the overall satisfaction of couples with the counseling process. These measures often include both quantitative and qualitative data, providing a comprehensive view of the counseling’s impact.
The success criteria for Christian marriage counseling are multifaceted, reflecting the complexity of marital relationships and the integration of faith-based principles.
Common outcome measures include:
Pre- and post-counseling assessments of marital satisfaction
Frequency and intensity of marital conflicts
Reports of improved communication and problem-solving skills
Levels of individual and relational spiritual growth
These criteria are not exhaustive but serve as a starting point for counselors to tailor their evaluation methods to the specific needs and goals of each couple. The systematic review of outcome studies is crucial for the continuous improvement of counseling techniques and interventions.
Longitudinal Studies on Marital Outcomes
Longitudinal studies play a crucial role in understanding the long-term effectiveness of Christian marriage counseling. These studies track couples over extended periods, providing insights into the durability of counseling outcomes and the factors contributing to sustained marital health.
Key findings from such research include:
The persistence of positive effects from counseling over time.
The influence of initial counseling success on long-term marital satisfaction.
The impact of external stressors and life changes on the stability of marriage post-counseling.
While the majority of couples report significant improvement during the counseling process, longitudinal studies are essential to assess the lasting impact of these interventions.
It is important to note that the commitment of both partners to the counseling process and their willingness to work through challenges are strong predictors of positive long-term outcomes. These studies underscore the importance of ongoing support and the need for adaptable counseling strategies to address evolving marital dynamics.
Feedback and Adaptation in Counseling Practice
In Christian marriage counseling, feedback and adaptation are critical components for the continuous improvement of counseling practices. Counselors must actively seek and incorporate feedback from couples to tailor interventions that address the unique dynamics of each relationship. This iterative process often involves the following steps:
Gathering feedback through structured sessions and questionnaires.
Analyzing the feedback to identify patterns and areas for improvement.
Adapting counseling techniques to better meet the needs of the couple.
Implementing changes and monitoring their impact on the counseling process.
The counselor’s willingness to adapt and evolve their approach is essential for fostering a therapeutic environment conducive to growth and healing.
Evaluating the effectiveness of these adaptations requires a systematic approach. Counselors may use a variety of outcome measures to assess the success of their interventions. A succinct representation of such measures could include:
Outcome Measure
Description
Marital Satisfaction
Assessing the overall contentment within the marriage.
Communication Quality
Evaluating improvements in dialogue and understanding.
Conflict Resolution
Measuring the effectiveness of strategies for resolving disputes.
Emotional Intimacy
Gauging the depth of emotional connection between spouses.
By continuously refining their practice through feedback and adaptation, Christian marriage counselors can better serve couples and contribute to the long-term health of Christian marriages.
Ethical Considerations in Christian Marriage Counseling
Christian Counselors look to protect the vow of the marriage and help each both husband and wife navigate but still maintains all ethical standards in service
Confidentiality and Privacy Concerns
In Christian marriage counseling, the sanctity of confidentiality is paramount. Counselors must ensure that all communications and records are kept private, adhering to both ethical standards and legal requirements such as HIPAA. The complexity of maintaining confidentiality increases with the use of online therapy platforms, which necessitates a thorough understanding of their privacy policies.
Counselors should verify that online therapy providers are HIPAA-compliant.
It is crucial to understand if any private information is shared with third parties.
Counselors must be aware of the ethical concerns raised by the FTC regarding user health information.
The foundation of effective counseling is built on trust, which is fortified by the assurance of strict confidentiality between counselor and counselee.
Furthermore, counselors must be competent and affirming of all clients, including those from the LGBTQIA+ community, and should consult the company’s statement of faith or code of ethics. This ensures that services are inclusive and respectful of diverse beliefs and orientations. The absence of a Statement of Faith on a counseling platform can lead to ambiguity regarding the standards to which therapists adhere, impacting the trust and openness necessary for successful counseling.
Navigating Interfaith Couple Dynamics
In Christian marriage counseling, addressing the unique challenges that arise in interfaith marriages is crucial for fostering a harmonious relationship. Counselors must be adept at facilitating a respectful dialogue between partners of different faith backgrounds. This involves recognizing and honoring each individual’s beliefs while finding common ground for the couple’s shared values and goals.
Understand and respect each partner’s faith traditions.
Identify shared values that transcend religious differences.
Develop communication strategies that avoid religious conflict.
Encourage mutual support for each partner’s spiritual growth.
In interfaith dynamics, the emphasis is on creating a space where both partners feel heard and valued, without compromising their individual faith identities. The goal is to build a foundation of respect and empathy that can sustain the marriage through the complexities of differing beliefs.
Counselors also play a key role in helping couples navigate the practical aspects of interfaith marriage, such as holiday celebrations, dietary restrictions, and raising children. It is essential for the counselor to remain neutral and supportive, guiding the couple towards solutions that honor both faiths and promote unity within the marriage.
Professional Standards and Pastoral Care
In the realm of Christian marriage counseling, adherence to professional standards is paramount, ensuring that the care provided is ethical, respectful, and in line with both psychological best practices and theological principles. Counselors must balance their pastoral responsibilities with their role as mental health professionals, often navigating complex situations that require wisdom and discernment.
Counselors are expected to maintain confidentiality and uphold privacy, creating a safe space for couples to explore sensitive issues.
They must be well-versed in both secular counseling techniques and spiritual guidance, integrating these approaches seamlessly.
Ongoing education and supervision are crucial for counselors to stay informed about the latest developments in both fields.
It is essential for Christian marriage counselors to foster an environment where both partners feel heard and respected, promoting healing and growth within the marital relationship.
Pastors and counselors alike are called to be involved in the spiritual labors necessary for the welfare of couples facing marital challenges. This dual role of spiritual guide and professional counselor underscores the unique nature of Christian marriage counseling.
Resources and Support Systems for Christian Couples
Church-Based Marriage Programs
Church-based marriage programs serve as a vital resource for couples seeking to strengthen their marital bonds within a faith context. These programs often provide a comprehensive approach to marriage preparation and enrichment, addressing various aspects of marital life from a Christian perspective.
Premarital workshops and seminars
Marriage enrichment retreats
Support groups for married couples
Mentorship programs pairing newlyweds with experienced couples
Churches may offer a range of services, from premarital counseling sessions that lay the groundwork for a strong marital foundation to ongoing support for couples at different stages of their marriage. The communal aspect of these programs fosters a sense of accountability and shared growth among participants.
The effectiveness of church-based marriage programs lies in their ability to integrate faith principles with practical relationship skills, creating a unique support system for couples.
Evaluating the impact of these programs, many couples report increased communication, deeper understanding of marital roles, and a strengthened spiritual connection. The table below summarizes common outcomes reported by participants in church-based marriage programs:
Outcome
Percentage of Couples Reporting Improvement
Communication
75%
Conflict Resolution
65%
Marital Satisfaction
80%
Spiritual Intimacy
70%
These statistics highlight the potential benefits of church-based initiatives in fostering healthy, resilient Christian marriages.
Christian Marriage Literature and Media
The landscape of Christian marriage literature and media is rich with resources designed to support couples in their marital journey. From books and blogs to podcasts and videos, these tools offer a wealth of knowledge and practical advice grounded in Christian principles.
One standout title is Marriage – Focus on the Family, which emphasizes the importance of connecting emotionally and spiritually as husband and wife. Techniques such as dreaming together and establishing deep, heartfelt communication are central to this resource, helping couples to build a resilient and fulfilling relationship.
In addition to individual titles, there are comprehensive lists that curate the best Christian marriage resources. For example, I Believe’s “25 Best Christian Marriage Resources to Help Your Marriage Thrive” includes a variety of book recommendations, blogs, podcasts, and workbooks. These resources are not only informative but also actionable, encouraging couples to engage actively in strengthening their marriage.
The Christian purpose of marriage is multifaceted, encompassing companionship, mutual support, and spiritual unity. Resources in Christian marriage literature and media serve to reinforce these foundational elements, guiding couples towards a marriage that reflects God’s design.
Community Support and Accountability
In the realm of Christian marriage counseling, community support plays a pivotal role in reinforcing the values and practices encouraged within the counseling sessions. Community accountability is essential for couples as they navigate the complexities of marital life. It provides a system of support that extends beyond the therapist’s office, offering a network of individuals who can offer guidance, encouragement, and practical help.
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However, it is important to recognize that while community support can be invaluable, it is not a substitute for professional therapy. The community’s role is to complement the work done in counseling by providing a consistent and caring environment for accountability and growth.
The commitment to community support involves meeting the recurring needs of those around you, including physical provision, emotional stability, and spiritual guidance. This commitment underscores the importance of a supportive network in fostering healthy marriages.
While the benefits of community support are numerous, it is also crucial to be aware of its limitations. For instance, peers may not have formal training in counseling, and the support offered might be limited to messaging or informal conversations. Therefore, the integration of community support with professional counseling services is recommended to achieve the best outcomes for couples seeking help.
Conclusion
Marriage is sacred and deserves to be preserved. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification.
In summary, Christian marriage counseling serves as a vital resource for couples at any stage of their relationship, offering a unique blend of therapeutic techniques and biblical wisdom. It provides a space for couples to navigate the complexities of marriage with guidance that aligns with their faith values. Whether addressing current issues or preparing for future challenges, counseling can be a proactive step towards a stronger, more unified partnership. The integration of faith and counseling not only supports the individual growth of each partner but also fosters the collective journey of ‘two becoming one.’ As couples in Frisco and beyond seek to honor their vows and build resilient marriages, Christian marriage counseling stands as a beacon of hope, offering tools and insights for a thriving marital bond.
The family is the cellular society. It forms the bedrock of society and reflects the norms of that society. It is key to preserve marriage and its critical role in creating love, trust and morality within the family unit. Christian Counselors and pastors play a key role in preserving this union in the secular storm of divorce. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is Christian marriage counseling?
Christian marriage counseling is a process that integrates therapeutic methods with biblical truth to support couples in their marital journey. It addresses issues and conflicts that arise, offering guidance based on Christian principles and psychological understanding.
Can Christian marriage counseling help during different stages of marriage?
Yes, Christian marriage counseling is beneficial for couples at any stage of marriage, from newlyweds to those married for decades. It provides both crisis intervention and regular maintenance for a healthy marital relationship.
Do I need to be Christian to benefit from Christian marriage counseling?
No, individuals of all faith backgrounds can benefit from Christian marriage counseling, as it focuses on universal relationship issues, though it is grounded in Christian beliefs and values.
What if my partner isn’t a Christian, can we still go to Christian marriage counseling?
Yes, Christian marriage counseling is open to couples regardless of individual faiths. Counselors can work with both partners to ensure that the counseling process is respectful and beneficial to both.
Are there resources available to support Christian marriage counseling?
There are numerous resources available, including books, blogs, podcasts, and workbooks that are designed to support Christian marriages through counseling and self-help methods.
What role does faith play in Christian marriage counseling?
Faith plays a significant role in Christian marriage counseling by informing the principles and guidance provided. However, the level to which it is explicitly discussed can be tailored to the comfort level of the couple.
How does Christian marriage counseling integrate theology and psychology?
Christian marriage counseling combines psychological expertise with biblical wisdom to address the complex dynamics of marital relationships, offering a holistic approach to counseling.
Is Christian marriage counseling effective in dealing with infidelity and other serious issues?
Christian marriage counseling can be effective in addressing serious issues such as infidelity. It often includes processes for forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration, grounded in Christian teachings.
Additional Resources
Klein, E. (2016). “The Unraveling of a Christian Marriage: 3 Common Questions”. CrossWalk. Access here
Gresh, D. (2017). “HOW TO GET LOST IN GOD’S LOVE AND SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE”. Focus on the Family. Access here
Idleman, E. (2023). “10 Bible Verses to Heal and Restore a Troubled Marriage”, CrossWalk. Access here
Mailhot, J. (2019). “What Is Biblical Marriage? Foundations, Definition, and Principles”. Logos. Access here
Within the field of Christian Counseling, a Christian message tied with counseling and morality is shared with those seeking answers and healing. Hence the title and adjective “Christian” clearly distinguishes it from other forms of counseling. If one were to seek merely secular or a non-Christian message, one would not seek this type of pastoral counseling. Some Christian Counselors are only pastoral in nature and not licensed professional counselors with the state, while others may be. For those who are also licensed professional counselors, this can sometimes lead to a conflicting position, especially if working at times in a pastoral setting versus a professional setting that is not Christian based. It is important in counseling ethics, even within pastoral counseling, to respect the autonomy of an individual and to avoid bias infusion. This is especially true for non-pastoral counseling when a client’s moral or faith based beliefs differ from the counselor.
Science vs. Faith?
Christian Counseling adopts a Christian based philosophy to help people face issues. The degrees of it vary from one approach to another
Yet, even within Christian Counseling, there are different schools of thought regarding the dance between Christian Counseling and psychology. Since the dawn of the scientific revolution, science and theology were unfortunately tossed at odds with one another. The atheistic flavor of the scientific revolution looked at only observable phenomenon and reduced metaphysics to the talk of nonsense. Led by logical positivists, many sought to remove any metaphysical reality from reasonable and rational discussion. The scientific method was designed for the temporal world and fact. It saw faith and metaphysics as an inferior subject that failed its methodology. This is why modern science and theology became seen as two divergent ideals that could never co-exist.
The Christian understood that truth, whether revealed from the scientific method in the temporal realm, or through morality and faith through the metaphysical realm could never be at odds. God is hence the source of all truth. If God is the author of all truth, then when things seem to contradict, it is due to interpretation theologically or miscalculations scientifically. One cannot be sacrificed to the other. Modernists would tend to accommodate theology and Scripture to science but never force accountability to science. This is the imbalance of the Christian who as a modernist enforces science as the superior over faith. The heresy always forces faith to change at the demands of science.
Sometimes perhaps, new interpretation is needed. In the case of Galileo, it was a matter of faith, mistakenly, that the universe revolved around the Earth. It was clearly seen that this was a misconception. When science though denies miracles or the fact that Jesus could not resurrect from the dead, then science must be held accountable. Faith, while dismissed as subjective by modernists or atheists, still none the less can hold equal truths beyond the realm of the scientific method. While faith is subjective in nature because so many faiths exist, faith can still hold an objective fact about reality.
The only weakness of the scientific method is it puts its methodology as an objective measurement for all reality. While observation and testing hypothesis works perfectly for the temporal and physical world, it does not work so great for all of reality that is not observable. As the ancients pointed out, sometimes, the object itself deserves its own consideration prior to concluding what methodology is to be utilized and tested upon it. Phenomenology utilizes experience as its primary element of study of something. So, in essence, using the scientific method to study metaphysics is equal to using a Phillips screw driver when you need a flat screw driver for a home repair job. Different tools of exploration are needed to understand different things. Atheism is what has distorted the scientific method. It is not something that should be distrusted by Christians but is something that should be seen as a tool to understand the physical world, not as a weapon against faith.
It is because of this distrust of secular science, or misuse of it as an all purpose tool for everything, that many Christians within counseling, doubt many elements of psychology. Some Christian Counselors will be far more modernist in their approach of utilizing psychology in Christian Counseling, while others may distrust elements of psychology and turn the Bible as full source of counseling. Others will fall in between and utilize both in an integrative approach.
Views within Christian Counseling and Psychology
Levels of Explanation is a type of approach that looks at a particular issue in psychology or counseling from a multi-layered approach. It looks at a particular issue from a psychological, biological, social and theological standpoint. Different angles present different perspectives upon the issue at hand. David Meyers, a supporter of this approach has no issue reconciling his Christian faith with psychological science. He feels they fit together, support one another and when tension occurs, releases a truth that is reconciled through proper adjustment or interpretation (Johnson, 2000, p. 49-50). Meyers uses the emotion of love as an example of the multi-layered examination of realities between faith and secular science. He points out how love can be seen in psychology as a state of arousal, by the poet an experience, or by the theologian as a God-given goal of human relationships (Johnson, 2000, p. 51). Each perspective supplies a truth to be understood and applied to the reality of love. What is good about this approach is that it utilizes good scientific methods. It delves into multi-disciplined practices to find different perspectives of truth. It allows one to maintain a unbiased and professional relationship with a client. Finally, it pushes one to question possible improper interpretations of faith or miscalculations of science.
The weaknesses of Levels of Explanation though cannot be dismissed. They are modernistic in essence. While it may not be contended by Meyers, faith is many times put second to the cult of science. Meyers discusses the effectiveness of prayer in psychology as well as issues of sexual orientation within the context of faith and psychology but seems to place classical notions of theology second hand to the conclusions of science (Johnson, 2000, p. 67-74). He concludes that the power of prayer is limited to within the realm of natural laws. While he does make excellent points that prayer is also about finding God and having God help us through suffering, instead of turning God into a “genie” that grants wishes, he still nonetheless limits the power of prayer within the confines of nature itself. I do contend most individuals use prayer wrong and see God as a wish granter. Worship with God is not a contract but a covenant. God walks with us, He does not always answer us how we wish. Hence prayer should be utilized in a more sacred way for God’s will and possible healing, but Meyer seems to try to confine prayer to a simply modernist understanding that behaves within the laws of nature, restricting God’s power to intervene. While Meyers creates the perception that the Levels of Explanation as a method is inclusive to faith and that faith guides perspective, but we discover this is usually not the case. Once faith crosses the fire of empirical proof, then it appears that belief must be modified. Levels of Explanation, may point out that certain issues may have complimentary truths, but sometimes, there are concrete differences. Which party concedes when an issue arises between the different sciences? Usually more than most, as seen in Meyers discussion, metaphysics or Scripture finds itself having to redefine or catch up to secular science.
The Integrative Approach starts with Scripture but also utilizes modern psychology to enhance guidance in helping individuals in spiritual, mental and emotional health
The Integration Approach is middle of the ground approach that incorporates psychology and Christian teaching, but understands that the truth and faith found in Christianity is the primary element. While improper interpretation of faith can cloud the water, it also understands that miscalculations within science are equally to blame in clouding truth itself as well. The Integrative Approach has no issue entering into the counseling arena with a distinct Christian set of values, but it also understands the importance of good science. It does not see Scripture as all answer book for every malady. Scripture is not a science text but a spiritual book for salvation. It does contain core elements to spiritual and emotional health, but Scripture’s intent is not heal us from a psychology standpoint but to save us from a spiritual standpoint. Hence Scripture’s basics values are expanded upon through psychology in a more in-depth and clinical way. When contradictions occur, the Christian core message is not abandoned, but held at a higher esteem than the secular science. The Integrated Approach does not dismiss its Christian identity but keeps it throughout with the expansion of psychology to guide it. I would conclude, most Christian Counselors, including, Gary Collins, utilizes the Integration Approach, that starts with Scripture but expands with psychology and counseling to answer our most human needs. For those who feel, the Integrative Approach is not powerfully enough infused with Christian ideals, then the Christian Approach is a stronger version that views the totality of the Christian person found within Scripture and the Christian tradition with far less emphasis on psychology.
Opposite the spectrum of Levels of Explanation is the pure Biblical Approach. This approach is found in more fundamentalist camps. It does not dismiss science but is far more suspicious of its every motive and finds Scripture as a sufficient source to heal anyone of any issue. Many pastors will use the Biblical Approach as a way to help heal and transform someone in a spiritual way. Sin is seen as the primary culprit of suffering and through the destruction of sin and God’s Word, healing and transformation can occur. Hence everything one needs is within Scripture. As Christians, we all believe sin is the source of suffering. This is not debated. We also believe that spiritual conversion can help many mental issues. However, the main difference between Integration Approach versus the pure Biblical Approach is that Scripture is a spiritual book not a medical or clinical book to help heal mental issues. If looking to help treat a person with a disease, there is no directives in Scripture for proper medical procedures. The same is with mental maladies. Psychology has given humanity a tool set to help diagnosis and treat a variety of diseases. While prayer, transformation and healing are essential aspects, they alone are not enough in this fallen world where physical and mental treatment is required. There definitely exists different extremes within the Biblical Approach. It’s primary proclamation of God’s healing power over sin and suffering is critical to any Christian Counseling ministry, but when isolated as a fix all, it misses other aspects of our existence in a fallen. It equates spiritual salvation as healing of every aspect of human life.
Conclusion
Christian Counseling can help guide many to healing. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification
While atheism and fundamentalism may be at odds due to their own biases, whether it be literal interpretations of Scripture, or complete denial of the metaphysical, many within Christian Counseling are able to bridge the two together in counseling. There are extremes that exist in Christian Counseling and Psychology as seen in the three different highlighted approaches, but each one attempts to find some common ground and utilization of both. One may lean more towards science or faith, while another finds an equal balance, but each has its own particular strength and also weakness. I myself prefer the Integration Approach. What do you prefer and why?
Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a Christian Counseling Certification.
References
Johnson, E., Ed. (2000). Psychology and Christianity: Five Views. InterVarsity Press
Collins, Gary. (2007). Christian Counseling: A Comprehensive Guide. Thomas Nelson
Additional Resources
Greggo, S. & Sisemore, T. (2012). “Counseling and Christianity: Five Approaches”. Denver Journal. Access here
Blain, T. (2023). “What Is Christian Counseling?”. VeryWellMind. Access here
Loosemore, P. “Measuring Christian Integration in Professional Counseling Practice and the Contributions of Spiritual Formation and Mentoring”. Sage Journals. Access here
