For many parents, it is a difficult cross to not be able to share their own parents with their children. The loss of experiencing one’s child with one’s own parents is something many face. Wondering how to share the life of a deceased parent to one’s own children is something very important.
The article, “One Day I’ll Tell My Children About My Mother’s Death. Until Then, I’ll Show Them How She Lived” by MARISA BARDACH RAMEL discusses how she will teach her children how her own mother lived and in this way continue the memory. She states,
“My daughter won’t know her Grandma Sally, not in the way she knows her other grandparents—her Nana and Grammy and my stepmother Tippy. But my mom will not be absent from her life, either.”
People cope and face grief differently. Some look to hobbies, other looks to social life, while some may be introvert. In this story, a woman turns to reading to help her go through the process of grief.
The article, “How Reading Helped This Woman Process Her Grief” by Bethanne Patrick states,
“In All the Lives We Ever Lived: Seeking Solace in Virginia Woolf, Smyth turns to an unlikely source of solace after her father’s death: her favorite book, Woolf’s 1927 masterpiece To the Lighthouse. Blending analysis of a deeply literary novel with a personal story is a high-wire act for many reasons, not least being how few readers will have read Woolf themselves.”
Like music, when someone can relate to a story, one is more apt to use it as motivation or find solace in it. This was the case in the story above of how a woman found herself in the story. This can definitely help some cope. Please also review our Bereavement Counseling Program
A sad story regarding mothers who have children who are alive as well as deceased and how mothers can balance their grief and joy on this day.
The article, When a New Mother’s Joy is Entwined With Grief, by Claire Zulkey states, ]
“Every Mother’s Day, Maggie Nelson, her husband Mike, and their three young children head to the cemetery to take a family photo at the grave of their daughter, Emily. She was stillborn in 2010, but her twin, Mikey, now 7, survived.”
Good article on how grief can be channeled to activism fueling a movement
The article, The Power of Grief-Fueled Activism, by Isabel Fattal states,
“As she stood in front of hundreds of gun-control advocates at a rally in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, late last month, the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School senior Emma González told the audience that she and her peers should instead be at home grieving.”
Great article about how to help a grieving friend. Too many times one does more harm trying to help by doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing. Helping a grieving friend requires some understanding of grief itself
The article, “What Your Grieving Friend Really Needs :When someone you love dies, every single relationship in your life is reevaluated”, by Lisa Ingrassia states
“My feelings were crushed the night my father died. My entire world exploded when my father died.
As I silently observed my father take his last breath, I felt my heart beat hard inside my chest, exactly six times before I burst into uncontrollable tears.”
The article, “Unpregnant: Mothers’ secret grief” by Lisa Roose-Church states
“Samantha Fox’s eyes glisten with tears as she looks at an urn and light brown teddy bear on a corner shelf in her home.
Inside the small box are the ashes of Fox’s daughter, Lucy Fox, who was diagnosed in utero with anencephaly, a defect that meant she would likely be stillborn or survive only a few hours to a few days after birth.”
Dying is something that needs to be talked about. Being aware of death is important too. This article discusses dying awareness.
The article, Dying Matters For Everyone: Dying Matters Awareness Week, by Lucy Watts states
“Dying Matters to me because I have a life-limiting condition. However, the truth is Dying Matters for everyone. We’re all going to die, I just have more knowledge of how and when I will die than the rest of the population.”
The loss of a child can be the most devistating thing to happen to a parent. The maternal bereavement effect of losing a child can cause death even for the parent due to extreme heart ache. This article looks at Debbie Reynold and the loss of her daughter, Carrie Fisher and the resulting death.
The article, The ‘Maternal Bereavement Effect’ Explains Why So Many Parents Die After Their Children, by Drake Baer, states,
“Tragedy doubled this week when Carrie Fisher died at age 60 following a heart attack, and then a day later, her 84-year-old mother Debbie Reynolds passed away after a stroke.”