Anger can gain control over the best of people. It is a natural emotion that is benign but can be utilized for both good and bad. Unfortunately, anger is more misused and can cause profound problems for individual health and also social interaction. Dr Conte, an Anger Specialist, and also an instructor at AIHCP offers five ways to curb and control anger.
In the video, Dr Conte helps individuals learn how to control their rage and anger.
To review the video, “Five Keys to Controlling Anger”, please click here
Controlling anger is key in life. If anger controls oneself, then it can lead to a life of stress, injured relations, and possibly crime. It is essential to listen to the words of Dr Conte in controlling rage and anger.
Please also review our Anger Management Consulting Certification authored by Dr Conte and see how it can help yourself and others in managing anger. The program is online and offered to qualified professionals seeking certification in the area of Anger Management.
We live in an angry society. Society is divided and angry. Unhealthy ways of expressing emotion online, on social media and at rallies and events are becoming very common. Anger and uncontrolled rage is also manifesting in domestic terrorist acts and school and public shootings. The inability to control anger and rage is leading to multiple national tragedies and a continued unstable social environment for all of the United States.
This is not to say anger has not always existed and manifested in forms of rage in our society, but the particular modern climate is especially anger prone. Reflection is needed on how we treat each other, respect each other and deal with social strife. Anger inappropriately channeled is leading to tragedy after tragedy and to needless ruthless and cruel commentary between Americans.
One of the first aspects is the role of social media. Social media despite its numerous advantages has become to many, a personal diary. Instead of maintaining some sort of privacy, everyone feels the need to share one’s religious, political and social views. Individuals without hesitation will impose their views on a thread on Facebook or Twitter, expecting all to agree. Without the face to face social norms present, an individual is more likely to be rude or speak vulgarly inducing more angry interaction.
This lack of a mental filter has led to countless outbursts of anger throughout one’s day and in far worst cases can lead to bullying as well as extreme reactions. Everyone feels offended if their ideals are questioned and responds in ways social norms would reject. Many fume for days over social media debates. They allow it to alter their day and affect their interaction with individuals throughout the day.
A second element to the higher angry energy is politics. Present day politics is more divisive than any time in American history since the Civil War. Abortion, homosexual and transgender rights, gun control, immigration, healthcare, and Democrat vs Republican idealogies can destroy a friendship. The anger is so personal that other Americans demonize the other for being liberal or conservative. When confronted by an opposing idea, Americans react in the most angry ways. Whether at rallies or protests, Americans show the true division existing in the nation with the angry outbursts.
These political outbursts are also tied to social media, where everything is seen and instant reactions from any average Joe or Sue are shared with the viewing community. It is in such a dangerous political environment that fringe extremist groups have re-emerged. These unhinged groups, already exhibiting rage issues, utilize the political divide and role of social media to further propagate fear, hate and anger.
Individuals have become so attune to this type of social behavior that the loss of older values and social norms seems to be on the decline. Respect of others, decent language and boundaries of social behavior are all being strained and tested. Individuals feel justified in their anger and that their anger is righteous. In this demonization of the other view, right and left, liberal or conservative, feel they are fighting a noble crusade. They feel their anger and only their anger is justified. They feel their unbridled passion and raw emotion are justified against the evil they face in society.
So in most cases, the anger running rampant is both untamed and erroneously seen as justified. This is a very dangerous mix.
With such a chaotic environment, the unhinged and mentally unstable find refuge. Whether an extremist group, hate group, or individual mentally ill person, all can find a spot to share views and ideas on the chaos. This leads to more anger and violence. The reactions of the mentally ill are especially alarming. Shootings in public places have sky rocketed in the recent years. There are shootings at schools, movies, malls, and public events. Most of these shooters are mentally ill and have serious issues. They possess a rage against society and an anger that has never been properly cured. Instead they represent the outcasts of society and have turned their anger towards whatever perceived wrongs into manifestos. The inability to help the mentally ill and abused and to teach them how to deal with anger in a healthy way is a big challenge and current failure of today’s society.
Hence anger and rage is something that needs to be dealt with. It cannot be allowed to continue to go unbridled and without guard. The sources of the anger can be minimized but there will always be chaos in the world. There will always be something to be angry about. How one controls that anger and properly channels it is the key. The irritants must not be allowed to be completely blamed for society’s anger issue. Instead, one must look at how they handle angry situations.
First and foremost it is OK to be angry. It is how one handles anger and rage that is the key. One should not bottle it up in a introvert style way nor release it carelessly. Instead, one must learn despite the political divide, the mental instability, as well as the readiness of a social platform to learn to curb one’s emotion. One must learn to control how one reacts.
This involves not allowing emotion to overtake and instantly allowing emotion to dictate the response but in such a complicated political environment it takes more. It also after reflection demands a healthy and legal outlet for a justified anger. It involves reacting within the norms of law and social graces that respect others. It demands from politicians reasonable language that does not induce rage within his or her followers. It demands a return to class.
Anger Management skills can play a large role. Although Anger Management cannot help with mental illness and political divide, it can at least start helping the vast majority of the population in venting their anger in a healthy, productive and positive way. It involves not only how one processes social injustice and how one expresses it, but also importantly how one reacts to others. One must be able to process anger, express anger but also react to others who still exhibit immature or unhealthy angry behavior.
The American Institute of Health Care Professionals offers a certification in Anger Management Consulting. This certification is meant to help train others in the process of teaching Anger Management. While Anger Management is critical to everyday life, it is especially critical in such a volatile social environment. Whether it is political, social or public, one can find oneself in a variety of anger situations merely at home, work or while traveling. It is key to attempt to control anger in all phases of life.
Anger is beneficial but it can also be dangerous if used improperly. As a natural reaction, it is important to properly utilize it for not only public and personal safety, but also over health and long life. If you interested in learning more about Anger Management Consulting then please review the program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.
Stress is a natural part of life. Stress occurs daily but its universal impact is a subjective experience. Many people succumb to stress and allow it to affect them while some are able to deal with stress and minimize its effects. Some individuals respond as an extrovert, while others allow stress to eat them within as an introvert. Some respond with rage, while others enter into isolation and depression.
Stress can originate from our daily schedule and the nature of one’s life. If one understands his or her position in life and what comes with it, these natural stresses come less as a surprise. Someone who commutes to New York City everyday, naturally expects the stress of heavy traffic and road rage scenarios. While the stress is real and present, its effect is determined by the individual’s outlook on life and what he or she expects for that day. The stress of this traffic can build over time but someone who has developed stress coping strategies can more effectively deal with the traffic and minimize its impact on daily life.
The same is true for an individual who may work in a office. One should expect numerous phone calls interrupting assignments, as well as multiple deadlines and potentially obnoxious co-workers. These stresses while unpleasant are nevertheless expected stresses. An individual who identifies stressors that are indigenous to one’s daily life will more successfully navigate the day and cope with the stresses that may confront them.
Likewise is the nature of one’s vocation in life. Parents experience different stresses that single people never can imagine. Parents are not only concerned with meeting the expectations of what need done in their own personal lives, but also must be concerned with the child’s needs. Whether that stress is a crying baby, ensuring the children arrive at school, or take children to extracurricular activities, parents understand that certain stresses manifest throughout the day. These potential stresses are certainly not foreign ideas that can emerge throughout the day but are sometimes expected or not entirely a surprise if they do occur.
Natural stresses that are part of one’s daily life are balanced to some extent. They are expected. One knows what to expect on Monday through Friday and what particular challenges come with those days. The balancing act of coping with those stresses in a mild way and still managing the day is a very precarious balance though. The degree of the stress or an unexpected stress can totally unravel one’s neatly planned day. One may plan on heavy traffic on their way to the commute, but not be prepared for a fender bender. One may be ready for the challenge to have all the children arrive to school on time, but not be ready to receive a call a from a teacher that your child skipped class or misbehaved. These issues can unravel one already dealing with the everyday notion of stress.
One can identify stressors that are common and have a plan but when unexpected stressors occur, they can induce a panic, rage, or break down. In addition to unplanned stress, multiple stressors can also play a role. One may be fine with a rude honk from behind in traffic, but later, not be so fine with the person who cuts in front, or even later, the person at work who parks in one’s favorite spot. Simply then add a spilled coffee on one’s favorite shirt and a lack of emotional control could emerge. Certain singular stresses may be manageable but for many, multiple stressors, merely build up to a volcanic eruption.
So while individuals deal with natural stressors, they must also learn to deal with unexpected stressors and multiple stressors at once. While one can expect certain stress to exist naturally within one’s day, one must be also able to cope with the unexpected and multiple issues that may appear uninvited on one’s schedule.
Life has order but it always does not keep to order. This may be very difficult for an OCD person to accept but plans change. One needs to have a plan, a set daily, weekly and monthly schedule, but stress, life itself and issues arise that deviate from anyone’s plan. One can estimate what type of stress or difficulty may occur with a given project, day, or week, but to truly cope with stress, one must be ready to deviate from the path planned if necessary.
This goes beyond basic Anger Management and Stress Management which identifies issues that arise and teach trained responses to them, but goes a step even farther back basic recognition, and teaches expectations of not only the expected but unexpected as well. One must be flexible in response and able to cope with new unexpected stressors in a better and healthy way.
Of course emotion is a key. Emotion can be irrational and it can over react to stressors and various imperfections within one’s personality can emerge. One truly must learn to know oneself, if one wishes to handle stress and anger on a given day. This goes beyond expecting what stress goes with a day. It goes beyond realizing that plans rarely go to plan. It is even more than realizing that somedays are just bad days filled with multiple stresses at once. It entails, one honestly examining one’s personality and identifying emotional responses to past stress and where personality defects exist within oneself.
This examination of self asks questions regarding oneself. It asks if one is patient, if one is kind, if one is mature, if one is reserved as opposed to impatience, rudeness, immaturity and anger. How we cope truly defines oneself. One naturally likes to see the best of oneself. One who rises to the occasion, controls emotion, and has intelligent responses to situations that are managed by reason not emotion, but this is not always the case.
A person who possesses these traits and is able to handle anger and stress is not only trained but also disciplined. It probably did not occur by accident or over night, but was a skill that was painfully worked on everyday. It was a virtue forged in fire, perfected over numerous falls and conscious restraint in stressful and angry situations. Training one’s will and mind to respond a certain way that is not immature, rash, or angry is a difficult task.
So while it does ensue identifying stressors, preparation and expectation of the unexpected, it also revolves around spiritual and mental betterment. It involves a conscious decision to change one’s response and emotional self to life situations. It is a new spiritual outlook on life that accepts stress, not just daily stress, but every type of cross that may fall upon oneself. It is a universal reaction to every situation that surrounds itself with patience, understanding, and kindness.
So Stress Management and Anger Management is more than just a few sessions of recorded response but is also a re-awakening of self to the world and how it works. It is an acceptance of the temporal reality and how one is going to allow that reality to shape oneself. One can go about as a crazed and AN unhealthy maniac reacting to stress in unhealthy and unsocial ways, or one can start to see the world in a less selfish way that puts others first and emphasizes vocation of life and giving back whatever troubles may occur from it.
This giving back can be a spiritual one where everything is given to God, or for non religious, a giving back to society and its betterment. If one is able to turn stress and how one reacts to it into a more positive spin, where one overcomes it and is able to make society better, or for religious and spiritually minded, offering to God, then one can truly start to see that all stress is natural to this world and no plan is concrete. The plan that matters most is God or the universe’s plan and how one properly plays one’s role.
If one submits to the universal plan of life and starts seeing one’s unique role in the bigger picture, one can become more aware of reality and how stressors are merely noises taking one away from the bigger picture. One needs to deal with stressors effectively. In dealing effectively, one will experience a more calm, healthy, and quiet life.
Please also feel free to review AIHCP’s numerous certification programs in Stress Management Consulting, Anger Management Consulting and Spiritual, as well Christian Counseling Certifications. These training programs can help anyone receive the training, and also information, to live and teach others a less stressful and angry way of living life.
Anger is a natural human reaction. Anger is not something evil in itself but still is something that can lead to many evil deeds. Anger as a reaction to injustice promotes action which is good but when anger disproportionately it can become true vice.
Anger as a vice can be seen when one loses rationality and reacts upon pure emotion. The anger can be a reaction against injustice or the anger itself may be an injustice. Regardless, when reason is absent, anger becomes a dangerous emotion. If one reacts to a murder of a loved one in anger and revenge, the reaction is against an injustice but the reaction is guided by vengeance and hate. Other times, one’s anger can be a reaction to nothing deserving of hatred. Angry people abuse spouses, children and animals without even a reason.
Anger is only truly virtuous when reason guides it with appropriate response and authority. Anger can wake people up to social evils and also guide someone away from bad people. In this anger is not a vice but a reaction and disgust of evil. For Christians, Christ showed anger in the temple to the money lenders. His reaction was just and proportionate and reasonable to the evil.
So in essence, anger can both be a good and bad reaction to things. When properly tuned with reason, it can be a great emotion to help society overcome social ills. It can help individuals avoid evil by the detest of the actions seen. However, when anger becomes an unbridled passion, it can lead to multiple evils. When it reacts without reason, it can lead people to abuse of others. Anger can lead to domestic abuse, child abuse, animal abuse, fights, shootings and a barrage of other crimes.
More and more individuals are abused each other in relationships. Physically, most reports deal with women being abused, but men are also abused physically but this is rarely reported. Abuse is beyond physical, but anger can lead to also emotional abuse. Emotional abuse may not have scars, but they devalue the human soul and can be devastating as well. (1)
Due to anger, domestic violence is a key health and criminal problem in the United States. 3 to 5 percent of adult relationships possess some type of domestic violence. This only involves reported offenses. Over 2 million women suffer from this and 800,000 men. Women are more vulnerable to domestic violence from a physical perspective. (2)
Anger directs individuals in these cases of violence. Whether it be children or spouses, anger that is uncontrolled leads to abuse. The abuser is also very manipulative. The abuser will blame the other person for the outburst. The abuser will make the victim feel guilty. The abuser will also seek silence from his victim. Many victims, such as children and spouses, are financially tied to the abuser and have no way to escape. Some from other cultures are tied to the abuse and become a perpetual victim.
Ultimately the pathology that causes the anger must be discovered. Individuals convicted of abuse to family, children, friends and pets are usually forced to seek special help. Many already possess drug problems or drinking issues, while others are in need of counseling for past abuse they faced. Anger Management is also an effective treatment to help the individual learn to control his anger.
Abusers who are seeking treatment must learn to control the intense emotion of rage and direct it in a healthy and constructive way. Anger techniques look to help others learn how to identify stress and other triggers that may cause an explosion of rage. Some are able to identify triggers and are able to follow certain protocols to diffuse the anger or relinquish it in a non violent way. Some are able to accomplish this, others are not and remain hostile individuals that need to be incarcerated. Abuse, road rage, and other violent crimes are all fruits of uncontrolled anger.
Anger Management can help others learn to control and curb anger but it has to be ultimately the person who wishes to change one’s life and stop the cycle of abuse towards others. Controlling one’s temper is the first step. In fact, anger can eat at many non violent abusers. Many suffer from anger outbursts with no abuse. Some may throw a glass vase, or punch a wall. These physical manifestations of anger on a consistent basis are signs of concern.
Those who merely yell or scream or restrain most of the anger within are still at high risk. Anger that is not allowed to escape in a healthy fashion can cause numerous health issues, including high blood pressure, as well as heart attack. Anger can also play a role in causing a stroke. Studies show that anger has multiple short term but also long term negative health effects on the body. So even if not an abuser, or violent person, anger needs to be controlled. (3)
So is anger a bad thing? It is most definitely not as we have shown. It can expose evil and promote healthy action, but when anger is misused, it can cause harm to others we love and care for, and lead to multiple cases of domestic abuse and other dangerous crimes. Yet anger is also a health risk for non violent offenders.
Anger Management is hence key for individuals who both are within the court system and merely those who deal with a non violent temper. Individuals need to learn various strategies to overcome stress, identify triggers and in healthy way release the anger. Anger Management can help in these cases, but one can also seek other therapies. Meditation, prayer, and relaxation techniques can all help with not only controlling one’s anger but also keeping it in check. One can learn from meditation on how to prevent things and people from causing severe irritation. Meditation can help diffuse anger and create a better barrier against it.
The American Institute of Health Care Professionals offers a program in Anger Management. Online courses teach the basics of anger and Anger Management. Individuals seeking to control anger as well those hoping to become certified as an Anger Management Consultant can take the courses. Many professionals in counseling look to earn this certification, as well as other court officials.
Anger Management Specialists can utilize this certification in their private practice or offer it to a variety of social out reach programs, as well as court ordered program. An Anger Management Certification is an excellent way to help a enhance a professional career. Please review our Anger Management Consulting Program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals and needs.
Conflict resolution is important in all human interaction. It is even more important in the business world. Stress and anger all play key roles in causing problems at work or on the job. Conflict resolution is an excellent investment to any business in helping employees work together. Conflict resolution not only reduces stress but also increases productivity.
The article, “5 Ways To Enable Your Team For Better Conflict Resolution” Rohan Bhargava states,
“Conflicts are a part of every team, starting from differences in opinions to business values, conflicts can arise due to all kinds of reasons. While every conflict will not have a severe impact on the overall performance of your team, some can considerably damage the team internally.”
Conflict resolution is hence critical to success. To read the entire article, please click here
The article, “Parents’ Arguing in Front of Baby Alters Infant Brain Development”, by Ashik Siddique states
“Constantly hearing parents’ angry voices could make babies’ brains more vulnerable to stress and conflict.”
American Institute Health Care Professionals’ insight:
Anger management is essential for the good of your own child. Getting angry and arguing with the spouse in front of your baby can alter infant brain development. It is best to practice anger management skills and remain calm until the child is out of the room. And then even, still, try to control your temper. If you are interested in learning more about anger management, then please review our program
The article, “Children of Divorce: The Angry Aftermath”, by Janet Pfeiffer states
“Divorce is difficult for everyone. Even though children are resilient in many areas of life, divorce takes its toll on the youngest family members as well.”
American Institute Health Care Professionals‘s insight:
Anger management for children is important, especially in cases of divorce. Grief, anger and stress are all elements that can affect your child. This article looks at how you should care for your child during and after a divorce. It lists a variety of tips to help your child adapt and adjust better.