Grief Counseling and Happiness

The Emotion of Sadness and Grief Counseling

While the emotion of sadness can dominate grief, one finds very little talk of happiness in grief.  Such a contradiction defeats the purpose of loss.  Grief Counseling must also find that spurts of happiness are natural in grief.
Within Christian theology, out of grief can come victory.  Through Christ’s death came resurrection and liberation.  Also through one’s daily crosses comes heavenly reward.  From this perspective there exists a happiness amidst the grief.  While the happiness is not intimately tied with the emotion, it can co-exist and become ultimately a by-product.
From a psychological standpoint, happiness and normalcy is an important element during the grieving process.  Traditional paradigms of grief recovery list step by step processes that must follow a linear progression.  The reality is that while traditional models do tell us a lot about grief, they still cannot be used as universal paradigms.  People can skip various steps.  Also to note, many new ideas have completely dismissed step process and instead emphasize phases of grief as waves or oscillating peaks and valleys.  The peaks represent states of happiness or normalcy.  The subconscious mind while it needs grieving to heal cannot constantly grieve or one would mentally breakdown.  With this in mind, one must acknowledge that there are states during the grief recovery where the person does manifest moments of happiness and laughter.  This allows the person to continue life but still remember.  Certain days when work or school are not at the forefront, one can take time to reflect and grieve. This idea of happiness or moments of happiness during the grief cycle also point to issues that possibly dismiss preconceived notions of hidden or regressed grief that were not legitimate pathologies.
The reality is people are more resilient that many think.  While complicated grief does occur, majority of people overcome their grief in a healthy fashion.  Normal reactions during the grief cycle do indeed include an isolated “oasis” of humor, joy, happiness and normalcy within the dark and sad “desert” of grief recovery.
By Mark Moran, MA

Why Grief Counselors Must Understand the Function of Sadness

Grief Counselors Must Understand the Function of Sadness

Emotions are extremely important to one’s biological survival.  The interwoven nature of the soul and body interact with each other and effect each other.  The emotions of the soul are
manifested in the body via various expressions or chemical reactions.  These emotions also serve various functions. Grief Counselors should take into account these functions.

One example of an emotion is anger.  Anger helps the person react properly to a threat and prepares the body for confrontation.  It also gives the body the expressions and mannerisms needed to ward off others in hopes of a peaceful resolution.
The same holds true for sadness.  Sadness as an emotion has a biological function that helps the body relate to lost and recover from it.  It forces the mind to reflect and dwell on the lost and to adjust the new life of not having that person.  Through dwelling and mourning, one comes to the reality that a loved one is lost but also comes to the reality of how one is going to deal with that loss.  In addition to this, while sadness exposes one to exterior threats due to mourning, it does also awaken others to the fact that something is not right.  This social functioning of sadness expresses need for help and allows other within the community to offer that help.
I would contend that all emotions serve a natural and biological functioning for healing of the body and socially interaction during emotional states.  In this way, the soul is able to communicate via the body.
In conclusion, anger and sadness are all important emotions.  They are not merely reactions to loss but also biological functions that stem from the mind and prepare the body for adaptation into a new state.  Again, grief counselors need to understand this.
By Mark Moran, MA

Taming Your Stress Response from Huntington

What is the human stress response and why is it important?
When we talk about stress today, we are usually referring to the pressures we experience in daily life. These can be the pressures to earn a living, pay our bills, meet the demands of raising a family, live up to the expectations of people around us or care for aging parents. They can be daily pressures, such as a traffic jam, disrespectful co-workers or being asked to do things we’re not good at. They can come from the environment — poor lighting or noise — and from our minds.

The article, “Taming Your Stress Response”, by Christy Matta states

“If you’ve ever been threatened and felt that rush of strength and energy that made you more physically capable than you have been at other times, then you’ve experienced the body’s stress response.”

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Lent Beyond Tradition and Christian Counseling

Christian Counseling Should Prepare the Faithful for Lent

Christian Counseling sessions should prepare souls for Lent.  The Church has set aside a special time for Christians to prepare themselves for the Resurrection of Christ. Far from merely just a historical memorial of an event, it is a living tradition where the Mystical Body of Christ together as one unit, spiritually renewing itself in union with its head, Jesus Christ. While the event in question happened two millennia ago, one still can simultaneously reflect on Christ’s death and carry one’s own cross. This is the supernatural mystery of Lent because one’s sacrifice escapes the temporal prison of time but is offered to God in one clear precise eternal moment. In this way, while reflecting on a historical event, one still, within the eyes of God, can participate and offer his or her consolations to Christ as he dies for mankind. So one does not weep for Christ’s death in the past but weeps in the present with Mary and the Holy Women.

Lent in this regard is a reflection of the past but also a spiritual exercise of the present which is offered to an eternal God who is not bound by time. Christian Counselors should emphasize this aspect of Lent as a time to offer oneself to Christ and console Christ in his darkest moments. One during this time should take up his or her cross and carry it up Calvary with Christ via sacrifices, fasting, and virtue building.
Christian Counselors during this time should encourage Biblical study time where the story of Christ and his passion is meditated upon. In addition to Scripture, one should also partake in a deeper prayer life. Catholics should partake in the Stations of the Cross, make frequent confessions, and visit the Eucharist. Protestants also can partake in various Lenten traditions in their own home or church.
Christians in general, should also work beyond the mere required fast days and individual sacrifices, but also work on a particular virtue they would like to cultivate. Through a thorough examination of conscience, one should be able to identify the core element of one’s spiritual life that needs addressed and focused upon. In addition to this, one should not only work on oneself but also apply the Spiritual and Corporal Works of Mercy to one’s fellow man via good deeds of compassion and love.
The purpose of Lent while reflective on Christ’s passion is also a reactive time where one living in the present offers contrition to God and reparation via spiritual rebuilding and good works. This goes beyond mere rituals of abstaining from meat on Friday but involves a living and interactive faith with God that is fed by love and not habit. Lent is not about who can fast the most or not grumble about fasting but is a time to suffer and later resurrect with Christ. Without this love, abstaining from meat is merely a foolish ritual with no true meaning.
Christian Counseling should emphasize these elements to all spiritual children and should help and guide others in making the best out of one’s Lent. As a Christian counselor one can not only help a person understand fasting but also help someone build sanctity and a better relationship with Christ through prayer, virtue and charity.  If you are interested in becoming a Christian Counselor, please review the program.
By Mark Moran, MA

Ignatian Fasting and Christian Counseling.

How Christian Counseling Can Use Ignatian Ideals

Ignatian spirituality can also be applied to the Lenten season or the Great Fast. St. Ignatius in his “Spiritual Exercises” laid out important guiding principles in proper fasting.

St. Ignatius points out that there is interior fasting which deals with the formation of moral character and exterior fasting which deals with sacrifices and penances of a bodily fashion. This exterior fasting is a result of the interior fasting and yearning of the soul to show penance.
According to St. Ignatius, denial of superfluous things is not fasting. Fasting does not include giving up special treats, but is a sacrifice that revolves around ordinary things that we deal with everyday. This is not to devalue sacrifices, but it is important to delineate between exercises in temperance and true fasting.
St. Ignatius listed three primary ways one can fast. The first he listed was food intake. In this, Ignatius reflects the values of the Church and its mandates for denial of meat and other meals during a proper fast day. The second type of fasting deals with denial of sleep. Sleep deprivation or removing basic comforts for sleep are encouraged for those who wish to fast this way. However, St. Ignatius emphasizes that one should not eliminate sleep if it hurts one’s health and prevents them from functioning in one’s daily duty. Finally, St. Ignatius stated that temporal suffering can be applied as long as it does not permanently harm the body. Examples of sack clothe that are hidden underneath one’s clothes is a perfect example for this.
Ultimately St. Ignatius believed fasting was meant to show Christ how much we love him and how much we wish to carry our crosses with him. St. Ignatius felt that such fasting would benefit the soul by teaching it mastery and discipline over the passions. He also saw fasting as important for petition and reparation for sin.  Christian Counseling sessions should also utilize these concepts.
by Mark Moran, MA

Christian Counseling and Key Fasting Concepts

Christian Counseling and Key Fasting Concepts

Christian Counseling sessions should pinpoint key elements of fasting.  The purposes of fasting involve a few key concepts. One of the first concepts is that fasting teaches the body self control and spiritually discipline. The second concept is that it is a form of prayer to God where one can offer reparation for sin. The self denial is the sacrifice to God.
When one fasts, it is a personal gift to God. It is not to be advertised or applauded but kept secret. Christ taught that one is to fast in private and keep clean and fresh appearances so that one’s neighbor cannot see the fasting. Christ promises great rewards in Heaven that are beyond the extoltation of man.
As stated in other papers, most fasting regards ordinary things that are beyond the extra. St. Ignatius gave reference to this and laid out the ground rules in his Spiritual Exercises where fasting can involve physical penance, eating or sleeping. On the other extreme, the simple daily offerings of St. Theresa the Little Flower give a host of examples of how one can offer the smallest sacrifice to God during one’s daily duty.
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By Mark Moran, MA

Lenten Ideals: True Lenten Remorse and Christian Counseling

Christian Counseling can use the story of Judas and Peter as excellent ways to show how a Christian shows true remorse

 Palm Sunday emphasized the joyous proclamation of Christ as king, but like many who initially accept him, many later deny him.  The Jews who adored him, one week later scorned him and the many apostles who proclaimed their fidelity to him, denied him only days later.  In our Lenten sacrifices, do we later fall from grace and deny or betray our lord after the end of Lent?  Can we truly say we take our palm branches to the foot of the cross as did Mary, John and the Holy women?
It is probably so that many of us are not like Mary, John or the Holy Women, but do fall to the lures of this world.  Our concupiscence and fallen nature, only so easily fall to the pleasures of sense.  Our wills so strong one moment, befall to the temptations of this world and the devil.  It would not be surprising if many of us did fail in some of our Lenten promises and at times did not fulfill one’s obligation.  It is human nature to fall, but we are not defined by our fall but how we pick ourselves up.  Christians will sin and fall but through the grace of Christ, one can exhibit true Lenten remorse.   Christian Counselors can help one find this.
True Lenten remorse is having hope and faith in Christ that he will forgive us when we fail him.  This involves removing one’s pride and placing one’s hope in Christ’s deepest love for us.  Falling while never good is important because it helps us understand our weaknesses but it also helps us realize how much we love Christ and wish not to fall again.  In this way, we should contrast two forms of remorse found during the Holy Week and Passion of Christ.  They are the way of Peter or the way of Judas.

The Way of Judas

The way of Judas after his betrayal of Christ did exhibit true remorse.  After his betraying kiss to our Lord, he felt deep guilt and intense sadness.  He threw the pieces of silver at the chief priests and cursed them for their action.  However, instead of seeking out our Lord or his mother, he fled the city and without hope and full of despair hung himself.  Do we ever feel that we are unworthy of Christ’s love to such an extent that we would flee his love?  This is obviously not true Christian remorse for it lacks two things.  First, faith in Christ’s love and second, a lack of hope that leads to despair and never allows for contrition.

The Way of Peter in Christian Counseling

The way of Peter was also true remorse but differ ultimately in its end.  Peter triumphantly proclaimed he would never deny our lord, but only after things became difficult, did fear and human weakness overcome him.  He fled our lord in his darkest hour and denied him three times.  This denial of our lord was realized as the cock crowed twice.  In this moment of intense guilt and pain, Peter wept bitterly.  However, unlike Judas, Peter would again rise.  He felt horrible about his denial of our Lord, but instead had faith in forgiveness and pushed forward to new spiritual heights as the first leader of the early church.  He would even later validate his intense love for Christ via his own crucifixion, which he suffered upside down out of respect for Christ.
Beyond Peter, we also see the remorse of the apostles.  Did not the apostles also proclaim their fidelity to Christ but to only fall later?  Their spirits were strong but their flesh was weak.  One can see their failure as many of them fell asleep as Christ sweat blood in the garden.  Their ultimate failure is later seen as they fled the garden in fear of the soldiers who came to apprehend Christ. There after they would remain hidden until Christ’s resurrection.  All would eventually suffer martyrdom and vindicate themselves before Christ with their ultimate gift, their lives.  Only St. John would escape martyrdom because only he stood at the foot of the cross and experienced his own spiritual martyrdom of witnessing his lord die.
Christian Counselors should emphasize the importance of true remorse of Peter and the apostles who later died for Christ.  Their failures and fall from grace are all examples to us.  We too can fall but also be given another chance to show Christ our love for him.  The way of Judas prevents one from showing true remorse and growing from one’s fault.  In contrast, through the way of Peter, we can share the pain of the apostles in that we too fail Christ, but we can also share in their joy when we show remorse and grow from it.  If you are interested in the Christian Spiritual Counseling program, please click here.

By Mark Moran, MA

Legal Nurse Consultants Testify in Malpractice Cases

Nurses are entering the court room today as expert witnesses in nursing malpractice cases. These nurses are known as legal nurse consultants and are active members of legal teams. They investigate what particular nursing standards of care apply in a case of alleged negligence. Once they identify deviations from the standards of care they are able to define what deviations from the standards occurred. Their health care and nursing backgrounds allow them to easily enter the legal world in malpractice litigation. Most legal nurse consultants practicing today have completed legal nurse consulting training programs and have achieved certification. When legal nurses provide expert testimony in a malpractice case, they are only permitted to give testimony related to deviations from nursing standards of care. They are not permitted to testify to deviations in standards of care of physician medical practice. Nurses do get sued. The legal nurse providing expert testimony in a nursing malpractice case can really influence the outcomes of a whether providing such testimony for the plaintiff or the defense.

Pomegranates for Heart Disease and Health Care Life Coaches

   Pomegranates are becoming a popular item for healthy diets, as  health care life coaches learn more about the many health benefits that have been attributed to this fruit. Researchers from Israel have found from their research that pomegranates can actually help prevent the clotting of blood. Abnormal clotting of blood is a leading cause of heart attacks in people with vascular heart disease. Many people with heart disease today are taking prescription medications to help keep their blood thin and prevent abnormal clotting. When a clot forms in a diseased heart vessel, blood supply to the heart muscle is blocked and a heart attack ensues. Keeping the blood thin goes a long way in preventing this from occurring. Is it possible that including pomegranates in the diet may be a wonderful alternative to prescription blood thinners? Stay tuned as more research on the beneficial effects of this amazing fruit on health and wellness will certainly be showing up more in the literature.
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Forensic Nursing Certification: Reaching for Your Dreams!

Perhaps you watched a bunch of detective shows. Perhaps you always wanted to go into nursing, but “regular” nursing was just too boring for you. Whatever it was, you’ve been thinking about becoming a forensic nurse for a while now. The idea of helping people solve crimes and prosecute them with your scientific knowledge and experience excited you. So now it’s up to you to look into forensic nursing certificationYou will want to study in a place where the schedule works for you. You will want to find a reputable institution with good instructors who remain passionate about their field and can impart their knowledge and interest to their students. You will also want a place that lends credibility to your name after you complete certification. Most of all, you will want to find a place that prepares you for the hard work ahead. After all, you want to feel confident as you pursue the job of your dreams! Forensic nursing certification can prepare you.   So quit staling and start moving forward.   Apply today and start your road to fulfilling your educational goals of becoming a forensic nurse.

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