Great article on how serious the loss of a pet can be. Pets are just not animals but actual family members. Their value to the individual is that of a child to many. This is not something odd or crazy but is in fact quite a normal attachment. Some individuals may have more severe attachment to a pet but no studies show this to be unhealthy or bad. In fact, it is human to love an animal, especially a pet as if one of the family. In many cases, pets to some are better family than people.
The article, “Here’s Why People Need to Be Taken Seriously When Grieving the Death of a Pet” by Maryanne Garvey explores this and dismisses the statement, “it was just a pet” to be something more than a minimal loss but a very emotional and serious loss. The article states,
“We can feel very, very intense grief when a beloved pet dies. A pet is a family member. When any beloved family member dies, those who love him or her grieve. One can grieve as much or even more over the death of a pet as that of a human,” Cohen explained.
The love and bond between a boy and his dog is one of the first true bonds that is tested in death for a child. It is a sad loss with true value but also a loss that teaches one the nature of death in this broken world. One learns though how to love, how to give and how to be love unconditionally back.
The article, “A Boy and His Dog: Finding Strengths and the Capacity To Love Through Grief and Loss” illustrates how conventional stereotypes of how a man should grieve and the loss of a dog brought one man to his knees in grief. The article states,
“No one tells you how multi-layered grief can be: I supposed it is one of those things that must be experienced first-hand. I know if I am going to resolve my grief, I have to feel this. I have to accept this loss and let “sad” happen. ”
I think this article pastes together these two aspects of how men should grieve and how loss does not see one’s gender when grieving the loss of one of our furry friends. Please also review our Pet Loss Grief Counseling program to learn more and become trained in Pet Loss Grief Counseling.
One of the first and most painful memories of a child is the loss of a pet. Even the simple loss of a fish displays the fragile nature of life and that animals do not live forever and that death is part of life. This is critical learning lesson for children as they discover life is not forever and the startling conclusion that even mommy or daddy can die. This needs to be dealt with carefully as not to traumatize the child but to educate the child on the reality of death. Hiding the child from the loss of a pet, as if to replace the fish, is not a good idea. It only reinforces bad concepts regarding life and death itself. Please also review our Pet Loss Grief Counseling Program as well as our Child and Adolescent Grief Counseling Progam
The article, “A dying fish, a beloved dog and a parenting lesson, of sorts”, by Theresa Vargas states
“I thought a dead fish was the worst thing my 5-year-old son could find in his new fish tank.
Great article that looks at the nature of pet bereavement and the affects on a person. Some warrant that the loss should be treated as a family loss and that bereavement days may even be needed. Please also review our Pet Loss Grief Counseling Program
The article, Does the Death of a Pet Warrant Bereavement Time? A Scientist Weighs In, by Yasmin Tayag states
“In 2015, Chantal Dumais arrived at her home near Montreal to find her cat’s body on the floor, smeared with blood. Deeply upset, Dumais asked her employer whether she could work from home the next day. When her request was denied — her employer argued that a pet’s death didn’t warrant bereavement time — Dumais filed a complaint with the local labour tribunal. This July, the tribunal announced the final verdict: Only human deaths justify time off to grieve.
University of Colorado, Boulder professor of sociology Leslie Irvine, Ph.D. would disagree.”
Pets grieve like we do. They grieve the absence of a friend or owner. The love between pet and owner is like family. So while we grieve, we must also be aware that our pets can grieve in their own way. Please also review our Pet Loss Grief Counseling Certification. To review the program please click here and see if the program matches your academic and professional needs.
The article, Do Pets Feel Grief? Here’s What To Do If Your Pet Seems Especially Down, by Brandi Neal states
“Pets are a lot like humans, and just like their human counterparts, pets feel grief when they suffer a loss. If your pet is acting differently after a human or animal companion disappears from their life, you might not realize at first that your pet is in mourning. However, a study published in the journal Animals found that pets exhibit specific behaviors when they’re grieving, some of which mimic the five stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.”
Grieving a pet is critical to recovery. With pets being so much as like family, if one does not take the time to grieve the loss of a pet, then one can face further grief complications. Allowing oneself to grieve the loss of a pet can help one ultimately recover and accept the loss in a healthy fashion
The article, Paw Prints: Grieving process can bring you relief from pet’s death, by Niki Laviolette states,
“Most people love their pets enough to consider them members of the family. Pets provide companionship, emotional support and unconditional love. When a beloved pet dies, it’s natural to feel sorrow and experience grief.”
For children, the death of a pet may be the first experience with death. A child may blame himself, his parents or the veterinarian for not saving the pet. A child may also feel guilty, depressed and frightened that others he loves may be taken from him.
The article, Why We Need to Take Pet Loss Seriously, by Guy Winch states,
“Doug’s amateur soccer team had just lost their playoff game and he needed a pick-me-up. So he decided to stop by the local animal shelter on his way home. He was by no means looking to adopt an animal but puppies always put a smile on his face.”
Sad article on the rainbow bridge and when our loved pets cross over to the next life
The article, Paws for Thought | When a pet crosses that rainbow bridge, by Caitlin Thomson states,
“Grief is a topic that is rarely discussed and usually avoided. Unfortunately, grief is often experienced when you have pets as it is highly likely that you’ll outlive them, but it is never easy when the time comes.”
Good article on pet loss grief and how tears can be so easy for the loss of a pet. Some even have an easier time grieving for a pet than some humans. This is easy to understand because many pets are so pure and innocent.
The article, Tears for pets often easier than for humans, by Alex Lo states
“The queen has mourned every one of her corgis over the years, but she has been more upset about Willow’s death than any of them,” a Buckingham Palace staff member was quoted as saying.
I don’t mean to be callous. The fact is that people can be more emotionally attached to their pets than close relatives.”