In a breakup, many secondary losses occur. One secondary loss that is not considered is the loss of a pet in a divorce or breakup. Not seeing a pet is one loss that can occur. This can lead to a loss that sometimes is overlooked by society.
In breakups and divorce this type of loss is all too common and the state, like with children, does not grant shared custody of a pet, even if we wish to consider our pet equal to a human. Ultimately, many bitter breakups use children and also pets as ways to punish the other when in reality you are only punishing the child or the pet.
The article,”LOSING A PET IN A BREAKUP IS THE HARDEST PART OF SPLITTING NO ONE TALKS ABOUT—HERE ARE TIPS TO DEAL” by Rachel Lapida states,
“I remember the day we got her: Penny was a tiny chocolate ball of a puppy who already knew how to fetch and she could sleep in the bed with her human parents. I lived with my boyfriend and we raised her together before adding another puppy, Zelda, to our household a year later. I loved all three of my roommates so much—until my boyfriend and I broke up and he took the dogs. And that’s why I have to write about them in past tense. They’re still alive, but not in my life.”
Please also review our Pet Loss Grief Counseling program to learn more. The program is online and independent study that is open to qualified professionals looking for certification in Pet Loss Grief Counseling.
Good article on dealing with the loss of a pet, in particular a cat, and how to determine when it is the right time to find a new cat. Obviously not a cat to replace the lost cat, but one to share your love with for the next years.
The article, “How Long After Your Cat Dies Should You Wait Before Getting a New Cat?” by Kellie B. Gormly states,
“Losing a cat is devastating for a household’s humans and other pets. While no cat can replace another beloved cat — each pet, like each person, is unique — hopefully, you will open your heart and home to a new cat at some point. But how long after your cat dies should you get a new cat, and what can you do to make a successful match?”
Good article how vets can help relieve the pain and sting of losing a beloved pet. Pet loss grief counseling can help others overcome grief as well but its important to start with the vet and the initial loss.
The article, “Veterinarians can help ease the pain of losing a pet, says researcher”, by Kate Bueckert states,
“Anyone who has had to put down a pet knows it can be a gut-wrenching experience.
Many veterinarian officers offer a support system to their clients – they work to give the grieving pet owner as much help as needed.”
Losing a pet is painful. The process of caring for a dying pet can take an emotional toll as one awaits the inevitable. It is truly sad to see an older pet not be himself and then have to come to the ultimate decision of letting go.
The article, “For Veterinarians, Caring For Sick Pets And Grieving Owners Takes A Toll”, by Kasia Galazka states
“When I walked dogs at a Chicago animal shelter, I wondered how each one got there. Whether a stitched-up pup shirked from my touch or happily greeted me tongue-first, my eyes would well up with salt. I wanted to keep them all.”
These are real issues faced by real people. The problem is these issues are not considered real by society. Losing a pet devistates people and if time off is needed, then so be it. Coping over an loss of a loved one is a horrible ordeal, whether fury or not.
This is a horrifying nightmare for pet owners. Most of us have experienced it. I have with my Siberian Huskies and it puts a pit in your stomach.
The anticipatory grief, the imaginary scenarios all dance in our minds. It can be sometimes an unresolved issue.
I recall, one time we actually found a stray Siberian Husky and as Husky people took him in. We put out ads, notified individuals in the community yet he was never picked up by an owner. I cannot imagine the pain of the owner, but the husky who recently passed lived a happy 6 years with us, his new family. This is best scenario we can dream of when we lose a pet, but the scary dreams are always there
Pet Loss Grief Counseling is beneficial for many who lose a pet or especially a dog. Dogs are family and companions to many and the loss stings as bad as if a relative died. This is a real and sincere grief for many pet owners.
If you would like to learn more than please review our grief counseling program