The loss of a pet is a big loss. For years and years, people downgraded this loss and acted as if it was just a pet. People were told they are over reacting over a loss of a pet. Now, society is seeing such losses as big losses to individuals. Pets are like family and the bonds of love are just as strong. With such discussions, some ask if pet bereavement time is needed from employment. Should employers give an employee time away from work to properly grieve?
The article, “Can You Take An Extended Period Off Work After Your Pet Dies?” by Rebecca Reid looks closer at this. She states,
“Mixed in with the sympathetic responses to Lorde’s loss were the voices of those who found her raw misery unpalatable, because it was felt for a pet, not a person. But grief is a strange, complicated thing. It’s entirely possible to feel nothing when someone who you ‘should’ feel sad about dies, and a huge amount at the loss of someone strange”
When our dogs are sad, we are sad. Dogs are family and when a dog is not feeling well or is grieving the loss of another person or pet, then we naturally want to comfort our dog. Dogs display emotion and sadness in different ways and we need to identify that grief and also be able to spark joy into their lives again.
The article, “How to help a dog who is grieving the loss of a loved one” by Lisa Walden states,
“Dogs experiencing a loss can show signs of confusion, fear or depression. If it’s the loss of their owner, you may notice dogs trying to figure out where that person has gone. If it’s another pet who has passed away, your dog may spend more time in their bed or favorite places, often with the hope that their friend may return.”
Losing a pet is not a minor thing in life. A cat, dog, or horse is a long term companion. To some, the pet is even family. Learning to live without the pet is something harder to do than other people may imagine.
The article, “4 Things I Learned About Grief After My Dog Died” by Deanna Adams discusses the pains of losing a dog. She states,
“Sometimes the death of a beloved pet comes suddenly and sometimes it’s expected. It can be tragic, traumatic and devastating. The loss is keenly felt and lives often change abruptly. Many of us consider our pets to be family, not “just a dog,” or “just a cat.” The death of a pet can hurt as much as the loss of a relative for some people”
In a breakup, many secondary losses occur. One secondary loss that is not considered is the loss of a pet in a divorce or breakup. Not seeing a pet is one loss that can occur. This can lead to a loss that sometimes is overlooked by society.
In breakups and divorce this type of loss is all too common and the state, like with children, does not grant shared custody of a pet, even if we wish to consider our pet equal to a human. Ultimately, many bitter breakups use children and also pets as ways to punish the other when in reality you are only punishing the child or the pet.
The article,”LOSING A PET IN A BREAKUP IS THE HARDEST PART OF SPLITTING NO ONE TALKS ABOUT—HERE ARE TIPS TO DEAL” by Rachel Lapida states,
“I remember the day we got her: Penny was a tiny chocolate ball of a puppy who already knew how to fetch and she could sleep in the bed with her human parents. I lived with my boyfriend and we raised her together before adding another puppy, Zelda, to our household a year later. I loved all three of my roommates so much—until my boyfriend and I broke up and he took the dogs. And that’s why I have to write about them in past tense. They’re still alive, but not in my life.”
Please also review our Pet Loss Grief Counseling program to learn more. The program is online and independent study that is open to qualified professionals looking for certification in Pet Loss Grief Counseling.
Good article on dealing with the loss of a pet, in particular a cat, and how to determine when it is the right time to find a new cat. Obviously not a cat to replace the lost cat, but one to share your love with for the next years.
The article, “How Long After Your Cat Dies Should You Wait Before Getting a New Cat?” by Kellie B. Gormly states,
“Losing a cat is devastating for a household’s humans and other pets. While no cat can replace another beloved cat — each pet, like each person, is unique — hopefully, you will open your heart and home to a new cat at some point. But how long after your cat dies should you get a new cat, and what can you do to make a successful match?”
Good article how vets can help relieve the pain and sting of losing a beloved pet. Pet loss grief counseling can help others overcome grief as well but its important to start with the vet and the initial loss.
The article, “Veterinarians can help ease the pain of losing a pet, says researcher”, by Kate Bueckert states,
“Anyone who has had to put down a pet knows it can be a gut-wrenching experience.
Many veterinarian officers offer a support system to their clients – they work to give the grieving pet owner as much help as needed.”
Losing a pet is painful. The process of caring for a dying pet can take an emotional toll as one awaits the inevitable. It is truly sad to see an older pet not be himself and then have to come to the ultimate decision of letting go.
The article, “For Veterinarians, Caring For Sick Pets And Grieving Owners Takes A Toll”, by Kasia Galazka states
“When I walked dogs at a Chicago animal shelter, I wondered how each one got there. Whether a stitched-up pup shirked from my touch or happily greeted me tongue-first, my eyes would well up with salt. I wanted to keep them all.”
These are real issues faced by real people. The problem is these issues are not considered real by society. Losing a pet devistates people and if time off is needed, then so be it. Coping over an loss of a loved one is a horrible ordeal, whether fury or not.