Many mental maladies deal with personality. Anti-Social Personalities deal with individuals whose consciences and sense of right or wrong are completely muddied and confused. Other personality disorders deal with emotional states and an inability to control anxiety or sadness. Perhaps the most crippling form of mental illness is Schizophrenia. In the case of Schizophrenia, individuals experience psychosis and an inability to decipher true reality and their own delusions. This type of disorder is classified as psychotic due to its irrational and distorted perceptions from reality (Myers and Dewall. 2019, p. 522).
Schizophrenia is a psychotic disorder that creates delusions within the brain confusing one from reality and fantasy
Schizophrenia can be chronic and long term or acute. Acute is far easier to recover from while chronic is a life long struggle. Most chronic cases are usually genetic and tied to abnormal brain structure and development within the frontal lobes which aid individuals with reason, planning and problem solving skills (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 524). Brain waves and activity also are irregular within Schizophrenic individuals. When attempting to filter incoming sensory information, the Thalamus becomes ultra active, as well the Amygdala during emotional distress. In addition, experts have noticed thinning in the Cerebral Cortex as a sign of Schizophrenia (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 525). Hence irregular brain waves, less developed portions of the brain and fewer neural connections can all correspond with Schizophrenia. In addition, studies show Dopamine, a neurotransmitter, is overactive in Schizophrenic individuals (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 524). This neurotransmitter can intensify brain signals that can lead to hallucinations and paranoia.
Those stricken with Schizophrenia display symptoms that are either positive or negative. In positive instances, inappropriate behaviors are present, while in negative instances, appropriate behaviors are lacking. Examples of inappropriate behaviors include disorganized speech, abrupt laughter, sadness or rage, while negative symptoms include absence of emotion and lack of expression (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 523).
One of the primary symptoms is delusion or the “false belief of persecution or grandeur” (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 523). Many individuals with Schizophrenia are paranoid and fearful. They believe they are being followed or threatened. Some may also hear voices or weird commands. There is also an overall disorganized thinking where selective attention that usually is filtered out by the brain is amplified. Tiny unrelated stimuli can distract one with Schizophrenia such as a tiny crack in the ground or something far down the road (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 523). Stemming from this can emerge disorganized speech. Disorganized speech can include multiple ideas smashed together into an odd word salad that makes no sense. The Schizophrenic will jump from idea to idea with no logical connection or coherence.
The distress of Schizophrenia also impairs emotional expressions. Some with Schizophrenia will exhibit motionless behavior, while others may exhibit continual movement or rubbing or rocking of the body. In addition, some may display no emotion, while others may laugh or become angry. Due to impaired theory of mind, they also have extreme difficulty reading facial expressions (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 523). With these immense issues, those with Schizophrenia are very unpredictable and from an untrained person, may become very scary. In fact, in the medieval ages, many were thought to be possessed.
Schizophrenics require anti-psychotics and cognitive therapies to help them better cope with their false sense of reality
Fortunately, only 1 in 100 are afflicted with Schizophrenia which totals roughly 21 millions people (Myers and Dewall, 2019, p. 524). Many are medicated, counseled or closely monitored. Most are not a threat to others but there can be cases when they can become a threat to society when violent voices tell them to do harmful things or when their own delusions lead them into unsafe situations.
Another type of psychotic disorder is Dissociative Identity Disorder. Formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. This disorder is also psychotic in nature and stems from the creation of a new identity. Most cases stem from a traumatic event that pushes the individual to forget the trauma by creating a new identity. There is still much research to be done in this field but it is separate and different than Schizophrenia.
Those who suffer from Schizophrenia cannot exist without medical and professional help. They are a threat primarily to their own safety without proper treatment and medication. For most, it is a life long cross of trying to distinguish reality from delusion. Obviously, only licensed therapists can treat and care for Schizophrenics and it falls far out of the levels of competence of mere pastoral counselors. If a pastoral counselor and one suspects Schizophrenia, it is important to help the person find the professional counseling and assistance the person’s needs.
As Pastoral Counselors, one can see the suffering such delusions can bring to a person. As Christian Counselors, one can see the steep price of sin and how disease both physical and mental are a result of that sin. These individuals while odd and offbeat nevertheless are children of God and deserve compassion and respect in treatment and care. They deserve patience and love. If a loved one is suffering from this, it can be very painful to witness. One needs to not argue with the delusions but patiently walk one through it. Staying connected with the person and not becoming agitated is key to keeping the person calm. If on the other side, one is experiencing these symptoms it is crucial to find the help that is needed and to avoid drugs and drinking that will only make the delusions worse.
While there is no cure, some treatments can alleviate the issue. Most treatment involves anti-psychotic medications and also Behavioral Cognitive Therapies. Some therapies also include Electroconvulsive Therapy which includes while sedated, electric impulse shocks to improve brain activity.
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References
“Exploring Psychology” 11th Edition. Myers, D & Dewall, N. (2019). Worth Publishers: Macmillan Learning, New York.
Additional Resources
“Schizophrenia” Mayo Clinic Staff. (2020). Mayo Clinic. Access here
“Schizophrenia”. Cleveland Clinic. (2023). Cleveland Clinic. Access here
“Schizophrenia: An Overview”. WebMed Editors. (2022). WebMed. Access here
“What is Schizophrenia?”. APA. (2020). Access here
Humanity in the fallen world has numerous needs to maintain existence. Among the most basic needs are food and water. Instinctively within human nature is a drive for to satisfy hunger and thirst, as well as drives to reproduce. These are natural evolutionary forces that push the human person to exist and perpetuate the species. In Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Maslow lists basic needs of existence as the base of all needs. Following these needs are needs of safety and shelter. Beyond that is a more complex social need of belonging and love. Following this basic social need, is a mental need to perform and succeed in certain areas and talents that help manifest self esteem. Still even beyond those accomplishments, there needs to be a self actualization of self that recognizes one has met one’s fullest potential. Finally, after all these physical, social and mental accomplishments, one needs to find an existential or spiritual idea of meaning and tie that meaning into one’s life (Myers & Dewall, 2019, p. 351). Hence humanity has many needs to find completeness . Obviously in this search and motivation, the only fulfilling source of happiness is God. God is the ultimate source of happiness that can never be taken or stolen but promises infinite and eternal happiness that meets every human need.
Human needs start at the most basic and proceed to higher abstract needs. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Program
Humanity still nonetheless experiences needs in the fallen world that fall short of the perfect End which is God. Throughout life, there are a multitude of illusionary goods that can distract the person from the true good. In psychological studies, the person is driven by motivation. Motivation is defined as “need or desire that energizes and directs behavior” (Myers & Dewall. 2019, p. 349). In addition to genetic and evolutionary drives, one is also driven to certain goods via an arousal of the psychological state that looks to decrease that desire through obtaining or fulfilling it. This is referred to as Drive-Reduction Theory (Myers and Dewall. 2019, p. 349).
In addition to drive, human nature is also guided by arousal. Some motivated behaviors increase arousal instead of decrease it (Myers and Dewall. 2019, p. 349). The Yerkes-Dodson Law points out that optimal performance exists when moderate arousal is present (Myers and Dewall. 2019, p. 350). Hence certain levels of arousal can be detrimental to overall human performance when not properly moderated.
Morality and Human Needs
These Psychological concepts help explain many of the inner workings of why a person is motivated to certain a good or need, but Moral Theology completes the story through spiritual explanation of the inner moving of the intellect and will. In Thomistic Philosophy, the soul is comprised of the intellect and will. The intellect processes information from the senses and is guided by the conscience in judgement. The will is the motivational force behind human decisions. Like in Psychology, the will seeks needs and ascertains the good of each need. Due to humanity’s fallen nature, sometimes this decision can be in contradiction to true moral good and the conscience.
St Thomas Aquinas refers to two types of human appetites within the will. The two he lists are the Concupiscible Appetite and the Irascible Appetite ( Aquinas. Summae Theologica). The Concupiscible Appetite’s formal object is a sensible good or evil, which is easily obtained while the Irascible Appetite’s formal object is a more abstract good which is arduous or difficult to obtain ( Aquinas. Summa Theologica). In regards to the Concupiscible Appetite, it is attracted to passions and emotions such as love or hate, desire or aversion, or joy and sorrow in regards to the sensible object (Aquinas. Summae Theologica). In regards to the Irascible Appetite, it deals with things that are difficult to attain and attached to emotions such as hope or despair, fear or daring, or anger (Aquinas. Summae Theologica). In essence, the Concupiscible Appetite deals with direct objects or sensible objects, while the Irascible Appetite deals with more abstract objects. In addition, the will interprets direct objects of the Concupiscible Appetite as they appear good or evil, while the Irascible Appetite is directed towards goods as they present themselves as something good or evil that might be difficult to achieve (Aquinas. Summae Theologica).
Certain emotions are within the range of the Concupiscible Appetite while others fall into the Irascible Appetite
Hence emotion plays a large role in one’s appetites and how one is pushed towards or pulled away from an object. According to Myers and Dewall, emotion itself is the response of the whole organism from physiological arousal, expressive behaviors and conscious experience (2019, p. 369). Within the list of emotions, many scientists differ what are the core base emotions, but most concede that anger, fear, disgust, sadness and happiness are the basic human emotions (Myers and Dewall. 2019, p.369). Others also include interest, shame, guilt, as well as pride and love (Myers and Dewall. 2019, p. 369).
Ultimately, in Moral Theology, humanity’s broken nature due to Original Sin, prevents one from controlling one’s passions and emotions. The control our first father, Adam, experienced in the Garden has been corrupted and his descendants experience an ability to control emotion. This can be seen in the Amygdala. When emotional situations are perceived they can travel two ways. In the case of fear, the stimuli can travel the high road through Thalamus and Cortex which later proceeds through the Amygdala with a thought out emotional response, or it can take the faster low road with involves less thought since it is first processed through Amygdala (Myers and Dewall. 2019, p. 370). This leads to emotional outbursts and reactions.
One can see loss of control in many individuals. Whether utter fear, anger, or lust, one can lose control. The Holy Spirit gives humanity four cardinal virtues to help regulate the moral life. Among one of the most important related to emotional control is Temperance. Temperance helps curb emotional desires in moderation. Christians need to pray to the Holy Spirit and help cultivate this virtue in their daily moral life to better curb the Concupiscible Appetite’s desires and direct all deeds to the greater honor and glory of God. Furthermore, when Temperance is tied with the moral virtue of Prudence one can better discern good and evil within the Irascible Appetite’s abstract desires.
Conclusion
To lead a better moral life, one must understand that humanity is broken via Original Sin. While Psychology can give some explanations how these broken processes still operate, it is imperative that Christians take responsibility for their actions. While culpability can be lessened due to emotional outburst, it does not remove consequences or total culpability. One must constantly look to control their emotional actions and desires with direct and indirect objects. This involves prayer, fasting and denial. It involves following the example of Christ who taught temperance and moderation, as well as prayer to the Holy Spirit to supply the necessary graces to overcome one’s fallen nature on Earth.
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References
“Exploring Psychology”. Myers and Dewall. (2019). Worth Publishers: Macmillan Learning, New York. 11th Ed.
“The Summa Theologiæ of St. Thomas Aquinas”. Second and Revised Edition, 1920. Online: New Advent. Access here
Additional Resources
“Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs”. Cherry, K. (2022). VeryWellMind. Access here
“Emotions”. Psychology Today Staff. Psychology Today. Access here
“The 6 Types of Basic Emotions and Their Effect on Human Behavior”. Cherry, K. (2022). VeryWellMind. Access here
Christian Meditation looks to bring us closer to God. Usually this entails reflecting on the past in Scripture and pursuing dialogue in the present with God. Echo Meditation is about reflection and communication with God but it sees time from a different perspective. Since God is eternal, it incorporates prayer for not only those now but also for those in the past and future. It also allows for a particular echo in time with the Christ while He was on Earth. Since Christ is divine, He can hear our prayers as He is now, will be and was while on Earth. This gives the Christian through Echo Meditation the ability to conversate with Christ, console Christ and walk with Christ during His difficult life. It is a devotion of service and discipleship to Christ.
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One can speak with Christ when He was alone and enter into His thoughts. One can stay with Him in the Garden. One can console Him when He is mocked. It is a beautiful way to be there for His human nature and life since His divine nature is a beacon that transcends time. In many ways, it is time travel with God
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Moral Theology has a meeting point in understanding immoral human behavior with Psychology. Since Psychology studies human actions and attempts to understand it, Psychology can hence play a role in understanding subjective and circumstantial aspects of a human moral action. Any action in Moral Theology is deemed just or unjust according to criteria. The action itself is considered objectively good or immoral. Theft is an objectively disordered and immoral action. It stands against the Natural Law as something humans can know as inherently wrong due to the ideal of personal property and space. The Divine Positive Law reinforces the evil objective disorder of theft through the 7th Commandment of “Thou Shall not Steal”.
In addition to the action, the subjective nature of the agent who commits the act receives analysis in Moral Theology. The agent’s culpability can be lessened or increased based on his or her knowledge of the action itself. Hence a person who may commit an immoral act out of ignorance, while still committing an immoral act, is less culpable before the eyes of God. Finally, the circumstances can reduce culpability as well. If a person steals food due to starvation, then the action and culpability is decreased as opposed to a person who steals from a struggling family or commits a bank robbery. Hence, while subjective and circumstantial elements can never objectively change the nature of an action, it can increase or decrease culpability afforded to the agent.
Psychology offers Theology great insights into the subjective element of the human agent during a moral act
Psychology offers particular insight into the subjective element. In Moral Theology, the agent is the human person. Focus is placed on the human being, as the soul and body. The soul is comprised of the intellect and the will. Due to Original Sin, the mind and passions are not in harmony and this creates discord within the ability to choose morally and control one’s impulses. Moral Theology looks at how vice and virtue clash within the human soul and how habitual vice can rot the soul. Psychology looks at the manifestations of the soul through the brain and how the human agent responds to situations. Psychology reviews how neurons and neuron transmitters can affect moods and where primal reactions exist within the brain. It analyzes how the body produces various hormones which can also negatively affect moral decisions.
Stanly Milgram’s Experiments
Social Psychology extends beyond the subjective agent but also to circumstances as well. Social Psychology looks how learned human behavior and social pressures can play a role in human decision making. One of the most interesting experiments and studies surrounding this involved Stanley Milgram’s obedience experiments. At times controversial, these experiments would look at the role of authority upon individual immoral decisions.
The experiments were simple in design. An individual in a separate room, known as the “teacher” would hold access to a button that would send an electric shock to a person in a different room who was known as the “student”. Whenever the “student” missed a question, the “teacher” would be instructed to send a shock wave to the “student”. As missed questions accumulated, the voltage would increase till the point one could hear cries coming from the “student” in another room. Authority figures in charge of the study would instruct the “teacher” to nevertheless continue to impose shocks despite the cries.
Behind the reality of it, there never was a “student” but only a staff member mimicking pain. The experiment wished to see how far individuals would proceed with an immoral instruction from an authority figure despite one’s own moral convictions. Surprisingly, the experiment showed, 60 percent of the individuals continued supplying electric shock to the “student”. Obviously, this brings one to sharp conclusions regarding the morality and role of Nazi soldiers and guards during the Holocaust. What moral culpability did they hold? How powerful is the source of authority in making an immoral decision to potentially kill?
The experiment showed that depersonalizing the other human being played a large role easing the conscience of the “teacher”. Out of sight and out of mind played a big role in reducing the anxiety for some in pressing the button. This shows it is far easier for human evil to exist when the agent is further away from the sight itself. Also, the experiment showed, that when the authority figure was present, it made it easier for the “teacher” to proceed with his or her duty in delegating shock to the other person.
Moral Culpability and Cognitive Dissonance
Another principle at play in in this study was “Foot-In-The-Door Phenomenon” which teaches that agents if coaxed into agreeing to neutral or smaller tasks will later comply with larger requests. In the Milgram experiments, the “teacher” was asked to at first simply supply a mild shock. As the experiment progressed, the orders become more severe. In hindsight, Nazi soldiers may had been told at first to collect Jews and bring them to the camps. Later, they would be asked to inhumanely treat them, leading to finally the order to execute them.
So how far does culpability exist? In Moral Theology, hurting another person willfully is a objective immoral act, but does circumstance and subjective qualities lessen culpability for the agent physically committing the offense? As in criminal law, there are always more culpable agents. God’s moral law which is infinitely just and omniscient definitely understand this. Hence, for some agents, culpability is lessened more than others depending on their knowledge. Obviously, those who proclaim moral law over tyranny and die for it are the best humanity has to offer. Christian martyrs who rejected the law and orders of Caesar for the love of Christ are examples that a strong conscience can overcome any psychological manipulation but many individuals fall between the cracks.
Cognitive Dissonance helps individuals justify actions that defy their moral belief system
Moral culpability like waves pulsate from the epi-center of the immoral act. The doctor who performs an abortion is explicit in his or her role in murder. This direct action holds the doctor to the highest culpability. The individual who supplies anesthesia to the pregnant woman for the abortion, plays a less direct role but still a fundamental part in the intent to kill the child in the womb. The receptionist at the abortion clinic, the janitor who cleans the clinic and the guard who holds back the protestors at the clinic all play roles to some extent. Some may even not necessarily believe abortion is moral but concede to the opportunity of employment or the excuse it is not one’s business. Likewise, Nazi guards who shot Jews, were merely the instruments. The orders from superiors all played equally if not greater moral culpability, but does the solider who guarded the concentration camp also hold some culpability?
The human conscience is supposed to irk the soul when it commits a sin. A good conscience will not allow one to sleep. In Moral Theology, a sound and good conscience is in correlation with the God’s law and will. Those with erroneous consciences or other types of improperly formed consciences will fall victim more easily to immoral authority commands. Yet, due to fear, or psychological manipulation, individuals with consciences will still try to make sense of their apparent paradoxical behavior. In Psychology, when a person attempts to balance his or her own belief with inappropriate actions, the person engages in Cognitive Dissonance. The agent may try to justify one’s actions to try to ease the conscience. In the case of the Holocaust, some soldiers may had justified the action as the reality of war, or believed in the dehumanization of the Jewish people as traitors to the Germany. With the abortion clinic example, the receptionist may conclude that it is not my business and not my body, or may attempt to dehumanize the child within the womb to a mere clump of unconscious cells. The guard outside the clinic or janitor may conclude that this job puts food on the table and his family needs the money.
It is truly a scary reality. Evil times can very easily bring out the worst of the worst but also sheepishly lobotomize the conscience of anyone with moral beliefs but no backbone or spine to defend what needs defended.
Peer Pressure
Human beings look to belong. They seek to find conformity within their species. Non conformity in the prehistoric times, meant isolation and death. It is a naturally wired thing for human beings to try to belong to groups. What happens when larger groups challenge the moral belief of an individual? In Moral Theology, it is the duty of the Christian to proclaim the Gospel despite social persecution. Christ, Himself, lamented that if the world rejects you, know it has rejected Me first. With such a warning, it should be obvious for Christians to realize that Christian beliefs and moral teachings will be at odds with the lies of the world.
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However, there is still again the peer pressure of the world and one’s desire to conform to groups that are internally at war with the Christian conscience. Psychology again has some explanations regarding moral behavior. Solomon Asch provided some insight through his experiments on groups of three or more regarding the need to conform to a social group. In his study, individuals would be asked certain questions and a high percentage would answer correctly, but when put into a larger group, he noticed that when a controlled infiltrator purposely answered wrong, and this continued, it would play a role in others being wary to answer correctly. This experiment showed the power of a group presence to alter. It also shows the power of today’s politically charged world how powerful and dangerous gas lighting can be in public campaigns. The experiment also emphasized that when individuals feel different, or incompetent, or insecure, they are more likely to side with the majority.
Another example of conformity to immoral ideals based on social majority exists in both Psychology and Moral Theology. In Moral Theology, the occasion of sin refers to when one openly encounters sinful material that can negatively influence a person. These occasions can be persons, places or things. As with most situations, corruption usually weakens the whole. This is also a concept in Psychology under the term “Social Contagion”. In Psychology, it can also be a good force, but what it does point to is that individuals like to take upon the emotional tones of the surrounding company. If a group is more subject to foul language, does it cause discomfort, or does it push one to maybe swear more? If a group is drinking and smoking, is one more inclined to maybe just have one beer to fit in?
One interesting theory is “Group Polarization”. If like minded Christians come together in a moral discussion, the increase and enhancement of the moral topic will become more powerful. If condemning abortion, it will become more strong as the conversation occurs. Conversely, if like minded individuals with various prejudices come together, they may leave the conversation with far more prejudice than started. Again, for good or bad, this points to the power of peer and social groups in enhancing the need to conform.
Aggression and Harm
While Moral Theology teaches an objective action, such as “Thou Shall not Murder” and other ideals of not harming others as imperative and uncompromising, it still understand the subjective elements. Ideas such as self defense, or just war theory can come to mind. However, Psychology has given great insight to why certain individuals act aggressively from a neurological, genetic, biochemical and behavioral perspectives.
It has been scientifically proven that the Amygdala is a center for human emotion. It has also been noted during Fight or Flight, the Hypothalamus ignites the Pituitary Gland to infuse the body with hormones to prepare the body for stress and conflict. Furthermore, in more aggressive persons, it has been shown that under-developed frontal lobes, or even damage to them play a key role in aggressive behavior. From this, one can clearly notate a body-mind connection in behavior.
While aggression is objectively wrong, Psychology gives clues as to the subjective nature of the agent and why he/she becomes angry and aggressive
Unfortunately, due to Original Sin, the soul lost the ability to control the passions. Psychology illustrates how this lost of the passions operates in the mind and brain. It shows how neurotransmitters can alter behaviors due to less serotonin or dopamine, it illustrates how hormones can make one more aggressive at a given time, and it also demonstrates how even within the genetic code, some may be more aligned with anger.
Does this give one a free pass to commit immoral actions? The moral action will always remain immoral, but culpability is another story. For most, frustration, or low blood sugar can make one feel more irritable and can explain the urge to yell or be impatient or wish to push someone, but it does not justify. Albeit, one cannot control these elements of the body, as Pre-Fall Adam, one is still called to control one’s passions. It may offer an explanation, but it is not a free pass to be a nasty person. In this, one can marvel at the kindness and love Christ showed and in the lives of the saints. Virtue and good behavior can help balance one’s fallen passions to anger.
One must remember, humanity’s fallen nature and the inner inclinations are not sins but are natural impulses, but through the grace of the Holy Spirit, one is given the ability to better control these broken emotional systems.
The Need to Do Good
Humanity is created in the image and likeness of God. While the Fall of Adam damaged human nature, it did not destroy it. Humanity lost access to its great intellect and the super abilities of the brain, it lost control of emotions, and become subject to disease and death, but the inherent nature of humanity itself was still preserved. Humans still exist with a body and a soul that is made in the image and likeness of God. The will is hence enticed for good. Even when the corrupted will does wrong, it still perceives some sort of good, albeit selfish motives. Still, the will works with the intellect of the soul for the ultimate good of itself. Human beings are conceived and born good.
Psychology also notates the impulse to do good. With conformity and social bonds, the need to cooperate for the mere purpose of existence is programmed in humanity’s evolutionary genes. While good actions are produced through the grace of the Holy Spirit, the human species is also naturally looking to foster relationships and help others in distress. A few concepts illustrate the better side of humanity. In “Social Exchange Theory” , social behavior is seen as a trading of services where the goal is to maximize benefit and minimize discomfort to others. There is a “Reciprocity of Norm” concept that others will help those who help instead of hurt and that there is an innate “Social Responsibility Norm” that others will help those in need.
Since humanity is made in God’s image, there is an inclination to be good.
James Stuart Mills noted that human beings help others and perform good moral actions because it maximizes the overall benefit of humanity. It ultimately benefits the whole. This concept is known as Utilitarianism. In addition, one can see these concepts of helping others found in the most basic concept of the “Golden Rule”.
Teaching children to be good and kind is key at a young age. It is important to curb selfish egos and harmful behaviors. From a Psychological standpoint, this is a good idea for continuation of the species and maximization for human potential. When anti-social disorders erupt, under the guise of Narcissism and other more serious elements of Sociopathy emerge, then the concept of the Social Contract itself can collapse.
From a Naturalistic standpoint, it is hence self fulfilling to promote kindness and goodness. Even the atheist can contest the need for social harmony through human made laws but Christianity and Moral Theology demands more.
One does not merely perform morally neutral acts to promote unity and productivity but these act carry objective and inherent good, not just for its consequences but also because it is right and just and good before the Lord. The love of God is communicated through good and moral actions. The communal wholeness is not the aim but the consequence of worshipping and loving God and neighbor. There reward and beauty of kindness and good action is in itself a deep love for God Himself. In this way, Psychology is limited in understanding the greater depth that good action has beyond the empirical visible elements of social stability.
Conclusion
While Psychology helps one understand the physiology of how the soul, brain and body work together and how the fallen human nature operates, it is Theology, the first study, that fully explains the nature of good and evil and the objective nature of a human act. Psychology is a necessary aid in helping understand the subjective agent in human action, but it does not have the authority to objectively define good and evil in its most primitive forms.
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Christian Counselors need to possess a strong understanding when giving spiritual direction to others regarding morality in these aspects. Christian Counselors can benefit greatly through the study of Psychology in understanding the subjective inner workings that play key roles in the human action. Since, spiritual advisors, pastoral directors and clergy help souls through moral decisions, it is important that they not only understand the spiritual aspect but also the mental and physical elements taking place that hold great weight in the subjective agent and ultimate culpability.
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Borderline Personality Disorder is a type of disorder that makes it difficult for individuals to have a stable mood. They can shift from happy to sad or angry very quickly. It usually manifests in the 20s. The dramatic mood shifts differ from bi-polar in that they can alter within minutes, hours or days unlike bi polar which has phases of depression and mania. This type of disorder can be very difficult for relationships due to the unpredictable nature of the person. It is hence critical to diagnose, understand and treat with proper mood stabilizing medications.
Other than professional treatment, those with Borderline Personality Order need to know the healing power of Jesus Christ.
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Atheistic guided neuroscience has proudly proclaimed the death of the soul with advances of understanding how the brain operates and functions. As DJ Dobbins in his article, “Does the Soul Exist” proclaimed, “There is nothing left for the soul to do (Dobbins, 2013)”. It would seem with every emotion, abstract thought and “spiritual” function mapped out throughout the brain that the soul itself is an antiquated ideal.
What is the boundary between brain and soul? Is there one? Are they separate, integrated or merely a physical phenomenon.
Take into consideration the brain itself. Within the amygdala, various emotional reactions related to fear and anger are monitored and controlled. Within the hypothalamus, stress response triggers tied closely to pituitary gland are regulated giving the body its ability of fight or flight. Within memory itself, the hippocampus creates and stores memory through a flash work of neurons and neurotransmitters creating a pattern of responses that correlate to abstract memory itself. Upon the cerebral cortex, exist various lobes of the cortex that regulate further emotions, inhibitions, understanding, consciousness, memory and language. Furthermore, neurotransmitters such as serotonin and dopamine can greatly alter emotional moods based on excess or less amounts. What one is left with is an astounding explanation of many metaphysical attributes once solely thought as free of matter and scientific observation. The intellect and the will, the hall mark classic identifiers of the soul, are left with material explanations that live and die with the functioning of the brain itself.
In fact, all moral behavior can be explained by brain function. How can one sin or bear responsibility for damaged frontal lobes, mood disorders, or chemical reactions that affect thought and moral decisions.
Also, consider this. If part of the brain is damaged, one can lose important information of one’s life. Amnesia and dementia and physical injuries to the brain can alter identity and self through theft of oneself. If part of one’s brain is altered, taken, or injured, personality and behavior can be greatly altered. If the left and right hemisphere of the brain is divided, there can become two autonomous actions independent of each other. So is the idea of the soul merely a mechanical action that exists and dies with the brain’s activity?
Reactions in defense of the soul
Dualism is the most common reaction to the atheistic neuroscience. Dualistic ideals teach that the brain and soul operate simultaneously. Rene’ Descartes believed that both the brain and soul operated in parallel of each other. He properly dictated that something spiritual cannot be spiritual divided unlike the brain and hence the soul operates at a independent level. Opponents point out that a dual consciousness can arise when the hemispheres of the brain are split. What does this say of the soul they contend?
Others point out that the soul communicates through the brain. The fullness of the soul exists independent of the brain but is manifested in the brain. Of course, this is theological discourse, not scientific observation.
What type of soul?
When incorporating dualism it is important to understand one’s own definition of the soul. Ideas of the soul and its connection with the body differ from traditions. From a philosophical Platonic school of thought, the body is a temporal vessel of the soul. In Buddhism and Hinduism, the soul travels from different material bodies through reincarnation. In these religious and philosophical traditions, the importance of the body is regulated to a shell. Hence once the soul escapes the body, what explains its consciousness if the body was just a shell but yet still produced such spiritual activity within its own very functioning?
The soul and the brain are intimately connected in Christian theology. Human nature is both body and soul
It is important in Christian Counseling to understand the human nature.
In Christian theology, the body and soul are inseparable . Before the fall of Adam, the body and soul communicated perfectly. Adam’s control of his passions and great intellect all pointed towards a body that worked perfectly with the soul in regards to balance of emotion. Hence Adam’s brain operated at full capacity without defect. Adam’s endocrine system did not create chemical imbalances. His neurotransmitters did not create imbalances of serotonin or dopamine to create mood disorders. In essence, his body was in complete harmony with his soul.
His soul in fact was never created prior to his body. Unlike Platonic ideas of the soul, Christian theology teaches that the soul and the body were made for each other. Hence the intricacies of the brain operating and the soul operating are in many instances one mind. The fact that metaphysical realties would manifest within matter are no surprise. The brain, like an interpreter, is able to process abstract spiritual concepts and physically manifest them. The partnership of the brain and soul is so intense that it is not truly even dualistic. They were never intended to be separated.
It was the sin and fall of humanity that caused death. Death, from a Christian standpoint, is an unnatural event. It is the tearing of the soul from the body. It is the cost of sin itself.
With the death of the broken body due to sin and its displaced spiritual component, one pays the price for the sin of Adam. One’s entire life has been a struggle until that moment of death. The body does not respond to the intellect and will perfectly, the body breaks down, the soul is open to passionate and uncontrolled inclinations. Due to this temporal dysfunction within the the fallen world, death arrives.
A purely dualistic system of thought sees the soul as an independent rider of the bike that can be cast off the bike at death to exist independently, but the Christian system views the bike and its rider as one system. While the consciousness absorbed through temporal life exists beyond the death, it is through God that it incompletely still exists awaiting judgement and the return of the body. While the temporal connection was broken, one’s human nature was not completely corrupted on earth and still yearns the perfect reunion. The body and soul were made for each other.
Christ’s Resurrection
Christ is the New Adam and hence it is only fitting through His resurrection, His Body was a glorified Body. Christ was already perfect, but His Body on earth was still temporal despite the Divinity within Himself that allowed Him to perform miracles. After His Resurrection, Christ’s Glorified Body was the body that is intended for all humanity. Like Adam’s pre-fall body, the soul has complete mastery of the body, but it is also glorified. From Scripture, Christ can manifest differently with light and make it hard for individuals to know who He is. Furthermore, He is able to transport from different areas, however, due to the wounds on His Hands, Side and Feet, it is clear it is the same Body that was crucified but transformed.
Christ’s glorified Body on earth showed the return of the body to the soul
Humanity will share in Christ’s Resurrection. Through Christ’s death, He conquered sin and through His Resurrection promises a full reunion of body and soul. The temporary exile of the soul from the body is removed. The body and soul then are reunited in a perfect way. It is of no wonder then that the brain and soul are so close to each other. It is natural that they exist side by side and work together in expressing a full human nature.
The Brain as a Metaphysical Organ and Partner of the Soul
While atheistic neurosciences see the brain as the soul from an only observational and empirical standpoint, they cannot philosophically deny possibility of a spiritual component within human nature. The brain in itself is a metaphysical organ. It translates spiritual emotion, thought and memory in a material code through the patterns of firing neurons. Like the ability of radio waves to interpret human words on the radio, the brain and its certain components have the amazing ability to translate the soul. The soul receives all information through the senses. The branch of Epistemology or how humans gain knowledge can be divided into the concept of realism. Within realism, knowledge is gained by the senses. This was championed by St. Thomas Aquinas. Hence the soul gains its primary knowledge from its surrounding areas via the senses. The brain interprets and aids the soul in this material exploration. Albeit imperfect in the temporal reality due to sin, the partnership still functions.
The brain hence is immersed within the soul and vice versa. They were never intended to be separated at creation. The brain is a partner of the soul and all its manifestations aid the soul in understanding reality.
“Proofs” of the Soul
While the brain is not the soul itself but a partner intimately interwoven with it, the soul after the Fall, was deemed to be separated from the body. Death is unnatural but the soul still exists beyond as conscious energy. The amount of time one is separated from the body is not measured in minutes since time is no longer a player after death. It could be seen like an instant upon the refusion of the soul and body upon where it will enter into its heavenly reward or hellish curse. However, due to sin, the unnatural state of death kills the broken body and snatches an incomplete human’s soul into eternity without his/her body.
Yet, the conscious energy of the soul, albeit incomplete still has abilities to exist due to God’s plan to reunite it with the body. How this is accomplished is a matter of faith. The immortality of the soul is a mystery that science cannot explain. Yet one can see instances of the soul and its operations beyond its interwoven material expressions within the brain.
In Christianity, the notion of spiritual eyes and spiritual senses is well understood. For instance, knowledge that is gained not through the physical senses explain a deeper existence beyond broken matter in this world. While empirical science does not accept these ideals or looks for logical explanations, individuals, saints and mystics have all experienced out of body, mystical, and innate discourses that do not permeate from the senses. For instance, beyond the natural REM dreaming, one can review prophetic dreams or communications. In some cases, the senses can be utilized but in most cases, the subconscious void of sense perception is open to Divine or angelic communication. In addition, many who experience Near Death Experience describe their surroundings in detail without seeing the surroundings with their own physical eyes which were closed and brain activity was comatose. The spiritual eyes yet were able to see and then later recount the instance utilizing memory of the event from a spiritual source.
Moral Implications of Sin and Choice
It would be criminal not to at least react to atheistic neuroscience’s assault on moral theology. If the brain and its chemical reactions account for all of reality, then how can one be accountable for sin or wrong? If moods due to neurotransmitters are altered, or parts of the brain are altered or removed hence affecting behavior, how can the soul be a source of morality?
Of course, as stated, the manifestation of inhibitions, decisions, and thoughts within the brain are clearly listed. Morality is a complex system of biology, genetics, social norms and learned behavior. Certain maladies do play a key role in altering behaviors.
For the Christian, it is understood there is a complex and intimate connection between the soul and body. It is also understood due to the fall of Adam, there is a conflict between mind and flesh. Due to sin, sickness and death exist as well. Hence, in many, anti-social disorders, depression and other mood disorders, certain behaviors can manifest. In fact, removing certain areas of the brain can have staggering effects on moral behavior. This though in no way complicates the existence of the soul and its connection to the brain. Again, Christians maintain a intimate relationship between the body and mind albeit a broken one. Hence explanations for behavior from a purely neurological point are expected but they are not the sole source.
Christian moral theology takes into account mental maladies that reduce culpabilities of the agent committing the offense but conscience, morality and free choice in most cases still exist. One is not programmed to sin and do evil. It is through disease, broken nature, environment, and habitual vice that lead to many neuro factors that contribute to a mentally disturbed person as well. The sickness of the brain that leads to immoral deeds is a sad story but one due to Original Sin. It exists and plays a factor because the soul and brain are interwoven but it is not the only aspect of the story that dictates what someone is or not.
Conclusion
It is of no wonder to the Christian who understands the unity of human nature that the brain and soul closely are correlated. While separate, they are still intimately interwoven so closely that manifestation of the spiritual is possible. To atheistic neuroscience this may be hard core evidence that the functions of the brain are the soul but to the Christian it only reinforces the idea that the soul and body are meant to be together forever. Unlike platonic and dualist ideals that view the body as the inferior partner or temporary shell, the Christian understands that only due to sin does this fallen temporal reality exist. It is because of sin that the body and soul are not in complete unison and that elements of our body affect our soul and elements of our soul affect our body. It is with this understanding that the Christian can marvel how wonderfully created he/she truly is and how while sin scarred it temporarily, it will one day be completely and perfectly restored. Human nature is both flesh and soul!
The brain and the soul are tied intimately together. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification
Christian Counselors need to understand how the brain, its parts, and neurotransmitters play a role in moral action. It is not a indictment against the existence of the soul but a manifestation of the innate partnership between the brain and soul. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.
Additional Readings : Some articles are from an atheistic neuroscience stance and others support Christian belief of the soul. Others are merely educational
“The brain and memory: Understanding how the brain thinks”. NIH. (2022) Access here
“What Part of the Brain Controls Emotions?”. Paxinos, G. (2018). Healthline. Access here
“Does the Soul Exist? Evidence Says ‘Yes’”. Lanza, R, MD. (2011). Psychology Today. Access here
“Why psychology lost its soul: everything comes from the brain”. Paxinos, G. (2016). The Conversation. Access here
“Neuroscience and the Soul”. Hobson, A, MD. (2004). Dana Foundation. Access here
Moral theology judges three aspects of a human act; the action, the agent and the circumstances. In regards to the agent or person who commits the objective act, there is a surplus of subjective elements that determine an individual’s culpability and inclinations towards an action. Temperament plays a key role in a person’s overall disposition towards passions, inclinations and reactions. Temperaments are more permanent and natural dispositions of the soul. Temperaments are the blue prints for how individuals act naturally. One is more naturally this or that not due so much to nurture but to nature itself. Hence individuals exhibit more natural and easy tendencies due to one’s temperament. While one can learn to mask certain poor qualities that coincide with a temperament, it nonetheless remains the natural and internal driving force behind the person.
A person’s temperament is one’s initial and natural disposition. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification
In addition, a person’s character is based upon temperament and learned social rules and regulations that define how that person responds to issues. One’s character hence reflects a moral code that is binds one to interactions. A person may be very honest and this element of character manifests. In addition to character, psychology also recognizes personality. Personality plays a key role in how one interacts with others. Personality is more fluid over time than character and temperament, but character traits and temperament all play key components of one’s personality. The key to remember though is temperament is not a learned trait but a far more natural trait. It lends certain qualities to that make certain characters easier or harder to foster and also plays a key role in one’s social interaction with others.
Rev Conrad Hock presents an excellent essay on the four temperaments and their implications in morality and Christian ministry. The temperaments clearly can play a key role in applying stimulation or inclination towards certain vices but as well as virtues. So while there are natural inclinations with both positive and negative connotations, nurture plays a key role in guiding one’s natural temperament or temperament combinations to a more virtuous life. In Hock’s, “Four Temperaments” he points out the great importance of understanding oneself. He states,
“Socrates, one of the most renowned of the Greek sages, used and taught as an axiom to his hearers:
‘Know yourself.’ One of the most reliable means of learning to know oneself is the study of the temperaments. For if
a man is fully cognizant of his temperament, he can learn easily to direct and control himself. If he
is able to discern the temperament of others, he can better understand and help them”.
Christian Counselors, spiritual directors and clergy can utilize an understanding of the temperaments to better aid individuals in their spiritual development as well as learn how to better interact with others in the social life. One way to discern one’s own temperament as well as others is how one responds to things in life or stimuli. Hock refers to individuals who respond quickly to stimuli, respond but lose interest, do not respond but ponder, and those who show little interest as four qualities of Choleric, Sanguine, Melancholic and Phlegmatic (1998, p.3). If one is able to better diagnose these responses, then one can better determine the prominent temperament of an individual.
The Four Temperaments
The first temperament is choleric. Based off from ancient Greece correlation of yellow bile within the human body, individuals who are choleric are very assertive individuals. They are very receptive to stimuli and the reception is not fleeting but long lasting. They are very goal orientated individuals with little time for emotion. They can become very impatient, angry and irritable when results are not met. This personality is also more self serving and egotistical in its essence.
Personality is made of temperament and character of individuals. Choleric temperament is more extrovert and goal orientated.
Children who exhibit these qualities need to be shown more restraint and nurtured to see the needs of others and to be more reflective and caring. Obviously the vice of pride can easily manifest within this temperament if not balanced with humility. Individuals who have this a dominating trait may be very successful in life but also may be open to narcissism and other anti-social personality disorders void of conscience. Hock points out that a choleric may very well be egotistical, stubborn, very confident, and dominant ( 1998, p. 7). Obviously when dealing with a choleric temperament, confrontation and criticism is not the best approach. The good news is not everyone usually has a one temperament and other temperaments can balance out qualities, as well as virtues that can be utilized. Saints that possessed a very strong choleric nature not only balanced their ego with humility but also utilized their goal orientated mind to helping others and building up the Church with spiritual goals.
The second temperament is sanguine. Sanguine temperaments are also quick to respond as the choleric temperament but unlike the choleric, the sanguine response is fleeting. The sanguine temperament coincides with the bodily fluid of blood and finds excitement in pleasure and social settings. This extrovert temperament however has a hard time remaining responsible and will move from thing to thing, especially things that involve extra effort. This temperament is very social and easily builds relationships and optimistic but also very superficial and unstable (Hock, 1998, p.11).
Obviously, the worldly, temporal and pleasure seeking nature of this temperament needs grounded. It needs grounded with a strong spirituality and also some form of responsibility. It can easily be thrown into a hedonistic, irresponsible life style. Hence, sanguine temperaments need denial at an early age to properly curb any appetites (Hock, 1998. p. 14). When directed properly, it can be a social and helpful temperament that finds value in friendship and in helping others. Its extrovert nature wishes to be part of the world and be utilized as a way to bring God to others.
The third type of temperament is melancholy. A melancholy temperament stems from black vile and is more intuitive and emotional. It is slower to react to issues but ponders and reflects in greater detail. An individual with a melancholic temperament will exhibit a more reflective and reserved reactions to things. Many times, these individuals are indecisive due to the numerous emotions they reflect on for each situation. As the need suggest, this temperament is more subject to darker moods, sadness and can fall into depressions. They are also slower to forgive emotional offenses (Hock, 1998, p. 18).
A melancholic temperament is more emotional and intuitive. It is can be very emotionally prayerful but also easily fall into despair
A melancholic devoid of spirituality and God can easily lose faith in the world. Yet one who has God in their heart is very deep and emotional in all aspects of prayer life. Melancholic temperaments need encouragement and sympathetic understanding (Hock, 1998, p.19). Furthermore they need to be reinforced with optimism and the power of God in this world.
The final type of temperament is phlegmatic. Phlegmatic temperament is associated with phlegm in the body. These temperaments are very passive and introverted. They show little interest to issues and little response. They are by nature more easy going. The phlegmatic temperament is not easily offended and works well with others. However, due to its more relaxed state it can be more subject to sloth and laziness (Hock, 1998, p. 20). Children who show a more introvert side need more stimulation as well as information repeated. They are more docile in nature and respond less heatedly to reprimand. In the spiritual life, they need motivated and directed towards the awesome love of God and the need to implement action into life.
Application
The more dominant a temperament, the more difficult it is to curb and shape. One naturally without sin has inclinations according to temperament but one through spiritual training can not act on first impulse, analyze and respond in a more virtuous way. The temperaments explain why some are more inclined to certain vices or certain virtues. Like natural talents, some are more naturally patient, or kind, while others may be more prone to the senses or outbursts of anger. Just like virtue, one can easily find attraction to certain vices due to temperament.
This is why nurture through parenting and moral code is so key in forming the overall personality of a person. A more choleric personality does not predestine one to be a narcissist or a successful business person but it does lay the inclination for such bad or good achievements. Through moral character, formation of conscience and parental guidance any temperament can be utilized for a particular good and greatness within the Church. Likewise, when not curbed, or directed towards God, certain temperaments can lead to a destructive life style.
Fortunately as well, not everyone possesses one temperament. Usually one possesses a dominant temperament with a secondary temperament. The secondary temperament can make different blends that make someone not completely an extrovert but someone who enjoys both social but also private life. Mixtures and balances via secondary temperaments help create very complex individuals. When one adds, biological, psychological and social aspects, personalities can definitely become more complicated. This also creates a variety of personality types that are also covered in psychology. Four particular types of personalities can be found within each four primary temperaments. This obviously also excludes any mixtures. To learn more, additional readings lists these types of personalities.
Knowing thyself is key. What temperament are you? What is your secondary temperament? How has religion, moral code and conscience helped curb a primary temperament in your life?
Temperaments though remain at the core of a person’s personality. They are the natural inclinations and first reactions within a person. It is important to know oneself and if helping others via counseling, to try to have some idea of the temperament of the person. Christian Counselors can better guide their spiritual children with a better understand of temperament.
Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Christian Counseling.
Additional Resources
“Four Temperaments Test: What’s My Temperament?”. Hinson, L. ( 2022). PsychCentral. Access here
Social Personality Disorders are among the most dangerous disorders an individual can come across. Individuals with them are devoid of conscious or morality. Christian Counselors can only offer spiritual support, while mental health professionals can offer some medications and therapy. Still, those who exhibit anti-social disorders rarely look for help. Among the disorder there are two unofficial terms to label them. First, sociopathy, which deals with a devoid conscience tied with a heavily emotional response when confronted and psychopathy which is devoid of conscience but is far more tempered and controlled in response. Both can exhibit psychosis but it is not a necessary ingredient. Both are also extremely narcissistic personalities.
Anti-Social Personality Disorders require clinical counseling and therapy. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification
These personalities if met should be avoided and never provoked.
Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional needs. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor. Again, Christian Counselors cannot treat this type of disorder but only licensed professional counselors and other mental health professionals.
Narcissism is love of self. The first being to exhibit this disorder was Lucifer. Narcissists are dangerous in how they treat other individuals because they have zero empathy. All that matters is the needs of self and the glorification of self through others. When this is challenged, these individuals can become dangerous at a physical, mental or legal way. They will calculate revenge and attempt to ruin others.
Narcissism is self love. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your goals
If in a relationship with a Narcissist, it can be a very difficult situation to handle. One needs to establish boundaries and understand the disorder to better navigate one’s life. It is best to avoid these individuals and if possible to move on if in a relationship. Christian Counselors can help guide individuals through these situations. Overall, helping a Narcissist recognize one’s own shortcomings is difficult. Hence many Narcissists resist counseling. Only trained clinical counselors can work with Narcissists, but Christian Counselors can offer spiritual advice through the example of Christ’s humility
Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.
God created marriage as a bond between man and woman. He blessed the ideal in Eden with Adam and Eve and Jesus Christ further blessed it at Cana. It is hence a sacred institution. In marriage, the unity of the Trinity is reflected in the deep love between man and woman during the conjugal act with the creation of child; One love but three persons. When marriage is defiled, then God’s plan is defiled. Divorce, infidelity and disrespect of spouses degrade and reject the Divine plan of love found in the sacred vow.
Maintaining a healthy relationship that includes mutual respect is necessary for a healthy marriage. The sacred vocation and vow requires effort and respect on part of both the husband and wife. Yet like all relationships, a life long commitment can be difficult especially in modern society and its throw away mentality. Instead of fixing things, modern society looks to replace. Unfortunately, marriage is treated the same way.
Keeping something pure and maintaining it takes time, commitment and effort. It is critical for spouses to work with each other as a team towards a common end but it also involves mutual respect and handling anger, crisis, division, loss, and pain. The grace of the Sacrament of Matrimony fueled by the Holy Spirit can help couples reach this difficult goal but it takes prayer and a constant effort of consecrating one’s marriage to Christ. Christian Counselors, Pastors, Marriage Counselors and other therapists can help guide couples to a long and fulfilling marriage but many couples need additional help in identifying issues and conflict resolution. In identifying key aspects of a healthy relationship, the article, “Counseling Tips For A Healthy Relationship” by Henry Smith identifies four key elements. Smith points out respect, encouragement, listening and goodness to each other as key points. Regarding respect, he states,
“Respect between partners is an essential aspect of any healthy Christian marriage. Christian marriage counseling can provide valuable tips and advice on cultivating and maintaining respect. One important tip is always to consider each other’s feelings and emotions. Couples should open up lines of communication with one another, ask questions respectfully, be actively empathetic to each other’s points and perspectives, work together on issues, and trust each other’s judgment. ”
“Counseling Tips For A Healthy Relationship”. Henry Smith. March 22nd, 2023. TechBullion
Obviously within Christian marriage, the first key is identifying the permanence of the institution. Individuals who are prepared in Pre-Cana or other Church services in marriage preparation can help individuals cherish their vow and the sacred nature of it. Secondly, Christian Counselors, Pastors and Marriage Counselors need to reinforce the illustration of Christ and the Church as a symbolic example of husband and wife. The husband loves his wife, as Christ loves the Church, even unto death, and the wife is obedient and respectful to the husband, as the Church is to Christ. With such a connection and mutual relationship, neither ever crosses any lines in regards to dominance, abuse, or ridicule. This creates a perfect harmony.
The fruits of a good relationship are children, stability, good example, fostering of the faith and glorification of God through one’s vocation. The union, even if children are never conceived, still provide the couple with intimacy, love, support and unity with each other.
One learns that all love, whether romantic, or that of family or friends is a love that is selfless. Love is hence patient and giving and exists for the happiness of the other. Love in marriage is no different. Love never fades but remains a constant. In looking to fulfill a more perfect marriage, couples need to look no farther than the love of St Joseph and Holy Mary. The Holy Family is the perfect example of love. St Joseph remains a role model for all husbands and fathers and Holy Mary remains a role model for all wives and mothers.
The Holy Family remains the paradigm of Christian Marriage. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification
Characteristics of a Healthy Christian Marriage
A healthy Christian marriage is characterized by several key traits that are essential for building a strong and lasting relationship. These include:
Prayer
Couples need to pray together and put their relationship in the hands of Jesus and Mary and Joseph
A family that prayers together, stays together. Families and marriages that center around prayer, mass or church, or prayer before meals, strengthen the family together. It further protects the family from secular and demonic sources that will look to tear the family apart. The family as the building block of society is crucial to society’s success. Fostering the laws of God and a prayerful life and sending that message out to the world is one of the primary vocations within marriage. This is how the family itself becomes a discipleship and church within its own right. Hence families that have a strong devotion to God and pray together and create great change for the world and share Christ with it.
Trust
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and Christian marriage is no exception. A husband and wife should be able to trust each other completely, knowing that they are committed to each other and to God.
Communication
Effective communication is essential for building intimacy, resolving conflicts, and making important decisions together. Husbands and wives should be able to communicate openly and honestly with each other, expressing their thoughts, feelings, and needs in a respectful and loving manner.
Respect
Mutual respect is crucial for maintaining a healthy Christian marriage. Husbands and wives should treat each other with dignity, honor, and kindness, recognizing each other’s strengths and weaknesses and valuing each other’s opinions and perspectives.
Love
Love is the hallmark of a healthy Christian marriage. Husbands and wives should show love to each other in tangible ways, such as acts of service, quality time, and physical affection. They should also be committed to loving each other unconditionally, even in the face of challenges and difficulties.
Communication in a Christian Marriage
Communication and intimacy are crucial to a Christian marriage
Communication is one of the most critical aspects of a healthy Christian marriage. Effective communication involves more than just talking and listening. It requires a willingness to understand each other’s perspectives, feelings, and needs, and a commitment to resolving conflicts in a loving and respectful manner.
One of the keys to effective communication in a Christian marriage is to create a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel heard and valued. This involves setting aside time for regular communication, listening attentively to each other, and avoiding criticism and defensiveness.
Another essential aspect of communication in a Christian marriage is prayer. Praying together can deepen intimacy, foster spiritual growth, and provide a sense of unity and purpose. It is also an opportunity to seek God’s guidance and wisdom in the decisions and challenges of life.
Financial Management in a Christian Marriage
Financial management is another critical aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. Money can be a significant source of conflict and stress in any relationship, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and stewardship.
One of the keys to financial management in a Christian marriage is to establish a shared vision and goals for money. This involves setting a budget, saving for the future, and giving generously to others. It also involves being transparent and accountable with each other about finances, avoiding debt, and making wise investments.
Another essential aspect of financial management in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and provision. Trusting in God’s provision can help reduce anxiety and stress about money and free up resources for more meaningful pursuits.
Conflict Resolution in a Christian Marriage
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, including Christian marriage. However, how couples handle conflict can make all the difference in the health and longevity of their relationship.
One of the keys to conflict resolution in a Christian marriage is to approach conflicts with a spirit of humility and grace. This involves seeking to understand each other’s perspectives, acknowledging each other’s feelings, and working together to find a solution that honors God and each other.
Another essential aspect of conflict resolution in a Christian marriage is forgiveness. Forgiveness involves letting go of past hurts, extending grace to each other, and seeking reconciliation and restoration. It is a powerful tool for healing and strengthening relationships.
Intimacy in a Christian Marriage
Intimacy is a vital aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. It involves more than just physical intimacy but also emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy. Intimacy is a gift from God that is intended to be enjoyed and celebrated within the context of marriage.
One of the keys to intimacy in a Christian marriage is to prioritize time together. This involves setting aside time for regular date nights, weekend getaways, and other activities that promote closeness and connection.
Another essential aspect of intimacy in a Christian marriage is to be intentional about meeting each other’s needs. This involves being attentive to each other’s love languages, expressing physical affection, and creating a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel valued and cherished.
Roles and Responsibilities in a Christian Marriage
Roles and responsibilities are an essential aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. They provide structure, order, and clarity to the relationship and help each partner to fulfill their God-given purpose and calling.
One of the keys to roles and responsibilities in a Christian marriage is to understand and embrace each other’s unique strengths and gifts. This involves recognizing and respecting each other’s differences and working together to achieve common goals.
Another essential aspect of roles and responsibilities in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and wisdom. Praying together, studying God’s Word, and seeking the counsel of wise mentors can help couples discern their roles and responsibilities and fulfill them with joy and purpose.
Challenges and Solutions in a Christian Marriage
Marriage is permanent and a sacred vow before God. Christian marriage must emulate the Trinity in love
Christian marriage is not without its challenges. Couples may face a variety of issues, such as infidelity, addiction, infertility, and conflict with in-laws. However, with God’s help, these challenges can be overcome, and the marriage can become even stronger and more beautiful.
One of the keys to overcoming challenges in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and provision. Prayer, Bible study, and fellowship with other believers can provide comfort, wisdom, and support during difficult times.
Another essential aspect of overcoming challenges in a Christian marriage is to seek professional help when needed. Christian counselors, pastors, and mentors can provide guidance, accountability, and practical tools for addressing specific issues and building a stronger marriage.
Conclusion: Striving for a Healthy and Godly Christian Marriage
In conclusion, a healthy Christian marriage is a beautiful and powerful testimony to God’s love and grace. It is built on a foundation of trust, communication, respect, and love, and reflects the image of Christ and the church. By following biblical principles and seeking God’s guidance, couples can build a marriage that honors God and fulfills their purpose and calling. May we all strive for healthy and godly Christian marriages that bring glory to God and bless our families and communities.
Christian Counselors can help couples find solutions and joy in their marriage. Christian Counselors usually are pastors or spiritual directors with an understanding of applying Christian and Biblical principles to real world problems. Christian Counselors can hence bring God back into someone’s marriage. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.
Additional Resources
“The 7 Commandments of Christian Marriage”. Ron Edmondson. March 20th, 2019. Crosswalk. Access here
“7 Important Responsibilities of a Christian Wife”. Lesli White. Beliefnet. Access here
“7 Marks of a Godly Husband”. Lesli White. Beliefnet. Access here
“Practical and Biblical Christian Marriage Advice”. Mary Fairchild. April 29th, 2019. Learn Religions. Access here
