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Top Challenges for Christian Counselors

Posted on by Mark Moran

I.      Introduction

In a world increasingly characterized by diverse beliefs and values, the role of Christian counselors has become more nuanced and complex, mirroring the complexities of contemporary society itself. These professionals are not only tasked with providing emotional support to individuals facing various challenges, but they must also navigate the intricate interplay between faith and mental health, which can be particularly sensitive and personal. The specific challenges they face include maintaining a delicate balance between adherence to Christian principles, such as compassion and forgiveness, and the professional obligations mandated by modern counseling practices that may emphasize secular approaches. As they engage in therapeutic relationships, Christian counselors must also confront the reality of differing theological interpretations among clients, which can give rise to tension in the counseling dynamic and complicate communication. Furthermore, public perception may sometimes stigmatize their approach to therapy, often leading to difficulties in attracting clients who are open to integrating spirituality into their mental health care, which can be a valuable part of the healing process for many. Additionally, the increasing polarization around religious beliefs in today’s society may further complicate these dynamics, making it imperative for counselors to possess not only strong clinical skills but also a deep understanding of various belief systems. Thus, addressing these multifaceted challenges is essential for Christian counselors to provide effective, empathetic, and faith-based therapeutic support, which is not only beneficial for their clients but also enriches the therapeutic landscape as a whole.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is integrated in nature and ties biblical and psychological practices together to help individuals face life issues as well as other moral problems from a Christian tradition.

A.    Definition of Christian counseling

Christian Counselors bring a unique balance of biblical principles and psychological principles to helping individuals face emotional and moral problems.

 

At its core, Christian counseling represents a unique and meaningful approach that merges psychological principles with deeply held theological beliefs to promote holistic healing and personal growth. This multifaceted process involves not only addressing emotional and mental health concerns but also thoughtfully incorporating spiritual components that hold significant importance for the client. Unlike traditional forms of therapy that may focus solely on psychological techniques, Christian counseling places a strong emphasis on fostering a personal relationship with God and often draws from biblical teachings as a foundational source for addressing life’s personal struggles and challenges. Counselors within this field face unique challenges and opportunities, such as navigating the various client expectations rooted deeply in their faith traditions, all while ensuring adherence to established psychological methodologies and best practices. Furthermore, Christian counselors must be adequately equipped to handle sensitive issues like spiritual crises or a lack of understanding about mental health—issues that are crucial for effective and transformative counseling experiences. They must provide care that is both respectful of the client’s spiritual beliefs and responsive to their mental health needs. For instance, the experiences and insights gained by counselors-in-training have shown that understanding holistic wellness, as discussed in (Reyes et al., 2020), is essential for truly supporting clients in their spiritual, emotional, and psychological journeys, creating an environment where comprehensive healing can take place.

B.    Importance of addressing challenges faced by Christian counselors

Navigating the myriad challenges faced by Christian counselors is crucial not only for their professional development but also for the effectiveness of their therapeutic practice. These counselors often grapple with integrating their faith into a secular counseling framework while maintaining respect for their clients’ diverse belief systems. This dual obligation can lead to ethical dilemmas, particularly when clients’ spiritual needs diverge from the counselor’s personal convictions. For instance, as noted in research about the incorporation of indigenous cultural practices in counseling, many practitioners struggle with limited knowledge of how to address clients cultural beliefs effectively ((Bhusumane et al., 2007)). By actively confronting these challenges, counselors can develop a more culturally competent approach that honors their clients’ backgrounds, ultimately fostering a more inclusive environment. Moreover, addressing these obstacles not only enhances the therapeutic alliance but also encourages a more fruitful dialogue between Christian counselors and other practitioners, paving the way for collaborative care ((McMinn et al., 2012)).

C.    Overview of the main challenges to be discussed

Christian counselors often face a unique set of challenges that arise from the intricate balance between their spiritual beliefs and the professional requirements of counseling. One prominent issue is the necessity to integrate faith-based perspectives with evidence-based practices, which not only creates tension between personal convictions and therapeutic methodologies but also raises questions about the effectiveness and appropriateness of certain strategies in diverse counseling situations. Counselors may struggle with maintaining professionalism while also responding to their clients’ spiritual needs, leading to potential conflicts in their approach that could affect client outcomes. Furthermore, the stigma surrounding mental health within certain religious communities can pose significant barriers for both counselors and their clients, influencing the willingness to seek help and the openness of discussions, which may close off valuable avenues of support. This multifaceted landscape of challenges—including the emotional toll of client engagement, the need to navigate ethical dilemmas, and the necessity for ongoing personal and professional development—warrants thorough exploration. By critically examining these elements, we can gain a more nuanced understanding of the complexities faced by Christian counselors as they endeavor to provide holistic care to their clients, while also considering the broader implications of their practices within the context of faith and mental health.

II.  Ethical Dilemmas

As a counselor, Christian counselors can face very similar ethical dilemmas that other counselors face but in particular facing clients who may not always agree to Christian moral concepts

Navigating the landscape of ethical dilemmas is a formidable challenge for Christian counselors, who often find their personal beliefs tested against professional responsibilities. The intricate balance they must maintain becomes even more evident when they are confronted with sensitive and multifaceted issues such as euthanasia, where deep moral questions arise. In these situations, counselors must navigate the delicate interplay between compassion for their clients and steadfast adherence to their ethical frameworks, which can sometimes be starkly different. Research indicates a significant correlation between counselors’ personal beliefs—especially their religious perspectives—and their attitudes toward end-of-life decisions ((Johns et al., 2015)). This connection underscores the powerful influence that individual values can have on professional conduct. In many instances, these deeply held moral convictions can complicate the counselor’s ability to provide unbiased support to clients, leading to potential conflicts between personal ethics and client autonomy that must be thoughtfully managed. Furthermore, the pressure to uphold professional standards while simultaneously maintaining a Christian worldview can generate a profound sense of internal strife. Counselors often grapple not only with the implications of their choices on client welfare but also with the broader ethical considerations that accompany their professional duties ((Johns et al., 2015)). These tensions may lead to feelings of doubt and anxiety regarding their effectiveness and integrity as practitioners. Ultimately, recognizing these ethical dilemmas is crucial, as it allows counselors to engage in reflective practice, which is essential for personal growth and the cultivation of empathy. This awareness ensures that they can provide care that aligns effectively with both their ethical standards and the unique needs of their clients.

A.    Balancing faith-based beliefs with professional ethics

Navigating the complex interplay between personal faith and professional ethics presents a significant challenge for Christian counselors. They must adhere to ethical guidelines established by professional organizations while also remaining true to their religious beliefs. This balancing act becomes particularly pronounced when clients values or life choices clash with the counselors faith-based principles. For instance, in the context of mental health counseling, lay counselors in Kenya reported experiencing stress and burnout when their personal beliefs were challenged by the realities faced by clients, yet they still sought to provide high-quality care (Ayuku et al., 2020). This struggle is not unique to global contexts; Black male pastors in the United States also face similar difficulties, feeling pressured to support their congregants while often neglecting their own self-care and well-being (Metcalf et al., 2022). Ultimately, Christian counselors must develop strategies for reconciling these competing demands to provide effective care without compromising their ethical integrity.

B.    Navigating confidentiality issues in a religious context

Confidentiality remains a complex issue for Christian counselors, particularly within the unique dynamics of religious communities, which prompt deeper reflection on ethical responsibilities. The balancing act between maintaining client privacy and upholding the church’s ethical standards can present formidable challenges that require careful consideration of the potential consequences of confidentiality breaches. Counselors must navigate the expectations of their congregants, who may assume that discussions within a religious context are inherently confidential, thereby complicating the counselor’s role. However, situations may arise where disclosure is warranted, especially when safeguarding the client’s welfare or adhering to church discipline procedures, necessitating a critical exploration of what constitutes a ‘safe’ disclosure. This intricacy is compounded when considering counseling services that lack a comprehensive integration of mental health principles, which raises questions about the adequacy of support being provided. For instance, current biblical counseling practices often prioritize spiritual guidance over psychological insights, potentially neglecting critical aspects of a person’s mental and emotional health [(cite12)]. Thus, as Christian counselors strive to provide holistic support, they must establish clear boundaries concerning confidentiality while engaging in ongoing dialogue about the ethical implications of their dual roles as counselor and spiritual leader, ultimately fostering trust and ensuring that their approach aligns with both spiritual and mental health needs.

C.    Handling conflicts between client values and counselor beliefs

Navigating the intricate terrain of client values versus counselor beliefs poses a significant challenge for Christian counselors, demanding a thoughtful and analytical approach. When a client’s values conflict with the counselor’s faith-based principles, it is imperative for counselors to adopt a stance of humility and openness, prioritizing a client-centered focus throughout the sessions. This approach is not just a best practice; it is crucial because rigid adherence to personal beliefs can alienate clients, which may result in a breakdown of the therapeutic relationship. Moreover, it is essential to recognize that many individuals from diverse backgrounds, including African Americans, might be hesitant to seek help due to cultural mistrust and the perception that therapy contradicts their faith ((Law et al., 2024)). Therefore, effective conflict resolution techniques, such as active listening and compassion, should be employed strategically to cultivate a safe environment that encourages dialogue about these differences. By focusing critically on understanding the client’s perspective and promoting a respectful exchange, counselors can bridge the gap between differing value systems. This reflective practice not only enhances the therapeutic process but also improves client outcomes, fostering a more inclusive and supportive counseling atmosphere.

III.             Cultural Sensitivity

While still maintaining a biblical perspective, Christian Counselors still need to be well trained in cultural competencies as cultural diversity to better serve clients

In the realm of counseling, an acute awareness of cultural sensitivity is essential for fostering an effective therapeutic environment that can cater to a diverse clientele. Christian counselors, in particular, must navigate the complexities associated with their clients’ diverse backgrounds, beliefs, and individual experiences. This nuanced approach requires not only a thorough understanding of various cultural frameworks but also a steadfast commitment to respect and affirm each client’s unique identity and lived experiences. For instance, the experiences of same-sex parents seeking support underline the critical need for practitioners to move beyond traditional heteronormative perspectives, which can often marginalize their realities. Many parents have reported significant difficulties when attempting to access appropriate services due to the considerable lack of understanding and sensitivity from providers, which can inadvertently perpetuate feelings of exclusion and invalidation (Gahan et al., 2017). Additionally, it is imperative that the emphasis on education and training for all service providers transcends the confines of their specialization. This concern is crucial to ensure that they are well-equipped to meet the specific and varying needs of all clients, including those from marginalized and underrepresented groups (College Board Advocacy & Policy Center, 2012). By fostering a culture of understanding and inclusivity, practitioners can better engage with their clients and address their distinct cultural narratives. Thus, cultivating cultural sensitivity not only enhances the counselor-client relationship but also serves as a foundational pillar that is vital for effective practice within the counseling field. As such, embracing cultural sensitivity should be viewed as an ongoing commitment to providing equitable and affirming care to every individual.

A.    Understanding diverse backgrounds and beliefs of clients

Effective counseling requires a nuanced understanding of clients’ diverse backgrounds and beliefs, particularly for Christian counselors who may encounter clients from various faith traditions and cultural practices. Engaging with clients from different cultural and spiritual backgrounds is essential not only because it fosters a supportive therapeutic environment but also because it enables counselors to develop the cultural competence necessary for achieving impactful and effective practice. The integration of spirituality into therapeutic settings, as highlighted in (Sutherland-Smith et al., 2024), poses a significant challenge for counselors and emphasizes the importance of being sensitive to and respectful of clients’ unique spiritual experiences while providing care. This sensitivity is crucial as it acknowledges that each client carries with them a distinct set of beliefs and values that shape their worldview. Furthermore, research on counselors’ preparedness to work with refugee populations demonstrates the necessity of understanding the sociocultural contexts that influence clients’ experiences, challenges, and mental health needs ((Atiyeh et al., 2019)). By prioritizing a comprehensive understanding of diversity, Christian counselors can better bridge gaps in communication and trust. This proactive approach ultimately enhances therapeutic outcomes for clients who are navigating multifaceted challenges that are deeply intertwined with their backgrounds and beliefs. By being aware of these elements, counselors can facilitate a more personalized and effective therapeutic relationship, empowering clients to explore their identities and experiences within a safe and nurturing space.

B.    Addressing potential biases in counseling practices

In the field of counseling, particularly from a Christian perspective, acknowledging personal and systemic biases is not only crucial but also imperative for effective practice. Counselors may unconsciously project their own beliefs and values onto clients, which can significantly hinder open communication and impede the healing process. To effectively address these biases, counselors must engage in intentional self-reflection and ongoing education about diverse backgrounds and experiences. This necessitates asking probing questions about one’s assumptions and understanding how they might affect the therapeutic relationship. As noted in the literature, this document serves as a practical guide to assist schools and districts by providing comprehensive information, resources, and tools to further the development of Positive School Discipline practices (Oliver et al., 2018). This framework, with its emphasis on fostering understanding and reducing judgment, can likewise be applied within counseling settings. Furthermore, the ongoing discussion surrounding ableism underscores the necessity of recognizing hidden diversities, illustrating that less observable issues, such as chronic illness and chronic pain, are often omitted in standard discourse (Haas et al., 2019). By confronting these biases with a critical eye and actively examining the intersectionality of various identities, Christian counselors can create a more inclusive, empathetic, and ultimately effective environment for their clients. This thoughtful approach not only encourages personal and collective growth but also helps dismantle the barriers that biases may create, leading to a richer, more nuanced understanding of each client’s unique situation and needs.

C.    Adapting counseling techniques to fit various cultural contexts

Counselors are increasingly confronted with the imperative to adapt their techniques in ways that are responsive to the diverse cultural backgrounds of their clients. This necessity becomes especially pronounced when engaging with immigrant populations, such as Korean immigrant women, who may encounter unique and multifaceted challenges arising from their specific cultural contexts. It is essential for counselors to critically assess how factors like acculturation, English proficiency, and cultural identity influence these women’s experiences. Research indicates that immigration can result in both trauma and avenues for posttraumatic growth, highlighting the need for counselors to consider these aspects holistically in their practice (Lim et al., 2024). Furthermore, acknowledging and understanding the distinct experiences that arise from various cultural backgrounds is crucial for building rapport with clients and effectively addressing their needs. As revealed in studies examining professional counselors’ perceptions, a deep understanding of the cultural intricacies present within refugee populations can not only improve the therapeutic alliance but also significantly enhance therapeutic outcomes (Atiyeh et al., 2019). Ultimately, by deliberately tailoring counseling approaches to accommodate cultural circumstances and critically examining the interplay of cultural factors, counselors can enhance their effectiveness and contribute to positive social change within diverse communities.

IV.            Emotional and Spiritual Burnout

Like any behavioral health professional, Christian Counselors can also face issues of burnout. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

The challenges faced by Christian counselors often extend beyond conventional professional stressors, affecting emotional and spiritual well-being. Counselors frequently encounter emotional burnout as they navigate the depths of their clients struggles, particularly with those confronting advanced illness or end-of-life issues. This intense emotional labor can lead to a sense of detachment or compassion fatigue, undermining the counselors capacity to provide empathy and support. Additionally, spiritual burnout complicates matters, particularly in faith-based contexts, where practitioners may feel a heavy burden to embody and promote spiritual ideals. As noted in a phenomenological study, counselors working with clients facing life-threatening conditions utilize strategies for psychological safety, such as setting boundaries and harnessing community support, to mitigate these effects (Ducaine et al., 2017). Furthermore, the study observes that the transition from crisis to holistic wellness fosters a newfound awareness that can revitalize a counselors practice (Reyes et al., 2020). Ultimately, recognizing and addressing these burnout challenges is crucial for sustaining both the counselors vocation and the well-being of their clients.

A.    Recognizing signs of burnout in counselors

The impact of burnout on counselors, particularly in Christian contexts, is a pressing issue that warrants careful attention. Counselors often exhibit signs of emotional fatigue, decreased job satisfaction, and a sense of disconnection from their spiritual and professional missions. For example, as indicated in recent studies, many school counselors report work-related stress as their primary concern, with a significant number citing a low-moderate level of stress on standardized scales (PSS-10) (cite26). This emotional toll can stem from unrealistic expectations, insufficient self-care practices, and performing roles that conflict with their core responsibilities. Symptoms of burnout may manifest as irritability, reduced empathy for clients, or a growing sense of hopelessness, ultimately diminishing their effectiveness as helpers. Addressing these indicators through proactive self-care and support systems is crucial in maintaining the well-being of counselors and preserving their ability to serve faithfully and effectively in their roles.

B.    The impact of emotional labor on personal faith

The demands placed on Christian counselors necessitate a profound engagement with emotional labor, significantly impacting their personal faith. This emotional labor often involves managing and regulating emotions to meet the needs of clients, which can lead to feelings of compassion fatigue and burnout. Studies note that rates of these conditions among mental health professionals can reach as high as 83%, particularly when the resources essential for emotional resilience are lacking ((Baker et al., 2024)). For counselors who view their work as an expression of their faith, this struggle can create a tumultuous internal conflict. The tendency to equate emotional struggles with a lack of faith may further exacerbate their challenges, leading to a crisis of belief ((Law et al., 2024)). Ultimately, the interplay between their professional responsibilities and spiritual commitments necessitates a reevaluation of self-care practices, aiming to fortify their faith while navigating the complexities of emotional labor in counseling.

C.    Strategies for self-care and maintaining spiritual health

To effectively manage their demanding roles, Christian counselors must prioritize self-care and nurture their spiritual health. One effective strategy is the implementation of holistic practices that encompass physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Engaging in regular exercise, maintaining a balanced diet, and cultivating mindfulness can significantly enhance overall wellness, allowing counselors to better serve their clients. Additionally, fostering a strong community of support is crucial; engaging with peers and mentors provides a network where counselors can share experiences and alleviate feelings of isolation or stress, as underscored in the findings of (Reyes et al., 2020). It is also essential for counselors to boldly address and overcome perfectionism, a prevalent challenge that can impede their efficacy and satisfaction in their roles. By navigating these self-care strategies, and drawing strength from their faith, counselors can maintain their spiritual health while managing the complexities of their profession, as highlighted by (Ramos et al., 2023).

V.  Conclusion

Navigating the complexities of Christian counseling poses numerous challenges that practitioners must address to provide effective support to their clients. Central to this endeavor is the counselors ability to foster an open, empathetic environment where clients feel comfortable discussing their struggles, including emotional issues that may stem from societal pressures or personal faith. As evidenced by Lens initial apprehension in seeking help, many clients specifically prefer Christian counselors due to a shared belief system (McMinn et al., 1991). Furthermore, as classrooms are becoming increasingly diverse, it is critical for counselors to recognize the unique backgrounds and experiences of their clients, mirroring the challenges faced in educational settings (Espinor et al., 2011). In conclusion, for Christian counselors to thrive, they must continuously adapt to their clients evolving needs, incorporating cultural awareness and sensitivity while maintaining a strong foundation in their faith-based practices. This holistic approach can lead to more meaningful therapeutic outcomes for a diverse clientele.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals

A.    Summary of the challenges discussed

In examining the various challenges faced by Christian counselors, a multifaceted landscape emerges. Counselors often grapple with clients resistance to faith-based approaches, fearing that their spiritual beliefs may conflict with therapeutic practices. This resistance can hinder open communication and trust, essential components of effective counseling. Furthermore, the stigma surrounding mental health within certain religious communities complicates the counselors role, as they may face skepticism or hostility when addressing psychological issues. Compounding these challenges, there is a notable lack of resources tailored specifically to Christian counseling, limiting professionals in their ability to provide comprehensive care. Additionally, balancing professional ethics with personal beliefs can lead to internal conflict and stress for counselors, affecting their overall effectiveness in session. Addressing these obstacles is crucial for enhancing the counseling experience for both practitioners and clients, ultimately leading to improved mental health outcomes in faith-based contexts.

B.    The importance of ongoing education and support for counselors

Counseling is a dynamic field that requires practitioners to continually adapt and grow, emphasizing the necessity of ongoing education and support. As society evolves, the challenges faced by counselors also shift, particularly within the Christian community, where practitioners must navigate the intricate and often conflicting dynamics between faith and psychological health. This raises critical questions about how counselors can effectively integrate these two domains to provide holistic support. Without continual professional development, counselors may find themselves ill-equipped to tackle emerging issues, such as shifts in cultural attitudes towards mental health or the introduction of new therapeutic techniques. Research indicates that nearly all new educators face obstacles in their initial years, paralleling the unique stresses that counselors encounter, which highlight the importance of additional resources and training ((Arnett-Hartwick et al., 2019)). Furthermore, while seminaries may provide a solid foundation in critical skills, many graduates express feeling inadequately prepared for the complexities of pastoral care, which is essential for effective counseling ((Hughes et al., 2015)). Therefore, establishing robust support systems that include regular training and mentorship opportunities becomes not just beneficial but necessary. This proactive approach not only enhances the effectiveness and resilience of counselors but also ensures that they can respond to the evolving needs of those they serve, ultimately fostering a more supportive and informed community.

AIHCP not only offers a certification in Christian Counseling but also offers a variety of CE courses and continuing education that can be utilized by Christian Counselors to enhance their career and education.

C.    Encouragement for Christian counselors to seek community and resources

In the demanding field of Christian counseling, the journey can often feel isolating; however, seeking out community and resources is crucial for both personal and professional growth. Engaging with fellow counselors allows for the exchange of ideas, support during challenging cases, and the sharing of best practices that can enhance therapeutic effectiveness. Additionally, various resources—such as workshops, online forums, and mentorship programs—can provide counselors with new tools and perspectives that enrich their practice. The act of connecting with others not only mitigates feelings of loneliness but also fosters a stronger sense of purpose rooted in shared values and beliefs. Ultimately, by actively pursuing community and utilizing available resources, Christian counselors can cultivate resilience, maintain their mental well-being, and strengthen their ability to serve others with compassion and clarity. This proactive approach not only benefits the counselors themselves but enhances the care they provide to their clients.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.

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Christian Counseling through the Noise of the World

Posted on by Mark Moran

The allure of the world in the fallen and temporal reality that humanity exists is an illusion or mirage in the desert.  As pilgrims in this fallen world, our senses are dulled, our will distracted, and our eyes sometimes blinded towards truth and beauty.  The inherited broken nature from Adam hinders our ability to sometimes distinguish right from wrong.   According to St. Thomas Aquinas, the concupiscible appetite of humanity’s fallen nature is associated with initial desires of the senses.  Unlike Adam prior, humanity lost perfect control of the passions after Adam’s fall.  The end result is humanity’s appeal to these senses which can in some cases be good but in other cases bad.  Hence illusionary goods that are immorally distasteful but physically pleasing can blind humanity.  In addition, the broken human nature not only sees illusion in the near and present but also abstract and secondary goods.  Greed, power, status and worship become end goals leading multiple individuals down a dark path.

 

Filtering out the noise and finding peace in prayer leads to ultimate happiness.

The conscience always seeks good.  In that our human nature is not totally devastated but the conscience while perceiving a goal as good does not always objectively choose correctly.  Hence the illusion that can exist even within those with good intentions.  Individuals can become so distracted by the noises of the world that they can lose sight of the truth and reality.  Before Christ and His ultimate sacrifice on the cross, our broken natures were left without grace, but through the cross, Christ grants grace and guidance to His creation.  This can help humanity see the noise, uncover the illusions, and focus more solely on truth.   Christian Counselors, ministers, priests, clergy, and other ministry based vocations can help individuals see truth.  Like Paul, we sometimes need the scales removed from our eyes to see before we can truly flourish.

The Noises of the World

St Teresa of Avila in her masterpiece “The Interior Castle” guides the soul through the world to deeper connections or castles with God.  The first castles are very much consumed by the world. Outside of the castle exists the world and those who are flooded with false illusions. Once one understands the inherent malfunction of this world and understands the need of God, one is able to enter into the first castle, the entry room with God.  This exist from the world of illusion into the world of reality though is nevertheless filled with noise that exists outside.  The noises can pull one back and forth from truth and reality to untruth and illusion.  The broken conscience and will seek the world but the intellect and mind through the grace of the Holy Spirit invite it to truth.  This tug of war between the the world and God exists according to St Teresa throughout the first three mansions before the soul can become more stable.  Christian Counselors primarily work with individuals in these sincere but still incomplete relationships with God.  Where vice and virtue, right and wrong and truth and illusion pull at clients or spiritual children.

While the world, while marred by Original Sin, is broken, it is still beautiful.  Unlike Manichean views that draw a dichotomy between the world/evil with the spiritual/good, Christian theology still sees the temporal world as still retaining goodness since it was created by God.  Even our fallen human nature, still retains beauty for it is not totally corrupted.  Christ became human, lived among humanity, existed within the temporal world, highlighted its beauty but also pointed out its noises and imperfections.   So, while broken, nothing is totally destroyed.  Not all noises of the world are evil.  In Christian Counseling, it is hence important to help guide individuals through these noises, labeling them and better understanding them.

In creating a hierarch to judge the noises of the world as good, bad, or neutral, one needs two fundamental measurements.  First, and foremost, do noises distract from the ultimate purpose of existence to know, love and serve God?  Our primary goal in life is always spiritual.  The ultimate end is always God.  Things that lead to another end are noises within the world that are not good but inherently evil.  Do the noises or actions from those noises correlate with God’s Law or violate it?  Do they even if neutral seem to distract one from God?  Secondly, some noises of the world can be more difficult to discern.  Discernment involves deep spiritual prayer and reflection upon choices.  What are the fruits of certain actions?  Are they, as St. Ignatius Loyola point out, lead to the banner of Satan and the world, or under the banner of Christ?  So noises can be difficult sometimes to discern and it is important to be able to discern what ultimately leads to God and not away from Him.  So, noises within the world can be good, neutral or bad.  So, we will look at some of these noises and try to better understand their role in our existence.  As temporal beings, these noises although not always tied to our ultimate end are still nonetheless sometime very important.  In addition, as we will see, some noises are also completely un-necessary but allow them to enter and destroy our peace.

Good Noises

As physical beings, we have physical needs and the good noises of the world meets those needs.  Pieces of heaven pierce through the veil that separates and gives sunshine to the broken nature of things in temporal reality.  Things that are physical but also connected to higher values such as love will exist here and in the next world.  A beloved family member, friend, or even pet, is more than a temporal bond but a bond that is beautiful on earth and heaven.  The noises of the world that call one to serve one’s fellow brother or sister are good noises.  Seeing Christ in other human beings and being called to the temporal needs of others in this world are good noises.  They do not distract but are means to the end.  Unfortunately because we exist in a fallen world, happiness associated with our loved ones ultimately ends in suffering because of death and loss but these connections are re-made again with God in the eschatological reality which is perfect and true.  So the noises of this world that call us to special bonds and helping our neighbor are good noises that build our union with others and God.

If we offer our day to God, then all the daily duties are spiritualized as a living prayer and not a distraction from God. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

Some good noises are less binding to the next world and exist only in this world.  They are good when in balance with our spiritual needs and understood within their proper context.  Jesus who existed on earth lived as a human being and understood that existence requires not only spirituality but also physical dependence to survive.   So many noises direct oneself to temporal needs because one cannot always focus on the spiritual end.  These noises include the joys of a good meal, exercise, health, career and income which make survival possible.  Jesus within His first thirty years of life followed in His foster father’s footsteps and worked as a carpenter.   He worked, he collected income for Himself and His mother, and existed.  Jesus also as a human person experienced joy with social communal meetings.  He ate with friends, attended parties and weddings, and experienced the goodness that exists in this dark world.

In many ways, good noises are healthy.  We have duties and obligations.  We cannot always contemplate the mysteries of God but must make a living, or prepare a meal, or sweep the house, or attend a friend’s wedding, or enjoy a song or movie, or go on a vacation!  Jesus understands this because He is also one of us.  The good noise does not take away from God but focuses one on the daily duty ahead that is required in this important phase of our existence.  What Jesus did not do though is turn these good noises into distractions to primary duty.  When secondary duties consume, or events take away from God, that are not inherently bad, but in some cases good or neutral, then they can become corrupted.  When one allows temporal activities to become an obsession over duty to God, then they can become detrimental.  Jesus never put prayer second to anything.  He also corrected Martha, when Mary focused on worship, while Martha was more concerned about preparing the house or serving the guests.  Martha was not distracted by a bad thing to do, but it was her timing that Jesus corrected in regards to duty to first Himself as God, and then later temporal duties.  This is why good noises must always be tied to God.  One cannot focus on God every minute, but one can in the morning offer all duties and obligations to God as prayer.  St Theresa the Little Flower would turn a simple action as sweeping the convent floor into an act of love by giving her daily duty to God.  In this way, one can spiritualize the temporal duties and vocations one may have at home, work, or school and turn them into living prayers.

Now obviously, some urges are neutral noises.  Hunger, fatigue, even sickness, can distract one from God, but again God understands when hunger or fatigue affects prayer.  He understands when basic human needs push one to focus on those needs.  Jesus endured all the basic human needs we do but as God was also able to teach us how to offer up those needs when suffering or upset or hungry.  These minor neutral and natural distractions are noises that can distract from prayer but when offered up can become powerful tools for growth in grace.  Our most beautiful prayer may be our least focused due to pain or hunger, but the effort to still say it, is most pleasing to God.

Bad Noises

Bad noises in the world are inherently evil noises of the world or neutral or initially good noises that are imbalanced or lead to distraction from the spiritual.   If someone is working for his or her family with long hours or attending events with family and friends, this is good or neutral within itself, but if this causes neglect of prayer life or leads one to miss spiritual obligations then it becomes a distraction.  If a sporting events prevents spiritual obligations that are due to God to become unmet, then the sporting event, while good or neutral, becomes in this particular case a bad and distracting noise.  When one creates an imbalance on earthly duties or leisure events at the expense of God then God is put second and the this particular noise steals from God and distracts one from one’s duty to the ultimate end.  It is important to have a hierarchy of needs within one’s life.  Spiritual needs should always exist on the top of the list.  When spiritual needs are neglected, these noises create spiritual sloth.  This in turn creates laziness and imbalance.  Imagine if one neglected teeth hygiene but over focused on skin hygiene.  Hence we need to balance and meet all human needs from mind, body and soul.  Obviously the soul should be at the top of the list, but when other things take away from the soul, then the soul suffers.  This type of neglect or spiritual sloth occurs because of outside noises that are inherently good or neutral but distort balance and lead to spiritual sloth.  One must identify what is most important and also find balance to ensure the ultimate end is not neglected.

Of course, some noises are inherently bad.  Sins and vice not only distract one from God, but also call us away from God and harm the soul.  They damage the soul and replace virtue and good habit with vice and bad habit.  They become the illusions that present themselves as good options and look to replace God as our new idol.  These bad noises pull and drag us from the first mansion of union with God and dump us again in the cold barren world.   The bad noises of the world are very loud.  They fall under the banner of the world and Satan and make false promises.  They are cheap thrills and pleasures that ultimately lead to no long term happiness but only brokenness.  Like the Sirens of ancient Greek mythology, they lure wayward sailors to impending doom.

It is important to discern the bad noises from the good noises and fight temptations that lead to the wrong path of life.  These noises not only distract but lead to alienation from God and entrap the soul into the follies of the world.  As Christian Counselors, we must try to help individuals escape the mire and mud of the bad noises that sometimes refuse to release.  That involves identifying the true nature of these noises but also ways to help form new and better habits.  As Christians, we can at any moment make a poor decision.  We can not only become distracted by inherently neutral or good things but also fall victim to a bad noise.  When this happens, we will feel guilt and sorrow, however, we are not perfect, nor claim it, but acknowledge our broken nature and dependence upon Christ and the grace of the Holy Spirit to seek forgiveness.    So, while some may be entrapped by bad noises constantly, Christian Counselors, pastors, priests, as well as anyone in ministry should be aware that there are many who slip on the trail from time to time and need an encouraging word to get back up.   Within Catholicism, confession exists, but for those within other denominations of Christianity, counseling and words of love can be very helpful.  Ultimately God forgives everyone who slips.  The Church is comprised of sinners. We cannot escape it, so if distracted, we must sometimes acknowledge our brokenness with humility and seek forgiveness and refocus on becoming closer to God.

Helping Christians Through Un-necessary Noises

Understanding what noises are both good and bad is an important first step but there is more sometimes in finding true balance in life.  The first point is to be spiritual first.  This involves the moment one wakes up, offering the entire day to God.  Spiritualizing the daily duty and offering to God through Christ sets the tone for the day.  Furthermore, the evening and night should end with thanksgiving.

So much anxiety and lack of peace comes from un-necessary noise. This not only distracts from God but also causes inner turmoil

As spiritual beings, it is important that the spiritual end with God comes first in life.  Hence, even good noises, need to find placement second to spiritual obligations throughout the week.  There is an abundance of opportunities throughout churches not to forgo spiritual obligation for secular event.  God asks for one hour a week.

Christian Counselors can help individuals better plan times and find better management for spiritual hygiene.  Clergy can help people understand the best ways to implement prayer on the go during busy schedules.  One can fulfill daily temporal duties and still worship God and find time for God.  This may involve also properly balancing time.  Idle time on chat, social media, or tv can be moderated if in excess.  When these simple neutral noises become so loud that they dominate a larger part of the day at the expense of daily duty as well as spiritual duty, then one needs to step aside and re-evaluate priorities and possible addictions.  Christian Counselors, pastors, and clergy can help individuals better time manage and also balance life in regards to social distractions not in moderation.

The peace that comes with time with God can better adjust attitudes and emotions that are soiled by the constant useless idle addiction to the world.  The irritations of the world cannot only make one bitter but they can also distract one from God, while focusing on useless and meaningless trivial issues on social media, or what someone is doing or not doing.  Prayer refocuses and filters out the unnecessary noises.  I think that is another good adjective for noise beyond good, neutral and bad.  The temporal world thrusts many necessary but also many un-necessary noises on individuals that dominate their day and distract them from what is important not only spiritually but also temporarily.   These distractions cause frustrations at the emotional level causing unneeded stress and bitterness for many things that do no even involve a person.  The news, politics, or what someone said on a social media outlet that you will never meet can all cause unneeded anger and frustration that un-necessarily dominates the day and most negatively steals peace for oneself and prayer towards God.  So, it is important to take inventory of time management on fruitless endeavors and meaningless and un-necessary noise that steals peace but also distracts one from God.

Conclusion

Give everything to Christ and not worry. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

We are pilgrims in a fallen world.  We ourselves are broken through Original Sin but through the graces obtained by Christ on the cross and administered by the Holy Spirit, we can walk through this temporal world.  While broken, the world itself is not completed corrupted and through the example of Christ, we can see the importance of merely existing in it and offering everything to God.  It is important however for us while existing to understand the ultimate end which is God.  Through a morning offering, we can spiritualize our daily lives and instead of them becoming distractions allow them to become living prayers.  Yet, we can sometimes be tugged by distractions and noises of the world and must find balance and priority with God.  There are many good or neutral noises that are necessary but when they become first over God then they become big issues.  Of course there are also bad noises that are inherently evil within themselves and we must try as hard as we can to limit these mistakes in life.  Our goal is to live in this world, as Christ did, but to also to focus on the next.  Christ is out ultimate example as both God and Man to filter through the noises of the world, discern them and offer them to God, while existing here but also hoping for there.

AIHCP offers a Christian Counseling Certification for behavioral health or human service professionals or those in ministry who wish to help counsel others to Christ.  The program is online and independent study and helps equip the student with the necessary knowledge and abilities to help individuals find God.  Please review the program and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.

 

 

 

 

Additional Resources

“Understanding ‘The Interior Castle’ by St. Teresa of Ávila”. Root Classics.  Access here

“Ignatian Discernment”. Office of Ignatian Spirituality”.  Access here

Blevins, K. (2020). “What Is the Sin of Sloth and Why Is it Worse than Laziness?”. Crosswalk. Access here

Vannoy, C. (2021). “How to Stay Spiritually Focused in a Distracted World”. Life Way Voices.  Access here

 

Christian Counseling and Use of Time Video Blog

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

God expects us to be good stewards of all gifts and time is one of them.  In the Parable of the Talents, Jesus speaks of the anger of the master over the servant who did little with the talents and buried them.  Hence as Christians, we are called to share our gifts and cultivate them.  When sloth enters into the equation, one wastes time and squanders chances to better oneself on multiple levels.  We have many different responsibilities in life and a true vocation.  We need to live each day and fulfill daily duties.  By giving God each day, we are better able to fulfill our many duties.

Time management is a key that can also help individuals better balance work, school, family, responsibilities and leisure.  At the center must be time for prayer and God to properly direct our energies to where they need to go.  Morning Offerings to God help dedicate each day to God and help us focus our energy to Him.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.

 

Christian Counseling and Qualities of a Christian Marriage

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God created marriage as a bond between man and woman.   He blessed the ideal in Eden with Adam and Eve and Jesus Christ further blessed it at Cana.  It is hence a sacred institution.  In marriage, the unity of the Trinity is reflected in the deep love between man and woman during the conjugal act with the creation of child; One love but three persons.   When marriage is defiled, then God’s plan is defiled.  Divorce, infidelity and disrespect of spouses degrade and reject the Divine plan of love found in the sacred vow.

Maintaining a healthy relationship that includes mutual respect is necessary for a healthy marriage.  The sacred vocation and vow requires effort and respect on part of both the husband and wife.  Yet like all relationships, a life long commitment can be difficult especially in modern society and its throw away mentality.  Instead of fixing things, modern society looks to replace.  Unfortunately, marriage is treated the same way.

Keeping something pure and maintaining it takes time, commitment and effort.  It is critical for spouses to work with each other as a team towards a common end but it also involves mutual respect and handling anger, crisis, division, loss, and pain.  The grace of the Sacrament of Matrimony fueled by the Holy Spirit can help couples reach this difficult goal but it takes prayer and a constant effort of consecrating one’s marriage to Christ.  Christian Counselors, Pastors, Marriage Counselors and other therapists can help guide couples to a long and fulfilling marriage but many couples need additional help in identifying issues and conflict resolution.  In identifying key aspects of a healthy relationship, the article, “Counseling Tips For A Healthy Relationship” by Henry Smith identifies four key elements.  Smith points out respect, encouragement, listening and goodness to each other as key points.  Regarding respect, he states,

“Respect between partners is an essential aspect of any healthy Christian marriage. Christian marriage counseling can provide valuable tips and advice on cultivating and maintaining respect. One important tip is always to consider each other’s feelings and emotions. Couples should open up lines of communication with one another, ask questions respectfully, be actively empathetic to each other’s points and perspectives, work together on issues, and trust each other’s judgment. ”

“Counseling Tips For A Healthy Relationship”. Henry Smith. March 22nd, 2023. TechBullion

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Obviously within Christian marriage, the first key is identifying the permanence of the institution.  Individuals who are prepared in Pre-Cana or other Church services in marriage preparation can help individuals cherish their vow and the sacred nature of it.  Secondly, Christian Counselors, Pastors and Marriage Counselors need to reinforce the illustration of Christ and the Church as a symbolic example of husband and wife.  The husband loves his wife, as Christ loves the Church, even unto death, and the wife is obedient and respectful to the husband, as the Church is to Christ.  With such a connection and mutual relationship, neither ever crosses any lines in regards to dominance, abuse, or ridicule.  This creates a perfect harmony.

The fruits of a good relationship are children, stability, good example, fostering of the faith and glorification of God through one’s vocation.  The union, even if children are never conceived, still provide the couple with intimacy, love, support and unity with each other.

One learns that all love, whether romantic, or that of family or friends is a love that is selfless.  Love is hence patient and giving and exists for the happiness of the other.  Love in marriage is no different.  Love never fades but remains a constant.  In looking to fulfill a more perfect marriage, couples need to look no farther than the love of St Joseph and Holy Mary.  The Holy Family is the perfect example of love.  St Joseph remains a role model for all husbands and fathers and Holy Mary remains a role model for all wives and mothers.

The Holy Family remains the paradigm of Christian Marriage. Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification

 

Characteristics of a Healthy Christian Marriage

A healthy Christian marriage is characterized by several key traits that are essential for building a strong and lasting relationship. These include:

Prayer

Couples need to pray together and put their relationship in the hands of Jesus and Mary and Joseph

 

A family that prayers together, stays together.  Families and marriages that center around prayer, mass or church, or prayer before meals, strengthen the family together. It further protects the family from secular and demonic sources that will look to tear the family apart.  The family as the building block of society is crucial to society’s success.  Fostering the laws of God and a prayerful life and sending that message out to the world is one of the primary vocations within marriage.   This is how the family itself becomes a discipleship and church within its own right.  Hence families that have a strong devotion to God and pray together and create great change for the world and share Christ with it.

Trust

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and Christian marriage is no exception. A husband and wife should be able to trust each other completely, knowing that they are committed to each other and to God.

Communication

Effective communication is essential for building intimacy, resolving conflicts, and making important decisions together. Husbands and wives should be able to communicate openly and honestly with each other, expressing their thoughts, feelings, and needs in a respectful and loving manner.

Respect

Mutual respect is crucial for maintaining a healthy Christian marriage. Husbands and wives should treat each other with dignity, honor, and kindness, recognizing each other’s strengths and weaknesses and valuing each other’s opinions and perspectives.

Love

Love is the hallmark of a healthy Christian marriage. Husbands and wives should show love to each other in tangible ways, such as acts of service, quality time, and physical affection. They should also be committed to loving each other unconditionally, even in the face of challenges and difficulties.

Communication in a Christian Marriage

Communication and intimacy are crucial to a Christian marriage

 

Communication is one of the most critical aspects of a healthy Christian marriage. Effective communication involves more than just talking and listening. It requires a willingness to understand each other’s perspectives, feelings, and needs, and a commitment to resolving conflicts in a loving and respectful manner.

One of the keys to effective communication in a Christian marriage is to create a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel heard and valued. This involves setting aside time for regular communication, listening attentively to each other, and avoiding criticism and defensiveness.

Another essential aspect of communication in a Christian marriage is prayer. Praying together can deepen intimacy, foster spiritual growth, and provide a sense of unity and purpose. It is also an opportunity to seek God’s guidance and wisdom in the decisions and challenges of life.

Financial Management in a Christian Marriage

Financial management is another critical aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. Money can be a significant source of conflict and stress in any relationship, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and stewardship.

One of the keys to financial management in a Christian marriage is to establish a shared vision and goals for money. This involves setting a budget, saving for the future, and giving generously to others. It also involves being transparent and accountable with each other about finances, avoiding debt, and making wise investments.

Another essential aspect of financial management in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and provision. Trusting in God’s provision can help reduce anxiety and stress about money and free up resources for more meaningful pursuits.

Conflict Resolution in a Christian Marriage

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, including Christian marriage. However, how couples handle conflict can make all the difference in the health and longevity of their relationship.

One of the keys to conflict resolution in a Christian marriage is to approach conflicts with a spirit of humility and grace. This involves seeking to understand each other’s perspectives, acknowledging each other’s feelings, and working together to find a solution that honors God and each other.

Another essential aspect of conflict resolution in a Christian marriage is forgiveness. Forgiveness involves letting go of past hurts, extending grace to each other, and seeking reconciliation and restoration. It is a powerful tool for healing and strengthening relationships.

Intimacy in a Christian Marriage

Intimacy is a vital aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. It involves more than just physical intimacy but also emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy. Intimacy is a gift from God that is intended to be enjoyed and celebrated within the context of marriage.

One of the keys to intimacy in a Christian marriage is to prioritize time together. This involves setting aside time for regular date nights, weekend getaways, and other activities that promote closeness and connection.

Another essential aspect of intimacy in a Christian marriage is to be intentional about meeting each other’s needs. This involves being attentive to each other’s love languages, expressing physical affection, and creating a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel valued and cherished.

Roles and Responsibilities in a Christian Marriage

Roles and responsibilities are an essential aspect of a healthy Christian marriage. They provide structure, order, and clarity to the relationship and help each partner to fulfill their God-given purpose and calling.

One of the keys to roles and responsibilities in a Christian marriage is to understand and embrace each other’s unique strengths and gifts. This involves recognizing and respecting each other’s differences and working together to achieve common goals.

Another essential aspect of roles and responsibilities in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and wisdom. Praying together, studying God’s Word, and seeking the counsel of wise mentors can help couples discern their roles and responsibilities and fulfill them with joy and purpose.

Challenges and Solutions in a Christian Marriage

Marriage is permanent and a sacred vow before God. Christian marriage must emulate the Trinity in love

 

Christian marriage is not without its challenges. Couples may face a variety of issues, such as infidelity, addiction, infertility, and conflict with in-laws. However, with God’s help, these challenges can be overcome, and the marriage can become even stronger and more beautiful.

One of the keys to overcoming challenges in a Christian marriage is to seek God’s guidance and provision. Prayer, Bible study, and fellowship with other believers can provide comfort, wisdom, and support during difficult times.

Another essential aspect of overcoming challenges in a Christian marriage is to seek professional help when needed. Christian counselors, pastors, and mentors can provide guidance, accountability, and practical tools for addressing specific issues and building a stronger marriage.

Conclusion: Striving for a Healthy and Godly Christian Marriage

In conclusion, a healthy Christian marriage is a beautiful and powerful testimony to God’s love and grace. It is built on a foundation of trust, communication, respect, and love, and reflects the image of Christ and the church. By following biblical principles and seeking God’s guidance, couples can build a marriage that honors God and fulfills their purpose and calling. May we all strive for healthy and godly Christian marriages that bring glory to God and bless our families and communities.

Christian Counselors can  help couples find solutions and joy in their marriage.  Christian Counselors usually are pastors or spiritual directors with an understanding of applying Christian and Biblical principles to real world problems.  Christian Counselors can hence bring God back into someone’s marriage.  Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.

Additional Resources

“The 7 Commandments of Christian Marriage”. Ron Edmondson.  March 20th, 2019.  Crosswalk.  Access here

“7 Important Responsibilities of a Christian Wife”. Lesli White. Beliefnet. Access here

“7 Marks of a Godly Husband”. Lesli White. Beliefnet. Access here

“Practical and Biblical Christian Marriage Advice”. Mary Fairchild.  April 29th, 2019. Learn Religions.  Access here

Counseling through Church Corruption

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

Many Christians lose their faith because of scandal and abuse in the Church.  Those of high standing and public view hold a far greater responsibility before Christ to live by a code of good moral conduct.  Hierarchy, pastors, priests, leaders and counselors need to represent the best the faith has to offer but unfortunately on many occasions, they fail to display those standards.  As human beings, anyone is subject to error, mistakes and sin, and one cannot judge others short comings but when the face of the faith is on display, these individuals should be examples of virtue not vice.

The Church as the Bride of Christ can be seen in two ways.  From a spiritual sense and metaphorical sense, the Church is perfect.  The Church is inspired and fueled by the grace of the Holy Spirit.  It is protected and guaranteed through the words of Christ that the “gates of Hell shall not prevail against it”.  Yet, it is also a Church that exists on Earth.  The Church Militant on Earth is comprised of sinners and imperfect beings.  The Church on Earth is comprised of sinners for sinners.  It is a society of saints and sinners and everything else in between.

Due to Church corruption, many leave the faith and never return

 

Some of the worst human beings bore the name Christian at one time, while some of most saintly persons professed the faith with equal vigor and love for Christ.  Yet the Church at times fails throughout history.  It always finds a way, through the Holy Spirit, to find reform, but it shows the reality of human beings and the temporal world.  Satan looks to destroy the Church from without but finds special delight in corrupting it from within in his attempt to capture souls.

Divine and Human Institution on Earth

It is important to realize that the Church is founded by Christ.  It is energized and fueled by the grace of the Holy Spirit.  Its foundation is the blood of Christ.  In this, it is Divine.  Although, it always exists as the Church Triumphant in Heaven, it also exists albeit imperfectly as the Church Militant.  The word militant is fitting.  On Earth, the Church is an constant war with the evil one for souls.   The Church as the face of Christ on Earth, looks to bring truth and the Gospel to nations, but within this war, Satan looks to destroy and corrupt it.  He can never truly corrupt the faith itself, but he can distort it and corrupt individuals who profess it but ultimately, he can never prevail.

The Church as a human institution on Earth consists of the baptized who become part of the Mystical Body of Christ.  As a human institution, it possesses human qualities.  The Church possess a human organization of things. It is structured to deal with human issues in a fallen world.  It is made of imperfect people trying their best to preach the Gospel.  In this as a human institution, people can make mistakes.  Individuals can disagree, splinter and divide.  Through Satan’s cunning, the Church itself is divided into Catholic, Orthodox and Protestant pathways.  The Great Schism between East and West and the Protestant Reformation are all glaring examples of the human side of the Church.  It shows the division and hate that can be utilized between brothers and sisters of Christ.

Church Corruption

The history of the Church Militant is beyond mere grievances but also horrible atrocities and corruptions.  Many evil church leaders used the Church and Faith as a way to galvanize the people against others.  Horrible crimes against Jews spread throughout Europe since the Middle Ages.  Others through the Inquisition, executed heretics or other Christians who viewed aspects of the faith differently.  Witch hunts in Europe and America sought the death of so many women.   In times of war, the image of Christian nationalism was invoked.  Propaganda through Christ to commit the most un-Christlike crimes were authorized in the Wars of Religion which scarred Europe between Catholics and Protestants.  In all probability, like the Pharisees before them, these type of “Christians” would have also crucified Christ if He spoke against them.

Beyond atrocities, corruption within the institution of the Church have also been rampant throughout history.  Religious offices for sale, or religious leaders fighting for power and wealth within a religious institution have occurred throughout history.  The Papacy during the Dark Ages and Renaissance Periods was one of the most corrupt offices in Europe.  The Popes of his era behaved more like princes and war lords resorting to killing and bribing for office.  Many scandals involved mistresses and various worldly pleasures over the austere life and love of the poor demanded by Peter and his successors. One can still witness today these scandals within the Church but also so-called Mega-Churches where “men of God” are later found to funnel money or have side mistresses at their call.

The misuse of religion for war, greed and political power has occurred throughout the history of the Church

 

The most grievous offense is seen today as well with the corruption of the priesthood in the Catholic Church.  In the Latin and Western Church, this offense spread through the seminaries and led to various pedophile priests preying upon children.  To make matters worst, Bishops downplayed or hid these corruptions for fear of marring the image of the Church and their power and office.  Bearing in mind that the percentage of bad to good priest was nonetheless low, the damage still was in the thousands to numerous young children forever traumatized by these evil men posing as pastors.  Again, the most unforgivable element was the cover up and fear of loss of power, prestige and money over the care of souls.

Role of Heresy

Satan also looks to corrupt the human side of the Church through corruption of doctrine.  Many “isms’ counter to the teachings of Christ, claiming to be Christian, have emerged from within Christian communities.  Many heresies have dealt with the nature of Jesus Christ as both God and man.  Other heresies deal with other doctrinal issues that deviate from Scripture, Church Councils, or teachings from the Apostle’s Creed.

While free will is essential, corruption of the soul through false teaching is a dangerous death to the soul.   It is important to proclaim the true Gospel of Christ and warn others of false and untrue teachings.  Unfortunately, throughout the history of the Church, individuals have been cruelly tortured and executed over the matter of heresy.  Satan was able to corrupt even the defense of truth to violate human rights.  This is an extreme that can never be taken.  In defense of truth, Christians are called to correct others without judgement and hate but only with love and compassion.  The moment forceful conversion and change is exhibited upon another human being, one commits an even greater sin that any heresy can hope to become.

The Inquisition and Wars of Religion all showed the dark side of justified opinion of truth.  In defending Christ, Church authorities become the most un-Christlike.  It is hence important to live a truthful life to the doctrine of Christ but also a respectful life of the views of others.  Christian charity demands defense of the truth but in such a gentle way it is seen as love and exhibited more through good example.

Reactions to Corruption

Christian Counselors will see many  individual reactions to this type of corruption within the Church.  Many victims of abuse especially will have anger and hate in their hearts.  This type of scandal destroys faith and turns many away from the Church.  This scandal is a great scar on the Church and Christ will certainly proclaim justice over the evil, but in the meantime, the faithful and laity face uncertain times.  Many suspect leadership, others abandon services or Mass, others utterly walk away from the institution.

The biggest problem is many associate the sins of humanity within the Church with the Faith itself.  Those who proclaim the Gospel but are hypocrites turn many away from the Faith to other religions or secular life styles.  For some it may be an excuse to exercise religious laxity, but for others, who are truly mortified by the corruption, or traumatized personally, the choice to move on from the Faith is a painful and personal choice.  These individuals lose faith in Christ or any moral teachings.  This type of ad hominem view where one hates not only the messenger but also the message is a large problem in the modern Church.  Repairing these breaks will take generations.

Like Christ, we must face the hypocrites and preserve the faith despite corruption

There is yet another reaction to the corruption.  Instead of rejecting the faith, one seeks to reform it.  The seed of faith within the individual is so strong that the love of Christ and His message can never be stolen.  Instead of hating the message, these individuals look to punish the wicked.  Many work for reform within the Church and found organizations that watch those in power.  This is nothing new.  Throughout the history of the Church, reforms and counter reforms have occurred.  The grace of the Holy Spirit encourages saints of the time to rise up against the evil within the Church.  Numerous religious orders and movements have existed within the Church which have turned against the corruption.  Orders have revitalized spirituality within the world through their example and preaching.   Individual reformers from the local level to the global level throughout the history of the Church have also risen to reform institutions.  Great councils of the Church have been called and reformed evil practices and corrected false ideas.

Proper Guidance

Church leaders need to address corruption within the faith, whether thousands of years ago or yesterday.  One should not deify the Church or condemn the Faith, but one cannot put one’s head into the sand and ignore historical realities.  In understanding that many evil individuals have sabotaged the Church in the past, then only then can one find ways to prevent future sabotage.   Good Christians should never allow the face of Christ to become nationalized, or used for secular propaganda and should hold individuals accountable for their crimes and sacrilege.

It is hence important for Church leaders to apologize for past errors and offer reparations for these sins.  The hierarchy needs to realize that while its purpose is to teach it can also learn from the laity.  While the ministers teach and lead, they must also acknowledge their own weaknesses and seek mutual guidance when in doubt.  While authority is God given by Christ, one must be accountable for that authority.  Hence Church leaders must acknowledge short comings, expose corruption and hold themselves accountable to God and their flock.  In lieu of Christ, the Good Shepard, the ministers, priests and bishops hold a high standard to Him.  It is a fearful position to hold and they should recognize this grave responsibility in correlation with their own salvation.

Christian Counselors can help others through this abuse and corruption by explaining that the Church is both human and divine and laying down the differences in these two paradigms.  Christian Counselors can also help others find justice and healing of trauma.   Counselors need to address trauma, condemn the action and individuals but also re-direct the justified anger to the corrupters not the message of the Faith itself.  Those who corrupt the faith cause so much scandal and pain, but one cannot allow them to also steal one’s treasured faith.  Instead, one should fight for their faith and like a reforming saint proclaim the Gospel and expose the wolves in sheep’s clothing.

Conclusion

The Church is both human and divine.  On Earth it is open to corruption and has been corrupted numerous occasions but Christ foretold that the gates of Hell would not prevail against it.  Individuals can reject the faith due to the hypocrisy of others or fight for its purity.

We cannot allow others to nationalize and weaponize the face of Christ

 

Every person within the Church has a particular talent and it is up to that individual to best serve the Church.  Allowing human corruption to destroy one’s faith and turn one against it is ingenious way Satan steals souls. It is hence important to hold to one’s faith, to fight corruption within the Church, and to spread the Gospel of Christ.

If you would like to learn more about Christian Counseling and helping others through trauma, then please review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification as a Christian Counselor.

Additional Resources

“Medieval Church Corruption”. June 6th, 2017. World History. Access here

“How Can We Help Victims of Clergy Abuse?”. Romeo Vitell, PhD. February 27th, 2019. Psychology Today. Access here

“Popes Behaving Badly: 8 Dreadful Papal Scandals From the Middle Ages”. Stephanie Schoppert. March 26, 2017. History Collection.  Access here

“When Religion Promotes Violence”. Andy Tix, Ph.D. January 31st, 2018. Psychology Today.  Access here

“Top 10 Heresies in the History of Christianity”. J. Patrick Hornbeck II.  October 24th, 2011. Fordham News.  Access here

 

Abraham as an Example of Obedience and Trust

Posted on by Dominick Flarey

One of the most obedient servants of God was Abraham.  As the father of nations, Abraham was held to a high standard, but God tested him.  God tested his utter obedience to the very thought of sacrificing his own son, Isaac.   While, in modern times, the whole idea of giving one’s son as a sacrifice may seem odd, this showed Abraham’s utter devotion to God.  His obedience was complete.  He did not expect answers or demand an explanation, but he obeyed God.

Of course, the image of Abraham sacrificing his son, was in fact, a pre-cursor to what God the Father Himself would offer, His only Son.  God never expects more than one can give but does He does expect trust and obedience.  From that trust and obedience, Abraham was rewarded but so was humanity.  It was God who would offer His Son as the most perfect sacrifice.  In this way, Isaac becomes a pre-figurement of Jesus Christ while Abraham becomes an example of a perfectly obedient servant.

The article, “5 Lessons We Can Learn from Abraham” by Matthew Poyer looks at the obedience of Abraham.  In his article, he points out how Abraham is obedient even till this most horrible and terrifying command.   Abraham understands the depth of sacrifice, obeys and shows important qualities in fulfilling God’s will and command. Poyer illustrates 5 lessons we can learn from Abraham in his unwavering faith and obedience to God.  The article states,

“Is there anything in your life that is a little too precious? Could you be making an idol out of something that God merely intended to be a gift in your life? Only you really know. But understand, God is always at work, molding and shaping us for His purposes. This sometimes comes by sacrifice…by testing and by trusting. When that happens, let Abraham’s example be a blueprint for your obedience. And let the Lord’s faithful sovereignty encourage you unto completion.”

“5 Lessons We Can Learn from Abraham”. Matthew Poyer.  Crosswalk.  March 2nd, 2016.

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Abraham is an example of trust and obedience to God even until the ultimate sacrifice

 

Commentary

Abraham is a figure in the Hebrew Bible who is considered by many to be the first patriarch of the Jewish people. He is also an important figure in Christianity and Islam, and is revered as a prophet in both faiths. Abraham is said to have been born in Ur of the Chaldees, and to have lived most of his life in the land of Canaan. He is known for his faithfulness to God, and for his willingness to sacrifice everything for His sake.

Abraham’s Obedience and Trust in God

The obedience of Abraham is a fascinating topic of discussion among religious scholars. On the one hand, some argue that Abraham’s obedience to God was a key factor in his being considered a righteous man. On the other hand, others argue that Abraham’s willingness to sacrifice his own son Isaac demonstrates a level of fanaticism that should not be condoned. Regardless of which interpretation one subscribes to, there is no doubt that the obedience of Abraham is a significant event in religious history.  The trust of Abraham is a common theme in religious texts. It refers to Abraham’s willingness to put his faith in God, even when it goes against his own logic or desires. This act of trust is often seen as the cornerstone of Abraham’s relationship with God, and is used as an example for believers to follow.

Abraham’s Sacrifice

The story of Abraham’s sacrifice is found in the book of Genesis, chapters 22-24. In this story, Abraham is asked by God to sacrifice his son, Isaac. Abraham does as he is asked, but at the last moment, an angel of God intervenes and tells Abraham to stop. The angel tells Abraham that because he was willing to sacrifice his son, Abraham’s obedience has been counted as righteousness.  The Old Testament figure of Isaac can be seen as a prefiguration of Christ. In Genesis, Isaac is born to Abraham and Sarah in their old age, just as Christ is born to Mary and Joseph in their old age. Isaac is also nearly sacrificed by his father Abraham, just as Christ is sacrificed on the cross. These parallels show that Isaac is a figure who points to the coming of Christ.

Christians learn from Abraham because he was the father of faith. He is someone who believed in God and followed His commands even when it was difficult. Abraham is an example of what it means to have faith and to be obedient. Christians can learn from his story how to have a strong relationship with God and how to live out their faith.

Conclusion

In conclusion, Abraham’s obedience and trust led him to be greatly blessed by God. His faithfulness was rewarded with material possessions, a great reputation, and a legacy that continues to this day. Abraham’s example shows us that if we are obedient and trust in God, we will be richly blessed as well.  God never expected a human sacrifice, but wanted to test Abraham.  Instead, we learn that God always wishes give more than He ever takes.  Instead of Isaac being sacrificed, God gave humanity His only Son, Jesu Christ.  Jesus would be the perfect sacrifice.

Christian Counselors can utilize the story of Abraham to better teach others about obedience and faith in God’s design and not to question God but to simply obey, trust and believe.  God has what is best for one.

Please also review AIHCP’s Christian Counseling Certification and see if it meets your academic and professional goals.  The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Christian Counseling.

Additional Resources

“Abraham – Walking in Faith”.  Susan Curry. Bible.org. August 28th, 2009. Access here

“Abraham’s Sacrifice According to Christianity and Islam”. Bilal Atkinson. The Review of Religions. July 9th, 2022.  Access here

“ABRAHAM’S SACRIFICE OF ISAAC EXPLAINED”. Admin. Salvation by Grace Through Faith.  April 12th, 2019. Access here

“The Ram’s Substitutionary Atonement for Isaac”. Scott LaPierre. April 16th, 2020.  Access here

Christian Counselors should emphasize the healing light on sexual abuse

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God’s grace can heal any abuse. Christian counselors need to emphasize the healing nature of God at all times

American Institute Health Care Professionals’ insight:
Allowing Christ to enter into the soul can heal many children from abuse.  The inner light can overcome any darkness.  Christian counselors need to help children find that light when needed.  Christian counselors, ministers, therapists, parents, and all adults are called to help abused children find the healing light of Christ.
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Eastern Fast and Western Fast: The Difference?

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Become a Certified Christian Counselor:  East and West Fast Differences

Christian Counselors can help many confused Christians of both East and West regarding fast rules and regulations.  Christian Counseling sessions can include a time for informative exchange of information.  One such conversation can include both Eastern and Western guidelines.

The History of Differences

Even prior to the schism of the Eleventh Century, the East and the West had begun to diverge socially from each other.  While the Eastern empire continued to prosper, the Western empire began to crumble as barbarian invasions crippled it during the Fourth and Fifth centuries.  Traditions that were once universally shared began to erode hence creating two different social and cultural traditions of Christianity.  While sharing the same faith and professing the same lord, the West began to adapt to the culture that had subdued it.   In fact, as Rome christianized the barbarians and became the only light of the dark ages, it also was changed in some ways.
The See of Peter became a secular throne as well as a spiritual one which whether for better or worst would shape the future of the papacy and its interactions with the new found kingdoms.  As these changes progressed, the church itself would become a central figure in the new culture of Western Christendom.   While there were many differences between East and West such a celebrant priesthood, the role of the pope, the filioque and other minor rules, the two churches continued to exist as one universal church.  These issues would later lead to a schism between the two heads of Rome and Constantinople.
Among the minor differences were fast rules.  The East then and as well as today, subscribed to a stricter Lenten code.  This included days of Abstinence from meat products on both Wednesday and Friday.  It also included Lent starting on Monday instead of Wednesday.  A final difference was regarding complete fast days.  The East subscribed to no dairy and meat on the first day of Lent and Good Friday.
The West would adapt to its new found converts and only enforce no meat on Friday, start Lent on Ash Wednesday and not enforce dairy on complete days of abstinence.
Since then, these rules have continued to exist in both churches.  Slight differences include Latin age requirements of 21 to 59, while Byzantine requirements are for all who can receive communion.
The Eastern Churches in union with Rome also maintained their traditions but coincide with the West in regards to the Gregorian calendar, while the Orthodox hold firm to the Julian calendar–which ultimately places Easter usually on a different day. A final difference is the East counts Sundays as part of the consequent forty days of Lent, hence the Eastern Lent ends the Friday before Good Friday, but Holy Week still involves fasting as a separate period of purification.  The West counts its Lent to the day prior to Good Friday and recently included Good Friday into the Easter Tridiuum till Easter Vigil.  All fasts are still imposed the final three days.
Whether Eastern or Western, Catholic or Orthodox, or Catholic or Protestant, all can agree sacrifices and offerings to God as a universal whole are important.  This Lent, no matter what rules or regulations bind us in charity, let us all offer together to God remorse for our sins and thanksgiving for the sacrifice of his Son.
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Mark Moran, MA