Pastoral Care: Burnout

Pastoral Care and Burnout

Pastoral Caregivers seek out to help the least of their brethren but sometimes they forget their own health in the process
Pastoral Caregivers seek out to help the least of their brethren but sometimes they forget their own health in the process

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So many times, Pastoral Care can lead to burnout for ministers and other caregivers who attend to the mind, body and spirit of others.    Just like any field, stress can lead to burnout.  In the pastoral thanatology field many depend on the counselor to help them.   Try following this article to help you if you are feeling burnt out.

Paul Vitello of the NY Times writes about pastoral burnout and the importance of relaxation for pastoral care givers in his article “Taking a Break From the Lord’s Work”

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Who Cares About the Pastoral Caregivers?

Pastoral Care for the One Who Cares the Most

The vocation and task of care usually falls to the spouse who then becomes the primary caregiver
The vocation and task of care usually falls to the spouse who then becomes the primary caregiver
My grandmother cared tirelessly for my grandfather and as his health gradually deterioated he became more needy in his everyday activities.  Fortunately for my grandfather, my grandmother was a nurse and knew how to care for someone who was gradually becoming less and less physically capable.  Her energy level was amazing and my grandfather through the final two surgeries received top notch care and affection.  After my grandfather’s eventual death, my grandmother finally slowed down some herself, almost as if her body knew she no longer was needed everyday.   Still alive, still moving, but now with a cane, my grandmother showed her own pastoral and emotional care for my grandfather through the fulfillment of her vow-“in sickness and health”.
Many primary caregivers are not as energetic or well trained in end of life care as my grandmother, however, even my grandmother showed the tired face and burnout that accompanies caring for a loved one.  This can be twice as draining on someone with little knowledge or training to care for the sick.  The constant pressure and beat of the drum that pushes the primary care giver to doctor visits, prescription and medication study, dosage delivery, feeding, cleaning and the emotional realization that the one you love is going to die soon is overbearing.
Professionals recognize this as caregiver grief.  This type of grief not only affects the primary caregiver emotionally over the loss but it also strips from them the loss of a future and loss of freedom.  The vacation that was once planned by a couple is now forever gone as a faithful wife tends to a crippling disease that is killing her husband.  Or, that special 50th wedding anniversary will not become a reality because one’s wife will not live to experience the 49th one.  In addition, the loss of freedom strips the primary caregiver of the ability to go to the movies, or visit others at a picnic.   Gradually, the vocation of caregiving for their loved one, forces these people to give up on extra curricular activities because the demand of care is so overwhelming.  This was not only the case with my grandmother, but also my other grandmother who also gives up much of her time and energy for care of her husband.  How many times do we see our loved ones becoming burnt out because we will not take that simple step to offer an hour or two of our day?
Pastoral counselors need to let the primary caregivers know that it is alright to be tired and it is alright to take time off.  Pastoral counselors need to emphasize occasional relief through other family members or respite care.  Respite care is available within hospice and can help the primary caregiver have a few days to him or herself.  The National Family Caregivers Association sometimes helps charitablly with the fees for hospice in this service.
Who holds the hand of the primary caregiver?
Who holds the hand of the primary caregiver?
Most importantly, pastoral caregivers need to let the primary caregiver know that is alright to feel emotions of guilt, resentment and anxiety at times towards the dying loved one.  These are natural emotions and do not mean that one does not love or wish to not care for one’s dying partner or parent.
In fact, after the death of a terminally or chronically ill person, sometimes the primary caregiver is known to have some relief.  Not in a relief that the one they love has died but a relief that they have performed their duty with courage and devotion and that their loved one is now free from suffering.
With these things in mind, who cares about the primary caregiver?–everyone should.
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Mark Moran, MA, GC-C, SCC-C

St. Camillus, Patron of Physicians, Pastoral Caregivers

A Saint for Pastoral Caregivers to Model Themselves After

St. Camillus saw Christ in the dying
St. Camillus saw Christ in the dying
St. Camillus of Lellis was born in 1550, oringally a soldier only to become a pastoral caregiver to the sick and wounded of war.  This saint founded the The Order of the Camillans who assisted at battlefields, served in hospitals, and went out to the streets to care for the sick.
The Order of the Camillans to this day is the symbol of the red cross as it spreads its sacred mission to find Christ in the least of one’s brethren.  The Order’s comittment is so strong that they even take a fourth vow.  This vow states that they are to “serve the sick, even with danger one’s life”.  From its founding and its dealings with various boubonic outbreaks to the AIDs outbreak of today, the Camillans are a source and inspiration to all Pastoral Caregivers.
St. Camillus of Lellis died on July 14th, in 1614 and was cananozied a saint in the Roman Catholic Church in 1746.
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Mark Moran, MA, GC-C, SCC-C