Good review on emotional flooding and how emotions can sometimes overtake an individual. It is important for those subject to emotional flooding to better understand how to control it as well as those around someone who may become emotional unstable.
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Sometimes emotions get the best of individuals. Individuals may be overwhelmed, dealing with multiple stressors or losses, overworked, or dealing with anxiety and stress. These individuals may finally hit the final straw and face an occurrence known as emotional flooding. First coined by John Gottman, this phenomenon can occur in workplaces, at home between couples and also between parents and children.
Emotional Flooding can occur when someone is overworked, over stressed and not getting enough self care. Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management and Stress Management programs
Emotional Flooding can lead to an outburst or even a withdraw. The individual loses ability to communicate rationally and becomes emotionally overcome. This is quite similar to Fight or Flight responses, where the individual is put into a survival mode situation. Obviously, emotional flooding can lead to drastic problems in relationships, mental health and legal situations especially in cases of anger. It is hence important to utilize both Stress Management and Anger Management skills to help one face emotional flooding situations and hopefully prevent it.
Who is More at Risk for Emotional Flooding Situations?
Individuals who already have high levels of stress and anxiety or various anxiety disorders. PTSD or depression have a higher risk of emotional flooding occurring, as well as those with border line personality disorders as well as attachment disorders. Traditionally, males more so than females also have greater chances of outbursts, but many females still experience the problem. Those with higher sensitivity issues are also more prone to becoming overcome with emotional flooding.
Emotional Flooding, like any stress response, is a fight or flight response that will either push the person to emotional react without rationale or retreat. With higher level of stress, the body will pump cortisol into the blood stream and one’s blood pressure and heart rate will increase, muscles will tighten to prepare the body for fight or flight moments. In addition, rapid breathing and shortness of breath may occur, with loss of focus and increased anxious states.
These types of lapses are obviously huge problems at work places, arguments between couples and when parents are dealing with unruly children. It is important to identify the triggers and symptoms, as well as understand one’s current level of stress to better prepare for a total flooding moment. Emotional Flooding hence has huge negative impacts on mental health, physical health and social life. This in turn leads to worst anxiety, poor decisions, broken relationships, legal issues, lost jobs and physical break down of health.
Dealing with Emotional Flooding
When facing and dealing with stress and anxiety, the first step is a good defense. Individuals need to identify stress loads and mental health issues. These need addressed and treated as needed to prevent a flooding moment. Those who sense burnout is approaching, need to address mental and physical health issues to better address stressors. In addition, individuals need to identify triggers that can set them off. Those who see life as all or nothing or catastrophize things also need to readdress and realign their mental outlook on life. Reframing can be a huge help to maintain a reasonable outlook when things go wrong or when one is over flooding with emotion.
Individuals who are facing emotional stress at a larger level hence need to take a good inventory of their life and their emotions. They need to practice self care and give themselves time to reflect. They need to set boundaries with others if too many things are overtaking them and they also need to find time to meditate, breath, or rest. In addition, when facing an outburst, it may be helpful to practice breathing exercises, or grounding techniques seen in PTSD where the individual uses physical touch or grabbing of an item to help keep connection to reality. It is important to identify triggers and emotions beforehand and to see how they can suddenly sabotage a person’s day. Thinking about reactions and practicing reactions when in a peaceful situation can also help reframe reactions. This is usually conducted in therapy.
When individuals lives begin to spiral out of control due to outbursts, then it is time to seek professional help. Individuals may begin to isolate, lose sleep, lose appetite, become depressed, or lose important relationships. Higher levels of anxiety may begin to creep into the person’s life and professional help may be required to help not only manage anger and stress but to also cognitively reframe reality. In addition, if dealing with higher levels of anxiety or depression, certain medications may be temporarily needed to help a person again find balance in life.
According to therapist Maggie Holland, “Emotional flooding can be an extremely overwhelming and intense experience, but help is available. By working through your triggers, learning to self-regulate, making healthy lifestyle changes, or working with a therapist, you can feel more confident when navigating difficult situations and emotions (2024)”.
Helping a Loved One through Emotional Flooding
Of course no-one should ever permit themselves to be emotionally and physically abused. It may sometimes be important to remove oneself from the situation. While trying to help others through emotional flooding issues, one can help the other person cognitively through supporting the person and understanding the condition and triggers. Focus, listening and empathy can help the person face the emotional surge. Avoiding quick judgement and feeding the anxiety is also key. One can help the loved one breathe and calm down by presenting a calm and caring voice.
Conclusion
Selfcare, identifying triggers and grounding can help one deal with emotional flooding. Please also review AIHCP’s Stress and Anger Management programs
Obviously Emotional Flooding can be acute or chronic with an individual. Some individuals are dealing with immediate stressors and overloaded while others may have anxiety, depression, PTSD, or Borderline Personality issues which would make the emotional breakdowns more common. Regardless, it is important to practice good Stress Management skills and Anger Management skills to avoid worse breakdowns during flooding. This involves identifying triggers, understanding one’s mental state and emotions, and grounding oneself. One can also practice self care, meditation, and set greater boundaries to prevent overload. With work, family life, partners and children at risk, it is critical to regain control of one’s life.
Please also review AIHCP’s Stress Management and Anger Management Certifications. The programs are online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification. Many healthcare as well as behavioral healthcare professionals seek these additional certifications to enhance their work resume and specialty practices.
Reference
Holland, M. (2024) “Emotional Flooding: Definition, Symptoms, & How to Cope”. Choosing Therapy. Access here
Additional Resources
Gould, R. (2023) “How to Navigate the Storm of Emotional Flooding”. VeryWellMind. Access here
Romanelll, A. (2020). “Flooding: The State That Ruins Relationships”. Psychology Today. Access here
Malik. J. et., al. (2021). “Emotional Flooding in Response to Negative Affect in Couple Conflicts: Individual Differences and Correlates”. J Fam Psychol. 2020 Mar; 34(2): 145–154. Library of Medicine. Access here
“Expert Tips: How To Navigate And Overcome Emotional Flooding”. Mind Help. Access here
