Like many stereotypes and cultural norms, women are expected to behave certain ways. Unlike men, according to these norms, women cannot entertain rage or anger in public. These images are farther from the truth for all human beings experience anger, but women are expected to internalize anger. Quite the opposite with men, who release anger and rage and have created their own stereotype that males are more aggressive. These ideals of human behavior according to the genders are opposite in grief, where women externalize and men internalize. Which emotion that is shown or hidden is applied to gender by society and when one sees conflicting displays, individuals begin to question. The reality again is that all human beings are different and even anger is not always internalized in women, much the same way grief is not supposed to always be internalized by men.
The ideas of women and aggression are mostly seen with motherhood or romantic slight. Other than this, cultural norms dictate a more timid and peaceful gender, but this can be damaging to a woman. Like all human beings, expression of any emotion is key and the ability to properly process anger is essential to existence. The article, “HELL HATH NO FURY: AN EXPLORATION OF FEMALE RAGE” by Pema Bakshi looks at gender roles, anger in women, and how women can better express anger in the modern world. She states,
“Rage is a response. My rage has been one that festers. Like a flame that whips itself from smoke to spark to a raging inferno, it clouds my vision and wells in my eyes. It’s the clench in my jaw and the terminal tension in my shoulders. With a taut smile fixed on my mug, though, it’s hardly recognisable – anger in women seldom is. But the thing that fuses rage with fire, is that it can swallow us, or, when mobilised, aid our survival. Data from global research firm Gallup, collated from over 150 countries across a decade, tells us that women are only getting angrier. And as Jennifer Cox, a London-based psychotherapist and founder of Women Are Mad, explains, this anger in women is chronically misunderstood.”
“HELL HATH NO FURY: AN EXPLORATION OF FEMALE RAGE”. Bakshi, P. Grazia
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Commentary
It is important to recognize women and their anger. Too many times, women are labeled emotional and hormonal. It is important for women to be able express emotion without labeling. It is important to actual investigate what is occurring and why women are upset.
The societal expectations and stereotypes around anger in women
Society has long perpetuated the stereotype of the “angry woman” as someone who is irrational, hysterical, and out of control. This stereotype not only undermines the validity of women’s anger but also limits their ability to express themselves fully. Women are often discouraged from expressing anger, being labeled as “difficult” or “overreacting” when they do so. This societal bias creates a double standard, where men are allowed to express anger more freely while women are expected to remain calm and composed.
The consequences of repressed anger in women
Repressed anger can have detrimental effects on a woman’s mental and physical well-being. When anger is not expressed or properly managed, it can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and even depression. Additionally, repressed anger can manifest in passive-aggressive behavior or self-destructive habits. It is essential to recognize that anger is a valid emotion and find healthy ways to express and process it.
Empowering women to express and navigate their anger
To empower women to express and navigate their anger, it is crucial to challenge societal expectations and stereotypes. Women need to be encouraged to embrace their anger as a natural and valid emotion. By acknowledging their anger, women can begin to understand the underlying causes and triggers, allowing for healthier expressions and responses.
A woman’s anger should not be dismissed as mental or hormonal. It should be recognized and validated.
Transforming anger into positive action
Anger has the power to be a catalyst for positive change. Instead of suppressing or lashing out in anger, women can channel their energy into productive actions. This could involve advocating for social justice, creating art, or participating in activism. By transforming anger into positive action, women can empower themselves and others, creating lasting change.
Tools and techniques for managing anger in women
Managing anger requires developing effective tools and techniques. Deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, and physical activities such as yoga or boxing can help release pent-up anger in a healthy way. Journaling and talking to a trusted friend or therapist can provide an outlet for processing and understanding anger. It is important to find what works best for each individual, as everyone’s journey with anger is unique.
The importance of self-care in anger management
Self-care plays a vital role in anger management. Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation can help reduce stress and prevent anger from escalating. This could include practicing self-compassion, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-reflection. Taking care of oneself is not selfish; it is a necessary step in managing anger and promoting overall well-being.
Seeking support and professional help for anger issues in women
If anger becomes overwhelming or begins to interfere with daily life, seeking support and professional help is essential. Therapy can provide a safe space for women to explore their anger and develop healthy coping mechanisms. A therapist can also help address any underlying issues or traumas that may contribute to the anger. It is crucial to reach out for help without shame or guilt, as seeking support is a sign of strength and a step towards healing.
Empowering women to advocate for change and address the root causes of their anger
Anger can often be a response to societal injustice, inequality, or personal experiences of oppression. By empowering women to advocate for change, we can address the root causes of their anger. This involves supporting women in using their anger constructively, whether it be through activism, community organizing, or political involvement. By addressing the systemic issues that contribute to women’s anger, we can work towards a more equitable society for all.
Conclusion
Empowering the angry woman is not about encouraging aggression or violence but about recognizing and validating women’s anger. By challenging societal expectations, providing tools for anger management, and advocating for change, we can help women navigate and transform their anger into positive action. Supporting women in expressing their anger and addressing its root causes is a step towards creating a more just and inclusive society for everyone. So let us embrace and empower the angry woman, for her anger has the potential to change the world.
Please also review AIHCP’s Anger Management Consulting Certification and see if it matches your academic and professional goals. The program is online and independent study and open to qualified professionals seeking a four year certification in Anger Management.
Additional Resources
“Why Women Need to Honor Their Anger”. Golden, B. (2018). Psychology Today. Access here
“Anger in women”. Hayden, A. (2023). Women’s Health Network. Access here
“4 Facts About Women’s Anger That’ll Help You Keep It Healthy”. Fraga, J. (2018). Healthline. Access here
“Are women getting angrier?”. (2022). BBC News. Access here