Such comments as “you are so strong” during grief can have well intentions but pose problems to the griever. It creates an atmosphere where strength in grief is looking strong or tough or hiding it, or that one must be strong despite grief. These ideals are not what it means to be truly strong in grief.
Whats Your Grief Article, “What Does it Mean to Be Strong in Grief?” does an excellent job of pointing out the true strength in grief. The article reads,
“Strength in grief is acknowledging, feeling, and expressing emotion. To help people understand how broadly strength in grief can be defined, we want to ask you – what does strength in grief look and feel like to you?”
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Strength in grief is accepting grief. It is doing the little things. It is being scared, vulnerable and sad but going through the process. It is important as grief counselors to realize that when helping others face the grief process. Please also review AIHCP’s Grief Counseling Certification