When something or someone is gone, the mind remembers the loss. The greater the loss, the greater the pain and the longer period to adjust. Constant reminders exist throughout our life that do not allow us to forget the loss or person. While this is good, while grieving, it is also painful.
Sometimes, its a place, a scent, an object, a day, or an event. They can all trigger in the mind, memories, both good and bad. Sometimes, our subconscious will dwell on the person in dreams. Ultimately, someone so interwoven with you, will never be forgotten nor should be forgotten. The things that remind us of our loved one are memories of the love shared and remind us how we miss them and how much they mean to us. They also show us the desire to see them again one day in another world.
The article, “Grief: Coping with reminders after a loss” from the Mayo Clinic looks at these reminders. The article states,
“Certain reminders of your loved one might be inevitable, such as a visit to the loved one’s grave, the anniversary of the person’s death, holidays, birthdays or new events you know he or she would have enjoyed. Even memorial celebrations for others can trigger the pain of your own loss. Reminders can also be tied to sights, sounds and smells — and they can be unexpected. You might suddenly be flooded with emotions when you drive by the restaurant your partner loved or when you hear your child’s favorite song.”
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